CHIT CHAT GRWM: Let’s be honest, BBL Bodies are the BEAUTY STANDARD (Self Love) | RPGShow wig

[@ToniOlaoye]

Thank you all for sharing your answers and as someone who had liposuction done; I still struggled with this and considered even more surgery as the years went on because I was trying to “fix” my imperfections. I’m not against surgery because it can be helpful for our self confidence eg breast lift, fixing your teeth, gastric bypass (weight loss surgery) even BBLs. I’m just urging us to take a deeper look inside before we make life changing decisions to our bodies. 💞💞💞

[@joyceyugi9266]

I'm so glad you posted this video

[@faidhazam4582]

Well writ

[@belnkrumah5517]

Wish you could share where (the clinic) you did your bbl....

[@Cy_Ebono]

I was 90 pounds looking like a 12 yr old up until my 2nd pregnancy at 30. During that pregnancy, I developed all kinds of curves that I never thought my body would ever have. My body develops very very slowly. I started working out and I was able to shape her the best I could. I'm glad there was no bbl then because I probably would have spent money on something I had naturally had but wasn't matured yet.

[@Lsgworx]

My 2nd pregnancy gave me curves too😂

[@Cy_Ebono]

We have taken this to a whole new level of obsession. Every 5 to 10 years it's a new shape we are obsessed over. 10 years ago it was the lean skinny European looks that was trendy and women starved, sucked out fat, and cut all kinds of things to be skinny. now its thick full booty and boobs with tiny waist and we have gone back to fill up. We seem to be shape-shifting every 5 years. Who deals with that. I will be here watching, I refuse to be subjected to such agony by any kind of trend. Eat what you love in moderation, excercise and keep stress level down.

[@graceba3490]

Amen to that Cynthia! If you and he does not like you naturally then bye.

[@zizio.1776]

💯👌

[@lenab.m.3708]

The thing is that social media doesn't represent the real life.. there are and will always be men loving the one or the other natural shape of a woman. Only the dusty / fetishizers will prefer the fake instagram look for real.

[@unwanaenang1612]

You're right. I remember about 20 years ago, there was a vogue article ratting on black women for having fat lips and that standard should be thin lips. That year and those following lots of black women did what was called lip tucks. Other articles railed black women for having big butts and hips. Guess what, black women started doing procedures to reduce butt size... Most of the hate on black women was just white folk being jealous they couldn't attain those looks naturally and set out to mess with black folk. 20 years later: the millennials come along and throw all political correctness out the window and set the average black woman as the beauty standard, skin and all. These days you see some of them using black makeup online... Japanese have started perming their hair afro with straw curls... These facts are verifiable online. I wish I could ask black women who got lip tucks what they feel when they see that white women are now getting lip fillers... Think about everything carefully! The plot is thickening. They want to be us, hair, skin, lips, hips, arse, arms, voice, confidence and all... Listen black girl, you're the desire of nations. Ultimately God loves us equally and if we stop looking at each other's bodies and look into God we'll eventually get it right.

[@naimalee1046]

Exactly

[@tori_temi]

same thing with skin bleaching here in Nigeria, these things are really hard to maintain and then you never end up solving the "problem" which wasn't a problem in the first place. You just create unnecessary problems and health concerns. I really wish brands and influential women would do better❤

[@a.sydney5036]

Dark skin bleaching never looks good or normal. Ever. It's only unnoticeable on girls who already bright skinned people. Like Nicky.

[@OmabelleTV]

Toni I’m for the first time hearing the name Hip dip. Had to Google it and OMG so everyone has it😳 I keep complaining about mine and how every other person has a full hip & I don’t🤣 Lord help us Women. Hmmm, you couldn’t have said it better. The beauty standards these days is unattainable and if you ask people who are heavy into plastic surgeries, they will tell you they still haven’t achieved the look they have in their heads even after 20 surgeries. The Society is messed up and Social media isn’t helping matters 💔☹️😩

[@sweetestnectareva]

Well said

[@africanigbolove]

Agreed!

[@stanicedaley6477]

Funny I just did this myself. I thought it was something else all this time.

[@Elohoralago]

You've said it all

[@ToniOlaoye]

Lyou’re so right! 💞💞💞

[@kharahJay]

I've never thought about doing BBL, what I do think about is working out and really transforming my body. Personally don't see anything wrong with working out. It really helps ur body.

[@bebeade71]

Same. I want to do it Naturally and achieve it through hardwork so I know the time and energy I put to really be healthy and transform my body

[@dreamqueen3331]

This. You can without a doubt measure someone's self confidence and level of self love by what they what to get done to themselves. Some of us know it could never be worth it, working out and getting healthy is the best form of self love and not only will it make you so PROUD of yourself for the hard work you put in but it will really change the way you feel about yourself as well.

[@naenae4169]

You’re the first KZbinr I’ve heard that has spoken nothing but the truth! I honestly think it’s starting to become a problem. What makes this worst is that people (influencers) keep saying it’s fine to do this and it’s your body. I get that but at the same time these influencers have the money and sponsorship deals with these clinics whereas the viewer doesn’t have that privilege thus making them find low budget doctors who are not professional and could potentially harm/kill these young girls. I think it is a very sad time we are in. I’m a Christian and tbh I feel like every time we complain about our bodies (I’m guilty of this as well) we are just insulting God. The Bible says He made us in His image and likeness. We are fearfully and wonderfully made. But now social media is telling us that what we naturally have is ugly or we are not meeting the standards. It is my prayer that people make informed decisions before going to get a huge procedure like this for the right reasons because like you said once you get one thing done it won’t end there.

[@devoraht4828]

Amen, you have just proven that God exists and he made us Truly in his image, this whole norm of society making it look like getting something done to your body is the highest form of insult to God, because we are all created in his image and one thing this world needs urgently is the spread of self love because God loves us so much, we really don't need more influencers spreading lack of self love, it's really sad and it's really dangerous to mock God in such a way because his wrath is unavoidable. May God have mercy on this earth.🙏

[@christinaiam1]

🗣Force ! So what about people that have back problems from big boobs and teeth issues, excessive skin from significant weight loss etc…. Also as a Christian we are to leave judgment up to God and to Disciple one another all I see is criticism and judgment, nothing about this comment and upload gives christian Values.

[@naenae4169]

@@christinaiam1 my sister that’s why I said make an informed decision. I know there are people who do it for good reason ( excess skin from weight loss, health reasons and as you mentioned breast augmentation) but if it’s being done in vain what purpose does that serve and also are we comfortable with the fact that many people are dying from this and the increased issues of insecurities stemming from this

[@devoraht4828]

@@naenae4169 exactly, when it's for health purposes it is used to save lives, but if it's in vain, changing your form simply because you are saying God didn't make you perfect, you are simply telling God that this is how you should have created me, that is the insult, my sister Renee you are absolutely right its in vain, as Christians we also have the right to stand for the laws of God, we are not judging people so, @C C please where are you presenting the laws in this.

[@ReeRee_Donita]

I agree with you sis, though my stance is more controversial because I recognise that it could easily cross the line into aesthetic absolutism. I’m also quite conservative. I personally believe that the general language deployed when we give advice to women about their bodies needs to change. Instead of telling women they should “do it if you want to- your body, your choice”, we should be telling them “go ahead, but know what you’re getting yourself into”. The latter is the type of language that is more likely to arouse the conscience and cause you to not act impulsively. That way, we’re giving them their agency to act and also actively making them introspect. We need to at least give women the chance to be rational thinking agents, rather than let them chase vanities just because they can do what they want with their bodies, particularly if those vanities don’t guarantee any real happiness. I guess this is the main issue with late-stage capitalism (its relationship with beauty has a long history) : any view on beauty that seems to head towards an absolutist trajectory is automatically labelled “policing the female body”, however there are so many legitimate moral concerns surrounding it, despite its prescriptive undertone.

[@ijeomademerkins]

When Beyoncé said It’s the soul that needs the surgery. I felt that 😭

[@ToniOlaoye]

😂😂

[@Hersheykisss03]

She got a bbl tho lol

[@ijeomademerkins]

@@Hersheykisss03 ikrrr😂😂😂

[@ChisomUtazi]

But she have done a lot of surgeries tho

[@ijeomademerkins]

@@ChisomUtazi she couldn’t take her own advice 😂

[@judithogboru3808]

I’ve never considered getting a BBL, and even if I had a lot of money, I still wouldn’t do it. The truth of the matter is that our body’s first function is and always will be to keep us alive. Period. So every time I look in the mirror and feel some type of way, I switch that energy to positive thoughts towards my body for keeping me alive and for keeping me healthy. And because of that mindset I actively want to take care of my body, I want to eat well and exercise and drink lots of water. I won’t deny that I like cake and pizza and whatnot though. And I don’t totally deprive myself of that because what’s life without good food lol. Ultimately though, I know that my body is mine and I’m probably never going to look like Kim K or whoever the current “body goals” person is, even if I had a strict diet and worked out like crazy, the fat distribution on my body isn’t made for that. So I just focus on being healthy and going through life thankful that I have a body that carries me through a whole pandemic even when I’m not always the best to it

[@lehnaxxo5450]

AMEN!! Thank you !!!! Your comment is gold sis ❤️

[@kdh1830]

I love this perspective. Very wise!!!

[@livingtestimonyqueens5554]

This is beautiful ! 👏🏼❤️❤️

[@zeewann]

Beautifully said!

[@thickykeyona7932]

The best comment i read. Never considered a bbl myself...but im human & some days dont like how i look...When i look in the mirror & feel some type of way im gonna remember what you said.God blessed me with this body & i am thankful & will take care of my temple. Thanks sis

[@chelseacarmenn]

Spent a long time hating my body because people around me would always make fun of my hips and I have definitely considered getting surgery done but then I re-kindled my love for fitness and realised damn my body is actually doing what it needs to do and I am a Bad b. Body dysmorphia is real and it takes videos like these to allow people to look deeper so thank you for sharing ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@gatestimonymiracle1302]

Wow this is why I often dismiss people's opinions. They are brainwashed into thinking what is beautiful

[@lawonyinye7056]

@@gatestimonymiracle1302 they are not brainwashed, society is just mean

[@Melissahealtsci]

Nope, working in the hospital I see people fighting to live everyday.. I don’t want to take my life for granted like that.. life is so short.. 🙏🏾 ! I def see the pressure from social media

[@chrissophie1010]

"I am my own beauty standard" ❤❤❤❤❤ truly self love is a journey, really learnt alot from this video Thanks toni Really loved the look 😍😍😍

[@ighoogieva]

Thank you so much for talking about this. Over here in Nigeria, for those who can’t afford BBL, they result to buying herbal concoctions not minding the futuristic effects ... honestly the insecurities is getting out of hand. Ladies should learn how to love their bodies first, rather than seeking for approval. #you are as healthy as your mind. Thank u for spilling this truth 🧡

[@dreamqueen3331]

All the chicks in the comment section like "I hear you BUT I still want to get work done" then a whole list of excuses for why...sis... Did y'all listen to what she said at all? Love your body for how it is..all the girls still saying that are really saying "you are right but I dont love myself and I never will so I am willing to risk it" It's just sad and pathetic.

[@user-yf9df1vc2v]

Okay, leave people to do what they want it’s their lawful right. You can give your opinions 365 days a year and no one is obligated to take it in, that’s why it’s your opinion. Don’t even attempt to Shame any woman in this comments because a 12 minutes video didn’t change their perspective or insecurities.

[@preciousuma8293]

And one year later, she has done her body lol. Hope you are enjoying your new body babes 😊

[@oh-ef1qs]

This 😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@lifewithsha4783]

What did she have done

[@preciousuma8293]

@@lifewithsha4783 her booty

[@sylviaofurum9333]

Bbl

[@ebubechukwuokeke9307]

I’m 20. I’ve always envied some women’s body but recently, I am my own goal. The ideal body I can realistically get is in my head. I work out too. But I’ve never considers BBL. And I really admire you.

[@WhizQueen]

Finally someone talking about this!!! We need to preach self love and acceptance. Not everything on your body should be ‘fixed’

[@MsSummerable]

I saw a post that side eat what you want, nobody is going to say "oh she had a flat stomach when you die" and I totally felt that, because as you look in the mirror you're always seeing something that you may want to change. I have big boobs and sometimes I have a hard time accepting it, but now I'm starting to embrace the fact that if I eat healthy and exercise I'll get to the weight I want which would reduce my boobs.

[@charmainechabalala]

But am not gonna die anytime soon

[@piela_n]

it's not even about having a big butt anymore. it's "BBL" bodies that are preferred 🙃

[@CookingWithVoluntas]

Personally, been a bad B, it’s all about your confidence. Not judging anyone but please don’t go and die because of a perfect body. I won’t get a bbl because you still gonna want to fix something on that body again. Queens you are beautiful and just stay healthy.

[@tonicoc0]

true about 19yr olds; i was so insecure then but as at 24 i developed a fantastic body. be patient into your grown years sis

[@KHADIJAT]

I don’t think I will ever get one!!! To be sincere, there are somethings I wish were better on me but who is perfect!!! Since last year, I started working on loving my self more and I am grateful to be doing good with that journey

[@joshie19922]

I’m thankful that I’m from the Caribbean because the level of insecurity and ‘weak mental’ of the American society scares me. Like Jesus

[@ms_kedi8345]

Listen! Americans scare me! Everytime I watch American KZbin I feel sad for them. They criticize things that I grew up thinking are beautiful. I hope one day they realize how beautiful they are.

[@nnekaezeanya.]

Self love and self acceptance is honestly a journey and a journey comes with ups and downs. I really love this video.

[@lezbethidowu1903]

This wig is giving everything it’s supposed to give

[@inioluwaolawole228]

This was so refreshing Toni 'I am my beauty standard' 😊 Lots of love from over here 💓

[@ToniOlaoye]

💞💞

[@emediongetok]

I have considered getting liposuction actually in the future if anything doesn't change but you've touched my hair. The thing is until you exceed all other solutions, them you can consider the extreme solutions but one thing I've learnt is if you love yourself truly and completely, these things wouldn't matter as much as they do.

[@OpenUpYourHeartPod]

Toni thank you so much for talking about this!!! I love that you didn't sugar coat it. I recently made a video on my channel about body image as well because it had to be said and I love what you said about influencers. So amazing!!!

[@HairbyBabs]

I have definitely thought of getting a bbl and still thinking but my workouts is paying off so I’d rather go with that,maintaining bbl is difficult as working out so why not workout rather than going through so much pain,risk and lots of money when you’re still going to have to maintain it..my two-coin🤞🏼

[@Mibiafolabi]

I am my own beauty standard. Periodt!

[@skymccreery]

You are so beautiful inside and out!! It isn’t worth it. You are so correct . As well said , Khloe did all that and guess what Kristan still cheated on her. You have to love yourself and whatever you decide make sure it is for you !!!

[@kdh1830]

Beyonce and Jay Z as well!

[@gatestimonymiracle1302]

Let's first stop bullying those who don't have surgery. Everyone is beautiful and they need to know that

[@Uzzymami]

This video is exactly what ii wanted to hear. I've been struggling with my weight and it stresses me tf out. The part that got to me was the twitter post you put up. Self love isn't as easy as social media makes it seem and i think we all struggle with it. I really hope i end up loving my body unconditionally!

[@zaitunnkubitu1109]

You just made me realize that I may have a little bit of BDD. I have never considered having surgery cause am afraid for my life but I am always looking for otherwise to get there. Eating heavily, working out, constantly weighing and measuring myself. I just need to find a way to actually love and accept myself. Thanks, Toni Sending love from Kenya

[@ItsEulanda]

Toni I totally love your honesty and openness to this... And yass girl I stand with in every opinion you stated out here. And BBL is something I will blame the society for...there is this concept the society places on the feminine body and that's why I am not against people for it. But then reasons for doing it matter. Well thank you so much for bringing this out on the table❤️

[@9icequeen543]

I love this❣...We are so hard on ourselves. Everyone has that something no matter how beautiful we all truly are there will always be something about us we don't like and some of us are our greatest critic so we buy in...I haven't heard anyone say after plastic surgery omg its perfect 👌 now I'm perfect...its just sad.

[@adwoaboakye265]

Its the ruger bounce instrumental playing in the background for me❤️💕

[@thebarrettclancanada]

Love the wig! Self love is EVERYTHING!

[@nursebondemcanada]

Definitely

[@TwinkleOrujuba]

The funny thing is that it is now a norm …everyone wants to be perfect but no one can be perfect … 99.1 percent of women on social media are all carrying loads behind … well everyone should do what works for them .. at the end of the day beauty will fade , No one leaves this earth with perfection body 😃but trust me it’s all for the moment… Also most women do it for their fellow women not even men …it’s an ass competition era 🥲 Your hair is beautiful 😍

[@thandiwenhlapo5120]

“ In the last days , people will come lovers of self”

[@amiraidris2632]

Woa i hv loved ur arms and legs for days i used to wish i had them.I think social media worsened d situation cause I just came out of my own dysmorphia I stopped taking pictures of myself for like 2 years cos I thought my arms are thin I never hv good angles and all buh I discovered recently that no woman is ever satisfied with her body . Social media made it worse I found out ppl edit their complexion. I also found out recently a KZbinr was darker in reality the whole situation is just messed up. probably if we stop trying to fit into standards that are fake we would have better body positivity. I love you loads toni. thank u for being real

[@vmokgotho7843]

😙. I think it is mostly in the US and other parts (Idk just observation) in SA personally it's rear to find someone who has done a BBL and trust and believe there us a lot if curves in here

[@ToniOlaoye]

Yes that’s true

[@BabyCheLiita]

Same un EU. Thais not common at all

[@BreeonaNechole]

It’s not that common in most American states. I don’t know any women personally who get these surgeries

[@iFyLingo]

Omo in SA y’all are born with FREE BBL

[@chilandomuyaule301]

That’s true, most SA women are curvy naturally.

[@Ejisfoodkorner]

Girl you have said it all, you are your self beauty standard, self love is the best keep fit and keep your self in good condition, your hair is so beautiful, you are beautiful the way God created your makeup is bomb, keep that positive thinking dear ❤️👍🏾

[@iffeehh]

I always struggle with my hip dips and most importantly my big arm. I still do and I’m always considering having my body done. I guess I haven’t done it because I can’t afford it but also because at the back of my mind im thinking about the risk

[@anneanabui9440]

Thank you toni for this video. Been struggling with body image. Been slim all my life. I always tired to eat so much food to add weight. But God is really teaching me how to love myself and my body. I have never considered doing bbl or any body enhancement before. I'm scared of surgeries 😩. I always pray to God to not even think of it. I love your hair by the way. You are very pretty. ❤

[@Ellenelcyy007]

I enjoyed this video 💚💚 I always considered a bbl even though I do have a nice shape but I’ve always felt like my stomach area has been my main problem area. If I had the money in my younger days, I think there would of been a 30% chance that I would have gotten it . And that’s only because I always think about the dangers of it . None the less, I admire my shape and body and was never too pressed about bbl’s bc honestly I could work out and get the natural results that I desire . So to anyone considering a bbl , do your research and pray about it if anything ! And stop letting the “influencers” influence you ! You’re beautiful no matter what !!! 💚💚

[@tennysnatural]

Toni you are a genius, you wouldn't have said it any better

[@dooseabege]

Love the make and hair transformation 🔥. Body positivity comes from within, believing you are that b, regardless. And if one decides to tweak a thing or two it should come from a place of security and confidence cause it might still not be enough

[@iamodette4352]

Everything you said is 💯💯💯 true we all go through body image issues and it’s soooooooo hard to accept yourself, but girl your body looks soooooo good 😍😍😍😍

[@chinemelumibenegbu2249]

I’m not going to lie I’ve considered getting a BBL procedure done but I had to do some soul searching and also thanks to Botched on E, I came to realize that people can get addicted to “fixing” their bodies which often lead to them ruining their bodies. Now I just workout and I’m more confident then ever. Still struggle with loving my body on some days but it’s wayyy better than it used to be

[@michmichxo22]

I also blame fast fashion brands for mostly hiring models with perfect bodies then people get disappointed at how good they would also look if they also had similar bodies. Imagine consuming such images since your early teens obviously you will think that your body is subpar

[@devoraht4828]

We need more brands that advertise products in different types of bodies to make people love the look of everything, if anything these fashion brands are only promoting insecurities in people than self love.

[@leauxdaniels8155]

Those models don’t even have the perfect body-they too have bbls and is heavily photoshopped

[@Jaimelikegem]

I wouldn't get a bbl. I think it looks ridiculous and I have the means to do it, with it not being any skin off my teeth. Id do other types of surgeries though. Pdo brow lift and pdo mid lateral face lift. Id even consider a nose job. The nose job I debate frequently. I was gonna get it done when I was 19 but I decided not to. Im 22 now. Body wise, the body I want can only be achieved through the gym and I already basically have it. Just need to do more cardio to really define the abs. Emrata is my body goals and I model, so having the out of control booty is not on my radar. Plus its the most deadly surgery lol, so I don't know why anyone thinks its worth it. I think you look fine the way you are. Feeling strong is and healthy is better than having a big ass booty that can kill you in my opinion

[@therealmotherfvther]

I think your nose is great

[@kta150]

You are so beautiful. I think your nose is just fine is looks great on you.

[@nj5709]

Girl, where do you work?! That BBL isn’t skin off you? Put us on deadass 😅

[@chiedzamtetwa6156]

Loved this video. Thank you so much Toni. So many gems in this video!❤️

[@_sochima]

Honestly, you bad as hell! I’m sure you probably hear that from others but let me be the one to tell you! This was a great video and your timing couldn’t have been any more perfect. Keep putting out mad content and may you continue to grow and glow IJN. ❤️

[@ToniOlaoye]

Amen ! Thank you babe 💞💞💞

[@giftb3438]

real talk about bbl and I respect you for it. end of the day it's choice over anything but I agree with the fact that girls should not be doing any form of plastic surgery especially bbls for the wrong reasons gorgeous hair and makeup btw :)

[@RehobothMankhanamba]

notification gang. finally other video love you Toni

[@consilliamakhubele642]

People need to understand that trying to correct God permanently have serious consequences... I have small boobs people especially men have bullied me but girl! I don't give a damn coz am grateful of who I am... It all starts with self acceptance period...

[@dreamqueen3331]

Without a doubt! Only the real ones can understand this

[@ifybabes4037]

Ah! I'm here early ❤❤❤ toni. Also, honestly if I ever consider a surgery to enhance my body, it would be to take out fat around my stomach area. I have thought about it a lot and I will probably do it after having kids. My reason being that I have always had a smaller waist and flat tummy, and even a little bloating affects my confidence. So yes cosmetic surgery definitely will help in the future

[@chelsearose8373]

I like the honesty in this video other than doing liposuction, what other procedures have you had done?

[@lizzyhair26]

Love love love this video. One needs to get to a point where you ABSOLUTELY love the body one is in.

[@sydneyharris5024]

I’ve definitely thought about getting a BBL. I know a few cousins and friends that have gotten their bodies done but I’ve noticed that the body that I would like to have is not ONLY attainable by surgery but being intentional about what I eat, drink, and working out consistently.

[@ziikandid]

love this conversation

[@th3739]

These females need to be informed and educated and find and be REAL ROLE MODELS. These things come with maturity not age. Celebrities, social influencers, social media are a facade. Distracting gullible ppl from real issues😒 #StayWoke #SetYourAlarm

[@naimalee1046]

💯💯💯

[@BlessingTanix]

You couldn’t have said it better. It’s always our insecurities trying to take control. It’s so hard. My hip dips is now my biggest insecurity but i am still thinking if getting a bbl in the future is the best option or not.Thanks for sharing 🥰🥰

[@chinasa_]

Your makeup is 🔥. I love the glowing skin 🥰

[@MsAnabel1000]

The only thing that is preventing me is that I have been diagnosed with high blood pressure and most doctors are not willing to sit the procedure .. I don’t like the way my body is even with working out I didn’t have the body I want. I definitely will get it down like Liposuction

[@haleemahabdulaziz8410]

i always have big a bigger girl, i was told when i was 12 by a relative that i have a males structure. i have broad shoulders i am curvy but i dont have the butt that matches. on some days i feel like i'm that girl and some other days i feel so insecure. i'm glad i found this video and i feel confident.

[@lesedikhoaripe8072]

🤩🤩OMG TONI!! ROAD to 50K 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎊🎊🎊

[@kdh1830]

I think I’ve come to realize. A knife will not solve self hate. You’ll just find something else you dislike. That’s how people get addicted to surgery. I say more work on the mental. Less focus on the superficial physical (unless it’s about being healthy)

[@AFocusedLiving]

That’s why I deleted Instagram because I was about to take a loan for it

[@faidhazam4582]

Whaa@aat, clever move though

[@OyintofeOduyingbo]

I feel like beauty standards belong in the bin. Imagine what you hate about yourself is something someone else really wants. Achieving perfection is IMPOSSIBLE because everyone has their own idea of perfection, so you can never please everyone. I feel if you are doing anything you should really think deep down if you’d be happy with what you want to change a few years down because the way beauty trends start and stop is alarming. I know someone who hated the way her lips looked growing up because they were big, I’m sure if she had the opportunity then to change them she would have without knowing a few years later it would be something almost everyone would want. Self love in this time is soo difficult because sometimes you are feeling on top of the world and someone from nowhere would have the audacity to comment something hateful on your post causing to start rethinking your whole life. Basically what I am saying is, loving yourself shouldn’t be a trend because trends end quickly. Everyone has something they’d want to change about themselves and sometimes people just project that insecurity on others.

[@OyintofeOduyingbo]

I went and typed an epistle…. This topic is really close to my heart 😅. BTW you look lovely Toni!

[@tracynjoku1455]

Toni I get all you are saying, but do you think liposuction (which you've done) is safer than bbl

[@sarahtheshiznet]

Lipo is apart of bbl

[@luvinlyrics]

It absolutely is. Any doctor will tell you that BBL’s are so unsafe because of how difficult it is to be sure the fat isn’t injected into a blood vessel until it’s far too late to stop it from causing a heart attack.

[@obsteph]

Radical self love 💕💯💯💯💯💯

[@zeroxbg428]

The look is everything.. about the bbl I so love myself but yes I would do it an my belly got 2 kids which ruined my belly

[@Bella-jl8ly]

Thank you for talking about body image. I have money to do whatever surgery I like if I want to but I will never do any plastic surgery Cause its not worth it. I just workout and eat healthy.

[@Moran.A]

Well I stay in a very small African country,I have never heard of this BBL,I however know of the news about women dying doing these surgeries. I also have a problem from when I was a young child,our doctors injected us medication through our butts,and most of us got bad scars from them,me being among them,at 21 I have learnt to leave the insecurities of by butt scars and dips caused by these injections and move on. Life is short and to meet real people in this world,you have to be yourself. Stay safe and love your bodies.

[@lynnestherermano8205]

So you see...this IS what you Said one year ago, knewing you were concerned yourself. Its Amazing how difficult it IS to assume our choices. Hope you are fine with your New body anyway dear.

[@meedayslays]

Definitely getting a bbl cos for some of us it’s been one hell of a ride. Worked out like crazy, done all sorts of diet but still, the tummy won’t go anywhere. I was very religious with my weight loss regimen the whole of the lockdown/pandemic. I was so thin but stilllllllll the belly was huge. I just want to be able to wear a damn dress and not look like spongebob. There’s this confidence you get in wearing a dress and it looks good on your body. I’ve had to stay away from form fitting dresses and sexy outfits cos the belly is a problem. I can’t go out and eat properly cos I be looking like a pregnant woman the moment I get up from the table (It’s embarrassing and you’re even still hungry ffs) p.s. I don’t even eat much. It’s the only way to jumpstart the perfect body for some of us. Some people already have good bodies but just want it to look perfect while some of us just want to be able to rock our “ashawo clothes” (I have so many I keep holding on to cos I’m hoping the tummy fat will loose me at a point 😩) but then! To each his own. I’ll just advise anyone looking to get their bodies done “don’t let the price be the reason you get a botched job.... inasmuch as we don’t get to tell people what to do with their money, please RESEARCH! Expensive doesn’t always mean good too but then there are loads of doctors willing to do it at really cheap rates it’s beginning to look scary. So again, do your RESEARCH”

[@ToniOlaoye]

Girl; get that BBL if you want! Only YOU knows what’s best for you and your self confidence 💞💞💞

[@doorknob2545]

It's important to remember that the female body is a trend unfortunately. Every decade different female body types are uplifted and placed as the standard. Radical self love is the way to go!

[@jenniferclemons4766]

BBL is the current beauty standard. But, current is the key word. I'm almost 40. Beauty standards have changed wildly over the years.

[@umorenprecious6277]

I’ve not considered a bbl (yet cos I’ve seen people say they haven’t considered it and change their minds after a while) but I struggle with body dysmorphia… last year to a few months ago I was working out excessively till I got to a weight that was unsustainable and now that I no longer workout I feel fat everytime

[@ToniOlaoye]

Yeah over working your body to fit a certain weight/body standard is all a part of it. Just try to get balance with your fitness journey.

[@Yowlandeer]

Honestly, I made a decision to consider BBL after kids. I'm in my 20s and my body hasn't stopped growing.

[@susanadetiba921]

Thank you very much for making this video. It was really helpful.

[@jodygangoo2152]

I got my bbl done in May in Miami

[@sierrasierra1075]

First time coming across u but i loved ur honestyyy. Yes maybe if i had money I wud have gotten a smaller waist and its only cuz as a teen I have always loved to see very flat indented waist on the sides tho my stomach is very flat still now I am 31 with a 24 inch waist but it just doesnt have that side indent I love to see so much. I love how u said women in their teens and 20s shud not be considering bbl. I totally agree cuz women usually blossom between the ages of 20 to 25. I wud only understand if a woman in her early 20s did it if they had kids cuz u kno the struggle be real for some women after giving birth.

[@ToniOlaoye]

Hey! Well, welcome to my channel. I’m glad you like my content and you’re right. The struggle is real especially after Chile birth

[@sierrasierra1075]

@@ToniOlaoye thank u. I wasnt gonna subscribe cuz i have soo many already but u actually following ur viewers. Im impressed. Will subscribe now lol

[@puriezeondy9425]

If money wasn't an issue I'd get a beauty team - nutritionist, personal trainer and a Chinese medicine practitioner. Because since I started eating healthier, exercising and correcting my posture, my body is naturally becoming the 'ideal'. Went from apple to hourglass in 2 years...all for free!

[@FOODIEARENAAFRICA]

If tony olaoye can be a bit insecure about her beautiful body(hips) who are am i to not to complain. Anyways selflove is the best y’all

[@theresanamonje]

I am the beauty standard🙌🙌

[@A.babygirl4life]

People that claim they are tweaking their bodies because that is what they want “self care” don’t realise just how fickle the mind is. Sometimes I am shocked at how much my opinions on life have changed through the years, my dear you cannot trust your own mind oh, don’t let it fool you into tweaking your natural assets. If you don’t see the beauty in your natural shape, give it time and workout! You will never be like the other girls but you will be beautiful you and learn to accept yourself, that is the real self love, sometimes all it takes is you getting used to how you look. Looking through Ig pages with girls that look nothing like you does not help.

[@faitholadapo2196]

love this video , thanks for speaking on this

[@Elohoralago]

Chio as big as beautiful as your body that I admire she still feels it's not perfect. You're so beautiful Toni and thanks for spilling nothing but the truth about this whole damaging trend. It's the, if you're getting your body done for a guy it's not worth it. Love you. Thanks for the video.

[@Mz_zae]

Yes! Love this video👍🏾

[@mylilattempts]

The main reason for shortage on doctors in the Canadian health care system is actually funding. There’s usually a cap of the amount of available doctors in order to provide the “free” healthcare. That’s why it can be a hassle. Friggin sucks and dangerous tbh but I understand to an extent

[@lesedikhoaripe8072]

Well it’s not a BBL for me but if definitely get my boobs done. Reason: I’m 29 years old and barely fill up and A cup size which doesn’t look so great in clothes considering that my hips are a size 8 and waist is a 6 🥲🥲 Sucks

[@meka3506]

Fenugreek oil and massage them bad boys.

[@lesedikhoaripe8072]

@@meka3506 Thanks. Do you have any products that you can recommend?

[@saraaa922]

Exactly , u said it all

[@Kiki32131]

I don't have enough meat on my body for a BBL lol. I would like to get rid of my hip dips but I'm over 30 and could careless lol my forehead is big also lol hey girl hey....cute hair and makeup❤❤

[@ChisomUtazi]

I considered having a nose job when I was younger but not any more. I don't think I will get any cosmetic surgery, it's too stressful and the cons are too much.

[@JennA1]

I never considered getting BBL because I am scared of putting my life at risk, I already have a big butt but my tummy tho 🤦🏾‍♀️ I know I can fix it with a healthy diet

[@brittanymckenzie2135]

Girlfriend I'm in my 20's just had a baby and girl I don't like my postpartum body honestly I'm a Christian also but if money wasn't an issue n me being scared pertaining to surgery I would've considered doing a bbl and lipo 360 but I'll exercise eat healthy and reduce my stress levels n get my results the right way with healthy side effects #straight

[@mwansak8328]

The things is society is just horrible, when I look at the shade room and the comments about Coi Leary people tend to be so cruel and laugh at her for having a “boy body” which is just rude and such comments leave women wanting to change their body and when women with her body see those comments they tend to become insecure. People should understand skinny shaming is a thing and it’s horrible. In general people on the internet cyber bully out of projection on their own insecurities which is honestly sad