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[@Lexiannasam]

This is exactly how my ex fiancé is. You’re stating my exact situation right now. I held the entire relationship. He didn’t put anything in the relationship. He took Took and took. He only cares about himself. He thinks giving the bare minimum is okay and “love”. I’m the only person who spent money on him and on our dates. He hasn’t taken me out once. Nothing. I feel drained and now I’m pregnant with his child and he abused me while being pregnant and didn’t care. He even spit on me and called me a “bxxtch”. So I just cried and left completely and ghosted him and blocked his number and socials. He kept making me feel suicidal after awhile and that’s not how I normally feel. He’s homeless rn living with a friend of his on the couch in a basement and I’m living in a nice modern home with loving family around. His family left him behind because of how he treats people. He smokes and drinks a lot. He says sorry a lot but does the same cycle. So that’s why whenever I hear sorry I don’t believe it anymore. It’s so over said now that it’s not a serious word for me. Actions speak louder than words and he constantly keeps saying his sorries should be enough to get back together. Which it’s not enough for the abuse he’s given me and how much he took advantage of my kindness and love. He treats people who love him like crap and the people who don’t care about him he cherishes them. He’s extremely backwards and needs help. My family doesn’t like him anymore and doesn’t want him around me or the baby when I give birth. And yes I don’t feel like he gives a f about me. Mainly because he’s already spit on me, punched me with our first child that I had a miscarriage with and also fought me while pregnant with the second one I have now. He doesn’t care. And then he turns things on me when I retaliate. But I have every right to because of how badly he treated me. I’m always the one who tried to make things right. He’s the type that keeps making me reach out even when he’s in the wrong. It makes me feel crappy that i always apologize and reach out. And when I ask him for an apology he says “no”, “why should he”, and “apologize for what” when he knows he hurts me. I left him high and dry. I’m someone who can apologize if someone said I hurt them with no problems. And his has his friend Tyler always in our relationship dictating everything. To the point my family thinks he’s low key bisexual or gay because they sleep in the same bed even though Tyler has a gf with a child with him. Make it make sense. He’s always asking him to be around 24/7. Whenever he does apologize (after I force him to) he says it with no empathy or remorse. So it doesn’t feel like an apology. He’s a guy yet he acts feminine. My whole family thinks he’s not man enough for me and he’s not truthfully. He acts like a needy child and expects everyone to help him. He always leaves me alone, so this time I’m leaving him alone. I just want my peace back for me and my unborn child. And yes he does cut me off when I talk about how I feel. But when he states how he feels I listen. I invested everything into him and my family did too my mom had to cuss him about that and he had the nerve to say we never helped him ever. He always made me the villain to his family and friends when he shows evidence that he’s the problem. So over it. It made me cry monthly. My birthday month is this month too and he made me cry all throughout November. I’ve been dealing with this since dec 2022 and finally broke up with him two days ago. He projects what he does to people onto others. He did that to me and my family. My side cut him off completely. I felt like I was the man in the relationship and he was the female like what you said. Any time I said the truth he couldn’t handle it yes. He admitted he was insecure and felt emasculated because I had the money and he didn’t. I at least tried to get him a Job and help with housing and he wouldn’t take the offer.

[@Iamforjusticeandtruth]

Hey girl, thanks for sharing what you're going through, this is a safe space and I do lives too with quite a few women going through similar things to you and I've been through abuse myself so you're not alone and you're always welcome to share your heart here ❤️ also, I'm sorry to hear he's been such a piece of shit to you, he sounds dangerous and you're making the right decision to protect you and your baby. All of what you're describing pretty much I have been there and I know the pain you speak of, he's definitely abusive and all of these things sound like a classic narcissist ie making you apologize when they're in the wrong (happened to me too), not ever giving a shit about your feelings and not having empathy and remorse for what they've done, not apologizing, smearing your character and making you the villain, and him being low key bisexual/gay is another common thing with covertly narcissistic individuals so I guarantee you, you're spot on about your conclusion with his friend... grown men sleeping in the same bed and they're not related? I'm convinced abusers hate women and resent them and it's because maybe he doesn't actually like women if you know what I mean, especially if he talks shit about women in general which I'm sure he does because all narcissists are misogynistic and sexist af. Anyway, thank you for being here and I hope you'll come check out a live and connect, stay safe, sending you light & love ❤️ ✨️

[@Lexiannasam]

@@Iamforjusticeandtruth much appreciated! 🙏🏽 I’m glad you understand, it’s been tough dealing with this. Even knowing the truth kind of hurts but my intuition has been screaming that he has a down low situation with that said friend. I will definitely be joining your lives. It’s my first time finding you. I’ll definitely subscribe! Thank you so much for the read.

[@Iamforjusticeandtruth]

Always always always trust your intuition, that was my biggest mistake, I literally got visions of future abuse and thought I was imagining shit so I ignored it, trust your intuition it's ALWAYS right. I'm happy to hear it was helpful for you & look forward to seeing you in the live and connecting more! 😊 ✨️❤