lonely

[@ConnorFranta]

today, i'm traveling in europe and i'm reflecting on my loneliness. the conclusion couldn't be more comforting surprisingly enough! i hope my words resonate with you ❤

[@TheIgisas]

Very😢

[@Argastic]

Connor, please take a deeper look at the questionable business practises of BetterHelp and how FTC has raised alarms about them selling customers' health information to third parties. On top of that BetterHelp has been proudly supporting killing Palestinians. (Its an Israeli company which has been publicly on the side of IDF and Israeli government).

[@hannahboebanna]

Connor! You are an ambivert 😊 you need both, sister 🫶🏼 as an extrovert, I legit get depressed if on my own for 3 hours. On ANY day.

[@TheIgisas]

@@hannahboebanna girl same!!!

[@winfriedtheis5767]

Yes it does resonate! The whole need to be with people and then be alone again, totally get it! Feeling lonely, not so much. But sometimes I feel that I am too unique, which blocks potentially a connection, because some of these attributes distance me from others… But this was always this way, so I do not feel lonely, but often disconnected, and I crave to be perceived as „normal“ as stupid and impossible this may be…

[@ninagloria5893]

I guess we're all a little bit lonely, together

[@ConnorFranta]

exactly and that helps (i think maybe sure)

[@kennethmikkelsen6506]

But your not together. KZbin, X etc is not the same as being physically together with other people and connecting with them.

[@tyler.joshua]

I’ve been watching you for over a decade now, and you always seem to post something like this that resonates deeply. call it divine timing, or whatever it may be, but there’s a comfort in knowing I’m not the only one who feels this way. hope you enjoy your travels and stay safe ♥️

[@rikinpatel8139]

the way i stop everything just to watch his videos 😪 i fold too quickly

[@ConnorFranta]

aw that's so kind

[@TheIgisas]

Same

[@TheIgisas]

​@@rikinpatel8139He did You lucky one

[@brynnexsmile]

it's nice having roommates who are my best friends because if they haven't seen me in a while, they'll come into my room and just exist with me. i'm a lonely person, but i simply wish to exist with those I love and care about

[@httfranta]

oh god, that’s 100% me and how i felt my entire life, ESPECIALLY during my teenage years. all those friends yet i still found myself crying to sleep almost every night bc of how lonely i felt. now i look at this exactly how you said. nice to know you’re not the only one feeling this way ❤

[@ConnorFranta]

in many ways, i think it's easy to associate that feeling with sadness. but perhaps, we can relearn to see the awareness of it as positive. you're feeling! you're desiring! you're alive!

[@httfranta]

@@ConnorFranta absolutely! it's a reminder that we have depth and complexity. those feelings, while painful, can also lead to growth and self-discovery. embracing them might help us connect more deeply with ourselves and others

[@stephena7809]

This is such relatable content. I have a healthy social life, but I often feel lonely at times and I grown to realize that it’s okay. Like you said, it makes us human and it means we want more! *snaps mama, snaps*

[@Ray_Vun]

"if you're lucky you're around for 100 years" doesn't sound like luck to me. sounds more like a curse

[@ts.elliot5870]

I understand, I'm an introvert too. You'll find your way, if you keep looking. It takes forever for me to let someone inside my bubble. When I do work things out, then I have a friend for life. Get out and enjoy Copenhagen!❤

[@cartonriley]

Aren't we all, Connor? I suppose love and warmth are what distracts us from the grawing hole inside our souls, psyches, whatever you wanna call it. I know that's true for me. I know I feel a tiny bit more integrated into the fabric of the universe because of the ones I hold close. And staying parasocially connected to familiar strangers like you. Much love. Let's be lonely together.

[@ceciliabest5205]

didn’t know how much i needed to hear this right this moment. thank you connor!! this was so impactful.

[@ConnorFranta]

glad it resonated with you :)

[@hollowbread]

Makin me tear up, telling me I’m worthy. I’m always blown away by how well spoken connor is

[@ConnorFranta]

❤❤❤

[@PaulaBirzniece]

Thank you Connor for this video. I actually couldn’t believe the title when I saw it, as I’ve been feeling some kind of doom recently. I've never felt so lonely; it feels like no one sees or hears me. Your words helped, and this video brought me to tears. I'm still learning to accept things, because just as you said - I yearn for more, and I feel like I deserve it... so I’m pushing back, not wanting to accept this as my reality, even though it is. It's so confusing. and draining.

[@chrxstxna13]

saying we'd be crazy if we didn't feel lonely/ losing our minds rn was v comforting for me to hear rn thank you!!

[@cherryminbin]

why do you always make me cry with your videos? i always find comfort and understanding in your words and that's something i don't get often so thank you, connor. love and hugs from argentina

[@Js2Jo]

Thanks, Connor!! ❤❤❤❤

[@ConnorFranta]

no problem! :)

[@littlejoestar4]

let’s be lonely together

[@TheIgisas]

If I say that to someone new or that I knew a long time they are like huh.what.i don't understand you...

[@DFan-uc3qz]

Oh god this echoes with me so much 😭 enjoy your trip in Europe and greetings from Switzerland!

[@dylansturgill6995]

Love your perspective on this Connor been watching you all since the days! Good to see you in great health this world is crazy

[@caseamabob]

i really needed to hear this today...thank you for making me feel seen :)

[@ConnorFranta]

💗

[@maplenpancakes]

I relate to all of this in so many levels that, even though we're so many, I didn't think I would find someone that feels exactly how I feel. Wanting deep connections, meaningful experiences... we're alive and kicking! ✨️

[@beomgyu1469]

i honestly needed this connor, you are not alone in feeling this way. thank you for this! hopefully you (and i) can eventually figure this out

[@Poseidonjd]

Can't believe I was in Copenhagen just in time to miss the potential opportunity to have a peek at Dan and Phil AND Connor Franta. What a timing.

[@TealOmen]

This is so relatable ❤ Thanks Connor as always , love and hugs

[@chocolatecurls94]

Thank you for adding that little part at the end where you said: “there is nothing wrong with you, you are perfect the way you are”. I’m starting a new job this Monday after 5 years of unemployment because of health problems and my insecurity is taking the better of me. Thank you for making my day brighter, enjoy Denmark!❤️ xxx

[@gleekwithbowtie]

so thankful for your videos 🩵

[@ConnorFranta]

🥺❤

[@strangestparticle]

i feel so unmatched and disconnected from everyone else that i barely feel worthy of being called a "human". my connections have always been less than partial, not deep enough in the right places and for long enough to be satisfying.

[@minasage]

Watching this video well aware that yesterday I said the same things to my friends… I feel you Connor

[@NikkoVonBransson]

Yet again you capture the way I feel in a lovely video, thanks for constantly sharing your feelings and struggles it makes it a bit easier for me to feel as I am. Hugs from Serbia ❤

[@teejayy2130]

As soon as I zoomed out as you suggested it got too big I need people but I need me time❤

[@geeimaman4323]

Being gay and an introvert is a recipe for self-perceived loneliness. We've been there too.

[@marcusbangemu6041]

😢you’re like a hug for my inner self the way you phrase things

[@stargworl_123]

Love your video's!!!

[@mae4564]

i just moved to a new city across the country from my friends and family and i cannot describe the amount of comfort you just gave me. oh connor i love you!!!

[@josephlowe98]

I haven't watched your videos since my teenage years, but I have to say, you're even more relatable now than ever!

[@ginny6485]

Clicked as soon as I read the title. And the cinematics of the video are really stunning from the beginning. Wishing you a lovely day, Connor. I hope you're doing well. 🩵

[@matejamanzato]

Oh, this really helps! I’ve always felt lonely and ashamed and alienated even though I know I am partaking in pretty good bonds with other humans, but this view of loneliness as a natural part of experiencing life is really makes sanse and gives me a sense of peace, calm and trust in myself. Thank you so much, this is an incredible video, I love the way you phrased your speech and the light it brings out. 💕

[@gabbywills98]

1 minute in and this already just *resonates* with me - sending love from the UK

[@Kam___kam]

i just love your videos so much they make me so happy. been supporting since 2015 im so pround of you on everything i freakin love u so much

[@richinsf26]

I totally needed to see this video as I have always been introverted and independent ever since I was a child. Dealing with the prospect of aging, aging parents, life changes - people cycle in and out of our lives, but our morals, values, and individuality are always constant and with us. As I go on this journey of life, I try to make myself a better person, I try to enrich myself in community/friends, and delve into my self-purpose, self-meaning, and contributions to this world. When I give myself purpose and accomplishments I can feel content about myself wherever, whenever, and with whomever I spend my time (alone or not). I wish you peace in this world and to everyone else who is in a similar journey in life.

[@darksider9534]

Lonely does not = alone. I, as an introvert appreciate my alone time and very much enjoy being alone and my personal and emotional space uninhibited.

[@ConorODwyer]

This was so beautiful to listen to. Thank you!

[@frida2andersen]

Big love from Copenhagen! Fitting topic in Denmark since were quite ‘minding our own business’ type of people which often backfires since a lot of us truly need connections. I can fully relate to what you’re saying

[@winfriedtheis5767]

Have fun in Copenhagen and Denmark! Such a lovely place!

[@tallactordude]

I spent a few very memorable days in Copenhagen when I was 17, so it will always be a very special city to me. I’m over twice your age, but this video resonates with me because someone wants told me I was a loner and I didn’t want to be. It turns out he was right, and I’ve just had to make peace with it.

[@avarice158]

"why should i feel lonely? is not our planet in the milky way?"

[@Lando_P1]

Thanks Connor

[@GodMenC]

Hola Pura Vida! Mr Connor! I have followed you from the very start, but I rarely watch your videos until now. I’m glad your great sense of self and positivity still stands high to guide many people. I suffer the exact same “loneliness problem”, it was the same story hahaha The key is to never live the same exact day or routine, be honest and gentle to others and keep goals short/mid/long terms for emotional backup. You still don’t know yourself fully, get uncomfortable for EXP points haha Life is so different for everyone of us, not every story is the same. Be nice, dialogue & don’t fight. ❤

[@zoep5543]

Connor, love your videos. You are so real🧡 Always felt this sense of loneliness too so thank you for normalising it!

[@crystalr.0]

He read mine mind i start college recently and i’ve been pretty lonely seeing everyone have a group of friends

[@user-im4by5xx8s]

Yaaay new vid 🤍🤍🤍

[@ofeliaquaade]

Hope you have a great time here! 🇩🇰

[@ConnorFranta]

thank you! :)

[@brucehancock]

"Seize the day", my friend. Let us lunch in London.

[@nottoomuch_au]

You could describe yourself as an ambivert -- swinging between introvert and extrovert.

[@michellebroer9188]

To me the most essential part of life is the practice of trying to understand and connect with other people, but the emphasis will always be on the trying part. You can never truly be understood, but it is in the trying that i find the most pure forms of love

[@Richardwhytsell]

It's weird but I feel the same way. Yes it is just who I am. I am happy to be alone, I do not like being around people, but I am not lonely.

[@jakeford8916]

I think its important to recognise that we all have a ancestral psyche, regardless of how modern day culture or 'science' likes to portray human experience. Cultures, like this one and like every culture before this one will come to pass to the next, but our innate instinct for relating and meaning with others, either through a peer group or a life partner will always remain. Feeling 'lonely', I think, is just the cognitive understanding of a signal from within to take action towards relating to others and finding meaning. Life is a shared journey. Ancestors from the past, didn't survive on their own and certainly not long enough to build the next generation. Thats the task being asked, of anyone is to relate and adapt.

[@haileyspoto]

Hey!!

[@Jace_Rhyner]

I felt like even in my friend groups, there were cliques or that I was the person keeping the relationships strong. It became really obvious once i stopped texting them, and they never texted back...for 10 years 😂

[@RazzleDazzle234]

been watching you for years and it’s so comforting to still see a positive space on yt🫶

[@victoriaann6652]

same! it's so nice

[@ConnorFranta]

thank you for being here for so long! ♥

[@TheIgisas]

​@@ConnorFrantagirl same.

[@anophoria]

Today at work i realized how lonley i actually am lol because my friends where i live are so extroverted and dont get the mental torture it is for me to meet up. I know that while I'm in the moment, its not as bad as i thought, but the built up there is always the worst. Today a friend and coworker (thats why i noticed it at work) told me that one of our friends told he shes annoyed with me cuz i dont text her often or come up with meet up plans, even tho i told hwr before to tell me directly if she feels like that because i know how horrible i am at this whole thing. Point is, ive got a chronic illness, both physically and mentally and meeting up with people next to all my doctors appointments and my driver's lisence stuff, i often get overwhelmed to the point i dont wanna exist. And today felt like a back stab. Cuz I know I'm not easy to be around. That's why i didnt want any friends where i live in the first place, i dont wanna do my existence to anyone else, if that makes sense. And im reakly regretting that i got into that circle having to overshare with my coworkers who are my friends the same time. I wish i kept my distance instead of telling them about my mental struggles only to have them downplayed and being told "it's only in my head" when it's real chronic pain. And right now i wish i could just quit and move away. Even though its not as bad as i make it, but these things feel like a never endinf cicle. I guess I'm still figuring out the meaning of friendship and how to set boundaries. Im sorry for the long ass text. I needed to share this to get it off my chest, gotra get up in 5 hours. That video was perfect timing tho. :')

[@anastasiapryputen9832]

you’re not lonely you have us ❤️👹👺👺👺👺😠😠

[@ConnorFranta]

thank you 👻😠🥵🔥

[@harperfox1307]

Oh hell nah the better help ad ruined this

[@GaGaObession]

fr, such a dodgy company

[@harperfox1307]

@@GaGaObession it’s well known to be dodgy too, guess they pay well

[@nihilasta2661]

My best friend died last year. So easy to guess where a lot of my current loneliness comes from..... But it's not just that. I've been contemplating/deconstructing "love" this year in my head a lot, asking why I want it and what it means, how it plays into my life. Maybe i'm Aromantic, maybe not (i did ask someone out earlier this year. Aaaaand i do have a wedding playlist even though i dont think it'll happen, it's nice to imagine what I'd play), but either way i'm starting to accept the idea that maybe i dont end up at the whole married with kids stuff. And becoming OK with that. Thinking about if that's now how it ends, how might it go instead? How do i want it to go? How it may play out for me isn't set in stone, and accepting that it's something to go with the flow more these days, that there isn't this one set route and there are different avenues to maybe go down. If I even choose to choose at all

[@twizzlygummywires]

why are we still sponsoring better help ://

[@whatshisnamegain1]

Yeah, I love Connor's videos! But that is frankly disappointing. Connor must've seen the videos exposing Better Help. But I want to give him the benefit of the doubt...

[@aransweeting969]

This has always been me-struggling to gauge how people perceive me and now I’m diagnosed AuDHD😅😂

[@glenmuir219]

I hate to tell you this, but yes. You are who you are. I have always felt the exact same way. You are not really lonely, just alone. In fact, I referred to myself as a social or creative vampire. I need to be around people to get charged up, but then prefer solitude to create. As for a "real friend," That's someone you can call at 3:00 AM... and they answer!! I've always said that. Sadly, after 72 years I will tell you it does not change. At least not for me. Just sit back and enjoy it...

[@maggiereid2865]

Guys, wake up, Connor just posted a philosophical video!!!💜🤘🏼

[@davidmcclellan9959]

I ALWAYS LOVE YOU CONNOR YOU ARE SWEET BESTFRIEND LOVE DAVID😀🥰😀🥰🥰🥰🥰

[@jeffchow6722]

The Youth Pastor jumped out

[@ConnorFranta]

lmao

[@TheMyoMimi]

I'm lonely because I don't have a support system, a large network of dependable friends, nor a family. It's just me.

[@ConnorFranta]

nothing changes if nothing changes, so try to go join a club, take a class, or talk to people at a local cafe. you got this :)

[@spencerinolivda9676]

Me too! Ahem, me too. (Me too!!!!!!).

[@CadeCYC]

Interesting thesis but I would argue this is the age of isolation. Our societies are built on and around money earning rather than cooperation and communal oneness within nature. Even the idea of a nuclear family (however rapidly populating) is quite small and isolated. Our friends circles are small to begin with and only shrink with age as people are engrossed in their work-for-money careers, dreams, and marriage or singleness. To align with you, I would simply say that solitude is cherished because that is always where we truly reside. The world and living and sharing it is beautiful, but I am always at rest, wholly myself, and energized within. 🙏❤🌈jj

[@Ray_Vun]

i'd do well as a hermit as long as i had the internet. see, i can live by with only interacting with humans online. the less interactions i have with people in person the happier i am

[@MusoStuu]

Love to make friends with you ❤

[@solronconi3965]

I think the same way omg i wanna hug you, kisses from Argentina🇦🇷🫂❤️

[@ConnorFranta]

aw i miss argentina :')

[@Tamayo.Sama2023]

first, so you'll not be lonely

[@ConnorFranta]

thanks diva

[@sagew1312]

I made it

[@Kattt33]

❤❤❤

[@ConnorFranta]

❤❤❤

[@rachelscicchitano5041]

I think you’re just single and seeking a companion

[@Flanole]

I have never understood why people confuse being alone with loneliness. They are not the same thing. One can be lonely in the middle of a crowd. One is never truly alone even when they want to be.

[@aryxn0]

Will you be going to sweat tour? ❤

[@Carl-x8y3c]

We are all alone. We are individuals. Sure a person can have many friends and a good relationship or marriage , but we are still our own person. For me i don't feel lonely like i once did. Ever since changing my life and handing my will over to the lord i don't feel lonely anymore. I live alone which i prefer , but I'm not lonely.

[@ArchitGuptaArchit]

Come to india. I ll show you around. Definitly you wont feel lonely here😅

[@carlosbravo6069]

liked video been watching for a while

[@ConnorFranta]

and we love to see it

[@lalapopsantana]

I’m curious, what’s your Myers Briggs Type? ☺️

[@ConnorFranta]

INFJ, i believe

[@PrettyUnique-wl7or]

Ambievert

[@PokhrajRoy.]

An American in Europe? Oh, that’s a lovely subgenre and to quote Kate Sanders from ‘The Lizzie McGuire Movie’: “How did she get my trip?” (Jk stay fabulous)

[@ConnorFranta]

kate sanders, the original diva

[@PokhrajRoy.]

@@ConnorFranta “This diva…”

[@hs6585]

Hey Connor! Have you ever thought about reading the Quran? I know it sounds like it’s completely off topic but it’s a great healing that puts life into perspective in that we shouldn’t worry ourselves about how much we are doing or making no difference at all because in fact we are and none goes unoticed by God. He doesn’t expect perfection but at times people do. It really helped me to put myself at rest in not overwhelming myself when he’s there to rely on

[@mhe1623]

living in a developing country, hoping to immigrate to US to leave the feeling of lonliness behind, seeing your video and realizing it might not be the country 😄

[@idletalker]

doing a BetterHelp sponsorship in the year 2024 is such bottom of the barrel bullshit... come the fuck on Connor, do better

[@McMilesE]

Wth I haven't seen you since high school. So 2014 what the heck lol

[@ConnorFranta]

welcome back

[@reuterromain1054]

There are three great questions humankind has no answers for: 1) Is there a God? 2) Is there life after death? 3) Are we alone in the Universe, are we being visited by alien life on our home-planet? I have given an answer to all three questions.

[@DevynWilliams]

FIRST

[@cynthiacollins2643]

you always know when to post a video whenever i need it the most 🩷

[@Bodacious007]

Thank you for being our friend and therapist 🫶💙 ive been watching your videos for over 12 years and I've always been so inspired to be my best self through you 🙌🏻

[@alexrisha]

PhilosoFranta back at it again! It's kind of comforting to see that more people feel this way, thanks for this video🤍 have fun in Denmark!

[@ConnorFranta]

watch your back aristotle

[@jurgenrathjen5965]

What a brilliant anaysis1111

[@damagedemma]

Danish subscriber here since 2013 and the mention of Copenhagen made my old fangirl heart flutter🥹🇩🇰 You made me feel less lonely when I was bullied and didn’t have any friends in my early teen years but your videos helped me so much🫶

[@MeiLanChristial]

really needed this video today, i just started grad school in a new state away from home and it’s been very isolating. i’ve been watching your videos for almost a decade now, thank you for being here❤

[@ConnorFranta]

sending you so much love! 💗

[@MeiLanChristial]

@@ConnorFrantathank you, sending some right back!!🫶🏾

[@bffs9899]

I’m in the EXACT same boat, feeling more lonely than ever with this big adjustment. But reading your comment made me realize plenty of people may be feeling the same as me right now ❤ Wishing you the best of luck on your journey, we’re doing big things!!!

[@MeiLanChristial]

@@bffs9899 thanks so much:) we’re definitely not alone, I hope you’re proud of yourself and excited for the journey!!💛