Compassionate Inquiry with Gabor Maté

[@michaelmitchell5380]

This man's insights are fantastic and we so need to hear his message now more than ever before. I have validated his message in my own life's history.

[@gr8hndz4u]

Sometimes this kind of communicating, doesn't have to only be in a Therapeutic environment, but in any environment in which, the people who are communicating have a connection. 🙏

[@BERESTARA]

You are super amazing, Gabor, so human and real ..thank you so much

[@РоманДейко-г8у]

Thanks Dr. Gabor very much. I hope, I'll find my way to heal myself. I am from Ukraine, 32 y.o. man. Working at pharmaceutical company as brand manager. Successful person - at first glance. But I'm addicted from a row of drug as nalbuphine, baclofen, and modafinil for 3-8 years... I destroy myself gradually, and I can't find exit, can't cope with this issue. I'm frustrating. Because of my illness I do not fight against the Russian invaders, although I could be an effective defender of my homeland. I really love Ukraine, my native land. instead, I splurged on my life. Few years ago I saw Dr. Gabor's video on Ted talks. It impressed me , and I hope that finally I overcome all my disorders. (I have very bad English, but hope, that in general I convey the main think) ​

[@robynhope219]

Your English is fine.

[@ggrey5990]

The Russians are there to free you of nazis and western manipulation

[@DianeUlanet]

Thank you so much for your insights about traumas

[@fayemckenna7538]

You got it Doctor I am so impressed with your knowledge

[@robynhope219]

He stole it from Carl Rogers.

[@vicj9256]

@@robynhope219 Or perhaps built on Rogers, which is what good academic work is about.

[@robynhope219]

​@@vicj9256Whatever...he doesn't impress me. Nothing he says is new. Waaaaay overrated.

[@dottiebaker6623]

This is true, but there are times when people just can't hear compassionate inquiry.

[@lilajaynep.4986]

amazing truths!!! ty DR> Gabor Mate' .......

[@Wallace-w1o]

I , we are all a product of our environment. Our societies can set our environment.

[@kathleankeesler1639]

Thank you.

[@gonindunit]

Super interesting. Going to watch more on this.

[@darrendemp]

Wonderful❤

[@trishhoney2172]

So many people these days live their lives in flight or fight, very depleted adrenals.

[@frankyfourfingers1382]

... story of my life.

[@robynhope219]

Yes, this can lead to HPA axis dysfunction, aka adrenal fatigue.

[@I_AM415]

This WHOLE "god"forsaken world NEEDS this NOW (sense of immediacy intended) like they need air and water. 💯🙌🏼

[@elliel9042]

I get the impression that Gabor might be suggesting something he advocates against elsewhere - an "addiction" strategy of bypassing pain quite quickly - by pushing to connect to one's 'real' self and ignoring the past. Trauma gets wired into the brain and remains wired that way until something changes - so often the past trauma repeats throughout life in various guises and unconsciously affects decision making etc. If one can access trauma at it's root, then there is a much greater chance of recovery as one needs to be very familiar with the experiences, nuances and conclusions of one's 'false' self in the traumatic state, which are often deeply unconscious because of the defences the false self employs. Gabor describes shutting this part of the process down - without fullness of exploration it is less likely that one can curtail the destructiveness of past trauma on our present lives. That is part of the objective of psychoanalysis - to teach the 'patient' how to understand his/her unconscious and emotions and gain genuine maturity and confidence from this confrontation with pain. Psychoanalysis is generally very different from the caricature he presented - it is often very 'present', supportive, relational and intimate and spans past, present and future.

[@andrewstuart759]

I totally agree with 'Elli L' > Professionally speaking, this is a VERY complex process to gently guide clients through, with compassion, and at 'their' own pace. For 'some' individuals, this process can take months if not years to facilitate therapeutic healing of past traumas. Let's not simply discount this important process of 'intentional helping' these clients. Sure, he is just "rebranding" the good old Appreciative Inquiry, Carl Rogers 'client-centered', Gestalt and CBT models of psychotherapy ... all of which I might add, are all empirically-adopted, research proven, models of effective therapy with clients. If anything 'more' that Gabor very clearly 'adds' to this profession - is that the 'therapeutic alliance' is once again, clearly demonstrated here, is THE MOST important part of the process.

[@Dzanarika1]

@@andrewstuart759 what the heck you two are babbling about?!

[@momomily9229]

​@@Dzanarika1 🤣🤣🤣

[@robynhope219]

​@@andrewstuart759that's right...he is doing Carl Rogers' work.

[@MotocrossElf]

It doesn't sound to me like he's talking about bypassing. He's just saying that the emotions are felt now, and so they have to be dealt with in the now to connect with the authentic self. It's not about bypassing the past, just about not dwelling too muvh in the details of the past narrative, because the emotions are being felt now.

[@DrMusicStarr]

who is his teacher that he refernces?

[@ScottCousland]

The teacher appears to be A. Hameed Ali. "...only when compassion is present that people will allow themselves to see the truth." is found on page 92 of "Diamond Heart Book One"

[@vicj9256]

@@ScottCousland The author's name came up as A. H. Almaas when I googled the book.

[@ljkoh20052000able]

I don't like the statue behind. But the wisdom is awsome

[@vicj9256]

Isn't it Ganesh, which represents the removal of obstacles?

[@I_AM415]

💜🙏🏼🌌

[@carmenl163]

For me, this is not working. I need(ed) validation for what has happened to me. I need to mourn the loss of my childhood and the bond with my brother. I've been ashamed of the abuse I endured always, and that has stopped me from finding help. In order to heal myself, I definitely need to look at my past. 'Fierce compassion' sounds like 'tough love' to me. And no matter how much Dr Maté is advocating against a doctor-patient relationship that is not equal, his method is precisely that.

[@vicj9256]

I feel the fierce compassion to be more about my own intention to not worry about what the other person thinks or feels, or that if they approve of me, or if they will abandon me if they don't like what I say (my own trauma reverberations), but to instead not give up on communicating what I see. Effective, life-affirming communication requires skill and would not happen with power differentials.

[@ScottCousland]

@carmenl163 “fierce compassion” can definitely be mis-used. Speaking the truth to somebody, who needs to not hear it, isn’t compassion. Compassion understands that healing requires feeling safe. Gabor refers to this when @4:16 he quotes A.H. Almaas - “Only when compassion is present, will people allow themselves to see the truth.” Severely traumatized people often first need to be heard, to have a therapist repeat back what they heard, so their client can validate that the therapist understands what the client has said. “Fierce compassion” is only effective after enough trust has been created between client and therapist.

[@louisemcdougall9389]

Only the authentic self can truly love and be loved. When he talks about giving up authenticity for attachment, i think he may have missed the point? True attachement cannot happen without the whole authentic self. A contrived, incomplete, fragmented self is not present for loving attachment to self and others.

[@ScottCousland]

@louisemcdougall9389 I think you are using a different definition of “attachment” than is used in psychology…and so you are misunderstanding his point. Attachment in psychology is simply the creation and maintenance of the bond between infant and caretaker that results in enough of the infants needs being met, that the infant survives.

[@zovalentine7305]

❤Gabor Mate MD PhD ❤

[@dariomargeli]

Instead of talking about how a therapist can help, why don't you say how a person can help themselves? With your speeches, it is always like a ticket to the next train. I want something useful in this video. Not in some future session.