Chastity: What Are the Limits?

Latter-day Saint teens are counseled to stay sexually pure, but what exactly are the limits? Using teachings of modern prophets, this presentation shows why that's the wrong question to ask, as well as how we can find happiness and peace through staying chaste.
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[@cameronplaystrumpet6777]

I'm not LDS, but a girl I've been talking to a lot is, so it's good to see this in my recommended and educate myself.

[@Nicodermus4Life]

Wow! That was amazing! I'm not Mormon (Catholic) but you guys have summarized so wonderfully what devout Catholics hold so true. The Mormon church is in tight and near perfect alliance with the morals Catholics profess as well! I solute you for your valiant efforts amidst a culture of lawless ever-changing Christianity trying to find loop-holes and live the Gospel as closest to the edge as possible like youve said. Its great to see a church who sees the bigger picture and knows what's important.

[@boody995]

I'm a muslim, and I liked this video alot :)

[@ralkh]

Iam Muslim and I have mormon friends , they are great people and I respect too much how they practice and believe in god

[@strivetobe]

Thanks for being here and for your support! We are glad to have friends like you!

[@zdee25]

I love this very kind reminder. I'm so grateful for the knowledge I have of the truthfulness of the gospel of Jesus Christ. We are so blessed ^_^

[@tpbarron]

That was great! Living a chaste life has blessed me beyond measure. I am SO happy to know about this.

[@777lancekoa8]

"My Bros & Sis, Do not be Afraid, For Jesus will be with you wherever you go"(Joshua1:9)

[@777lancekoa8]

"Love others, just as Jesus have loved you." (John 13:34)

[@salllbug]

I adore the RSA Animate style animation. It really does engage every type of "learner" and entertain without being silly. Great job!

[@isabelruiz9982]

Thanks for this video. My boyfriend has recently been asking me about sex, and I' uncomforable with it. Thank you for this, as I needed a sign from the Lord to renew my strength.

[@2josieboys]

I wish the world saw this principle as truth. I work in healthcare and see many patients a day. I have seen the results of breaking the law of chasity. It brings me great sadness to see first hand women having children out of wedlock or deciding to abort. However, it gives me great power to see how it has blessed my life, my wife, and my family after staying chaste when I was dating. Thanks for the video I will show this to my children when they get older. Thanks!!

[@NovelistVampireGirl]

This video is exactly right

[@ikaties1]

Those are very kind and thoughtful words. I think it is important to have boundaries and self respect no matter what faith you have (or don't have) Thank you for your response!

[@raymondellis1454]

Boundaries are good if you have the self-control -- which is an attribute of God. The total love of God is made possible by his great degree of self control. See my post about lust, love and true love.

[@Hexlattice]

SOOOOO not explicitly for the youth... I'm 25 and in a serious relationship and these principles are very powerfully pertinent to my future wife and I! I've "been there, done that" in previous relationships that got too out of hand all too quickly because we didn't follow simple advice like this. Listen especially to Elder Scott in this message - you will try to justify actions that should not exist in a premarital relationship when caught up in the moment. These are powerful feelings that you're trying to bridal and you won't be able to in the moment if you've let them take root.

[@katherinem.4414]

Hexlattice It’s better not to be alone where one lives with someone you care about for too long, especially in the evenings. It is best to go somewhere nice for a wholesome activity, and take the girl home at a decent hour. If you want to spend time together, then be at least where others are in the house somewhere. That is my recommendation. Stay out of places where you could be tempted.

[@OperaGhost-5]

Thanks for sharing your experience.

[@mcchylite]

Unique and creative way to teach an extremely important principle. I love it. I hope every youth and parent will view and internalize the message in this video. It will bring great happiness if it is followed and lived.

[@hedgehoginacanoe5838]

So dont be loving towards you partner until your married

[@SAgames100]

Holding hands is pushing the limits. So yeah, you’re exactly right.

[@1wagurl]

Im not allowed to convert into the LDS church until im 18. I still keep these standards. Actually many families in wards of my town are aware of my predicament, and many mothers said they would support me going on a date with a mormon boy, because they know I have morals. I am not 16 yet, but I have remained pure and have not dated anyone whatsoever. I try my hardest though to keep my mormonism from my family who has extreme prejudices against the church and the members. But I plan on only goi

[@hannahfreeman4195]

Way to go gurl. I know how that feels like.

[@kikienslow4577]

1wagurl uuuujuuuy

[@crow33215]

How did it go?

[@karlvenris1089]

good luck

[@D3r3ct0rsCut]

i have a legitimate question that i wish to be taken seriously: why does God not like pre-marital sex? It does not harm anybody, it only shows love. What "emotional damage" could possibly come from just sex?

[@BronSoloSV]

@TheRougeHawksClan Thank you for that comment. I know i'm not the maker of this video, but still. I just like to see that people from two different (yet still Christian) religions can get along. It is great that you are an open minded person, unlike many very stubborn people from any sect.

[@calvinkeuter3899]

Thank you for the video, it is a great help.

[@DuncanCunningham]

Correct message and a super presentation method!!. Just like the Royal Society for the art's talks I've seen recently. Visual keeps you hooked.. it's almost fun to pay attention. keep up this good message and maybe give us more like this.

[@xityv2614]

I have been wondering about this kind of stuff and I'm glad I clicked on it thank you.

[@valerieleal568]

This is something we should thought about before we already sin but it's an experience we can talk to other young generation to keep them from going through the dark for our sinfulness ways teach the Good stuff also the bad to show them wrong from right and put them in the right path and right with God the God in the most highest

[@muskduh]

Thanks for the video

[@dumaguetetv8087]

thnx for this now i already know my limits and follow the gods commandments ,

[@MichaelDouglasSkewes]

I wish I would have been told about chastity like this (maybe without the goofy cartoons ) instead just being told "don't do it or you will be thrown out of the church ,and go to ,well you know " ! Because this would have been more effective , especially the part about Jesus Christ and what he would like me to do ! So, for all those kids out there ,this is VERY SERIOUS ! I didn't listen and was a father at 18 ,which at the time was almost unheard of! At least in 1983 ,it happened to other people on TV shows that showed the world's view of what happens and why you should do things,which is usually incorrect . But,the reason really is its because your Father in Heaven gives.us guidelines so we can be happy and grow in a proper way ,so you will be ready and able ,both temporarily and spiritually to raise your children in a way that is pleasing unto the Lord and yourself and the sweet spirits that are sent to you and are in your care! So ,being 18 and my girlfriend ,who I did Marry ,and who was only 16 ,would be ready to raise the children they are given ! The Lord God is a loving God and only wants what is best for All his children .

[@OperaGhost-5]

Thank you for your wisdom. God has taken all of your actions into account. If you have truly repented, he will usually make your foolish decisions work for your good. As in your case.

[@marybold3844]

It is really sad though in the world. People take children creating power so lightly.

[@ridoco234]

wonderful, I simply love how the Church reminds us to stay pure and clean and they show us how to do it. I also love it that the video reminds us that we can talk with God to work things out and figure out how to best live the standards set by living prophets of the Lord. The standards given here and the ideas given to strengthen personal standards are wonderful. Also, I agree that it is sad that there are so many dislikes with this video.

[@Tenuunak]

@annedalled you can!!! don't delay your repentance for a day. it's liberating!

[@LDStothecore]

This is a very good video and a very good guide to all.

[@kinggoliath]

I'm not a member of the church - but I do feel moved to respond. There's no silver bullet - hardship exists in everyone's life. No marriage is perfect- no two humans are perfect. No religion is perfect. We live in a world built by imperfect people, and it is completely ignorant to demand infallibility. This video, and this religion, has views on how it can promote people to have better relationships in their lives. To say an institution with this goal makes you sick is terrifying to me.

[@mamabear6115]

I love this video! It makes sense.

[@RussLynch]

I liked this video. I'm an atheist.

[@UtahMan2011]

But the peace you feel after is so worth it! You know you are one step closer to becoming clean again. So, go for it! Your bishop will be completely loving and non-judgmental. He will help you through it. Heavenly Father will be by your side the entire way. If you truly repent, you will be able to be married in the temple someday. Jesus Christ has given us that gift. The gift to be relieved from the pains and sorrow we bring upon ourselves through sin, and He will remember them no more. :)

[@jennym161]

what about the horror stories that have been told by those who were VERY judged by the bishops and asked extremely inappropriate questions at a young(i'm talking as young as 15 and even younger. these are MINORS) age when they had "sinned so horribly". grown adult men should not be asking these questions to minors ESPECIALLY behind closed doors.

[@gracestaker1890]

This is what I believe. For the Strength of Youth clearly says what this video just did. This made me feel very good inside.

[@amychappell4423]

I LOVED this video. it helps people

[@ItsAmmon]

good vid

[@slaytasticlucy]

*gasp* I KNOW YOU

[@mayraharoldsen366]

I love this video it helps

[@TerriblesHorse]

@talkinturtles adultery is not just physical, but can be emotional too, (those who commit lust in their heart). I love how Jesus gave us a higher law to live by, going one step deeper than actions, but how our thoughts and feelings are important and significant too.

[@keenansea]

This is awesome!

[@davidorlandoricofandino3905]

Great

[@alq95]

me too, i'm Catholic and this is a beautiful video

[@BronSoloSV]

Honestly, who would dislike this?? It makes these things SOO clear! :D

[@jessnicg]

loved this video really explanes alot:)

[@tkcollette]

Fantastic! Loved the presentation method and message delivery!! Great for my priesthood class.

[@Philip02K]

@ThePhazonMonkey , I am glad you did. Would you consider learning more about our faith?

[@TheRettom]

Thank you for this video. It helps me and others.

[@koemyengbonaparte8311]

I appreciate this

[@TheVictormorales21]

me encanta este video!!... Es muy oportuno en una sociedad mundial que se deleita en los placeres carnales!.. hace poco lei en 2nefi33:5 " y hablan asperamente contra el pecado,segun la claridad de la verdad;por tanto, nadie se enojara con las palabras que he escrito(este video), a menos que sea el espiritu del diablo"... Agradezco por tener profetas vivientes en este tiempo de mi vida porque me enseñan la verdad y puedo tener la vision de las cosas que mi Padre Celestial desea que haga.gracias!

[@MegWasHere2011]

Nice video

[@savannahhall5036]

I can relate with this video

[@pahera30]

I'm Mormon, I believe in Jesus Christ, I know he loves me. I love the Gospel.

[@coolsidshan4u]

I am a Hindu and I too liked the video!! :)

[@Picknroll6]

Well done.

[@aplotusfaith5314]

wish i had this growing up, so happy can share this with my kids

[@X24Xanne]

Sending this link to my teens boys :) they already know these things but it will help them to hear it another way than from just me.

[@lumberluc]

well, now I know what to shoot for, and how to act more formal during a date.

[@FireSymphoney]

I enjoyed the video

[@shrinkingsnakelady]

I needed this so much. I need to refocus and stay in the straight and narrow path. I don't want anything less than a temple marriage.

[@miguelpineda4999]

Como hago para ver los videos en español?

[@Jwsuretybonds]

This is the best video scribe I have ever seen. Can you refer me to the artist? I'd like to see if they can do some work for me.

[@pedrosonia]

great nice weekend sonia&family

[@thalesquadros]

Who said we are supposed to get married?

[@jillmariegoodrich]

Awesome!

[@talkinturtles]

very well said! thanks for the positive post!

[@BigOldScout]

I have the same beliefe and try my best to teach that to my children.

[@GGGaming-zr4rb]

But you still shouldn't force it in them, just guide them, but let them decide their own paths.

[@ks_kivaselwa1034]

COOL

[@UtahMan2011]

I agree with you. The only way you can be relieved of you pain is to take advantage of the Savior's Atonement and repent of the sin - and that does mean confessing. But think of D&C 58:42-43 - "Behold, he who has repented of his sins, the same is forgiven, and I, the Lord, remember them no more. By this ye may know if a man repenteth of his sins - behold, he will confess them and forsake them." The repentance process will be tough. Confessing will be hard. I've done it before.

[@stonejones1]

@TheRougeHawksClan Thanks!

[@Tenuunak]

@MrPerforex they're talking about emotional damage of sexual relationship outside the marriage. They're not lecturing teenagers about marital problems. Why add more sorrow to all already challenging life?! your comment is outside the scope of this video. there is video about marital issues too.

[@awilliams3881]

a bettter analogy wouldve been icarus instead of the pilot

[@akpokemon]

3:31 The couple at the end are INCREDIBLE statues! It's not a picture--there's a person moving in the background and the couple blink. Crazy!

[@stonejones1]

This is very good! I loved the information, and the way it was presented (drawings et cetera).

[@-tikla]

@genaphidman I believe that sex is an expression of love so binding and sacred that it should only be experienced within a permanently committed relationship (marriage) where any children born will have a family. The power to create life is pretty serious stuff. It was given by God to bring new life and to express love to our spouses. Taking that power lightly by disregarding His commandments is dangerous to our spiritual well being.

[@rodriguezfamily6661]

ilove the video

[@SportsGirl234]

@stingernick Is this a serious question? If so... It is like if you have sex with someone not your husband (like a boyfriend) and he takes your virginity and leaves you so you feel cheated. Or he gets you pregnant and won't father the child. It scars you emotionally. Or if you are a man, that girl could leave you and you would feel cheated. There is an emotional factor.

[@calituchi1]

I was looking on ldsyouth.org speaking about dating a staying pure. This quote and the video helped a bunch, "Pray to the Lord, who will help you resist temptation and overcome inappropriate thoughts and feelings." The quote is found in the strength of youth pamphlet by the way. :D

[@QTbookworm91]

hahaha bishop showed us this on sunday :) in the chapel. i love our bishop

[@tylerseitz6411]

I only have one problem with this video and that's the part were he says that you should only do things that you would be comfortable doing in front of your parents. my problem is many parents have extremely different standards and some parents just don't care.

[@OperaGhost-5]

Make that the Savior then.😉

[@TheMaddocks]

This is amazing. :) ♥

[@edy231094]

I saw this video in EFY. It was one of the best part of it :D

[@talkinturtles]

we believe that your body is sacred and that sex should only be between a married couple. if everyone followed this, there would be no adultery - one of God's commandments, no broken vows due to affairs, no std's. think about all the young unwed mothers out there and the sadness it brings to not only their life, but the child's. what about the emotional distress from two teens having sex because they think they are in love and then one gets dumped? hope this helps.

[@gabedavis7]

of course. there is no doubt of that. everyone messes up, go see your bishop and have faith in the lord-everything will turn out okay:)

[@Nerukenshi1233]

On the commenter worried about spousal abuse, I'd like to point out, it didn't say what standards one should have for the person xe chooses to marry, it was speaking of standards on keeps for xirself. Read "The Family: a Proclamation to the World" for our views on abuse in and out of marriage to spouses, partners, children or other victims. We are more thorough than we are given credit and we teach things line upon line, precept upon precept. This video was teaching specifically about keeping the law of Chastity

[@wanderangel01]

@stingernick - to be with you because of it; if you weren't ready for it in the first place, you deal with all kinds of unnecessary sadness, guilt, resentment, heartbreak, uncertainty, distrust, and insecurity; also, there are certain mechanisms built into your brain that associate sex with permanent loveand fidelity, and if you have sex without that commitment, it will eventually break that association in your brain, so that when you are finally married, it does not mean the same to you.

[@RainbowManification]

@genaphidman Marriage is a covenant to both your spouse as well to God, physical intimacy outside of this covenant can lead to unintended consequences, broken homes and broken families are the most common tragedy of either the breaking this covenant or doing this outside of the covenant

[@bbuyack]

@carlasue88 - That's becuase it IS comparable if done outside marriage.

[@LizStrawberryAnne]

I have found that one of the ways Satan tempts me most, is when I have a crush on a boy. One of the steps of repentance is realizing that Satan will keep trying to use this against you. Speak to your bishop, you do not know how many of these sins are confessed. You are not alone, and I guarantee it is something that will help you. But remember when you have fully repented, that temptation will be there. Recognize that Satan will tempt you, and decide now what to do if that time comes again!

[@emilhales2705]

Who would give this video a thumbs down??

[@CRL73hippo]

@BradTh3lad It is likely because many people are afraid to hear the facts.

[@kamakiazikow7875]

that, was simply awesome.

[@MsLavinia1994]

exactly right :)

[@joshuajaydan]

Yes. Talk to your ecclesiastical leader. See 3:15 in the video. Don't let your past determine your future.

[@talbertofdz]

This video is nice to watch !

[@DrTerminus]

This video shows quite clearly that you cannot break a Commandment of God; you can only break yourself against the Commandment.

[@Tenuunak]

@rancox265 i'm sorry you didn't get the message back then.

[@kaimac12]

I love the big picture. I love the gospel! :D

[@hanners505]

@psychohippygoth I think this video counsels to not purposefully try and find/do things that cause arousal to feel pleasure. Obviously males are going to be prone to be aroused even when it is not their fault. However, I think this video is saying that one must avoid, as much as possible, doing things that arouse these feelings, such as genital touching, passionate kissing, etc.

[@emilytorres2538]

When I am older I will think about this

[@sashaesloan]

@annedalled Anyone can repent completely of any sin through the atonement of Jesus Christ. Remember that Heavenly Father loves you and truly wants you to be happy. It might be really difficult to get yourself back on track, and go through the repentance process, but I promise you that it will make you a happier person. Maybe try talking to your bishop :)