"Change your Mindset" is Toxic Advice - A Rant

[@meras5465]

Great video man. I've long since been sick and tired of the countless platitudes that people say to me and that in some way I'm supposed to say to myself to make myself do something that I don't want to do. I always say, you can't bullshit yourself. The more you do it, the more miserable you become, and as you say, you change the person who you are to fit into some group or some job or whatever, and for what? You've twisted yourself into a pretzel, and for what? For who? You can't even recognise yourself anymore so now you have to do soul searching to possibly return to the way you used to be. Just be who you are and accept yourself, accept your looks, your dreams, the things you're passionate about and for God's sake, don't twist yourself into a pretzel to fit in, and don't lose yourself for anything nor anyone. Big like for the video.

[@edwardnile1958]

Thank you so much for this comment! Twisting ourselves into knots is definitely what it feels like. Someone once told me "8 hours is a long time to hate what you're doing everyday" and the sad part was that he was talking about how he manipulated himsellf. It wasn't him choosing something he valued and going after that it was him making himself enjoy that construction gig. I just don't think it's unhealthy to be brutally honest, admit something's not for you and put pedal to the metal to get out of it rather than beat yourself down because it's the more 'stable' career or whatever other reason. You're never going to look back and wish you'd spent more time doing something you hated.