Crossdressing relationship with wife

[@AL-vm2if]

This is almost identical to how I feel, I've only reacently told my wife of 22 years that I crosddress. And these videos have really helped me. Showing her them has helped her see how incorrect the main stream view on crossdressers is, in regards to heterosexual men. Really hard work ahead, but hopefully we can get to where you and your wife are. 🤗👗

[@trollwhisperer1770]

I'm really glad your channel was recommended. Me and my wife's situation is the same. We shop together, do each other's make up, she watches and helps with drag shows I'm in, we have girls night once a month, and she genuinely enjoys me femme, but it's not sexual, at all, just friends. Doing drag also helps, she says seeing my femme as a character helped her accept it and keep the two separate in her own head since she is the one closest to both sides that make up me, and w/o being able to separate the two mentally, she doesn't think she could handle it emotionally, but I was already doing drag when we met so it's not like it was a surprise, the surprise was that the show is an excuse, not the reason for dressing. She still can't stand it when I use the wrong voice and gets visibly irritated if I spoil the illusion, but that makes her a great gauge of passability for private time. If she isn't annoyed, I'm passable because she has accepted the character change and she can tell better than anyone which headspace I'm in and that matters more than the appearance because your headspace will be how you carry yourself in all the small subconscious details, in my experience.

[@VictorianMaid99]

I am not "drag" however my wife did teach me to do my own make-up. We also enjoy shopping for women's clothing together too !

[@davidcox1508]

OMG...!!! EXACTLY...! I don't WANT to be a female for my GF. At least, not in bed... My crossdressing HAS allowed us to become closer. From little things like shopping and learning our likes and dislikes, to a very BIG thing for HER - she's told me that I actually LISTEN to her. That I try to understand and FEEL what she may be going through. The BIG thing for ME is that I WANT to understand her. I want to feel what she's feeling. It's important to me. Like you, Paola, my gf and I have also 'experimented'. As a fantasy goes, it was 'nice', but it felt like we were acting, you know? More roleplaying than the REAL feelings that we have for each other. Thank for this channel, darlin' girl...! Thank you for sharing with us! You're brave, beautiful, and very sweet!

[@chermaedubonnei3992]

Being as honest with yourself & your wife is what makes your relationship work...together...knowing & understanding her feelings first..is why you look as beautiful as you feel...bravo to you...!! ...you dress very well..really cute style...wish we were sister-friends..continued happiness in your togetherness relationship.!!

[@cecysaenz3384]

Let me the first to say Woooow!! You look so cute. I love all your vids.

[@gailjones6273]

At least you were both able to discuss it together and make a decision between yourselves, so that is the main thing! So many couples can't broach the subject together and that is were it is sad. You look absolutely beautiful today Paola, must be the best I've seen you yet! Your hair and make-up are spot on.

[@PaulBasso]

Paola, this pink outfit looks very glamorous on you. And the wig really set it off. I wish more women would try to dress like you and other CD's and TG's. A lot of women nowadays dress for comfort and not very feminine. I am very happy that your wife and you have such a wonderful relationship. May your lives always be in harmony with each other and your relationship grow stronger. Bless you.

[@johnheckles8239]

Well.. You really are an absolute inspiration.. I wish I looked half as good as yourself dressed up and I wish I had a partner who was so understanding and shared this side of my life with me..

[@peterrhoades4568]

Hi Paola, like you I am blessed with having a wonderful understanding wife who has no problem with my crossdressing and the female side of me and is happy to go out with me dressed as Sarah for which I am really grateful for her understanding. You are a real inspiration and your videos are a great help for which I thank you. You look absolutely stunning as always, stay safe.

[@cindylonglegs]

In my eyes , that makes you a normal crossdresser , happy with both sides of yourself , it is lovely that you wife sees you as a friend & is comfortable with your femme side , x

[@lisac4383]

It's always interesting to push the borders of relationship . Boundaries can be good for relationship. I'm happy for both of you !

[@smcsmc4209]

It is super hard to have a relationship with a woman when guys dress. I think its great that you and your wife are able to. Do you get hit on when you go out in public and have you ever been with a man before.

[@juanangeldiaz5342]

@@girltimewithpaola9251 Hola hermosa como estás

[@patrickmcgee8556]

i had a girlffriend that actually got off on me being all girlied up....she would doll me up and ravish me...it was great

[@Wallflower6996]

Lucky

[@concrete681]

Sounds great

[@098chance]

Very fortunate. My girlfriend laughed.

[@AA-sq5fh]

Does she any similar like minded girl friends?

[@thegreyabyss7831]

I only knew one girl over my life that was a similar free spirit...

[@thomascwhitchurch2515]

That’s cool u 2 have so much respect for each other & have fun. I wish u both many years of happiness and joy with great memories.

[@gennyelise4770]

I had shared with my girlfriend two months ago that I cross dressed for awhile in my twenties and was thinking about probably taking it up again once I had moved in with her. She was open and accepting of it at first it appeared. We were even talking about doing girly things together; shopping, girls night out, etc... But as time when on she started to feel uncertain and doubtful. Then two weeks ago, she stunned me by saying she was leaving me. I feel part of that was because she could not accept me as being two people. I was hurt and sad :'( I won't be dating for awhile now, and maybe I won't tell my next girlfriend about my female side. She may not accept her either. Genny

[@voscross233]

I think you should be upfront with the next person you date. Everyone deserves to be with someone that loves and accepts all parts of them. If being a crossdresser is truly part of who you are you'll only make yourself miserable by trying to suppress that side of yourself. Maybe it's not something to bring up on the first date but I'd say you should tell your partner early on in the relationship so they know what they're getting into. If they are open and accepting of it, then you can be your true self. If they have issues with it then you haven't spent to much time on this relationship and you can move on to the next. I've had people close to myself rejecte this side of me before and it hurts, but finding someone that loves all of you is the best feeling in the world. Sorry if this sounds preachy, but I've been through similar situations and I dont think you should give up on being who you truly are.

[@miaespinoza80]

Well,that should help you find someone you know you can depend on to "trust"and grow.now that you know what you should be looking for,go out and find her....the need to dress up will never go away....it's not like smoking....you can't just quit.lol

[@chuckg2016]

I'm really glad you and your wife have grown so solidly together in your relationship. It's great the two of you had the courage to experiment with the different aspects, identify how each worked., and incorporate that into your relationship. You're far stronger and better connected than many conventional couples. Best regards!

[@conradcobden]

I think it’s so nice and decent of you to take the time to explain your situation with many and how it works for you and your wife and at least you seem to have a good understanding of each other godbless take care XHUGSX to all of you

[@conradcobden]

Xdressing with Paola can you Facebook friend me please or send me your link thank you x

[@UntaintedSKS]

You're so lucky to have a wife like yours who is so understanding and doesn't judge you and understand why you do it she understands that something you enjoy and it makes you happy and you're happy together

[@michaelvarble4392]

I told my wife on our first date and she was great with it. We would go out of town and shop for clothes for both of us and I would be partly dressed. I'd come home from work and find a new skirt dress panties tops tight jeans bras to wear after dinner and a shower I shaved my chest legs and stomach she was awesome. She passed away almost 4 years ago and it isn't the same but I still live being dressed pretty

[@donaldtill627]

I think your sharing time as girls, doing 'girlie' things like doing makeup and going out shopping, is more intimate than being "intimate". I don't know why you would want to bring this into the bedroom. In fact, I think it's better that you keep it out of the bedroom and out in the open! I think it's every CD's dream to have a gf or wife who is so accepting she kicks you out of the closet...so she can stuff more clothes in there for both of you to use!

[@EmmsReality]

❤️

[@joannrogers4770]

U R SO GORGEOUS!! And so lucky to have a supportive wife!! 👍❤️

[@basillee6051]

Well explained. You have a great wife that know your views and excepts you for you !

[@geraldblaskovich8676]

Gerald and Stephanie had a great way for me n my wife's happy knowing that she has a good feel about her own hubby that she is doing and show her what we've done so excited

[@rileyorlando5681]

YOU LOOK BEYOND AMAZING! SO HAPPY FOR U N UR WIFE! HUGS, RILEY

[@stacy-qm4qq]

My wife doesn't mind me dressing up as a woman when kids are at school and even tho I'm 50 year old she says I dress like a woman in her early 20s .....we have a great love life and she likes to take it to the bedroom sometimes where she almost gets to live out her lesbian fantasies

[@stacy-qm4qq]

@Travis Bickle no thanks ......I'm a one woman , woman

[@stacy-qm4qq]

@Travis Bickle not at all babe ......I know I'm lucky to have a wife who loves me dressing up like I do and I'm not gonna spoil that for anyone .......if I were single however .......may of been a different story it could of been very interesting 👅🍒🍒

[@stevenjones4990]

I loved the way you dressed in all pink. It actually made you look younger. It seemed that you indicated that you and your wife don't go out anymore. If so, if it's not to personal, why? I hope you never change. You are so beautiful, inside and out.

[@tony_S22]

I hope to marry a woman who can be as understanding as your wife. Keep that marriage going. You guy got a keeper!

[@norapage81]

I am also a crossdresser and my girlfriend knows about this. She saw pictures of me dressed as woman, but we agreed, I don't do this in front of her. Therefore we never tried to be intimate like that or going out shopping. But she accepts, that I wear heels at home.

[@dariusparks3954]

Damn. Ur gf accepts? She's a keeper than! I'm to scared to reveal to anyone,!

[@norapage81]

Well, I told this to many friends and honestly, they were quite supportive, which gave me the courage to tell this to my gf as well. I hope I told it to her.

[@jennycd6282]

Hi Paola... You look absolutely gorgeous girl! 😘 Great video, our stories seem very similar... My wife and I are like girlfriends when I'm dressed! 👭💋💋

[@loveforuindia]

U explained each and everything so graciously! 🥰🥰

[@johnnj3858]

Your makeup looked so beautiful.💚☘️💚

[@rons7555]

Paola, fabulous !!! 👍👍👍 looking better than ever !!!!

[@chrisoxford4026]

It gets no more Beautiful than this. Stunning, stunning, and more Stunning!

[@chrisoxford4026]

@@girltimewithpaola9251 Paola you deserve every kind words spoken to you.

[@kjsakuma]

As long as ya'll are happy but I'm glad she isn't uncomfortable with you expressing your girl side.

[@RGD-Audio-Repairs]

Absolutely love your hair and makeup in this video :)

[@RGD-Audio-Repairs]

@@girltimewithpaola9251 your very welcome :) wish i looked more fem :)

[@rolfschulte4747]

@@RGD-Audio-RepairsOh, you look and sound very girlygirl : don't worry ! And you are beautiful !....

[@tinamartini]

Gosh you are so gorgeous. I will have to trawl through your videos to see if you tell us about how you developed your female voice, it’s so authentic. Re your wife, I get it, I would also love to have intimacy with mine when I am Tina but while I have enormous freedom as Tina, she doesn’t want to see Tina, or even photos.

[@ProjectMercuryMarauder]

I know exactly how you feel! I was fully out and open with my ex-girlfriend of nearly four years we experimented like that at least a dozen times or so and I’ve got to say I almost felt less than capable in that department. Unfortunately she tried to over sexualize my time with her and my other self. As time progressed things got weirder and weirder to a point where I felt like not trying to share she time with her anymore and furthermore to a point where I didn’t even felt like going into “girl mode” (I’m quoting you) at all. I guess I’m just not a very sexually charged person like that, there’s better things to do soo🤷‍♂️. Have you ever tried to just be intimate only on a level of sleeping in the same bed together like yourself? Before we started having relationship issues I must say it was absolutely electric the time spent with her but not at all anything sexual. In the end we agreed to disagree and she says I’m the reason why we broke up. The story gets even better after we broke up she tried outing me to everyone I know! At least it wasn’t hard to deny it because everybody I know around me thinks she’s crazy I guess😳. P.s. I really want to hear more stories about you and your wife going out on the town and having good times together as best girlfriends! I understand that life gets really busy and in the way but what’s the point of life if you’re not enjoying yourself right? Have fun and I hope everyone in your family is staying healthy and safe! P.p.s. Keep up the awesome content!!! -Robert-

[@EmmsReality]

Do you think maybe your asexual to some degree?

[@gfalsken]

Love the intro as usual. Does the neighborhood know about you Paola? Glad you have a firm line with the wife. Seems to work! Love Gee

[@anonymoususer7671]

Wow. What an absolute beautiful woman! I need a girl like her!

[@whoviating]

Three comments: 1-The "not in the bedroom" separation makes perfect sense. You have created an alternate persona that is your female self. Parts of your male persona remain, such as being heterosexual. So even if your wife was lesbian (or bi) it wouldn't work. 2-I think you look great. A little too much eye make-up for me, but that's just me. 3-In addition to that, I really want to compliment you on your walk. That's an area where male crossdressers often fail; their walk just don't look natural. Yours does.

[@Jacdoc2002]

I would love to hear more about your outings with or without your wife. If you get attention while dressed, how did your wife respond? Have you ever been clubbing? How do you navigate the dance floor when dressed? There are a ton of questions about interacting with the outside world as Paola/Paige that I’m curious about.

[@keiranboyd4279]

I think you look amazing, if I didn't know about the cross dressing I'd think you was a woman x looking great be proud of who you are x

[@dragon.x.eye.77.77]

I'm sorry to hear that Paola..

[@vic40171]

Woww! Your makeup looks stunning!

[@JohnMulryan-zf6xi]

SUCH GORGEOUS EYES!!

[@basedkaren51]

You should record horizontal for these long shots. The screen is very small.

[@mikkibaker883]

I'm the same way. It's about gender, not sex.

[@perdedoronline]

Once again, your wife is a lucky open-minded woman 👌💯

[@Jack-vf8jk]

Absolutely stunning

[@Wickedchickizumi]

My name is Idumi 😊😊I’m Crossdresser too💕💕Really beautiful💕💕I was really impressed💕💕

[@laurabushey2667]

I'm looking forward to your video about wigs. Most of the wig websites have instructional videos that are primarily for women, so it'd be interesting to see if you have anything to add. I always wore my hair long, so I could style it ina a feminine hairstyle, until I started going bald. :)

[@njlauren]

A very intelligent video and thanks for sharing in a very classy way. It is very easy to say what is the difference, I am still me when dressed, so it should work in all contexts...and it may not. It is easy to say for example that a spouse is afraid enjoying sex w her partner dressed makes her a lesbian ( that might be true in some cases, given stigmas,), but it could also be it doesn't work. A lot/most of us are different when fully presenting ime/imo and that energy just may not work. Some spouses do enjoy their partners other self, some really love it, bit w lot won't too. And Paola thank you for saying it didn't work for you,context is important and it applies both ways. Speaking as a bi person,one who is comfortable with it, I never enjoyed my few experiences with men in male mode,I wasn't looking for that,it didn't feel right.Emotionally though when I had experiences with men or got into that headspace if examining my emotions,that worked sexually. Interestingly I can enjoy sex with a woman as Lauren, but I don't enjoy being the top, which I do when in male mode. That is just me and while I believe stigmas can dampen for example something people might otherwise enjoy, it is a complex world (I know one couple where the hubby went from CD to tg and transitioned, and the wife went from not being able to have sex when he dressed as a CD, to where when she transitioned (the former husband) found she liked it better after transition,a lot more). Anyway,a great video and thanks for sharing like this, it is important people know the complex emotions around this and how everyone's story is their own. I can tell you in my case that after the sharing like Paola talked about, in my case the sex between myself and my spouse with me in male mode was pretty good, when you can share something intimate like this with a spouse, it can lead to intimacy in another part:). I can tell you that if I had not reverted from transition our sex life would have been non existent.

[@PoppyB2011]

So Lovely. Just beautiful. Your wife blessed to have you.

[@alexisdeville3605]

You have the make up and attire down perfect as well as the poise in high heels!

[@mixalot66]

Wow Paola you're pure fire! Def what I aspire to be! Btw your tips and tricks are always very helpful to me ❤...I don't think I'll ever be able to come out to my wife though...

[@jojostar96]

I love Sam Edelmans! Their flats are most comfortable I’ve ever worn

[@thegreyabyss7831]

Thanks, that's very honest story, and actually it's similar take from me and my female partner. I won't sleep with my partner in full 'girl mode' , If I do wear girly PJ's or similar I share the bed but we don't 'interact', We just sleep, sharing our bed. The only time we do interact is when I'm in drab 'man' mode, which is not so often, but fine lol.

[@BR1967FE]

you look so amazing, makes sense, so glad she lets you still dress up & willing to go out & have fun with you, she sounds awesome, unfortunately wasn't my case, seems hard to find someone like that

[@Materva-hv6sz]

Interesting. I have a hard time getting it up if I dont crossdress

[@k.monikacanales]

I love your outfit ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@blendincoffee]

Absolutely FABULOUS!

[@marciaaverage6270]

Love you! Thanks for sharing this!

[@tobiasrevolution5142]

KZbin has deleted the word “Crossdressing” from their search terms for a weird reason. So let’s call It Xdressing instead :)

[@alainrheault6579]

Thanks you very much for this

[@Anattilydressedtransgirl]

You're adorable. Thank you so much for sharing on this serious topic. So glad I found your channel. xoxo

[@macsim9294]

Thank you for sharing your story

[@DizzyCrush]

Does this qualify as bi-gender? Anyone here identify as that? Paola is the queen!!!

[@thepon]

Love the eye make-up

[@davidmanners7843]

Always so Beautiful 🙏🏾💕

[@janiemiller9547]

You look so beautifully feminine and pretty ♥️❤️

[@derlinclaire1778]

Yes,you look really,really pretty,Paige.If I didn,t know that you were a man dressed up as a girl,then I would be tempted to kiss you,since you look so feminine,and pretty.

[@NightFlier1976]

You are an angel !

[@Auggies1956]

It's totally none of their business what you as a couple in the bedroom. Shame on those who asked.

[@Auggies1956]

@@girltimewithpaola9251 it's disrespectful to ask such private question. But it's your life that you want to share and I'm sure you know best.

[@subjim3825]

Do you think a wife should be dominant ?

[@sarahmccoy1941]

What a beautiful pink dress

[@Andi845]

Wishing you both all the best, and you look amazing and beautiful!!!!

[@hannahmich7342]

My spouse would prefer me as male but has come to accept and embrace me as a female spouse. Health issues have prevented me from doing more than to just dress but she has said that if I were to transition she would be there for me.

[@kerishannon775]

No matter what, you look great as a woman.

[@jessemarquez147]

If I may ask how do you know what hairstyle is good for yourself I’m having trouble picking out a wig for myself that goes well making me feem

[@sabinashades5651]

You are so beatiful!. Makeup is just perfect!😍

[@wetdress]

Mmmmm...where can I find a husband like you

[@njlauren]

Joann,there are a lot of wonderful CD's out there who would thank their lucky stars to find a spouse who is into this. Take it from me,if you are single and looking, you would have your pick.

[@donbargainhunter7472]

We are everywhere

[@willthatcher2073]

I’m a cd

[@ktransgirl]

we are out there

[@stacy-qm4qq]

@@girltimewithpaola9251 just wondering ......do you ever fantasize about sex with a guy from a woman's perspective while dressed up even tho your not gay ........I'm ashamed to admit that I sometimes do wonder what it would be like to be bent over and done while dressed and I know I am not gay

[@gpwil3847]

A lesbian desires a genetic woman. Conventional women are not ever going to be turned on or desire a trans or transgender partner when being intimate. They may accept you being who you are as long as you do not expect more. There are a few women who are able or do desire us if you have found one hold on to her! I need this and feel as if I am not getting what I desire if there is not equal time because I need to feel loved too. Someone told me Doms may be a place to consider I suppose because there is a range there. I only desire someone who loves me...equal time is all... no whips and chains for me. Yeah Personally I desire a female partner who is fully enthusiastically accepting and encouraging. Who will help me achieve my best potential as a woman...but who also enjoys having me around as that guy eases in when my mind shifts and leans in that direction...difficult to explain because all of who I am is always present in my head.

[@lynnmaclaury4981]

Great video

[@FemFashionSpirit]

Wow mind blowing , I am a crossdresser too ,

[@dariusparks3954]

Me too! Let's chat

[@cordezambrano736]

I got divorced too... so, show must go on!!...

[@teresafox544]

It's the same way with me and my wife, we go out together, eating, to a place to have a drink, but we don't have sex when I'm dressed as Teresa.

[@brickykev1]

You look absolutely gorgeous and I really love those shoes

[@dannydang2014]

Your eyes/eyelashes get more gorgeous with each video.

[@slowsuicide4580]

Really appreciate your honesty! 👏😷🌈

[@jordyn_love620]

I dont know if you have covered this. I suppose i need to look thru your videos somemore but your voice. What did you do to achieve your female voice. I need severe help achieving a feminine voice.

[@sabrinascott9302]

i love your makeup

[@coreyhendricks9490]

A stunning 😍 beautiful woman Paola nailed it.

[@alainrheault6579]

Your very gifted and lucky, my dear Paola Paige !!!😊😊😎 And very lovely person too 😘😘 You've got your style of girl 😉😉😉

[@alexisdeville3605]

Why do we see the videos I such a small format?

[@sheilalynn3615]

First, Paola you look lovely today. Impeccable makeup, you eyes are gorgeous. Second, dressing for me is about enjoying passing and becoming Sheila. Escaping the male part of me for a while, it isn't about sex. It's complicated but I think you may agree. Peace and love Sheila.

[@breawortman7962]

WOW! You look like a Disney princess! Do you trust each others opinions on fashion and Makeup?

[@breawortman7962]

@@girltimewithpaola9251 sounds like fun. I love lipstick. My boyfriend has a fetish for it.

[@jamesmeunier1270]

Very beautiful looking

[@mikkibaker883]

What??? You're not a lesbian??? Neither am I. When women wanted intimacy with Mikki I just wasn't able to get into it. Neither do I seek intimacy with men. When I'm Mikki it's just for me. It's a gender thing, not a sexual thing. I understand you completely.

[@foresttaniguchi3168]

Wowzers. In rare form today doll. ❤️

[@johnmeye]

I totally relate to this. It’s pretty simple: your wife is not a lesbian. Same in my marriage

[@LionsTigersBears]

Great incredible make up and outfits shoes

[@Yo-B-Solo]

You look great !

[@derlinclaire1778]

You look quite pretty made up as a girl.If I was out with you while you were dressed as a girl,and didn,t know that you were really a man,then I would be very,very tempted to kiss your pretty face.

[@Райка-ш9к]

@@derlinclaire1778 XD

[@AudreyAhmay]

Great entry into the Glamour Girl contest Paola-