CLASSIC MOVIE REVIEW Vincente Minnelli's TEA AND SYMPATHY Steve Hayes Tired Old Queen at the Movies

[@TX1961]

What a wonderful review! I've seen this film a few times. It's telling that the Deborah Kerr character was the only one who saw through her husband. The fact that he was withholding "affection" to his wife was one major warning sign. It's interesting how so many people focused on the young man's supposed gayness, but seemingly disregarded the fact that the husband was a major closet case.

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

Exactly! But that was so subtly put over by Minnelli. He never get's heavy handed with it, but it's definitely there. The husband is SOOO creepy. Thanks for watching, hit the "like" button, check out the new TOQ merchandise and please subscribe!

[@poetcomic1]

The Last Picture Show coach is also a closet case in the novel and it is only hinted at in the movie.

[@RobbDelman]

On a personal note, this review only drove home (for me) the fact that I KNEW I was gay when I went, in 1958, to see "South Pacific". I recall holding my breath e-v-e-r-y time John Kerr walked into frame. Christ but he was a dish!

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

I did too!!!, But mine was Ken Clark as "Stew Pot" . Good God whadda' hunk! I though I was gounna faint!...wait...I did! LOL! Thanks for watching, hit the "like" button, check out the new TOQ merchandise and please subscribe!

[@kencampbell2359]

@@STEVEHAYESTOQ I agree with you about Ken Clark! I played Stewpot in a community theater production of South Pacific many years ago and, trust me, I was no Ken Clark!

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

@@kencampbell2359 LOL! Who is? I doubt even Ken Clark was Ken Clark! But boy, whadda' hunk!

[@williamsnyder5616]

@@STEVEHAYESTOQ And gee, just think of it, Steve. While you're lushing all over Ken Clark, his voice in South Pacific," Thurl Ravenscroft (also the voice of Tony the Tiger) would be saying, "Steve THAT is GGGGRRRREEEAAAATTTT!"

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

@@williamsnyder5616 Funny you mention that. Back in the "80's I was in the running to be the new voiice of "Tony The Tiger". Go close, but no cigar! Oh, well...Happy New Year! ...And I 'll take Ken Clark with or without the voice any day!!! LOL!

[@batman5224]

It’s hard for me to watch this movie. In high school, I was bullied for being shy, sensitive, and artistic. Worst of all, I received harsher treatment from teachers than other students. Looking back, I wish someone like Deborah Kerr had been in my life. It would have made things a lot easier, that’s for sure.

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

I was picked on and bullied as well, but was fortunate enough to find friends in the music and drama departments.This is where the whole concept of today's "It Get's Better" helps. Thanks for watching, hit the "like" button, check out the new TOQ merchandise and please subscribe!

[@JamesBrown-ij1px]

My heart goes out to you. You are loved ... just as you are.

[@Fandango541]

Oh Steve! So glad you did this one. Debra Kerr's line: Years from now, when you talk about this, and you will... was a catchphrase for the five queens in whose home I lived back in the 70s for divine humour! We would always camp it up when we used that line. And, oh boy, the gayest dude in that movie was Edward Andrews. Do go to the scene where he is sitting in the window seat, his legs pertly crossed, his writs limp and his posture -- soooooo gay! We loved this movie back in the day! Bless you sweetie! 😘🤣

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

Thank you! I'm so glad you liked it. That line has been a gay catch phrase for years. As famous as "Butcha' ARE, Blanche! Ya ARE!" from "Baby Jane" or "fasten your seat belts.. we do love catch phrases. They even misquote it in "The Towering Inferno", when Faye Dunaway takes Paul New man to bed!

[@johelenfugate3498]

For some reason I can’t scroll down to see the rest of Steve’s reply but my favorite iconic quote is from Queen of Outer Space where Miss Zsa Zsa Gabor declares “I HATE zhat Queen!”

[@caspence56]

Steve! So good to hear from you! This has always been one of my favorite movies. Strange, but speaking as a 100% "straight" woman, I was always attracted to quiet and sensitive men; the swaggering machos were never my "cup of tea". Thanks again.

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

Me neither. They always scared me. I ,ove a man who can sew on a button! LOl! Thanks for watching, hit the "like" button, check out the new TOQ merchandise and please subscribe!

[@MrQbenDanny]

BRAVO!!! BRAVISSIMO!!! VIVA STEVE!!! Sooo good to have you back where you belong!!! It is indeed a happy day!!! You look wonderful. I think MAE WEST should have directed and starred in "Tea and Sympathy".

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

LOL! Well, THAT'S worth a ponder! Thanks for the lovely comments! Thanks for watching, hit the "like" button, check out the new TOQ merchandise and please subscribe!

[@ceceliawight7059]

She was so ahead of her time!

[@melissasaint3283]

Lol! If the House Mother were the actual Mae West, man would the plot be different😂

[@Tonithenightowl]

Happy Gay Pride Day to all our gay brothers and sisters. We love you. :o)

[@susanmurphy958]

He doesn't play sports?! How horrifying!!!!! 😆 Lol!! Nice to see you back, Steve & Johnny! 😄💞😄💞😄💞😄💞😄

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

Thanks so much! Thanks for watching, hit the "like" button, check out the new TOQ merchandise and please subscribe!

[@susanmurphy958]

@@STEVEHAYESTOQ Anything you say Steve!!! 😊💘😊💘😊💘😊💘😊

[@coronacitas1964]

I couldn't stop laughing at your ... " Sebastian! Violet... Sebastian!"

[@MrRatherDashing]

I watched this movie again today, and it's sincerely one of the all-time greats. Everything that the Breen office took out of the script, John Alton and Vincente Minnelli placed into the cinematography instead. What's missing from the narrative remains in its drama. Joseph Breen had retired two years prior, but even with all the watering down, it's still amazing what they got into this movie. The climax feels like it takes place in another world, and feels almost avant garde for it's time. I'm happy to revisit your review, like a lovely dessert following a delicious meal!

[@villagedianne]

I’m glad to hear that the ending, which I never liked, was tacked on and not in the play.

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

Yup that's good ole' censorship for you. LOL!

[@robertn800]

How did the play end ? 😳

[@camara1194]

@@STEVEHAYESTOQ i personally loved it both ways.

[@stevenhayes4063]

@@camara1194 Good! Thanks for watching! Steve

[@slc2466]

Great to see another video from you. Love classic films, but I hate the sensibility back then regarding homosexuality in films, with "oh my God, he can't be that way!" overriding any hint that it might be normal/no big deal for someone to be gay (even though, as Steve mentions, censorship wouldn't allow this back then). I'd like to see an update wherein "Tea" is still set in the 1950's, but at the end Laura tells Tom it's okay if he's gay.

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

Well, perhaps Todd haynes will tackle it one day as he did with "Far From Heaven" his re-make/homage of "All That Heaven Allows". That would be interesting and he's the guy to do it!

[@berkeleyedit7852]

It's prounced, Deborah CAR and John CUR.

[@SpencerMusicSchool]

True story Steve. Robert Anderson who wrote the original book Tea and Sympathy was an English student of my Grandmother Billie Berea (she was a pretty extraordinary woman as back in the 20/30s she had two doctorates and also wrote a couple of scripts for Hollywood. Great review Steve.

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

Well, sounds like you've got old Hollywood in your blood and are the perfect person to watch "TOQ at the Movies!" Hooray for you and for Billie! Bless her! Steve

[@caitianlong]

"Pride and Prejudice?" "Sense and Sensibility?" hilarious! :D

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

They used to be "Lucy and Ethel". LOL! Thanks for watching, hit the "like" button, check out the new TOQ merchandise and please subscribe!

[@caitianlong]

​@@STEVEHAYESTOQ On it. ;) Wondering if the store ships to the Philippines.

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

@@caitianlong Because of the limitations caused by the COVID crisis, they have paused shipping to many locations including the Philippines. Please keep an eye out for the return to regular shipping, which normally includes the Philippines. Thank you!

[@zanetierney]

a modern day version of tea and sympathy would be great

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

There have been many since then on the same themes in various disguises. Thanks for watching, hit the "like" button, check out the new TOQ merchandise and please subscribe!

[@elliottbronstein1214]

Couldn't work. It would be considered an endorsement of "conversion."

[@jimshulman9221]

I'd have loved to see a remake with Divine in the Deborah Kerr role.

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

@@jimshulman9221 Should be out any day now....keep watching...

[@poetcomic1]

It is a period piece and could never be anything else. A modern re-staging could shift emphasis and such to make sub texts more visible.

[@mikegehre570]

Welcome back! Please do “the bad seed.” Why? Cause you’re the best reviewer in the whole wide world 👍

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

LOL! I'll give you an hour to cut that out! It's on my list! Happy Pride and Stay safe!

[@maxalberts2003]

@@STEVEHAYESTOQ Thanks very much! Happy Pride, Mr. Hayes!!

[@rabit818]

I did nothing get a KZbin alert on this video. Steve is right on point on this film. Children’s Hour is another film of the same theme that’s very well done.

[@mdtdbe]

Unless I am mistaken, that though Deborah pronounces her name “Karr,” John pronounces his as “Kurr.” I think it may have made the publicity department crazy when recording the trailer!

[@monkyguy]

LOL

[@markfadness9204]

Yes, that's the way I've always heard the 2 names pronounced -- she's (sounds like) "car"; he's (sounds like) cur

[@johnmason5574]

Thank you Steve Hayes for talking about this film. I saw it one time when I was a teen, that was in the '60's on T.V.. It helped me understand who I am and I'm so glad I saw this film. I've never forgotten it. Just keep doing what you are doing. You make a difference,

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

Thank you for your wonderful comments/compliments. You've touched me so deeply. I really appreciate it!

[@Aratak711]

Just a wonderful review, as is your wont. Always happy to see a new post from Steve and Johnny!

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

Why thank you! Have a lovel;y weekend, stay safe and Happy Pride!Thanks for watching, hit the "like" button, check out the new TOQ merchandise and please subscribe!

[@cherylcoyote]

What a great way to end a dismally hot and non-productive day. My comfy recliner, some leftover Chinese take-out, and a fresh dose of Steve - I'm back on top again!❤️

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

HOORAY!!! I'm right up there with left-over Chinese food! Nuthin' better! LOL! Thanks so much for watching and for you wonderful comments! Enjoy and stay safe! Steve

[@normanduke8855]

I do remember being unable to watch this movie as it struck so close to home. I think I'm brave enough now to buy it, lol. Imagine! We have waited since 1964 to get equality in hiring and yet no one thinks we are a discriminated minority. We are allowed neither tea nor sympathy. On a lighter note, I am devouring the Porter / Prince books and coincidentally, the one I am currently reading on James Dean mentions the love affair he had with John Kerr. Also, those Hickman brothers, woof-woof-woof !!! Especially Dobie Gillis who was like fresh air to me in the 60's.

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

Like everything lese, it's one day at a time. But that's why I think it's important that young gay people know how it was then in the face of what's been achieved and what hasn't now. Thanks for watching, hit the "like" button, check out the new TOQ merchandise and please subscribe!

[@angelachouinard4581]

Thanks so much Steve. I just love Deborah Carr. Sadly, lame stereotypes and bullying of all kinds are still with us but we are making progress. As a classic movie fan getting a notification of a new viseo by you is like getting a bottle of champagne,

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

OMG! What a lovely compliment! Thank you so much! I so appreciate it!

[@TheDukeofMadness]

Your explanation of the watering down of the play of Tea and Sympathy when it became a movie is exactly what happened to The Seven Year Itch when it was made into a movie. Which, like this movie, helped it become more engaging as the subtlety required made it more intriguing.

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

Yup. Hollwyood would buy these incredible plays and novels and then do everything possible to remove the one thing that made them famous in the first place. Some still manged to maintain a semblance of what they had and in certain cases ("Peyton Place") raise the level. But, most of the time it was just keep the title and leave the rest to your imagination. "Forever Amber", "The Moon Is Blue"...which got by thanks to Otto Preminger and so may others that had any sexual connotation what-so-ever were often watered down beyond recognition. But I loved how the movies in the '50's continued to fight to break the barriers. Thanks so much for watching, hit the "like" button, check out the new TOQ merchandise and please subscribe!

[@Leftatalbuquerque]

Thanks for introducing me to a movie I was unaware of.

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

My great pleasure. I hope you'll watch the other films I've reviewd and discover even more treasures. I love your title...from "Bugs Bunny" . LOL! Thank you so much for watching TOQ! Please take a moment to subscribe so you don't miss future episodes and please push the "LIKE" button . It really helps! Have a great day! Steve

[@Leftatalbuquerque]

@@STEVEHAYESTOQ Blah, blah, blah... Say it with a Trouble With Angels tribute! Auntie Mame meets Nunsense - who could ask for anything more? Love ya! Mean it!

[@sfinthecity]

This is fascinating. Later in the Broadway run, Joan Fontaine and Anthony Perkins took over the roles, with Alan Sues as "Ralph" and Dick York, per Wikipedia and IMDb.

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

Yes, it had a healthy run and even after the film version, it has surved and been done everywhere. It offered actresses of the time and a certain age a wonderful role where they could be their proper age, be 'a lady" and still be sexy. Both Perkns and Fontaine would have been perfect...don't know about Alan...Hnmmm. Thanks for watching!

[@jimmyl324]

One of my favorite movies.i told someone a long time ago” when you look back at this years from now please be kind.”

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

I'm SO glad! Hooray! Stay Safe and Happy Pride! Thanks for watching, hit the "like" button, check out the new TOQ merchandise and please subscribe!

[@jimmyl324]

Steve Hayes love all your reviews. You’re such a big movie buff and very informative.

[@katnappers]

Happy to see you all doing well. Always appreciate your knowledge and insight. You are a treasure.

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

No Bobbi. YOU are for watching TOQ! We appreciate you!Thanks for watching, hit the "like" button, check out the new TOQ merchandise and please subscribe!

[@camara1194]

I loved this movie so much. it meant so much to me in my childhood. it’s my favorite movie. i loved it and i get so emotional every time i watch it. i cried just watching it tonight. Deborah Kerr is amazing. I never thought Tom was gay, but i know the play is a bit more explicit. I love love love love love this show.

[@stevenhayes4063]

Thank you! I love this movie too! The perfrmances of the two Kerrs are terrific! Best Wishes and Happy Fall! Steve

[@JamesBrown-ij1px]

Brilliant, informed, and sensitive analysis. We need MUCH MORE of this today! I do have just one additional thought: I believe that the story IS unquestionably about 'homosexuality', but not about the young man's sexuality but rather the husband's. I see that ending as (ironically) not as much as a 'punishment' of her character but rather the truthful 'reveal' of his.

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

Interesting and to a degree, I agree .

[@johnreimler467]

Great review. I've heard the line "When you think of this. . ." but I never knew what it was from. Also - amazing intro from Johnny!! Thanks.

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

Thanks so much for watching!

[@josebenito15]

Minelli, the great Minelli, used to brag about, when it wasn't mortal danger in saying, "I made the first Gay movie in Hollywood and I was paid by the MGM, and He was absolutely right. Being Minelli himself a gay man, He understood the play wonderfully well and the movie even today, it is a treat to watch. Things, Thanks God, have changed but the film's charm still remains 🌟

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

I quite agree. I love Minnelli's non- musicals. He and Douglas Sirk made my favorite melodramas of the period.

[@apizzathatgiantforthesimpl5191]

I first heard about this movie in The Celluloid Closet. After hearing your review, I'll definitely check it out!

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

You should. Like all Minnelli dramas, it's sumptuous and so detailed. Thanks for watching, hit the "like" button, check out the new TOQ merchandise and please subscribe!

[@patriciacole7843]

You're the BEST Steve--Happy Pride !!

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

No, YOU are! So happy to have you here!Thanks for watching, hit the "like" button, check out the new TOQ merchandise and please subscribe!

[@ceceliawight7059]

I always look forward to seeing you and Johnny and discover new (old) movies. I try to catch or record ones I can. You have increased my love for these great stories and I love the history of how they come to the screen. And the insight to the actors is just perfect! ❤️✌️

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

Oh, I'm SO glad! I'm always hoping to lead people back to these incredible works of art. These fabulous story driven/character driven films. If I can recommend them and then you watch and recommend them, and then they do, there's no better way of keeping the legacy alive. Thank you so much!

[@lovingasmr7]

this film almost made me cry because it reminds me of the times I got bullied in school, it touches home but this film will have a special place in my heart, absolutely beautiful on how accurate society is. I am very happy that they implied that just because a man isn't in our "normal perception of masculinity" or feminine does not make him gay, I wish the woman would've said something like "even if you are...different and is attracted to your same sx I am here for you" but obviously they wouldn't allow that but that's okay the film is beautiful just the way it is because there are straight men being accused of being "homosecxual" just from their outside looks or behavior. the "walking" part literally made my heart pound because I literally WAS TOLD THE SAME THING, that my walk is a bit"ehhh" this film is treasure and I respect everyone who participated in it.

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

I agree. I also think that many of us, during that time, found love and support in differnt places. Mine were an several aunts and my grandmothers. They helped me to hold on and hold on until I could get out into the world and start to find what I needed to survive, be happy and most of all be free and unashamed. This film, as well as the play were so imprtant. Thanks for watching! Steve

[@raydunn8262]

Steve, great insight and presentation. Thank you. When the young man cried, he sounded like James Dean. I have much enjoyment in my near future, I just found you in the last year. I have lots of catching up.

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

Welcome aboard. I hooe you subscribe so I can bring you a new one every month! Thanks! Steve

[@raydunn8262]

@@STEVEHAYESTOQ I'm a subscriber. I can't do Patreon, I'm retired. Keep up the great work

[@raydunn8262]

@STEVEHAYESTOQ is Dog Day Afternoon too depressing? What's interesting was that the gay and trans stuff was hardy written about in reviews. I saw it in the theater. It's superb. Fun facts: the other robber, John Cezale only starred in five movies. All were nominated for Best Picure. Three won, Deer Hunter and of course, I Gonna Make You An Offer and GF2. Technically he was in a sixth movie that was also nominated for Best Picture. They used archived footage in gf3. Second: John and Meryl S were long-time lovers until his death in 1977. They were in Deer H together, her first Oscar nomination. He had the Medious Touch. Ironically, he wasn't ever nominated for an Oscar. Sadly, he couldn't use the Touch on himself.

[@showbz3]

What a great review! Loved your energetic and upbeat insights into the making of this film. It’s one I’ve never had the chance to see, but always wanted to. It’s on my to do list! Thanks for the wonderful preview, dear Steve!❤️👀

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

Oh, thank you! I have been a great promoter of Minnelli's dramatic features fo a long time. This, "The Bad and the Beautiful', "The Cobweb", Home From The Hill", "Some Came Running" and "The Fotur Horsemen Of The Apocalypse" rank right up there with the other great director of lavish melodrama, Douglas Sirk ( "Written On The Wind", "Imitation Of LIfe") . Happy Summer and thanks so much for watching! Steve

[@AmandaBeeRekendwith]

In the remake of Suddenly, Last Summer, you MUST play Violet. :)

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

NOPE. I'll play Katherine's mother. I can do my "mercedes McCambridge"; " Oh Kathy! Oh, ma lttle girl! The're gonna cut out yer brain...I mean... " LOL

[@linneab8317]

"Walk like a man, talk lie a man Walk like a man, my son No woman's worth crawlin' on the earth So walk like a man, my son Oh wee ooh-ooh-ooh-ooh-ooh-wee-ooh" Thank you, Frankie Valli

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

That lyric should be; " Nobody's worth crawlin' on the earth." The sentiment is right on target.

[@stuartmuzic]

Wait... I listened to Rachmaninoff all day, practiced walked without swaying, was name-called "Sally Sue"... Oh right. :)

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

Yup....we've all had those moments at some time or other in some form or other from someone or other.Thank you so much for watching TOQ! Please take a moment to subscribe so you don't miss future episodes and please push the "LIKE" button . It really helps! Have a great day! Steve

[@matthough3590]

Always a treat to have another visit with Steve and Johnny. Happy Pride!

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

Happy Pride to you too! Thanks for watching, hit the "like" button, check out the new TOQ merchandise and please subscribe!

[@arricammarques1955]

Aspiring folk singer in the 1950s would be an ideal way to meet girls!

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

I'm sure...if you're so inclined. LOL!

[@angelpajarillo]

These reviews are just perfection and the impersonations are amazing 🤩

[@danielthoman7324]

I just discovered your channel recently, Steve. I like your reviews and commentary. Have you ever heard of a movie called, Taxi Zum Klo? A German movie from 1980. It's very raunchy. I managed to find it on eBay.

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

I remember when it came out, but never saw it.

[@62irishmike]

Steve, This is the most brilliant assessment I've encountered regarding this landmark film. You've covered all the bases and then some, regarding the transition from stage to film, the changes that Robert Anderson was forced to shoehorn into the screenplay to satisfy the censors and the compromised, tacked on ending that was such a cop out but guaranteed the movie to getting a major release. Your insight into Vincent Minelli's use of color and decor was something of a revelation to me, thank you for that! I have always been profoundly moved by this film , as much for what it says and doesn't say. The hazing incident, talked about in the play but enacted in the film, moves me to tears every time I see it. Something on a less grander scale but just as devastating happened to me when I was in high school in 1964. The movie naturally is not as frank as the play , surely, but still, it was a brave attempt at a time when the subject of homosexuality was such a lightning rod. Thank you so much for your superb review. You are a treasure!

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

Dear Michael; First of all thank you for your kind and wonderful comments and sharing your own memories. Your comments touched my heart. I think that those of us of that particular generation can relate all too clearly to what this poor boy goes through. Many have written since seeing this episode, how much the movie meant to them when they first saw it and that they also went through similar circumstances. I did. I became the class clown in order not to get picked on...and sometimes got picked on anyway... my life saver was the highschool drama department. Alway kindered souls there. I so appreciate you taking the time to write and hope you will continue to be part of the TOQ fmaily. Thanks so much for watching! Please subscribe and push the "LIKE" button. Stay Safe. Happy Pride! Best; Steve

[@62irishmike]

@@STEVEHAYESTOQ Thanks so much for your reply , Steve. I was introduced to your reviews via an email movie buff pal from So. Africa who sent me one of your videos. Ever since then I've been a loyal fan. I am in awe of your knowledge of movies. Regarding this film, I have the Warner disc you have. I'm hoping in the future it will be released on disc with a running commentary added (you would be the ideal person for that job)! I've been a movie enthusiast since I was a kid , went to the movies every weekend at my local hometown theater every weekend preferring reel life to real life! I am old enough to remember going to the movie palaces (born in '48 - moved around a lot with my family) and saw several Road Show films in Philly and NY City. I'm glad I grew up during those years , moviegoing was so exciting. Since I began watching your videos I've been introduced to several films I'd never seen before. Be safe and well and I look forward to more of your insightful and entertaining film reviews. I did subscribe!

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

Oh Michael; Your lovely comments made my day! Thank you so much for taking the time ! Have a lovely Pride weekend and please continue to stay safe. Steve

[@charlesmcdermott6139]

Easily one of your more in depth reviews. Thank you!

[@alidabaxter5849]

Dear Steve, I had to respond to your fascinating review of this film because when I last heard from you, you were going to watch "The Innocents", and Deborah Kerr (who was sensational in that) is a favourite actress of mine. She is so good in every single thing she does, and (for me) an absolute treasure, not least because when "The King and I" came out she talked about Marni Nixon having sung for her, and I don't think any other leading lady had ever credited Marni before (you'll correct me if I'm wrong here). She's perfect in this film, which is really an heroic remnant of what might have been made, if the times hadn't been so bloody obsessed by what being male was and what "good women" did and did not do, and even married couples were only allowed to be seen sleeping in single beds. The husband here is such a failure that he can't even stand up for someone to whom he's probably attracted! It's interesting, but enraging. Now, please may I ask you, just for yourself, if you haven't seen a Deborah Kerr film called "The Sundowners", to watch it. As so often, she is paired with Robert Mitchum, and she plays a woman whose husband goes around Australia shearing sheep and constantly losing any money they save by betting. There's a scene in which she looks at a beautifully dressed young woman, and the girl looks back with utter contempt, because Deborah is so poorly dressed, and Deborah flinches as though she's been hit - it's heart breaking. She has such incredible range. Back in the 'sixties I flew to Switzerland and across the plane aisle I recognised the actor Paul Daneman (buried in his newspaper and obviously not wanting to be bothered). The plane landed, everyone made their way out towards taxis and cars, and in the car park I saw a beautiful blonde woman waving like a maniac and jumping up and down. It was Deborah Kerr! Paul Daneman broke into a huge grin and hurried towards her. She was as lovely as she looks on film, times ten. Very best wishes, and we really need your wonderful reviews in these awful times, Alida

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

Dear Alida; I adore Deborah. I've seen "The Sundowners" and she's warm & wonderful in it. Robert Mitchum said she and Jane Greer were his favorite leading ladies. They're love scenes are so affecting. I think she'ds also amazxing in "From Here To Eternity" playing that unhappy, sex starved wife so frankly...well, as much as they would allow...and her love scenes with Burt Lansater are so passionate. they still sizzle. However, my favorite perfromances of hers are " The Chalk Garden" and " Black Narcissus". Thanks you, once again for your fabulous and fascinating anecdote combined with your views and lovely compliments. So appreciated! Best Wishes; Steve

[@roybruno100]

amazing - you're love of film and love for the community I'm part of - LGBTQ Community, is inspiring. Thank you for all you do - Happy Pride to all of you at Tired Old Queen at the Movies and you especially Mr. Hayes.

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

Thank you so much! I can't tell you how much we appreciate your comments. Thanks again for watching, hit the "like" button, check out the new TOQ merchandise and please subscribe!

[@JoyceAllKnowingTarot]

I watched the movie this morning your description of movie colors detail were spot on. You picked another winner

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

Awww thanks so much, Joyce! Delighted you saw it!

[@ThePiratemachine]

Oh dear. The old issue of whether one was 'masculine' - the then definition to fulfill to define one as 'a man.' This film - play was brilliant, I thought especially round about the mid 60s when I first ventured into the pub. All the men were built like beer barrels and I deliberately adopted a swagger copied directly from watching Rod Taylor. If I could define myself as Rod then I could provide a man ( my new self.)Talk about on an assembly line! Then I became friendly with the stud who had all the girls in the pub and ventured to mention 'Tea And Sympathy.' To my eternal surprise he told me it was one of his favorite movies. ( He revealed to me he was besides tough as hell - a painter - of pictures, not houses. We are still friends all these years later.) I remember well the pressure on having to be accepted 'a good bloke' until I just couldn't be bothered what anyone thought of me as I just tried to do 'the right thing' best as I could. Thanks for an intricate review, Steve.

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

My pleasure. Thanks for sharing your story. I was the class clown in order to escape being perscuted for being gay. I became best friends with the most popular guy in my class when he tried out and got the lead in our production of "South Pacific". I was assigned to be his mentor and he, in turn, made me accepted by everyone. We are also still friends. Highschool is tough on everyone one way or another. Steve

[@helohalo3106]

Thank you for this. I really wish we could remake it without the filters

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

It would be interesting to say the least. Thanks for watching, hit the "like" button, check out the new TOQ merchandise and please subscribe!

[@kathykreates1798]

Yes. Love your commentary. Steve.... Thank you

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

Thank you, so much! You made my day! Please subscribe if you haven't already and stay safe! Best; Steve

[@aussieskates]

Love to you both. Thank you for reviewing this time-honored classic.

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

So glad you liked it. Hope you are well, SAFE and happy! LOL!

[@johnmyers7008]

Steve, thank you so much for reviewing this movie. I find it more acceptable now since your explanation. It's a painful movie to watch.

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

Yes, if you're from my generation...when Mamie Eisenhower was in the White House,... the atmosphere was pretty accurate in terms of the bullying.

[@johnmyers7008]

Steve, I’m slightly younger, but not by much. I was born in ‘62, and was bullied. I so enjoy your reviews! 😊

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

@@johnmyers7008 Well, bullying often begins in the home and extended families and can start long before school. There are often the little remarks and innuendos here and there growing up. It's so hard. That's why it's important for the older generations to explain and help the younger ones along. Yes, we are technologically advanced, but so is the bullying and the persecution.

[@johnmyers7008]

[@TheBillygoat4]

I never saw the movie but had heard a lot about it. Watched it after seeing Steve's review and really appreciate that it broke some ground for its time. As Steve says, its scenes where there is bullying going on show how far we still have to go. Thanks, Steve, for a wonderful review.

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

Hey Bill; My pleasure! So glad you liked it and even more happy that you earched it out and watched it, which is always my hope. Thanks so much for watching. Don't forget to subscribe and hit the "Like"button. Stay well, be happy, please stay SAFE. Best; Steve

[@TheBillygoat4]

@@STEVEHAYESTOQ I've been a subscriber/fan of yours for many years and enjoy every review - periodically I go back and watch an older one and it reminds me to re-watch that particular movie. I recall first seeing you in "Trick" and thinking that your roll was really pivotal to the story (another movie I own and therefore watch whenever I need a little pick-me-up). Anyway, there are a lot of us who really enjoy your reviews and hope that you keep them coming. Just ordered a T-shirt from your site; hope that you receive something from the Teespring people.

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

@@TheBillygoat4 Oh Bill, you made my day! First of all, thank you for your wonderful, encouraging and supportive comments! Thank you also for your lovely compliments about my work in "TRICK', which is dear to my heart and thank you for buying a T-Shirt! How cool to know that we'll be together in a whole new way! Go ahead Fella, wear me out!! LOL! All the best, have a lovely weekend and please be SAFE. Best; Steve

[@TheBillygoat4]

@@STEVEHAYESTOQ *smiles*

[@rollymeeks7031]

Thank you Steve! Always good to see you and Johnny! Another movie I had forgotten about...let my search begin! Take care!

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

Thanks Rolly! I'm always plesaed to turn people onto movies they haven't seen in years. Thanks for watching, hit the "like" button, check out the new TOQ merchandise and please subscribe!

[@marccollins1966]

First....hi guys...Marc from a Texas. Sooooo good to see u. Been too long. I’ve been binge watching nothing but old classics. Today is Quo Vadis day, stay safe.

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

Thanks you! "Quo Vadis", eh? Such fun!! Talk about a TOQ ! I love Peter Ustinov chewing up the scenery along with most of Rome..that wasn't burned. LOL! . Practically everyone in the cast is British and then there's good ole' midwest Robert Taylor. I love those swords and sandals epics! Thanks for watching, hit the "like" button, check out the new TOQ merchandise and please subscribe!

[@ebonywahine]

Steve!!!! Great to see and hear ya!!!!

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

Great to be seen and heard! Especially by you! Thanks so much! Take moment to subscribe so you don't miss future episodes and please push the "LIKE" button . It really helps! Have a great day! Stay well and be safe. Best: Steve

[@markleneker9923]

TOQ is always a bright spot in my KZbin-laden life. Big hugs!

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

I'm so glad to hear it! Subscribe if you haven't and hit the "like" butoon. Always appreciated! Thanks so much for watching! Stay safe!

[@carlosrobbins9178]

I had forgotten what it was like to let people torture me for being gay. So silly to give people all that power. I’ll pass on this one, Steve. It would be like Tina Turner re-visiting Nutbush, TN. Ain’t no love in Nutbush. LOL

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

Well, it's not as bad as it might seem and as I said, it's pretty watered down. Stay Safe and Happy Pride! Thanks for watching, hit the "like" button, check out the new TOQ merchandise and please subscribe!

[@rdbwdc774]

Another outstanding review, Steve. That said, I have to be that guy... Deborah Kerr and John Kerr pronounced their last names differently.

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

Thanks for watching!

[@stephenwilliams1269]

Thank you Steve for choosing Tea and Sympathy. Your choices and background information are always top drawer. I always enjoy your videos thank you for taking the time and effort and please thank Johnny too. HAPPY PRIDE from London UK.

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

Muy pleasure , Stephen! Thank you for watching!

[@coronacitas1964]

Lockdown made me do it... and I have binge watch since.

[@richardk8821]

So glad you’re back doing TOQATM, Steve! Thanks for reviewing this film. Frankly, I run hot and cold on this movie and the original play, but have come to appreciate both as period pieces. And who doesn’t love the amazing Deborah Kerr? I do adore her in this movie. I wish I had had a Miss Laura (as a confidante) growing up. Great direction and cinematography as well. I would have loved to have seen the original Broadway production. A couple of years ago, a good friend directed a local community theatre production of the play, and it had some really authentic moments. His set was gorgeous, and he cast it well. I’m going to forward this link to him b/c I know he’ll appreciate your insight (and your K. Hepburn). An interesting factoid about Leif Erickson: He was the first husband of Frances Farmer. Sending much love to you from the Mississippi Gulf Coast.

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

Hey Richard! How nice to hear from yu. Thank you for your comments. I'm glad they are still doung the play. I love theold well made plays like this one, "Separate Tables", "Picnic"...they are all of a certain time and morality, but I love them as classic period pieces. Stay cool down there and please STAY SAFE! Take moment to subscribe so you don't miss future episodes and please push the "LIKE" button . It really helps! Have a great day! Steve

[@ianheyworth3559]

Thank you Steve and Johny, I have been enjoying your reviews here on the far side from your world for a number of years and I can't add to the superlatve accolades the your admirers have already bestowed on you. But thanks for adding to the richness of my life. T and S was so different to my life at school. In the early 1960s I had the foresite to tell my parents to their face that their son was a homosexual (being 14 at that time.) My father having been a home boat seaman when he met my mother meant that it was not an issue within our household. However outside, ie school, it was an issue as I never hid the fact and many a school break was spent entertaining my class mates with tales of 'debauchary of the sodom and gommorah kind' whilst they were still hanging on to their virginity. Luckily I was never bullied by my peers as I was a prop in the scrum of the rugby team. Any hint that a situation might arise ended up with my standing up for myself and telling them to f o if the knew what was good for them. However, although my peers liked me the same could not be said for the school hierachy. Eventually Mum, Dad and I were called before the Principal and given notice that I was expelled from the school. Anyway that proved a good thing in hindsight. I stowed away on the Anelina Lauro and left my small city of a quater of a million and 3 days later endend up in another country in a city of 3 million. This led to my getting a career in IT whereby I saw and lived around the world. Sydney, Melbourne, Capetown, San Francisco in the early seventies, London, Nice, Frankfurt, Toronto, Calgary, Vancouver, Honolulu, Port Vila, Singapore, Denver and even the arse hole of the world Pheonix. Now back here in Paraparaumu, retired and happy. Sorry for the diatribe but just want to let those who are starting out in pooftaville that my advice is, stand up for yourself and tell the arseholes to go fuck themselves. Don't put up with their shit because it is their shit not yours. You are so much better. Happy Gay Pride Steve and Johnny and all else who have read my tome.

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

Happy Pride to you too, Ian! Thank you for sharing your fascinating experiences and yes, you have to stand up for yourself. I was the class clown and then I joined the Drama club and that saved my highschool life. I tehn went to college, came out in the early '70's, to my family as well, moved from my small town to New York and ever looked back! Good for us! What courage we had! Sening you all the best and hope this finds you well, happy and SAFE! Thanks so much for watching. Please "Subscribe" and push the "LIKE" button. It's most appreciated. Stay Safe! Best; Steve

[@scottgray6276]

My str8 roommate in college worked on Tea and Sympathy, in an acting class project... needless to say, l couldn't offer any butch-it-up advice!

[@lesliehobanblake9029]

So good to see you Steve...love your reviews. Stay strong, well and above all funny. Wash your hands👐 and wear your mask😷 ❤️❤️Much love ❤️❤️ Leslie (Hoban) Blake

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

I'll do my best!

[@MarciRaney-tt8ev]

Why doesn't this channel have millions of subscribers?!

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

We're working on it. Thanks so much for watching and your kind encouragement.

[@2legit64]

Oh, my heavens! Finally! As you've read more than once in the comments sections of your videos, I'm a huge Deborah Kerr fan. This has to be my favorite of her films (I've seen it maybe 30 times), along with "Black Narcissus," "Night of the Iguana," and "The Chalk Garden." I always have felt that Tom had a huge crush on Laura and was a little bit in love with her in the film. Now, if I'd seen the play, I may have gotten a different vibe. I remember what it was like to have crushes at around that age. I was always putting myself in the path of my crush who happened to be an administrator of my university. I probably would be considered a stalker now. Unfortunately, he turned out to be an a-hole. We live and learn. LOL! I read somewhere that this being filmed in color was a distraction for some people. I, however, thought that color was amazing. It, for me, brought a kind of urgency to the story. The scene in the woods at the end is still one that brings out a lot of emotion in me. There's an incredible amount of intimacy in the words that she speaks and the setting. Also, realizing that Laura was willing to sacrifice her fidelity to her husband and the life that she had to save this boy was pretty heavy stuff. Thanks for doing this one. The next time I watch it, I'll be hearing your critique. LOL!

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

Thank you so much for your comments and observations. Bottom line, I think the thing that makes it work are the sincere performances of the two Kerrs. They did it on Broadway, were totaly at home with the chaarcters and each other and it's the honesty and sensitivity of their work that really puts the movie over. I think Minnelli's always expert use of color adds just the right atmosphere, giving subtle indications as to what is actually occuring as opposed to what is or isn't allowed to be said. Thanks you so much!

[@jerryrathgeb4412]

Thanks for another delight of a recommendation; though our tastes in film and movie stars don't always agree, I always enjoy your take on the cinema. For T&S: I thought that ending was tacked on. And it just made me think that his marriage was going to come apart just as hers had, which was a real downer for the ending. Not that the film was a rocket to laughs, but...

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

You could very well be right. But, I like that things are left up in the air and allowing you to mull it over later. So glad you watch, Jerry!

[@jerryrathgeb4412]

@@STEVEHAYESTOQ so glad you post, Torrid All Key On The Moving! 🙃

[@violetbrown2372]

Roger Ebert told a story about a studio boss, yelling at the production department, over all the properties they owned, but had not put into production, and one of them was The Well of Lonliness." and some one had to tell him, that particular scrip could never be made into a film, "why not!" "Well, sir it's about lesbians." "Then make 'em Americans!"

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

LOL! That sounds like Goldwyn. Thanks for watching, hit the "like" button, check out the new TOQ merchandise and please subscribe!

[@angelaholmes8888]

I absolutely love this movie I watched it when I was a teenager Vincent minelli did a great job 🌈😀

[@stevenhayes4063]

Yes and I'm so glad they gave it to Minnelli. He brought just the right sensitivity to it. A beautiful job. Happy Holidays! Steve

[@jaylineff]

What a wonderful review of this classic. You always inform and entertain, but you outdid yourself w/this one. Happy Gay Pride, indeed.

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

Thank you so much Jay! I really appreciate your watching TOQ!

[@CalBruin]

Question: Could this movie be redone today (2024)? Who would you cast?, direct?

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

There have been so many variations to more or lesser degrees ever since. I think you would have to keep it in the '50's. Perhaps do a Broadway revival. As to casting.... There are lots of choices. It might be great vehicle for Cate Blanchett, Nicole Kidman etc.

[@crawfordiano]

Always perceptive, informed and original! Love you, Steve!

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

Thank you, Ruiz! That means a great deal! Hope you are SAFE and have a lovely summer!

[@markchase7419]

Happy Pride Steve and Johnny! I think this film "Tea and Sympathy" is important in many ways. Stereotyping people based on likes and dislikes was being addressed. I'm straight but I listen to classical music, am neat, my place is kept up and I watch RuPaul's Drag Race!! Being in theater for about 45 years (omg I'm old!!) my philosophy has always been, "..I'm not impressed by what you drive but I marvel in your ability to be honest.." For Pride, let's be honest, be kind, live-and-let-live. wear that skirt, wear those jeans, throw a football, throw a tantrum...just Love.."

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

Truer words...Only love, Mark. Only love. Thanks, as always for your kind support and comments! Sensding you all my best, Buddy!

[@markchase7419]

@@STEVEHAYESTOQ so you don't throw a tantrum I'm guessing?! lol Have a great day!

[@markchase7419]

p.s. Please do the original La Cage aux Folle (1978) or "The Ritz" (1977) two films that brought a lot of people together...I saw "La Cage" probably 10-12 times in the movie house (San Diego) I mean it ran for what 2 yrs? ciao.

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

@@markchase7419 I don't throw tantrums! Sometimes I sleep.

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

@@markchase7419 Both on my "to do" list! I played Zaza in "La Cage " two years ago. Loved every second!

[@colliew8370]

Great film pick and Happy Pride to Steve, Johnny and the team. Have just ordered my t-shirt and looking forward to wearing it with pride ✨

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

Dear Collie; just thought you'd like to know that there's a "Tired Old Queen" out there who LOVES YOU!....just sayin'.. I'm thrilled you got a T-shirt! If you're not a sbscriber, don't forget to sign up so I can stop by every month! Happy Pride, Honey and many, many thanks!

[@colliew8370]

Steve Hayes 🥰 thanks Steve, you are loved by so many who enjoy the glamour and magic of your storytelling. Would happily tune in everyday but as you are a busy guy... I’ll see you next month 🤗 ✨

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

@@colliew8370 It's a date! thank you so much and have a great weekend! Stay safe! Steve

[@melissasaint3283]

In Maltese Falcon, man does John Huston get around the sensors with the subthemes...especially Peter Lorre's first on screen appearance!

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

Of course. That was the name of the game. Get around the censors. He and Hitchcock were master at it.

[@MarkMonlux]

I love, love, watching your reviews. Thanks so much.

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

My pleasure, Mark! Thanks so much for watching! I so appreciate it! Dont forget to subscribe and hit the "Like" button. Everything helps! Best Steve

[@johnlowell9300]

An oddity: Deborah pronounced her surname: CAR; John pronounced his surname: CARE.

[@killianyinstitut]

Thrilled and over the moon! Happy Pride!

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

Happy Pride, Tina! Thanks for watching, hit the "like" button, check out the new TOQ merchandise and please subscribe!

[@terilerwick284]

Lol. My late husband was a vascular surgeon. He could put a person back together and sew a button on in nothing flat too! He loved classical music and always had it playing in his OR. The 50's were so repressed. Still lots of work to do, but at least we're past this stupidity.

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

BRAVO! I loved this response and totally agree...although stupidity still runs pretty rampant. Thaks for watching!

[@TheBillygoat4]

Oh, and keep these reviews coming.

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

LOL! Funny you metion it, the new one is coming out momentarily!

[@gyozs]

Love your videos and you film commentary. How come you don't have your Gene dolls in the background? I love how you have them dressed and posed for each video.

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

I do for the most part, but didn't have any to fit this particular film. I was on location and couldn't carry 'em all. ....ie: I couldn't bring "the children"LOL Thanks for watching! You can buy these dolls on Amazon.But...I'd be wiling to wager you already have a few. Hmmmm? LOL!

[@eschaefer6512]

I 've heard of this movie but have never seen it or what it was about. Must watch for it. It would be great if TCM would do a Gay Pride month of gay themed movies. Suddenly Last Summer is stupendous and thanks for throwing in the Hepburn impression. So funny. Happy Gay Pride guys.💋

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

They are. They are showing quite a few as a matter of fact. Check out their schedule this month, I think you'll be surprisde. Thanks so much for watching!

[@BrokebackBob]

Happy Pride Johnny and Steve! I love you both! 💞😘 Please visit with us more often!

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

Well, logitically, it's a bit impossible especially in quarantine. However, we are all delighted to have you and don;'t forget to sunscribe, so you'll be notified about each new episode. And ush the "like" button. It all helps! Thanks SO much for watching! Steve

[@thelookuplookdown]

Magnificent review, very honest and deeply moving. THANK YOU. Michael - South Africa

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

Dear Michael; Thank you so much for taking the time to respond. Your comments made me very happy. I hope all is well with you there and that you are well, happy and safe. Thank you so much for watching TOQ! Please take a moment to subscribe so you don't miss future episodes and please push the "LIKE" button . It really helps! Have a great day! Steve

[@thelookuplookdown]

@@STEVEHAYESTOQ Dear Steve, thank you so much for responding to my comment. I know the movie, but have not seen it but your brilliant review has inspired me to do so asap. Like the USA we are in lock down but its slowly being eased. I hope you are safe and well and thank you for your charm, your grace and treasure troves of stories you add to your reviews making you, for me, one of the best reviewers on KZbin. With warmest best wishes, Michael - South Africa (OF COURSE I'M A SUBSCRIBER!).

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

@@thelookuplookdown Dear Michael; We're slowly recovering. But, here in New York City, with the advent of summer and three months of quarantine, people are fallinfg for a false sense of security and being careless in not taking the proper precautions. I don't know what the ramifications may be. I think we're due to be battling this virus for a long time. There is still so much we don't know. I'm taking the time to take every percaution and to watch as many classic movies as I can....of course... I didn't collect this huge library of DVDs for nothing! LOL! Please continue to stay safe and enjoy a summer of great movies! All the Best; Steve

[@SandySaunders9142]

Love you Steve!

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

Thank you and thanks for watching. I hope you subscribe and stay SAFE! Best; Steve

[@alondraperez-ramirez8363]

Thanks for another not well known movie Steve! Hadn't seen John Kerr in anything other than South Pacific or Gaby (have you ever seen Gaby? Don't really see a lot of fans for it which is a shame cause I just love anything with Leslie Caron) so it's great that here he got to shine in a non traditional way. I don't think the film was just about gay repulsion, I think the play was also criticizing the way men (and to a certain degree women since Deborah is both the beard and the angel) embrace a very strict 'macho' ideal for men that is more hurtful than productive. They mock John's character for sewing and the girls joke about him cooking but really those should be desirable traits in a young man to have. Wouldn't it be nice to have a boyfriend who can help patch up that dress you don't want to throw away cause you love it but you don't have the time to mend or take advantage of the fact he likes classical music to waltz in the living room? But alas, they cannot see the advantage of a sensitive partner because they've been molded to accept nothing outside out of the norm so a boy who is actually a catch becomes an object of ridicule.

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

I think it's basically about fear. Fear of what you don't know, or don't understand, so you persecute. Thank you so much for watching TOQ! Please take a moment to subscribe so you don't miss future episodes and please push the "LIKE" button . It really helps! Have a great day! Steve

[@sidd1212]

old viewer from India always look fwd to your BELL

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

Dear Sidd; Hw lovely that you follow me from India! I'm so thrilled! I hope this finds you satying sfae and send you my kindest regards!Thanks for watching, hit the "like" button, check out the new TOQ merchandise and please subscribe!

[@vincenthannah7209]

Belated Happy Pride Steve.... I saw this movie for the first time about a month ago on TCM. Thank God we have graduated from these narrow minded stereotypes. Not at all surprised that the producers watered this down. This was the 50's after all. As I watched this film I kept saying to myself, "What is really sad is that many people still think this way about our community.

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

Yes, indeed. Too many. With all the pro-gay programing on TV, the films, the books and magazine articles, there are still so many out there that feel exactly the same as their ancestors did. It's a constant fight for liberation against prejudice. . It has to be fought every single day and it starts where we live and with those we love. Thanks for watching. Have a lovely weekend . Stay healthy. Stays SAFE. Best; Steve

[@vincenthannah7209]

@@STEVEHAYESTOQ Amen. The struggle is very real every single day. No one knows what we go through as gay men unless they are gay themselves. Stay safe and have a lovely weekend also.....Keep them coming please.

[@aagold76]

I always thought Deborah and John were related- she was either his mother or older sister...glad to know they weren't before seeing this ;)

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

Yes, that might have been a shocker! LOL!Thanks for watching, hit the "like" button, check out the new TOQ merchandise and please subscribe!

[@EnricoTrujillo]

Thanks for your reviews! 🙂

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

Dear Enrico; Thank YOU so much for watching! Stay well and stay SAFE! Best; Steve

[@mzmantiz508]

WOW! Can you ever sell a movie.:)! Happy Pride too

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

Happy Pride, Darlin'! Thanks so much for watching. Please "Subscribe" and push the "LIKE" buttn. It's most appreciated. Stay Safe! Best; Steve

[@CalBruin]

Just re-watched the movie. I never cared before but this go around I was stunned by how good of an actress Deborah Kerr was. Watching this time, I felt the agony of awkwardness and the internal struggle at trying to figure out what is “wrong with themselves”. The pajama scene is prime example of toxic masculinity on display. The talk she had with husband Bill about masculinity applies to any property of behavioral differences whether fan of the ‘wrong’ music and being on the ‘wrong’ political side. Going against the homosexual reading, Tom was not gay. Tom’s sexual preference is not the issue but rather his divergent sexuality. Today, we recognize more sexualities than the two hetero-, homo- there is demisexual also. Which given the established pattern, or going off Laura’s reading of Tom, he fits as a demisexual. Given the setting, the only female with repeated contact where an emotional bond can form is, in this specific instance, with his house master’s wife. Plus Deborah Kerr is very attractive; she is no frumpy, old harridan of a woman. Seeing how the movie was done when the Hays Code in effect and the addendum to the play requiring the wife be seen as punished for her deed(s), what if the movie were re-done in the current day context animus against toxic masculinity and pro-metrosexuality. The challenge would be telling the story while avoiding the obvious proverbial low-hanging fruit homosexual subtext but rather address the closeted demisexual.

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

That might very well work. Interesting. Thanks for watching.

[@TechnicJunglist]

The other day I revisited The Ox-Bow Incident (one of my favorite films) and William Eythe's performance as the young non violent 'gentle' son of the cowardly & homophobic racist Tetley still haunts me. Thank you Steve for yet another wonderful review. Also I know It's "modern" but I'd love to see your take on The Talented Mr Ripley.

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

A terrific actor, Eythe suffered alot. He was lovers with Lon McCallister and they were told that if they didn't break up it woudl harm their careers. Eythe married Buff Cobb, who lated married Mike Wallace, but he drank in dispair and died in his '30s. Lon became a successful real estate broker and was good friends with George Cukor who had directed him in "Winged Victory" . My mother was taught English in highschool by Walter Van Tilburg Clark who wrote "Ox- Bow". He and Hervey Allen ( "Anthony Adverse") both lived near my home town in Upstate New York. Though I liked "The Talented Mr. Ripley", adored the cast, but prefer the French version "Purple Noon" w/ Alain Delon.

[@TechnicJunglist]

@@STEVEHAYESTOQ incredible. I really enjoy your Hollywood stories and that personal connection. Thank you for sharing. I had no idea about a previous adaptation other than the obvious novel and I'll check it out.

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

@@TechnicJunglist You will like "Purple Noon" . It's aptt of the Criterion collection on DVD. Gorgeous color , shot on location in 1960. French version and Alain Delon is a dreamboat.

[@TechnicJunglist]

@@STEVEHAYESTOQ I adore French cinema. It's now on my queue. I had to Imdb Alain and was not disappointed. He's gorgeous.

[@murrayaronson3753]

I've never seen Tea and Sympathy, both the play and the movie. But I did read the play in my freshman year in high school and it made an impression on me. By the way Deborah Kerr's name and John Kerr's name are not pronounced the same way: Deborah's is Karr and John's is Kerr/cur. Thanks Steve Hayes.

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

Thanks for watching, hit the "like" button, check out the new TOQ merchandise and please subscribe!

[@murrayaronson3753]

Steve I just saw the Tea and Sympathy coming attraction and there both Deborah and John's last names are pronounced the same. But I had seen TV shows later with John Kerr and his last name was pronounced Kerr/cur. I believe in his obituary the Kerr/cur pronunciation was mentioned as being the case.

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

@@murrayaronson3753 Interesting.

[@worldgrill]

Always such a pleasure to see a new video from you! Hopefully, you will hit that 10,000 subscribers soon that you both so deserve and worked hard to achieve. In these very trying Trump times, we all need some light-hearted movies to help us escape. I have been watching some great Carole Lombard's 1930's movies of Twentieth Century and My Man Godfrey and not sure if you have reviewed them before? Also, loved Garbo's Ninotchka which is so well written and acted? Did you ever get into those British Kitchen sink dramas(of the '50s and '60s) which I loved as well? A Taste Of Honey, Billy Liar, Darling(my Fav Julie Christie), Room At The Top, This Sporting Life, and The Entertainer? Great working people stories with great actress performances. I would love to get your take on these! Keep calm and carry on, we all love you and your work!!

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

OMG! Such fabulous suggestions! I cant write them down on my "to do' list fast enough. First of all, Lombard, check out my favorite "The Princess Comes Across" with Fred MacMurray. Lombard does an hysterical imitation of Garbo and Fred is light, funny and SO sexy. Such fun! As for Garbo, I plan on doing "Ninotchka" as well as "Anna Karenina" and "Conquest". I LOVE the Brit films of that period!!! Rachel Roberts!! Amazing actress! And I love anything directed by Schelsinger . "Room at the Top" has one of my favorite Oscar winning roles. Who's more sensual and sad than Signoret? When she looks at him with those incredible cat eyes and all that love, it chokes me up every time. Thank you for reminding me and for yor wonderful comments. I so appreciate them! Best and stay safe! Steve

[@worldgrill]

@@STEVEHAYESTOQYou are so very welcome!! Lombard to me was like the Goldie Hawn of the '30s-'40s, so funny and beautiful!! Then to cap off her career with the wonderful To Be Or Not To Be was a testament to her talents and wish more people talked about her today. LOVE Rachel Roberts and what she could do with those expressive eyes and such a sad ending to her life(boo Rex Harrison)!! She was also so great with Finney in Saturday Night, Sunday Morning, and then to play another sad housewife in the heartbreaking This Sporting Life. Great Oscar-nominated performance for her. When I first saw Room At The Top, I could not take my eyes off Signoret and she owned that part and indeed a well deserved Oscar. That ending drunk scene was sobering and you knew how it was going to end and even Hermione Baddeley's very short 8-minute Oscar-nominated performance in that film was breathtaking. Love Schlesinger too and absolutely adored his Cold Comfort Farm(you should review that too) as Eileen Atkins was truly one of the great comedic performances in that along with so many other good performances in that movie. Why are gay men so enraptured with film actresses and their seemingly tragic lives as well?? Calling Doctor Freud LOL! Lastly, love Rita Tushingam too and such a huge hit in the '60s then went out of style by the '70s? I guess like Garbo and the others have a thing for expressive eye performances haha!! Your the best and will always wish you much more success and attention!!

[@STEVEHAYESTOQ]

@@worldgrill Thanks so much! I like Rita Tushingham as well. Take moment to subscribe so you don't miss future episodes and please push the "LIKE" button . It really helps! Have a great day! Steve