When A Straight Girl Flirts With You... | Chosen Family Podcast |

This evening around the dinner table: Debating age gap relationships, strap-ons, and whether or not Mak REALLY needs a bed. This week's questions: How do I befriend gay people who aren't furries? and finally, what do I do when a straight girl is flirting with me?
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[@graythompson7781]

I can't help but think we (the audience) are the family dog in this episode.

[@Anonymous-tl6tq]

fair enough

[@shaliekk]

TuhRuue!!

[@LamAnopro_]

@@ilovepie BOTTOMS

[@EternalGalaxies]

🐶 😂🤣

[@lucindasamira8351]

Wut 🤣

[@beethovenjunkie]

Alayna is really such a mom, just, the being disgusted by the way someone eats, the being nice to everyone approach to the world, the constant embarrassed giggling...

[@lilliangraham7345]

I feel like Alayna managed to escape sharing if she's done the leashing 😂 I love this podcast

[@nourishmentality1916]

Yeah, I left this feeling like she's defff been leashed! xD

[@Can-dice88]

I noticed this too!! 😂

[@bzzzzzzzzzzzzzz7120]

does anyone remember the puppy mask thirst trap where she said she felt like something had been awakened

[@mykamorningstar3964]

Was this a TikTok?? I feel like I need to see this!

[@bzzzzzzzzzzzzzz7120]

@@mykamorningstar3964 i definitely saw it as a tiktok, give it a scroll!

[@chambless09]

The way Mak will stay quiet for 70% of the episode; seem super hesitant and unsure, but then every time she opens her mouth, says something so deep and intelligent. 😍😂😘

[@IguessImight]

Yes!!!

[@tuesdaysdt]

Or she just says something like “i just wanna get on my knees” there’s ZERO inbetween 😂

[@corneliat7102]

I love how Ashley's hat is inside out AND still has the tag 🤣

[@emmabunch-benson4795]

No fr the tag killed me😂shes so cute & goofy

[@CertifiedPsychiatrist]

i cannot stop laughing

[@skeeppuli1202]

I wasn't sure if it was inside out 'cause it could be a style but it bothered me so much not knowing! This comment gave me clarification on it so thanks! 🤭

[@laylatheartist5532]

U can also see the bag lmao

[@Mendoxs_]

love that energy lol

[@SpaceyD]

Ashley you are the OPPOSITE of canceled for talking about your "age limits" - it's another way of saying boundaries. Early 20s are psychologically, emotionally, and oftentimes sociologically vastly different than early 30s; what you are saying makes so much sense 💖

[@acc45460]

As a Furry who doesn't see it as a sexual thing (more of a "I like to draw anthropomorphic animals doing everyday things because drawing is nice" thing) the way the Furry conversion immediately turned to "collars in public and buttplugs" was really funny xD I'm so caught up in my artist-bubble on social media that I forgot some people associate Furry with kink first and art second. I get it though, no worries, not cancelled and all that. And if people enjoy Furry in a kink context then all power to them.

[@abadeerly]

not a furry - i love both sides so much. the art is so amazing, nsfw or not, that i've often forgotten about the "norm" side of the internet being so averse to anthro things. and im a super open person when it comes to sex and kink stuff. the conversation /was/ so genuine and funny.

[@sittinginbushes]

there are some ppl chilling in the fandom and there are those who put their sexual fantasies in display and unfortunately the second one are the most loud and annoying sbt it almost like an exhibitionotist thing

[@hurricanecatrina9548]

As a self-aware 22 year old, I totally get you Ashley on the age thing. But as a MILF lover, I am upset 😭

[@kerizella]

😭😭😭

[@deerockt]

Honestly I think Ashley really has a point talking about age gap saying that Mak and her gf are in the same "life phase" or whatever. I know of a lot of couples who only have a 1-2 years age gap, but one person is still in college, the other one started working, or maybe they are on very different paths (one doing a PhD so essentially not "out there in the world" yet, the other one running a business), so the lifestyle, the type of life decisions, the outlook on life, future, money, etc can be very different even if you are of similar ages. If a 19-year-old is in college working part-time and dating a 23-year-old who's in college working part-time, I don't see potential issues here, at least, not because of the age gap.

[@lizhyink5636]

Agreed. Myelination matters, and that process can continue in a person's brain till 30 years old. Even so, we hopefully don't stop learning and growing beyond that age. I do think perspectives are influenced by experiences more than the most recent birthday number. Without certain overlaps, it wouldn't matter if both people are the exactly the same age, whether both 22, 44, or 66.

[@chunli1427]

yeah. people tend to forget that the problem with age gap relationships is the imbalance in the power dynamic, not the age itself. i saw people on tiktok being offended about a 6 year gap between a 26yo and a 32yo (in a comic, nonetheless)... like, they just heard "age gaps are bad" and went with it, didn't think about why they're bad, when they're bad etc. a 19yo with a 23yo could be problematic but if they have similar lifestyles and mindsets then there's literally nothing to criticize.

[@conlon4332]

"one doing a PhD so essentially not "out there in the world" yet" I... is this suggesting that my Godfather (Max de Gaynesford - he's on Wikipedia!) has never 'entered the real world'? He's a Professor of Philosophy and his work is his whole life. Studying, reading, writing, teaching. His whole adult life has been in University and he's middle aged now. His favourite thing is to read books, especially books on Philosophy. Do you think he hasn't entered the real world yet? If "yet" even applies at this point... honestly, this might make a lot of sense. He certainly doesn't have much time for the people he knows.

[@deli5194]

in my country we also really really care about the family. if your families are not compatible it can be the WORST. Like people talk about marriage as love or whatever but down the road these things will make or break it. like if one family is super educated or super rich and they look down on yours its horrible. or religious and ones not thats my two sides of the family problem. my mom told me about these super religious ultra rich men that proposed to her but they just werent compatible with her family.

[@trinswurld]

⁠@@chunli1427lemme guess Heartworker?

[@emmarodriguez6263]

On the topic of putting kids online; Jessica Kellgren-Fozard is a youtuber n lesbian mummy n she does an amazing job of showing her n her wife’s baby without ever showing his face! They’re a v sweet family n their videos are well worth the watch

[@vantannie9291]

I love their fam so much

[@saraxadam3659]

Ashley when she was, straight-faced, telling everyone they have trauma made me laugh so hard...

[@spriddlez]

I love this chaotic, unhinged energy. Feels like three friends chatting (because it is) which is cozy

[@Bella-sf5si]

Mak’s “Oh my god, can I take a picture with you” voice is hilarious 😂

[@2nd3rd1st]

9:30 This would've been an opportune moment for Ashley to break into her Helix Mattress ad! "Mak, you need a MATTRESS of SOLID-TUDE"

[@emmabunch-benson4795]

Facts😂

[@MsBethylou]

Alayna finally calling herself mommy! We love to hear it!!

[@mwernli2886]

And yet she still refuses to be called „Mommy“ although she’s perfect for this role.

[@brightlittlething]

Ashley's "college kids feel so young" is so true. I went to college after working for a few years and I couldn't think of the people going straight in to college there as anything other than kids. I was 23 in class with 18 year olds and the difference was staggering to me, even then.

[@AlexandraVion]

I have had 10 girlfriends throughout my life, 4 identified themselves as straight, and were relationships that lasted more than 1 year, today they are all married to men and have children, my wife also identified herself as straight, she had already been married to a man and had a 3 year old son when we first met, we've been married for 11 years, my advice is not to stick to labels, if she was flirting with you, something she wants, otherwise she wouldn't flirt, even though she said she was straight. For the record, I am 5 years older than my wife and we never used a strap on

[@Fifferz]

I am almost 27 and in college getting my undergrad and can absolutely confirm that 18-23 just seems so much younger.

[@Jenny_796]

I agree with Mak in terms of straight women. I am straight and there definitely was a period of hooking up with women because it was less scary (speaking of possible rejection) and I felt less vulnerable. Like I’m not proud of it, and I thought of myself as questioning at that time, but in retrospective I see what it was. At least it did not result in hurting anyone’s feelings cause these were one night stands, but still I wouldn’t do that now.

[@emmabunch-benson4795]

Being with women is definitely WAY more scary/vulnerable to me than being w dumb men lol & I’m queer so what you said actually makes a lot of sense. I still don’t think straight women should involve themselves with other queer women though bc usually the queer person gets hurt or disappointed.

[@jjburnes5176]

Wow we’re the exact opposite but also somehow the same 😂 see I’m super gay and find it 100% less scary to sleep with or flirt with men. But I can’t even ask a cute girl what her name is 😩 Guess if women make you panic, that’s how ya know haha

[@theincredibleknuffibar4834]

@@emmabunch-benson4795 Haha love how you were like: dumb men 😂😂

[@mwernli2886]

@@theincredibleknuffibar4834 Ouch! Hey! Even „Dumb Men“ have feelings. 😉

[@geeksquire2467]

As a straight dude I love this pod so much everyone is so dope

[@thickskull8]

Are you gay enough to let me buy you a drink 😂 i’m stealing that! Another amazing episode, thank you guys!

[@skyecovington5130]

As a trans-woman I absolutely LOVE this podcast!! I haven't laughed as hard at one in longer than I can remember and now I follow all 3 of you on the tubes and IG (sorry, I don't to tiktok)! Thank you for doing what you do. So much love!

[@lizzydixxy411]

Alayna blushing so much during this episode is both brave and hilarious

[@michelle5873]

Jessica fozard does that. She talks about motherhood & being a lesbian mommy without showing the kids’s face.

[@rowepalacios2155]

Thank you for that add-in for us trans folks - it’s easy for all of us to get caught up in the binary and forget some of us don’t have the same parts. ❤

[@mil6046]

I absolutely love the dynamic of this podcast. Ashley’s the blunt father with a bunch of dad jokes, Mak the “innocent” child that sleeps on her couch, and Alayna the mother and voice of reasoning. Mint sign me up where’s the adoption papers

[@Shoot4AlarmFire]

Mak for sure needs a bed. As someone with a bad back, do NOT risk it! You'll never sleep comfortably again! Take care of it now! Stretch regularly, see a chiropractor, and invest in a damn good mattress.

[@fangbanger1719]

Favourite podcast hands down. And I really appreciate you guys still video recording the sessions, I'm not huge on just listening to people without interaction or seeing them, have a hard time focusing on only audio so thank you for that! I'd also absolutely love call ins, what a great idea

[@Armsftw]

I don't know If I, a bisexual man, am part of the target audience. But I am loving this podcast.

[@kenz4062]

I’ve met 1 openly fury individual. They asked “do you know what a furry is?” I said “um..yes..”. They replied “well I’m a furry!” With so much delight I just had to be happy for them.

[@SofiaPeralta-i8o]

Thank you so much for that trans disclaimer that appeared in this episode. I love this podcast so much and that made me love it infinitely more. Cheers from Argentina!

[@MsBethylou]

This was the most family episode yet! Mom and dad giving baby advice about sleeping

[@deannamiles6095]

Mak's definitely a leash kid at the mall because they're always running away and getting lost.

[@carleeb4477]

The tag on Ashley’s hat 😭

[@osunale]

I've been sleeping on my couch for almost three years now, and I love it. Beds are overrated.

[@runc1blehuman654]

I have misophonia too. A week ago, when I was in my online Chinese class, someone was slurping his water DIRECTLY into the mic. Multiple times. I asked him to stop and also mentioned I had misophonia, but he would not. Another person told him to stop or mute his mic, and then he said, " I can't help it," and slurped one more time before turning his mic off. By then, I felt like my body was tingling, and I was trying my best not to cry. My heart was also beating really fast. I ended up sobbing when my teacher was trying to get me to say a few phrases in Chinese because I suddenly thought about what happened again. When I was trying to explain why I was crying, I ended up just yelling about the slurping and how I hated having misophonia. Then I left the class. Needless to say, everyone was very confused.

[@user-uu5dc6wr6h]

Oof I’m sorry about that ❤😢

[@geraldiinapommedeterre629]

Sorry to hear about your horrific experience. I wish more people understood misofonia. It is not like I choose to feel like this when I hear these sounds. I am glad Alana stood for us in this moment!

[@somewhereisgone]

I have it too, it actually showed up on my gene sequencing report, so if it makes you feel better, it's probably something you were born with!

[@runc1blehuman654]

@@somewhereisgone my cousin has it too. His dad, who's married to my aunt also has it too.

[@thewillow3457]

well at least yours makes you cry instead of wanting to beat the ever living fuck out of people *shrugs*

[@ABCassy]

I am loving this new podcast! I do wish episodes were longer but I’m grateful nonetheless for what we, as an audience, receive from you. ❤

[@jn5859]

I feel like I could see myself making the “I’m straight, fyi” comment. But my intention there would be an attempt to acknowledge that LGBT media isn’t just enjoyed in secret by LGBT people anymore. It’s a topical show, but the entertainment value is universal. I think it’s an attempt to say that your content reaches everyone and is loved by people from all demographic categories. Tl;dr: you’re sharing the lesbian perspective with a non-lesbian audience, too. And we’re appreciating you sharing that and we’re finding value in it.

[@Tellyafriends94]

I’m no father, but I really relate to Ashley’s sleepy hip problems.

[@ashgavs]

Solidarity

[@hieronymusbinch9526]

I'm keeping this call-in thing in mind. I personally think there IS a huge difference in hearing the way someone delivers a question and simply reading it in text form. Super hope y'all decide to do it.

[@KatherineCracks]

As a mistress (BDSM) for many years leashing in my experience has very little to do with sex as with a lot of bdsm it’s more to do with a state of being. I’m loving this podcast, I usually give up on them pretty quick but I’m eagerly awaiting each episode! Love you all

[@conlon4332]

19:01 As soon as Ashley said about leashes being timeless, I thought of and wondered about Ancient Greeks. And then immediately thought "You know what? I would not put it past them." Hahahaha!

[@p_toffana]

I not only assume everyone is somewhat queer but when a cis person says they're straight, I always go "you still have time"

[@alliethecrone]

the extents Ashley goes to for sun protection on vacation is unmatched.

[@twigp6168]

Good episode; Thank you for the editors notes there Mak, little things like that might not seem like much but it really does mean the world to a lot of us. And Ashley; I'm a 45year old transfemme blacksmith, I get up at 5am and don't get to bed until midnight - 2am every day. You wish you could keep up. Seriously though, really enjoy this as well as the other podcasts and content y'all produce. It still amazes me that topics and content like this can be discussed openly in the modern society. There are still miles to go but you're definitely putting in more work than you realize. Thank you

[@EternalGalaxies]

21:33 Oh dang you've got me blushing with that line, Alayna lol! And I love this conversation on letting everyone come to terms with their sexuality on their own time / letting them have their own identity, too 😊

[@lacigrove2447]

Ashley Gavin is so attractive physically and personality wise. I can't.. I look forward to this podcast so much because it makes me feel less alone in my self discovery journey I guess you could call it. So thank you Ashley, Alayna and Mak. CALL INS WOULD BE 10/10!!

[@AshleyAniston0043]

Ashley wanting Bluetooth is the most dad thing ever.

[@littledreamsonearth8593]

Yeees! New episode! The way I clicked faster than the speed of light! I love to listen to you guys! 🥰❤

[@cutielovemb]

i’m so excited to listening these are amazing

[@Averill_]

Lol same

[@Becca-llama]

I have misophonia too and the fact the Alayna has it makes me want to be friends with her even more! Love this podcast guys!

[@nyxie2877]

25:50 My go-to response is along the lines of “I’ll take one if it’s attached to a pretty girl, and you don’t fit that description”

[@zomdee2122]

You know, if I were in Mak's shoes I would do the same, only because beds suck and a hammock was the thing that really helped my back. Much easier to fit a hammock in the living space than a bed, and being able to close off work would be nice.

[@Raddiebaddie]

This episode was extra chaotic 😂 looking forward to Wednesdays now!

[@haleyandrews74]

i loved that discussion on straight women and also the one on age gaps 🧡

[@tris5602]

This format is so fun. It feels like hanging out with friends. 😁

[@charlie-de4in]

Ashley, "just let it be." Love everything that's happening here!💕

[@rociog8486]

I felt this episode as a good morning and a happy birthday (it's 7 am here). I couldn't think of anything better than have my chosen family with me for a birthday breakfast haha. Love you all 💜🇦🇷

[@Raddiebaddie]

Happy birthday!!

[@rociog8486]

@@Raddiebaddie thank you so much

[@mayuwu4408]

happy birthday !! it was a very yummy breakfast lmfao

[@rociog8486]

@@mayuwu4408 haha and very fruity too

[@lancesanvers]

Alayna is so like a mom 🤣 i remember how she was like that too in other videos with their burps 🤣 ... Gooshh I want an hour of their podcast

[@commissarchad]

This mum, dad, son thing is real.

[@_CommanderCole_]

Still petitioning to be the gay uncle in the fam! Love the podcast. You guys are absolutely killing it!

[@amyowens9150]

I know im late to the game, but in case it hasnt been said: Jessica Kellgren-Folzard and Pleasant Peasant Media are both great examples of sharing your kids without being exploitive. Jessica has great queer history content, and PPM (or Momma Cusses as she's also known) is really great about keeping her littles safe while allowing her teen to consent (or not) to share different aspects of their lives.

[@sendnoodle5]

I'm 34 and would not date someone in their twenties. There is A LOT of growing up people do between 20 and 30 that shape them, and I'd like to see what they're like after that before I get together with them.

[@aminafarah1976]

you guys should make these episodes longer!!

[@bingbongalong]

This is fully my favorite podcast now, I love it so much! Your guys' dynamic is unmatched. So hilarious, informative, and beautifully chaotic. Thank you for making this, it really brightens my days ❤

[@sofia01ht]

I was having a really shitty day and these videos have literally brighten my day 💞 I feel so much comfort in watching them. Thank you girls 💜💜💜💜

[@lucindasamira8351]

Honestly this is the podcast i never knew i truly needed!!! 💜💜💜💙

[@gabbieshetlar1891]

You can't spell Ashley without "Leash" 🤣💀💚

[@quietestkitten]

My apologies for multiple comments on different topics, instead of putting it into one comment. On the topic of straight women, I used to consider myself the “straight” woman who had a few “exceptions”. I never flirted with anybody, though. My exceptions were all celebrities. When I finally had enough exceptions to make a long list, I started considering that I was probably bisexual 😅

[@BlockHeadBricks]

Hope this pod lasts & evolves into something even more awesome than it already is!! Cannot get enough of the banter + convos between the 3 of you

[@fific37stream73]

1 minute in and I'm already cracking up 🤣

[@allestra00]

Said it before and saying it again, I LOVE this podcast. I love each of you individually, and together in podcast..this is heckin GOLD!

[@TM-vq4vv]

I love how natural this podcast I can’t wait for the next podcast!!

[@piperw17]

The only salvageable part of this year is the beginning of this pod

[@theincredibleknuffibar4834]

Do you guys accept guests on the show? 😄 If so I'm applying. My credentials: I'm a cool pansexual with purple hair who has a lot to say about straight women, internalized homophobia, the male gaze and comphet. Also I love queer history and Ashleys hat. Love you guys ♥️

[@emmabunch-benson4795]

Alayna is such a control freak & so is Ashley but neither of them wanna admit it most of the time😂

[@ashgavs]

oh i fully admit to this, and am working on it! haha

[@kate4658]

I love this podcast so much! You guys are so funny but also talk about so meany inportant things i think its awsome. Thank you

[@terrapalo6819]

Love watching you all. Love watching you all separately and together as chosen family!!!

[@eowyns4181]

Your quick note to me was not necessary as I kinda know your stances on gender, but it did make me feel all warm inside so as a non binary person I appreciated it enormously!

[@gil8548]

Thanks for another great episode. You guys are literally my saving grace right now. Keep being the awesome, amazing, beautiful humans you are x

[@whateverIsaid]

✨gayasmr✨ I'm laughing so hard right now. Love this podcast ❤️

[@whateverIsaid]

1:48

[@augusthickerson7761]

damn I love this podcast, I really needed this this week

[@finlayrussel2609]

So happy to see this come out! Loving the podcast so far 🤩

[@rebeccawiens4224]

This podcast gets better every episode!

[@lauraschickler147]

God I freaking love this dynamic 🤣🥹💙 love all three of y’all oooof

[@mallee6436]

I think that you are really cute Ashley... and I'm straight. and I'm flirting with you. Seriously, I appriciate what you said about respecting whatever journey straight women are on with their sexuallity. I have been watching Alayna's youtube for the past year, and found both you and mac through her. I remember watching a video where Alayna said that the algorithm knows before you know, and I was like "what does this mean? I'm not attracted to women?" Until I came across you. Maybe it's just your top energy (Ha) but nah, you cute! So yeah, this is the first time that I have actually said the words. You're welcome Cheers from Australia

[@2nd3rd1st]

Welcome back to another episode of Chewing Family!

[@milo_jaxx]

Being able to call into this would be an insane experience ❤😂

[@fionabermudezmay6162]

18:42 It's such a dad moment where they have no idea what your interests or likes are it's like 'do you know who you're talking to? tf' HAHAHA

[@conlon4332]

4:23 40 year olds can go to college too. I'm feeling a trend here, but 5:15 23 year olds can be mothers too.

[@bikooks2935]

I love how i actually feel so safe watching this podcast ❤

[@howdyshell123]

Call in could be cool, but I feel like so many of the fans would get so overexcited and ramble. I really like the write in questions. It feels more controlled and balanced.

[@nataliehubbard6568]

This episode was too short!! Y’all rock

[@virgilmcclendon5072]

I love this. You ladies are amazing. This is the very best pod ever. How can we support you?

[@joegoss30]

It's helpful to think of flirting as making someone feel better about themselves. Straight men flirt with men ("Hey, dude, that's a sharp outfit.") Same with straight women. "Unattainable flirting" (flirting with someone that you aren't romantically or sexually interested in) can be fun and harmless. If you receive that kind of flirting and aren't interested, take the win and feel good about yourself.

[@laurajudd6785]

Wow Ashley’s looking stunning in her yellow shirt and bucket hat. Amazing. You guys are truly as mad as cut snakes 😂 also I’m 29 😉

[@alexaaday]

I'm obsessed with this dynamic!

[@beav457]

I love this, it's like hanging out with the LGBT friends you wish you had. I feel like if Ashley pulled back 1% and Alayna got that space it would be chef's kiss perfect

[@karen-sm4gw]

yes to the call ins

[@jacobt37]

Yes! We would love to call in!

[@someoneelse7629]

I'm totally with Ash on the different age limits for a ONS and for a relation. This however backfired spectaculary for a close friend of mine, who had a summer fling with a 24 year younger girl. 5 years ago I was at their wedding and now they have 2 kids. They invited me for beer and trivia games, and there the age gap really showed, not in any way that matters, she is very intelligen, but it really showed that we had thirty years more of history