Girls with a rich husband have the privilege to make a choice to have children and give up job but most gotta do both. If you really want children you have to accept the challenge . My advice is stop playing with other ppl's children they are not yours. They grow up and they don't even recognize who you are. The bond is fake. Better to have your own child the bond is real. Me I dont want to be the auntie role forever it is so annoying you have to give gifts all the time. Always give money out and yet you dont receive. It needs to be mutual or you wont be truly happy. You feel so stuck always listening to parenting problems and children care and yet you are so out of the discussion. If its real friends they will introduce you to a potential and not watch you grow old alone. I'm sure they did and hopefully they will continue to keep an eye for her.