My Ex Is Confusing Me (But Don't Want To Make Mistakes!)

[@EthelHill-h9d]

Great video! My five year relationship came to an end a month ago. The love of my life chose to leave, and I can't stop thinking about him; I love him so deeply. I've done everything I can to win him back, but nothing seems to work. I'm feeling frustrated and can't imagine my life with anyone else. Despite my efforts to move on, I just can't shake the thoughts of him. I don’t know why I’m sharing this, but I really miss him.

[@BenitaWoolley]

It's tough to let go of someone you care about. I can relate, my 12year relationship also ended, and I struggled to move on. I tried everything to get him back, even seeking help from a spiritual counselor who ultimately helped me reconnect with him.

[@EthelHill-h9d]

That's incredible! How did you find a spiritual counselor, and how can I contact one?

[@BenitaWoolley]

His name is Owen Abiola, and he’s an amazing spiritual counselor who specializes in bringing back lost loves.

[@BenitaWoolley]

Owen Abiola has incredible powers, and he can assist you.

[@EthelHill-h9d]

Thank you for sharing this valuable information! I just looked him up online, and I'm impressed.

[@18iveyje]

Love the ongoing dark psychology meme

[@veronikasizova]

A very helpful video! Lesbian breakups can be *extremely* dramatic… I’m honestly surprised this one has somewhat turned around.

[@hhcoach]

Good morning Craig and Victoria

[@Cornelius1212]

7 months since the breakup. Have completely lost hope. Dont think I'll ever hear from her again. Heartbroken.

[@CoachCraigKenneth]

And is you belief keeping you from doing the work every day? How prepared will you be if they do???

[@Cornelius1212]

@@CoachCraigKenneth Had a deep depression and lingering feelings for a previous ex. I've since resorted those feelings, taking medicine for the depression, working out and are going to a therapist every two weeks. I'm mostly secure btw. So secure people can get destroyed by a breakup as well.

[@ephi5333]

Craigs face at 12:59 😂

[@Dad_Brad]

In this case,..it’s not exactly a “peanut” allergy. 😂

[@nateeschbach2881]

Victoria, this is the second time I have heard you say “L,G….” Something. You say it so fast though. Could you explain what you’re spelling, or what it is supposed to stand for? Thanks!

[@leiaflure7644]

LGBTQIA - lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, intersex, asexual

[@nateeschbach2881]

@ What…TF? I really don’t want to know where you just came up with this. But thank you.

[@carlfreiermuth5424]

you won't be allergic to my peanuts 😶‍🌫️🤣

[@ge0rgialiv]

Does, breadcrumbing come into confused actions? My ex shared a post about an avoident vs anxious how to how conflict, she never gave me closure and she’s dating someone else I think the post is about us it might not be but some of the things she shares I wonder if they’re about our relationship she shared something about self sabotage

[@carlfreiermuth5424]

it sounds like your ex is doing the work, that's great. you might want to look into doing the same. The rising tide raises all the boats.

[@ge0rgialiv]

@ yeah I have I’ve been working on me? I don’t think sharing one or two posts is exactly doing the work? I hope she’s doing more I’ve been researching and set boundaries with people and understanding her attachment style and mine

[@christopherbullens5494]

I. Currently. Need to work. Directly with my ex. She. Got married. Yet. Has not told me. Yet. But. Wants to. Talk to me. Yet she Keven hides her hand so I don’t see the ring Anyone have advice on what to do

[@baskin283]

My separated spouse who’s DA was moving towards me after strategic no contact then moving backwards so like hot and cold. Asking me how was work? How I’m doing? Now it’s been a while since he asked and of the above questions why?😩

[@carlfreiermuth5424]

why? because no contact is not a manipulation tactic, you might want to try looking into doing the work. if you don't work on yourself, then good on your partner for realizing that you are still at the same game.

[@MadMaxMan2008]

We had a small fight??? Over me saying things that she considered criticism. I don’t know why but I went straight to no contact. I guess protest behavior?? I tried to reach out 8 days later but was phone blocked. I have had no contact now for 6 months. Who broke up with who???? What should I do??? My partner is a hard core DA. We were together 9 months. Things were getting serious.

[@carlfreiermuth5424]

so you criticized her and then you blocked her as a punishment thinking that you could manipulate the situation and how did that go? she said hell no to that routine. I know that most people will just be stubborn and keep making the same mistakes until they have no more time left but you might want to possibly look into the idea of just maybe doing the work, you think? go for the first workbook if you actually give a damn, or just keep on keeping on, good luck with that.

[@MadMaxMan2008]

@ well you could put it your way. My DA was doing the slow fade out already. The the hyper anti criticism was the next move for her. I only said she had lettuce in her teeth and needed to clean it out. The next one was I said you have a nasty bump on your head after she hit it on the counter OK so if that’s the bad criticism, I was saying then I guess I’m guilty. I was wondering if I had done protest behavior. I saw it as given her a few days to cool off avoidance always need some time.

[@Gokburu95]

​@@MadMaxMan2008 Sounds like she wanted a reason to leave anyway. Better to leave on your terms than hers. Best to just move on if they're not interested, can't force anyone into loving you

[@MadMaxMan2008]

@ thanks man. I’m not a bad evil guy. I just kind of knew it was ending. I thought we would always be good friends. I was not manipulating her with the no contact. I just felt I should go dark. So I guess I broke up. Hell she might be doing no contact on me!!! Hahaha

[@michaelod324]

Anyone have any advice on how to get your things back, when your avoidant goes completely cold and silent? Should I break no contact to get my things? Or also remain silent until they change?

[@carlfreiermuth5424]

Tell them to cut the BS and give them your belongings back. Don't try to pander to them, stand up for what is yours. respect yourself..

[@AltawanHawkins]

Can you do a video on no contact with your babymother

[@carlfreiermuth5424]

if you had 20 babies with her, do you think that that's a reason for her to put up with the same treatment over and over and over and over again? or perhaps you might want to look into doing the work. go for the first workbook, start somewhere

[@jonathanbuyck2031]

Glenn lol.. I got it...