Yes, you can successfully realized your dreams but NOT at the expense of your whole family members ; suddenly your kids lost their blood related FATHER & your WIFE also lost supports from her HUSBAND ( not to mention that she has to face all issues and walk ALONE for the rest of her life ). OK to chase and then realize anyone's dreams at the RIGHT times and not AFTER his marriages , please . You are really very SELFISH ! ! ! Be RESPONSIBLE not ONLY to yourself but ALSO to your immediate WIFE and CHILDREN , please ! ! ! Your behavior = a ship's CAPTAIN suddenly " abandoned " his crews and ONLY escaped himself for his life ! ! !