Coercive Control: The Post-separation Challenges and Consequences - Episode 9

[@woodspriteful]

When so many mothers have no choice but to represent themselves, the burden of research seems insurmountable, yet I am immensely grateful to you for publicly providing the information because abuse and risk of violence is hard to prove. A woman's intuition doesn't hold up in court, but the pattern of those double binds fits with my experience and is provable through the court's very orders. I have some emails and texts and can refer to the language and dynamics there to prove risk in staying, whereas I can't prove that the perpetrator is the one who tampered with my vehicle and so on. Oddly, even court documents reveal language that aids the coercive control, for example, in the case of a dispute regarding visitation, the result would be a reduction in my time with the child. The court chose to automatically assume me responsible and punish me by default. I want to remind women out there, that you can leave for another state with your children and be heard in another court citing UCCJEA emergency jurisdiction. Thats all we have protecting us currently. I have also heard of prospective legislation called the Safe Child Act. Someday, we'll get there.

[@ElizabethScanes]

Thank you I feel heard and understood. No one will help me or my daughter. In fact, the systems have ridiculed and punished me for trying to protect my child. Thank you for your valuable research and advocacy. I am confident that someday this will prevent the court system from colluding with the abuser.

[@amandaneville664]

Thank you thank you, this is how I felt legal abuse and it protected him and gave him ability to abuse more

[@Phoenixfire-t5c]

My kids and I are living this nightmare.

[@maryt7959]

You are in a good company… 50% of America’ marriages are in this situation .

[@swenji]

As a professional in the field, and being already knowledgeable on the subject/concept of coercive control. I still found so many useful slides, and insights. Thank you so much for sharing this amazingly pertinent series!

[@maryt7959]

Is your series run on national television? If not it should be ….. 👏🙏🏻.

[@franibison2427]

Thank you. So perceptive, insightful, accurate.

[@maryt7959]

There is a dire need for change in the mindset of all “ men” ,boys and culture in general . More awareness on this topic should be taught in schools and on tv .

[@karen-kk2ev]

Thank you so much for this, it is excellent

[@yungbayes6314]

I hope everyone in the world watches this series.

[@Jess-kn8vl]

This applies to other relationships as well.

[@LizEarthAngel3]

This is a great video, thank you, how do we prove this though? Now in some states it’s a chargeable offence, it’s so intricate and insidious, 23 years is enough

[@emailsusan]

Yes. describes HER control perfectly!

[@RettaNRatchetRecover]

This is my ex husband to a tee. I am grateful for my healing 🙏 ❤

[@MadeleineKuhl]

I’m so hurt I don’t know if I can keep taking it No one cares No one believes me I can not even talk and ppl think I’m on drugs and I’m not The ongoing legal ambushes making me look like the worst mother ever It’s ongoing child protection issues