CHANEL SCOTT Thought a Pastor She Wasn’t Dating Was Her God-Ordained Husband | Dear Future Wifey 905

[@lasheasimmonspogge2435]

This happened to me. Years ago. We were friends for about four months, we kissed once, we were in seminary class together. He gave me alot of mixed signals. A LEADER of the church said he was my husband... I was so immature in Christ. This was 9 years ago. I was so confused. But, God is not an author of confusion, even bought a wedding dress. Smh. I told him I loved him and he pulled back...I snapped out of it after my sister said, a man who loves you wouldn't confuse you. Now, I'm married and healed from this devastation...I heard someone say that your idols speak clearly to you and you think it's God. I idolized getting married. I totally get it. Been there and learned so much 💯🙌🏾

[@yvettejones6196]

@@lasheasimmonspogge2435 Your testimony is so compelling! OMG , the Lord used your sister to bring truth and snap you into reality. Many women like me didn’t not receive true love in life so we fantasize about it and we do this for so long that it seems real. It’s a kind of dissociative disorder called maladaptive daydreaming. Your statement that “Your idols speak clearly to you but you think it’s God” would make a great sermon. Thank you so much for your transparency. I’m glad you now have true love. God bless you, Chanel Scott, Laterrias and the listeners of Dear Future Wifey! Lord help us to walk in your truth not in the vain imagination and maladaptive thoughts of our minds. 🩷♥️🙏🏾

[@lasheasimmonspogge2435]

Girrrrrl wanted it so bad, read harlequin romances, dk how old you are, to know about those books but I definitely was so programmed from a teenager to my 30s to think a man solves everything smh.

[@erind2261]

Facts! I just had a coworker tell me she saw my husband. I turned around & walked away. I always felt, God knows how to speak to me. Especially with something so intimate & serious I don't what strangers knowing something BEFORE me. They should be confirmation at best

[@laj4186]

Thank God for your Dad! And your mom.❤

[@yvettejones6196]

@@erind2261 Amen 🙏🏾

[@lcjones4682]

Years ago a lady from my church was 100% sure a man was her husband. They were dating but That man chose another woman who he admitted he didn’t seek God to see if she was the right one..she was just the woman he wanted. I personally believe if God tells you a man is your husband God will also tell that man. And that man will lead the relationship. But we also have free will. That man can decide to not choose you even if God presents a specific woman to him. The lady I knew was so heartbroken when that man proposed to another lady. It was heartbreaking to see her pain. But maybe a year later she met an awesome man who she married a year later. 20 years later they are still married.

[@asiamwithraenetteleepodcast]

Wow that’s very encouraging I think sometimes God prepares our hearts for marriage and our feelings set our sights on one specific person yet we never truly confirmed outside of ourselves

[@erind2261]

That happened to at my church. Except the brokenhearted never married & all 3 of them still looking at each other (and praising God)

[@itsjustjanice2986]

Sounds like my journey. That’s a beautiful testimony

[@bessiewright2235]

@@erind2261smh

[@suzettecounsels]

I agree! I learned that on my journey. There will be choice involved. We have free will for a reason. 😊 we just pray our will aligns with God’s will as we choose.

[@themrsjones6986]

One of the best episodes I have seen. This sister is transparent about something that is more common than we may think.

[@kgclark34]

I applaud her for being so transparent and open about this topic. I pray that she allows God to completely deliver, heal and restore her.

[@susankiarie9844]

Yes. She was so vulnerable and transparent, she's going to help a lot of people. I pray she finds the one God has for her. I believe she has and will continue to have a great ministry for God. Thank you Laterras for great interviews.

[@MSEDUB]

Yes, including abstinence , as we continue to surrender He can use us so much more

[@SLBMcMillan]

Love us youth! Powerful! It was transparent and healing...

[@ceeuuu01]

Yes! Everyone needs to be translated bc GOD sees it all. Satan sees some stuff

[@anwarbrooks7497]

This is unsettling. I pray God continues to heal and deliver her heart and mind.

[@belkismedina-villaruel1513]

I thought I was the only one who felt this way. Shout out to Jasmine and her father for holding her down.

[@lp9716]

Her story can help other ladies in similar situations for sure but she's still immature at 50 in my opinion. She still has a lot of work to do emotionally.

[@camillecantey]

@lp9716 ty for saying this. I felt it. Her emotional intelligence is low and it is a little scary that she leads ppl in ministry. We all want grace,but to think the Lord will say sure it's ok to fornicate here's you grace was an interesting concept

[@nikkibillions2323]

And bless her with a godly husband ❤

[@FeliciaWilcoxFloridaRealtor]

@@lp9716So, we are forever evolving

[@danielledandridge7090]

I appreciate her transparency cause only me and God would've known that stuff

[@DearFutureWifey]

Proud of her.

[@michellejackson5164]

I agree with u because no one would have known this, no one!!@@😅😅😮😊

[@sherrywrightseedsforyou]

Right because now I'm looking at the Bishop side-eyed (lol) - for real tho...

[@rhondaglanton613]

@@sherrywrightseedsforyouRight Bishop W seeming a lil bit shady right now. 🤔

[@yasmineb9291]

@@michellejackson5164 I mean NO ONE! And to honest; my opinion…I don’t see how he did anything wrong in her story! She was the one who went out her way for him and he told her he was not interested in those regards so hey 🤷🏽‍♀️ I hope her story really help freed her in more ways than one and wish her all the best!!

[@beat4broadway203]

This is a powerful show. It shows the power of an idol. Idols always drain us and position us to suffer because we treasure that thing more than God. We'll never have God's best for us until we cast down the idols and submit to His will.

[@crownedhisglory]

Amen

[@angelknowsrealestatellc9043]

Aamen!!! That's exactly what I said in a nutshell.

[@ninaoffthegrid]

Very well said 🙏🏾

[@jareya]

So true

[@katrinagarnett3256]

That will preach

[@taranazare2633]

Laterras is providing a great public service with this podcast. Thank you to Chanel for being so open.

[@DearFutureWifey]

Thanks for listening

[@kimnicholson4492]

She was totally delusional during those years and attempted to use scripture to justify her decisions. From this place,the enemy took advantage of her mind and had her in the wilderness for years. I am so grateful for her healing!

[@richardsnipe2471]

I one hundred percent agree. Some additional perspective is that the pastor wasn’t completely blameless either. He dared him to kiss her and then invited her to his bed. That woman should not have been in his bed at all.

[@SrgFani11]

I know someone with that same mindset. Praying for my friend

[@kalandriawalters934]

🎯 good decernment is maybe even more important for believers to develop. But what satan meant for our harm, God... you know the rest. This woman has the attention of women who are actively being deceived and toyed with in this same way by satan. May they be delivered by her testimony 🙏🏾 ❤

[@kalandriawalters934]

@richardsnipe2471 i thought about this for some time... what if he tested her to see if she had high standards, healthy boundaries, and self-control? A pastor and man of God would definitely need his wife to have those qualities to support him in ministry. I thought about a workaround for how to respond in the given situation: Take a piece of paper and write the name of the person who dared you to kiss them and kiss their name on the paper. It keeps you in the game while respecting healthy boundaries. He probably could not pursue her if her boundaries were not healthy at the time and instead chose another woman to pursue. I think about... what if she had not kissed him and slept in the room with her friend instead? But still showed interest in him in healthier ways from the beginning. I say this from a place of experience. A similar thing happened to me when I was a church involved teenager, and a young man in the church began to pursue me. One late evening, he and his friends were taking an innocent joy ride and looking for something interesting to do. I suggested they come to my place while my parent was away that night working. They came over, and it turned into a game of truth or dare. I was dared to sit in his lap and kiss him. I did it because at that time, I did not have healthy boundaries and standards and didn't even know what it was to have that. I just had a heart for God. Needless to say, he quickly lost interest in me after that night. Without telling me he was no longer interested, he began to pursue another young lady new to our church right in front of me. I figured it out. So I hope God fearing women with low standards and unhealthy boundaries will take note and work on it to pass these type of tests before they miss out on their Boaz. 😉

[@prettysimplemusic]

Delusional people are both psycho and can manifest millions of dollars at the same time! Watch this again and you’ll see what I’m saying!

[@svieux572]

Jasmine is a REAL SOLID friend…for real…

[@alicetheegreet]

Sure is!

[@nikamoff5835]

“attracted to the anointing” that’s a real thing.

[@ladyloveishere1838]

Even for married women who husbands don't go to church. They get caught up in that too..

[@angiecocoa7]

Facts!! Funny thing is we're "attracted to the anointing"...which is essentially God.

[@IAm-Cre]

I promise you that is a real thing!

[@Shepraise808]

YES ITS A REAL ATTRACTION!!!!!

[@nikamoff5835]

@KimLourens-f6z Regardless I wasn’t trying to quote her exactly….. My point was the anointing is attractive especially as a believer. We love to see the anointing of God. And I desire a God fearing man ♥️

[@LRamey]

I really appreciate her having the courage to even sit on the couch to tell her testimony... this had so many moving pieces and kept me extemely engaged.. Prayers to her and a shout out to that one young lady that helped her on campus💞

[@alicetheegreet]

Hey LRaney. I almost missed your always encouraging comment because of your new picture. Nice outfit, by the way. You look really pretty in white.

[@suzettecounsels]

I believed someone was my husband for about 2 years due to signs I believed I saw from God, and a deep connection I had with that person. I had to forgive myself for being deceived. Thankfully I kept my mouth shut, except for a few family members close to me. It’s a strange thing to experience, but I’m so happy now that he is not the one! God has a plan for me that’s greater than I can imagine. She is brave for sharing her story and I truly appreciate it. I wish her only God’s best for her life.❤

[@girlmeetskingdom]

My story exactly

[@dr.aliadixonnursepractitio6473]

Me too in 2018 all the signs even saw everything with his name (it’s unique) or his initials.. dreams which God speak to me in dreams I was questioning God I stopped and just started thanking him for LISTENING to his voice instead now engaged to a wonderful high quality man I’m grateful ❤️

[@suzettecounsels]

@@dr.aliadixonnursepractitio6473 thank you so much for sharing that! God’s promises are true, and they often don’t play out the way we think! The “how” is really up to God!!😊💕 Congratulations on your engagement. I’m still in my process!😆

[@dr.aliadixonnursepractitio6473]

@@suzettecounsels thank you lovely, I'm so glad I let him go I think I was infatuated more because he is Morris Chestnut fine maybe he even better looking and he treated me well too (wine and dined me) and spoke marriage but no actions. Now he is stringing along a young Latina girl and became a "baby daddy", creating broken homes.. God help me dodge a bullet! Now being with a real high value man who is a man of few words but many actions, God is Faithful.. YOU ARE NEXT QUEEN just keep yourself up stay in physical good shape and health, soften up your attitude (just throwing things out there I see why some black women are still seeking which I had to do too) because we have to work on ourselves to attract the man God has for us..Can't wait to hear your testimony!

[@dr.aliadixonnursepractitio6473]

@@suzettecounsels no lovely! the first man was what they call a "false flame", no he is making broken homes (2 baby mamas since us).. I'm engaged to a physician I was working with at the hospital who is a true genuine high value man, no games, a man of few words but many actions.. Thank you lovely we are having a Winter White Wedding this December in honor of God's pureness,, we both been celibate for 5 years.. When you do the shadow work God will show you, no pointing fingers you take accountability and God will lead you correctly that is what happened to me..I asked God to do work within me so I can have a spirit of discernment and lead me to the right people including my spouse.. God bless sister!

[@ElinaDaniejan]

This was like watching a movie. This should be a movie. Thank you for sharing your story and for your vulnerability. I love seeing how you overcame everything. And look at you now! Fabulous!!

[@carchelle4193]

Yes, let’s get Tyler Perry on this

[@ladyloveishere1838]

Chile, this kept me engaged more than the others came on lol..

[@ohemaahn548]

Seriously! It was like listening to a Lifetime Movie

[@divineenergydancefitness9754]

Agreed! This should definitely be a movie 🎥

[@none8726]

Truly a captivating story and she’s a good story teller!! Good memory

[@faithheaven3]

Can we please give a shout out to her friend Jasmine because sometimes in order for us to get where we need to be, we need a Jasmine in our life!

[@redbeaut]

Like can we take up a love offering for her? What a beautiful young lady. Although her mom took issue, she should be so proud of the daughter she raised. 💕

[@mhl8313]

Absolutely disagree. There is no way that grown woman should have impeded on that young girls space for this delusional fantasy. If I was Jasmines mom i would have called THE POLICE immediately . My daughter is trying to study and doesnt need to deal with this madness. Absolutely not. That young girl was probably manipulated

[@elizabethkirui4203]

Love offering and Shout out to the Roman noodle young lady at the school too .. she held her down. What was her name? I was so into the whole story I had were real characters in my head 😅

[@tifipaul5686]

@@elizabethkirui4203I think Jasmine is the one who shared her ramen noodles with her.

[@jss4424]

Finally a video on Limerence! This is going to help a lot of people! ❤

[@lynnbland4524]

Omg I didn't know this was a real thing! Thanks for the language

[@janinepolanco319]

Yes, Limerence is such important topic!

[@ellechance2344]

WORD OF THE DAY! Limerence!!

[@yvettejones6196]

Amen! I’m the Limerence Queen! Lord please heal me and all who think as I do in Jesus Name!❤

[@Spaceandgrace-z7p]

A guy did this to me… became obsessed with me just because I was supportive.

[@alicetheegreet]

I just learned a new word: *"LIMERENCE"!* Thank you LIT family, thank you Laterras for bringing her on and thank you Ms Scott for sharing your story.

[@honeymonroe2804]

I was 35 when I married my 50 year old husband. I have an old soul, and young at heart and we grew our marriage TOGETHER over the last 14.5 years ( we've been together for 16 years) My experiences with men who were my age or younger, were not working well for me. I became attracted to older men, and my husband is blessed not to look his age of 64.5 ( I just turned 50) and I Thank God for him ❤

[@kejuanlynette8531]

This is a beautiful comment! I want my husband to older (50s) as well. Thanks for sharing and congratulations ❤

[@octaviakf]

You got lucky there because most older men are looking to take advantage of younger women. also hoping that he doesn’t get old and sickly like they usually do they don’t matter what they be looking like outside the heart and the organs inside Tell different stuff.

[@loribee858]

​@octaviakf this is such a negative view of things. If you don't have anything good to say, pray.

[@honeymonroe2804]

@@octaviakf 😘💯

[@veronabacon7738]

@@octaviakf Heck, we’re all going to get old. No matter how fit you are those body parts aren’t 20 yrs old anymore. If they’ve been together that long, I would like to think that she wouldn’t mind caring for him. Her story was a pleasant one. It sounds like things have been just fine so🤷🏾‍♀️

[@elizabethcollins8765]

I am 51 and my new love is 62 and he looks absolutely marvelous. He's active, loving, God fearing and intelligent, and he chose me. I am the very 1st woman he's dated younger than him..... we women better stop blocking our blessings based on relatively superficial reasons. Ijs

[@Theonlynikki_]

Love this for you!!

[@ciciIBe]

This!!! Congrats to the both of you❤️

[@elizabethcollins8765]

@Theonlynikki_ thank you!

[@elizabethcollins8765]

@@ciciIBe thank you!!!

[@CarmenDrake-tz5pq]

@@elizabethcollins8765 this is good!

[@sonyawimpye4464]

Laterras!!! We need a life update on the lovely, then college girl, Jasmine!! I’m sure she has her own story as she cared for an adult woman that was her church member, turned dorm roommate that she essentially took care of! We didn’t get to hear how she blessed Jasmine for her sacrifices.

[@korirvtl]

I think shes talking of Bishop Joseph walker of Mt zION Nashville. the story alligns

[@davonnahart2238]

That's because she didn't bless her in any way, she used that young landy

[@tvm-growthisunlimited9023]

This woman just delivered me more than she’d ever know❤

[@girlmeetskingdom]

This sounds EXACTLY like my story and so many others. This is literally why I wrote my book. It’s about my journey of developing a relationship with Christ all while waiting and standing for a man I truly thought God told me was my husband. Turns out, he wasn’t and he was married and I didn’t know. But it all worked out because I met my husband like the next day after finding out that other man was married. Got married 2 months later after meeting! Now I share this journey on my page and help other women that are under Kingdom Spouse Deception. That’s why women are single for years waiting on a man they think is their husband. Snap out of it!!

[@drippedinglory]

Wow thank you for sharing. God saved me out of that too in may of this year after holding on to that lie for 3 whole yearssss. A pastor once said that the counterfeit and the Godsent are in the same season

[@richardsnipe2471]

So in hindsight what was the source of the word you heard? Do you still think it was God? Or was it yourself and you wanted it to be God’s voice?

[@sweets20062107]

First of all 50 WHERE?? She looks amazing!! Secondly this message hit home rt on time…I just ended a 2 year relationship with someone because I realized that I was painting the picture I wanted to see vs what it really was. Thank you Chanel for being so transparent I wish you continued success & blessings!! Another great episode!!

[@jackiescott3954]

I could not accept by baby, my smart college educated baby was going through this. I did not understand, I told her to get up and get over it , don't be weak. Lord knows I did not understand the mental anguish she was experiencing. However, I was willing to try anything to bring her back to her senses. Thank you God for her daddy.

[@alicetheegreet]

Hi mama Scott. Thanks for dropping in and sharing your thoughts on the matter.

[@Woodraille1]

Wow-Hey Mom! Of course, you were concerned, as you should be!!! ❤

[@camillecantey]

You were right. When delusion sets in, truth needs to be loud not babied. She set her sights not G-d

[@tonyajohnson2683]

Mommy you did a great job with both of your daughters! They are women with integrity and substance. You know how I feel about my Noonie😂😂😂 I'm so proud of Chanel! She makes me proud like she's my big sister.❤

[@alicetheegreet]

Now, all we need is your dad to chime in, and we'll have a whole family reunion in these YT comments streets. LOL😂 I'm joking. @@tonyajohnson2683

[@LeahConey]

After watching the reel , I knew I had to come watch the full episode! My father said, it is too painful to talk to you because you don’t have to go through this!!! man that brought tears to my eyes.😢 thanks for sharing.🔥🔥

[@bernardeewarburton9188]

Me too. I cried like a baby just for the heartbreak.

[@thecuteshuttletransportati7025]

The most I got out of this episode

[@beverlyjones263]

Her story proves it doesn't matter how much education you have your emotional health for real for real.

[@missstteaches9554]

This is so true! Emotionally, a lot of us are so scarred that our intellect goes out the window. May God heal us & make us whole!

[@beegulbeegul4239]

Maybe it’s just me…I didn’t see one thing laughable in the entire episode. The enemy is so strategic. He seems to still have a hold of the mind, and spirit, but it’s a hold that strives to create comfort and acceptance in distress, denial and disobedience. God is showing us two paths here.

[@FollowingJesus_-]

Agreed

[@TamaraLatrice]

I completely concur. This woman was struggling with delusions. Her romanticized view of marriage ultimately led to her downfall. She targeted a widowed pastor who later found a new spouse. Despite this, she persisted in lingering around him, driven by her unfulfilled desires. How can one profess to love the word yet fail to embody its principles?

[@gatheringgoodness4us]

I feel like crying because the spirit of her story is so genuine and purely spoken. I feel for women of all griefs.

[@VV-gi6cu]

As a mother and granddaughter, I strongly advise women not to assume anything in a desired relationship with a man. Women also must discern what men say to them. They must be vetted. The man should always be the loving aggressor, otherwise the woman will be hurt.

[@dr.aliadixonnursepractitio6473]

🗣️ VETTEDDDDDD women will always continue in toxic cycles they refuse to vet men! Too busy going by looks now my fiancé is a looker ❤️ but I prayed for someone with sake morals character and Godly foundation like me.. He is 46 I’m 51 he practices Semen retention for past 4 years I have been abstinence for 5 years we are both spiritual high vibrational beings who did the Shadow work!

[@almmason7]

Yessss, he must pursue. You can not chase him whatsoever 😮

[@cherwallace6026]

I love the way you put that, the man should be the “ gentle aggressor “ . I totally agree. 👏🏾

[@shawneelawrence4229]

Facts

[@danilaroche1156]

I was pursued by my 2 exes and they still were full of it.

[@MizzSoFearless]

I don’t know how you choose your guest but please keep doing it the way you’ve always do it! This story has touched me in away that I didn’t even know it would. I’m 37 and now so convinced I need to make that move and work on my purpose. Becoming intentional 🙌🏾

[@crystaldixon8644]

This was different and it’s clear who the Nashville, TN Pastor is. My issue is that the widowed Pastor was very unwise to invite two female strangers to his home and then to allow them to stay overnight was beyond questionable. I’m glad Chanel is healed and has moved on with her life.

[@tifipaul5686]

I’m happy she has moved on as well. It’s definitely clear which church she is speaking on. I’m more so disappointed that church leadership would exploit her gifts knowing full well that she had such a strong belief that this man was her husband. I love her redemption story. Seems she was gracefully broken, but I have a heavy side eye to the church’s bishop and executive board. Benefitting from her emotional state despite seeing that she is clearly suffering is nasty work.

[@danilaroche1156]

Definitely unwise but when people are grieving they often lose rationality.

[@dairyman16]

Idk who the pastor is or how old he is but this story is almost 20yrs old so hopefully he has grown and matured from doing things like that

[@feliciapryor855]

Who's the pastor? I honestly have no idea. Can someone tell me?

[@AngelasTravelAdventures]

Bishop Joseph Walker Mt Zion. Not hard to find with the details she gave, quick Google search and there he was ​@feliciapryor855

[@Woodraille1]

‘I ate mustard for dinner one time’, 😢😭😢. That HIT for me & brought tears to my eyes. Your rejection was your foundation sis!

[@nettetisha6354]

This was good 😊 she was so honest, I’ve been through similar situations. I thought my life was over. Sometimes I think we idolize marriage, having a husband, children.

[@kaitlynwilliams3102]

This story brings so much comfort to my heart because as a girl that has wanted true love all of her life. I have done a lot of crazy things with men and for men just wanting to feel loved. But especially this year when I thought I heard/see/feel god showed me and tell me that someone was my husband. I went through a lot of turmoil and deep heartbreak. I’m a little bit more recovered now but just hearing this story let’s me know that I’m not alone especially as a young 24-year-old that desires relationship & Godly marriage.

[@thesacredhealher]

Moving on Ego and not Spirit will move us in this kind of space everytime

[@shereceblue3236]

I’m going to pray for sis that she submits her sex life up to GOD and fully commit to holiness or the devil will use this are of sin to snatch all her blessings away . We can hold that area back from GOD he wants to bless you fully with a holy covenant marriage per your desire . Can’t get it compromising that area tho . Trust God sis ! God will allow you to grow with that person in all areas

[@jaismendiaz6856]

This part! You can’t serve God and say I am too old not have sex and be in sin!

[@ShontaB-x2n]

@@jaismendiaz6856then why god allow people to get r@ped and m0lested?? And create an unhealthy appetite for sex since a young age ?

[@mondelarosa]

Jasmine, literally an angel. Chanel is a great story-teller & her testimony will help so many that are currently being deceived and/or following the wrong signs. God specifically chose her for her story because she is so brave & don’t mind telling her truth. That’s why she’s winning because she’s STILL giving God the glory. Wishing her so much more success! Talk about double for your troubles, resiliency, YES MA’AM IKTR! ❤️

[@temeakahamm2278]

Jesus! I appreciate this lady so much for her story and vulnerability. Awesome interview and a way to shed light to women who are experiencing the same thing. ❤.

[@NatashaHogan-p9c]

Great interview. Loved the transparency. Dear Wifey is a channel of purpose. I appreciate the authenticity and vulnerability of the guest. God bless you, Latterras. My husband of 30 years once told me early in the dating process, with any type of relationship, always remove the feelings! It was then, that I understood the power of rational thinking.

[@Missfab86]

God bless the student friend that carried her when she was just a child herself 🥺 That was a lifeline that many don’t ever get. I love this lady’s openness. No one can ever use this against her, and this part of her life will never make her feel like hiding or shrinking herself ❤

[@sher-sherb8655]

It was a good episode❤ thanks to Chanel for sharing her truth. I think that has happened to many people in various degrees. The live chat was mad judgemental although the poll showed that many of the people in there felt they had a similar situation. We need to be kinder to those brave enough to speak their truth❤

[@williewhite169]

Obviously Chanel has both father and mother fractures. She suffers from rejection and abandonment issues and devalues her self worth and value. That’s why it was so easy for her to make such severe bad decisions. Chanel needs extensive therapy with a professional therapist and/or psychiatrist. She’s trying to mass her deep pain and trauma by her jovial behavior. Chanel alluded to such pain, trauma, rejection, abandonment, and parental fractures when discussing her mother, who appears to be verbally abusive and emotionally unintelligent. Chanel needs to view the podcast Hardly Initiated with host Tyesean and Ryan Catchings’ interviews of Pastors Creflo Dollar, and Joel Tudman, and Bishop Henry Fernandez.

[@ellechance2344]

@@sher-sherb8655 YES!!!

[@danilaroche1156]

This sort of thing has become very common & it's disconcerting. I suppose it's just the enemy attacking God's kids to wear them out & destroy them. I wasn't idolizing marriage & yet this happened to me twice. However, in both cases they were my boyfriends & they were talking marriage.

[@adabrooksconsultant1943]

Chanel Scott, thank you for your transparency and willingness to share your heart. God Bless You

[@danilaroche1156]

It would behoove her to tone down her delivery a bit. Lose the long braids and jeans and look more ladylike. Just sayin.

[@nettab2]

Despite what many people think, this episode was fantastic. The majority of women would never publicly admit that they have felt this way about a man. I adored the healing process, accountability, and openness. I will keep my disagreement with one issue to myself in order to make my response as constructive as possible.

[@DrbridgetteTJ]

Whew!! The transparency here is real! People might think she is crazy but she is NOT! This happens way too much! The healed version looks amazing! Powerful testimony of self forgiveness! Great book by the way! I kinda feel the same way. I've been married but single for 19 years. No sex for 10, then 9. While I am content, I do desire to be married. But I don't have time to do a whole bunch of teaching. Somethings you gonna have to already know. I'm just realizing that I've had more years of not having sex, then did having sex. This is wild!

[@kellyridgeway1204]

This was so good. I watched it twice. I love her and your honest questions for her. You didn't hold back but her responses were sincere. I know she ain't by herself. Love a good comeback.

[@marlanawright1211]

This woman kept saying she’s 50 and I’m like where?! I been trying to make my screen bigger and I STILL can’t see no 50 year old woman! 😂 she’s so youthful I love that! Thank you for sharing this powerful testimony! Romans 8:28. God makes ALL THINGS work together for those who love him and are called according to his purpose! ❤🎉

[@neishasibley]

I dont know this lady but I have mad respect for you maam.. for sharing this so openly. You are a whole queen and I love you for this❤ Every blessing you you queen👑

[@dairyman16]

Someone close to me had something very similar happen to them. They watch this podcast and I hope they see it and it brings them so comfort.

[@halftimepromiseswithneibert]

This story is amazing since both God and the man never made any push, commitments, or shared any vision regarding marriage. This testimony is a good example of the Scripture that says we are tested based on what is already inside of us. Thank you for being vulnerable. It has blessed me. I remember deeply liking a man, and someone suggested that we should go to the church he went to. I knew that was not counsel from God, so I didn't give into it. Although I did attend a class at the church with the hopes that I would see him. Praise God, I didn't! I remember a man telling me: "If a man wants you, he will drive from here (Brooklyn) to Connecticut to get you." That statement has been my standard of gauging how much a man cares for me. My sister, may you heal fully from this experience. May the Lord also bring you "him" that will love you truly.

[@alicetheegreet]

He will drive further than that. He'd walk if he has to.

[@WellnessForMoms]

❤🙏🏾💯

[@patriciavelez2053]

Thank you so much for this episode! I went through a similar situation from about 2004 to 2006. So many women go through this and maybe even men too. So thank you for speaking up and being honest about this! A lot of us need to hear this. I appreciate this podcast so much!

[@CarmenDrake-tz5pq]

Another great podcast. I loved her transparency and willingness to admit that she ‘manipulated the word of God to fit what she wanted’. She was willing to suffer and lose it and she did! She gained so much more though once she came to the end of herself. Now her place of pain is a safe space for others 🙌🏾 I felt that when she said ‘her father told her it was too painful to watch her go through this’ I know without a shadow of doubt that my sting and suffering has given me stamina. I will be able to bless so many other women because of it. Beyond grateful 👏🏾

[@sbahlepops5619]

The pull of an idol is so real, even after the locked her email, she still went there for bible study. My heart goes out to the young her cause that stronghold must have been strong.

[@Rissaj07]

She kept it LIT, one of the most LIT guest. Thank you for being vulnerable!!!

[@none8726]

This needs to be made a movie! Evidently there are other women who do this?!

[@monicasoyombo3360]

The LITest!!!!

[@imacayebazibwe]

She is limiting her chances by setting a maximum age. I think 50 and 57 can make a perfect match. Besides, God gives us marriage for his glory and he knows what's best for us. Much love from Uganda East Africa

[@Treebee6009]

Lesson for me here: Satan's deception runs so deep, flee idolatry, and how far the Lord's grace and love extends to us. He is truly NOT like man.😊 Years ago, I went to the funeral of a woman who fell in love with her pastor. He married someone else, had children, and she became their nanny. She suffered from fibromyalgia and passed away while "working" in the church. The pastor she was in love with eulogized her as a great "laborer" of God. That was the first time I left a funeral early out of disgust.

[@renewashington791]

😮 good comment 👍🏽

[@alicetheegreet]

Not 'a great "laborer" of God!' I don't know why this made me chuckle.

[@assyrianrelief]

@21:00 “I shared the bed with the pastor.” That in itself disqualifies that pastor from leadership. A single pastor allowing a young single lady who he doesn’t know to share his bed is a COMPLETE LACK OF DISCERNMENT!

[@niacoleman4272]

Disqualifying leadership is strong. It was risky. He was probably vulnerable or grieving but leaders are human too and he didn’t commit a sin.

[@mirandaholley9797]

Fornication is a sin.​@@niacoleman4272

[@ChantéMcCormick-e1d]

Yeah, I hated to hear that happened.

[@SnazzyDeacon]

I do not believe this was his first time doing something like that. So maybe the other women also had reason to believe they were the one.

[@thecuteshuttletransportati7025]

She not telling the whole story girl lol

[@karenmitchell3064]

I am totally grateful for Ms Scott’s transparency in giving her testimony…. Praise God for this one!

[@JillTillman]

This is an awesome, transparent, real, honesty, hilarious interview. Thank you Chanel for sharing and Lateress for your platform.

[@spacebar6020]

I sadly and hilariously relate to the erroneous belief that some guy was my husband. I too missed why God was taking me through that season. It’s an amazing relief that comes with seeing the truth when you come out of delusion. Best thing I never had. God is awesome I can’t tell it enough of how grateful I am for his protection even from myself

[@chloeelainechannel]

I needed to hear this story. My ex broke up with me about 6 months ago and this was my first relationship. I prayed to God about it and fasted because I didn’t understand why the breakup happened. I received confirmations that we should’ve stayed together. But 2 months later, God said it’s time to move on. I’ve been obedient, but sometimes I think back to those confirmations I received and wonder if I shouldn’t give up on my ex. I feel like her story is a cautionary tale. I’m 25 and the last thing I want to do is chase a man that doesn’t want me for years. I’ll keep moving on and follow God’s current instructions instead of being caught up on something He said in a past season of my life.

[@DearFutureWifey]

Absolutely

[@utamu777]

I'm starting to believe that God often tells us possibilities for our future, but he does not control our free will so he cannot force a person to choose you as their wife even though that was His will for you

[@coolgirls1603]

Move on sis, went through the same thing. When i finally let go and told God im open to anybody. I met my current fiancé a week after. Now I think back why didnt i move on and trust God earlier. My current fiancé is everything is so amazing. Im 25 now also. Waited 3 years for my ex.

[@danilaroche1156]

Oftentimes the devil gives confirmations too.

[@ikeyangel]

@@danilaroche1156PLEASE EXPOUND!!!

[@michellemorris9181]

I appreciate her being transparent! She was so open and honest about everything! ❤

[@tyheath4068]

This was an amazing testimony and it should be told. She thought she heard from God and moved like she was crazy. I will be checking my movement from now on. Amazing

[@shaunaodiea6184]

The transparency is on 💯. Many people will be blessed by this. Thank you, Chanel.

[@delilahmartin138]

I loved the way you spoke to her at the end. Because she is still a little stuck in the past. But like you said, Love heals all. May the LORD keep her and heal her, and may he do the same for me

[@Whisperwarrior]

You all should be kind! It takes a lot to be transparent! Shes actually super dope in person! And like all of us, she has had her fair share of doing what she wanted to do and not what God wanted her to do! Life is all about learning. We can all learn from each other ❤

[@mhl8313]

NEVER LET A MAN TELL YOU MORE THAN ONCE THAT HE DONT WANT YOU

[@alicetheegreet]

Bishop Joseph Walker III, the man from her story, never told her he didn't want her though. At least that's not what I heard from her testimony. It wasn't until after she moved there that he said something to her. Prior to the move, it sounded like he just ghosted her after he realized he didn't want her.

[@mhl8313]

@@alicetheegreet sweetheart. Ghosting someone IS THEM TELLING YOU THEY DONT WANT YOU. Whether they strait say it or just act like it BELIEVE THEM 💯💯

[@alicetheegreet]

You're 100% right ghosting is someone telling you they don't want you. But when you're in the midst of it like she was, it's hard to see that; and this is especially so since she was so involved with the church and they kept accepting everything she was giving. Not making excuses for her. Just giving another perspective. @mhl8313

[@Confessions089]

Never let a woman tell you more than once that she doesn't want you.

[@BenefitsofBravery]

This story is a CASE STUDY!

[@DearFutureWifey]

Exactly

[@shantakoa8596]

I am in my 40’s and there are things I will not tolerate. Amen. Settling is the key word we should not have to settle.

[@leilag1076]

I have watched many of thes episodes; but this by far really ministered to me. As a single, celibate Christian (and now minister), I have had moments of seeking and thinking, and left devastated. Now closer to 50, I fully understand the challenges of these issues and the desire to marry, and even when it's a high-profile person. I loved hearing how her breakthrough took place: "Get out of your head!" Beautiful sister. I fully respect you and your story. I look forward to this book. Blessings and thank you both for sharing this.

[@irmabirmingham8279]

Channel listen to Laterras, girl even 10 years with right person is a blessing

[@none8726]

This was the most captivating story from DFW!! Could have been a movie 😂

[@ZareetheB]

After she spent the night in his bed after not knowing him, he definitely put her into the: "cool to have fun with or sleep with" category instead of wifey category.

[@janiceross1207]

Agree

[@alicetheegreet]

I think he put her in that category even before she spent the night. I think he offered her to spend the night because he thought she was thirsty and an easy lay. I think he thought that the moment she showed up a week earlier than she emailed and said she'd planned on coming. I think he gained some respect for her when she actually didn't have sex with him even though she was in his bed. I think that's why he called her to share something great that happened to him; and when she didn't respond with the enthusiasm nor intellect he was hoping, he put her as a possible bed buddy category. I think if he was honorable, he should've called her the moment he realized that she wasn't the one, which was right after that phone call, he should've told her, "I know we kissed and I had you in my bed. I don't want to mislead you. I've found my wife and I'm falling in love with her. Even if you and I were the last persons on this earth, I'd never marry you." I'm sure that's how he felt about her.

[@angelac7837]

@@ZareetheB All inappropriate for a Pastor. None of his behavior lines up with biblical qualifications of a church leader. He knew exactly who he could play these head games with.

[@mhl8313]

I think he smashed and threw her away. He played her cool off. She would never admit that they slept together online. All these clues is too easy to figure out who this man is

[@ZareetheB]

@@angelac7837 I definitely agree because he could have let them sleep in a guest room instead of his bed

[@ykeemo2819]

Whew this was so good. Chanel sharing her testimony and journey was so touching. Having grace and forgiving ourselves and our pain being a platform. Thank you I love this episode.

[@TeannaAndrews]

I absolutely commend her courage to share and be transparent. I know So many people have gone through similar situations. May those who are stuck find healing through her story.

[@chrisparker6249]

It's so easy to step out on foolishness vs faith when we move on feelings. God's hand is not in everything, but it can be on those things He can use to bring Him Glory.

[@juliemonique]

Almost done watching the episode. Chanel, thank you for sharing so much with us. I can guarantee this is helpful and impactful on so many levels.

[@JulainaGlass]

I definitely appreciate her for being so transparent because so many women live in this space of delusion…. Where they have directed and starred in their own movie, in their heads… and the man has no idea what’s going on. Thank you so much for sharing your story ❤

[@SheSpeaksToo]

She is so honest and transparent. I loved this episode.

[@sharmayneivey1239]

Her authenticity is dangerous to that spirit she fought against and won. The Truths makes us Free. Amen. ✊🏾

[@pamalamorris6277]

Men have thought the same thing! They have thought the wrong woman was their wife too, it’s not just women experiencing this! Keep it real men! Not all but I’m sure some!

[@trissetracellll]

I have been stalked for years by an ex boyfriend who is convinced that God told him I am his wife! And dating men after him has caused him to go into destructive behaviors, even now, almost a decade post our breakup. Limerence isn’t gender specific.

[@ladyloveishere1838]

@@pamalamorris6277 Men are more prelude to this than women. They will definitely use the phrase, God told me you was my wife lol

[@msts3325]

​@@trissetracellll, please make sure you protect yourself. Praying for God's hedge of protection on your life and those around you.

[@jaz1elise]

Powerful testimony! I went through this but he wasn't a pastor. It went on for a little over 2 years. God had the friendship to end, and we haven't spoken since. I'm fine with that because now I know he wasn't my husband. I also know that God has better for me.

[@John3-16Ministries]

This was powerful. How many believe someone to be their husband or wife? Help us, Lord.

[@Twalls433]

Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability. I think so many of us including myself have believed for someone to be for us who wasn’t.

[@bessiewright2235]

Laterras I’m glad you brought her on the show. Her testimony is a powerful one. I’m glad you were able to relate to her with your similarities of experiences. Tell her to work on making her journey a movie and a play. That was a very informative and interesting interview from the beginning to the end.

[@shawna7227]

This happened to me a couple of times when I was single. Two different men believed with their whole heart that God himself told them that I was their wife. Thank God I met my real husband a short time later. Marriage can be an obsession and I believe that’s how false beliefs come into people’s minds. We are all human in need of God’s help.

[@tt55-m2i]

Laterras is born to do this...this guy is different!!!! Thanks!!!

[@jairusbryant3229]

In regards to the earlier portion of her talking about settling, I think there is difference between actually settling and truly realigning your values and preferences to understand what is truly valuable for your life. I would say a lot of us don't understand that difference.

[@alicetheegreet]

I also think that people have placed too much weight on these catchy terms like "high value" and "high functioning" in the the words themselves become the goal and not their meanings. Everyone is trying to be catchy instead of bettering themselves and doing what you've suggested as well. Great points!

[@jairusbryant3229]

@@alicetheegreet I agree!

[@Jewelc1116]

"If you don't want me that's your problem! " I love it! Love the cards. Can't wait to refer them to my clients.

[@aprildrake7958]

😂 This is one of my favorite conversations yet L.T. I could totally relate to her story! Praise God for her transparency! Praise God for your closing advice!

[@thelovelymissmonica1938]

When I tell you this woman's story is MY OWN! God knew I needed to hear this story. This testimony. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@deanm8970]

I applaud you my sis for being so transparent and open about this topic and I’m glad God removed the spirit of stupor out so you can get some clarity. ❤

[@sheronaking9466]

Very interesting episode with a lot of lessons for aspiring wives/ husbands. @Laterras.R.Whitfield, you have mastered your interviewing skills. Great job! Keep up the good work 🙏🏾👏🏽👏🏽

[@DearFutureWifey]

Glad you enjoyed it Thank you for the compliment.

[@soulplay6995]

I'm a new subscriber....we fall down but we get up!!

[@tracybadon5562]

Laterras that is real when you said that love is youthful. 🌷❤️She can not get back what she didn’t get in those eight years. Surrender what you want for what the Lords wants for your life🌷

[@Kewioes07]

There is a lot of judgement in these comments. Sis, thanks for being transparent and so honest with yourself.

[@lashandarankin]

I can not wrap my mind around this story. This was heartbreaking to listen to. I wish someone recognized the mental illness. That was not normal. I'm so sorry for your suffering..

[@mskesha4735]

I’ve learned not to get so emotionally provoked by people’s story. Hard…..very hard task. Because driving 6 hours to see a man who you DONT KNOW….staying the night at this mans house, kissing him IN THE MOUTH, walking around in a TOWEL…….THEN…..hold on……THEN, moving to the EXACT location to where he pastors after losing your job is INSANEEEEEE WORK!!! BANKRUPTCY, FORECLOSURE ON A HOUSE YOU OWNEDDDDDDD??? The delusion is at the highest of high. This man put you in a “stranger zone”, not friend zone….he said, you came down here and got LOOSE without even knowing me. Like, you committed COMMITTABLE OFFENSES!!! But, I digress. Lord, just help me to move ONLY when you say move. This story is bothersome. And there I go, getting provoked. GOOD DAY!

[@alicetheegreet]

She didn't just spend the night in the house. She spent it in his bed with him in the bed too. They supposedly didn't have sex. LOL 😂 OK

[@mskesha4735]

@@alicetheegreet cause RIGHTTTT!!! You travel allllll the way to another state to feel comfortable with a man you’ve never met, to say “yeah, I bought my spennanite bag…….FOR ME AND MY FRIEND”. I am beyond floored…it’s a lot of loose activity. And to move there on a WHIM??? They was hunchin…

[@alicetheegreet]

You said *hunchin...* LOL 😂 I've never heard that word before. @@mskesha4735

[@amarie1852]

Exactly I’m seeing too many , you go girl comments. She needs to be scolded for her behavior. It’s beyond ridiculous and not even justified by “I’m just following God.” Insane behavior. Insane coddling in the comments.

[@mskesha4735]

@@amarie1852 you hit the nail on the head! The first and second hand embarrassment I received. I mean…she was HOMELESS, living in a dorm with a kid. As many JOBS as she has had, the degrees….she was driven by something and it wasn’t God. True, maybe all this HADDDD to happen…but I truly hope and pray that God is the center, of her entire life.

[@ms.leslie9114]

This beautiful queen’s testimony is so necessary for others to heal. Unfortunately, we do not see enough of this. God is good! Blessings to you beautiful. 💗🙏🏾💪🏾

[@rugezajoyeuse5664]

I loved this so much, may God bless her with a husband that she have been waiting for 🤍

[@guylatibbs3564]

This show is Amazing thanks for being open and transparent!!!