Why Jennette McCurdy is Glad Her Mom Died

[@christycarlsonromano]

How has Jennette's story impacted you?

[@aliciaveal1284]

Your opening statement about the book hit hard. The book was so hard to get thru. It's sad to think she was going thru so much abuse and trauma while making millions laugh. I'm older l, so always knew the glitz and glamor covers a lot. It's still hard to hear these young ones and the things they went thru and some still do. As a mother I couldn't imagine hurting my children in any way or any other child for that matter.

[@mikesilva3868]

That Hollywood is dangerous for child stars 😊

[@vodkajaybulls]

This is raw. If feeling this thru you C.C.R.! By minute 14:00 I'm already tearing up. You needed to do this episode. I'm glad you did. ❤️🤗.

[@sebastianchirinos7714]

today is sally martin ´s birthday

[@RyanCalebSmith]

Well, it's changed my perspective on her character on iCarly. So, now it's hard for me to watch her on the show as everything we're going on BTS.

[@WizardsPod]

We love Jennette 💜

[@christycarlsonromano]

❤

[@JordanS-ww4eu]

@@christycarlsonromanoI like your hair

[@tylerriley2587]

I finished the entire book and saw her mother was she was a narcissist, and had no business being a mom Every kid deserves a parent, but not every parent deserves a kid

[@nathancruz9172]

I do not tolerate any bad parents out there in reality.

[@princesslina4043]

You can’t “deserve” another person’s entire existence. 😐

[@angelaholmes8888]

Totally agree with you there are some people who shouldn't have children

[@nathancruz9172]

@@angelaholmes8888 who?

[@angelaholmes8888]

@@nathancruz9172 like shirley maclaine she was a horrible mother to her daughter sachi parker she totally emotionally and verbally abused her and at times neglected her same goes for her rotten ex husband you definitely should read sachi memoir it's called lucky me

[@theoutsiderjess1869]

The scariest thing about all of this too me is that we all grew up wanted to be a Disney or a Nickelodeon star growing up and hearing all this happening on most of these sets is sickening that these companies don't do anything to protect these kids and then want them to be squeaky clean. It's all the more heartbreaking that her mom didn't protect her from it and instead hurt her

[@indygoweird0]

That’s why I’m so thankful for the NOs that the execs told me. God’s rejection is your protection.

[@staceyga1]

The entertainment industry is not going to intervene because the big wigs in the entertainment industry are the main pedophiles, and sharks!

[@nathancruz9172]

That never happens to me.

[@Imjustbored2023]

@@indygoweird0it’s really parents fault there pedos everywhere on your Little League football team but it’s up to your parents to keep you safe

[@Fachhhi]

Right? What she said about you as a reader feeling complicit in her abuse is so real, and it's weird cause i logically know that's not the case, I'm younger than Jennette and was just a kid watching icarly and absolutely LOVING it, thinking about how lucky this kids were that they got to be a part of the show, having no idea how dark the industry truly is. Just thinking back now and knowing how much pain she was going through makes me feel guilty for supporting that exploitation, even unknowingly

[@PokhrajRoy.]

I’m just happy that her book has started a conversation and I hope she writes more because I’ve heard great things about it.

[@christycarlsonromano]

It's an amazing book

[@victorialopez2964]

@christycarsonromano please i beg you to watch The Menéndez brothers /Menudo boys betrayed. Menudo was a puertorrican boy band very famous in the 70, 80, 90 and early 2000. Ricky Martín is from that boy band.

[@Songwritersbehindthecurtain]

@@christycarlsonromano the devil is trying to get into drinking and that’s why you don’t go to church ⛪.

[@sarahpontier4684]

It was such a powerful book like I read it in waves because it really is so raw. I am so appreciative of her vulnerability after having to be in the public eye so much already, it must’ve been hard to do in some ways but I hope she writes more.

[@Songwritersbehindthecurtain]

@@sarahpontier4684 I agree. I haven’t got a chance to read it but I know how it felt like for her and I know that her religion is changing.

[@MyChannel-dl8if]

This book inspired me to properly confront my eating disorder and mental health problems and it’s been nearly 6 months and my life has completely changed

[@brealynnett6472]

proud of you!!!! 🎉🎉

[@angelaholmes8888]

Good for you

[@Selsmittenxo]

❤❤❤ congrats

[@Beattherapist2deathinsexdreams]

Congrats! Keep it up

[@melparkerr]

i know you don't want to have to do youtube forever, but you seriously have the most comforting channel and it's so cool to hear you talk about stuff like this and be so thoughtful and continue to grow with us

[@christycarlsonromano]

Awww thank you! ill do YT as long as you guys keep watching and sending sweet notes.

[@melparkerr]

@@christycarlsonromano also, i will be here girlie. i look forward to new uploads

[@ShinRyojin]

Jeanette’s book is a breath of fresh air as it shows that people are not obligated to honor or stand by their toxic and abusive family members. My older brother was abusive towards me and my sister and he brought so much trauma to the family due to his incessant need to get into trouble with gangs/drugs/etc. We have been estranged from him for decades and I’ve disowned him since. Anyone who abuses their family is no longer a father/mother/sibling, they are an abuser. Full stop, blood be damned.

[@angelaholmes8888]

You made the right choice to kick that him out of your life

[@lexa_power]

This!!! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@alexanderklepp]

It was nice to hear that Miranda supports Jennette. That is so sweet of her. I believe she is also still on good terms with the rest of her iCarly cast mates.

[@ThatGirlOnYourTV]

I feel like that too.

[@stardustgirl2904]

Miranda recently got called out for her own perverse behavior towards children!

[@NedsPod]

Such a powerful story!

[@christycarlsonromano]

❤

[@maddiejoy6619]

I'm not in the industry, but I'm a mom and a daughter. This book broke my heart as both. Her mom clearly had demons she wasn't willing to face, but wow. I just wanted to reach into the book and hug little Jennette. It broke my mama heart to hear what she went through and how her mom kept failing her. It broke my daughter heart to hear how badly she wanted the approval from her mother that she never got.

[@majorkiki8340]

You know Christy I gotta say, I was around 16-17 during your era at Disney, so I was aging out but really just tuning in to raven at the time. But I’ve since become a huge fan of your podcast. You are so vulnerable, reflective, articulate and really just an inspiration to me in my adulthood now. In my personal struggles with anxiety and depression, I’ve been able to reflect on some of your insights and discussions and really felt compelled to work on myself. Our issues may not be the same, but we are all experiencing the HUMAN experience, and this is why I love and relate to your content so much. Thank you for tackling uncomfortable issues, you really are helping people.

[@christycarlsonromano]

thanks babe. your support means so much to me

[@hotsauce7645]

Makes me so sad to think that all the stars I grew up watching were in reality being abused and taken advantage of. I can no longer look back to these shows without imagining the horrors that would occur during those sets.

[@almondmilksoda]

Seriously. It's a mindfuck.

[@fenderchick2010]

Putting it into perspective, not every set was abusive toward child stars. Some truly had a great time acting and didn't have to deal with anything creepy or wrong. Still, it's very sobering to realize how much abuse did and still does occur in the industry. It happens more than we want to admit. Like Jennette, many child stars also have pushy stage parents who force them into acting so they can live vicariously through their children and put far too much pressure on their children to succeed.

[@HaleyMary]

So true! When Corey Feldman's book came out and then the metoo movement happened and a lot of my faves said they had been abused, it's heartbreaking that so many people I watched on tv and in movies had been abused so badly.

[@pbsfundingaddict790]

@hotsauce You have a point. I don’t even feel comfortable watching the original iCarly or any show produced by Dan Schneider upon knowing about all the drama that happened behind the set, especially when Jennette’s childhood life was a living hell. The only Nickelodeon shows I’m watching are Rugrats, SpongeBob SquarePants and Big Time Rush because they’re not made by Dan Schneider.

[@Rocky95-v9s]

I was abused by my father growing up and Jennette's mother reminds me of him. It was very hard to read her book but very rewarding to do so. I felt seen for the first time in ages.

[@VarietyPirate]

I already loved your KZbin videos pre-podcast, but girl, you’re so good at this. Perfect pod name, perfect host, you rock!😊

[@christycarlsonromano]

Love you

[@gabbygabslcsw]

I read the book so quickly because it was so well made. As someone with a hugely complex relationship with my mother, my body, and my OCD this book was incredibly validating.

[@nicoleking7892]

I would argue that the strongest thing you could do for your kids is processing past trauma that has not been addressed or is causing distress. The best things we could do for our kids is process our own struggles so they do not bleed into them. You don’t have to choose to be “super mom” or a person conquering their traumas. You could be a amazing mom alongside processing things that you may feel you will fall apart from but are strong enough to survive.Great episode!!

[@angelaholmes8888]

You are right totally agree with you

[@JackieWarner13]

I listened to her book last year & just saw her at the Sydney opera house couple months back talk about it. It took me a few weeks to listen to the audiobook because it was heavy. I just hope she's happy & living her best life.

[@christycarlsonromano]

I do too ❤

[@jets85100]

I listened to her book on audible and was just as floored. Her book actually sent me back to therapy and this time I tried EMDR which has been painful but very helpful. Her book inspires me to someday write my own story about being raised with an undiagnosed mentally ill mother. Thank you for doing the work to help child actors Christy. The small people need us looking out for them.

[@odsophie11]

I just finished the book yesterday… I’m so glad she wrote this. Thank you for taking the time to speak about this and support all the kids that needed it

[@TheBeast490]

This book has helped me to see the signs of what my own mother did as I was a kid with her manipulating everything I did. At the time I didn’t know it was abuse till years later and this book helped me to open my eyes to more of it. Currently with the help of my wife we are looking for a therapist for me.

[@ciaravann6250]

As someone who's going through the exact same thing, I wanna say I'm glad you made it out with support and sending well wishes👏🙏.

[@TheBeast490]

@@ciaravann6250 thank you so much for kind words. Wishing the same for you!

[@ciaravann6250]

@@TheBeast490 You're very welcome🙂! Now, I'm doing whatever it takes to escape. In case you check on this section, you can see a comment I made where I have very little details on my abuse realizations. Good luck on your journey🙂👍🙌!

[@JasLamArr91]

I’m glad Jennette is so much stronger now. I wish the best, peace, strength and happiness for her! She deserves it

[@ndrewraymond]

in no way am I deluding myself into thinking I understand what being a mother in your position is like, but while your kids DO need you to be strong, you can’t be strong if you’re not taking care of the things that Jennette’s book unsettled within you. Owning your weaknesses will probably make you a stronger parent in the long run, not to mention how your kids learn and strengthen from watching your vulnerability in action (and how you handle it) I know I always appreciated when my mom got a chance to prioritize herself for once bc I could intuitively tell it helped her be a better mom.

[@meganr0808]

I met her at a meet and greet and concert in 2010 and she was so nice and kind to me and my sister. Would have never thought she would be going through that trauma. She is a very strong woman and glad she is healing🫶

[@whatupgigi]

As a kid I went through a lot of trauma and was diagnosed with Complex PTSD due to abuse from a kid to an adult. Jeanette is so brave to share her story. Therapy really does help! Please find help and know you don’t forget but you can come through to the other side. You are loved! Thanks for sharing Christy.

[@tinyybiceps]

Ayy c-ptsd buddies 🍻

[@Mila-Rosa]

If you're comfortable sharing, could you tell me what the diagnostic process was like? I went through some stuff from 10-19 that might have left me with ptsd and I know I need to address it but I can't really delve into it all without a lot of stress and anxiety which just makes me avoid it all entirely...

[@tinyybiceps]

@@Mila-Rosa What helped me the most was seeing a therapist who was trauma informed + had vibes I liked. You can have an amazing therapist but not get along with them. You dont even have to see them forever, sometimes they can just give you tips that you take with you as you journey on your own. If you suffered emotional neglect in childhood look into the book Running on Empty. If you want reading about what c-ptsd is, read Running on Empty. For help on healing I liked the book Surviving to Thriving by Pete Walker.

[@whatupgigi]

@@Mila-Rosa I finally saw a Therapist and in talking to her I was diagnosed with Complex PTSD. Mila please find a therapist in your area and I hope you get the help and clarity you need. ❤️💜

[@whatupgigi]

@@tinyybiceps Ayeeee 🥂

[@aleaaa48642]

What a beautiful review of the book. She was my favorite actress on Nickalodeon and it deeply breaks my heart to know she was suffering the entire time she was giving her all in acting. Wishing her nothing but healing and peace.

[@beccac6812]

I feel Like this book started a conversation around parental abuse , eating disorders, narcissism, so many things. It’s amazing . Thank you for calling more attention to it. On another note: Christy I think you’d write an amazing book someday , I know that Jeanettes story is bizarre but you have so much wisdom to share too and I’d read it !

[@justk4tie650]

Sam was a huge influence on my personality development as a 12-14 year old and it makes me so sad to think that she was struggling so much on and off the set of icarly, especially since her character was obsessed with food 😢 I loved her book and will definitely read it again

[@oooh19]

Yea it’s terrible how the actresses we all admired were treated by people who were supposed to be looking out for them! I loved Amanda bynes and she was also treated horribly as well

[@annakatie7347]

As someone with a relatable relationship to my mother as Jennette, this book took me a loooong time to get through - parts of it I could have written myself. The fact that she has healed to the point that she was able to write her memoir to share with the world is nothing short of a miracle to me. Beyond brave.

[@angelaholmes8888]

I'm so glad that jennette was able to heal and is doing well in her life

[@Jvich]

12 mins in - just started my workout. Can already tell it’s my favorite episode ! When I listened to I’m Glad My Mom Died last year , it was so hard to get through but so important.

[@lifelikelisa]

My first introduction to Jeannette was watching her role on Law and Order SVU. Her performance was amazing and it’s sad that her mother and her experiences with acting have pushed her away from the field. She has such a natural talent!

[@angelaholmes8888]

Yeah I remember that episode she's so great in it

[@mercuryfever392]

And the scary part is, she had somewhere to draw from, personally.

[@angelaholmes8888]

@@mercuryfever392 I really feel bad for what jennette went through

[@kandicejanusz1829]

I adore Jeanette. Granted I can't say I grew up with her but my son did. We all loved I Carly. It's amazing when I seen her in SVU, she was fantastic.

[@christycarlsonromano]

I adore her too ❤

[@trinaq]

I grew up watching Jennette on Nickelodeon, and the abuse that she had to contend with makes me just want to give her a hug. I love her autobiography, and I'm proud of her for being open about her abusive childhood. I can't wait to see what she'll write or direct next.

[@khubaibsaeed2931]

Same. I can't watch icarly anymore having read this book

[@pbsfundingaddict790]

I have Jennette’s book and it’s so far so good. I just couldn’t help but feel sorry for her, given how narcissistic her mother was. Acting is a hobby, not a requirement. Not to mention Dan Schneider’s bullying towards her and disregarding her personal boundaries. Heck, I don’t even recognize Jennette as Sam Puckett from iCarly and Sam and Cat, I like her much better as a book author and I hope she continues to write more books for me to collect. She deserves to live her own life and do anything of her choice without anybody getting in her way.

[@christycarlsonromano]

She has a powerful story. Thanks for joining me ❤

[@LORENNACORRAL]

I read this book in one day, I cried through a lot of it and laughed so much, Jennette is such a talented writer. It was a healing book for me. And it awakened something in me as well that got me to get even more help therapy wise than I was already getting, and I feel like I’m making progress in leaps in bounds. I also relate to the magical thinking part learning abt death in religion as a child which was way too soon and it’s just crazy how someone’s honesty about their trauma can really open you up to see yourself in it if you relate to any aspect of it.

[@stefrodriguez3017]

What Jeanette did with this book is put into words what the rest of us who had the misfortune of having narcissistic, emotionally/mentally abusive parents couldn’t. I know most people will read this and be shocked by what the mother would say to her own daughter, but myself and countless others I’m sure just took a stroll down memory lane. Only difference is that our parents weren’t stage parents, just troubled people who never wanted to fix their issues. She’s the voice for those of us who still (perhaps in a sad twisted way) still love our parents despite the way they treated us. I’m glad she shed a light on this unhealthy dynamic that takes place in many households across the US but no one ever speaks up because for many years it was only considered abuse if physical or sexual - the rest of us who were mentally/emotionally abused were called spoiled or over dramatic. The parent was always right. That’s part of why, I’m sure, Jeanette seems apologetic for opening up about what/who hurt her because no one was on our side during the time we were growing up. I’m glad that’s now changing though. I’m so grateful to Jeanette, that if I ever saw her in person, I’d like to hug her and might start crying in the process…

[@Candylady-jb6md]

I wasn't abused by my mom but I was emotionally abused by my teachers aid aka "para" like jeanettes mom my abuser was like night and day and yes she was extremely narcissistic I wish I could take back what she took from me

[@candlelitpeppermintcarniva8509]

Parents took the first 25 years of my life from me. . .Seeing Jeanette tell her story and be awarded with support warms my heart and gives me hope. I would love the same one day. ❤

[@lenamarieburkhart5814]

Hey Christy, great work! I am 28 and grew up as a theater lover and yearned to preform. My family was a mess so my love of arts was not explored. It’s so interesting to hear the stories of the kids that made it and how their childhoods were similar but oh soooo different. I hope everyone is okay!

[@mirandathompson]

I just finished reading her book today and at so many moments I was shocked and horrified of the things she went through. I grew up watching iCarly and it's so sad that no one helped her. This book is so powerful and I am so happy she was able to talk about and understand her life. Thank you for "reviewing" the book and speaking about your experiences as well

[@Morphix93]

I listened to the entire audiobook. It was sad, she went through a lot 😢 there were a ton of revelations that were mind-blowing in her family, career, and herself. I hope Jeanette is doing well hopefully she joins the podcast.

[@ariellelillian8644]

The audiobook was incredible. Her emotion while she reads was transcendent

[@CodeNameAlison]

So happy you are reviewing this. I hope you have Jeanette on the podcast one day

[@CassieJ4]

You did an AMAZING job with this Christy. I could tell how difficult this was for you to get through.

[@christycarlsonromano]

Thank you!

[@shinigamiseanphoenix]

I have read Jennette's book but in audiobook version and it really made me relate to it because i grew up having an abusive violent jailbird and neglecting father who i disowned last year and he put me and my mom through so much hell and he was even envy of me ever since i was born because he wasn't autistic like me and my mom did everything in her power to defend and protect me from him while growing up and I'm glad i have my mom who really loves me no matter what and my little sister and older brother who accepts me for who i am and awesome review on this book 👍

[@christycarlsonromano]

Your mom sounds like an amazing woman ❤

[@PolishAndPoly]

I’m sorry you’ve gone through that. My own “father” has done… unspeakable things to me and my family. I’ve disowned him awhile back.

[@Burkhead_Family]

I wouldn’t wish an Eating Disorder on anyone. I lost everything when I was severely ill. Happy to say I’m 6 years in recovery and finally getting married. I’ve been tempted to read this book but I’m honestly terrified to read it because of the content. And yes I’m in my 30s but I can relate to a lot of the things she talked about. Maybe not acting but a lot of the abuse she went through as a child. I’m so happy she’s healing though.

[@prkrsml]

i'm not really the type to comment on videos much, but i just wanted to say that this was beautiful. not only your unconditional support for jennette but you yourself being vulnerable and opening up about how you could relate to the book was very touching. the first time i read jennette's book i couldn't believe what i was reading, she's been through an immense amount of terrible things in her life and i agree with you that it's a miracle she's still with us today. thank you for not only lifting her up and showing support for her, but for being vulnerable as well and sharing how you can relate to the book in one way or another. i'm sending you and jennette all my love and i wish nothing but happiness and healing for the both of you! 💞

[@christycarlsonromano]

thank you!

[@talkswithchris2394]

I respect Jennette McCurdy very much for writing in that book how she overcame very serious issues in her life I wish her all the best in her life and I wish you the best in your life miss Romano

[@CP2392]

I loved this! I’m an adult survivor of child abuse and my abuser was my mother. Listened to the book and as heartbreaking as it was it made me feel less alone.

[@MayaO.]

I finished the book in two days, so good!! The empathy I felt for her was beyond. She overcame so much and it was so frustrating that no one was able to stop what happened.

[@peekaboocharlie8502]

So beautifully said thank you for speaking up and supporting someone who’s gone thru as much as she did! She’s amazing.

[@armypanda]

Never apologize for speaking your story. I enjoy hearing your experiences as well as your guests! Hearing people expressing their vulnerabilities is really eye opening for me and helps me with unpacking my own types of traumas, so I really appreciate hearing them.

[@christycarlsonromano]

love you

[@jaky411]

Few days ago it was Mother’s Day and it brought back so many triggers growing up with my mother.

[@jasmineisshorter]

Just got the book from my local library. Cannot wait to start reading it!

[@savannahbrock6529]

This was the first book I had been excited to read in a long time. I got it within a month or so of it being released, and I thought it was incredibly insightful. It's easily one of my favorite books, and it's at the top of the memoirs category for me. I gained a whole new respect and admiration for Jennette. It's a must-read!

[@jillvibes_]

Thank you for covering this. Jeannette’s story is so powerful ❤ she deserves the world.

[@feliciaescanuelas4638]

Thank you for using your platform to support Jeanette. This is a hard topic that needs attention and needs change. You are doing amazing Christy!

[@kristenjensen5757]

I have both the audio book and physical copy as well. I haven’t been able to finish it because it’s so hard to hear. But, so far her writing and the way she tells her story is amazing. Dark, funny…but so polarizing and traumatic. I wish her nothing but the best. I hope writing the book has helped her as well.

[@abbygarcia1151]

I have 3 kids 5,3,2 and a husband. I haven't read a book in a LONG LONG time. I read this book in less then a week. It's a must read for everyone.

[@ReinaRoo311]

I listened to the audiobook when it came out and it resonated with me on so many levels even though I'm not a child actor. The vulnerability you and Jeanette are both willing to share is life changing for so many of us.

[@daveSoupy]

It's amazing how different the kids on Dan Schnider shows vs the kids on Scott Fellows shows have turned out. Not that all the kids on Dan's shows have had issues but it seems like a lot more sketchy stuff happened there than any of us really knew.

[@ICgay4]

Agreed and you're a cutie

[@melaniefulginiti8426]

WOW!!! When I saw this recommendation pop up on my KZbin: I was debating; because I knew that this episode was going to be deep & as your podcast is called, Christy; Vulnerable. and man was this one a tear-jerkier. I am glad that Jennette is not on this episode; because I want her to heal & move forward to this. Unfortunately, we never know what someone is going through: unless someone speaks out against it for however long it may take them. I too saw this book from the popularity, but I did not get this book due to the fact that I knew it would break my heart. ICarly was one of my favorite televisions growing up. Thank you so much Christy for speaking on this!!

[@christycarlsonromano]

thank you! sending you love.

[@Laurenlife]

i can't tell you how happy i am that jennette wrote this book this really is a true wake up call to all of the abusive parents out there ESPECIALLY the toxic mothers for years society wanted to treat fathers as deadbeats and it's about time someone else finally sees the other side of that i'm so sick and tired of people not understanding that sometimes mothers can be just as bad as fathers i grew up with a toxic mother myself she never wanted me to be who i wanted to be everything i did had to be about her she made me dress a certain way to impress her friends and family i wasn't allowed to have a birthday party with just me and my friends her friends ALWAYS had to be there and if i told her how i felt than she would just roll her eyes and think i'm crazy and make excuses saying "I take care of you i do everything for you you live with me you need me i don't need you" and blah blah blah and yes unfortunately i still live with her but i have been saving money and going to find a place really soon but for now i'm just doing what i want to do and not caring what she thinks and just ignoring everything she says cause NO ONE can control me anymore

[@Lori00000]

“It quiets your relationship with your higher power” - this line was beautifully said! So true!

[@Shazzzz807]

You are such a kind soul Christy. I love your coverage on these topics. I have been wanting to get this audio book.

[@kailahann5731]

My mother is a narcissist. Let me go into foster care over a man. Still to this day takes no responsibility and I am 28. Thank you for shining light Jenette on what really happens to a lot of us… including celebrities

[@vodkajaybulls]

life long forever fan of yours christy. iv been curious to hear your take on this! ❤️💯

[@BrandonCroker]

Such a lovely lady. Jenette is such an inspiration.

[@christycarlsonromano]

❤

[@Caretooning]

As a human being growing up in the 80’s what you , the Lawrence brothers , & everyone like you on these podcasts is doing to bring awareness to this abusive land of make believe we’re surrounded by is powerful ; beautiful . We’re all artists expressing ourselves through different canvases in different ways . Love you all 🤙💚🥷

[@DJSTARR123]

Thanks for unpacking your own emotions while going through this book 👏🏾

[@hanfam7665]

“Complex relationship to your own talents”. I feel this. I was trained for years in a particular sport and I’m very talented… but my trauma is tangled in with it. It just makes it hard to enjoy playing even though I also enjoy it too. It’s complicated and people have issues understanding this

[@christycarlsonromano]

its prevalent amongst high performing children in all things

[@hanfam7665]

@@christycarlsonromano agreed. I just felt so seen when you said this❤️

[@amandab3039]

I really enjoyed getting to listen to you break the book down and hear your thoughts🖤

[@ameliaswift6676]

I haven't been able to finish the last quarter of it. It so raw and real.

[@bradleybruvva3021]

I’m totally listening but I can’t help noticing your background. I love your shelving and your room setup. I think I have the deck that matches those shelves. You have great style. Super cool ‘vulnerable’ sign.

[@khfan4life365]

Even though my mom thought the Disney and Nickelodeon kids are talented, she always thought (and still thinks) that Hollywood is the devil’s playground. She knew about Corey Haim and Corey Feldman as she was a young adult in the 80s and 90s. Even when I was acting in homeschool productions, she told me she’d never let me go into professional acting. As a kid, I didn’t understand. As an adult, I thank God everyday that I never went into pro acting. I’d rather be broke and happy than famous and violated. Love you, Christy. I’m glad you’re speaking out on this. More child actors need to keep speaking out.

[@MamaRobynR]

Christy, as a single mom who put EVERYTHING before my mental health or my own addiction struggles. I was a adopted child who was placed in a house of horror. My adoptive dad drugged me from as early as I can remember till into my adulthood. And I had a adoptive mother who was exactly like janettes mom. This book was a huge struggle for me as well. My adoptive mother is a diagnosed narcissist, boardwrline, OCD abusive nightmare human. Who doesn’t believe in mental health or medication for it and definitely doesn’t believe she needs any therapy. I won’t go into the details but I had a horrible life for 37 years. And finally at 37 I chose me. And I joined absolutely every program available for therapy and treatment for my issues. I’m now about to turn 40. It’s still early in my journey but I can not tell you how much it’s helped me. I’m a better mom and fully present mom and I thought I was before that. I would really encourage you to try to talk to a therapist about your feelings brought on by this book and everything else. It’s soooo helpful. And your kids can only benefit from it even if it means time away from them. I respect you so much and applaud what your doing for children in such a vulnerable situation.

[@christycarlsonromano]

so proud of you. you are a warrior

[@MamaRobynR]

@@christycarlsonromano thank you so much! 💙💙💙 as are you!!!

[@mariana.la.chingona]

i am so proud of you. i can tell this was hard but you fought through because this message was just too important that you needed to get it out.

[@Eric_1991]

I got the audiobook of it, I listened to a bit of it but I’m going to get back into it when I have a chance. This deserves full attention

[@lauraconlon9800]

This is so beautiful and touching Christy!! I really admire you and all that you’re doing in the way that you approach life. You are an inspirational human that I hope we continue to hear from for years and years to come because you bring a lot to the table. Thank you❣️

[@christycarlsonromano]

thank you!!

[@DianeCat]

I watched you with my daughter who is now 23! Love ur platform. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@mrsamaziin]

I truly miss the walk and talks on the park trail. When will we get those again !!??

[@britniedagher5622]

I love your passion for child actors. I've felt very similar just looking on but never grew up in that world. You are doing great work. Don't stop! There will be people who will not like it and true evil you may encounter but it's a fight well worth it

[@jeremyud]

One of my favorite bits towards the end of the story is Jeanette deciding to move to her apartment in a local mall, precisely because her family had told her not to sell her house or move into an apartment. Jeanette finally says no and does it. She gets rid of a house she doesn't want and moves into the apartment she wants to move into, and I was like just, "Right on, girl."

[@kimmikawaii]

I was hoping you’d do a video on this, thank you so much!❤

[@e.brivonyt7955]

I purchased and listened to her entire book while I was at work and it hit home a lot for me. I’m also glad she put out this book because we didn’t know what she was going through while and after she was on Nickelodeon.

[@MultiGreenG]

Awe. I loved this. ❤

[@alexarobinson2850]

The thing the book gets across so well is how complete and total the coercive control of a parent over a child can be, and especially how her mom was able to fool/control so many people.

[@gillianvidales]

I've been waiting for this video, so glad you covered it.

[@Timburtonbarbie]

I genuinely loved this book and it helped me work through so much. I can't wait to hear your opinions Christy

[@christycarlsonromano]

So glad the book was helpful for you ❤

[@paigeflournoy2486]

Okay I loved this! You should do this solo talk more often!

[@ThatGirlOnYourTV]

Thank you for reviewing this book. I have not read it yet. I am not ready. I was a teenager when icarly came out and I love Jeanette so much. I just turned 32 today. I love you and your podcast so much and I am so glad that you gave people a platform to share their stories, catch up with you, etc. After seeing what some child stars go through, I am glad I waited. I signed to an agency last year. You are incredible ❤️ .

[@PolishAndPoly]

I still need to get her book; I’ll prob get the audiobook version. Thank you for posting this episode because I suffer through certain traumatic events from my father and I’d like to see others relate to certain aspects of parenting when it comes to… I can’t explain it. But yes I’ve also pushed off reading this book but I’m more than ready now. She’d be a great guest and it’s so nice to see (always, with everyone you talk about and or have on) you supporting her in this way in a very vocal, yet loving way showing that you’re open to that connection and conversation you’re willing to have with her, if she is as well. Bless you ❤️

[@christycarlsonromano]

So glad you're here ❤

[@camidumbass]

get the audio book, hearing it in her own words really brings her perspective fully.

[@7102lefteye]

So much love is sent ❤️

[@positivebeauty]

I listened to the audio version. Such a good book! I loved how raw it was. How open she was. The writing was so beautiful. It made me cry a few times. I had to finish over a few months. I legit hope that she is living her best life.

[@tannnjerene]

Thank you for mentioning not being able to fully pursue therapy while raising a child! I tell my friends that all the time and they just cannot seem to understand. I can’t break down those walls while also being a single parent every minute of every day. I can’t commit that time to myself mentally when there’s no mental time to give.

[@LaurensTruth]

I listened to this book when it first came out. I choose an audiobook because I knew she read it and it would be more meaningful that way to me. I am in recovery from the same ED as her and her book really touched me. I can relate to her in so many ways. I am honestly so proud of her for speaking out, being herself, and choosing her mental health over anything else. I love that you talked about this because I know you can relate to some other aspects of the book that most of us can’t. Which, is being a childhood star. Sending love to both of you!

[@Jayyyke]

Beautiful speaker Christy, I wouldn’t mind more solo videos. You made me want to listen to her book

[@Shivsixx]

Thanks for another video Christy! Can’t wait to watch. ❤

[@christycarlsonromano]

So glad you're here ❤

[@Jennifer-vh3tv]

I loved this book but it was very triggering . I'm glad she was able to share her story with us. Thank you so much Jennette ❤ thank you for talking about this amazing book 😊

[@moreiraisabela]

Thank you for sharing this with us, Christy

[@Not-the-usual-BS]

I barely survived in my family dynamic of narcissists..😢 I know what Jeanette went through because you don’t know the horror and evil of being abused by narcissistic parents unless you have been through it!make no mistake it’s hell on earth I also plan on writing a book about what I went through and my siblings.. I’m still going through complex ptsd and crippling depression and anxiety 😥 I give Jeanette a lot of credit because I also had an eating disorder for a long time .. love ya Jeanette !! My life was ruined from this sick twisted abuse..

[@jessicareynolds52]

Christy, I think you did a beautiful , elegant job on this review. You were so protective of Jennette and careful with not triggering your audience. Love you.