Regina (to Melody): ''You are not in my body. You do not know how I feel. And if you really think that I am not trying hard enough, you are most certainly not my friend.''
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@jasminewhitmill5 жыл бұрын
It wasnt just about signing tho. She used her hand a lot more than most people do on a daily basis. Signing, painting and doing hair. Doing hair alone could have caused that.
@melindawest31125 жыл бұрын
This is a very common problem. My father he played piano and he is a teacher so he write a lot. So he had what we call LE and this mades his hand hurts like hell for a long time. He could only play piano know 20 years later without being hurt
@nickbezdek28473 жыл бұрын
I disagree with what she said. Its like saying she can never speak again because she use her voice too much. Its all about choices
@122jhe3 жыл бұрын
@@nickbezdek2847 but real life she have double tendonitis, carpel tunnel and cubital nerve damage
@amandaa77082 жыл бұрын
@@nickbezdek2847 Its not like that at all because the vocal cords aren’t the same as the hands.
@katymvt9 ай бұрын
@@nickbezdek2847 Sure, she can sign and then get arthritis so badly that she's in constant pain and can't really do anything at all. Melody could possibly get cochlear implants. Bay could puncture her ear drums to better fit in at a Deaf school. It is all about choices, but some choices don't make a lot of sense.
@Nicole390011 жыл бұрын
Yup, her problems are real. They're not just for the show. She really did get tendonitis [in real life] from signing too much. She learned so many signs at once (plus she began learning as an adult) and it was just too much for her hands to take.
@sweetlife0316 жыл бұрын
Did Constance -- and Regina ever recover from this? It was really rude of Melody to react the way she did...but Regina could maybe try to modify a lot of her signs...hmmm...maybe her hands were too uncomfortable :''(
@ecgg256 жыл бұрын
She also has Carpal tunnel and 1 other thing messing up her hands too.
@Supahpowahnerd8903 жыл бұрын
It's also particularly in-character for Regina, since a risk factor for tendinitis is a history of alcohol abuse.
@AngelicMistyStorm2 жыл бұрын
@@sweetlife031 people don’t understand what it’s like when your body starts failing you and there’s nothing you can do to fix it. If there was a cure to heal her hands Regina would gladly take it.
@sadee12877 ай бұрын
Precisely. Apparently, this kind of health issue is more common than we knew. Actress Camryn Manheim, who was an ASL interpreter as well as an actress, developed arthritis in her hands and arms and had to curtail, if not give up entirely -- her career as an interpreter. The character of Melody is irritating as h-ll. It's one thing to be upset that a friend can no longer communicate -- it's another to ACCUSE her of doing it for "sympathy" or "attention." That's taking entitlement too far. I'd have been angry too -- and it would have meant a permanent end of the friendship.
@homosoftommorow7 жыл бұрын
Melody was obviously worried that her best friend not signing anymore meant she was going to lose her. She didn't express herself very kindly in this scene. But it was clearly what she was upset about.
@JeffyPokemon6 жыл бұрын
Jasper Hardin no shes a bitch cuz
@aaliyahgriffin8716 жыл бұрын
How would she lose her?
@KarlHinton6 жыл бұрын
aaliyah griffin imagine your best friend suddenly speaking Spanish or another language you don’t fully understand. That’s the position here. They are now forced to read lips and struggle to be involved in a conversation with Regina...talking to her becomes “work”. Beyond that ASL is more than language its culture it’s...everything... to think walls wouldn’t be built bc of the lack of language would be a mistake... :(
@aaliyahgriffin8716 жыл бұрын
Karl Hinton oh ok I understand now
@Nathan-ti9pm6 жыл бұрын
Jasper Hardin Melody is a prejudice bitch I get that being deaf she must have been discriminated against but that does not give her the right to lash out at (in her terms) “hearing” people who haven’t done anything to her and are even trying to learn sign language remember how unfairly she treated Bay even though she was genuinely learning how to use sign language? Now she says that Regina is just using an excuse not to sign anymore really it’s surprising no one slapped this chick
@lise8956 жыл бұрын
Melody bugged me in this scene. Does she really honestly believe that Regina wouldn't of found some way to sign to her daughter if she could? Regina has sacrificed so much for Daphne her entire life and she loves her daughter with all her heart. Melody is pretty level headed most of the time but this time I could not see where she is coming from because she is wrong.
@BlueDauntless5 жыл бұрын
Well, she didn't try to find any way. She stopped signing and that was that.
@entertainmentlife4302 жыл бұрын
I'm sorry but I always hated melody. She was just so judgemental about things. It was her way to see the world or no way to see the world.
@entertainmentlife4302 жыл бұрын
@@BlueDauntless the actress couldn't sign anymore
@lexi21911 ай бұрын
@@BlueDauntlessThey showed her consulting multiple doctors that season. She had to give up her career. Yeah, she stopped signing because medical professionals told her she needed to unless she wanted her hands to continue to deteriorate.
@RainbowPawPrint4 ай бұрын
@@BlueDauntless The fact that she had to stop signing so abruptly shows how much pain she was in. Plus her doctors had all told her that doing any kind of signing would worsen her condition and reduce the chance of recovery.
@StanChunghaOrGoHome Жыл бұрын
Melody would hate it if anyone treated her the way she treated Regina. She was ableist and I hate that she never truly learned from it. One thing I’ll always give daphne is that daphne learned to coexist with hearing people. Melody continued to hate hearing people even in the end.
@victoriadeangelis32098 ай бұрын
Yep. Wasn’t he the chef that also dated Daphne??
@dorisbarkler85706 жыл бұрын
Um, okay wow. If I had just learned my mom was going through such a painful change in her life I'd be hugging her asking what I could do for her. Sometimes TV teens make me mad.
@Marie-hq3yx6 жыл бұрын
Doris Barkler I mean you’re right. But it’s really for Daphne to realize every time she’s going to speak to her mom, she will have to focus to read her lips.. it’s like if you couldn’t hear your moms voice anymore and would speak to her only by writing u know. She’s kinda lose a part of her mom. All day long she has to focus on everyone’s lips and when she comes home she wants some rest
@Marie-hq3yx6 жыл бұрын
And ik it’s not Regina’s fault but daphne has every right to be upset
@SopranoRocker20105 жыл бұрын
@@Marie-hq3yx As someone who is HOH, I second what you are saying. The strain to try and read lips and hear is exhausting, and if that strain continued at home, I would become extremely tired. On really bad days, even talking to my own mom is exhausting because her voice falls into my worst ranges. If I were in Daphne's position, I would be upset too, especially since Regina doesn't even look for other ways to compensate. She leaves Daphne to read lips all the damn time without thinking about the strain. This problem is much more of a contributing factor to Daphne's meltdown against Regina in season 3 than anyone wants to admit. Between not signing to Daphne anymore and potentially contributing to the rupture of Angelo's aneurism right when he was about to become a signing parent, I don't blame Daphne in the slightest. Yes, there were other factors, but Regina, whether she realized it or not, pushed Daphne to the limit with her behaviors around signing.
@sadee12877 ай бұрын
@@SopranoRocker2010 Daphne is being a sh-t. Has she had it hard? Sure. Struggled? You bet. But if your mother is suffering from a serious medical issue that prevents her from communicating, you don't pitch a fit. You get upset, and then you deal with it. My mother got oral cancer. After her surgery, where they slit her from ear to ear, took out four lymph nodes and half her tongue -- the only way she could communicate with us was with a white board and marker. She was likely NEVER going to be able to speak ever again. Forget speak -- we were told she probably would never be able to swallow either. We had one week with her. Then she had a heart attack, was revived but suffered brain damage, and died a week later. Life isn't fair or equitable. I learned that. And the writers of these characters need to learn it too. Life doesn't give a 💩 about your high horse.
@gurglequeen4336 жыл бұрын
But it's not just the signing Melody!!!! The doctors said after years if using her hands to work as a hair dresser and an artist and whatever else she uses her hands for. Just because you have 't heard if it happening doesn't mean it can't or doesn't!!!
@goddessmelanisia3 жыл бұрын
This. Also, some people are genetically predisposed to carpal tunnel. I got it after a year doing factory work. There were people that had been there 20 years that didn't have it.
@sadee12877 ай бұрын
@@goddessmelanisia Lots of people get carpel tunnel. I did. Not so bad that I needed surgery, but bad enough that I have lasting pain and my hands and wrists ache or go numb. Depends on how much damage was done with repetitive work and strain. I see it all the time. At the grocery even, where more and more I see cashiers wearing braces.
@arianapuzzo78272 жыл бұрын
Re-watching this scene after the Oscars made me think of Troy Kotsur's acceptance speech about how his father was the best signer in his family and after being paralyzed from the neck down, he couldn't sign anymore. I can't even imagine the devastation that would cause a family, but especially a parent feeling that they've let down their child even if it's out of their control.
@PalomaNegra8737 ай бұрын
Regina didn't deserve this. Just because you can't see an injury doesn't mean it isn't there.
@aspenstorm35407 жыл бұрын
I just realized how ironic Melody's name is.
@Momokay965 жыл бұрын
But it's not just signing though 🤦🏾♀️💁🏾♀️even my old hairdresser has arthritis after years of doing hair, the fact she can use her hand is a miracle. Melody failed as a friend.
@Nicole390011 жыл бұрын
Something to do with her hand. The doctor said she can't sign anymore or it'll get worse. They said (in the show) it's because of signing as well as being a hairdresser and stuff. So she can't do hair anymore either. (In real life she got carpal tunnel and tendinitis from learning and practicing so much ASL as an adult for the show, so she needs to stop signing until it heals, which takes a long time.)
@sweetlife0316 жыл бұрын
Yes...Constance Marie suffered nerve damage, CTS and tendinitis in her hands cuz she learned sign so fast. This was written in to give Regina a break too...I'm assuming this is from the same episode that shows how Regina's injury affects her relationship/communication with her daughter, Daphne?
@xCanYouFeelTheLovex8 жыл бұрын
Melody really aggravates me sometimes.
@mightykwolf11 жыл бұрын
it is serious, its how she comunicates with her daughter, without her trying to figure out what shes saying like when she has to lip read
@anunez34505 жыл бұрын
I can see why she always has a wall up...when she goes through things everyone walks out on her or makes her feel bad in the process.no wonder she went back to drinking being strong all the time takes a toll on you.
@niaj93414 жыл бұрын
Melody is a bad friend
@ashleypanzica49245 жыл бұрын
Poor Regina, she has worked so hard for Daphne and done everything she can to put her first! I also feel bad for Melody and Daphne, Melody because she feels like she's losing her best friend and Daphne because she is no longer hearing her mother's voice, instead she has to read her lips all the time now just like with everyone else. 😥😖😭
@breneeflanigan6 ай бұрын
My mom can never sign again. It was easy for me to accept it as I saw firsthand the damage and pain she endured. She had two surgeries a year apart on both hands to maintain any sort of function and I had to help care for her. It was long hard road. She gave up her career as interpreter. It absolutely can happen and it's real. I'm glad she doesn't sign anymore because she's not in pain from it anymore.
@SerenityAlways5 жыл бұрын
I hate Melody so much. She has always been the most self-righteous, hateful character on this show. She is the actual worst.
@eire19845 жыл бұрын
id give that lady a sign at the end a real simple one
@kayladoyley31324 жыл бұрын
BHAHAHAHAHHAHAA 😂😂😂😂
@tinygirl95195 жыл бұрын
I don’t like that Melanie was pretty much saying that Regina was faking it with her hand because she wanted attention and wanted people to make feel sorry for her that is not a good friend there I don’t like Melanie
@mydolllifeforever79185 жыл бұрын
I wish they would release the complete series onto dvd.
@kerriethompson20734 жыл бұрын
The whole series is on Freeform.
@madeline57885 жыл бұрын
Melody's got a real spiteful streak in her, anyone hearing gets the third degree without trial
@taylerjones29866 жыл бұрын
I kind of feel bad for regina in this scene. I mean Arthritis is painful. If she actually did sign all for the sake of communicating with her daughter by the end of the day she would be in chronic pain. She would cry because of that pain. Oh but daphne gets to communicate with her mom. She told the truth and melody and daphne get upset over it? Yeah a true friend would be like "What can I do to get you through this? Same with daphne. They have to realize that life happens and sometimes you can't always control what happens. This actually could possibly happen in real life. Arthritis may run in her family and she used her hands a lot. Painting, cutting hair, and all the sign language can easily make your hands be in pain. It's a muscle worked over and over and over. She could possibly use one hand but every time she would sign she would cringe in pain. That's not worth it. I'm sure it hurts regina that she cant communicate with her daughter but if that was my mother I would cry for her. I would understand. Teenagers 🙄 I am so glad I'm not that age anymore. Where you dont know what being an adult is like. I'm proud to be 29 years old. I also can understand that this really is an emotional written scene but lacks the realization of daphne realizing your mom is in chronic pain and shes fought for her daughter everyday.
@DSMScharlestondance6 жыл бұрын
Daphne being upset I understand, but it doesn't appear (from this scene at least it's been a while since I've seen this episode) that she blames her mom for it. She's hurt, but as long as she's not blaming her, she's not reacting wrong. Of course it's upsetting for her! I actually took Daphne's reaction as needing to go cry because this does affect her, but not wanting to make her mom feel worse about it, because it isn't really her fault. Melody was awful to her.
@Sans-ui3gg5 жыл бұрын
It did happen in real life. Constance (who plays Regina) started developing arthritis etc. from signing and so they brought that into the story because she couldn’t sign any longer in the show.
@n.jboltz5995 жыл бұрын
Melody as her friend was awful to her. Just because she isn't aware of it happening to anyone else doesn't mean it isn't true. Daphne's reaction is more understandable she is upset and probably scared but showing it in the wrong way. She has always been able to be herself in her own home at the very least and be comfortable because there is a two-way communication of signing. She can lip read but - I'm not deaf so i'm just guessing -that takes more effort and is probably quite straining, figuring out what word a mouth is forming. It was a shock. she was still adjusting to the switch and all that entails and now her rock is crumbling
@ashb74875 жыл бұрын
N.J Boltz lip reading is really hard and completely inaccurate. I’m not profoundly Deaf, but I’m HoH and people always assume I’ve managed because I can lipread, but lipreading mostly works on a mix of body language, guessing and hearing slight sounds and trying to work out what makes the most sense. I also developed a chronic illness that has left me in a wheelchair and both those reactions broke my heart because I’ve seen both aimed at me. Her daughter was clearly processing and walked away to try to find a way to cope and come to terms with the changes. Melody’s reaction is what from my experience is the most common one, suddenly everyone is so angry at you for the changes that they blame you for it, tell you that you’re not doing enough even tho the changes impact you far more than anyone else and blame you on faking it for attention, as if all the horrible things that come with such a disability don’t make it something no one wants to fake. No one understands me when I can’t use my hands because they have tremors so hard I can’t move them, I can’t imagine how much worse it would be for her with it being even more invisible to everyone else.
@kerriethompson20734 жыл бұрын
To be honest, after rewatching the show Daphne just got so bratty over time. She would mouth off to her mom, blame her for her troubles. Then all she had to do was come back with some crocodile tears and all was forgiven. She did the same thing with the Kennishes. Kind of annoying.
@mettethomsen29656 жыл бұрын
Never liked Melody. Her character just aggravates me, and her reaction is just wrong. A friend would be supportive!
@hotinmybags6 жыл бұрын
Mette Thomsen she’s angry and afraid
@mettethomsen29656 жыл бұрын
Julia That does not give her the right to react as she does. To me she has abitchy and confrontational attitude in general.
@lexi2195 ай бұрын
@@hotinmybags So that justifies her (someone who has experienced shitty treatment because of her disability) treating her friend poorly because of her friend's disabling medical condition?
@alextroy920210 ай бұрын
That was messed up. Regina uses her hands for other things. She thinks she faking it
@dischargin5 жыл бұрын
Love this Series I really miss it..
@SerenityAlways6 жыл бұрын
Oh good, melody continues to be the actual worst.
@raindropsondragons11 жыл бұрын
i really don't like melenie. she is so disrespectful
@eliza61785 жыл бұрын
I disliked Melody, but after a while I started to like her
@melissawilliams23254 ай бұрын
I read on Google that Constance Marie has this in real life
@melissanicole19692 жыл бұрын
Marlin is still pretty and a very good actor
@kenboom13645 жыл бұрын
She looks familiar, in the magicians tv show i guess
@noahmadrigal1625 жыл бұрын
Marlee was in The Magicians!
@chimmyswiftie52523 жыл бұрын
Yes Melody was in the Magicians. She played a hedge witch.
@10Tuxedo6 жыл бұрын
Regina not being able to sign was insignificant to the show since all of the other characters were able to do so and Daphne could read her lips.
@arianacollymore70915 жыл бұрын
Yeah but the actress herself was suffering from the issue and so it would be been kinda weird if Regina just stopped signing with zero explanation as to why.
@alexisbiles12952 жыл бұрын
Wassup
@lizettejunjou885 жыл бұрын
Melody always annoyed me in the show 😐 sorry
@simplyjuannie5128 Жыл бұрын
I loved Marley on Switched at Birth
@donaldmcauliffe76536 жыл бұрын
Hallmark has the rights to switched at birth.
@entertainmentlife4302 жыл бұрын
I had this feeling that maybe I'm right about that the actress REALLY had this condition and couldn't sign anymore so they wrote it into the show. But melody reaction to it just confirms how much I hate melody as a character. She is so judgemental about EVERYTHING with it being her way to live or no way to live. Honestly I think regina should have slapped her in the face.
@deniseevers67987 ай бұрын
I really think that Melody and Daphne were super selfish in this scene
@alissaposton50258 жыл бұрын
ironically, marlee could say the same thing back to her
@KoriJaiden3 жыл бұрын
?
@alissaposton50253 жыл бұрын
@@KoriJaiden that shes not in her body and doesn't understand how she feels.
@KoriJaiden3 жыл бұрын
@@alissaposton5025 fair enough
@lexi2195 ай бұрын
Regina never claimed to. Melody was the only one hear trying to invalidate someone else's disabling medical condition.
@alissaposton50255 ай бұрын
@@lexi219 tbf she doesn't seem fluent in the first place even after more than a decade
@RAINBOWNATE3 жыл бұрын
1:23 that face reaction Marlee Matlin did. about to go down. like she wanted to throw hands. or take every jewelry off earring rings after she took every piece of jewelry she has on take all jewelry off took that when she about to whip your ass.
@sophialeclerq304111 жыл бұрын
pobre Daphne!
@sammilovestoreadalot6 жыл бұрын
Wait why couldn't she sign no more?
@angelarcs62136 жыл бұрын
Samantha Fierro i think she’s got something wrong with her nerves in her hands which is why she said she can’t do hair anymore
@springlady83376 жыл бұрын
In really life, the actress was told not to sign anymore by her doctors because of pain and stuff. So they added it to the show exactly how it was happening in real life. All the movement was too much for her bones, joints, muscles and nerves.
@breckonmoon93713 жыл бұрын
I'm deaf
@alexisbiles52072 жыл бұрын
Hey
@LBF52211 жыл бұрын
I thought it was silly. The previews made it sound like Regina had breast cancer or something equally serious.
@emilytaras70497 жыл бұрын
Imagine if you couldn't communicate with your daughter on a deeper level anymore. Imagine if you had to struggle to understand your own family and express yourself. It would cause a huge rift in your relationship. It's very serious.
@Kirichu254 жыл бұрын
That's too bad that there's no gay love storyline in this show but I love the idea of ASL being CC by ABC 😁 for some who does not understand ASL and for others who are learning
@Mia-dr4yx3 жыл бұрын
I thought there was a gay story line though.......
@kerriethompson20733 жыл бұрын
@@Mia-dr4yx there is.
@Kirichu2511 ай бұрын
There's several TV shows that do just like Hispanic, afroamericans (from North, Central and South America) and among others minorities. Plain and simple.
@martialartsnerd76738 жыл бұрын
If she has hearing aids why does she need sign all the time. Never understood that.
@tinagarza88358 жыл бұрын
because signing feels like it's easier to communicate ... and it is I know it cuz I'm deaf I would rather sign than speak
@martialartsnerd76738 жыл бұрын
+tina garza Also people will not be looking directly at her while speaking but be a foot away and she still can't here them. So I don't see why she uses them
@tinagarza88358 жыл бұрын
+AL E I wish I could communicate by signing but my whole family is hearing and they tell me it's hard to learn American sign language
@tinagarza88358 жыл бұрын
+AL E I wish I could communicate by signing but my whole family is hearing and they tell me it's hard to learn American sign language
@poisonousjinx98238 жыл бұрын
She still can't hear, they only help a little bit
@elenasantos84966 жыл бұрын
Melody has a kind heart but didn’t say what she really meant. And Regina needs to calm down
@yujuswifebecauseshesveryfr94143 жыл бұрын
Bruh 🤦🏽♀️
@katymvt3 жыл бұрын
I think she said exactly what she meant.
@gatzabba374611 күн бұрын
I don't know, to me Melody always came across as really hostile towards hearing people. Understandable given how she was treated by some of them, but it was always guilty until proven innocent. Definitely in Bay's case.
@kellydavis68215 жыл бұрын
This is so dumb. Is she just planning on never using her hands again?
@poisonousjinx9823 Жыл бұрын
She can still use the but she can’t sign because of the damage