Why Your Avoidant Partner Gives Up

[@roxb74]

Success story here. 🙋‍♀ I saw my ex. after 2 years of no contact. I have been working on myself, with your courses and therapy. Once I saw him, I felt nothing. We talked but I was shocked that my feelings were gone. With the course , I knew he was not a good match for me and that chapter is closed. Thank you for everything you do, Coach. I kept my story short here. keep up the good work coach.

[@mango.adventures]

Thank you for sharing this! I applaud you for doing the work to heal yourself and move on!💛

[@skoopiecheckecheaks]

As an extreme avoidant myself, I just want to say, that it is childish and immature to blame everybody but yourself. This behavior is unacceptable no matter who you are. I agree with coach here, that this guy is living in his own delusional bubble.

[@DonaldMeyers-v8c]

Sarcastic Craig is my favorite Craig. You can tell he did stand-up

[@EthelHill-h9d]

Amazing Video, I just cant believe my husband left me after 18 years, he just left me.he doesnt even want to talk to me anymore. Ive tried everything possible to get him back, but nothing seems to work and I cant stop thinking about him Im frustrated I dont see my life with anyone else. Ive done my best to get rid of the thoughts of him, but I cant I dont know why I’m saying this here, I really miss him and just cant stop thinking about him

[@BenitaWoolley]

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[@EthelHill-h9d]

Really? A spiritual adviser, that sounds interesting. What did you do? How can I get in contact with him?

[@BenitaWoolley]

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[@BenitaWoolley]

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[@EthelHill-h9d]

Thank you so much! I just searched his name, and I found him, the reviews look amazing, and I m feeling hopeful now. I really believe I can get him back. I’m so happy to have found this.

[@robbiewdrumm]

Yep… “differences!” No counseling, low self esteem, my fault, etc etc. That was/is my ex wife of a year and a half. I’m in no contact for a few months now and doing well.

[@capet5593]

Yep. He said it’s not working. He said has too much risk, is scared, what ifs…said we see things differently. Exactly as coach Craig is saying here.

[@KingRagnar-asad]

Coach Greg your videos and energy are amazing! I broke up with my DA ex 7 weeks ago (dated 5 months but we were an official couple only for 2 weeks). She took full responsibility of her actions, said she lost attraction and can't do the relationship rn but left the door open for a future return! She's been radio silent since (probably monkey). Been in NC since the break up and was thinking of reaching out next week as some DA coaches reckon you can reach out to a DA after 2 months as they're afraid of rejection and prefer of moving on rather than reaching out. After this video I won't and thanks to all 3 of you for this amazing content and support! God bless you 🙏🏻

[@justinemail7863]

My ex said we were too different. I then had a flashback of when she broke up with her ex before me, she said they were at different places in the their lives. Around our break up she thought we were moving too fast (almost 2 years) I then found out that she ACTUALLY broke up with her ex because they were moving too fast... they were together for 4 years. The saga continues...

[@camillebelair9812]

@@justinemail7863lol i brought up couples therapy to my ex right after we broke up and she said that’s a ridiculous idea since we “only dated for a year”

[@lmfao932]

That is so funny isn't it? I thought so much about how my ex pulled the same break up reasons at her exes and I got the chance to be on that list too 😂

[@ShawnG-kv2xm]

This was very informative and insightful. Thanks Craig for sharing. The email coaching is very immersive for us listeners who watch your channel. I’ve encountered this type of avoidant personality style before with someone who I’ve had to be in no contact with for almost 13 years. It was the only way to dodge the bullet. I’m thankful for not having broken it. Obviously this person never came back which was rather telling. No matter. The repair was far beyond gone and enough of the blame shifting and differences story were already laid out like a clean set of sheets after our initial breakup. The path of moving on was oh so obvious. Just a bit of personal reflection as this particular segment triggered some past experiences and memories. Thought I’d share a different perspective on how I handled it.

[@ericacatherineleins4559]

I love the way coach Greg analyses relationships with a little humor.You can’t pull a fast one on this coach! Great clip!

[@pdubs1408]

Dont know if this is an avoidant saying, but i heard "i have to work on myself because around you its always cloud 9" while being thrown away.

[@DeeDee-ky5vy]

I love it when craig gives that reaction face, craig knows whats about to happen :Ddd

[@dmitryisaev5955]

This story was a brutal experience. This guy is really something. My avoidant ex ditched me when I reached out to her after she broke up with me. I was clueless about no contact and attachment styles and did it my way for 3 months, not reaching out and ignoring breadcrumbs like her asking somebody to call me to nudge me to reach out first. We celebrated X-mas separately that year. Then I reached out and dog and pony show started. She avoided romantic dates, didn’t initiate anything and finally cancelled our upcoming date. And then sent me a short video from a concert, making it look that somebody invited her. Then I noticed that it was „resent“, so she just sent me someone‘s video to make me jealous and hurt… So, I stopped contacting and have been in no contact for 1,7 years. I am pretty sure that the show is over… When they start doing their show it is hurtful unless you are strong and secure…

[@CJ-ku1hw]

Blame game and smear campaign

[@rubenrodriguez3013]

My ex told me that "we have different values" and that there's going to be a "divergence" in our future."

[@ClaytonColey-z5i]

Odds are that he didn’t really find someone. He’s trying to make her jealous.

[@debralavorata546]

What a great and needed video!! Mine is a super avoidant.His mom just recently passed,and he told me he was just getting to know his mom for the last eight years because he was in foster care for years.He has five siblings,but I don't know if he was the only one in the system,but I have a feeling he was,but he won't open up about it or other things.Currently I asked him what he's going to for his birthday and what he'd like as a gift,got no answer....0. He's totally incognito,I don't know what to do

[@mariannadermarkarian4884]

Yep heard we’re not so compatible, after 2 years of seeming near perfect compatibility minus some blips, of course right after the anniversary mark and as the next steps got brought up towards the marriage we’d talked about.

[@KingRagnar-asad]

Coach Craig your videos and energy are amazing! I broke up with my DA ex 7 weeks ago (dated 5 months but we were an official couple only for 2 weeks). She took full responsibility of her actions, said she lost attraction and can't do the relationship rn but left the door open for a future return! She's been radio silent since (probably monkey branching ). I'm inclined on giving her a 2nd chance but she has to show me she's worked on herself like I am currently doing. Been in NC since the break up and was thinking of reaching out next week as some DA coaches reckon you can reach out to a DA after 2 months as they're afraid of rejection and prefer of moving on rather than reaching out. After this video I won't and thanks to all 3 of you for this amazing content and support! God bless you 🙏🏻

[@chickenpop1666]

he is craig, not greg btw :)

[@CecilScaleModels]

Friends with your ex? Once a cucumber is a pickle, it can’t be a cucumber again.

[@HeinrichAbrahams-wx7lt]

Avoidants never take accountability they always blame the partner for everything

[@chainz7006]

if u did nothing bad for them to breakup with u and it was just them not feeling it dont reach out to them give them ur absence

[@alyssapeterson2004]

My socially awkward self during an avoidant break up: Him: "It's not you, it's me. You deserve better." Me: "Yes, I agree... It (very) much is you."

[@lak1294]

OMG, this is severe and blatant Avoidant behaviour. Doesn't reflect well on the Avoidant. After watching countless YT videos about avoidance, emotional unavailability, and dismissive behaviour (and having recently experienced an Avoidant encounter), I'm starting to formulate comprehensive strategies for dealing with Avoidants I may encounter in future. Let's face it: Avoidant individuals are distressingly fairly common, even at older ages. Maybe even MORE prevalent in more mature individuals, since people in later life usually have past relationships and "baggage." Much of that baggage may be the result of an insecure attachment style (Avoidant or Anxious), and it is highly active baggage when this individual is unaware of their own issues.

[@CJ-ku1hw]

Confusing and Breadcruming you

[@CJ-ku1hw]

Avoidant in my left me broken

[@ShawnG-kv2xm]

I’m sorry to hear. I know it must be difficult and hard. Feeling broken is never a good thing. Take control and remain in no contact, focusing on your self. It will make you feel stronger. Craig’s advice of remaining in no contact truly is effective in helping you help yourself.

[@fluffythebluepersian4888]

I'm FA and my DA just came back a few days ago after 6 weeks no contact. first he started orbiting on social media then he reached out and asked to meet, albeit in a passive way

[@michele7215]

My ex is avoidant, we were together for 6 yrs. He blamed me (& every other woman) for all the problems in the relationship. It's been over a year now. I have dated a little but have been focusing on myself and self-growth, while him on the other hand has gone through a new "relationship" every 3-4 months 🤦‍♀️.

[@capet5593]

Exactly what happened. When I booked couples therapy, he broke off the relationship.

[@CJ-ku1hw]

Stay strong

[@seancollister8263]

Been together 12 years good and bad had a heated call and she put phone down got blocked on all sent letters no reply to a think eventually seen her hit on ok kissed by said she would tx nothing bumped into her again didn’t want to talk about call asked if that was it for us she said yes left it sent letters but nothing was told new man on scene looks like it’s over any help thanks

[@gregorystinette8271]

Epic content

[@Chrissychris2408]

My ex’s grandma just passed away. I am very confused if I should reach out with condolences or not. We broke up a year ago and have been in no contact since.

[@capet5593]

He said therapy doesn’t help. I am responsible for his reactions.

[@michaelod324]

My ex is an avoidant and is in a phase where she is completely icing me out, she also jumped into a rebound relationship as well a few days after our break up. I’ve been in no contact for almost 2 weeks, refusing to give me my stuff back, should I break nc to pick up my things, or just continue to give it time?

[@danielheit9487]

I would like to start the creative healing course.. how do I apply for the course??

[@CoachCraigKenneth]

On my website AskCraig.net

[@capet5593]

Tells me his previous relationships only last 2.5 months.

[@coltonw7483]

Hey coach, I've been doing NC with my ex. However, during our relationship I coached her son during T-ball. Would it be okay to go to his games, while still maintaining no contact with my ex?

[@marksilverwood5136]

Exactly what my ex avoidant is doing with me 😂

[@ShawnG-kv2xm]

Stay in no contact my friend. It is truly remarkable how the art of remaining silent is the beginning of self healing.

[@risaplays4273]

Hi couch Craig and Victoria I love your content and I had a question .so I went into no contact and my ex reached out two months later and I thought things were good she was like her old self like when we were dating.i found out she’s had a new bf and I told her I couldn’t be friends with her that I still have feelings for her and didn’t want to interfere with her new relationship and went back into no contact.did I do the right thing?

[@ashkanmahmood3539]

hi my ex comes back after 2mounth i was in no contact she came back and she was so missing me and it seems like she was regret the break up with me and in 2 days ego when she come back she act like a angel for me i wasnt beilieve that she is the same girl but now she is distand and text me 3 hour once and iam so cunfusing i ask her why u do that she said iam in office i have no time ,, now what i have to do plz answer😢

[@MarioEstrada-o2z]

Hey. Short time viewer of your channel. I have an avoidant ex and we share a child together. Any advice for us fathers to not break no contact? I find it hard to not ask questions because I'm very concerned about our child so I do ask questions from time to time. But I never get too personal about myself. Besides this one time. Had no one to talk to and my ex knows I have been previously depressed and anxious. That one time I broke no contact to talk about a serious threat that has been said to me. I was very proud of myself for handling it well. I even thanked her for her time. Lately the mother of my child has moments of being mean or cold towards me. She won't even share pictures of our child anymore but before she did.

[@ge0rgialiv]

question for anyone my avoidant ex shares thinks that’s the opposite mindset or opinion of what she was when we was together anyone got a reason why this might happen? She’s got someone else I hope she doesn’t change her opinion and life style to who she’s dating..

[@Zemohc]

Ok. But what if it wasn't your fault? What's there to admit?

[@jenniferstiles6353]

I cannot wrap my head around why you people keep wasting years and years on these avoidants. Don’t you want a healthy loving relationship?? Don’t you think you deserve healthy and someone that truly wants to build with you?? These avoidants must inflict so much abuse and trauma on you that you become paralyzed and trapped from healing and moving on. It’s all I can come up with. Iv watched my friend go through this for 7 years!! 7 years!!!! At this point I don’t know who needs help more….the avoidant or my friend!