Christian Discipline | Parenting in 2022 (against the grain)

[@annadau8612]

I highly recommend this lovely book to help you understand why spanking isn’t Biblical: Thy Rod and Thy Staff They Comfort Me: Christians and the Spanking Controversy - Samuel Martin

[@lzhang930]

Recently there have been suggested parenting articles on facebook about parenting and I shared it with my husband and he said it sounds nice but didn't sound biblical so I have been praying and asking God to lead to me good Christian parenting content and I was led here! Through this video He is reminding me that He is the ultimate source of wisdom and He knows my daughter more than I do since He created her so who better to ask than God? This video was a blessing! Thank you so much :)

[@Bugsy0333]

our children disrespect you, then kill them. That’s right, forget all the debate about whether smacking children is acceptable, and the debate as to whether unborn children have a right to life, just execute any children who don’t behave. Or if you are feeling lenient, just pluck their eyes out to be eaten by birds. If a man have a stubborn and rebellious son, which will not obey the voice of his father, or the voice of his mother, and that, when they have chastened him, will not hearken unto them: Then shall his father and his mother lay hold on him, and bring him out unto the elders of his city, and unto the gate of his place; And they shall say unto the elders of his city, This our son is stubborn and rebellious, he will not obey our voice; he is a glutton, and a drunkard. And all the men of his city shall stone him with stones, that he die: so shalt thou put evil away from among you; and all Israel shall hear, and fear. -- Deuteronomy 21:18-21 He that smiteth his father, or his mother, shall be surely put to death. -- Exodus 21:15 He that curseth his father, or his mother, shall surely be put to death. -- Exodus 21:17 The eye that mocketh at his father, and despiseth to obey his mother, the ravens of the valley shall pick it out, and the young eagles shall eat it. -- Proverbs 30:17 The idea that ANY christian can claim their religion supports the “sanctity if life” is preposterous, considering these and many more passages in the book they claim is the infallible “word of God”.

[@josiecamilo7098]

A toddler this age is mostly exploring they know no fear or danger. Show her videos on stranger danger and safety. Don't use hitting use positive reinforcement by taking away whatever she likes like tv or computer times etc. They also need to be able to exert their independence at times which is healthy. These kids are also smart and with modeling and talking they will do better than if you just spank or hit them. My mom would just have to look at us and that from the 70s. Also read the kids bible books about disobedience. Three year old is a major learning period I have a teaching degree. Best time to teach reading and language at this time. Enjoy your babies 😊 also reward good behavior they want to please you.

[@maureenseel118]

Yeah healthy boundaries aren't really the fundamentalist Christian way

[@aliciarivers21]

This is so refreshing! Thanks for being bold enough to make this. I agree with everything you said

[@relentlessrhythm2774]

I was spanked and I am NOT okay.

[@larafuad4658]

Great video ❤️ Thank you so much 💓 it's very helpful for me as a first time mom expecting in couple of months

[@larafuad4658]

However, I'm really against yelling and hitting

[@mbwilson8592]

We are to employ self control, patience, and grace towards others. It is so disappointing how prevalent spanking/hitting is within the Christian community. We expect respect, patience, grace, and gentleness in our adult relationships- but that goes out the window with children ? I don't get it. It creates adults with pent up aggression, low self-esteem, people- pleaser syndrome, and co dependent tendencies. It's also counter productive to guiding our children to a personal relationship with Christ. "Love & logic" by foster and cline is the way to go. Jesus provided an example of calm instruction/explanation, compassion, and grace. The idea of spanking/hitting when calm and out-of-love, is very creepy. When you're frustrated enough to want to hit a person, that is a normal human response and something that we learn to refrain from and use better methods of solving problems as adults. To try and claim that you're able to hit while in a calm and loving state, is really disgusting.

[@mrskeeford]

Yessssssssss!!!! Amen! Amen! Amen!

[@maureenseel118]

THANK YOU! So much this

[@ECONservativemba]

Indeed, "perfect love drives out fear" and how can we want to make our kids fear us through spanking as a punishment but claim to be leading kids in the instruction of the Lord? Fear and punishment are clearly not the way Christ would have us do this.

[@HannahGarnier]

Your children are very lucky to have you and Danny as parents. You seek the Lord to do what is right through His conviction. I agree that page seems like trouble. There is a difference between spanking with correction and spanking with no explanation.

[@CharlotteLloyd_]

aww thanks Hannah! I know many disagree with me on some of my points but again... seeking His conviction and direction is ultimately what's important. So thank you for the compliment, glad you get it and agree :)

[@MissGlitterlicious1]

if you hit your child when they do something wrong or disobey you than you're essentially teaching them its okay for them to do the same when people in society whether that's at your job, in your relationships/friendships is doing something wrong....which is clearly not the case. Also god doesn't punish us or hit us when we do wrong so what makes us think that we can? Truly feel bad for anyone who feels different. God Bless

[@CharlotteLloyd_]

Thank you for your input💜

[@itsvikkki4490]

This is me. This is honestly how I feel.

[@jessy.kins.]

My christian parents used to spank me but they magically stopped when I was 7

[@maureenseel118]

This.

[@Rena.mac18]

Just a heads up, God absolutely punishes us when we do wrong. Why do you think Adam and Eve were cast out of the garden of Eden when they sinned? There are consequences when we do something wrong because if there are not we would keep repeating the sinful behavior

[@declanmurphy417]

Charlotte you are a great mum 100% correct

[@maureenseel118]

I'm now receiving treatment for complex PTSD thanks to my mother wailing on me. Spanking teaches your child to be afraid of speaking up for themselves and afraid of their parents.

[@CharlotteLloyd_]

Im truly sorry. And maybe the way she did it was wrong. I do believe parent’s take emotions out on children and hit more than they should. We all need better training. Believe me I had a dad who was verbally emotionally abusing so i understand the effect wrong parenting can do. Sorry you dealt with that🙏🏼

[@realmejeremy]

Well there's a difference between disciplining your kids I do believe in spanking but not out of anger out of love I know that's difficult to understand I'm so sorry that happened to you I'm glad my parents spanked me.. Not abusing me though..

[@itssimplyray5555]

Love this video so much I have a 9 month old and first time mom so I feel like I'm walking on eggshells with all motherhood things. This video couldn't be much clearer and heart felt. I know now that at the end of the day if I align myself to God he will let me lead his child to serve his purpose. Regardless of how different it might look or others opinions. This brought so much peace to my heart because as a mom I feel like is so easy to get overwhelmed or compare. Thank you for sharing

[@CharlotteLloyd_]

You have no idea how much joy this comment brought to my heart!💞 because I know the struggle and I know Im not alone. Also just reminds me that in obedience to Him by sharing this (despite my views, comments ect) … if this helps one mom, then what a blessing and honor it was to post. You are so kind and supportive. Thank you💜 I dont know you personally but I know you WILL be an incredible mother to your precious baby… you are kind, vulnerable have the desire to be. He will guide your steps!!❤️ I will pray for you and your family today in my prayer time🙏🏼

[@itssimplyray5555]

@@CharlotteLloyd_ oh man this means so much thank you my little family has been having it rough lately. This start of the year hasn't been easy I been feeling like a horrible mom and overwhelmed. You just brought tears to my eyes thank you so much for telling me this today and for the prayers. May God keep blessing you and using you as a vessel to reach other women like me. Thanks so much 🙏 💓

[@saschakalski9034]

Thank you for this video. I also belive in spanking and yes parenting is very tough.... Do you use your hands for spanking?

[@maureenseel118]

Gee, my mom used rubber spatulas, wooden spoons (which she frequently broke on me) hot glue gun sticks and plastic switches... Bare ass. "Spare the Rod" covers a multitude of sins.

[@maureenseel118]

You use anything else, you're looking at assault charges.

[@kirderf7222]

If you do something wrong to your child , do they get to hit you too?

[@CharlotteLloyd_]

Lol. From a biblical view, children are to honor their parents and the parent is to love and correct them in love so no. Even though I know you werent really asking and were being sarcastic.

[@kirderf7222]

@@CharlotteLloyd_ I were not sarcastic, I take child abuse serious.

[@CharlotteLloyd_]

@@kirderf7222 same🤚🏼

[@kirderf7222]

@@CharlotteLloyd_ Then why do you justify child beating?

[@mrskeeford]

@@CharlotteLloyd_ also from a biblical view, parents are not to exasperate their children (Ephesians 6:4; Colossians 3:21).So many Christians emphasize what the child should do, but fail to realize that they must be parents worth honoring!

[@daniellloyd640]

the best mommy

[@carriejoldes9735]

NKJV is not the closest to original Hebrew, the KJV is

[@CharlotteLloyd_]

Yes youre right

[@ECONservativemba]

I'm not sure that's true; I thought KJV comes from the Latin Vulgate some 500-1,000 years after Israel's exile to Babylon and translating the Hebrew Bible to Greek. My understanding is that the closest current translations are NASB and ESV, though KJV is extremely helpful in the Ye and Thee language to know who and how many people are being spoken of or too.

[@minoritymillennials5163]

[@kirderf7222]

excuses for child abuse

[@CharlotteLloyd_]

Thank you for your input. God bless

[@maureenseel118]

@@CharlotteLloyd_ which is what you say to those who point out the fact that you assault your kids. Would Jesus spank the little children that came to him?

[@CharlotteLloyd_]

@@maureenseel118 if you actually watch the video youd see that I encourage moms to pray and seek wisdom which God gives abundantly and if we genuinly are living in the spirit and hearing truth we’ll know the right thing to do and how to handle situations. so if a little tap on the butt isnt for you thats fine God bless

[@PM-oq6ku]

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