What Does God Say About The Divorce Of A Narcissistic Spouse? | C.S Lewis Sermons

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🙏www.youtube.com/@CSLewis-Sermons?sub_confirmation=1 “But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.” (1 Corinthians 7:15)

[@WeatherOrNot-33]

Peace that passes all understanding🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@Selah1141]

He mentally and emotionally left me 26 years ago. 27-year marriage - legal only.

[@Josie-c6b]

I believe each word he is saying

[@iamhischosen3866]

@@CSLewis-Sermons Amen! You are free to marry again in such cases.

[@maricamaas2326]

​@@iamhischosen3866 Kindly provide Scripture to justify such advice?

[@debbylee6329]

Was married for 45 years to a very sick narcissist. Been divorced for 7 years as I couldn't take the abuse any longer. I am healing with God's help.

[@joancollins3355]

Wow, that's a very long time. God bless your next move.

[@Marianpowellmiddleton]

God knows our heart. I left a covert narcissistic husband of 23 years He cheated financially abused me mentally and emotionally abused me No contact for 3 years still healing God is real and revealed to me that love doesn’t hurt 1Corinthians13:4-8 God is real and he wants the best for us! Congratulations on your new journey with out the narcissist ❤May God continue to bless you

[@debbylee6329]

@Marianpowellmiddleton thank-you for your comment. I was also dealing with a covert. They pride themselves on how sneaky they can be. The hardest part was the financial betrayal. He took all the retirement funds that I made happen the prior 25 year.They don't think about how the money got there, they only know that they need to take it for themselves. At 66 years old, it's very difficult to rebuild it as I do not have another 25 years to do it. I still fight every day to have what I need as it's better than dealing with him. There is no price for peace and a sane mind.

[@Marianpowellmiddleton]

@ absolutely the peace of mind is above all else…Yes!! am at peace and can build again . I went back to college and was the the second oldest in my class 😂the next one was 72 years old we both earned our RN degree.Its never too late….God will supply all of our needs Philippians 4:19 Remember that you are blessed and highly favored

[@debbylee6329]

@@Marianpowellmiddleton congratulations on becoming an RN!!!!! I received my RN degree in 1989. I do have some medical issues but thinking seriously of going back to work part-time. I specialized in home IV therapy and hospital IV team. Wish I could contact you so you could get me caught up on all the new changes. God bless you and I hope you have a wonderful, great career.

[@jbrock3006]

I stayed off Google for years but had to sign in so that I can post this comment. Was in a 24 year marriage and out for 24 years since divorce. It was extremely difficult and painful while married. Wish I had access to a video like this even after the first 5 years because would have gotten out. Stayed that long because of family commitments and believing that in the sight of God marriage was until death based on the vows taken! I empathize with all who have shared their stories 🛐

[@rosanaraymundo2673]

I share the same sentiments as you, Sister. I hesitated to leave the father of my children because. I thought I will be helpless as the kids grew up. I was wrong. I could have had a better life with a more deserving man.

[@freshcatholic]

My husband and I separated for 3.5 years. We took the time to reflect, pray and surrender to God’s will. We have reunited and our marriage is better than ever now! ❤️🙏🏼❤️

[@Selah1141]

So very happy for you!

[@rhondatalkington9696]

@@freshcatholic that’s beautiful. My late husband died, 3 years into our separation.

[@nb_empire2933]

@@rhondatalkington9696bless your heart

[@nb_empire2933]

I am very happy for y’all and God be with y’all ❤

[@cslewislight]

That’s amazing! So happy for you❤

[@Bisquitengineer]

My pastor said it was ok to leave my narcissistic ex, he explained that breaking vows isn't just about infidelity it's any time a man doesn't uphold his wife and respect her, that's also breaking vows.

[@abclosius201]

True.

[@JubileeLifeCoach]

Thank You Lord!!!

[@iamhischosen3866]

Amen! Many need to read 1 Corinthians 7 with an understanding. GOD doesn’t make a covenant with Satan, so why would HE force HIS Children? Some unions are wicked and not joined by GOD in the first place.

[@sherischultz2506]

Thank you for sharing !! I needed to hear /see this!! May I ask who your pastor is or where you go to church ?

[@sharonwildes4765]

Amen

[@joannwilson1375]

Was married for 19 years to a narcissistic man. Praying, God gave me direction and made way for me to leave. It now has been 27 years. I haven't regretted leaving and praise God that I am used in God's work.

[@Joyce-hn2yd]

As long as you didn't remarry someone else..

[@iamhischosen3866]

⁠​⁠@@Joyce-hn2ydHave you ever thought that GOD didn’t unite the marriage in the first place? Gender doesn’t bond every marriage, until death do you part, just as same sex marriage doesn’t. Some marriages are wicked unions… and not, “What GOD has joined together….”. Pray before judging others situation, and Study to show thy self approved. GOD will never join HIS Children to devils nor will HE ever make a covenant with Satan, so why would HE make HIS children? Read 1 Corinthians 7 with an understanding. May you be blessed with the Word of Truth.

[@kathleenadelethompson3214]

What if one has no one or anywhere to go or family due to all the damage he’s done What to do ?

[@joannwilson1375]

@kathleenadelethompson3214 it took me several months. I prayed and God opened doors. I didn't have to involve anyone else. (thank you for reminding me of that) Being focused on God, He actually provided each step . I prayed continually for the Lord's guidance.

[@joannwilson1375]

It wasn't easy. But I wasn't afraid.

[@suchethamaddela3916]

Been married to a narcissist for 33 years. This message helped me see that it’s okay to separate from such a person. I am not bound by the covenant which is already broken by adultery, abuse of all kinds. Thank you.

[@janicequinn6101]

I was married to man who abused me mentally and physically. I would pray and read the Bible everyday for answers. God would always open the Bible to Job. I finally made the decision to leave, after being beat down by him. It took a long time to heal my heart❤! After i left Iife was so much better ! I would never have survived if it hadn' been for God.

[@AlurigoRavusiro-m9e]

I went through the sane sns also read Job. Slept with my Bible under my pillow. Just so scared and afraid for my life. I have forgiven him and moved on. Happier now and walking in Christ, my redeemer, peace and healer. HALLELUYAH!

[@djcheerification]

❤

[@AmandaWRU]

I know how you feel, I finally got out too, I've been a Christian for 50 years and tried for 30 years to stay in the marriage but I was utterly broken. I've had to forgive myself and the ex, God is helping me heal

[@johnturner3889]

Praying for answers is good if it’s a book that is teach you who you are but I might try learning who God is and I’m sure he teach you to love despite what the world does to you! Like Jesus! I don’t know what book or chapter or verse is a lesson to look for a reason to separate what God has brought together brought for a reader together! Maybe what you can do is find out why there are those who do not fear, because they know who they are…His! And if what He has made clean and brought to you in love isn’t what made you feel like you would make and choose better than yep I’d be looking for videos to assure me I made a good choice to redo Gods mistake and making post on a video is what I would do as well!

[@davidgranderson1986]

Thank you Heavenly Father for this message. I’ve been in a narcissistic marriage for over 27 years. Until 2 years earlier I had no idea this was happening. God is good and I wouldn’t change anything that’s occurred. I’ve learned so much during this journey. To anyone whose eyes are now opening, I pray that you seek the right help (professional or otherwise) and gain encouragement from positive people. My journey was rough and I can honestly tell you I’ve grown to not only forgive my partner but also myself. I wish you the best….Keep God first and trust what you’re seeing. Seek discernment!! Be blessed alway. I have my own Testimony!!

[@Selah1141]

27 years here as well. I live in a guest house, separated from him by walls. Separation has done NOTHING to heal the marriage. Nothing. God bless you. I will pray for you.

[@patriceysimmons3897]

Same here

[@GodsChildTM]

16 yrs here...Out now for 3 years. I would rather be alone than endure abuse and infidelity... God's got me❤

[@JubileeLifeCoach]

​@@GodsChildTMtime does not heal narcissistic abuse and C-PTSD. I'm a Christian Trauma Recovery Coach specializing in Narcissistic Abuse Recovery, Nervous System Regulation, Inner Child Healing, and Somatic Trauma Therapies. Please reach out for a free discovery call to see if we would be a good fit to work together either in a group or 1:1. Multiplied Grace and Peace to you! May the Lord deeply comfort you ❣️❣️❣️

[@JubileeLifeCoach]

​@@patriceysimmons3897time does not heal narcissistic abuse and C-PTSD. I'm a Christian Trauma Recovery Coach specializing in Narcissistic Abuse Recovery, Nervous System Regulation, Inner Child Healing, and Somatic Trauma Therapies. Please reach out for a free discovery call to see if we would be a good fit to work together either in a group or 1:1. Multiplied Grace and Peace to you! May the Lord deeply comfort you ❣️❣️❣️

[@Butterflyluv007]

I escaped from a 10 year marriage to a Malignant Narcissist with psychopathic tendencies. The Lord would never want his children to stay in a marriage that doesn’t reflect his divine plan. Since I escaped, the Lord has given me a factory reboot! Now I’m more equipped to do what God’s will is for believers! Witnessing is one of the most powerful tools of evangelism! How can you minister of the goodness of Jesus and represent His light when you are being abused? Impossible… I barely escaped with my life. But now I can breathe and spread my wings! To God be the glory!!!!

[@chantakchantal6065]

God pushed me to leave someone who ❤did not value me. This was 2 years ago? I went through internal turmoil for 2 years but got peace in the end. I am now with a wonderful partner and it feels so much better.❤❤ Thank you Lord🙏

[@Selah1141]

Very happy for you!

[@swissherbgirl2917]

What about marriage?

[@Selah1141]

@@swissherbgirl2917 really it’s none of your business, because we are required by Christ, not to judge one another.

[@swissherbgirl2917]

@@Selah1141 i know it is a provocative question. None of my business. I just find it interesting, that on this page people are looking for answers if they can leave their marriage. While others don't have that covenant. So in your case no one needs to give you permission to leave. And permission to stay with a man only God can give. Just saying. Not judging. But the Bible is clear i think

[@sincerelyme-777]

“I will never leave nor forsake you” what a profound and loving promise and Gods promises are truth! For anyone in the midst of the turmoil of betrayal, cling to the love and promises of our Heavenly Father who will see you through. I pray in Jesus name, Amen

[@TheUrszula40]

In separation now from an alcoholic and narcissist husband, I pray that I can forgive and that the Holly Spirit enters my husband heart and brings relief to his own pain. I feel that my husband’s own suffering is much deeper than the one he inflicted on me.

[@favorglover]

I felt that last sentence in my spirit. That is the same way I feel about my own husband. I am still with him, but I'm not sure how much longer. Please keep me in your prayers as I will keep you in mine.🙏🏾

[@rhondatalkington9696]

@@TheUrszula40 hugs to you; and prayers for you and husband.

[@WendyElliottMears]

​@favorglover Narcissists are usually handed over to their own sin. Prayers. You may not see it now but God is rescuing you.

[@jasminevillers154]

​@@favorgloverAmen 🙏

[@florentinakissoon-weekes5194]

God is my healer, and in Him I find strength.

[@angelawilliams1091]

God is my HEALER, and in Him, I find strength.

[@sarahwilliams203]

Spent 13 years in an abusive marriage with a narcissistic bipolar schizophrenic alcoholic cheater. Praise God I was able to have my eyes opened by his multiple actions of infidelity and get out with what was left of my life in 2015. I got remarried in Dec 2017 to a man who has Jesus as the Lord of his life and let me tell you ladies it is a night and day difference. If I would have known that there could be this much joy on the other side I would have trusted God sooner and left earlier believe me. Will be praying for those of you still in the valley as I know how hopeless it can feel, as I still had to face and deal with all the hurt, rejection, betrayal, and healing that comes with all that.

[@iamhischosen3866]

I’m happy that you allowed GOD to bless you with a “real” covenant marriage, and not allow others to deceive you with unscriptural opinions about remarriage. Christ died that we may have life more abundantly… I pray that you experience eternal happiness both you and your spouse in the LORD.

[@kathleenadelethompson3214]

The church doesn’t even listen And with all the damage and destruction no family no friends no church accountably and no where to go What then?

[@shalalala868]

@@kathleenadelethompson3214 true. my narc ex confessed to gruesome things and the pastor said he didn't believe him. Was abusive to not only me, unfortunately.

[@shalalala868]

@@iamhischosen3866 once he cheated, she was free to divorce and remarry. Many people say a lot of things until it's their turn, then they suddenly have a revelation.

[@shalalala868]

Lord! Did we marry the same guy?? He was so active in church and ministries too. Had everyone fooled. Threatened to unalive himself if I didn't marry him b/c he unmasked himself a few days before the wedding. I wish I had the courage to tell someone when he made that threat, but I was shocked and in disbelief. I also had never dated anyone with mental health issues, so didn't know it was a bluff.. That man turned my life upside down and made life a living hell, and I am still picking up the pieces, but thankfully I am still hopeful. Lots of predators in the church, unfortunately.

[@ptstacey1]

I kept my marriage covenant MANY YEARS longer than my husband did. It was NOT “cheating”, it was emotional, verbal, and financial abuse that extended into the relationship with our child. I was honestly so embarrassed to admit what was happening and afraid of the consequences of divorce that I didn’t speak out to anyone except for to my spouse, who *of course* just kept accusing me of being wrong in every scenario. I was quite surprised, when I finally asked her help, that many of my friends and family members had seen and suspected the abuse, YET never said anything about it to me!! IF YOU SEE SOMETHING, SAY SOMETHING!! Especially when children are involved. 25:45

[@mirjamhansen2626]

Oh, seems like you just descibed my story…! Was married 22 years with what I now know is a covert narcissist. He never showed responsability for his actions… I Think he was/is not able to see what his does to other people; neither our children or me…But I have never felt more authentic, happy and thankful than now- 4 years since I moved away from him. Though it has been a very tough “personal journay” the last 4 years (and before)

[@kathleenadelethompson3214]

No one listens or cares. When he tries to impress everyone else while not valuing me and betraying me and with all the destruction no more family no where to go

[@darialo8740]

So many people suffer in marriages.. I feel like marriage as institution was designed back in the day for survival or “adopting” of a female. Nowadays, so many women end up being used as convenience, pulling the weight and also end up suffering from narcissistic abuse by these men. I saw so m at red flags when dating him, but ignored them or brushed them off because it felt familiar, because I grew up with narcissistic parents. It’s a sad set up. I pray to God for guidance.

[@BeatriceLotter]

Thank you for this message. God allowed separation after I have been through a terrible situation, after been left in a caracan park without any provision, food, finance or a car in April 2022. In the "MEAN - TIME" GOD allowed me to grow in the knowledge of narcissism. I didn't know it at all. I was used for another part of my calling WHILE I'M WAITING. GOD gave me a WORD promise through what I called My "Jacob" experience. I'll Serve HIM WHILE I'M WAITING.. Blessings to you All 🙌

[@junemyres1435]

I appreciate this message so very much. I was abandoned by a narcissist and blocked 😮. He abandoned my family and I last Christmas 🎄 and I needed to hear this message ❤❤❤❤❤🎉 thank you lord for this word. I love ❤️ you lord and I forgive him 😊😊😊

[@Faithandfriends9]

God is my healer, I walked away from an abusive marriage if 17 years. God showed me that I was not in bondage to my marriage. I was in an unholy marriage.

[@demetriakabambe7513]

This i relate to

[@lyte4240]

Amen 🙏 This what I've been waiting for. Lord God bless. Guide & protect me for the Enemy is busy in my marriage. Lord I'm Your humble servant, Plea the blood of Jesus! Victory is mine says the lord.

[@Selah1141]

I have prayed for you.

[@mvs5784]

Praying for you

[@julieputzier7314]

Praying for you In Jesus Name🕊️

[@florentinakissoon-weekes6738]

God is my healer, and in Him I find strength. 🙏🙏🙏

[@cruzer1926]

God is my healer. I thank you ever so much for this video! I am still healing from a broken marriage with a narcissist. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!

[@debraharner8037]

Thank you Jesus for having this come up on the feed!! I needed to hear this. 32 yr old dysfunctional marriage, coming to and end. Kept in the marriage because of my faith.. covenant not contract. We both have our parts in this dissolve. I am looking forward to the spiritual growth this dissolve will bring. I was unable to be my true self with God and others due to this dark cloud of a dysfunctional marriage. Please, all, if you are seeking counseling for your marriage, make sure you research, research research. We were with MANY different Christian counselors, that did not enrich the marriage.Trust/Respect..so important. Those are so hard to rebuild. Thank you again

[@Claire5020GEN]

THIS IS TRUTH. JESUS NEVER FORCED ANYONE TO FOLLOW A RITUAL OR LAW THAT RESULTED IN HARMING A WOUNDED PERSON.

[@mxrc179]

Probably the best post in this entire stream!

[@djcheerification]

GOD IS MY STRENGTH! Without His promises I would be so lost and broken. I’m married to a man who has been taught by his earthly father to be a narcissist. I’ve been married for 30 yrs, I’m fleshly exhausted but I know through my faith I am a conquer through Christ Jesus, no weapon formed against me will prosper. I am loved by God and He will keep me safe all the days of my life!

[@MrJnprs]

Yess! Amen! God is My Healer and in Him I find strength!❤

[@BasseyAsuquo-n2y]

God is my healer and in Him I find strength in Jesus Name, Amen🙏

[@stevenmack4116]

God is my healer and in Him I find strength. Priase God now and forevermore.

[@susanconner6098]

God is my healer and in Him I find my strength. Wish this video was around 38 years ago when I was agonizing over my decision to leave. But happy to say listening to it now validates the decisions I made through prayer and seeking His word. We separated for a year but there was no reconciling, I chose to get clean and sober and he didn’t.

[@sharonproctor3085]

Not only did i suffer from my divorce from my narcissistic husband It took a heavy toll on my daughters. Sadly he felt no love for his family. He was very sick.

[@conniedavis207]

God is healing and in Him have strength and His peace.

[@AndrewvanNiekerk-t5d]

God is my Healer and in Him I find my strength

[@cynthiawilburn8032]

God is my help and my strength. My trust and hope is in Him.

[@rickmaria9546]

I know, now, what God said to me. STOP letting this man abuse you!!! Thank God we are now divorced.

[@sheilab7882]

I left the Catholic Church because of the treatment I received after leaving an abusive marriage. I could not take communion or participate fully in the church. I was “less than” for having divorced. I feel so much comfort from this sermon.

[@PrisonPlanet25]

It's a satanic cult anyways. You dodged a bullet. Acts 16:30-31 KJV 🌸

[@buildsbest]

@@sheilab7882 Sorry to hear you left for a time but its quite a common reaction to the 'old fashioned' idea of marriage. I stayed married because I had no one to talk to. I waz alienated from all support networks by my then husband. My ex asked for a divorce.(I was relieved, much to his dismay) He wanted me to crumble. At this time the nasty comments were less covert. He tricked and robbed me of my home, my relationship with my son,my home, my share of the pension. I wanted out so much, I allowed it. He's now killing my son by degrees, telling him that I was having an affair with the doctor and persauded him to diagnose my son with an underactive thyroid....Not true but thats a narcissist for you, they are highly manipulative and don't care a jot what harm they cause to their offspring or innocent doctirs. They are truly wicked. Please pray that one day I will be able to explain to my son that he really needs to take care of his health and get yet another diagnosis of his underactive thyroid. My ex has said he will fight me to the death. I was the innocent party. I think my ex is scared I will tell all his sins. My faith made me stay but my ex wouldn't let me go to church where I might have got help. I've returned now to be told I could have had a Catholic separation due to his abuse (mental health). There are some lovely good priests out there. God bless you all.🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻❤

[@patjohnson4920]

You can take communion after divorce as long as you don’t remarry.

[@DianneKirk-s8f]

God is my Jehovah Rapha, My Healer; and He gives me strength!

[@graceanne2941]

Blessings to all who have suffered. I was marriage to a man who 25 years ago. I divorced him . God took care of all of my needs . I pray for healing for my children,grandchildren and others that were affected .❤🙏

[@valeriejoyhenderson9953]

The emotional abuse was devastating plus he preferred the pursuit of money, over pursuit of God. Christ said you choose one or the other. I did leave after 23 years of being made to feel worthless. I stayed with God and have sought healing for myself and the children. It has been a rough journey for 35 years but God is good and me and my children have grown in Him who redeems and restores.

[@patjohnson4920]

Mine also pursued money along with power and notoriety. Too many voices in his head - Satan that led him down a deep spiral.

[@amyjo6629]

Wow. Just wow. Thank you for putting into words what my spirit knew but my mouth could not express. Confirmation that I made the right decision.

[@desrinecampbell3706]

God is my healer and in him. I find strength. Amennn

[@lizdaniela843]

It's now 3 months since i left but with 5 children with no support,the pain am going thru makes me think of going back.i need prayers 😢

[@JeannetteCasiano]

Hi there, I'm so sorry you're going through this. Do you have a church where you can ask for help? Do not be afraid to ask loved ones or church family for help so that you can take the needed steps to heal.

[@desacademydr.annaalkhub7241]

Take him to family court he needs to support his children

[@monicahocking1507]

Please don't go back. I left for 3 years then went back and the abuse is worse. I'm trying to leave again. I will pray for you ❤

[@KayZabel-r1u]

Thank you, Lord, for this devotional. It helped me to seek what I needed to do. I surrendered to trust my Father God. Amen,🙏

[@idalow56]

I have been divorced for 16 years, and I pray that God will bring me the one that God has chosen for me. Amen

[@sandyhenry3238]

Our Father, is helping me get out of mine

[@Selah1141]

I have prayed for you.

[@mvs5784]

Make sure is God, God like unity ask God to change his heart. Im dont want you to regret it like i do. Praying for you. I still love my ex. Husband and i thought God was helping me to leave him. Just because arguments learned the hard way. Blessing

[@mvs5784]

The only way to put your spouse away its if the other person cheat

[@donquixote...]

Sure it's not God letting you get away from His...

[@kathleencole80]

@@mvs5784 To put away your spouse "and marry another" is adultery - unless the spouse was unfaithful. (Matthew 19) Even then, it may be better to remain unmarried because statistics show that second marriages are not always an improvement.

[@kenyattawashington9928]

God is my healer and can do anything beyond what I can imagine and that is why I’m allowing his unfailing love for us and his will for our marriage to be of his will for restoration, reconciliation, or divorce. I trust that God knows what’s best for us and making provisions on our behalf in Jesus name Amen❤️🙏🏽🙌🏽

[@lesleyelalami2562]

Not forgetting financial abuse too. Stay with a narcissist and it WILL influence all children of that marriage negatively. You can't save the narcissist but you can save yourself and your children. Whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger.

[@susancrowther2268]

God is my healer, and in Him, I have found strength. 🙏🏽

[@nb_empire2933]

God is my healer is been hard and smooth with God . Currently breaking general curse stop attracting narc and trauma bandage it is been 29 years and 14 years married to one separate since 2020 pray pray he still choose no to repent so I silently surrender to God and this year I fill for divorce again it hurt so bad to know that I was to a unfaithful husband and fail marriage.. please don’t ignore the sign God give you in early relationship

[@Zooloo-c7t]

try making sense when u write

[@evera_]

TESTIMONY. Oh praise God for this godly discernement! I pray this would be taught in churches. Churches unfortunately too often enable abuse. I personally have been victim of all kinds of abuse in my life. Led me to want to die at the age of 6...many traumas...eventually leading me in a violent relationship, getting pregnant then trying to end my life in my early 20s, and all of this affected me with many physical ailments, up to this day. I also live with C-ptsd, eat**g disorder and social anxiety. A couple of years ago, God give me grace and opened my eyes to the truth, as painful as it was. I then went no contact with my mother who is a true, evil narcissist and I have been mourning her. My younger siblings and my dad (in his old days) are still victims of her... because, like it was the case for me, of lack of discernement, low emotional intelligence and trauma bond. My dad, a Christian, believes marriage to be sacred...to the point of never leaving my mother, even though she abused him for the past +40 years. When I had the strength I went no contact with my abusive brother in law... Eventually I knew I had to face my siblings...I have also gone no contact with my siblings who are very toxic...more than I ever thought after confronting them about our relationship. Both married narcissists, one divorced and is displaying lots of narcissistic traits herself, the other one is still married to her abusive and violent husband and I just couldn't be around them any longer it was too heavy for me, already being weakened on top of having tried to get her out so many times. My nieces and nephews, now young adults still living at home, are suffering from all of this as well. It breaks my heart. I still try to be there for them... Here is where God's faithfulness comes in for those who diligently seek Him. I now help thousands of women online with a Christian ministry. Although not fully healed, I am glad that God granted me His trust to take care of his daughters. I am glad to serve Him. He is healing me, day by day. I have forgiven all of my abusers- even those I didn't mention here. I am stronger than even and I love that my relationship with Jesus is now stronger than ever. I can say, like Job: "My ears had heard of you but now my eyes have seen you." My favorite Bible passages got me through a lot: Ezechiel 34, starting at verse 11. God bless you.

[@faithgreen9228]

God is my healer and in him I find strength

[@cleancarnivore]

I endured 40 years of narcissistic abuse/spirit of Jezebel and when the divorce, initiated by my unbelieving spouse, was nearing its completion I found great solace in 1 Corinthians 7:15 was released from my bondage.

[@deepikasingh1569]

God is my healer....I place my trust in you....

[@alicia9106Heisable]

GOD IS MY HEALER..and in HIM i find strength🙏

[@rogersthilaire8179]

Mercy upon my Soul thank you God for this message that I may walk again in you presence. Thank you for your healing ❤🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@mcostilla7603]

God is my healer who gives me strength 🙏🏽

[@RoyMech-m2o]

Thank you for sharing this insight. God’s grace is sufficient and you’ve dissected topic this well.

[@BeckyWatson-u9g]

Thank you for this sermon! Needed this reassurance!!

[@LeahKennedy-j3u]

God is my salvation here by his grace..I trust in his plan..

[@rosanaraymundo2673]

God is my healer and in Him I find strength. In Jesus' name, Amen.

[@KirstenLambert-nt8iy]

I wish this video was available back when I was getting divorced.My narcissistic mother had me so messed up in the head, I stayed with my narcissistic, abusive husband. I fially divorced

[@ptstacey1]

I kept my marriage covenant MANY YEARS longer than my husband did. It was NOT “cheating”, it was emotional, verbal, and financial abuse that extended into the relationship with our child. I was honestly so embarrassed to admit what was happening and afraid of the consequences of divorce that I didn’t speak out to anyone except for to my spouse, who *of course* just kept accusing me of being wrong in every scenario. I was quite surprised, when I finally asked her help, that many of my friends and family members had seen and suspected the abuse, YET never said anything about it to me!! IF YOU SEE SOMETHING, SAY SOMETHING!! Especially when children are involved.

[@deborab8985]

I will trust in God in all my ways.

[@Josie-c6b]

Pure truth, to God be the glory

[@jonelson6352]

Thank you for your video.

[@elizabethvaneck1088]

God is my healer

[@donquixote...]

Though thou slay me, yet will I serve thee... -Job

[@MarydellG]

Thank you Very Much for this video

[@marlenekelley8983]

Extremely well said. Excellent.

[@anne8220-o5c]

Narc was heavy into pornography. Divorced now. Living a life of peace. Dude was a full blown narcissist

[@balanced4harvest552]

This is very pertinent to me as i endured 34 years of violence and finally left in 2010! I try and Listen while I'm working outside with gloves on, and I'm @ 20 minute's now with easily Ten Adds where ive had to Remove my workgloves and HiT SKIP! Please, if the Moderator has allowed Monetization for Adds, its way too much!

[@sharrondee575]

God is my healer ❤

[@isolderied6640]

I’ll be 65 this year. I’m financially dependent and taking care of a young adult with disabilities, whom my husband insisted on adopting 18 years ago. I feel stuck and just have to wait until death do us part.😢

[@cherylmahalak8251]

I feel your pain...😢

[@kathleencole80]

What would you do if the adoptive 18 year old was your own child, or was your husband's by a previous marriage? Either way, if your marriage is destructive for you, then it is also harmful to the dependent child whose custody may be in dispute. Financial govt assistance is available for parents or guardians of disabled adults.

[@isolderied6640]

@ thank you for your kind words. $7000a year in Gov. assistance is not enough to survive. I love my son dearly and will take care of him as long as I can.

[@kathleencole80]

@ God be with you. 🙏🏻

[@annettebicer7555]

Ask for outside help. Don't suffer alone.

[@BirdieMae-yl3oi]

What God has in mind for marriage and what we have in mind is totally two different senario’s. We are suppose to marry as virgins man & woman. Man should know God’s word and have a relationship with him to provide for her. Be fruitful and multiply.This is God’s original plan. Men plan is to have sex first with different women, live worldly, pick up demons, then choose a wife. This is why there’s so many failed marriages.

[@Tami7884]

That's EXACTLY it... Even so called Christian men try YOU!!

[@Zooloo-c7t]

lets look at facts- 50% of women will never have an orgasm- instead they fake it,decieving the man to believe she orgasms- then sex becomes a burden to her,so she sex starves her husband- God says in the HolyBible " do not keep your bodies from each other,or else the devil will get a foothold in your marriage and try and destroy what God has established as a Holy union " - whats that statement mean,does anyone know - let me tell you - when a couple have sex ,uts a bonding, a closeness , its love building up more and more ,and when you deny your body to your spouse ,it builds resentment, neglect,and a torturing of many things thru neglect - so then the sex starved spouse is tempted to cheat ,and letting the devil in to ruin what God created as a Holy Union ,as God said that would happen," letting the devil get a foot hold in your marriage-- women think that men are like them ,that men can shake of horniess ,like women can ,just dont think about it and it goes away-- no no ,it doesnt work for men like that - men produce chemicals that keep them horny,it dont go away,it builds up more and more on a constant basis ,and can get to the point where they need a woman to be with,cuz masturbation doesnt take the place of a woman,ya it helps ,but a woman is what he want for sex, and if the wife refuses to attend to his needs then thats what to expect to happen,cheating - God says it loud and clear" dont keep your bodies from each other ,or else the devil will get a foothold in your marriage"" -- do u now see why God says this ,or are you still in denial cuz u dont care what God says ,cuz that puts an extra burdon on you - its not a burdon when love is involved also it goes on to say : a married couples marriage bed is their sanctuary, they can ot be held liable or charged for any crime by any spirit or mankind ,for that is their sanctuary " -- so dont feel guilty about how you have sex, what you do in your marriage bed,for it is your sanctuary -- aand i bet very few ppl. in the world have ever read this in the bible - its written in the Bible in ephienens or esslettes or however you spell those words - sorry for not knowing exactly where to direct u to it ,but im tired and dont feel like looking it up - God hates divorce, for good reason, it ruins families ,childrens lives, grades go down, and ruins the bonding that families should have ,and when the bonding disappears, then the caring disappears too ,and the love that bonding creates ,disappears ,and soon u ha e a society that has no love, and the caring goes away with it ,then a loveless world is created - thats why God hates divorce -- im not saying which way you should go, cuz i know bad marriages are horrible , but i do believe that sex more often would help marriages, and less divorces would occur ,and more families would be happier ,less resentment would occur, and kids would be happier if their parents were happy - and thats a good thing for society, and society isnt a building or a place where things are like stores ,society is ppl. millions of them ,and it helps millions of people if families could learn basic fundamentals of what makes a family thrive --

[@michaelfowler5879]

Amen 🙏🏾

[@wildcountrykat]

💝✝️🙏AMEN🙏✝️💝

[@abclosius201]

Jesus came to save individuals. He didn’t come to save marriages= millions of divorces. God makes all things new!!

[@jasminevillers154]

@abclosius201 yes Amen but He does also want to save marriages for the children's prayers shall be heard !!! Malichi 4:6 I will turn the hearts of the fathers to thier children and hearts of the children to thier fathers !!! We need moms and dads to forgive as CHRIST has forgiven us 🙏 And put our differences aside 🙏 and trust GOD to make all things new !!! Rev 21:5

[@CSLewisMemo]

May your life be filled with health, harmony, and happiness. May all your aspirations be fulfilled with God’s love guiding your way. Amen!

[@bk3521]

Matthew 19:9CJB 9 Now what I say to you is that whoever divorces his wife, except on the ground of ->sexual immorality

[@ME-FAFO]

God is my Healer- I only wish I had known this many years ago.... But I would say its ny own fault for not knowing His word.

[@VictorianTexas]

God never under any circumstances wants his children to be abused. I hope you're safe. Yes, He is Helper and Healer at all times.

[@lukasjacobi627]

AMEN

[@aliciaCANDO]

I have a question. ???So after being married to a man that is perfectly developed narcissistic partner. Is divorce allowable and after time of healing, what does scripture say about remarrying. Won’t we see each other in heaven should the prior narcissist happen to,, become saved by grace???

[@annettebicer7555]

You can leave and get an enollment because of abuse and Marry again.

[@Tami7884]

Are you sure about that.. the scriptures say nothing about annulment.. That's the Catholic Church... And this gov... But God's word trumps that, no pun intended.... I pray we can remarry, except for death.. Because it seems unfair.. But I know God is good. We don't always know, what we don't know!!! Masks are very convincing and can be for a good little while, then there is the cycling..... And we just keep hoping.....

[@walterelwell2252]

Opinions on what a narcissist is. Is different than what a lot think. Can there be good ones and bad ones??

[@Joshula337]

Also, it doesn’t take narcissism for people to have infidelity, although it can be involved. CS Lewis was not a psychologist nor was he a preacher.

[@tinabunton8678]

Everything your saying is like a window into my marriage 💔

[@AnnulmentProof]

I guess "for better or for worse" needs an update.

[@tinabunton8678]

💔

[@Sheryl-s8q]

Do not be unequally yoked it's in the lord's word bible

[@jeannierunyon1385]

HE says, sign the divorce papers

[@maricamaas2326]

The infidelity addressed in Matthew 19:9 was written to a Jewish audience; not in regards to adultery, but fornication committed during the bethrothal period before marriage; as was for example Joseph's perceived situation, because of the conception of Jesus Christ. The verse does not warrant divorce after marriage, but rather is a warning against committing adultery by divorcing, and when marrying a divorced woman.

[@maricamaas2326]

1 Corinthians 7:15 refers to how marriage partners are not bound to one another through ownership; such as is the case with slaves. The believer is instructed to allow the unbeliever to depart peacefully and to not fight with them to stay. The following verse reflects hopefully on the possibility of how an unbeliever can be saved through connection to a believer; this by not pushing the unbeliever away while he/she is willingly staying in the relationship, and/or by allowing them to depart peacefully.

[@LindaBrown-n4o]

A covenant is a covenant. Abuse does not break this covenant. Nothing does, if you are married. The word of God allows separation only, but not divorce. If you divorce you must remain unmarried as long as your former spouse is alive. If you still remarry, you will become an adulterer. But if your former spouse dies, you are release from the covenant and can then remarry. Don’t listen to the commentator. He does not know the word of God. Hard to hear, but it’s the truth.

[@sharonwildes4765]

Yes it does

[@Gigi0408]

What if the narcissist partner abandons the marriage and is committing adultery, is the covenant still in tact?

[@ramonajoyceprater6908]

You all are pathetic for shamelessly using this man's image and the voice of a British actor to take advantage of people and grow your channel. God keeps good records.

[@davidtomasi]

The friendship between Tolkien and Lewis is of fundamental importance to understand this message. In my view, this video is another example of (at least in the words of the author's video, not necessarily Lewis himself), of the very problematic philosophy and psychological "advice" this type of protestant theology provides. I think the Orthodox/Byzantine/Catholic perspective (the one Tolkien was a member of) is a much healthier one, more fruitful, and more consistent with proper neuroscience, psychology, and counseling: kzbin.info/www/bejne/rHbLopqBm5h1pdU

[@terrelladams2905]

I'm not gonna lie I really wish me and my wife was there but unfortunately we not she done somethings that not forgiveness

[@Joshula337]

This channel is garbage. Give it another voice. Don’t claim CS Lewis. CS Lewis did not speak on this topic to this extent at all. I keep seeing this crap pop up in my feed. Even if there’s some useful advice here there’s no business using the name of CS Lewis on it. Nor would his estate authorize it.

[@mozpogson3639]

Misrepresentation of Matthew 19.

[@helenemakuch8366]

This man doesn't read scripture

[@sharonwildes4765]

No,he does not

[@TheKoollatina]

Good topic, but this voice is boring.

[@krystynapodwalnaabebe4758]

Divorce is Not biblically justified, unless in the Old Testament

[@rhondatalkington9696]

My husband abandoned me 5 months into my marriage. And divorced me. That in itself is a form of abuse.

[@rhondatalkington9696]

The NT is a revelation of the OT.

[@rhondatalkington9696]

My late husband abused me physically, and emotionally, & was sleeping w/ other women for 5 years. The church I was in at the time told me I wasn’t allowed to separate from him, bc that was only in the OT. This type of thinking you say, is a faulty belief and lack of understanding of God, and His word!

[@rhondatalkington9696]

I went from an abused to widow. 15yrs. Later I remarried. Then I was abandoned.

[@Selah1141]

LEGALISM NOT GRACE.