Cherish Your Virtue: Why Men See Women as Disposable!

[@GoldSkye]

A lot of men can barely cherish their daughters.

[@briana14333]

Truth! My dusty daddy included! But his inactions taught me to repel dust like him, not attract it nor be attracted to it.

[@ninawestlake5005]

Best comment!

[@ladygospel4366]

😔 thus this is truth with many fathers

[@ms.marion8431]

Best comment ...

[@kut3kham]

my dad tries to put me down by checking me when he walks by or coughing after i do something do you guys have any advice please ?

[@cherrysenpai43]

A man can only treat a woman as disposable if she lets him, but that still implies that he would do it regardless. If he treats you like you’re disposable it’s a reflection of his CHARACTER. If you allow it then it’s a reflection of your boundaries.

[@lester2588]

THISSSSS RIGHT HERE!!! 🙌🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@ChiChichiwe01]

🎯

[@missfavoured]

Bold statement 👏!

[@layacharmion]

🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@fa1a2ha]

Absolutely key issue 'if you allow it' you pay the price for that, well said.

[@pop8612]

Women need to see men as they are and not on how they could be.#Don’tDatePotential.

[@monty9619]

Bingo!

[@timetriustaylor9417]

Potential is one thing. People you to judge people by there actions

[@ceemac304]

Piper Twist I wanted to like this post a second and third time. Stop dating potential

[@mela6885]

At almost 30, I'm finally starting to realize the reason why I've always attracted low value men. I was allowing them into my life because I didn't set any standards for myself, I never valued myself enough to. So because I made it so easy for them, they never took be seriously and proceeded to use and abuse me. Now I am huge believer in believing that your partner is a reflection of what you feel like you deserve of yourself. It's all on you to determine which men are worthy enough by upholding your boundaries and having the strength to leave at the first sign of disrespect.

[@sweetpeaj1952]

Same. We live and learn.

[@milesmorales5271]

bizzygal77 - Young age? She’s almost 30 😂 She’s definitely a slow learner.

[@denisetheur5641]

@@milesmorales5271 I'm learning this at 25 years old. Am I too old to be learning this lesson now?? Genuine question

[@HazelGreen64]

@@milesmorales5271 30 is old to you?😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@mela6885]

@@milesmorales5271 better late than never, a lot of women young and old don't hold themselves to high esteem because we're socialized to accept any kind of men and bad treatment as 'boys being boys'. And that'sa not even including falling for narcissists, manipulators and then forming trauma bonds.

[@sweetpeaj1952]

Very true. From my experience men value women more who value themselves. Who doesn't give in easily to his advances. Who is willing to walk away. Who he knows has options. Who isn't boy/man crazy, blowing up his phone etc. The less bothered you are about keeping a man by any means necessary, the better.

[@rondas7772]

This! Yes!

[@So_Boujee]

👌🏾👌🏾👌🏾

[@melteddarkchocolate000]

Yulllp

[@melteddarkchocolate000]

True these men get pressed when you don’t care for them

[@briana14333]

It's true! It's been proven to me several times over. Having confidence, high self-worth and being feminine are why men come crawling back, even after they've dumped you! After dealing with so many women, it's more rewarding to them to be with a woman who did not make easy, because so many women do.

[@peacejoy8454]

Love you Chloe!! ❤️❤️ 1.)You date and marry at the level of your self esteem. 2.)You will entertain men that you resonate with on a vibrational level. 3.)If deep down you feel unworthy or unlovable, a man will treat you as such - disposable. 4.) Get therapy and begin your healing journey of self love 5.) You are enough and worthy.

[@lovelyphoenix4363]

👌🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 THIS right here

[@TheNewFeminine]

I love you too April.🥰

[@akuasalaam490]

Holla if YOU HEAR ME... FACTS!!!!

[@mycatsheenacashappid4240]

Deep

[@kenyaaki6060]

She's right once a woman figures out how men are wired... they won't even waste the time or energy lol cause trust me it's not worth it

[@aminah761]

Period

[@peridozq9390]

Right

[@emilialake4586]

This is a win-win: If you cherish yourself and then find a man who also cherishes you - you’re cherished. If you cherish yourself and don’t find a man who does, you’re still cherished. Can’t lose with this kind of attitude! 😍

[@szaszathebore8096]

I don’t think a lot of women allow men to run over them because of low self esteem, but definitely naivety (which men take advantage of). Some women were never taught that men can be users, so thank you for your work chloe. Regardless, a woman needs to educate herself if she wants to be successful in dating, and if course life.

[@chakralove4300]

Interesting!! I honestly don’t know a lot of women with high self esteem so that’s something to think about.

[@chakralove4300]

J Peavy I know women & men in my family warned me about the game. I think a lot older men & women try to tell the younger generation but most ppl don’t want to hear the truth. Yes some of the advice was toxic but there was some truths as well.

[@Brandiisbeloved]

I was taught this at a young age. “Men just want sex, men just want to use you. You will know who is for you once you take sex off the table.“ that was drilled into my head. Which is why I didn’t even bother to deal with men until I was 19. I’m actually happy men didn’t approach me or flaunt after me the way they did after a lot of women in high school/college

[@dabestbae4931]

I agree...

[@bibaslyfestyle6665]

Pinkpanda4 I don’t think you necessarily need a father I mean I didn’t have one and I know the most games and tricks men try to play. I feel like it all boils down to common sense and being selfish. Just think to yourself does this situation benefit him or me more? If it’s him most likely you’re doing something wrong 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@moniquew3603]

My husband's friend said it the best, " Men are hunters. We like to chase our prey, we dont want a woman that's easy, or a woman who wants to be a hunter. She has to know how to engage playfully in the chase." Feminine women how to play the game. It's not about being immature, or being a tease, but you have to know your worth and see yourself as the prize.

[@anissa2361]

@Maip video Right! Men go for easy women all the time.

[@moniquew3603]

Yes, there are men who like an easy prey. Yes, there are women who give it up for free99. But men are more likely to value a woman with standards. This also depends on where the person is in their life. Some men are looking to play the field (Fboys) and some men are looking for a serious relationship/ potential wife. It all depends. My husband's friend made that statement, because he was only finding women that wanted to give it up for free99, or women that wanted to hunt him down.

[@HazelGreen64]

Blue Eyes exactly! Most these guys will sleep with anyone. Statistics also show that men who have multiple sexual partners before marriage are more likely to be unfaithful in their marriages. This is why a lot of women (not all) think and truly believe all men unfaithful and there is no such thing as a good man.

[@lil.ms.j7156]

@Maip video you completely missed the point.

[@askurgirlaboutmee]

I don’t know, I kinda want to be a hunter

[@greyahmarie0905]

Men and women do not think the same. We think if we give ourselves and give give give we'll get him when its indeed the opposite. Wake up queens and play the game before the game plays you 💚

[@natashabrown41]

That’s what I’m learning we look at this love/relationship thing very differently and we have to start teaching our girls this early as we can

[@Aja.S]

thanks god I woke up when I was 20 sis !

[@timetriustaylor9417]

Your both suppose to invest into the relationship.

[@greyahmarie0905]

@@joerasiah3519 for sure but getting this world full of broken traumatized, pick me and Barbara seems impossible

[@peridozq9390]

The game is playing a lot of women 😂

[@lovejune22]

I tell my friends this often who scream “I’m accomplished, I’m independent, I’m this n that” ~blah blah blah .... that of course you can be self sufficient but do not Lead with that. Be subtle. Be feminine and exude both confidence and self love and let everything else speak for itself. 🤷🏽‍♀️ When you are the prize you don’t have to say that, he will be able to tell. Just Be.

[@glossbaus2128]

I share the same sentiment... if youre smart, accomplished, well mannered, discipline, confident or whatever... you dont have to say it. People will KNOW! It goes for both men and women

[@FaceTimewithHawa]

❤️❤️❤️

[@vohnthevillain1052]

A women can be a gift and a blessing but she is NEVER the prize. A man isn't the prize either. This prize shit is narcissistic and not humble. Words cast spells. Some words shouldn't be used.

[@lovejune22]

Dimepiece 954 hello! Can’t stress that enough Let. The . Accomplishments. Speak.for. Themselves. ☺️Yess

[@dorisortiz1356]

What about being studious and participating a lot in class? I'm not interested in college boys anyway, and I want to stand out with my teachers.

[@ceemac304]

cherish yourself. stop being so available to men. you are the prize. stop being so easy.

[@slynn360]

I was taught this by my male cousins and brothers. The harder a man chases you, the more value you put on your time & on your presence then the more respect you get. Men value respect not being "liked" and in order to win with men ensure they respect you first even if they try to get angry or gaslight you for not giving in to their every whim. Stick to your guns ladies!

[@va2phx]

This! 🙌🏽

[@sophisticatedmm3632]

I've been celibate for 3 years. I'm traveling the world, focused on my career, about to buy my 1st home & the world is my oyster.

[@KARMAMUSICLLC]

At 24 years old, I am glad that I came across your channel ! 💚👑 The only woman who is married in my immediate family is my grandma, and I vowed that I would not become a dusty, welfare begging, baby momma with low self-esteem. It sounds funny but the reality is a lot of women (especially black) have grown into these tired ass stereotypes and we are so much more than what society thinks. I grew up with just my mom and even though she was married to my dad I've seen and experienced the abuse from verbal, emotional and mental take place so I eventually became attracted to toxic people - with friends and in love. Currently, I'm learning how to be more feminine and discerning when it comes to potential partners too. Ladies, sometimes we have to talk to ourselves in a more loving way so just stop for a sec, look in the mirror and say I love you to yourself. You deserve it!

[@amateurastronomer9752]

Rooting for you! You can totally break that curse 🤎

[@KARMAMUSICLLC]

@@amateurastronomer9752 thank you for the love ❤️

[@spartansyo734]

You are soo lucky you found this in time and in your youth.

[@SinclairMateus]

Did you marry, give us update

[@KARMAMUSICLLC]

@@SinclairMateus lol nope not yet, but there's no rush! I'm enjoying being single and focused on building myself up in the meantime.🙏🏾💯

[@bellakim9404]

Men will see you as valuable when you are unreactive to their games. Women who keeps her well being; mentally, emotionally & physically meticulously intact sets the presedant that she is number 1 and comfortable on the pedestal. Through experience men will cherish you when he 'fully' takes care of you. Give your time to men who reciprocates self-respect and shows that you are the rock in his life. Never underestimate your worth as the beautiful and intelligent women you truly are 💕

[@So_Boujee]

👌🏾👌🏾👌🏾

[@kimmurrell7971]

Agree

[@leekeene5889]

So elegantly stated❤

[@bellakim9404]

@Blue Eyes I think you are also. Thank you for the compliment. Its appreciated :)

[@bellakim9404]

@@leekeene5889 thank you 😊

[@tinabobina336]

A man once said to me that there are more women than men and it’s really not a problem for him to find one. They also know it’s not a problem finding a woman who has low self esteem and doesn’t love herself.

[@kimmurrell7971]

Lol My husband told me that crap several years ago. I never really loved him after that. I also removed myself from the marriage.

[@jasminerobinson6882]

My ex also told me this

[@eclaire1]

Nat W online dating- a cesspool of damaged goods and narcissists trying to level up

[@DD-kv5uu]

@@kimmurrell7971 lmaoo Love it, at 19 it has come to my awareness to pay very good, surgical attention to what others voice out, especially when its words that are blurted out when one's unaware of what they have truly said . 9 out of ten times its what they truly feel towards the matter that is being discussed at hand. I keep my mouth shut, listen and observe.

[@Jenn4rmblk]

A guy told me that 😕😕 he was basically telling me that I need him more than he needs me. A fucking asshole but tbh it’s facts.

[@MultiChiedza]

Nothing beats Self love and self worth ladies...Thank your Chloe 💝

[@garnetbabe2.0godschild40]

Yes amen!!!

[@ClaireHaire]

Once women realize that men classify us all in the same category till we prove different then, we can make some progress. He doesn't care that you graduated at 21, have a 6-figure salary, or a great lay. Until, you prove to them otherwise your ego will continue to be hurt, I really want to understand why there isn't 100K subs minimum on this page , this info would stop a lot of heartbreak.

[@TishB79]

Exactly!

[@missraeray]

I really think KZbin is blocking her success somehow . She’s the blueprint for so many new channels I see

[@mercedbread9045]

You’re right men don’t care about any of those things. We care more about the woman’s character than popular media would have you believe

[@elizabethdalgliesh6085]

THAT PART

[@peridozq9390]

Let’s not knock college and six figure incomes. How many women without those are married to powerful, successful men?

[@kemmyoluwo4732]

Self-care is cherishing Mental health is cherishing yourself Being spoilt (by a man) is cherishment Not being taken for granted is cherishing yourself. Being emotionally stable is cherishing yourself. Going to a therapist is cherishing yourself. Pampering yourself is cherishing yourself. Like my younger sister said to me ‘there’s other values to you other than academic.’

[@HazelGreen64]

Ocdrari Drogon Out of all the things she said women should cherish themselves with the spoiled by men is what struck a nerve for you. Son, why do you care what she is doing for a man to spoil her? That’s none of your business.

[@Alex-hj1vk]

"Allowing a man to chase you, spend on you and invest in you without applogy or guilt"

[@zahrah3287]

I think that should be topic of a while video 😅 how to be unapologetic about it without being rude?

[@theselfcarechannel9895]

Like Kat Williams said, "how can I mess up how you feel about YOU...it's called SELF ESTEEM".

[@randomness8819]

He also has no clue about malignant narcissim. Its actually a very bad dismissive comment that revictimizes true victims. But I do love his comedy lol

[@idil6399]

You broke generational curses with this one 💎

[@katsa5296]

I have always been uncomfortable when men ask me what I do for a living and I didn’t really understand why but now I understand it’s because I subconsciously knew not to lead with that and how it would attract the wrong ppl

[@9darshana]

One time a guy I was talking to said he didn't have money for something and he asked to borrow money from me to get some item off amazon. I never spoke to him again. A man is NEVER supposed to ask a woman for money or care about her occupation. That is a man with feminine energy which is a huge turn off.

[@janekhanyile7600]

@@9darshana the audacity to even ask🤢

[@felicagary5432]

@@TheLeah2344 WOW

[@briana14333]

I always say "I live my life for a living." They can do what they want with that because it's usually the last conversation we'll have. HAA!

[@DinaStrange]

yes, and how many men ask you that question right away, even thought its extremely RUDE thing to ask.

[@LadyofLeisure.]

A man will not value a woman that does not value herself. She’ll end with dusties, and dusties are not men... so they don’t count. Dusties date kids and anything with a pulse. They love an easy target but you sometimes have well seasoned dusties who’ve been in the game for a while and will try tactics. I

[@LadyofLeisure.]

Mother Teresa You’re right, I don’t understand.

[@hannahpocock4152]

@@motherteresa8418 I have no idea of what you are saying. I reread this entire comment trying to make sense out of it.

[@phugh3878]

Hannah Pocock right what did i just read 😂😂

[@marilyncarlosog647]

Uh huh!

[@mercedbread9045]

Listen to yourself - “dusties are not men”. Keep on dehumanizing another human. You’re not that special

[@fanspectivetv7045]

I’m a man and this is the best Female empowerment channel I’ve come across she’s 100% correct Femininity is so powerful 💯

[@BKATwigs]

Cherish your womanhood! Cherish yourself ❤️💯

[@briana14333]

You look really pretty in your photo!

[@BKATwigs]

Briana Kelley thank you girl! You do too ❤️

[@briana14333]

@@BKATwigs thank you!

[@melissam6037]

there are some men who will never value you, but having high standards will repel those o we as they are looking for easy prey.

[@ladyesha]

Wow all the girls who manage to stay celibate hats off to you ladies!! I'm almost 30 and managed it myself as well dont know how! I truly respect myself and others and simply cant just give myself to random toms and harrys! It disgusts me! Salute to us all ❤ Believe that Lord will bring you the best, Hes the only one who can! 🌺

[@LucidEnergi89]

@bizzygal77 alrighty so what's the plan?

[@purplekitty]

I use to think self love is a committed relationship. Now I believe it’s not only a job but a lifetime career! Peace, trust, loyalty, sensuality and a desire for life are jobs some days. You go to work and do a job because there is something in it for. Some days you really just want to lay in bed and daydream but you do it anyways. The commitment of love is the same. You can’t just learn about things that are self love you have to train, practice, refine and repeat. Everyday! Like your life depends on it.

[@So_Boujee]

👏🏾

[@LisaMarieAdams]

THIS.

[@headbarb9881]

Girl I needed this! I just ended a five year relationship with a an ugly man who took advantage of me because I’ve made myself cheap 🙄

[@femininelounge9240]

Hugs girl. You got this

[@Pmatt1]

I needed this so much. I’d met a man who was giving me “sis” vibes. I was on his emotional roller coaster and was able to dismount without getting locked in to his feminine energy. I can’t do the push and pull and passive aggressive interaction that feminine men give. I don’t know why I still attract them.. 🥴 anyway, it was empowering to move on knowing without a shadow of doubt that that’s not the kind of man I desire. And my virtue has been kept for a little over a year now. I feel good about keeping my prize secured.

[@briana14333]

Sounds much like my narcissistic X. They feed off good energy, especially empathy, because they are empty inside. Know it is them with the wack vibes, not you! Glad you got out early

[@Pmatt1]

Elevating Darkness yikes, the guy that I was dating had all sisters too.. 😕 I guess he was just one of the girls. Idk, I liked him but not the feminism he displayed. I want to be the girl!!! Lol *stomps off in protest*

[@Pmatt1]

April Love wooooow!

[@aann7132]

The more feminine you become, the more you will repel feminine men.

[@heymilli]

It’s so true. Men love feminine women who value themselves. When I was a teenager I thought it was cute to be a tomboy. 😂 Now I embrace my femininity as an adult, and I have had several men flat out tell me they admire my femininity and value my virtue and principles. Cheesy but true.

[@french2572]

I feel like men do what we as women allow them to do. Speaking for myself, I didn't set healthy boundaries in dating and I came from a place that had no love towards myself and it effected my relationships.

[@blueseptember2174]

Totally lowered my standards when he went low instead of holding. Now years of abuse have passed because I didnt stand my ground. I was too afraid to lose him at the time.

[@msc8245]

The thing is, we rarely fall in love with the men who put us on pedestals and treat us like queens. We'll find something wrong with that guy.

[@CATNESS1993]

I’m dating someone like that right now and I’m just checking myself to make sure I don’t get lost in the fact that he’s a “good guy”! He’s sweet and caring! That’s exactly what we need ladies!

[@sweetpeaj1952]

I think that's because both men and women don't like predictability. Men like you described are too predictable and won't allow a woman to miss them. And truth be told, part of staying in love is keeping it interesting in terms of maintaining a mystery which keeps the spice going. We also as women like a man to take charge and say no to us sometimes. It shows dominance which is sexy because it shows he can take control and is not weakminded. "Yesmen" are weak to me. I just think we're wired like that. However, too much dominance is also a bad thing. It's all about balance.

[@phugh3878]

Usually they are broke, in my experience.

[@sweetpeaj1952]

@Blue Eyes That's a good point as well.

[@msc8245]

@Blue Eyes 😆

[@bkwcanton5615]

Why do Women have to do all this work. Being a women is like having to be super human LOL!! But men get to be any old way. Nobody tells Men to improve themselves or fix themselves, Just Women So funny!!

[@phugh3878]

Shernice Harper yes. Masculine men compete with other men. Effeminate men/dusties compete with women.

[@bibaslyfestyle6665]

Literally nothing is stopping women from putting expectations on men. Y’all are just too nice. Get with the game👏🏾

[@DinaStrange]

Because women gave themselves for free away, and because its still a mans world. Read history women had always been treated horribly by men.

[@Jen.zenfinance]

🎯 women are overwhelmingly out here doing the work to heal ...most of us anyway. Most men are not open to therapy or healing. They think if they are outwardly successful, they don’t need spiritual or emotional healing. Nothing could be further from the truth.

[@randomness8819]

Not true. I must say that there are scholars focusing on educating men. It takes however, the introspective ones to find info like us and to learn. Outside of that society has "always" allowed disproportional treatment btw the sexes.

[@mizzp8491]

“When the good shows up, she will not feel worthy” I’m triggered 😭

[@kimmurrell7971]

You will be ok.it got you thinking about it tho. So that's awesome

[@Hereforitt]

😭☹️ same

[@narcfreekeekee9168]

I don’t give men a chance to dispose of me. Staying single gives me the power to dispose them.

[@Emerald707]

? So you want to stay single for life?

[@greyonyx08]

@@Emerald707 Some people are completely okay with being single. I'm one of them.

[@chemicalclack]

Lol deadass meee

[@lexielovingu206]

Having self love and self worth is important ladies !! Also you can't love someone else without loving yourself.

[@lifeisablessing247]

This is one of the best damn channel on KZbin for young AND grown women💖

[@LizNeptune]

3:10 “Well I NEVER ASKED YOU TO ______” how many of us have heard that? They will take indeed. Take it all and leave you straggly and decrepit when they can’t take any more. We gotta change our whole paradigms ladies!!!

[@terrylu1843]

If a man wants you he must invest financially.

[@debbyluxe]

#facts

[@terrylu1843]

@Jorge Costa If you expect to get a woman for nothing you can keep on dreaming.

[@sasukejaeger3039]

Prostitutes are cheaper

[@Knowledgeovergrades]

"Men are wired to conquer women." 🙌 The truth shall set you free. Too good.

[@leekeene5889]

Something else I think is important that I've seen mostly with us bw is hanging around men, thinking you're one of them, and being heterosexual. I've seen young girls/ women adopt the male tendencies and behaviors of the men they hang around, then have a crush on one and expect to be treated as a love interest. It doesn't work like that. They might have sex with you, but won't value you in the way these women expect. I know a women in her mid 40s and she's been a 'sidechick' to this guy for 20 years. She's always with him in his friends drinking beer, cussing, sitting with legs wide open, ready to jump into illegal activities quickly. The guy she sees calls her b*tches, will absolutely NEVER show her effection or love in public, EVER. His friends call her b*itches and will rough her up and play fight. She has no kids, never been married and now she's devestated that she wasted all this time being up under him being his ride or die and he makes it aggressively clear he won't leave his wife or give her a child. You can't be one of the ni@@as and get feminine respect and care. You must have a life of your own, invest in your looks, lifestyle and emotional health. It's honestly sad that she wasted all of this time and probably cant find a decent guy because she doesn't attempt to look, talk, walk or act anything like a soft woman. And I always felt uncomfortable going around her and her friends because I'm the complete opposite, but friendly, respectful and down to earth. And they still act funny. This is the side effects of not being a feminine woman

[@PortraitofAsha]

This is so real

[@leekeene5889]

@Jouc’e Amor’e Exactly! This was me also as a teenager. My mother wasn't an influence and I was raised more by my dad and wanted to be like him. Another reason I didn't know at the time, but understand now was it was safer to be rough and tough in certain schools and neighborhoods. If you went to school or on certain blocks looking soft and feminine, you were pressed up on, for real. It was safer being masculine and it was also the trend. But growing into a young woman it wasn't who I was and I embrace and love being a woman now. But the woman who haven't adopted femininity don't accept you and even sometimes get rude. Luckily I grew up around this so I have no issues maintaining who I am.

[@leekeene5889]

@Elevating Darkness I couldn't imagine! Wanting acceptance so bad you'll get used and abused. And these women will never find respect or love in those groups and MUST change their entire lives. If they don't realize this they'll spend these crucial years being dehumanized and have no self esteem to speak of. This is truly sad!

[@leekeene5889]

@@PortraitofAsha ❤

[@leekeene5889]

@Elevating Darkness Yeh it's unfortunate how stubborn and oblivious some of us could be. I seen how it's almost impossible for older women I know to admit let alone change their issues that have them angry and that repels good men. Of course I don't call anyone out on their issues because that's not my place and I'm still growing. Like my mother; but she's always gotten passes or her behavior is seen as feisty because she looks mixed and has a nice figure. At her age, I'd think she'd seek help for her extreme anger and aggressiveness. She doesn't and have nerve to watch stuff like love and hip hop and other toxic shows that give her dysfunction a boost! I refuse to be around it. I work too hard to treat and manage my emotional trauma that I've endured throughout my life. The ONLY reason why I'm ok today is because I was raised by my dad and his side since I was a new born. Sorry I got into my long rant😒 but this stuff gets deep. I just praise the bw who recognize our issues and are trying desperately to heal and be the best version of ourselves; mind, body and soul❤

[@ScenicSha]

I think the main point is men see women as conquest out THE GATE! Not wholesome pure beings. It is always up to us to love ourselves and nowadays even more so because so many men live in their feminine energy🙄 Yet want all the perks of a feminine woman 🤣 I also liked how you mentioned doing the inner work. I'm a big fan of therapy and honestly think every Black Woman should go to a few sessions. This is not a diss but our plight is the most undermined on Earth. Therefore, we need to unpack that baggage heal ourselves FIRST by any means❤

[@randomness8819]

As a non blk sis, I agree. What has happened to the American black community over centuries has caused most of this social disentigration. I will say however, outside of the US many sisters in different cultures are also groomed systematically and some on an even deeper level than what we see in the states.

[@ScenicSha]

@@randomness8819 Thanks Dear & yes I see it on a worldwide level due to how much I travel. I will say in some respect marriage is more encouraged in other countries and cultures than America. So that's a couple extra brownie points but the quality of the marriages are another story most of the time.

[@tendaoxtails]

With this line of reason, it’s safe to say that being single is the only option since men think like sexualize dogs. They don’t even respect themselves so how can we expect them to respect us regardless of we love ourselves?

[@Nokss87]

I personally don't think men genuinely like women, and yes they see us as disposable. But they do respect a woman who they have to conquer but only if she is what he is attracted to. I don't think men were designed to desire marriage and kids though, even now lost of them were raised to think that they are the prize.

[@eveomoregbe519]

Their mentality is repulsive and im starting to rethink wanting a relationship in the future

[@kimmurrell7971]

Thats an interesting concept you just brought up.wow

[@anissa2361]

@@eveomoregbe519 I thought it was only me! Glad I'm not alone in this sentiment. Good men are few and far between especially men who want to provide and are willing to wait until marriage to have sex.

[@armonelovesaustin]

I agree remember how mean they use to be as kids until he hits puberty then he likes women

[@eveomoregbe519]

A'Mya Springer they are not willing to wait and then complain that there are no good women left 🙄

[@MsSecrets]

I always told myself that I wasn't dating until I could be sure that I won't be taken advantage of and abused. I didn't know exactly what that meant, but I didn't even think it had to do with valuing yourself!

[@PatriceGibbons-uj8ny]

Chloe, no disrespect because I completely respect you, but you a damn fool for this video. Where were you 20 years ago??? 😂 Doesn't matter.... you're here now!!! 😁

[@lesleymarie7005]

Your videos NEVER disappoint!!! 💯😍

[@NBean90]

Chloe literally just gets better and better. This woman is truly blessed! Thank you thank you for all that you do!💄💎

[@Chevonne8]

Chloe, I think the millennial men are different lol. They actually value women who give it up easily and lead with their masculine energy. They will stop looking your way when you tell them no to giving up the goods.

[@femininelounge9240]

You're confusing value with attention. Men will take whatever you give them. Go for a older man full stop. Whether he is 5 or 10 yrs older. Always date older at any age.

[@femininelounge9240]

@@tgtgtgtgtgtgtg because they are spoilt babies raised by warrior mothers who did everything for them. Runnnnnnnnnn

[@chipwanderlust113]

It's because they themselves have had their masculinity decreased by third wave feminism, molly coddling and being told we are 'equal'. So the value they have of you is probably that of a homeboy who just happens to give sex and split bills. Think about it, think about your little nieces or little kids you love and how you just wanna give them everything. Not saying your man should see you like a kid, but he should see you as a prince who he must cherish and bring stars down for.

[@victoriabells8671]

@@femininelounge9240 I’m 21 so that range is still idiotic

[@jooreuable]

I currently resent the fact that some women are born with so much beauty and feminine faces. Ive always felt like i had such a disadvantage with my hooded monolids, and that i cant even make flirty eye contact or facial expressions with them or express myself. I am really working on myself to work with what i have, and to really see myself as beautiful and see my true worth.

[@fisf.2148]

Chloe you're a genius!!! The masculine men are drawn to me now AND stepping up. They're competing for me now with the potent feminine energy I emit even when I go out without makeup but with clothes that flatter my curves.

[@kathrynmoore8199]

I will be celibate from now on I want to be cherished and not disposable for any man

[@temekiawilliams8467]

You have to be willing to walk away from anything or anybody that is not right for you. Your willing to walk away is the key. If a person can treat you any kind of way and you stay you're teaching them how to treat you and they know you're not going anywhere so they will continue to treat you that way. Be confident, love yourself, and everything will come to you in due time ❤

[@aaronjohnson4359]

I thought actually studying men's nature was a lost art. I appreciate your endeavours.

[@MuseSunflower]

Great video! I feel like men have gotten very spoiled. I totally understand the "my body my choice" thing when it comes to hypersexuality but the message it sends men is that women are easily accessible and they don't have to work hard. Which in my opinion contributes to the problem of how they don't take many of them seriously I am glad I have this wisdom on how to maintain my values in todays modern world. If you don't cherish yourself you'll certainly be walked all over

[@deekydan]

Chloe, where were you all them years I needed you? Now I'm 42 and JUST getting it together 🙄

[@rose-annwoodsley1252]

Same :(

[@deekydan]

@bizzygal77 true dat, sis. ❤

[@deekydan]

@@rose-annwoodsley1252 we don't be alright tho, sis. 🙂❤

[@liesandlacefronts6655]

When you know better, you can do better. Let the past stay there and move forward with a bright future ahead. Women can be chosen at any age.

[@kimmurrell7971]

@@liesandlacefronts6655 best comment I heard all day. Thx for the encouragement

[@kathrynmoore8199]

Chloe thank you for this video it came right on time i walked away from a relationship this week he wasn't chasing or cherishing me it was all about sex so I moved on I am worth more than that

[@mslildesi]

Men of strong character respect a woman they date regardless. If she is not up to par then he'll either give her time to improve herself if she is on that journey or he will move on, not abuse, manipulate and cause her pain. However, I also agree that where is women is will affect how men of all types view her and she's much more likely to attract abusers and may become used to it as well, making it challenging to accept a better man. She may also repel since men tend to observe women, even before they realize it. Low self esteem is very difficult to hide but for so long, and holding out on sex isn't enough if he can see right through an act lol. Everything must be natural based on the inner work being done. People will see the transformation, you cannot hide that beauty as well.

[@jessepera2457]

You know what men only understand respect. If a woman respects him he knows he loves her. The only way he will unlock his heart is if a woman respects HER SELF!

[@aminah761]

Yasss Chole another classic.. I wish I knew this when I was younger but u live and u learn .. I know now not to sleep with Men for free . My body n mind is worth much more than FREE99 😆🤣

[@kimmurrell7971]

At least you being honest.

[@amoore3734]

😂Don’t you love when she says “Free99”!!??🤣🤣

[@kimmurrell7971]

@@amoore3734 lol yeah.Cause its true

[@SagRising19]

Thanks Chloe! Great examples! Alot of these masculine women, will tell a man she has a degree, cars, houses etc from day one and thinks that he's attracted to that. Your accomplishments mean nothing..how you value yourself and femininity is key. #selfwork

[@tgirl8955]

I have to admit I was disappointed when I first heard you say this(bitter truths), but it actually made since of a lot of my life Experiences. 21, glad I can see this early before too much time is wasted. 💕💕

[@anissa2361]

I'm 21 too girl! I've never been in a relationship. I'm grateful to these channels. Of course my parent's taught me some things, but like they say I takes a village.

[@Mrs_CandacePolite]

Chloe. You are amazing. Freakin amazing. I have never heard this put this way. I just struggled through learning it. And I am so happy I stayed the course bc I am married to a high value man. This is gonna help so many black women and girls. Directing every one I know to your channel!

[@Toi84Toi]

Thank you for this truth. Females should be taught this from their youth, it would save so much wasted time, energy, and feelings.

[@missunique5227]

It seems like men having no feelings of empathy for women unless she is literally on fire and even then he wouldn't even piss on you if he doesn't care about you

[@Hadizateach]

The knowledge in this video should be studied in school! This is raw gold! Definitely saving this and sharing with my sisters, friends and future daughter! Thank you Chloe.

[@lovelyladycarter3687]

Very glad that the idea of having a man doesn’t suit me any longer💯😌 I desire a man who sees and knows my worth and has no problem with elevating me and my desired lifestyle 💯

[@femininelounge9240]

Men dont see and know a women's worth. We set the tone for them to behave. Mem naturally misbehave. We adjust their behaviour through our requirements and boundaries. Dont sit back sis. Majority are not naturally good xx keep getting out there.

[@ashleygoodrich3294]

😂😂 out Here in Chicago the men want women to have their own SO BAD. Apparently they are tired of being providers I guess

[@MsCeCe-lt1zg]

Its everywhere

[@peridozq9390]

Traditional men no longer exist.

[@charitypawandiwa8429]

Thanks Chloe! My comment is on Daddy Issues. I wish we had more dads prize their daughters. I think it forms such a bedrock for self-confidence in women.

[@chihazirimsoronnadi3964]

When my daughters get to the “curiosity” stage of life, they’re watching this and then giving me a one page essay about things they liked about it. Cuz if I had heard this shit earlier in life in technicolor detail, I may have been salvaged, mentally, spiritually and otherwise. I’ve been crying so hard since I started watching your videos and I’m sharing with everyone. Thank you for making it past whatever life may have presented you with so that more women have a chance to try and thrive without doing the same. We love you so much Chloe. ❤️❤️❤️

[@kieraholmes3828]

Me: "Oh i love myself" Then after listening to Chloe's list of signs of a woman who doesn't love herself........................ Tough pill to swallow but i guess i got more work to do

[@VintageAfro91]

Great video! A woman has the power to end it if she's not truly receiving what she wants or needs. One thing I've had to come to terms with is that men will only do to us what we as women allow.

[@nlrrln6881]

Chloe, Thank you! ❣️I'm doing my homework and enjoying my transformation so much, I had to distance myself from frienemies who would rather stay in the masculine realm instead of doing the work.

[@Chrissy893]

I’m a new subscriber and I’ve been binge watching. These are some real gems that I wish women could learn from young. Would save us our dignity and a lot of wasted time.

[@luxuryqueen42]

Ladies, you should never offer anything to a man and tell a man what you’re bringing to the table! Act like the prize!

[@quicktours6428]

Yes he’ll treat you as you let him. If you act disposable and beg hell know your not that valuable.

[@marsham8902]

Wow Chole. You are so intelligent. I love your advise it's always spot on. It's like your natural gift. Thank you for taking the time always to share your knowledge to direct and help and shift women thinking to a more enlightened and famine lifestyle. You are the best!

[@TheNewFeminine]

thank you.💞

[@mrs.bernard5415]

Chloe, as usual you did it again! Amazing content... yes, ladies if you do not value yourselves and love on yourselves, men can easily pick up on this... this is a recipe for disaster waiting to happen. Respect and honor yourself, this will show that man how to automatically treat and honor you! Love from Canada!

[@mrs.bernard5415]

@@motherteresa8418 being a loser has got to suck! 😂

[@reallifeexperienceforwomen461]

I’m so glad I found your channel. I’ve struggled with self esteem issues for a long time.. and it’s always lead me to horrible relationships. I always thought of myself as being the prize without actually cherishing myself as the prize. Thank you for this video and all your other videos that help me realize how important it is to live in my feminine truth.

[@joyaparris1427]

I AM 30 Turning 31 next month .. the growth started last year . I am loving channels like this & learning so much 💕💖

[@rosamoreno4794]

Brown and black women are groomed to neglect themselves and we were doomed with unfair or underprivileged childhoods. 🤷🏻‍♀️ We are elements of our environment and it is very difficult to overcome that. Self love is key.

[@roseinharlem8152]

Thank you for this! Hands down one of the best videos on KZbin. I’ve been saying things of this nature for a long time but could never put it as eloquently and to the point as you. I read a book called “Men don’t love women like you” many years ago. The title put a lot of women off .. but his words were golden and very similar to what you were saying here. I used to say that women’s egos get in the way of seeing this truth and they let these low value men gas them up when these men say the same exact things to all women thinking we are fools ruled by our outer appearances. But you’re right a lot of women simply don’t k is any better. Well now we know better.. let’s do better.

[@NikibaRichards]

Hi Chloe! I have been listening to you for about over a year now. This video is my favorite one to date! Please continue making videos! You’re helping a lot of women including myself develop into our womanhood! Wishing you peace and love 🌻🦋💕

[@lindajackson2382]

But see these men TODAY think THEY ARE THE PRIZE NOW-- NOT the WOMEN anymore!

[@arre3591]

Because they are

[@highradiance144]

I thumbs up before listening...women make it to easy. Then want to back peddle after they devalue themselves...through their own actions.🤦‍♀️

[@sparklereyes100]

Hi Chloe, I love your channel and all the advice you give us, I have been guilty of not valuing myself. I just got finished watching Insecure and would love you hear your thoughts on the main female characters and what we can learn from them.

[@TheNewFeminine]

You have to follow me on Instagram. I broke the entire last season down. Link in description box.💞

[@sparklereyes100]

@@TheNewFeminine Great!! Thank you

[@christinebaptiste8529]

I don’t know... I don’t think men are wired to see women as disposable but I do think certain men, especially ones raised by parents who told them they were just absolutely amazing. Men who have an overinflated sense of self seem to believe they are the prize and anyone would be lucky to have them even if they bring nothing to the table. I do think nurture plays a huge role in how men treat women. I do agree that if you do not cherish yourself the men in your life will not either. You teach people how to treat you and if you don’t care for yourself it is apparent and the men you’ll attract are people who are looking to take advantage of your low self-esteem

[@DevelopingHer]

You must know you are worthy! Work on yourself now. It will save you from nonsense.

[@goodenoughgirl8102]

Value is where it’s at. I just told someone yeah they will appreciate IT very much. They will not value YOU tho. They’ll want us or desire us and it, but he won’t value HER in a “whole woman” sense. I couldn’t believe what I was hearing tho. This “coach” saying do this or that so you’ll “stand out” over all those other girls. I was like huh? Thanks to Chloe, I was like oh yeah. This is a “pick me” girl. So yeah. I made the Karen comment ha ha. I said what? No. Don’t be a pick me girl (and try to impress a man) bcuz they will Def see you as disposable. And this is not something we will ever do when we finally see we are the prize, not them. I just found that phrase so disturbing bcuz the “Coach” said that in the context of sexual things and that to me was even worse. Like do these people live under a rock or something? Lol. Using sex as a pick me tool? I think it’s prob the worst thing you could do and this is supposed to be “good advice?” I said no. This will be a disaster.

[@purposedpatience6597]

POWERFULLY SAID!!! Thank you so much!! im on the right path!

[@riagreen9294]

The only person who can determine how you are treated is yourself.

[@j-hizzy]

Do you already have a video on "fake deep" / "pseudo spiritual" men? Because im seeing them come out the cut. The dusties are evolving. 🤣

[@martinezlucia101]

childhood traumas, that one hit close to home. Thank you for your videos!!!!!

[@flyandshy00]

Been celibate for 7.5 years, this year I got 150 euros from men that I haven't slept with. You can do it!

[@SrirachaSandvvitch]

Chloe, Why Men Love Bitches, and the Unicorn Delusion are the only 3 sources I go to on these topics, period.