College Student Who Supports Mom Says, ‘She Likes To Make Me Feel Guilty For Denying Her Things’

Cheyenne says she is exhausted and feels emotionally manipulated by her 56-year-old mother, Cindy, who claims her arthritis and other ailments prevent her from getting a job.
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Cheyenne, who is 24 and nearly finished with college, says she is currently Cindy’s sole caretaker and means of support. She claims that her mother not only doesn’t contribute to the household but has also used Cheyenne’s debit card to run up debt.
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“She likes to make me feel guilty for denying her things,” says Cheyenne in the video above
When Dr. Phil asks, “(A)are you going to let her completely drag you down?” how does Cheyenne respond?
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[@hayleyparmelee7643]

I was actually in the audience for this episode. I was sitting in the front row and I could actually see how drained and exhausted she looked. I felt so bad for her. 🥺

[@nobody9375]

What was it like?

[@hayleyparmelee7643]

nobody it was really cool to actually be in the audience. And to See Dr. Phil come out on stage, it brought a big smile on my face! But I really felt bad for this girl because I could see how drained and exhausted she was. I can actually relate to her because I’m kind of in the same situation with my mom.

[@replicxnt]

I really want to know what happened next!

[@spongebobsjellyfish]

How did it end?

[@hayleyparmelee7643]

@@spongebobsjellyfish dr Phil ended up giving her help, I don’t remember where but she accepted it. And I think he also got them a life coach and some professional help ❤️

[@averyl6086]

A loving parent would never drive their child into debt so they can go on a shopping spree.

[@madisonwalker3462]

Forget a loving parent a decent parent wouldn't even do that mess

[@mst-pierrem5729]

Not for nail polish and candlesticks... Woah! Geesh!!!

[@virgie4715]

Madison Walker exactly. My parents are trash and even they haven’t done this.

[@DiamondsRexpensive]

@@virgie4715 there are degrees to how trash a person can be.

[@StealthMode3924]

Not to mention, she wouldn’t be codependent on her daughter and guilting her when she tries to have her independence. A 22 year old shouldn’t have to be a full time caretaker for their mother.

[@bluegyrl75]

the girl actually seems very sweet

[@valr226]

Renn that’s not a simp lol do u know what a simp is

[@aadilshah4843]

@Renn a girl simping another girl imagine lol

[@icandrawz7596]

Renn that’s not simping you peanut

[@coffeepandacat]

Beyond sweet, she gives everything she has to her mother who bleeds her dry.

[@Carriesue1982]

Renn anyone who uses the word simp unironically is an incel, change my mind.

[@Rima27ify]

The poor girl she has bags under her eyes she needs a long rest and a long vacation

[@MichaelBrown-js1ti]

Jeffrey my train will win in that Dr. Phil he will Myers and psycho family will win 💯 100,000 likes 19,000 likes

[@omgXALYSSAXomg]

christina koam darn right! She’d be better if she had a mother who gives a damn about her daughters well being in general. This woman might be sick but she’s full of selfishness. Beyond unfair to her daughter. Beyond!

[@Rima27ify]

@@omgXALYSSAXomg her mom is totally Manipulative and selfish

[@kkibela]

Im upset by the bags. I think she was crying at nights as well

[@ericaschaidt8588]

@@MichaelBrown-js1ti what?

[@lissettelovesbats1770]

Poor girl she looks so freaking tired :( she needs a good vacation.

[@kelseystrouse954]

The poor girls eye's tell you everything you need to know. My heart breaks for her. What a terrible position to be in..

[@rokayaenafielmetni5232]

I can literally see the bags under that poor girl’s eyes.💔💔💔

[@fmj1978]

Theres a difference between just being hypermoblie and having EDS.

[@DelennD]

YES

[@Emily-co3xy]

As someone with EDS and a mom and brother with EDS it’s so much more than bending a finger back. We all have heart problems, pain, dangerous hyper mobility but my mom works and my brothers and I go to school. It’s something you can live with.

[@Areniapixie]

I have EDS and it’s waaaay more than bending my fingers back. Sure I can do that but I’m in constant pain, my joints lock or give way constantly and it effects my heart too

[@jiminie8261]

Doesn’t give an excuse to use your daughters money for makeup

[@ifiwsaflowridbearose]

Just to be clear.. If you have EDS and it makes you physically incapable of working than apply for disability, SSDI or SSI (last two things involve social security). No excuse at all for mooching off your kid. This woman is using a real medical problem to her advantage. Sure she may actually have it, but then that is her responsibility to deal with it. Not the daughters.. Just look at the daughter. She definitely looks exhausted.

[@breannasadi8351]

I have EDS as well so this is super infuriating to watch. There are different types and theres more to it than hypermobility in your joints. That just seems to be what everyone gets stuck on.

[@mrsspanner14]

The point is that whether the Mum has EDS or just hypermobile joints, it’s the Mother’s responsibility to care for herself or apply for disability benefits. I’m disabled but first and foremost I’m a Parent and it’s NOT my daughter’s responsibility to look after me.

[@maz4998]

@@mrsspanner14 I think the point of this comment was wondering why he mocks EDS in the video the way he does.

[@Kuhle980]

This is such a toxic mother-daughter relationship...I mean instead of the mother taking care of the daughter, their roles are reversed

[@pennyheisler7500]

My daughter has EDS and works full time as a nurse and cares for two children under 4. She deals with her symptoms like a rock star.

[@lynxasapkatiekatie8822]

But she shouldn’t be using her daughter credit and debit cards

[@dianaval6082]

Exactly, I feel bad for the daughter, but it’s also kinda her fault for letting the mother take advantage of her. I would never...

[@lynxasapkatiekatie8822]

Valentina Amor exactly but no matter what I would help my mom for anything like I did before she passed like food wise bill wise but my mom would never ask me for money for bulldshit or to do online shopping and she always wanted to pay me back just cause that’s how it’s supposed to be your there for family and family there for you but I never would say no to my mother I would have a room set up for her in my house she’s my everything

[@YvngGoat_]

“Don’t bite the hand that feeds you”

[@autumnskylardoeseverything]

EDS does not do this. I am someone w ith EDS, Juvenile Rheumatoid Arthritis, Arnold Chisri Malformation, Cervical Instability, and many mental health conditions and I have NEVER made someone take care of me in such a way. Even when I was in a wheelchair, having 5 to 8 non epileptic seizures a day, I still did not ever make my parents for anything close to this. And I have been dealing with the medical issues since 16!! Still a child and not acting as childish as this woman. She gives people with disabilities a bad name. Damn.

[@dagodee5268]

The boyfriend is so dapper he could be in a 1940s / 1950s advertisement.

[@ritasanchez651]

Proud of that young lady for standing up to her moocher mother!

[@renesmeeorlin9997]

her eyes show how drained she is

[@KatRinaZLuv369]

I wish everyone could have a loving, supportive, ambitious, sweet, compassionate, kind, beautiful, accepting mother like mine. I’m so incredibly grateful for my mom, i always have been, things like this just make me sad not everyone has what i do.

[@jackimoon8284]

That poor girl looks freaking exhausted.

[@Aaron-kp6kp]

My mom is the same thing, (obviously my situation is better than her.) She would go out to parties everyday while I have to take care of my 2-year old brother, clean the house, and continue school.

[@Runzi333]

It's so hard for some people to face down their parents and the emotional manipulation makes that a lot harder because she makes that poor kid feel like she's a bad person for not letting mom do whatever she wants. Also using EDS like some kind of pass to be a horrible person is so so terrible. You can't always control what disability or mental illness you end up with but when you know you have something it is your responsibility to take proper care of it the best you can and it's no one elses fault if you aren't trying to do that.

[@cynthiaahern9081]

I have four kids . I'm extremely disabled but try to stay independent. Maybe I could get them to help more by doing something like this. But I wouldn't do that to my kids. I usually down play stuff (unless a hospital calls them) because they have their own lives and their own problems.

[@boredomania9245]

I just realized the mom is not only a lazy mooch, but a hoarder as well. Buying all the stuff she doesn't need or probably used

[@towns316]

More folks should be banned from spending money 💰💰💰💰💰

[@chacharealsmooth7852]

This poor girl looks so freaking exhausted. I feel so bad.

[@fettinextdoor]

finally a dr phill episode i can make a video on

[@bxrpanda]

Same

[@dontdoxansxo]

I’m gonna sub to see when that comes out

[@fettinextdoor]

Dio'sWorld thanks lmao

[@yazzmyneewdashii9522]

she is so tired nd that smile she tryna give says it all. shame on the mother for givin her all this stress

[@jameshook6675]

I hear some members of the audience chuckling. This isn't something to laugh at...

[@ashlee5634]

This poor girl needs to just go and never look back. You don't owe your parents anything for raising you. They decided to have a kid. If you are good to your kids they help because they want to but you aren't obligated to help.

[@bayleenicole2096]

Look how tired her eyes are wow

[@Chronically_JBoo]

Ive even got medical proof from multiple drs for vEDS (vascular ehlers danlos syndrome) says it in all my records. Why couldnt she come up with a medical diagnosis from at least one or more Drs Is beyond me.

[@rachelleon13]

She looks so tired. ☹️

[@chirstinabienemann2853]

I have EDS. I was diagnosed when I was one. This lady is making a mockery of a very serious genetic disease. How dare she. You can get diagnosed by a doctor, by a family doctor or by rheumatologist it’s actually very easy. Shame on her and shame on her for what she’s doing to her daughter

[@kaylaho.2400]

her daughter is just to kind and the mom and taking advantange of her kindness i would never ever let my mom do this to me

[@punkplumbell1592]

I just feel bad because this girl has probably been abused by her narc mom her whole life and she's working with a therapist. This goes much deeper then dr phil expose

[@hanakamil5593]

She is so damn BEAUTIFUL!!!

[@JackieOwl94]

Sounds like a good reason to send her to jail for fraud

[@KryaDiere]

In asia our parents don't even need an excuse; they ask us for money every month as returns for "investing in and raising us" 😂 It shocked me the first time I learned that foreign people don't give their parents money 😂

[@hellynnwheels6819]

She looks so tired! Poor girl!

[@bopcentral7425]

Poor girl. She needs to be free and have a fresh start. Shes so sweet.

[@Montana-Skies]

I'm pissed & I don't even know this famliy!! Her mother has emotionally abused her daughter for yrs that's why she's so calm about all this and has this it's ok if she uses me attitude. Very sweet kindhearted smart beautiful young woman. I hope she puts a stop to ther mother's bs w out felling guiltily

[@debramackinnon8094]

Poor child looks exhausted

[@maryhodgson8604]

Her mother is lazy. She is taken advantage of this poor girl .

[@couture379]

Her mom needs to be put in jail and in a nursing home. And the daughter needs a FREE vacation for however long she wants.

[@CKatze-tx9wf]

Jail? Wtf?

[@couture379]

@@CKatze-tx9wf yes in jail for stealing money and NOT having a job. Clearly you didn’t watch the full video, she used her whole family’s credit card and money to buy Nail polish and stuff

[@CKatze-tx9wf]

@@couture379 I've watched it all. Pretty sure that legally nothing can be done about this as she didn't really take the cards without any premission, she just manipulated them. The girl could stop her mom from doing it but she was just too nice.

[@KJChannel18]

She looks so so tired... Poor girl

[@nela3986]

That poor girl. Some times I wonder how such nasty people have the umbelievable luck to have such sweet children. They don't deserve anyone in their miserable life. It's Not right, that that girl feels like she has to make up for her "mothers" selfishness.

[@ramosruthie81]

I can't kick her out smh

[@kimhickman9210]

What I see of this young girl, she looks like she is in her 40’s when she’s not.

[@jonathanchansombath2671]

Damn I really feel for this Girl

[@nweverman6185]

She looks so tired. I just want to hug her make her a home cooked meal and let her be who she wants to be. Not a home health worker.

[@rudolphderainbow8625]

She took care of her mother, was in college, perhaps working, and her mother just used her money to buy things like makeup? She doesn't go anywhere, does she?

[@AdmiralColdhead]

If she has the ability to use Cheyenne's credit card for makeup, then she can definitely use those fingers to get a job. She is manipulating this poor child. It's awful.

[@2legit2Kwit]

She will be way more independent if she’s left to her own devices. The daughter needs to move out without guilt. Her mother will be able to survive.

[@aridreams567]

The way Cheyenne speaks, god I feel bad. Look at the bags under her eyes; the way her voice trembles. I just want to hug her.

[@nicoleowens2318]

I've never seen someone whose bags under their eyes were as bad as mine.. That's what it looks like to be tired to your soul..

[@moonlightpaw5868]

Why do she let her mother get a hold of her card? The mother should be happy that her daughter let her stay with her for free. Not a lot of her kids will do that.

[@gailwebb9619]

I saw this episode....this mother is using this poor girl and taking relentless advantage of her....she looks so tired and dragged out. Dr. Phil was not buying all the excuses and “health issues” mom had.

[@Sparkedbynatty]

Hope she's happier and is with her boyfriend away from the mom now.

[@vickythao1569]

Goshh, she's gorgeous!

[@Harvirrai]

The turn tables have turned..

[@jenniferdevinney541]

EDS is not an excuse to treat people this way, I think she would be like this sick or not! In her defense though EDS is extremely hard to get diagnosed because there are not a lot of docs that know about it. I "knew" I had EDS years before I could actually get into a specialist to get it diagnosed.

[@miamia7528]

Run girl! RUN!!!!!!!

[@amyij944]

She looks so drained 😓 hopefully she gets the break she deserves

[@8888-9]

If you look very closely into this young woman’s MOTHERS’ eyes, You can see a fixed hard look- with shades of Calculation in them. This woman knows EXACTLY What she is doing!!! And she has taught her daughter to be a Victim, as she has chosen that role for herself also. Mum is helpless, Daughter rescues, and is helpless against her mum in return. The woman worth emulating is the mother in law! When we as mothers burden our adult daughters with our problems, it KILLS their Spirit. Common girl!! Get off the Floor, And sweep your mother out, to care for herself!!!

[@marybell75]

This was my Mom and I for years. I just wish I'd seen a show like this 30 years ago when I needed it.

[@aylanay2917]

With the whole QVC thing my mom does that too I’ve told her since I was 9 that she isn’t allowed to use my email she has gotten her name my stepdads name banned and now she’s on to my brothers name

[@franknberry333]

My Mom always tells me not to buy her anything, to save my money and just give her a hug

[@DayTheEmperor]

She bas bags under her eyes😢😢😢. No one can say shes lying.

[@xxboonisbadfortnitexx1549]

She is not a mom

[@xxboonisbadfortnitexx1549]

Yes

[@dad_patrol]

God bless this girl. Props to her boyfriend. My mother is just as abusive and manipulative and denies all responsibility. I'm in college too and she makes me feel guilty when I buy things for myself or when I don't get out of bed in the middle of the night when she calls me. I'm so happy she has a boyfriend and a good support system. I'm dying for that one day!

[@breadgod8579]

The slow blinking and the eyebags behind those makeup shows how tired she is. My grandparents are almost 70 and they are wayyyyy more active than her mother

[@angelastroud237]

I would kick my mom out of my house if she did any of that to me and probably never speak to her again..Smfh

[@chandlerrose4545]

I actually have EDS. At the age of 25 I’ve had 58 surgeries. It is SO much more than “extra pliable” joints. It’s a terrible and debilitating disease and it’s progressive.

[@annettealex1]

she looks so fatigue poor girl

[@unidadfeliz5398]

Sounds like my mother, but I was able to cut her toxic self completely out of my life 🙃. No one should use the excuse of "but I'm your mom so I deserve it" on their children to con them. Trash parents need to be left alone.

[@BeverlyWatts-f3d]

Where's the rest if this?

[@zenaidapadilla2805]

Cheyenne is doing everything for her mom god sees it all ,this young lady deserves 30 + vacations and if I could I'd give her a ticket to wherever she wanted to go🥺🙏❤

[@cadavher]

I believe the mom does have EDS at least by the looks of her joints flexibility but as others have mentioned, not a excuse to abuse your family.

[@karenrollins1469]

That poor girl has black circles under her eyes she's too young for that hopefully she gets away from her mother

[@Yazanova]

Any update about this ???

[@hinatashoyou7049]

I feel bad for her

[@tmfromdenmark9158]

I have Vascular Ehlers Danlos the most dangerous ones I work , every day short times. I my boys shall not take care of me 😷 period Shame on her !

[@Hat65]

Maybe get the mom help?!?!?

[@yoshimills9814]

Why is she buying makeup? Where tf is she going🤔🤷‍♀️

[@리아-o8g]

this is normal in an asian household. in fact, it is the standard and for most countries, you'd looked upon as inconsiderate and ungrateful if you don't support your parents

[@heavensanimals8519]

Yeah, but this mom isnt buying things she needs just things she wants:( I'd understand if it wasnt like that

[@Sky623]

And I thought my grandmother loved QVC too much wow.

[@dedeferreira98]

she is very pretty and looks so tired! Put a ring on her man, a girl like that is a keeper

[@bmgfrmn]

I really don’t like that he reduced EDS to being a little “bendy” or “flexible”. EDS Is a serious connective tissue disorder and it affects every part of the body. In a lot of cases it can be extremely debilitating and prevents most people with EDS from working a “regular” full time job. I’m not saying that what this woman is doing to her daughter is right, it’s absolutely not, she’s taking advantage of her. But there is no need to reduce an entire group of disabled people to being a little too “bendy” or “flexible”. It doesn’t even scratch the surface of what living with EDS is like. (And that’s not even touching on the comorbidities often associated with EDS).

[@102jeka]

She hasn't been diagnosed with EDS, though. The rest of the episode shows that she uses 'being bendy' as her proof of having the disease, and diagnosed herself with the help of Dr Google.

[@life.with.teetee]

Poor girl, she need to take a long vacation ASAP!!! I'll be darned if I have to go through this

[@ashleysmith3187]

Well y'all should meet my mother she's a manipulative monster she's horrible it's come to the point I only talk to her on the phone but she has run my credit into the ground

[@julianto.tarlesno5182]

She looks damn tired.m

[@abbiereynolds8016]

She buys makeup?! Why? She doesn't even go outside, no one sees her, who's she trying to impress? Geez talk about delusional😂😂

[@dahliajohnson4047]

I have EDS and I’m living perfectly fine bruh😂

[@jesuschrist2341]

Ok now I'm mad

[@bluebee7281]

the daughter looks so sleepy I feel bad for her

[@r.b.3390]

I hope you guys have a nice day and protect yourselves from the Virus🙏🥀💫☣✨

[@kingcc9999]

I want to say she should dump her in an retirement home or somewhere else until she get herself in order, but family bonds are that easy to break

[@Noviosity]

yeah..her mom got an issue, and it aint cause of EDS lol I feel like as the daughter, it's sometimes hard to reject your mother and be aggressive to them, but i agree it needs to end. It's not fair to her to have to give up so much for her mother. She just seems like she is struggling.

[@dawnhock4545]

If my family stole my credit card they’d be in jail

[@lanehenkle6400]

Poor girls got dark bags under her eyes