5 TRICKS Narcissists Use To Win Your Trust

[@CommonEgo]

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[@anneyoung2310]

Exactly right about their public image; they carefully craft it and work to maintain a persona that misrepresents the hidden narcissistic core. Per your comment about narc. abuse and credibility, "most people would not believe what you have been through or that this person was capable of putting you through that." In fairness, I would not have believed it about them had someone told me. No way! They were, and possibly are, capable of doing "nice things" as you mentioned. You cannot describe it to anyone who has not been through it, nor can you expect anyone to see covert traits where they have no reason for suspicion.

[@dwisebenevolentdictator3302]

I once told my gf that she was a narcissist. She said "i could never be a narc because im too empathetic, why do you think i cry when someone dies in a movie or get married". I felt like that response was manipulative itself.

[@queensnonprofit]

LOL!!!!

[@JefferyProxmire]

I lived with one and everything you say is TRUE

[@JOY-ye2us]

Excellent video, the trauma bond and love bombing can keep you hooked- oh and the flying monkeys make you SO confused. Bless all who are going through this 🙏

[@annekenney6914]

When my dog died I was crying, of course. My narc was there and he saw me cry. He didn't actually cry, but he made the comment that he cried more for the dog than at his mother's funeral. Very strange. He must have been deluding himself that me crying was him crying. 🤷‍♀

[@mammadingo9165]

Mine said do you think I didn't cry for my Gran I did !

[@zachshipley1689]

Not even 4months into our relationship she was love bombing me and telling me " i love you unconditionally" i know now that she didnt have a clue what that actually means

[@nicholaslawrence6926]

Am currently going through narc abuse, and this video is a gold mine! It perfectly describes my narc abuser's tactics and character.

[@motherofsneks486]

I have ADHD and autism. People have always told me I am too much, I express too much and my emotions are too much. I feel so deeply, empathy included and I grew up with a covernt NPD mother. I grew up thinking I was the narcissist, and I still have days I think I am. I guess what I am saying is, you cant always tell if someone is a narc based off how they grieve at a funeral.

[@dawnsautner6044]

You are not too much. You never had a safe space for your emotions.

[@pandoratheclay]

Preventative measures are the best measures I haven’t even started being with people yet, but I’ll be prepared

[@godfatherpro]

I realise how she acts awkward when u are hugging. She gives you this little pat on the back! And after just showering her with gifts, she could never show empathy or appreciation but always act mechanical, numb and n a rush to leave

[@JackHaro-r8q]

Spent 19 years trying to build an actual marriage with a covert narcissist planted where a wife would normally be. Divorced. Near 3 years now. My life is amazing now by comparison. Her life is embarrassing. I won't even say.

[@UGLY-MONEY17]

….I really needed to hear this. Thank you. My self esteem has been freakishly damaged by this shit. (Damaged, but not completely broken) I’m really trying to keep pushing forward

[@AGothWithGlasses]

I'm an AuDHD individual that lives with a covert narc. I am hyperaware of all of my senses and other peoples'. I was coming up from a meltdown and the narc asked me what was wrong. I opened up to her a teeny tiny bit (i didnt trust giving her full details) and she hugged me. It felt cold and rigid, like a statue. She even pulled away and wiped crocodile tears from her eyes to appear empathetic, but I didn't feel any empathy coming from her. Literally a couple days later, she was back to her old, whiney, mean self.

[@UGLY-MONEY17]

…..reading this literally made me want to vomit….I’ve become all to familiar with that bullshit….I’m completely exhausted by it.

[@IzabelaWaniek-i1x]

Everything you said is Spot on. I have experienced it so many times. Thank you Christina❤

[@killjoyredux8361]

You're so lovely, thanks for the content.

[@truhhhhhhhokIII3]

Wow my ex was a nurse that said she hates people. Makes sense now

[@jamesthegrower]

Your videos have really really really been helping me 🙏 god bless you 🙏

[@Socoolral]

I like your videos and your doing a super job Thank you

[@alexmorgan3435]

100% my mother. She has hurt me very deeply, continues to do so and doesn't give a shit. I am stuck in a trauma bond. She was the reason my father used to beat me when he came home from work. She would tell him how bad I had been, fly into a rage and cane me. I was only 8-9 years old. Whilst I was being beaten she used to hide away in the kitchen not coming out as I screamed in pain from the lounge as the cane penetrated deep into my skin. Now she's old and pathetic, in a care home and reliant on me as her only visitor. Her other grown up children who she idolised don't want to know her. Her response to me and what she did is "It was a long time ago. Haven't you got over it yet?" I'm 57 now. It was child abuse. Now she claims to have always stood by me which is rubbish. The irony is that my grown up brother and sister emigrated to get away from her and it has been me left caring for her until she went into a care home recently. She hates it. Serves her right.

[@eko8266]

Kinda resonate, I was stupid enough to turn my back on each of my friends for her, took me years to understand that i was getting manipulated. But even with that, she was getting angry at any of my refusals, kicking walls and shit anytime i would say no to something. Kinda crazy, when i think back about it. If you're in that situation now, you don't have to face it alone.

[@mammadingo9165]

Omg they know just what they do !! No forgiveness needed

[@Withallyourfaults]

All for show my narc was reading his bible in the dark as we congratulated around my Brother’s Death bed.. People near relatives were impressed by his show of concern. A chance to shine, but he did get along with my Brother but I noticed the Drama.

[@robertbrown1985]

I was friends with a narcissist She seemed really nice and genuine/empathetic for awhile then started noticing I noticed a shift in her so called caring and she completely cut me off when it wasn't all about her

[@alecstuart5266]

Lisa it's nice to hear from you. Can u please elaborate what possible psychological ill-effects ( impact of narco abuse) it takes on the victims mental health.

[@cyndigooch1162]

I'm thinking that I could become a narcissism detector for people because it seems like many of them show their true colours, so to speak, such as annoyance, or outright anger etc, to me before others! 🥺

[@matthewmcmacken6716]

@9:48.... damn it!

[@yoshabaker6270]

I was looking for you Home for the Holidays

[@MichaelRye-q9i]

Using other people's intelligence to make ourselves feel better. It's kinda tragic 😂😂

[@kry0-c00per2]

My ex Fiancée of seven year left me a week befor my birthday this last October then completely cut all communication with me when i tryed my hardest to fix everything. She texted my best friend saying she misseds "us" while still saying its was all my falt as to why she left. She matches so many of these examples. All I wanted to be in life was a good father and good husband, and a good rancher. Now i can only fix myself.

[@colouredlioness2199]

Esp. Covert Narcs

[@swa99a10]

Soo true

[@Jess-wk5jo]

Hi i have question for you over emotional affair. Is it this all cass emotional affair Yes or no to this one is this really emotional affair. 1 Thinking about Stephen 2 talking to Stephen on phone 3 texting stephen Are these all class a emotional affair. Then hugging and kissing and holding hands without having no sex non sex affair just romantic

[@killjoyredux8361]

You post this weird stuff on other narc channels...yes it's cheating. Do better.

[@Jess-wk5jo]

​@@killjoyredux8361i have autism why are people so rude

[@emmarae4322]

I ❤ your blouse.

[@jl9769]

Oh yes rewrite history. The latest was absolutely disgusting! Of course holidays and love bomb already started. Day after Thanksgiving “ what you want for Christmas” I said I hadn’t thought about it yet I’ll let you know closer to Christmas.” “ I need to know now.” “no, I’ll tell you when I decide something.” Nothing for a couple of days. “ I just want her to leave me alone for Christmas and forever. Thats all I want for Christmas… ❤ transaction is a great word ! I’ve been seeing toxic signs in a teenage family member. Right now she’s just into social status. Most teenagers are, most people whether toxic or normal are. It’s the way you GET your social status. I think she is using a friend who truly loves her. He comes from a wealthy family and he treats her like a queen. Lately it’s seemed like a weird vibe between them. She’s already gotten to go on expensive family vacations with them etc and it’s only been 6 months. She can talk her way in and out of anything while using the stupidest reasons. She never talks about him, it’s always about his mom and sister. She is studying to major in nursing. How she recounts her encounters with the old people in the assisted living makes me sick. One time she says this old lady asked her to help put makeup so she can look as beautiful as her when her husband visits . Doubt that happened. Then another about an old man who fell in the hallway in the cafeteria. She says she wishes she did didnt have to be the one to clean up after him as he had a seizure and it looked all scary. I was born with epilepsy. She’s seen me have seizures . Now I know why my niece doesn’t want to be around me. She literally acts like I don’t exist. When I gave her a hug the other day, she pushed me away a bit. I love her to death, but I don’t talk with her anymore. I wish her the best, she’s got college all planned out. She thinks she doesn’t have to go through tryouts to make the jv team and thinks she can get on the varsity team just cause my brother’s friends with the coach. Entitlement. She’s going to get a rude awakening soon being an adult. College is not like high school and middle school.

[@NopeNotHere.]

You just described my ex perfectly... Even the nurse part. Granted she hates being a nurse, but never lets people know that, unless she's taking support/attention from them.

[@christianekrueger9615]

Christina, thank you, thank you, thank you ❤️ Since I have discovered your channel, I have been bingeing all your videos, my blood running cold. I apologise in advance as this will be quite a long comment. Sorry 😊 I am a 53-year-old HSP and happily married to a nice, normal, and kind-hearted man. 20 years ago, my naïve younger and vulnerable ego met this person which I will call M. At that time, I was in a relationship with my teenage sweetheart T, a lovely boy I had been seeing for 7 years or so. M pursued me and swept me off my feet. Before I had a chance to realise what was going on I was head over heels in love with M. I didn’t help that we had very passionate sex which I hadn’t known like that before. I fell in deep despair and moral conflict because I was cheating on T and ended our long relationship leaving him absolutely devastated. I still feel horrible for this but I can only say Karma made me pay for it. In my mind I was now in a relationship like I had but just with another person. OMG, the awakening was bad. It would take hours to write it all down, but all you are talking about in all your videos took place and I had no clue what was happening to me. I was in so much emotional pain constantly, pushed away and pulled back again, cheated upon (with a baby as a result), put down and love bombed, hoovered and discarded, and so on, I even married him because I deeply believed that he was deep down a good person who loved me so deeply as I loved him cause who could pretend feelings and passion like that? (M could I know now). After 8 years I finally managed to get away and divorce him and thankfully we lived in different towns after that. I got over it, but it took me 5 years to fall in love again (he had somebody else directly, probably in parallel already, who he paraded around where I lived). But I have never been able to really process or understand it all and so never had real closure. Always thought I had myself to blame. Now it all falls into place. It is a shock. I am so glad that I learned all this but I am so deeply sad for my younger self who had to endure 8 years of emotional abuse. Thanks again for putting all this knowledge out to us, you help so much and make a real difference. Love Chrissi xxx