We are young only once. For those of us who have the experience of living in a dormitory, such experience could indeed be very memorable. In my case, I wasn't even "out" when I was living in the dormitory at both university and even grad school - both abroad (the U.K. and the U.S.). (I belong to a slightly older generation, so "getting out of the closet" wasn't as common as it is now.) Despite that, the close same-sex friendships that were formed in such living environment could create a lot of special moments and sweet memories. There's one particular friendship that is especially memorable. There was a very handsome Japanese MBA student living on the same floor as me in the dormitory. (It was a dorm for grad students only.) For some reason, we both clicked - he didn't like hanging out with his fellow Japanese students and I didn't like hanging out with my fellow Chinese students. We ended up spending A LOT OF time together - having meals, going out for drinks, or simply driving around. We spent so much time together that rumors began to spread - within both the Japanese and Chinese circles, that we were lovers. We were both aware of the rumors, but neither of us cared about it. (I actually asked him: "You know people are talking behind our back? How do you feel about that?" He said: "I don't care." ) The reality is that, I believe he was a closeted gay like me. We never did anything sexually together because we were both too shy and inhibited. But there were definitely moments when our eyes met, or when we teased one another sexually (teaching one another dirty words in our own language), and when gay innuendos were mentioned in our conversations. After we parted ways, we have still managed to stay in touch with one another up until this day. It's almost been more than 20 years. He's married (he's the oldest son in his family, so marriage is expected and an obligation) and has a daughter with his wife. He had visited me two times and I had visited him once - before he got married. After he got married, I went to Tokyo again to visit him. On that visit, we talked about his post-married life and his daughter. He never asked me about my marital status, probably with a mutual understanding of my sexuality. It's a beautiful friendship, and I will never forget the moments we shared together in both his and my dorm room.
@teachershen2 жыл бұрын
That is such a beautiful story of your friendship. It's like a movie plot. I, too, had a Japanese crush when I stayed in the dorm in the US. He managed to find me after I graduated after a year. He told me he was married. Of course, I congratulated him. We lost touch now. But that was a very special friendship for me as well. No matter where you are or how are you, your memory is yours forever.
@flyingzone3562 жыл бұрын
@@teachershen Indeed if I had the skills and the imagination, the friendship with my Japanese friend (who has a samurai name) could be made into a movie, not as melodramatic as "Your Name Engraved Herein" as none of us really experienced any explosive or life-changing moments, but it has indeed spanned over several decades as both of us have grown from two innocent young men into middle-aged men. By the way, we HAVE seen one another completely naked on several occasions - at the dormitory, we sometimes even showered in the communal shower the same time, and when he visited me in Canada (I now live in Canada) and when we stayed overnight in a hotel when we took a trip to Quebec City, we slept on different beds naked (in our underwear), and finally, when I went to Japan to visit him, we went to an onsen together where we saw one another completely naked. Those weren't sexual moments, but more sensual and erotic, which made them even more memorable.
@kilo26222 жыл бұрын
我也是在宿舍幫直男學長掰灣開苞
@teachershen2 жыл бұрын
你好厲害喔!
@MoshiMoshine2 жыл бұрын
我想問一下 魚到底是什意思? 抓魚? 你要當我的魚嗎? wanna be my fish tonight? 我曾經看到我前任ex 跟對方傳短訊 說這些話 我直覺跟我說他平常一定有在外面拈花惹草 雖然這樣 我還是真的很想知道"魚"的定義是什麼? 像那些怪叔叔也常開玩笑跟小美美說 叔叔帶你去看金魚 我 只知道那是一種性暗號 但為何都說魚? 連英文也常常聽到