Every video is a crazier ex - REACTION

[@jomc6734]

1st story: I had no sympathy after "for the life of me, I couldn't be faithful to this man". Good for him, but he was pretty stupid to get back with her. She's an awful person.

[@silentfriend369]

She seems sociopathic.

[@alithedon4996]

I don't think she was looking for your sympathy. She did do something millions of people won't do, and that is, take accountability for her actions. At least she acknowledged she was the problem and worked on it. So she's not as bad as you or she might think of herself. Too many people go around spreading that negativity to everyone they come into contact with and blaming everyone else for their behavior. So she at least deserve props for acknowledging she was the issue.

[@woodpigeon7776]

Wonder if she will be so “tee hee” when her future husband does the exact same to her 😂✌🏻

[@jchristiansen42]

From experience: BPD is like a superpower for manipulation. -She will apologize, beg, plead, lovebomb like pro, and humiliate herself (or go thermonuclear rage at you for pushing her away) to you to get you back. And she will keep coming, over and over and over. For weeks or months (or years). -Then she will convince you that your problems are you attacking her, flipping the script.

[@FlyGuide2024]

As a man hearing that this is how you keep a man is by being hot and cold. This is not the case if you’re with a stable man. A stable man will not play these games.

[@mariahlamb2983]

Dang that first girl was more honest with the internet than she was in her own relationship huh

[@aaanchal.j]

🤣

[@k_8655.]

Point 😅

[@Meyou1n1]

She’s proud of it!

[@sailorpluto3327]

This comment 😂😂

[@Nicole-zr1me]

@@mariahlamb2983 ☠️

[@hashtagmate]

1st girl will NEVER change. She told the story as if it's cute and as if she's proud of it. Listen to her, she doesn't feel bad one bit. She still doesn't think she did anything wrong. People like that will never change. People with BPD can change, but not her specifically.

[@Bettersucksaul]

She said she treated him badly I do think she felt bad but yeah she comes off very nonchalant

[@Reina.Hezir.Haddad]

1st girl Can change but it’s Difficult. And if they don’t understand themselves or don’t want to then yea they’re not going to.

[@MonsterPrincessLala]

I don't think she doesn't understand or that it's mental health. She's very clearly spoiled and entitled and even if she knows what she did was messed up, she feels entitled to it. Why learn to when you can make it everyone else's problem and never be held accountable?

[@Reina.Hezir.Haddad]

@@MonsterPrincessLala I definitely agree and understand.. but that other girl said she can’t change.. it’s that that she can’t it’s that she doesn’t care to which is what your saying and I most certainly agree. 👍🏼

[@mingiinimene3335]

@@MonsterPrincessLala Because she is not to blame, it's her bipolar disorder. She is not accountable actually. I mean people will find any excuse to be scumbags and you cant point fingers because you don't understand their disorder! Just avoid people like this, it is better for your mental health.

[@raenoway]

Dating 8 months, spending a lot of time at his place to the point where you have clothes, jewelry and lots of other personal belongings but couldn’t be bothered to not cheat…stellar interpersonal skills. Girl saw Carrie Bradshaw and said “toxic goals!!”

[@audreynothepburn7663]

I almost spit out my hot coffee reading the last bit. 😂😂

[@sweetmemoriesms]

Yes! And last story, the hobosexual. Miranda and Steve!

[@moonhunter9993]

not Carrie, Miranda

[@bunnybgood411]

You can really like or even love someone but not be sexually attracted to them. It's the human condition.

[@Mama_Bear524]

@@bunnybgood411then break up

[@fyretyger1915]

That first poster was a hot mess. Don't care how cute you are nobody is worth that stress.

[@ashthesas2302]

Agreed. She deserved being kicked out like that😅. She's too much.

[@pixiestxNyomouf]

No matter how "compatible" and "good the sex is". Glad she got help though amd hope she is better

[@seanothepop4638]

Did we miss where she said she couldn't be faithful to the guy, befor he got her phone to find out? NOW he still did the worse of the whole ordeal but his mistake was going back. Would you read nice and cool things and then kick your partner out naked? Naw probably saw something bad, and...both of you can watch the vod again. Why not do that?

[@jhmonsen4179]

I could hardly hear her - too distracted by her sloppy chewing noises. 😳

[@rasalasblack]

Certerfied woman here, and I say "She for the streets!" Hopefully, no one is dumb enough to put a ring on it.

[@ittybittybuckybarnes7012]

The smell thing is so real. I’m pretty particular about the way things smell and I get super self conscious if I think I smell off. But my husband??? He goes and does a whole day of PT and field work and comes back claiming to smell and to avoid hug cuz he’s sweaty but I never smell anything except “husband”. Always ready for a hug. And he says the same vice versa. It’s definitely real.

[@QQuintessentiallyQ]

Same with my husband and I!

[@PigeonFluff]

Same with my husband!

[@martinedezoete9565]

Same with my partner, although if he wears the same shirt working out twice in a row it gets a bit iffy lol.

[@flyingpanda6802]

Actually they say if you genuinely love someone’s body odor or pheromones then it’s a sign that you have genetic compatibility. Like you would have healthy kids. It can also mean that you have more commitment and/or satisfaction in your relationship. As well as it’s just a familiar scent that you have grown accustom to with someone you love and care for deeply. I absolutely love how my husband smells and I will smell his shirts or hoodies when I miss him. That feeling is unmatched I swear. And he literally asks to smell my armpits and will ask me not to put deodorant on. 🤣

[@meaculpa22]

Thats about immunity against diseases for every person When you like people smells its your brain saying to you "thats a good mate for having strong children" ​@@flyingpanda6802

[@pixiestxNyomouf]

That first woman is a textbook case of making a partner neurotic....like this type of woman with a man was discused in my psychology classes

[@4fNReal-]

Man to woman is also as bad!!!

[@rykersmimi]

​@4fNReal- Nobody said it wasn't, but this thread is about the woman in the first video. Not all men are bad just like not all women are good.

[@Kaebaee-g8m]

Shut up Theres always one of you Just shut up ​@4fNReal-

[@claireviv1467]

there’s actually worse out there. I’m sad to be witness to

[@OneDoodlingBug]

​@@4fNReal-theres a lot of talk already about men. And every day that convo becomes more and more mainstream. And dgmw the way we raise boys & the way society treats women needs major change. But the convo about women being awful isn't had as much, except for in toxic incel threads & their examples of "terrible" women isn't usually an accurate representation of reality. So having a healthy discussion around a woman who is objectively terrible to a man is worth having. Jumping into that discussion with "men r terrible too!" Is the same as saying "nOt aLl mEn" or "wOmEn aRe bAd tOo!". Its deflection. Its taking away from holding a woman accountable. If we want men to express themselves, & channel how they feel in healthier ways, that means helping to create a society that holds a place for that. If men talk about a terrible ex they had, then ppl should hear that without taking away from his experience with "well men r bad too". Thats such a dismissive thing to say. I believe 100% in equality & sometimes that's going to look like holding women accountable, not just men.

[@CourtneyOxford-yt2nq]

My ex once told me he hated the sound of my voice and the way i talk... we stayed together another 6 months and i tried to change the way i talk 😢... my husband is the ultimate hype man for anything i do or say. Leave the assholes ladies

[@BrianAndresScott]

He said that to you, and you stayed, and he stayed. I'm so sorry that you went through all of that

[@Jessi-gx7wk]

My ex did the same. He hated how I talked (I talk too loudly), how I dressed, how I sometimes sang to myself while cooking, how I ate and how independant I was. He wanted to pressure me into his ideal of a traditional, quiet, feminin and submissive woman 🙄 It's crazy how these (often times) mediocre men manage to pull stuff like this with so many great women, who deserve better

[@BrianAndresScott]

@@Jessi-gx7wk I'm so sorry

[@Mirjen12]

The thing about being quiet because they don't want to reveal who they really are isn't the case with me. I'm just shy and awkward and it's hard for me to talk with new people too much. I've gotten better, but I used to be so nervous I couldn't even eat around new people.

[@gossipandgrigio7200]

Yeah, she was a nightmare sister-in-law

[@MalcolmReynoldsQuotes]

My husband doesn't play mind games, and I remember being so surprised by that. Even when we were just talking, he was so straightforward. He just tells me how he feels and responds to me and respects me. It's sad that it was refreshing to be treated that way, but here we are happily married with kids and not playing mind games 😅

[@boogermaiden]

Yep! I'd rather be hurt by truth than a lie! Be brave and be honest!!!

[@pettyycrockerr]

PREACH! Same here. It was like foreign at first when I was first dating my husband because there was no mind games like my exes did. It was “foreign” because I had never experienced that yet at that time from a relationship. Now. Here we are 10 1/2 years later. Have a life built. Still in love. & still no mind games!

[@bekkakay8573]

That was exactly what attracted me to my husband. Honesty is so sexy!😅

[@jeanams07]

Same with my life partner. It took me almost 2 years to quit wondering when something he was hiding would pop up, when he would quit pretending to be what I wanted, or when he would become super controlling and manipulative. It never happened and he has always been the most amazingly supportive, honest, and loyal partner I could have only dreamed of having from day one. And most importantly his actions go above and beyond his words. But my ex's were so toxic and abusive that it took that long for me to realize that not all men were like them.

[@larissave9819]

Hahaha the one girl “let’s call her Jackie” two seconds later “and then JASMINE…” 🤣

[@jasminemejia9738]

I came for this comment. That mine and my sisters name and immediately noticed it

[@BettyBordello]

I clocked that too 😂

[@michellem634]

I was just about to say that 😂😂

[@Ciela531]

Right? 😂 At first I was like "Omg did she just dox her??" but she didn't ever correct after that so figured she just forgot her original alias lol

[@ecowarrior1888]

When you soooo mad, you let the real slim shady know 😂😂😂

[@bellav.6319]

In the latino culture, you are taught to come and say hello to guests. You're taught this is what you do if you're polite. Now, if someone comes over all the time and they are practically part of the family, I become more laxed

[@angelineandrade589]

First poster is a textbook narcissist. That text from her boyfriend is literally describing the behavior of a narcissist. Based on her casual and somewhat gleeful demeanor while telling the story, she clearly is NOT better now. And she’s still shaming him because he would call his mom for support after their fights. Sounds like she resented his support system and that he was telling the truth about her to someone else. Narcissists never change.

[@V.Hansen.]

There’s a ton of crossover between bpd and narcissism. The main difference is as she said a huge fear of abandonment

[@sarahkelley9045]

Anyone can change. This narcissist narrative is as toxic as this behavior.

[@V.Hansen.]

@@sarahkelley9045 they can change but rarely do. They don’t think they should have to which is the problem in the first place. One set of rules for everyone else, but they do what they want.

[@sitarsenshi8512]

The one where she says she has BPD? Why are we trying to assign her a different diagnosis?

[@theanhedote]

Well as she was diagnosed with BPD, she is a "textbook borderline" NOT a "textbook narcissist" Let's not armchair diagnose people. Also both BPD and NPD are cluster B personality disorders and have some similarities between them, so sometimes "look" similar. And yes BPD and NPD can be improved with treatment!

[@Ciela531]

Wait- these videos are supposed to get sequentially MORE crazy???? But that first ex is UNHINGED!!! How does it get worse??? 😭 4:16

[@shantoreywilkins651]

✅

[@Ciela531]

Tbh after finishing the video, I still think first girl was the craziest out of all of them 😅 but I could also be forgetting one. That one just def left an impression

[@A_Rose_From_Concrete]

It went from worse to bad

[@jessislistless]

Please recap the first story. I had to skip it, couldn't stand the smacking.

[@Ciela531]

@@jessislistless from memory - in the first minute she literally admits to cheating on him a LOT, pretty sure she legit says "I could not stop myself from cheating on this man". And that's her Intro 😅 She then goes on to explain how they broke up - she was getting out of the shower and discovers him looking through her phone and apparently seeming very upset by what he was finding. But she says that she knew he hadn't gotten to the "really bad stuff" yet because he was still talking to her or something. She literally chases him around the apartment trying to get her phone back while he's finding all this evidence of her cheating. In the process her towel falls off. He then somehow manages to lock her outside of the apartment in the hallway. So she's naked and banging on the door, screaming at him to give her phone back. Other neighbors are around. Sounded like he didn't take long to let her back in. She snatches her phone back. He says they're over. She starts collecting some of her clothes and stuff/ packs a quick bag to walk out. He proceeds to get all of her makeup and other clothes and things of hers that she left behind and Throws them out the window onto the sidewalk below. She discovers this when she exits the building. It's pouring down rain so she just leaves all her stuff there apparently. ... And they get back together a week later and continue to date for another 8 months Which she also either implied or stated that she was cheating on him still during that time as well He also at some point tells her he's pretty sure she has BPD. She gets diagnosed a year later and nonchalantly talks about how much she's been working on herself and everything (If I missed anything, please add in a reply)

[@melissalutz9003]

Growing up we were taught that if one of us had a guest it was to be assumed they wanted to be left alone unless they came to speak with us. We would give each other privacy like normal people lol

[@dajtoad1]

Depends if they are in the common areas of the house. If they are there, it is not up to them to decide if they want to be left alone. If they want that, they have to go to his/her room.

[@jenna6149]

As someone with BPD we do not claim that woman. I struggled for literal decades to stop feeling "crazy" and when I finally got my diagnosis I went to an outpatient program to stop. Am I 100% better? Not even close. So I stay single for my sanity and others. With proper treatment people with BPD can be happy with successful relationships. That young woman is dangerous.

[@hellowendy1029]

Good for you for working on yourself! Seriously, I feel like saying "good for you" sounds sarcastic but I really mean it. I hope people have told you that you should be proud of yourself because you should! 🩷

[@angelacarter6593]

Borderline is so hard. Hugs❤️ I hope someday you find a balanced way to be in a relationship. I wish you the best.

[@Chelsea-Lanea]

Thank you!! I came here to say the same thing. Yes just like any other demographic, there's bad apples. Not the majority of us actually try to not make other people's lives hell because this is unfortunately a disease caused by ✨trauma✨ I, too, stay single because I don't want my episodes and splits to affect other people. I hate that we have this stigma surrounding us.

[@dusk194]

Cheating is self harming behaviour in some cases. You full heartedly believe you’re unlovable and everyone is going to leave so you make everyone leave.

[@MaidenViking_]

As another with BPD, I agree that we don't claim her. I get more HPD vibes instead. And no infidelity is not a common thing with BPD. People with BPD can be unfaithful, but the same can people without BPD. Cheating is a human thing. Not a BPD thing. One of the worst things with BPD is all the stigma people have about us. People without the right education, somehow "know" what flaws and traits, the majority of people with BPD have, based on rumors, or how a friend or an ex with BPD behave. People with BPD havesome things in common, but is just as different to eachother as "normal" people are to eachother. And yes, I'm finally in treatment after 25+ years and is in a happy long term relationship with a loving kind man. Not saying it has been easy, but it's possible with the right person and lits of work. And I never felt the desire to cheat in case someone wondered XD

[@courtney.p.s.]

Before my husband and I even dated we had 3 hours long conversations, and laid down our life plans, goals, financial status (student loans and such). It meant we didn’t waste each others time, or find out things after we got together.

[@VirginiaAlexander-bu8nr]

Same here, long phone calls at night and meet on the weekends. Married 32 years now. Conversations and commitment are everything

[@Sacration]

Thats very good thing

[@clancaster2588]

I did the same thing. Still obsessed with my man 5 years later

[@TomoyoTatar]

Sound advice. 👍 I'm the same way.

[@MARYREED-nh7gb]

Just hope the SO is not being deceptive.

[@khionire]

oh my God, the 1st girl sounds exactly like my older sister. like she's never cheated on anyone (from what i know) but istg the personality is just spot on, and she has confirmed BPD too. I'm actually kinda scared for my sister now 😭😭especially since she recently moved to another country to live with her bf

[@c_addante]

I once heard someone say, "You are NOT intimidating. They are intimidated." Changed my whole perspective.

[@jaxxvictoria6802]

Someone told me this once and it was really hard not to laugh because that day alone I'd had like 4 people tell me they were really intimidated by me when they met me. 😅😅😅

[@blackwidor]

Ooooh i like this xx

[@SaintShion]

Charlotte said the 4 agreements and if youve never read it 100% suggest listening to the audiobook. Its amazing for meditation or listening to during yoga/ workout.

[@CharlotteDobre]

THATS WASSUP

[@krystalynkersey]

Why not both 😂😂

[@livvy8088]

Sad to say, but I struggle to believe that the first girl has genuinely changed internally with the flippant way she recounts the story and her exposing the humiliating things her ex did to prove his love as well as his personal messages. She may have changed some of her behavior externally after realizing that no one will stick around and it benefits her in getting what she wants if she tries to treat people better. But she still seems smug and proud of her past behavior, so chances are she's just switched to more benign or covert manipulations.

[@ananditakumari5249]

I agree. If anything, it felt like she was poking fun at the guy for doing nice things for her because he loved her and she thought that was so silly

[@Ciela531]

Agreed Tbh I pray that it was just some kind of weird satire like Charlotte said at the end of the video, and not actually true. If true, that girl still has major issues and needs more time in therapy and less time on the internet

[@Suziepotato]

BPD is not at all an excuse for that behavior

[@jeishiikanzaki]

Yeah for sure it just reads as trying to get attention etc.

[@M_SC]

@@Suziepotatothe first one? No one thinks she has BPD

[@TDMN97]

The outfit and hairstyle is giving MAJOR Daphne from Scooby Doo vibes! I love it 🧡💜

[@seeya205]

Mind games are immature. Huge red flag! The first girl I found that never played mind games is the one I married. I want peace not drama in my life.

[@jesclifford88]

Agreed! Those drama llamas never grow out of it. Ain’t nobody got time for that 😅

[@pipticken]

Agreed! I had an ex who'd get so angry with me because I didn't play along with his games. I didn't even really notice them. He'd try to give me the silent treatment, and I'd be there thinking "he seems a bit frosty with me, I should give him some space to calm down and decompress" and he'd get upset that I wasn't begging him for attention and forgiveness for simply disagreeing with his opinion on something 🙄

[@BeeWhistler]

Well done. Yeah, isn’t it challenging enough starting a life with someone without playing games?

[@lauraholmes3262]

Still looking for someone without the drama

[@diannaspringford6801]

I love how much you talk. There are lots of reaction channels where they just watch a video and say "whoa, that's crazy" 😂

[@LunarisArts]

Is that a poke at sssniperwolf? If so I aprove 😂 Like your comment otherwise 😊

[@cookiemonster1286ify]

My ex invited me over and his dad was sitting on the floor of the living room playing videogames with a headset on and talking to the mic. I tried to wave and stood in the doorway for a minute waiting for him to acknowledge me or lift the headset so I could say hi and introduce myself but he never did and my ex didn't say anything to him either so eventually we just went and hung out. Apparently as soon as I left he told my ex I was rude for not saying hi but I disagree. I still waved and attempted to say hello. I mean, would you want someone you never met to interrupt your phone call? That's how i felt about it.

[@ericak9552]

A word of advice take it for somebody who’s been happily married for 22 years and counting. Don’t go to your mother when you’re having a fight with your S.O. you will end up, forgiving him but all the stuff you’re complaining to your mom about is not so easy for her to forgive, and it will cause problems in your relationship. I used to do the same thing and it made my mom look at my husband different when I was just having a meltdown and it really was my fault, but I made her believe it was his. Same with friends don’t tell them every fight you have because they will start judging him as well. This is one of the best pieces of advice I can give you about marriage.

[@justjo7282]

Been married 30 years and yes, I totally agree with you!

[@suan333]

Exactly, unless there is something really serious going on, there's no point.

[@CP-ko3xz]

​@skullladymalady yup, but also we should always tell some objective and trusted people so we don't end up isolated in an abusive relationship

[@ericak9552]

@@CP-ko3xz yes of course I just mean in regular every day fights I’m not talking about abusive relationships Of course you should tell. But every little argument you’re in if you run to your friends and family, they remember those little arguments and it will always cause problems in your relationship if it’s a healthy relationship.

[@karenneill9109]

Oh, yeah. There are a few things I wish I hadn’t told my sisters about my hubby and my relationship. We’ve moved on, but my sisters, not so much.

[@mommasglamtoo]

As a Hispanic we are raised to come out and say hello when anyone visits. But when we bring a guest we announce it also.

[@LifeofAriana578]

YES YESSSS

[@jacefromanotherworld]

As an czech we are too😅. It's considered rude not to say hi to visitor or when we visit.

[@denisha645]

I was raised by a black mother, it is the same for us. Its strange that people don't bother to at the very least say hello when guests arrive. Usually we get the heads up ahead of time when people are visiting, I make sure Im dressed to at least say hi.

[@sevi9]

Same in eastern europe. Rude to lock yourself in your room when there are visitors

[@thepalmofdeborah2110]

Same here, I was shook when she said, " ..well its my house, you came to my house.." I was thinking that's why you have to greet them because they came to your house.😅😂 😅😂. I am African we were raised to greet the one who came in, even if you hated them. Worst part is you would be forced to dress up to greet visitors, you would be constantly reminded about their arrival so prepare, shower etc.

[@kristamonroe9120]

13:34 “let’s call this girl “Jackie” - one minute later; slips up and continuously calls her by her REAL name, “Jasmine.” Lolololol

[@ashlynrodaks5723]

She fed him her skin and HE ATE IT they’re both unhinged

[@paulagoeringer9466]

Yeah and he was worried that she would make him crazy. Like, you ate her dead skin, you already reside in crazy town. 😂

[@Lunashadow-qn3ms]

I was eating when she said it

[@amykh7647]

​@@Lunashadow-qn3ms I am soooo sorry!

[@adenajaeger5124]

​@@Lunashadow-qn3ms I was, too. Lunchtime and thought I would just watch a fun video at the same time 😅

[@kgarnet41]

Idc how much I love you not eating your dead skin 😮

[@joanneleonard9632]

Definitely true about smells. The first thing I remember when I met my husband (be it, I did hate him when we first met🤣) was ‘ooo he smells good’ now years later, he smells like home every time

[@humairaanaidoo5979]

Had the same experience 😭😂😂😂 absolutely hated him but could smell him everywhere and now we have a 2 year old

[@aAngel93]

I have bpd and i spent years i mean years in therapy on how to manage my triggers and symptoms so they dont affect others then i spent an extra 5 years in therapy for healthy relationships so i am making sure im treating others in the best way possible and to identify red flags of abuse as well cause i was severely abused as a child so it provided much clarity for me and it really changed my life , i reccomend this for anyone with bpd it takes alot of self control and patience with yourself and others to get bpd under control but its not impossible theres hope it does require alot of time and work though. God bless to anyone struggling with the same thing , you can have more peace dont give up.

[@ameliaburton3426]

I have BPD (borderline personality disorder not bipolar disorder) and my life was absolutely chaotic until I finally got diagnosed correctly and on medication. Between doctors constantly trying to say it was depression or bipolar disorder and the wrong meds and, honestly, sexist diagnosis… I couldn’t maintain a relationship. So thankful for my meds and my very patient husband. We’ve been together 16 years now ❤

[@boogermaiden]

Great for you. BPD is super weird. A good example in films is Clementine in Eternal Sunshine

[@absolutelytiffany]

BPD diagnosed here too, my life was pretty chaotic until I was diagnosed too. Makes a difference when knowing what’s going on, having the right medication and therapy. Not to mention someone who you can turn to when things are tough or good. So happy for you! 🙂

[@gojiberry7201]

Good for you for getting treatment! I hope things continue to go well for you 👍

[@LadyDreamfyre]

BPD friend here too!!! Meds saved me istg

[@Amiwa3]

is nice too she you guys being still together. My ex married a woman with BPD, she is diagnosed and is medicated. Sadly they last for 5yrs and got divorced last yr. They were really cute together too.

[@amandacockerham6387]

I HATED the dating games I saw played on guys and guys would play on me. It sucked and I just wanted honesty and to get to know someone. When I put myself out there for the last time, I put EVERYTHING in my online dating bio. What I wanted from life, my religious beliefs, what I expected from a relationship, etc. If a guy asked me questions that were CLEARLY answered in my bio, I didn’t take him seriously. Guess who I married, the guy that laid everything, good and bad, out in his bio and asked me intelligent and thoughtful questions about what I had put in my bio. Neither of us wanted to play games and we both appreciated it in the other. We’ve been married for 11 years and I love him more every day.

[@whisperedwish348]

Charlotte, you have looked so stunning lately - the hair, the skin, and the makeup are all perfect! You are going to be such a gorgeous bride! ❤

[@CharlotteDobre]

aw thank you so much, i really appreciate it!

[@EmilyKresl]

For real tho, I'm ready for some bridal shopping vicariously through you too!

[@whisperedwish348]

@@CharlotteDobre of course :)

[@lj0608]

Doesn't she!!! Another KZbinr who got engaged as well has the same glow both of them are just looking sooooooooo happy and glowing.

[@BrianAndresScott]

Absolutely agree 💯 ❤

[@arrriadna]

In Romania the "Say Hello in Visit" rule is: you go in the family room and say hello to everyone. If you're close you can go in the kitchen as well. But if someone is in their room/bedroom you have to wait until they come out to say your hello. Once you said your hello and you're encouraged to go to the room of the person you're visiting, when you leave you also go and say bye in the main room and or kitchen 😂😂😂😂

[@Katerina_Alexandra]

Same here in South Africa! Say Person A is visiting person B, living with person C. Person A greets in the general living area/kitchen but won't go and disturb person C in their room if they're there? Also there's no hard rule for person C to come say hello necessarily although if it's a new person, it makes sense for them to be introduced when they visit, and person B will plan that with person C in advance.

[@M_SC]

That’s the same in Canada

[@HeatherWho11.10]

Is that not basically the same rule everywhere? That's just common courtesy

[@alejandraromero1204]

Same in Mexico

[@mellvee]

I've been with my husband for over 26 years, married for just over 25. My husband is actually a union sewer worker, and everything about him smells amazing. When we first met, it was his laundry soap and his cologne. Then just the cologne. Then he stopped wearing cologne, and I love the way he smells without anything superficial. Just him and his shower gel. He also takes two showers a day and can not stand to so much as sit down for a second when he's sweaty or dirty. He'll work in the sewers all day and then come home, and before he'll even sit down to drink some coffee, he's taking a shower. He decided he sweats a lot when he was young, so he determined never to smell like it. And he was raised by women only. That certainly helped his resolve to always smell good. And he does. I never thought about it as pheromones underneath the cologne, body wash, and laundry detergent lol. I think he just smells really, really good. Probably one reason we've stayed together a quarter of a century, and I still think he smells better than any other man I've ever known. 🤷‍♀️

[@deborahking5610]

I'm a vintage lady, and in 1980 I worked with a beautiful woman who told me to get men and keep them you must treat them like shit, and the crazier you acted, the more they would want you. While I didn't have the personality for this, she sure did. I watched for years as she had men fawning all over her, buying her gifts, taking her on trips, buying her cars, etc. Take that for whatever it's worth to you. I have, throughout my life seen this same scenario played out over and over. Of course, men do the same to women. I have seen women fight over men that aren't worth their time.

[@Mama_Bear524]

Yes my dad says this. He says it about kids. Treat them like crap and they’ll respect you. It’s no way to live imho.

[@alexia3552]

People have something to prove to themselves I guess

[@alexia3552]

@@Mama_Bear524disrespectfully, your dad is an idiot for saying that. Kids don’t respect as*hats. They respect adults who show respect, who are honest, who don’t take themselves seriously, and they’re much more likely to take an adult seriously who genuinely invests themselves in the child as a person

[@alexia3552]

@@Mama_Bear524kids respect honesty and fairness. And will follow you if you are kind to them. I guess he’s never met a kid 👀 btw I hope therapy is treating you okay

[@lorrainemcgrail6315]

Yeah it’s why I get so mad when guys say “women only want to date assholes” like ok but you people will date a cartoon super villain and fall in love with her??😂

[@whitneywest3538]

“We’ll call her Jackie.” Immediately identifies her as Jasmine. 😂 TWICE.

[@hey.pandora]

8:01 ok so I legit went to a couple of my professors (science major) when I was in college asking if there was a link between our perception of someone’s smell and our feelings for them (like early feelings) cuz I noticed some guys I dated…their ‘bad smells’, like morning breath or sweat, I didn’t even smell ANYTHING. Other guys, I did find their sweat smell offensive. I noticed the latter relationships weren’t ones I stayed in long. Not because of smell, I just wasn’t feeling it emotionally

[@caljones]

“People LOVE talking about themselves, unless they’re me.” Girl, SAME lol

[@luludee1300]

I think like 90% of the time when someone says another person is intimidating, its really just a reflection of their own insecurity 🤷‍♀️

[@4fNReal-]

Agree! I've realized people project , always!!! Politics, relationships, etc. Pay attention to what others say or accuse others of!!!

[@urmomsbegaming]

Yes I swear I get it often😅😅😅 it’s exhausting

[@krystalynkersey]

Hmm I'm not sure. I'm told that all the time, but I am 😂 I have RBF and I don't care to change it just to be liked.

[@vh4478]

When you’re intimidating to someone, it’s not because you’re a bad person! It’s because you have a strength that makes some people insecure.

[@cecilycopelandceci6038]

Okay, I agree that it was not sister's job to go down and greet her brother's girlfriend. She did not invite her over. Her brother is the host, and girlfriend is HIS guest. BUT, when I am a guest inside someone's home I don't interrupt the lives of the other people in the house. I will say hi to people when I see them, but I would not leave my boyfriend to go upstairs into his sister's room to say hi. That, to me, feels like an intrusion.

[@bceltica898]

Totally. What they are saying makes no sense. You stay put where your host puts you.

[@cecilycopelandceci6038]

@@bceltica898 exactly!! treat it like a restaurant. You don't just move tables, so you can say hi to the other waiters

[@JennRighter]

I’m 44, and decades ago I remember meeting my brother’s girlfriend for the first time and immediately I knew she was the one. He’s been married for over 20 years now and she is a sister to me for sure.

[@afangforapples]

Aww, I love that

[@JennRighter]

@@afangforapples I told my brother after he married her that I know they’ll be forever but if something ever happens I’m on her side lol. She is everything. Shoutout to Amanda I love you so much.

[@RaydonDeChene]

😊

[@crissy4445]

I thought you meant the one for YOU and I was like awww lesbian meet cute I hope your brother’s happy for you 😂

[@JennRighter]

@@crissy4445 I totally see that now rereading my post 💀🤦🏼‍♀️🤣

[@pistolemi2156]

For me, if I was being brought to someone's house, whether we're friends or we're dating, if people are home, I would expect to be brought to them to be introduced, at least so that they know the person who could on occasion be in their home. If this is a relationship you're trying to grow, you'd be integrating yourself into their family. If the family likes you enough, you'll get good conversations and invites to dinner or outings and whatnot. Not wanting to know the family is CRAZY.

[@TheDopekitty]

After my last relationship I've been really enjoying just being on my own. I have a cat, a best friend and no eggshells to walk on.

[@maggieb4736]

I stayed single till my late 30's because I would rather be alone than with an a-hole. I never understood that need to be with someone, no matter how toxic, I mean, yuck. Finally did meet a really great guy and married him! He was worth waiting for.😊❤

[@TheDopekitty]

@@maggieb4736 glad you managed to snag one of the good ones 😁

[@lazerbubbles3630]

Love that 🎉❤🎉❤🎉❤

[@maggieb4736]

@@TheDopekitty , thanks, me too! He is everything a man should be, imo---I don't know how I got so lucky and I often wonder if I deserve him---but I'm not giving him up, I can tell you that! 😊 Having said that, I was not at all unhappy as a singleton, either---great friends and family (the fun Auntie), traveled all over the world, had great adventures, met amazing people, did rewarding volunteer work---and I loved the autonomy of doing what I wanted, how I wanted, when I wanted! No eggshells! Lot to be said for being single! Life is what you make it! Cheers! 🍾 🥂

[@catimorrill7724]

"Let's call this girl 'Jackie.'" "I'm not going to look out the window and be like, 'is Jasmine here'" 😂😂😂

[@AngelfishXD]

I love what you said about you and Mike having your sit down to start dating! My husband and I did after being friends for a while and have been happily married for 5 years with 2 babies 🥰 I hope the same for you and Mike and love watching you two grow as a couple!

[@cassieb2813]

The pheromones thing is soooo real. I was casually dating a guy and we never became official because his natural “funk” made me want to gag, I remember complaining to my mom that he smelled like a dusty attic and I couldn’t explain it - this was despite him being so sweet, funny, smart, and thoughtful - I just was not physically attracted to him BECAUSE of the funk. The science of that indicates that we were genetically similar - so the pheromones you are attracted to are your genetic opposite! Fun facts for Fall!

[@Sami86K]

I learned how to say hi and some other things in their language for when I first met his mom and her friends. Her friends actually gave him money to take me out because they liked me. On my first birthday with him, his mom’s card to me it said, “from mommy”. Small things can go a long way and I’m am so lucky to have her as a mother in law now!

[@EmmaShanahan]

I have BPD and I never act like that with my partner bpd is about intense emotions not treating people like that.. not all the traits for bpd is on the internet so people can’t self diagnose themselves with it but somehow people do and for the actual people with severe mental issues are put on waiting lists for months.😢

[@sammie1016]

Fun fact for ya, if someone's natural body odor smells good, then biologically you're different and your kids would have better immune systems and stuff

[@CharlotteDobre]

I KNEW IT

[@lydiaj7492]

Oh definitely! The pheromones thing has a pretty solid base in science

[@shaunfletcher7658]

​@CharlotteDobre This is currently the best science on the matter. This is, however, not pheromones. Humans do not have a vemeronasal (pheromone) system, but have this instead.

[@boogermaiden]

Me who is mildly lactose intolerant but my sweat smells like milk 🙃

[@adreena456]

This is great news! I’m addicted to my man’s pits and we just had a daughter 😂

[@vanianup]

In South Asian cultures it is the hosts in the house who come forward to say Hello and welcome to the guest. If they don’t then it is considered rude. The girl that had issues with her brother’s girlfriend seems to have had cultural difference influence the dynamics.

[@egyptrodriguez856]

Disagreed how can she say hi to anyone she didn't see come in

[@SteviiLove]

Thanks for helping me stay sane, Charlotte. Currently fostering a neonatal kitten that doesn't have the best survival odds; she's from a litter of four and sadly, three of the four passed before I was able to step in. Here's hoping this little tortie girl makes it. ❤

[@user-pt1cz4ot1e]

I rescue animals, so I know that pain. 🥺 I know you know these things, but just saying a few. Warm, warm, warm. Just don’t let her temp drop even for a few seconds. Feed as often as she will eat, small amounts. Wearing them in your shirt, like any premie, is good to do. Best of luck. 🫶🏻 Such a scary thing to do. You’re doing great.

[@dawnchesbro4189]

Crossing fingers she thrives! Neonates can be tough. Gently warmed water bottle changes through the night and keep offering food in the hopes she will take an interest on feeding

[@Softsqueakyduck]

Sending massive amounts of love to this kitten. I hope that this will be a Miracle Kitten.

[@be3p]

what is happening on youtube bro 😭

[@ximar0ckstrx]

Praying for the precious baby! 🤍

[@carolmelancon]

Where were the second girl's parents, while she was growing up, that she could get to this state of letting him get away with even the FIRST of his demands, much less the long list of them? I can't imagine how she was treated that she could have so little self-respect.

[@TheQueenRulesAll]

It takes long term abuse for a person to accept that behavior. It was the journey I lived, and finally, the third marriage is healthy....lol. Sometimes, these relationships are just a way of our learning how we think about ourselves, and if we take the time to learn, we grow from the experience. I would not wish my journey on anyone but life is not always pretty but always worth living.

[@kweenjade01]

Exactly. 😢

[@taylorp6643]

I wonder if they were a bit abusive as well and that's why she took so much from him, maybe it seemed normal 😢

[@martibee8984]

Most people in abusive relationships were abused, or neglected, growing up. They were taught that being treated poorly is normal, and it can take a lot to figure out it's not. Especially before the age of the internet. I was one of those people. I started dating a grown man at 15, and moved in with him to escape home. Only for him to switch up on me, and become the worst abuser in my life. I finally left him after four years, but immediately went into another abusive relationship. Although not as bad, it was still terrible. It only took me 9 months to leave him, and left him peeing blood in the process. 😈 I vowed to never let a man treat me like that again, but it still took years for me to realize I was still letting myself be treated like crap. Cheaters and emotional abusers. I have given up on dating. I still need to do some work, and I tend to attract the worst of men. At least alone I'm the only one who can hurt me.

[@dluvscupcakes]

@@taylorp6643 What she described *was* abuse

[@1ssac1sGay]

so thankful to see you rn I first saw you at spotify

[@LiliLedesma-rw2kg]

That sis preach. It's sooooo much better to be alone than stuck with someone who makes you miserable. Being alone doesn't have to be the same as being lonely.

[@shinyforester]

Calls her Jackie, proceeds to refer to her as Jasmine 😂 her name is def Jasmine

[@jordanmiller4190]

I 100% agree with the pheromone thing. My husband can be at work sweating for 10 hours and I still think he smells good vs spending my childhood yelling at my brothers to take showers bc they ALWAYS smelled terrible

[@jedinavi6736]

The truth is: “you’re intimidating” usually means “I’m worried you’ll see through my bs”

[@niamphdollieofficial]

That's why men love native, weak women

[@dinsedale_darby]

Really glad that first person got their diagnosis! We tend to be good at cheering people on who get out of toxic relationships ( as well as we should!) But just a shout out to anybody who has a personality disorder and is working on managing it and learning better coping methods

[@se7nn1120]

I also have a RBF. 😂 My boyfriend told me he thought I "looked kinda snobbish". Thats why he would look at me and not say anything before we met. He felt like I was going to be, you know, a b*tch. 😅 I was so worried because the last thing I want was for people to think I was anything like that. So I asked him 6 months into dating, "If you thought I was snobbish, why did you talk to me then?" He said, with a smile on his face, "I saw you laughing. You looked pretty and less intimidating." Thats why whenever we see each other, he makes funny faces that makes me smile and laugh!

[@StarfireFlow]

First girl couldn't comprehend consequences of cheating

[@ajqueen31]

If I'm coming over to a BF's family member's house, he better break the ice and make it so we both greet each other. But i deal with shyness so i would feel weird about being the 1st person to greet, when I'm the invited person to the house (invited via the BF). Host, whether intended or not, greets guests and sets the mood.

[@lovd888]

I agree, although I don’t think she knew her brothers gf was home which was a mistake on his part. I tell my bf to tell his friends I’m shy ahead of time because I have a RBF. It takes me a while to open up to people but they have been patient and receptive.

[@reniekarenee1068]

I’ve always been taught when you enter a room you speak to everyone in it ! Especially someone’s house. everyone you come into direct contact with when you arrive you need to speak to them 1st. But the only people you go seek to speak to, are the heads of the house. ie parents, grandparents or any elders present.

[@emilybear4832]

Girl, I’m just shy. That’s why I am quiet along with being extremely socially awkward at first but I’m not trying to hide myself. Not everyone deserves to know me. 😌

[@dluvscupcakes]

I was diagnosed with autism last year at 39 years old. For my whole life, I had attributed my difficulties interacting with others to shyness, social anxiety, and introversion. Those could also be true, but now I feel as though I understand why it’s always been so hard. Over the years, so many people have thought I was rude or snobby. People make a lot of assumptions when they can only think from one perspective

[@axsen2299]

Same... i didnt like sisters vibe either... she wants her bro to date someone who gets along with her... like just stfu he is not a child

[@Tee33465]

Saaaame. I’ve definitely seen situations in which people were quiet just to hide. But as for me I’m just super shy. I’m more of a listener than a talker so I will respond to you and keep a conversation going that way but I won’t really initiate conversations.

[@aliciashanks5239]

​@@axsen2299 yeah, she definitely rubbed me the wrong way. Like, your brother's already married to someone else. Why are you still hung up on complaining about this other woman, weird.

[@zoescott779]

​@@axsen2299. . Sounds like you didn't actually listen to her. . .

[@oyunnbolstad]

Omg, it's so funny the way you described how you and Mike got together! It's the exact same way my husband and I did it. We set the rules the very first day, and it works perfectly so far (12 years). 😄❤️ I'm so happy for you guys! 🙏❤️

[@orion.6]

Bruh why is the 1st girl talking about her ex like its just some casual funny story. She fucked that man up and ruined his ability to trust and its just a "haha funny i used to be stupid" story for her. I dont think shes fixed herself as much as she said she has. I hope that man is doing better now without her.

[@ayana_0150]

Had a girl I barely knew told me that she was intimidated by me and my sisters once and it honestly felt like she was talking about entirely different people the way she was talking about us. I don't know how to describe it, but it did feel like she was throwing a lot of shade disguised as compliments at us and it left me with an impression that her being intimidated had more to do with her than it really did with us.

[@Cat94683]

My husband is a chef. When we first met one of the things that attracted me to him was that he smelt like cookies that had just come out of the oven😋 even though he had not been anywhere near cookies! To this day he still smells good, he doesn't wear a lot of perfumes or deodorant because he has sensitive skin, but he has a nice sweet musk smell❤

[@marcushanes100]

“I don’t know why she would be intimidated by me”. “I’m fighting her next time I see her”😂

[@xandreshephard8764]

Yeah, there's definitely more to the story that would probably explain what happened there. I don't believe the girl in the video that she did nothing wrong.

[@GalinaEv]

@@xandreshephard8764 yeah - i'm the nicest person, I don't interfere in relationships. girl contradicts herself in the same breath

[@Dayxpxp]

"I'm the nicest person ever"; "I don't like confrontation "same person same video "so I never got to confront her and I never got to fight her"

[@axsen2299]

​​@@xandreshephard8764 same... i didnt like the sis's vibes... maybe the fact that she likes to control her brother was reflected in his behavior... plus her words like "i want to protect my bro" like wat... he is not a baby... Then at the end it is proves that she only wants her bro to date girls who will get along with her... which is wrong

[@peep3616]

@@xandreshephard8764 But trying to isolate a brother from his sister?? How in the world do so many of you think that’s okay 😭 that’s insecurity on a whole nother level to make your boyfriend cut off female *relatives*

[@sopheikemarie]

Even with social anxiety, when someone intentionally asks you nice questions and takes honest interest in you and what you are talking about it will also make it easier for you to talk about you and will leave you feeling confident (if they follow the strategy or something similiar to what you mentioned and "lead" the conversation).

[@MegMarchSews61]

Wait... i thought these were supposed to get crazier... first girl had me like: 👀

[@sarahkelley9045]

😂😂 Me too. She was OFF her rocker.

[@jamesrose3857]

1:44 Good....

[@sagefi1]

The first one is crazy. I've been with my guy 2.5 years and i have nothing at his house 😂

[@Chuck_EL]

She's definitely the crazy ex not the guy I agree with Charlotte

[@shethingsd]

They're both crazy. Why would he take her back?

[@brookeproductions22]

​@shethingsd idk i have taken my ex back after how badly he mistreated me so its hard for me to not sympathize with people who go back to their toxic exes. and reading his email or whatever in the background he seems really grounded and a genuinely good person who just really loved someone but didnt know the full extent of what shes done. I feel bad for him. this chick is literally wild

[@sagefi1]

@shethingsd sounds like he was significantly older and not that attractive-but had money.

[@lazerbubbles3630]

​@@sagefi1💯💯💯💯

[@betr7999]

As far as the smell thing goes, I once heard someone say "Marry the person you think still smells good after a long day of work or a hard workout!" and that really stood out to me. I'll always be self conscious after my workouts and say "Ugh I'm so stinky!" and he will walk up to me and smell me and say "Nope, you smell good to me." and I feel the same way when he complains. To me he smells like home and I find it comforting.

[@nana.teixeira]

I loved my toxic ex’s smell. My current bf’s smell is so neutral and I learnt to love it because it brings me peace and tranquility.

[@gomoestas]

Leave him

[@nana.teixeira]

@@gomoestas why would I do that?

[@gomoestas]

@@nana.teixeira when you start having s once a month and try to convince yourself that that part of relationship is not so important, you will remember this comment

[@nana.teixeira]

@@gomoestas lol! Maybe I should go back to my toxic ex and break up with my amazing boyfriend of 4 years since his smell brings me peace and tranquility. Thanks for the heads up :)

[@greystorms9632]

The earliest I’ve ever been 😭😭 love you Charlotte!!! Give us the groomzilla shorts with Mike!!!!!

[@ceeceebebe1617]

Oh good, she saw this 🥳

[@greystorms9632]

Guys I’m learning, I’m not gonna edit my comment this time and get my Charlotte heart taken away 😭 RIP my first Charlotte heart 🥲

[@entropy3615]

​@@greystorms9632I deleted mine and re-uploaded my comment. The creator (not Charlotte) hearted it again. 🥺 Was genuinely surprised but it was within the first 5 minutes of the upload time. 🤷

[@giselleocasio2441]

When I was growing up if I was in my room and someone came to visit, my mom would come to my room and she would be like: so and so are here, come say hi... And I don't find anything wrong with it, cause she was making sure I knew we had visitors. (Maybe so I wouldn't say or do anything inappropriate). But she wouldn't MAKE me say hi if I didn't feel like it.

[@MirandaTess]

Man, my in-laws are wonderful. I really struggle with small talk and I opened with that statement the first time I met them and 6 years later they still understand its difficult but they include me in everything but never expect for me to say too much especially around people I haven't met before. I love them all so much and they have never been anything but kind to me and have made me feel like I'm part of the family. My now husband took me home to meet his GRANDPARENTS the first time we ever hung out because according to him "he immediately knew" and I immediately fit in with them. I couldn't imagine being part of another family now.

[@thishappycrafter272]

About the sister being protective of her brother-speaking from experience, I’ve dated a guy who was WAY too close to his sister to the point that she was ALWAYS around. They lived together and always went out together, so much so that we didn’t have a whole lot of time alone. So, I would LOVE to hear the ex-girlfriend’s side of the story.

[@jknox632]

My ex husband's sister was crazy possessive of him. I asked him if she talked to his previous girlfriends with the same nasty tone, and he told me YES. (she drove away several very lovely women...) Truthfully... it kinda creeped me out. Especially since he never stopped her.

[@thishappycrafter272]

@@jknox632 Exactly! There *needs* to be boundaries and this sister is giving not great vibes. I can understand why the ex-girlfriend was put off.

[@emilyp9869]

when charlotte said when people are quiet the first time you meet them it’s because they don’t want to slip and show you who they really are- no i’m just shy and kind of awkward. also my husbands mum was acting like the sister, literally the first time i came over i met and said hi to everyone except her because she would not come down from her room even though people told her i was there to meet them. i’ve also had to put up with mean girls dating my brother and talking bad about him but i usually just let him know he doesn’t deserve that treatment- it wasn’t that i was possessive, i could just see they weren’t being nice but it’s his decision to stay or leave that relationship yk.

[@martibee8984]

Emotional in cest.

[@jriley8614]

And anytime someone says "I am the sweetest person you'll ever meet!" I know to stay away from them

[@Janedoesbudgetdiary]

I love how the second girl says “lets call her Jackie” to protect her then she accidentally calls her by her real name (jasmine) because she was reliving that story in real time 😂

[@BeholdenProductions]

“You’re intimidating” is usually projection, one should reframe it as “I’m intimidated by you” because it’s on the person feeling that way (which is fine and valid). Unless the other is actively doing things to intimidate them it’s often just because of circumstances, like the role they play (e.g. oldest friend, sister, mom, authority figure, etc). It’s ok to feel intimidated but know the difference between your feelings and the other’s behaviour actually being intimidating. It can obviously be both too, but chances are if you feel intimidated before even meeting them that’s what you’re bringing to the potluck, not them…

[@boogermaiden]

People are intimidated by me for absolutely no reason. 😂 Story of my life. I literally just vibe and just avoid them lol

[@raychwagner3657]

My boyfriend said “why does the dude at 24:23 look like Glen from the seed of chuckie all grown up” and now I don’t know what to do with this new information 😂😂

[@MrsWellner]

To those who are in a toxic relationship.... if your person tells you "do this or I will leave," repeat after me...... DON'T LET THE DOOR HIT YA WHERE THE GOOD LORD SPLIT YA!!!!

[@kathydurow6814]

Or after a few times...."You promise?"

[@nedawar4963]

I have “hi” trauma, so that story triggered memories 😅 I lived in a house with 7 girls junior year of college, and it got so dramatic that someone added to our house rules, “you will say hi or bye to anyone present when you enter or leave a room.” It made me want to actively avoid greeting anybody because WHY DO WE HAVE TO PUT THAT IN WRITING? 😂

[@OuchingTigerLimpingDragon]

Oh dear god. Were girls getting that snippy over being "ignored" when someone walked through a room? That's just inventing things to be pissed about!

[@nedawar4963]

@@OuchingTigerLimpingDragon YES 😂 exactly. Everyone was mad about everything and it was absurd. We clearly have bigger issues if someone thinks a rule that trivial would need to exist

[@lovelyladyguido]

I don't need a man. I've been single 6 yrs. Loving it. My kids are grown. Now I ride a Harley, I've a huge social life. I escape to nature for positive reasons and life is good.

[@kayla3914]

I dated a guy for only 5 months who was either a narcissist, a sociopath, or something similar, and I had PTSD for years. Get out ASAP!

[@Helloimkyraa]

I was that second girl! One day, that delulu bubble pops, and you're like, "Forget this." Leave and never look back! That "relationship" was the lowest point in my life, and once I swam out of that abyss, a couple of months later, I met my soulmate at a bookstore/coffee shop. Ten years later, we are still best friends, very happily married, with two little humans, literally living our dreams, truly. Close the door(s), babes, never give up hope, learn to love (especially yourself), believe in the magic and beauty of the world, and know you're not alone. Love and light!! ✨️

[@NotThatEllen]

I was diagnosed with BPD 12 years ago, and prior to my diagnosis, I was a nightmare! Men would oddly fall for me fast, and I never understood it. I would break their hearts, and that is a pain I carry to this day. I feel so bad for the things I did, but back then, I had no remorse. I was a shit human, and there was no way around it. Since I was diagnosed, I have worked on myself a lot, and I have become a better person. I am currently married to my husband of 10 years, and I have never been happier. I couldn't imagine hurting him in any way!

[@EmilyRose1919]

the first gril....the fact that she is raw dogging a kiwi like that, tells me more than this story that she just shared...I hope she gets therapy...

[@blizz2795]

THIS!!🤢

[@EmilyRose1919]

@tiannaconstantine9606 I'm allergic to kiwis, but when I could eat them, their skin was very thick and did not taste good. I also have a mental health diagnosis, which one of the symptoms is impulse control, so I understand why she may be eating it that way, which is why I made my comment. So thank you. In no way was I attacking or making fun. I was stating that it told me more about her than what her story told me.

[@AmoreMiu]

@@constantine9606 kiwi skin contains oxalate crystals which can irritate your skin or mouth when eaten. It doesn’t affect everyone, but it’s not the same as apples, pears, peaches, etc.

[@yorurei4047]

I didn't even see that 😂 I was too distracted by the drama

[@kristinahammer2757]

26:33 we call guys that do that "hobosexuals" they'll fall in love for a roof over their head 😂

[@Happinosis]

My SIL hated me on sight and successfully alienated my brother, with whom I’d previously been super close, and later on my nieces. She is the one person in life I can truly say I hate.

[@jesclifford88]

Oh that’s sad 😢 she’s messing them all up! I hope he wises up one day and they all get away from her 🙏🏼

[@ArleneKing1372]

My Dil is like this! My son is now alienated from me and I haven’t had much contact with my granddaughter since she was born in 2012. I haven’t seen her at all for the past years. :(

[@lazerbubbles3630]

Im so sorry shes so evil! She'll regret it when the kids are adults & realize their mom kept them away from u!!!!! 💔

[@lazerbubbles3630]

​@@ArleneKing1372omgeeeee I am sooooo sorry, Grandma! 💔💔💔💔 i hate that! She will regret it once the kids are older!

[@lotstodo]

I met a boyfriend's sister at a restaurant dinner. She had brought a nerf gun to dinner. Someone handed it to me, and it went off and hit her. She was so offended! She brought the stupid thing yet blamed me for shooting her! So stupid. She also had a very high opinion of her own intelligence. My only regret was that it wasn't a real gun.

[@cocoapuffpalace3530]

As the girlfriend who distances herself and doesn't speak its not because I don't want them to see my true character (I'm a cool person). I am just really shy and socially awkward. I don't like feeling like I'm in the way or intruding in someone's space. idk I get uncomfortable easily 💯🤷🏾‍♀️

[@ambermyers1479]

Yes girl, me too!

[@Webshari]

Yes!

[@KateJessicaSINK]

Absolutely. There's another side of context we didn't get in that story.

[@viviawaag863]

But did you block them and get intimidated, and blamed them for not engaging? Did you tell you bf to cut them out of their life?

[@cocoapuffpalace3530]

@viviawaag863 I've made sure his family can't find me on social media. They're not nice, tbh and they like to ask me for favors. So yes, I've blocked them. No, they can't and don't intimidate me

[@johndoe-lm7ji]

I have no problem my bf going through my phone. I literally let him take it one day because he needed a phone for work because his wasn’t working. I didn’t care, had nothing to hide!

[@emmaheard5250]

First girl is so toxic

[@ericmills9839]

Clearly gets away with a ton due to her looks. I dated someone like that and it was a great experiment/lesson...I figured out how long I could date someone who was crazy hot that I could barely stand. 3 weeks, then I ran like the wind.

[@lisamarie3080]

I'm glad he told her to get diagnosed because everyone let her get away with stuff I bet

[@Manibular]

100% right on that pheromones thing. My ex smelled like literal chocolate to me. I couldn't get enough. Lol that man was my kryptonite and it took him passing away for me to really even start to realize he was bad for me.

[@gamingbypix]

Not everyone being quiet is someone that is bad/toxic, some people just had to deal with bad/toxic people and get awkward and nervous. Sometimes it takes a couple...or...a hundred times to get out of your shell after surviving narcissistic relationships and other isolating abuse! It's scary interacting with people when such and such person seemed so nice so normal etc. When you've been manipulated and gaslit you stop trusting yourself, your identity, etc.

[@caljones]

And some people are just naturally quiet and introverted, like me

[@gamingbypix]

@@caljones also true! I just have no grey area and so people assume I'm upset when I'm quiet or when the social battery drains lol

[@persephonehades7547]

Yeah those comments about quiet people rubbed me wrong. Like shyness is a thing.

[@IsabelBertolet-Casas]

I totally agree on the no talking thing, my brother’s girlfriend now just jumped in and started talking to us and I talk A LOT but she really would match my energy and I love her a lot

[@Lilyofwords]

You ever screamed a scream so loud it's quite? The way you had to look at the ring, to remind yourself that he's no longer boyfriend but fiance 🤣

[@Theproblemchildofyoutube]

1:12 So...she was cheating? They're both in the wrong but I think the girl was worse. (This is just from the context given in the video and I'm not sure this story is even real.)

[@lexc.7991]

Like Charlotte said “I’m not gonna say you deserve it.. BUT…” 👏👏