"Bad Texters", Dan Bilzerian Being Cringe & The Truth About Intimacy With Women

[@todds.6028]

IF. A. WOMAN. GENUINELY. DESIRES. YOU. SHE. WILL. MAKE. THE. EFFORT. PERIOD.

[@Kumari_44]

💯

[@PermanentHigh]

She will go above and beyond for you. She will legit SIMP for you

[@Bluemgwes]

Exactly!!! And yet, here we are, countless KZbin Channels, books, movies, and podcasts dedicated to convincing people it's an exact science. If a woman OR man genuinely like you, they will make the effort! Yes. It really is that simple, and if you have to question whether or not something's off, then it's not a solid relationship.

[@danielvibez4000]

Absolutely. I saw a tik tok of a chick driving in a snow storm to go see a guy.

[@heathjoints9845]

@@PermanentHigh That’s the only relationship a man should be in if he founds her sexual pleasing.

[@cajiggle]

It's interesting Courtney that you talk about older men dating high school girls. The plot of Licorice Pizza is about a 25-year-old woman who falls for a 15-year-old boy. I watched the movie and wondered why no one had a problem with this. They all praised it as a sweet coming-of-age love story. If the plot was about a 25-year-old man in love with a 15-year-old girl, there would be calls for the movie to be banned and outrage for days.

[@ALSuspiria-sh1ss]

Facts i agree

[@Coldsoldja]

One of the huge dumb double standards in our society. Either way it should be looked down upon.. it's almost as if people in this modern age society are conditioned to demonize men and give women a free pass in so many different ways. It's really fucked up honestly

[@stevegrady5134]

Hollywood hypocrisy that the Sheeple all blindly go along with.

[@hungryjimbo]

I think it is fantastic for a 15 year old boy to date a 25 year old woman.

[@Dogscatsbikes]

Lolita, The Professional…

[@JohnBrown-ig5nc]

If she says, "I'm the type who forgets to text back" means either "I'm flooded with dm's from guys, if you're the type of guy I find attractive I'll respond or I like playing games and love the attention"

[@tainle]

this girl is judging men in this area what a laugh.

[@MrDominic600]

Or she’s just lazy and careless

[@JohnBrown-ig5nc]

@@MrDominic600 that too

[@moonknight4053]

Parents, environment, friends etc they all play apart eh…. I wished women would just change this shitty thing they got goin on called inflated ego and bodycounts….

[@pancakeburglar9361]

It baffles me whenever I see a girl put “I’m not good texting or checking the dating app” on their profile. Sorry girl that’s a left swipe from me even if you’re hot, I ain’t got time or patience to deal with people who suck at basic communication.

[@BizInTheFrontPartyInTheBack]

Same here. Not gonna deal with that crap.

[@moonknight4053]

They shouldn’t be on dating apps if that’s what there mindset is like. Girls like that make my shit look like a 3 course meal

[@AJFresh69]

Nor do any of us have time for someone who spouts lies straight out of their profile

[@Lonstermash]

99% of the time, when I read this on a dating site profile, the girl coincidentally lists her Instagram and often tells you to contact her there. So it's pretty obvious they're looking for Instagram followers and not dates

[@moonknight4053]

@@Lonstermash Dude what’s ur workout plan? You’re frickn shredded man.. And as for ur statement yeah ur bang on, every chick asked if I use Sc or Insta…. I only use Facebook and ur normal texting app

[@ajtaylor8750]

To answer Courtney's question, the reason why some women (and guys) are okay being a side piece is simply because they know they're not relationship or marriage material. They are much more comfortable being the guy's side piece rather than the actual girlfriend or wife which bares a lot more responsibility and attention than they're willing to give. They know they wanna be out in these streets, yet still want some form of a bond with that guy and will take on that role.

[@hisdud3ness93]

Well as someone who actually was in a (very short) relationship with a girl like this, there is usually not as much conscious decision of "wanting to be out in the streets" as you say, as just fear of commitment and just being emotionally available. They will say they want this life and they choose to be like this, but there is usually some serious lack of self respect going on.

[@briar35981]

Your comments on emotional and physical intimacy was spot on. Men aren't wired to need that. So it's very difficult for us to understand what a woman needs in this area. I also can say that women do a poor job of expressing what they need in this area. I have heard this statement in some form sooooo many times. "Well if you don't know, Then you don't really care for me." Women are so much better at feelings and emotions. Their brains are wired that way. If communication isn't present, the relationship breaks down. In my experience, once this happens. The woman will deny the physical intimacy and uses it a tool against the man. "Men display, Women choose" "Every woman wants a good man, until she finds one the requires her to be a better woman"

[@Dylan-ko2gj]

Damn the first one about the not texting back is so true. I have girls that like my profile first and I put effort into sending a thoughtful, funny personalized opener only to be ghosted or they'll just like or heart react to it and leave it. Really makes you wonder why you even bother. Dating apps have killed trying to get a relationship

[@Filthy_Larry]

Why do you have a profile? Do you call yourself a man? Do what our ancestors did back in the day. I can’t tell you what that was. Your gonna have to learn. First thing I can tell you though is to get rid of your stupid internet profile.

[@mrbejam]

The impression I get is these girls are creating their profile to browse when they set the app up, but never look otherwise.

[@kajony]

Stick with it, @dylan - the ones that reply with something equally smart will be the ones that have value and are the ones you’ve been practicing your writing skills for!

[@juanshaftpatel7488]

simp

[@juanshaftpatel7488]

@@Filthy_Larry ok boomer

[@TyeDye622]

We all pay girls to hang out with us; it's called a date

[@sunkillsmoon]

@te na wow, how does it feel to be so unintelligent??? Genuinely curious

[@sunkillsmoon]

@te na well, that just proves your delusion

[@trudgemankPhD]

I hate that it’s so rare for someone to publicly emphasize the importance of masculine and feminine energy. Most people have always thought this; thank you for saying it!

[@TheJpyne518]

there's no such thing as toxic masculinity. there's masculinity and then there's being toxic. great content

[@CDeeez94]

Nah that's not really true. There are a lot of cultural norms and sets of beliefs that are taught to boys and men that lead to aggressive and stereotypical attitudes in society, e.g. homophobia & misogyny, "boys don't cry," etc. To defend your point though, I do 100% agree that there are toxic behaviors that overlap in both men and women like playing hard to get and using manipulative and misleading language.

[@467076]

@@CDeeez94 Masculinity are qualities or attributes regarded as characteristic of men. i.e "handsome, muscled, and driven, he's a prime example of masculinity" If you're toxic you're just toxic and not masculine.

[@barackputin]

@@CDeeez94 You're just a beta

[@allenllewellynkra]

Facts

[@KaizenLegacy]

9:57 I was just talking to my wife about this the other day. I have run into this situation from time to time at the grocery store when wearing my wedding ring. I think it comes from 1 of 3 places: 1) She is so use to guys that won't commit to her, that when she sees a guy that she likes who is already committed she ignores the fact that he would have to break his current commitment to be with her, 2) It is a challenge to see if they can steal a guy away from someone else, and/or 3) They want a no-strings relationship and the fact that he is already attached means they can get the benefits of a relationship without actually being in one. All of which indicate the girl needs some time in therapy before talking to any more men.

[@Bigtank9401]

With the "Women get turned on by emotional support/connections(talking)" I found that out a while ago reading John Gray. "Men are from mars, Women are from Venus" is a great and helpful book. Not only did I learn more about women, I learned more about myself in the process. I Completely understand that women need to talk and Share to get over Stress, but ladies, be mindful of the time you share. We do need time to ourselves to get through stress. If a woman is talking during the time that his Stress is high, it's going to be very tough to get an emotional connection. You're not wrong or weird for wanting to talk, just Communicate appropriate times to talk(and don't follow him)and I guarantee it can work out.

[@moonknight4053]

Men are from earth dude, I know what the books trying to say, but I bet it says women are emotional and men are logical, men are also emotional beings. Take the red pill community, there emotional guys, take ur janitor from ur local school he’s emotional too. Bunch of BS that men are solely logical, it’s disrespectful to say that about men. Piping is down to just be “Logical” null of emotions.

[@Bigtank9401]

@@moonknight4053 Classic case of judging a book by its cover. It's not from a guy that's from the RP community. This is an actual expert in love and relationships. I'm talking PHD and Everything. I don't read anything from the RP Community. Don't Assume, Read...

[@moonknight4053]

@@Bigtank9401 In no way did I say it’s from the RP community, and I’ll give the book u mentioned somewhat of a read. I just think it’s a stupid metaphor, it’s like comparing men to lions or wolves

[@Bigtank9401]

@@moonknight4053 First, I'll apologize for the misinterpretation. I saw you mentioned the RP Community and I put it in my comment without properly reading that part... Nonetheless, the book does not State that Men don't have emotions. On the contrary, it goes over the different ways Men and Women Express and Deal with their emotions. It also doesn't state that Men are the only Logical ones. The metaphor is used to Outline the Differences between Men and Women, that last sentence misses the mark. The metaphor is not a Comparison... but please do read the book. If you still don't like it, then that's okay... You do You.

[@moonknight4053]

@@Bigtank9401 No worries bro, cheers, yeah I’ll give it a read mate, and that’s good that the book doesn’t state that about men I’m pretty tired eh of hearing that rhetoric that men are the logical ones. It’s so overused and makes me cringe, I like to have a lil read of things every now n then eh. Cheers mate 🍻

[@dormandavis2767]

Thank you Courtny it’s nice to know you know what you’re doing. I’ve learned a lot from you even though I’ve been married for 30 years and my wife passed away recently unexpectedly. I’m going to start hitting the dating scene pretty soon so I’ve learned a lot from you. Thank you again

[@williebowman3973]

Courtney, your KZbin presence/personality makes me feel like we could ge friends personally and I appreciate it! You keep it real. 💪🏾

[@stepkickking9868]

Hi Courtney, could you possibly make a video regarding introverted women, specifically on their personalities and the most effective ways of communicating with them? Thanks.

[@two-moonz2953]

That sounds like a lot of people would relate to that.

[@writhracing1642]

My second girlfriend, cheated on her boyfriend with me and everyone said she was going to do it to me, I was delusional and said nope she’s never doing it to me, but she did, she’s a cop in town and her last 2 boyfriends have killed themselves, “ who were also cops” lots of drama in my town, but anyway I’m glad I didn’t do the same thing because I didn’t own a gun back then, funny how in the moment in seems like it’s the end of the world, but 8 years later and you don’t even think about it anymore 🤣

[@homiesenatep]

She's demonic, good thing you stayed away from her. Girls like her ruin lives, and pray to God to help you avoid women like that

[@freefinancialadvice]

Bruh awesome story tho seriously lol

[@GEORGIOARCADE]

My advice is don't text as much. If you can, try to hang out with women in person, voice and video chat. If someone doesn't wanna do that; they just don't like you like that. The whole bad texter thing is a just an excuse. I wouldn't want to be around people like that. Honestly i don't think a woman who is masculine is any less of a woman than one who is feminine. There just a whole a lot of weirdness with dating these days. Anyways i appreciate your healthy insight Courtney. Have a lovely day!😊🙌🏽♥️💫☕

[@thrilla72]

Ahhh you were on a good run until the masculine/feminine thing. They have different names so....it implies that they are different.

[@menumlor9365]

Thanks I’ll have a lovely day.

[@ilai7893]

On the topic of emotional openness, @Courtney I hope you can speak on the difference between that and vulnerability. Rebecca Barrett talked about how men complaining and crying literally drains women's attraction for their guy... so how much is too much?

[@CourtneyRyan]

I have a video coming out about this super soon!

[@thrilla72]

If you complain, you must present the solution immediately and act on it.

[@RockBottom4]

Pretty much zero. Give enough info/openness so SHE feels secure that you are secure in whatever problem she senses. Read that again a few times. That's it. Literally anything else she will 1) lose attraction for you, at best and 2) hold against you later, at worst.

[@beachbum1927]

Emotional intimacy requires men and women to be deeply honest with themselves, and many are not. But if it is so important to these women when they are married, why didn’t they place a higher value on this when they were single? This has been one of the greatest frustrations in my life.

[@perry6712]

Women want to have fun when young then once they reached a certain age 26 or whichever they look for stability because they can't compete with the younger ladies they want a beta male provider.

[@Tim_Worldly]

I stopped auditioning for a woman’s acceptance a long time ago and I’ve never felt better. If someone is interested in you, you’ll know it.

[@heathjoints9845]

Stay strong.

[@Aumaan924]

I've always been the type to think, just as you said, if you want something go for it... And while I agree that women will find it attractive when we pursue, some still need to understand that most of the time when we don't, it's not that we're playing hard to get or anything... but what about when things are flipped? I'm not saying that women should be masculine about it, but if you want a guy, go after him. Lost a "friend" because of that, apparently she was into me, but expected me to start pursuing her when I wasn't attracted to her that way, she got mad at me for that and for not magically realizing she wanted be with me

[@RemyBeast]

"When you realize being feminine will get you more from men..." - I can understand women needed to be more masculine in the work place. Hell many men have to be more masculine than they normally are in the work place. One of the things that comes with maturity is understanding how to properly adjust for a given situation. As people we really do have many identities so to speak. Does a mother treat her children the way she treats her employees if she is a manager? So why should a woman bring the same masculine energy from work home to her man?

[@thrilla72]

Because it is hard to switch off and yes some people treat their children the same as they do everyone else.

[@Filthy_Larry]

Women don’t belong in the workplace.

[@zegsi364]

@@thrilla72 Its hard to switch for women... Not for men... We do it all the time... We switch for every place we go...

[@Nah-ah]

@@Filthy_Larry everyone belongs in the workplace, it’s called being an adult and earning money to pay your bills!

[@wyleecoyotee4252]

@@Filthy_Larry Women belong wherever they want to be

[@stevegrady5134]

The women who are always sitting around Dan in those social media pics are getting paid. Dan's company has been outed for spending thousands of dollars on modeling agencies in So Cal. Women do not hang out with Dan because they actually like him.

[@mikesteelheart]

*Promptly written off as "necessary expenditures" lol.

[@juanshaftpatel7488]

so what... only poors complain about paying

[@NeuroFlexTech]

That’s not true read his autobiography

[@juanshaftpatel7488]

@Steve A you come off as an incel

[@driftracerr34]

@@juanshaftpatel7488 Troll

[@michaelchambers7691]

I've been sick 😫 of my life, I'm placing effort into improving it. I was just laid off from a sheetmetal company. I purchased a newer laptop, purchased shelves and coat hangers for my home, bought new clothes, reorganizing my garage, got me a haircut, using shampoo and skin products, and polishing my resume for a new better career. I also posted an ad to fix electronics, I just got a customer and a project fixing a church organ power supply.

[@pedramabdollahi7333]

dating a high schooler is weird because it feels like the older one is taking advantage of their lack of experience and hormonal emotions

[@TomFox1]

“How to be toxic” 😂😂😂😂 most girls on social media teaching women to hate men and be toxic, Thanks courtney for your content

[@BradAaronTaylor]

Oh god, I can already sense what's coming. If this guy was any more cringe, he'd probably punch a hole through time.

[@hawleygriffin1800]

Reaching out is only attractive when attractive men reach out. If she doesn't VALUE that attention because it's not coming from a top ten guy, that attention is worthless to her and she will delete it before any of her friends see it and shame her or tease her about the kind of guys she attracts. The internet presents everyone with the best of the best, screened from literally millions of profiles and posts. That standard is nearly impossible to compete with but that insanely high standard for looks, has become the standard women expect.

[@MrJuiceHugo]

Men will always look up to Dan blizeran no matter the criticism and embarrassment. Men don’t feel embarrassed as the way women feel. We have different feelings and moments. Men will look up to other men who have other women with them. It’s human psychology.

[@lukeseanpicco5787]

Because they were once that age and that never leaves unless they give up on their inner child. Truth is, it's a beautiful thing. When your my age and a younger dude is attracted towards you, guaranteed you'll be flaterd and if you were single would be more open or receptive to the idea. Young Energy is healthy and vibrant and we all desire that livelineenes and impressionable connects. Great vid sweetheart.

[@committedtodd]

If a 30 year old is a dating someone in high school I would argue that there’s some maturity issues. A man whose self aware at 30 should want someone close to the same stage in life as them (in my opinion). Not to take away from girls who are younger and mature for their age. But in my opinion if a dude is dating down to high school he’s probably only focused on physical attraction, or surface level character traits.

[@robi6317]

..or he's a pedophile

[@gh0rochi363]

I wasn’t highschool age, but I always dated older women. I’m 26 and when I was 20 I dated women 25-38. The idea someone younger has nothing to offer is very close minded. We would have great convos, financially I’m independent and can provide, I always take into account other people’s emotions and perspectives, to the best of my ability, etc. Someone younger may not be able to bring things to the table in the same way someone your own age can’t. but that doesn’t mean they can’t at all. Again I say this as the person that is typically younger and usually I’m the youngest guy women have dated (based on age difference). Many of my relationships ended amicably and maturely. People are individuals.

[@TyeDye622]

I don't like texting because I feel like I'm a burden to other people, so I choose not to text that way I don't interfere with what they're doing. Sometimes, texting can show that you are clingy, and you could be interrupting something more important.

[@ItsJustRyan89]

Overthinking it bro. We’re not geared up to communicate in this way, send the message then forget you’ve sent it, you’ll get a reply or you won’t get a reply.

[@fitforlife3168]

I think that as long as the girl is of age it is okay for there to be a relatively large disparity between the age of a man and a woman especially considering that women are attracted to older men because it usually means they are better leaders and higher status than younger men.

[@adhirajnaik485]

@Courtney, the thing you said about guys being the first to message girls on social media, isn't it weird to send such messages to strangers? Also what if you're not on social media at all? Wouldn't you rather wait for an opportunity to come or a social situation to happen?

[@Filthy_Larry]

She won’t answer you bro. Too much brain power for her.

[@jtm-25]

“Doesn’t he pay girls… to hang out with him?… 😒🤨” That look sent me lmao

[@stevewiseman2520]

LOVE the glasses !!!!!!!!!!!

[@claytonelofgren]

What I do at work with a prospect is say “I just tried to reach you again. Per our lack of communication I will assume you no longer need my services at this time. If you need me in the future please save my contact information. Then insert all of my contact information.” This one actually works a lot and has won deals when people realize you’re actually moving on

[@tommygunn6901]

What's the logic behind the "I'm the type of texter that'll never text back"? What is the reason? If you're on dating apps and saying that bs, bye! You're basically killing your chances and you'll wonder "where are the good men?" Lol DUHHHHHHH!

[@JohnBrown-ig5nc]

It means she is probably playing games and wants attention, is flooded with dm's and/or will only text back if you're the type of guy she finds attractive

[@tommygunn6901]

@@JohnBrown-ig5nc true! I am aware but appreciate the clarity. I just fond it so counterintuitive that on apps like Hinge or Bumble they say they're horrible texters, yet are on apps or whatever. To me, they're catapulting themselves outta the dating market in my opinion

[@juanshaftpatel7488]

@@tommygunn6901 youre a simp

[@mattpaul5389]

Hey Courtney, thanks for your videos. I appreciate the insight and you've got an almost ASMR relaxation quality I enjoy too.

[@CDeeez94]

Really hit the nail on the head with the take on Dan Bilzerian. While I do like the _idea_ of "treating oneself like they are their own celebrity," it's also not necessarily based in _reality_ and that's what's misleading about that concept. Sure we can have the "abundance mindset" and walk and talk like we're bigger than we are...but that only goes so far because of reality. In reality, not _everyone is_ a celebrity, and deep down, we know that we only make so-and-so amount of money and we're only so-and-so pounds and so-and-so feet tall. We know we can only project so much and we can't fake everything about our lives. Dan sets unrealistic expectations for men because he himself is rich famous and is able to pay for luxuries and women to hang out with him. That isn't everyone...and it _can't be_ everyone. That's not to sound super negative or anything, but it's to be honest with ourselves and other people because we can only fake so much and it's miles better and easier to just be ourselves and not some fake version of who we think we are.

[@georgeindestructible]

3:50, so the "blaming men for everything" thing has been older than i thought... It's not like she couldn't have said no...women and accountability....

[@LabbaykYaMahdi313]

I agree wholeheartedly

[@adarius971]

Thanks for the content Courtney! We really appreciate you

[@kingnomad3176]

Always great to watch this woman as she’s a perfect example of why you never listen to women/female advice on intersexual dynamics.

[@dat868]

As Doc Love says watch what she does not what she says. I've seen lots of women say they want a nice guy but date and marry jerks or guys that aren't nice like Mike Brady.

[@lemueldickson8620]

Fellow Rational Male spotted!! 💡💡💡

[@mayorrodgers7446]

“Why would a 24 year old want to date a 17-year-old in high school?“. How funny. Literally the age that my wife and I were when we started dating. Don’t get me wrong. I actually 100% agree with the statement years later. I think it’s weird too. I definitely think my wife was an exception. Incredibly grounded and mature for her age. (I may have been an exception also as I did NOT pursue her sexually. As Christians we both agreed that would wait until after we were married). 27 years and six kids later we’re still together and very happy.

[@thrilla72]

Can not say it is a bad idea, if it worked out well for both of you.

[@alleras46]

It's not weird at all, it's just modern standards on men. Men have always preferred younger women, they're more attractive and feminine. If she's not an immature little girl I don't see the issue.

[@Filthy_Larry]

@@alleras46 yes. Younger women. Not females under the age of 18 though. It’s 18 and over. My ranges for dating are 18-25.

[@alleras46]

@@Filthy_Larry Got it. 18 and over. Heard you loud and clear. The feds onto you bro?

[@juanshaftpatel7488]

@@Filthy_Larry you dotn get shit

[@mikeywilliams5322]

Another great video, love your dedication 🙂

[@AY-vi2ld]

Different people have their own traits that attract and repel others, the strategies that you use are going to determine the type of people that you attract. What works for one person may not work for another. There was a girl that I would regularly flirt with and she loved attention, but by not falling over to please her unlike the 100s of other guys that messaged her, I always had her attention and she would go after me. It wasn't a serious situation as I didn't see her as girlfriend material, but our interactions were mutually enjoyable.

[@adammonks591]

Dan is correct in that it is preferable for women to be chasing you. Obviously men should do the initial approach but after that it's better if they do the majority of the pursuit. Side note, I went out at the weekend in a suit and women approached me and I didn't have to approach a single woman all night. I'd recommend any man that wants to avoid the minefield of the approach do the same.

[@thrilla72]

Yeah, it is a fallacy that women want men to pursue them. In my experience, if she does not regularly initiate conversations she is NOT interested.

[@ALSuspiria-sh1ss]

Im 38 . As long as the girl is 18 and older. I follow the law and my desires. 18 is legal. I could care less what people think

[@shivan3788]

Ur jokin right

[@thefox47545]

As another 38 year old, I agree wholeheartedly.

[@king-yq5xj]

Thank you for your honesty, sis.

[@jubaaissaoui5678]

we need a video about how make friendships with girls in a friendly way . you're content is beautiful as you

[@arians3713]

Hello and thank you for your great content. Regarding the 24 year old dudes trying to date highschoolers I can give you a very simple answer: Guys want a girlfriend for the following purpose: A female human who treats them with care and love. (age doesn't matter as long as you are a grown woman and yes someone turning 18 is a grown woman, mentally and physically) Many highschoolers are actually more mature than older girls.

[@andrebaxter4023]

Masculine and feminine energy. Boom! This is the way. Yin and Yang.

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[@alexmichelle9912]

Text him on what's app I think he replies faster on there 👆👆

[@alexmichelle9912]

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[@Blazntrax81]

Jeremy's videos are so off the wall. He cracks me up. 😂😂

[@80HD8]

If they do it with you, they'll do it to you. Very true.

[@KerrRobinson]

I’m so glad you said guys need to pursue, I always prefer it that way anyway.

[@sademcfadden1374]

Also, some people just don’t prioritize texting as much. I agree that if you are pursuing a relationship you should be attentive and engaged in the conversation, but also recognize that some people don’t like to text, so be willing to talk to them about your communication needs instead of just writing them off as a thot and engaging in all kinds of cognitive distortions like convincing yourself that she’s getting blown out by a bunch of other dudes.

[@hungryjimbo]

Every guy pays a girl to hang out with them. I have never ever been on a date where a female grabs the bill. It might happen but it is rare.

[@jazzyjake99]

Paying a bill for something is not paying someone to hang out with you. If that’s your view on dating, you’re going to have a lot of issues.

[@TheEliminator1992]

@@jazzyjake99 Not sharing the "load" per say once in a while is going to lead to failure as well. It's a partnership not a "sell-your-soul" contract.

[@adhamyoussef7415]

Yo Courtney coming in clutch

[@elysianfields1671]

If someone is truly interested in you you can be as normal as you can in texting or talking. They won’t care.

[@jrsampson29]

Age has no limits on love it's hard to see it at times with people what happens age difference hopefully video Courtney Ryan 😊

[@ashyzad6237]

Hi Courtney, you mentioned that, a man has to text a woman first, true, but if i text and she doesn't reply or ignoring me, then for me if i continue to texting her, then i am letting myself down, don't i? in this way, i can know, if she is really into me or not, am i right? thanks

[@corvir4]

I think I've some explanation about question 'why older guys date younger girls?' and it's not all that strange as Courtney pictured it to my view. We live in 2022 and let's facet it, if a girl is somewhat attractive, smart, ambitious etc. that kind of girl is very quickly out of the dating market, and considering dating aps i might even say in a blink of an eye. So yeah, guys are trying to date them in their youth, moreover they don't have that super crazy (as some girls, yes i know not all of them) expectations, money, status, looks and are more of this 'schoolgirl friend' type, fun, just easy to hang out, trying to find first or one of their first love, and well IG put expectations sky high, all this luxury lifestyle, they aren't yet soaked by it and blinded. Many of them don't have tinder or other aps so yeah overall chance of finding good girl in high school let's say for a student are much much higer than on the university. And there's a negative aspect to it like really older guys dating a girls but well it's their choice, that eventuall turns out bad for them. And at the ending i've got some friends that were so focused on education, high grades, studies, work mainkg a good living and they missed it, missed the best part of beeing young, careless love in high school, escaping form lessons to go on a trip, hugging girlfriend on the campfire near the lake with their best pack of friends around them, partying when it's sth new and they try to taste it even a bit beeing with younger girl, and it's quite sad when you think about it :/

[@homiesenatep]

I have seen profiles like that on my dating app. Actually though, not many girls nearby my area act like that. Most just talk about wanting boba, or to go to Disneyland or marvel movies. I myself never got into that, so it's difficult finding a match

[@gonzalogomez556]

Courtney you give great advice thanks 👍

[@whereforartthou]

9:58 when the guy says "one" he's holding up the middle finger lol

[@enriquepujals6947]

I get that we as men need to give women the space to be feminine but there’s a dynamic that I think is missing from that sort of conversation. Men don’t like or even know how to compete properly with women. We can compete with other men because there is an underlying threat of physicality and that keeps things in order. At the base root of it, when we compete with other men, we are competing with other “hunters”, other “providers”. I’m not saying this is all how it should be btw but when we compete with women we get kind of confused because women are simultaneously being the ones we’re trying to provide for/trying to show that we can provide and hunt for, and also they’re being the providers and hunters themselves. If a woman enters a relationship in a masculine frame, then she makes it so that we try to compete and provide for her at the same time which is impossible. We then try to bridge the two concepts and wind up providing her with things and getting out of her way which looks like subservience. Many women enter relationships in a masculine frame and expect the men to make room for them to be feminine. But, since the woman is competing, the man makes room for her in the only way he can but instead of becoming feminine, she becomes hyper masculine. Bottom line, men and women need to become masculine and feminine respectively outside of the relationship first and then they can come together properly within one. Ladies, if you want a leader, you have to be a follower. Gentlemen, if you want a follower, become a leader. Thanks for coming to my TEDTalk.

[@ItsJustRyan89]

Somebody watches Jordan Peterson videos 🤣

[@tommygamba170]

I'm a bad texter Because I'm more of a person that feeds off the energy of another person in conversations in-person. And through text message it's hard to tell how that comes over because I'm reading good with my reflections and interpretations of the written word.

[@IllustratorNoahM]

I’m 21, but I still like girls who are a little older than me like 23, 24, or 25 or so

[@tommygunn6901]

Nothing wrong with that. I'm 31 and I will date a girl who is 32-35 if older. That's your preference and that's good! Best wishes

[@DB-sd3cw]

Who cares

[@IllustratorNoahM]

I totally agree with y’all, I’m not too careful about age

[@saltycringe4361]

Me too bro good luck with that. You just gotta make sure you are more emotionally mature then them in order to date them then. That's how i see it

[@rjmamula]

I think one reason older men have trouble with women their age is they still have a high school mentality when it comes to relationships and rather than work on that they just look for someone with their level of maturity. Slow maturity is largely why I haven’t had success on the dating front even in high school. I briefly had a girlfriend in middle school which gave me unrealistic expectations about relationships.

[@PeterKoebel]

Regarding men "don't know how to talk to their spouse.", It's not all on the men. Both sides need to make the effort to communicate. Primarily, active listening. If a spouse is hyper critical or makes everything about themselves, the other partner might not want to "talk" much with their spouse.

[@jayshar659]

Courtney, are men settling for women that have a past? With the exception of an abused woman (sexually not mentally) or a widow. This letter is referencing marriage, not dating.

[@LatimusChadimus]

12:19 a lot of that comes from a book being a humongous best seller for decades, Why Men Like Bad B-ches or whatever it's called. It's not true. Men want pleasant agreeable women as they get enough ugly from working out in the real world

[@emiliendavis9563]

Jeremy Fragrance, awesome fragrance advice, abysmal moments sometimes. Lol.

[@bobbyleague2338]

I agree; he acts like a teenager sometimes.

[@Guy_LastName]

that's why im not on dating apps anymore- gonna do something crazy and approach people in public!

[@tastymouse]

"What is wrong with people?". That's the million dollar question.

[@scottjuenger2536]

I have a problem im stuck in a situation. Im marriage but we are separated cause we have issues in our marriage. I have been texting this 28 year old while im 43. I have been texting this woman i met on Facebook. She lives in Nigeria. I have seen videos of here and pics. I know im in the wrong but im not happy in my marriage and need help. I have fallen for this women in Nigeria. But im not happy in my marriage and i have 4 kids. What should i do.

[@bernthalbabe313]

If you’re not happy in your marriage then end it. You’re children don’t deserve to be in a disrupted household. There is a slim chance that woman wants to be in a committed relationship with you due to the age difference. You should really resolve your issues and talk to your wife like adults.

[@kshitizchopra6909]

I think love matters, not the age...

[@saltycringe4361]

Unless underage

[@dedeborya9015]

if they do not meet you with the same Energy, Attention & Time that you are giving - Go E.A.T. somewhere else. Nuke the contact. Block, Unfollow, Unfriend, Mute, Hide, Unsubscribe. meh. There is *NOTHING* special about her - there are 3.5 other Billion girls ready to ignore you as well.

[@jazzyjake99]

I disagree. If you first ask someone out that doesn’t want to go out with you, whatever. But sometimes things change and they can come back around. Why burn a bridge if you don’t have to?

[@DuarteAntunes1998]

Thanks for another good video Courtney

[@nattiemania]

Never listen to dating advice from women. Now I understand, even Courtney doesn't understand many things. She is a woman and her experience is different

[@Filthy_Larry]

Plus she just mad she approaching 50, I mean, 30 soon.

[@peterkottke2570]

30 year old guys who date high schoolers do it because of they like the control. The guy decides what they do and where they go and while he'll often treat the high schooler like a princess, he's the one in the driver's seat in the relationship. Some guys find equality in relationships to be a turn off. ( and yes it's very cringy )

[@juanshaftpatel7488]

no we do it cuz they are hot.. you keep the old used up ones

[@thecommenter9267]

Could be that but the more likely reason is because they are more attractive and tighter everywhere at that age. Simple as that.

[@Filthy_Larry]

@@juanshaftpatel7488 ok Juan. Forgive me for my other posts I replied to you in. You redeemed yourself.

[@owenjrable]

So refreshing to hear Courtney acknowledge the fact that men complaining, or simply just discussing their experiences leads to them getting roasted by society. Assigning honesty as a weakness to only one gender is not an accurate acknowledgement of mens personality flaws, but it is rather a societal flaw. Shame.

[@bkm79]

I have posted women’s profile photo’s on my Facebook account and I’ve rarely received a comment on them. We’re not afraid of being lambasted. We’re afraid of being labeled a misogynist. Since we know any negativity towards women can be a turn off for them. Also the cat is out of the bag, we know women check out our social media when they first take interest. So us men feel it’s best to forego any negative comments about women. The funny part is is I like to look at a woman’s social media when we first get matched just to get an an idea of what they’re about and any potential red flags. If message them through their social media after we’ve matched on dating site their like, “How did you find me?”. How did I find you?? It’s a public profile, how the hell do you think I found you? lol. I had one woman tell me I was basically stalking her. Most of the stuff I see women post is very hypocritical as us men have the same frustrations with women’s profiles. Women do it so much that I think us men just turn a blind eye to it. If I had a dollar for every time I came across a woman’s profile that only had photos of nature or their body parts (like their feet), I’d be able to take a nice vacation. On one woman’s profile photo she had her coat draped over her head to hide her face. The point of dating profiles is to try and sell yourself to a potential suitor. If you don’t have photos showing yourself, you’re just wasting everyone’s time.

[@BLynn]

Goodness that background noise when speeded up, kept making me think my daughter's phone was "ringing".

[@bobmorgan5636]

Good video and messages. Thank you.

[@evilspock4714]

Dan has money so he CAN act like that. Regular men don't have FU money so obviously they shouldn't.

[@LatimusChadimus]

He takes on debt. He doesn't have an income. He doesn't have FU money, he's eventually gonna go bankrupt and potentially end up in jail.

[@evilspock4714]

@@LatimusChadimus let me guess, you're one of those lames that watch coffezilla or people on KZbin that "expose" others. I hate to break it to you, all wealthy people takes on debt.

[@bornhazzardous]

I lover your perspective. I wish you could get on a podcast with "Rational male" Rollo. The two of you would be an interesting duo.

[@brandonmcfarland5200]

I'm 28 & I Don't Want To Date A 14 Year Old Woman Which Doesn't Make Any Sense! A Grown Man Can Never Date A 14 Year Old Woman & That's Not A Real Date & That's A Bad Excuse.

[@Heisabigboy]

I think most reasonable People would agree with Courtney when it comes to grown men dating High School girls and the fact that it has been normalized in our culture in some ways is even more disturbing

[@adammonks591]

Not here in the UK. We leave school at 16 so anyone attempting to date below that age is usually prosecuted.

[@Heisabigboy]

@@adammonks591 yeah of course it’s mostly frowned upon but normalized in the sense that how Common we hear about situations like that

[@thrilla72]

@@adammonks591 High school is 16+ so they would not be prosecuted.

[@thrilla72]

@@Heisabigboy If you look throughout history it is very normal. 100 years ago, waiting until late 20s to get married and have children was late.

[@Heisabigboy]

@@thrilla72 in a lot of cases but has since been frowned upon

[@PRdude]

The thing about men past high school looking for girls in high school is one instance where "age is nothing but a number" doesn't fly. Got that, R. Kelly?

[@thrilla72]

R. Kelly was doing something a lot different.

[@ryant7951]

@@thrilla72 lmao

[@michaelchambers7691]

I have difficulty with talking to my wife properly too. It also goes the other way, women don't talk to men properly. Like what my mother-in-law says to both me and my wife, just keep our mouths shut. Attraction comes a lot of times when we say nothing. Our own mouths get us into a lot of problems.

[@Chris-ne5sf]

Re: 30 yr old guys dating 17 year old girls. I'm a high school teacher and I don't see it either. Sure, they may look cute, but they're still kids--their mental/emotional maturity level isn't there yet. That 30/17 spread would be gross in the power imbalance and also the two of them wouldn't be able to connect intellectually/emotionally. It'd be a very shallow relationship.

[@katherinekelly6432]

The duality of the universe cannot be ignored but human beings exist on a spectrum. Feminine men and masculine women have existed for a very long time, and they often find each other to form relationships. A feminine woman needs to avoid a feminine man for a partner just has a masculine man needs to avoid a masculine woman for a partner. This just creates conflict and eventually apathy. Know yourself and your natural energy. There is a difference between attraction and lust. Lust burns hot but it also burns out, where attraction endures. A masculine man will lust for a masculine woman because he is attracted to that part of her that is within himself just as she will for him. This would be fine if the relationship remained only sexual but becomes problematic when it tries to be more than that. This is also true for a feminine woman that has a sexual relationship with a feminine man. He will be a delicate considerate lover but lack that energy that will deeply excite and satisfy her and inevitably she will leave him for a masculine man or suffer the consequences. Never violate your natural energy. We are born predisposed with these energies, and they strongly influence our sexual energy. The feminine man and masculine woman is evolutions answer to creating complexity so human beings become more than just instinctual creatures.

[@nicolasrodriguez3499]

Best positive solution: STAY SIGNGLE!

[@Sarge51BG]

Dan Bilzerian gives not only men a bad name, but humanity in general.

[@PRdude]

I used to think a woman asking a man out was a testament to how much the guy impresses her. I had a woman once tell me she thinks we'd make a good couple, but unfortunately she wasn't my type.

[@adammonks591]

I think it is a testament to be fair.

[@sgs8747]

I am 27, so I agree going after high schoolers is a no-go. Having said that, past that age, I wouldn’t think a guy dating a younger woman is a loser(ex. 32 year old guy and 23 year old woman.) Quite the opposite, that lets me know the guy probably takes care of his looks, has his fitness down, some sort of career success (men get judged HARSHLY on our finances past 25.) and charisma. He must have something going on if he could outcompete other guys in their 20s, which are the prime years physically for men. Bad analogy, but I think of cases where older players like Brady in their late 30s, early 40s outcompete guys in prime years.

[@tdscoop]

It usually only works if the man looks young for his age or the woman is ugly.

[@Lonstermash]

On dating sites, many women have messaged me first. Sometimes even I'm my Instagram and FB accounts. On dating sites, they're cute/attractive to actually hot about half the time. On social media, though, maybe 1%, lol. Yes, the majority of the time, I've had to initiate the messaging on a dating site or social media, but it definitely has happened, and I'm not a celebrity