China's Unmarried "Leftover Women"

[@tartsstealth4186]

i never knew dating was so terrifying........ time to play pokemon

[@Kami-Sama197]

LMFAO

[@natly3123]

Lol.. dying here lol

[@LadyAngela678]

Tarts Stealth Yeah. Its pretty bad. :)

[@followthewhiterabbit8561]

Left over women are for foriegners. This is where the "white" guy comes in .

[@reaperdzong7447]

pokemkon? come on! i watch anime.

[@MyChannel108]

There are far more Chinese leftover men than leftover women...

[@jacobe4836]

@Ovi Sheikh Bruh what? Thailand isn’t a part of China.

[@jacobe4836]

@Ovi Sheikh Oh ok. I was just confused by what you were saying.

[@johnballard6725]

I think the term was used by the government to "persuade" women to marry but is a clumsy one and inappropriate as it's the men who are surplus.It certainly sounds a toxic environment especially for unmarried women.

[@johnballard6725]

The Chinese government labelled women as leftovers to pressure them into.marrying?

[@lucykehaulani5673]

If there are 20 million more men, wouldn’t that make them the left overs???

[@elootl]

Most of the men get discriminated against are the rural low income ones.

[@暮霭-t5m]

Some Random Guy why would anyone want to marry poor guys living in rural places

[@juliantotriwijaya9208]

0:45 the awnser to your question, women has standart.

[@elootl]

@@juliantotriwijaya9208 The standard that made it difficult for women to get a husband.

[@暮霭-t5m]

Eric Loo I mean marriage is for a better life not to marry some poor dude for him and his family to be ur burden

[@acecrim6641]

What's wrong being single? If the girl are rich, successful and independent , theres no hurry in finding a partner just because you will be label 'leftover". I rather be single then being in rush into a relationship.

[@kaam..]

Ace Crim If youre single by like 35 no one is going to marry you. Thus you are left over.

[@kaam..]

Melon LD yeah but I China you're less desirable by then

[@berbnobirbyes.8583]

Kaiya 。。 you don’t need to be desirable though

[@unusunus4613]

Kaiya 。。 I don't think that's how human attraction works.

[@kaam..]

In China the standard is to marry young and beautiful right? Clearly most of the time they don't marry for love they marry expectations. So what man in a society like that wants to marry an older woman when the norm is younger? If you are pass the age of 25 and you haven't been scooped up yet you are undesirable, because that means there was something wrong with you in your prime so no men wanted to marry you then. Is that shallow? Yes. Is it wrong? That depends on who you ask. Does that happen in other cultures and societies? Sure does.

[@shirakawanaoya]

Enter THE MATCHMAKER!! *BONG* And I died. LOL

[@lufiadaos6560]

LOL I felt the same way as you do... They took that "BONG" sound from the taco bell commercial..

[@dennisthorpe7792]

Jack Nestle Can I get a hit from the BONG!

[@sparrowhawk5673]

reminded me of mulan

[@glennbarrera8353]

And to top it all off she is cross eyed

[@pink_daisy7307]

Eric Xavier ahh me too

[@indrinita]

I love how even when they're literally killing and abandoning baby girls, it's still the women's fault if men aren't getting married.

[@avril6922]

@Indian Streetshietters yeah, and why is that? Ohhhh! that was caused by prioritizing baby boys over baby girls for like 30 years, so now women are less and have grown to know they are lucky to be alive and be successful in a men ruled country, because millions of girls were killed or abandoned. It's just the normal counterfeit, how did chinese government didn't see that one coming?

[@video.mp4709]

@Indian Streetshietters Don’t Chinese women date westerners anyway? How are there so many leftover women

[@silentgamer88]

As if you Indians haven’t been doing the same

[@buntafujiwara7698]

@@silentgamer88 as an indian this comment is fucking hilarious lmao

[@nataliesparks4829]

​​@@avril6922 they'll start to value women very soon because women are going to be scars and much more valuable, women are also going to be in more danger because of sex trafficking 😓😞

[@tgb869]

"This is a date." More like an interview. I don't understand China, I mean seriously bullying younger women to get married or be called "leftover women," don't you already have a population problem. And that is not the only issue. At least match making is a booming business.

[@scottsparkman5628]

To answer your question about bullying women into marrying: the government and media in China "bully" their women today because, in the past, they bullied their men into exhaustion. Any attempt to bully Chinese men into marrying is met with passive resistance. The men shake their heads -- no thanks -- and make a turn for the exit. Chinese women get bullied and they "take it like a man". They accept the harassment with a open ear and then turn to the dating market. If your a dog trainer with one four-legged friend that refuse to play fetch and another that returns the ball every time, which dog would you say is obedient? Which one would you like more? Systems of government will always prefer an obedient citizen over a dissent one. Thus the Chinese government intentionally bully their women into the marriage market because it has the desired result: the women obey. Worse still, they think it's a privilege over the opposite gender, and behave like the 25 year old in the date-interview: snobbish, entitled, and choosy.

[@stellar783]

The problem with the population in China is that most of it is aging, and clearly that won’t stop. They need to have a certain inflow of young people going in order to support the country AND the aging population.

[@sinoroman]

+tgb869 your logic: 1 trillion men and 2 women, don't they have a population problem? to be more realistic, 1 million men and about 1 million or less women, but none are interested in having children the graph will show depopulation, as many are dying out and no newcomers are entering yeah yeah yeah, you're trying to roast china, but i'm dishing out the cold, hard facts to you people

[@mdratul4645]

Their populating to decrease thats why

[@mystirboy]

Population decrease. There might've been better alternatives in implementing it but anyway. At China's point it doesn't matter if they have a large population, if they notice that their population trend is declining and feel that it will continue to decrease even more the government will mobilize to encourage "baby-making" until it their population trends enter a stable state.

[@manassurya2019]

If she is a millionaire, then why does she require a man who is wealthier than her? Do millionaire men demand that prospective women should be wealthier than them?

[@Aderla22]

Maybe they should.

[@PrayingPanda]

+Aderla22 they wont because that's not how men operate

[@manassurya2019]

Aderla22 You're saying men should also be materialistic and shallow like women? No, I think we shouldn't be.

[@Aderla22]

Manas Surya Mirroring behaviour is a peacrful, passive aggressive way to show disagreement. And I don't say men should be shallow&materialistic. But he should act as shallow&materialistic as the woman he's dating (just towards that woman).

[@oestergaard141]

+Manas Surya Because it's Shanghai, only ever happens in Shanghai, it attracts the greediest Chinese :))

[@sarah7755]

"Unmarried bachelor" vs. "Leftover women" 👀👀👀👀

[@Will.Flavell]

Unmarried Chinese man = Loser Unmarried Leftover Woman = Winner

[@bruh____784]

FIGHT!

[@RigelPinoy]

Judge her all you want, she will still be richer than you.

[@truelegendinblack]

Illusion money means nothing, some of us are rich in life and other things that are not giving power by man and society

[@natasharkdodo8892]

JDMxlove but latest research found that money DOES buy happiness but at the same time it is not guaranteed if u are rich u will be happy.

[@KaiDecadence]

She may be richer but she'll find out that money can't buy 100% happiness. It's a common thing that people (both men and women) who let money determine all their happiness while young only to age and remain single can have a hard time being fully happy when they have no one special to share their life with.

[@KaiDecadence]

I don't think people are saying money can't buy happiness, it can in some instances but whats the point of being super rich and affluent if you have no one to share your time and life with (for the people who want to have a special someone but can't get it).

[@myriamarturo9125]

Yep

[@Toxihex]

It's not about lowering standards, it's about setting the right priorities. *Never* lower your standards.

[@davidalfonso3042]

Hi♥

[@farihamohamedhilmy4700]

I AGREE ☝🏻 💯

[@oscarchicalucena7980]

You are the first one who uses the right word, priorities. Let me ask an open question, would you like be single or would you like not remain single but because you satisfy someone's priority?

[@rubenromero793]

Never girl never right on you go girl

[@irregulargamer1352]

Yeah but a Chinese guy who's tall and rich isn't exactly a fair standard. You don't see me asking for a rich model. Sure I'd like a muscular woman myself but it's not something I'll set a requirement.

[@Nu_Wen]

I remember watching another KZbin video similarly called "the leftover men of China" or something like that. It baffles me how anyone can be branded "left overs" over simply not finding a mate before a certain point in your life. It seems to me that there is just alot of unnecessary judgment towards those who are single.

[@Joeyblondewolf2]

That's sad to pressure people like that.. I know a lot of people who are happy single.

[@DutchBane]

The men she seeks want younger woman without carreer.

[@SepherStar]

The men she seeks are married.

[@myriamarturo9125]

Yeah, so they can be easily manipulated

[@anarchy309]

Myriam Arturo boohoo envy old fart.

[@abhisekdas1580]

@Static absolutely. If men want housewives then it is their choices.

[@sugakookies8063]

@@abhisekdas1580 And if women don’t want to be that housewife then it’s their choice👍🏻

[@viktorianagudi4459]

This woman is essentially perfect. She's rich, hardworking, ambitious, successful, smart, and pretty. Nevertheless, people are still telling her not to be too picky. The real message they're trying to convey is that being a woman is already a liability. Being a woman means you're temporary, expendable, disposable. You can never be picky, even if you do everything right. You should be lucky to have any man put up with you at all. That ideology is twisted. Why can't she be picky when every single guy wants someone attractive, even when he hasn't accomplished anything? Screw this biological clock nonsense. You don't have to have kids. Or if you want them and you don't have a man, you can buy sperm. Anyone can have kids. Anyone can get married at 50 or 60 or 80. All these bigots wanna tell us women that we're a depreciating asset, but in reality the market for true love doesn't close until you die

[@lordvoldemort5533]

True. When you're a rich women you can just freeze you're eggs and have birth whenever you want.

[@arcticwarrior3499]

I loved your comment Tori...actually made me tear up and that's rare. I loved the point you made on "why can't she be picky"! I went through the same exact bullshit...unfair really why others can be picky and others cannot. We work so hard in life to then be told we can't have what we are passionate about.

[@ansh0133]

True dat

[@yuritarded00]

korean men too always say that women are worthless over the age of 30. The truth is a successful and independent woman does not need to conform to the patriarchal demands of the society.

[@wendydinh4639]

True, why is it acceptable for most men to want a pretty wife when people are complaining about her being picky?

[@maisong4364]

I love that these “leftover” women are 25 ish and successful and have high standards for the men they will marry. It also makes me happy to see that China has the highest number of self made millionaires who are women. Way to prove all those parents who traded their daughter for a son/ didn’t want a daughter. Celebrate it!! The men are the true “leftovers” here.

[@NOVA-ei9kj]

Marriage is all about contracts these days

[@nicholasr79]

Ishika - Men are over marriage! It only benefits the woman in divorce and marriage is the leading cause of divorce 😃

[@theluckypoptart2945]

Ishika - actually it always was. Marrying for love is a fairly new concept. Many people in the past had arranged marriages. Or just married the person who would work the best. It was more about being a partnership and surviving than it was Romance. Not saying that is right but it is the way it was. Honestly, I do think some of that should be in today's marriages. When you see the person as a partner not just a lover marriages last longer. A very important part of a relationship is for both people to work at making the other happy and their lives easier. If only one is doing it or no one is that's a bad relationship. If the relationship is sole based off love and romance it's less likely to last because eventually all that passion starts being spread out. It's not everyday. You have kids and a house and bills and work. It doesn't really leave time to be super romantic. But that's just real life. I think it's the best part of a relationship.

[@inflexibleprick1709]

Not only these days. It's always been like that. You can see it on movies or on books commonly. Marrying for love is now more common that it was before.

[@rtybn456]

always was...

[@acatspectator]

*in China

[@telegnes4500]

O come on. She is pretty not that kind of man. Ridiculous match maker. 😂 😂😂

[@anafrancisco2002]

She cross eyed thats why 😂😂😂

[@ansh0133]

Chinese people aren't as shallow as people in the West

[@bee4907]

Looks aren't everything. Think of beauty and the beast

[@riripari2042]

Since the successful women there generally want a partner who is both handsome and financially successful its probably tough finding someone who caters to both standards. He was probably just rich.

[@Adriann604]

ansh0133 that does mean she has to end up with some man who she does not fancy?? I bet you would say that men are to find someone younger and hot though.. 😂 double standards make me laugh It would be just business if she would end up with someone who she does not fancy at least a little.. for much younger woman to date much older man it is the same-but many girls do that for money. This lady does not need the money

[@SimonCU]

Women in China are more powerful and successful than men. In the west its the opposite. Most of the top jobs in US are taken by men. In China its opposite. The women takes the top position. A good example is Jack Ma gave all the top position to women in Alibaba.

[@Will.Flavell]

I respect Chinese Women more than Chinese Men

[@ImranKhan-ug9hk]

Ya right

[@SimonCU]

@@Will.Flavell that is sexist. You shouldn't judge people due to their sex. You should also feel the same way for all people because if it's only "Chinese" then it will also indicate racism. Now a days we need to be careful and try to not show sexism and racism.

[@jacobe4836]

@@SimonCU I find it hard to believe women tend to be employed more and make more on average than men in a culture as traditional and family focused as China’s.

[@SimonCU]

@@jacobe4836 Now Chinese women are not the same as the women 50 years ago. China is now the same country as most people think. China is getting famous for their power women who don't want to marry because they are so business money minded. There are a lot of not so wealthy men in China now. Its totally different from the west. Alibaba is a very good example where Jack Ma said he feels woman are better thinkers and workers then men so he employ many women in his company in top positions. If you go to China you will see how powerful women are now.

[@VoLilyBall]

Asks “do you like her?” in Chinese. Answers “yeah” in Japanese...

[@kvogel9245]

Kind of screws up the story! LOL.

[@bryndyperez8123]

So glad I'm not in China. I'm the second child and 1st daughter so I would've never been born or killed right away.

[@pocketsofhoney]

Calling young women "leftover women" is just a ploy to try to get these woman who feel no pressure to marry the first man that comes along (because of the serious lack of competition) to hurry up and get married. China is worried about the future, and rightfully so. Women are in no rush to get married, so their taking their time and bettering themselves - but the biological clock is ticking, and that's making some people nervous. :)

[@SepherStar]

Yep, and the women aren't buying it.

[@arbiybiya6201]

pocketsofhoney , Love to have chinese mate.

[@danieneit6830]

the government knows they need young people to take care of their aging population and the replacement rates or very low as a result of their One Child Policy that was only recently rescinded. And unlike in other countries, there are no aid programs for the old. Your aid program is your child who will hopefully take good care of you.

[@sinoroman]

notice how women getting higher education (college) just so happens to prolong their desire for marriage and children? seems to be a coincidence, but is it...? maybe, but countries with fewer women having higher education has high fertility %.

[@ansh0133]

They should've thought twice when they decided to kill their little girls

[@bleah76]

Blah blah blah.. More money.. Blah blah blah.. Money .. Blah blah blah blah .. Money money money That's all I heard

[@ansh0133]

🏧🏦

[@ajayunm9223]

True Jim.. looks like there are more feminazis putting down men and all the young girls are bred into thinking to get the single man's money..

[@saveonthe1]

Asians are materialistic gold digger consumeristic suckers.

[@LegoSwordViedos]

@@saveonthe1 Everyone is.

[@saveonthe1]

@@LegoSwordViedos date an Asian. It's pathetic. Suckers.

[@_lucy_goosey]

“Do you like her” Man responds in japanese

[@katie4623]

The matchmaker is crosseyed.

[@owellhoot]

So....???

[@user-ok4bp3sn7y]

Yeah, so?

[@BlackLoctusz]

i love how they added that taco bell "bong" sound at the end.

[@rockandblues3635]

ha ha ha

[@marcduchamp5512]

K Lu Could be lazy eyes

[@TuAmigoElMorrocoy]

She's a millionaire, with that kind of success she already can do whatever she wants.

[@CraigRodmellMusic]

Except get married.

[@Undubbedriah]

@@CraigRodmellMusic well she doesn't need to

[@CraigRodmellMusic]

@@Undubbedriah That's entirely her business.

[@Undubbedriah]

@@CraigRodmellMusic yeah that's right

[@josephang9927]

Except forcing a high value man to settle for her if he has younger options.

[@prettyo.1385]

MARRY FOR LOVE PEOPLE MARRY FORR LOOOOVEEEEEEE

[@Minale__]

+Pretty Olivia That's a very Western mentality, though. Marriage for love (romantic love, that is) has a divorce rate of roughly 50% - with arranged (not forced) marriages, it's a lot lower, because those relationships are usually build for economic and emotional stability. If those people work together, love can definitely form and grow - maybe not the romantic "love at first sight"-kind of love that we value so much, but the longterm-love of "I always have someone by my side, I'm never alone and I have someone I can go through thick and thin with". Those other 50% (or less) that don't get divorced might be lucky enough to develop the long-term love out of the romantic love, but in terms of statistics, in reality, you don't need romantic love to live a happy and fulfilled life with someone else.

[@fae1magalokreas]

+Mina Fed The Unicorns ♥ Arranged marriages usually involve an untrained woman, isolation and death threats if they do not comply. There is no hard evidence to suggest that all those that choose their spouse genuinely because of love. In a love marriage couples are way healthier and happier which is reflected to their families than those that are not given the same social environment.

[@cocodakilla]

+Mina Fed The Unicorns ♥ omg you sheep. Divorce most because women realize the man they married is ABUSIVE or a complete sociopath. Other times affairs. And then there are other reasons. Divorce is better than staying in an awful marriage. in asia you are threatened to stay. society PRESSURES you. Indoctrinates you from birth to think that them choosing a husband for you is right. Love is the best way. Age morals values all matter. But it is the only way. arranged marriage only works for economic reasons and social status. You are mental. Love grows? no it doesn't. It is sort of like stockholm syndrome. You must love the person they forced you into marrying and nothing else. stats mean nothing until you look at the reasons and meanings behind them. I hate people like you who promote medieval things. Get a reality check

[@cocodakilla]

+Mina Fed The Unicorns ♥ and arranged is the same as forced. Educating them to marrying someone THEY choose. And then only allowing them to marry one out of a select few.

[@prettyo.1385]

Mina Fed The Unicorns ♥ i get what u mean, but what i meant for love is also not the "love and first sight and butterflies" type. I mean like "i care for you and promise to be stay with you for my entire life". But i don't see arranged marriage as a way to get that kind of love. I'm Chinese and i understand about arranged marriages in our culture around the world. It's still very popular in most parts of Asia. I have to say sadly almost all parents who arranged their child's marriage only think bout money, social status, family relations, physique and basically other stuffs that would benefit the parents and family. Rarely are there Asian parents who actually arrange their child's marriage because the future spouse has similar traits, or might be able to live happily together ect. In my opinion, arranged marriage is wrong. If your child is old enough to get married then he/she is definitely old enough to choose seriously about who they will marry. I have lots of family members who's marriage are arranged and sadly none work. In Asia, divorce happens solely only because cheating is involved. No such thing as "irreconcilable differences", we have to be responsible in our marriage as well (till death do us apart).

[@marieschell6888]

Leftover women? That’s one of the biggest bull***t terms I’ve recently heard insulting a woman who does not feel the need or the desire to marry! What’s so wrong about it? 😤😡

[@valerievedette9542]

I'm never getting married, even if I'm called "leftover" 😂

[@arbiybiya6201]

Hiro Fox , No no no you not leftover or leftbehind , l am here 4U.

[@myriamarturo9125]

That's because you are smart

[@ComicsplaygroundTV]

😂😂

[@LunaLunaTzy]

Thank God I am not born in China😂 I ain't planning to get married before 35

[@princesp5202]

Which country Are you from?

[@allisonshaw9341]

Better to never marry. You don't need to buy the whole hog just to get some sausage. And you really don't need to be married to live with a man or have kids together.

[@samantha5521]

Either way a woman is shamed, married or not. Single= leftover married= ball and chain. It doesn't matter. Enjoy your life however you chose. Forever bachelor or bachelorette, married... cats or dogs, children or no children. It's our own lives and social pressure is nonsense because others can't know that marriage will make you happy or not.

[@jazzie2967]

Why are they surprised that women have standards? Like, they studies at universities got a job and worked hard, why wouldnt they expect standards smh

[@John_Smith_86]

I am not sure if there is a translation error because the original Chinese isn't available for me to hear (I am racially Chinese). But if by committed to the family, she meant that he won't sleep around with other women, then that is completely unreasonable. Even this (western) notion in and of itself is borderline unreasonable in China. When you combine this with her other (Chinese) requirements of taller and richer, she is blatantly picky and unreasonable. No wonder she is single.

[@mariamaksud9738]

Millionaire women - no men for marriage. Millionaire men - sorrounded by women.

[@junnypiggy]

28 is old? But then again, I am 23 and already getting asked about “you have a boyfriend? When are you getting married? Women shouldn’t marry too late... blah blah bla”

[@youwhat.]

The problem is that it seems they are looking for business partners, not a connection. Sometimes it’s more about the connection and then helping each other thrive rather than just meeting someone who is perfect right away.

[@drobles394]

How sad that an unmarried woman would be titled as a left-over woman. That has to hurt their self esteem. Maybe part of the reason they are saying that there are 20 million more men in China is because some of the women left China so they wouldn't be titled as a failure and forced to marry for money instead of love. Being married to a tall man with money and a house doesn't guarantee the possibilities that he/she won't be mean, abusive, have affairs with other people, be controlling, or be emotionally absent in his/her marriage.

[@Jeff-tv8qc]

When women have more options, their hypergamy kicks into high gear and become more picky. This ironically leaves them with less potential mates.

[@lanlam2114]

In this world, you have no right to be single, people will label you as a product "leftover" so disgusting

[@Sigart]

... Why the man answered in Japanese? XD Wtf?

[@minamiikuko4297]

The real question

[@davidalfonso3042]

Hi

[@davidalfonso3042]

@@minamiikuko4297 hi how are you

[@dertythegrower]

Cross Eyed "Match Maker". You can see the two faced of the woman exactly at 2:34 to 2:37 .. as soon as they stop looking at her to talk, her frown goes from fake smile to frown

[@doseofjean]

Lmao

[@scottsparkman5628]

Wow... that was some intense micro-facial examination you did there. You should be a polygraph expert.

[@MajorCaliber]

Scott Sparkman NO amount of scrutiny is "too much" when choosing a wife, especially considering the legally-sanctioned RUIN they can wreak on a man in divorce court, amirite???

[@scottsparkman5628]

u-r-rite!

[@genevawalsh2484]

This is so dumb. Also, ladies, don't worry about being a "leftover woman." My grandmother got remarried at age 50 to a man 20 years younger than her who fell madly in love with her. It's not too hard to find a lover as a woman. Even into old age. As long as you age gracefully & keep a youthful mindset.

[@conniejeanklein5375]

I don't blame the ladies for being. Choosy. Good for them. To many lazy men out there.

[@rubenromero793]

Bingo Connie very observant young lady self respect self reliant self sufficient people period .

[@TriLe-nz4oq]

Agreed. But its funny though even the not lazy men are being thrown overboard. I couldnt find a decent woman in america for god knows 10 years? I go outside the country to find a much hotter woman to marry. Then all of a sudden these women in america pay more attention? Wtf is wrong with your young women you raised? Hahaahah btw not lazy. Not fat either. Haahha well i am fat now because my wife pampered me but im getting back to the gym. (^_^)

[@ComicsplaygroundTV]

😮😮😂

[@Melimeverinde]

Chinese people have never heard the word "LOVE"??????????????????

[@christinec6533]

Did you even watch the video she refused the guy cause she didn't like him despite his stable income and meeting her standards. So yes, she WAS looking for more than materialistic things, she was also looking for love

[@JayjayGionganNozomiblues]

+Christine Chang love? sorry, just my opinion but a husband or a partner is the right term for that. she was looking for someone who was tall and handsome, and the guy did not pass her standards...she was after the looks and the fact that she was in a hurry to get married and not become a "left over"...gosh, even that term makes me cringe... how does love start in d first place? with attraction and mutual respect. the matchmakers words herself: "he is never here, but that's ok as long as he is nice". and they hope that love will follow later during the relationship. they are aware of that and they do not go to matchmakers expecting some magic poof! oh well...

[@christinec6533]

Jayjay Giong-an chinese women have no choice to raise their standards, they only get one child and one chance. And i can assure you most asian women marry for future family, and yes, most relationships slowly develop love. But maybe you should tell that to westerners, with all their high divorce rates :). And shallow my asshole, everyone has standards, some even more than these women, plus she's a millionaire, she isn't going to choose some run of the mill guy

[@JayjayGionganNozomiblues]

uhh......u already pointed out a few valid things, ok i think....anyweiz, it might be in additional to say that 2-child policy has now been implemented. As for westerners...no need to compare, they are westerners...but also...there is divorce in China right? :) actually, i would like to point out that divorce rates in China is rising the past years...the good thing only is that many of these couples who divorced remarry... :)

[@christinec6533]

+Jayjay Giong-an nobody wants to do the two child thing because then those children can only have one child. And yes, divorce rates have risen, but nowhere beer as much

[@shottashabazz6721]

This is a perfect example of westernized feminist ideologies traveling across the water to other countries.

[@bobsee8226]

Young. handsome, kind, submissive, and rich. . lol. wait it out till you start to wrinkle

[@cocodakilla]

dried up eggs? women can have babies til they hit menopause. Men need to stop having kids in their 30s because your aging sperm causes big issues. You 2 are such vile human beings. Wrinkles Dont make someone inferior. And we are told men are victims now. Maybe you should get personality transplants

[@krizzex]

That was all kinds of stupid. Sperm live for up 72 hours and are then recycled and replenished. There are no aging sperm. They are always fresh, even if the man is in his 80's. The only thing that changes about sperm is how many they can release at once. Only eggs age because the amount that a women will have is determined at her birth. No more are ever made. This a fact whether you like it or not. Women have a sexual expiration date, men don't. That is why men always prefer younger women. Old women have no reproductive value.

[@rayva1]

What do you ppl know about the evolution and process of genetics anyways?

[@natly3123]

Or until she's starts to bend forward like a tree branch in a typhoon ..

[@aliciavega1281]

krizzex lol.. So u date them because of their eggs. Are u an animal? Disgusting man

[@asadullahzeeshan5539]

You live for the state, you die for the state. Single, lonely and depressed. What an achievement china and rest of the world.

[@玛丽哦]

If you guys ever notice it’s a video for 4 years ago. And it’s kind of biased, but anyway. Things change now in China. There’s more and more independent women who just likes to live by themselves and less matchmaker or even none. Usually it’s the parents who think that their kids should go to the matchmaking dates and stuff. That’s all.

[@almara90]

If I was these women I would rather be left over then give up a comfortable life in city to marry some poor man in the rural areas and burden myself with taking care of his whole family. That does not seem appealing at all. People act like the worst thing that could happen to a woman is to be ‘leftover’ ‘spinster’ but it’s not. It’s much worst to be in a miserable marriage.

[@jtwei7101]

You guys all question why women need to find a man who makes more than her. The better question is why does she require a man at all? When a woman gets married, it is society that also expects her to be the one in charge of the house and kids. So either the husband needs to have more money than her so she is stable or take on the responsibilities. Usualoy the 2nd one is non existant so yeah. At these moments, it feels good to be asexual and to not want children.

[@alishashiva4934]

Ikr 😂. I'm not asexual. But im terrified of being pregnant. So, i can take care of my own needs ya know, 😆. And my future family is going to be a cat, a dog and a cat..... 😂.

[@dgutierrez0624]

Im 25.... im soon going to be a "leftover" 😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@hamdankhan319]

You must be 27 now, how's it going?

[@coshvjicujmlqef6047]

@@hamdankhan319 29 now

[@hamdankhan319]

@@coshvjicujmlqef6047 how is it going? Howre you doing?

[@coshvjicujmlqef6047]

@@hamdankhan319 i am not dulce gutierreze

[@hamdankhan319]

@@coshvjicujmlqef6047 😬

[@peoeoe]

people dont seem to understand the culture?? like i get that its superficial and shallow and its rly wrong to bully people like that but women dont marry below them and men want a women who is pretty and can do things around the house up til i was around 13, my mom would tell me things like "when you get older you need to marry someone rich" and "if you do things like that you wont be able to find any rich boy to marry you" im not defending this, im just pointing out that people are projecting their ideas of marriage onto people of a different culture we all know its dumb and shallow, and constantly pointing it out really makes it seem like some of y'all dont know about how they do things in china and im not saying everyone thinks like this there, but its still a thing that happens

[@NovajaPravda]

It's interesting to note women who are single in China are high status, and men who are single in China are low status

[@sararobert9855]

Standards are sometimes helpful in the quest for your significant other but they should not stop you from giving others a chance either... My mom wanted a tall man, my dad is less that 1.70 meters tall. He on the other hand wanted a blonde with green eyes, he got a brunette with brown eyes. Some standards were not met but guess what ? Two weeks ago was their 35-years anniversary :)

[@ChefWillChill]

America: Hey China you want social media? China: Naw son we got these posts we put on walls and people read information about other people to hook up America:.........

[@Brewing_Coffee]

As long as your partner is loving, caring ,understanding, forgiving, kind, humble and respectful and so on...... Then nothing else matters.

[@qiseki]

I understand the girl's perspective, ofcourse she won't settle for anyone, You can only choose one person to your partner for the rest of your life (I think that's what she want anyways) She's not being picky, she's careful.

[@IamShem]

China: *impliments one child law* Also China: *couples have to get married early*

[@imperialmilktea]

That's the reality of it all. I was born and raised in America and yet my mom is still trying to get me to find, and I quote, "a nice Chinese guy that earns a lot, wants to get married, and takes care of you."

[@scottsparkman5628]

Did you tell her it's 2014 and she should get out of the kitchen of the 1980s?

[@imperialmilktea]

And get backhanded or belted? No thank you.

[@scottsparkman5628]

Some insults are worth the spanking :)

[@fckstreetshitters4294]

Sharon Ho cheap chinese whhhhores love the money

[@tallyhorizzla3330]

And saying someone to "take care of you" translates to "take care of me."

[@john78tv]

The father with the 2 kids who said, "men are more economically successful than ever" was a load of BS.... where do parents even get these ideas from?

[@ophelied.22]

He said the women were, not the men.

[@aryanandhana4031]

When youre a feminazi and try to find every mistakes from men

[@lordvoldemort5533]

@@aryanandhana4031 or when you're just a normal person and have understood something wrong

[@arcticwarrior3499]

He said the women were more economically successful and that it is thus harder for both men and women to find partners.

[@lottabhangs1006]

They've got height requirements!!! As if it wasn't hard enough being short

[@aidenc1451]

If you were a girl, would you date a guy that's shorter and lighter than you?

[@jaketaylor8176]

@@aidenc1451im lean and muscular so i dont date girls with 26+ BMI. Oh thats pretty fucking rude Get the idea?

[@aidenc1451]

Jacob Taylor Lol, I'm nowhere close to a 26+ BIN dude

[@aidenc1451]

*BMI

[@aidenc1451]

Miss Blueberry exactly the point.

[@StewieGriffin]

leftover woman and still gets to choose

[@kasaharayumi2039]

😂the irony

[@annieb2567]

+Stewie Griffin she's 25, and men largely outnumber her. she can choose because she has a greater chance of finding what she wants than most of the men have of finding anyone at all.

[@lt.ethereal6496]

she's 25, thats not leftover

[@Fearlessfighter0]

YUP

[@rayva1]

Becoming a parent in her early 20s does not necessarily make her a great nor a responsible parent. Besides, if daddy is just as irresponsible a parent as she is then that's exactly what we don't need more in this world.

[@kheshirekat9623]

The matchmaker from Mulan 😂😂

[@jab7168]

she is descent, but if someone has more millions than her, why would they want her?

[@infinityandbeyond7057]

The reality is what you seek in others ... The other are seeking the same in you...... Which means both end up nowhare.... This is why happiness is not always about money because money comes and goes It's humbleness who knows how to live simple and manage money , that creates stability and makes happiness. ... HAHA HAHAHA !!!!

[@jeannelletillery9270]

She doesn't want an unsuccessful man that can't make money for himself as a partner. That means that she would have to take care of him like a child

[@sophie-xh6vt]

in china, raising a family is actually incredibly difficult. the woman isnt wrong in wanting a partner that can share the cost of support. nowadays, raising a child is all about the connections that get you into better school and let your children befriend equally, if not more wealthy or influential people’s children. education is not free and costs hundreds of thousands of dollars yearly with various extracurricular activities, out of school tutoring and also academic fees.

[@vincentfox4929]

5"9 in china? Madness!!

[@ml6181]

"looking for a boyfriend who's tall and handsome, has a stable job and likes animal." don't make me laugh girl.

[@quranwordbywordmehmood4336]

Interested

[@cashkromsupernerd1193]

Doesn't seem that ridiculous to me, long as her bar isn't too high for the height and handsomeness

[@John_Smith_86]

@@cashkromsupernerd1193 I am not sure if there is a translation error because the original Chinese isn't available for me to hear (I am racially Chinese). But if by committed to the family, she meant that he won't sleep around with other women, then that is completely unreasonable. Even this (western) notion in and of itself is borderline unreasonable in China. When you combine this with her other (Chinese) requirements of taller and richer, she is blatantly picky and unreasonable. No wonder she is single.

[@coshvjicujmlqef6047]

no. plus you need to provide housing, cars and lots of other properties and those women have abortions for many times.

[@maia3420]

Her standards are so high. She's a successful entrepreneur and yet she demands her husband make even more than she does while owning a home and being taller than she is. While such men exist in China, good luck trying to find them, let alone one who is single and wants to marry you. And most women prefer a slightly older man too which narrows it even further. I find that White collar women's standards around the world are generally so high, whereas White collar men generally don't give a lick if she's wealthier than he is or owns her own home and doesn't care as much about height either unless she dwarfs him.

[@uavidavida7633]

+Mai A I guess my experience was different. My boyfriend is educated and makes decent income as Financial Accountant. Since his mature age allows us to have great chemistry. On the other hand, my mother wants me to have "rich" man. From what my relatives have explained to me that what my mother means is for someone who can provide his family such as his wife and children. It sounds old world to me. I know my boyfriend is not up to standard to my mother's. I always thought rich men have higher standard in their preference so I thought that I don't qualify. So you're saying that rich men don't care of high standards or certain do?

[@maia3420]

Uavida Vida Not compared to women. At most the rich man might look for a so-called "looker". Someone more attractive than the majority of women. But that's about it. Such a woman is not hard to find.

[@TheHabeng29]

Mai A she just has to look like a model, which most women don't have control over while income and status you do.

[@fckstreetshitters4294]

Mai A marrying an asian woman is the biggest mistake of many mens lives

[@Jayl__]

High standards is not an issue. Maybe she’s happier to be by herself than being someone less than what she desires. Sharing a life with someone is huge and i think it’s natural to want someone that’s in the same ‘league’ so to speak. Also high achievers tend to have high bars they set for them selves and also expect of their partner. From evolution, females naturally value resources in excess wherever possible and males value beauty in excess if possible. The more beautiful the better. So it works both ways, men and women just value things differently. And sure as a women has higher economical status it may be harder to match from the top because those men on top seek even more and more beauty which they may not find from high achieving women. But that’s okay who says they need to get hitched to live a happy life.

[@ourlifeinthemiddlekingdom6319]

Try this. Have them go on a date without their cell phones and talk and interact with the other person for 4 hours. This is a near impossibility. I go out all the time in China and couples don't know how to speak with each other. It is all about the person on the other end of WeChat.

[@Jeff-tv8qc]

More options in mates give women less options because of their hypergamy. This must be why the suicide rate between men and women is similar in China.

[@CC-mr5xq]

+Jeff D I think the high suicide rate is due to the immense academic pressure and growing up in a shaming "save face" culture. But yeah, friggin' hypergamy everywhere.

[@Jenkkimie]

It tends to be true that women have bigger lists for preferences than men do and female preference lists tend to be more like requirements of which few aspects can be compromised wheres male conception of these lists are more like bonuses but not necessary, although of course in both scenarios the one that fits in the most is always more appealing. There was a dating councilor colleague I was talking to a while ago and she also mentioned these typical female preferences a lot of women have: " tall, handsome, makes as much if not more money, committed, driven, confident, charming. " - and often times she would then ask those women if they were looking to find an improved version of themselves. Many were silent. What my personal experience has taught me though is that a person who uses these bland, vague cliché terms is telling me a whole another story. They are telling me that they do not really know who they are themselves and aren't experienced enough to know what they seek in a partner. The reason why that is not a good thing is that they are the very same people who are prone to have very rocky relationships because they haven't even yet figured themselves out.

[@aqmohra4]

+Jenkkimie I don't know a single guy that has requirements. Preferences yes but not requirements. However, every woman I have met has requirements and if you don't meet one of them then its goodbye. examples being, tall, full head of hair, big dick, financially well off etc. Its also kinda weird how some requirements women have about men, men have zero control over i.e height, hair, penis size. So which sex is the more shallow one again?

[@SepherStar]

Actually men are more likely to have standards that are more difficult to meet, like physical standards, for example, age (which no one can control) and beauty , and less likely to settle. Women tend to have standards that are more obtainable (income, job type) and are more likely to settle. This is why men complain that women both change, and expect them to change after marriage. If he was upset she changed, then he didn't settle, and if she tries to change him, she settled.

[@Jenkkimie]

SepherStar For the most part, you are parroting what I just said. Although you do bring up an interesting additional point about settling down, or being settled to. There is this joke I have heard: " A man marries a woman hoping she will not change, and a woman marries a man hoping that he would change. The man doesn't change, and the woman does change. " - While it is intended as a joke, it is also quite an apt description of an unsuccessful relationship I would say.

[@Jenkkimie]

aQmohra Sorry that it has been a long time, for some reason your post was flagged as a spam so it did not end up in my mentions. I apologize. I would say that like SepherStar mentioned, men do have requirements as well but they tend to be fewer but more specified, and harder to achieve. For most men for example, retaining that 0,7 hip to waist ratio is preferred with some standard deviation (SD) possible. It is not specific to height or weight, rather it is that ratio with SD present that matters. Studies conducted even on blind males found that they found women with this 0,7 hip to waist ratio as the most preferred. However it is also true that a man will never not date a beautiful lady even if she is employed, doesn't own a house or whatever. Women will reconsider twice their companion even if they are otherwise handsome, and they do so because you have to remember that women bare higher risks getting involved with someone, not like men can. Women have to remember to consider the possibility of getting pregnant, and all the risks that process has, especially should the companion turn out to be irresponsible in some way. So of course it is a lot easier for us men to be rather inconsiderate about the other characteristics of the person we are with, while women can't be as careless about it as we can. This is probably also why women tend to be a bit more anxious and careful with whom they choose to associate with, and are more concerned over their own well being than men are. I am not here to to tell anyone who is right and who is wrong so anyone reading these comments can leave that evaluation up to the individual, I am just here to give description about what is currently observable and known.

[@alexanderdelacruz9249]

After the matchmaker's entrance( crossed eyed and that bong cymbal) this vid became a joke to me, 😂

[@CraigRodmellMusic]

I think this video was a joke Full Stop.

[@ailsasun9308]

Smh. Don't hate on her. Chinese people are like that as a culture. Many women look for slightly (or more) older, rich, and good-looking. But it's mostly the upper class people who are pickier. But she's just the norm. Even ABC's, when they bring home a significant other, expect for them to be heavily scrutinized and questioned by their parents. Job stability , etc. It's normal

[@rachelgarber1423]

This is a different culture, where parents have much more influence over their children's lives. They probably teach their daughters to look for more successful men.

[@johnballard6725]

Sounds a very unattractive culture to me.

[@xtxpxhx]

Are you kidding, marriage for love is a relatively new concept in human societies and when pursued mindlessly, quite unhealthy for the couple involved...

[@smithcas86]

I want... I want.... I want..... I want...... I want....... No wonder shes still single.

[@sabersahoge2695]

but she's is a million air and can do anything she want instead doing house work for a douchebag

[@kurokamei]

+dead _ pool exactly. but why is she whining again?

[@ShadowyKatz]

Right, how dare a woman want something in a relationship instead of picking a random piece of trash of the street. Don't act like men don't do the same thing.

[@infinitelink]

Olivia Rosario how dare men also have standards of decency to be careful about who they pick and say so aloud!

[@daviszhu2501]

except our standard isn't as high as these women are. The video already says women in China expect a man to make more money than her, own their own homes, and the lady in the video said she expects her man to be 5'9. Get the F outa here! If guys had the same standards as women did, there would definitely be no more dating.

[@khunter50]

She put it out there, I hope she doesn’t have to settle! 👍🏽

[@alvilla701]

3 year ago she was looking for a 5ft, 9 inches or taller and more money than her, now she is okay with 5-7 and same money that her. I'll wait 6 more years, I am 5-5 and without any money

[@TriLe-nz4oq]

Hahahahahahahahahahaahhaahahahahahahhahaahahahahahahahahahha Lets do the math. 3 years ago she is 22. Now shes 25. Ankther 6 years shell be 31. Hahahaha

[@randalftheblack2572]

Chinese leftover men: Leftover because there's literally not enough women to go around. Chinese leftover women: Leftover because they aren't willing to settle for anything less than perfection.

[@fckstreetshitters4294]

asian men are just seen as providers,not lovers

[@taurus7911]

Skjdi Zijsi what do you expect? Love is a very western concept, sadly

[@supermonk3y07]

not so much anymore

[@ay5830]

She provides for herself... tf. All she wanted was a man who is as successful as she is

[@youtubevids9449]

@@ay5830 if she is a provider herself, why does she need someone as successful as she is? Because for most women, marriage is about social status, not love.

[@KaiDecadence]

I think it's great that women are pursuing careers they want but this is the kind of pitfall that can happen when one gets too successful. Hearing this woman say she wants a man who makes way more money than her while she's also VERY successful and ahead of the game well, she's entitled to her preference and she has the right to keep looking but I think she's going to have a very tough time if she seriously wants a man because on average, rich, affluent men don't really care about a woman's financial success all that much and care more about looks + personality. I'm not saying that she can't find this man, in this dating atmosphere anything is possible but I think she's in for a bit of bumpy ride.

[@dcclark2113]

average height for Asian men in china is 5.5ft good luck lady

[@Will.Flavell]

Lot of those Asian men are losers too 😂😂😂

[@HarleyQuinn-zo4sh]

I see a lot of people talking about women being materialistic. Not all of us are, generalization is not intelligent. Also, notice that this is part of their culture; the women are told to marry high, not for money but for the security of their children. We Americans see everything as a big deal; we've become a sensitive nation. No rich men should not be the only ones with wives, but you can't expect to have a prosperous family with little to no income. Children cost guys, especially in China. Even here in America you see poor families struggle, they have to work to the bone just to make ends meet. Everything they achieve is from hard work. It's not that the rich do not work hard but they have the opportunity to do more than the poor. Read a history book and you'll see that unsuccessful men usually died alone, it's not right but it's reality. Get over yourselves lol.

[@rachelhendricks6886]

Yeah my boyfriend was 6'6 and handsome and acted so kind, but turned out to be a genuine sociopath living a double life. He was able to lie through his teeth and act completely innocent about anything. Now I'd settle for a short guy if he was genuinely kind enough.

[@MN-mc8ik]

Amy Smith settled : / one day your ganna look at your husband and say if only i could have bagged that 6'6 guy. and ur ganna resent ur man

[@LegoSwordViedos]

Women seem to love to throw around words like sociopath ect, when talking about their ex's. And that they themselves had no problems at all. I don't buy it, sounds to me like more making excuses to cover your own faults as is all to common.

[@ComicsplaygroundTV]

Wellsaid😂

[@Mashali541]

1:15 the matchmakers entry had me dying 😂😂

[@umiekalsom3981]

a very negative labels towards a highly functioning and contributing population of the community. this is oppression

[@bootlace7756]

Coming from a traditional Chinese family, I can honestly relate to this

[@Zyscheriah]

Rich girl: "Makes more money than i do" Me watching this:😂🤣😂🤣 goodluck

[@mcry4201]

Nothing's wrong here. Smart educated women who want someone as smart and educated as them, makes perfect freaking sense.

[@limitless1692]

money money money yeah and women scream for equality... what a joke!

[@dawne5139]

She has money. What she wants is a man who is not after her for her money.

[@alishashiva4934]

@tjungblast 00 I've infact heard someone say that. Not everything works according to the western stereotypes. There was this story of a stay at home dad who got frustrated and killed his own baby because he had to look after the baby himself. I wish i was making this up. But it's true 😕. Sadly i don't have a link i can send to you assuming you don't know my language.

[@4evertrue830]

Based on this woman's reasoning she may end up as a left over woman that is certain. What she does not understand is the successful men she is looking for are already married, and those that are single will equally be as picky as her.

[@freegoldbug]

That entrepreneur woman looks terrible at only 25 years of age. And her expectations are completely unrealistic. No wonder she's a leftover. In the matchmaking market the laws of demand and supply still apply. Lower the price till you find a buyer.

[@lt.ethereal6496]

but she's still not considered leftover, she has a few more years before she gets branded that

[@Fearlessfighter0]

HAHA THATS RIGHT

[@MissMiserize]

I understand the unfortunate existence of the biological cloak, but fertility starts taking a dip when you're 35 (for females) and you can still easily get pregnant before 40. After 40 there's a host of problems for women AND men (because even if you can keep making swimmers until you die, they're not a good as they once were!) Calling a young 27 year old women a 'leftover' is ridiculous. We're living longer healthier lives, we don't need to get married so young! I'm Indian, and my grandmothers got married at 18, should I too? Times have changed, and if you take care of yourself, you won't look/feel/act old at 30. Just look up some Korean celebrities if you doubt me. (Before you make assumptions about me, I'm only 22 years old, and I'mma be 22 forever with my healthy habits.)

[@Keepedia99]

1:43, Japanese??

[@katie-st8nx]

If you're a career woman tbh there's nothing wrong with the guy raising the kids. My aunt and uncle are super happy and the kids are way closer then if both parents were hyper focused on their careers. She's honestly kind of overly picky and shallow.

[@bicky210]

I'm here today to look for partners for my son and daughter. I HAVE TWO KIDS. How did you figure that out?

[@TriLe-nz4oq]

Lols

[@myriamarturo9125]

Prefer to be a leftover woman than a bored wife that is a slave to her husband.

[@ishkabibble2204]

is this a Saturday night live skit?

[@TURBOBEATZZZ]

With all that cash why does she have wooden teeth🤣🤣🤣?

[@ccwnoob4393]

Hieght, money, possessions, and a personality that focuses on MeMeMe - wow.

[@yushi911]

Just face the reality. She is not looking to find a lover . She is looking to find the perfect husband resume...someone that she will be proud to present to her family and friends. We have the same problem for the chinese girl who grow up in North America. Usually, girls do better at school and eventualy get better jobs. They have good jobs, good education, well adapt to the western culture and they also want equity on the domestic house keeping works ...the BIG difference with continental chinese girls, the ABC girls wants to find LOVE. I see a lot of ABC girls be in couple with western guys. Western guy are romantic because for them the couple is more important than the family. ..anyways they won,t fall for the Chinese boy raise in ultra patriarchal culture.