Dad Refused To WALK me Down The Aisle Last Moment, Saying He's Saving It For Golden Child Sister

[@NancyPollyCy]

I think Dad discovered Reddit and is behind most of the comments saying that OP should help him.

[@JohnFinzel]

You know I find it amusing that everyone keeps saying how her sister grew up without her mother but THEY BOTH lost their mother.

[@chimerius24]

Funny how they ignore that fact. Plus the added pressure of "replacing" her mother is absurd.

[@LisaBeta-42]

Parentification is an accepted way of child abuse. The big sister has to care for the whole family, the moment the mother is gone. Father can't be bothered with houshold chores, it is women's work. Where were the grandparents who suddenly came out of the woodworks, after the failing-father started to relay on the "rest of the family", the day his older daughter refused to be the slave and money-giver. She is married now, belonges to a different family... And gets accused of "enabeling" the spoilt behaviour of two adults, because she allowed them to mistreat her for more than 15 years??? Where were the other family members? Where were the child-protection services??? Any social workers??? The man is on and off work, with two little girls: is he able to provide at all? How is he organizing child care, the time he is at work? Didn't anyone WANT to look into those issues?

[@dawnjohnson2864]

Right!!!! It is just mind boggling.

[@kimoni6]

​@LisaBeta-42 and she is just a year and a half older.

[@Jujuumobi]

She barely knew her mother too. I think she reminds her dad of her mum. My dad treated my first sister similar because honestly she's a spitting image of my mum and my mum left him when he thought she couldn't

[@melissawittman]

I paused for the comments as well. The second one is out of their mind! OP is ONE year older than her sister. She grew up without a mother too! Plus she was forced into the role without having had one.

[@tiaa668]

She can sell the boat if she wants to have a wedding 🤷‍♀️

[@nightshadedreams2989]

PRE-cisely, heck, has she even used it after buying it?

[@SunnyBurnsAll]

They depreciate in value. Learnt that from another reddit story about entitled parents.

[@brittany1679]

Exactly

[@theodorefreeman3173]

You second comment must be a moron. If they had lived through the same thing they would of been areal ass.

[@romonagauthier2611]

“Take the place of your mother “ it is a sick line.

[@chimerius24]

It really is. I was like what the hell!

[@romonagauthier2611]

@@chimerius24 Unfortunately many girls are forced to.

[@nenebops7744]

Paused the video to say that 2nd comment is vile! They are toxic and abusive, plain and simple. Leaving a 4 year old to raise a baby, forcing her to take care of them, exploit her for money. Sickening

[@Tom8201]

Must be the father or the sister.

[@nenebops7744]

@@Tom8201 I was thinking the same! A few of the comments look suspicious

[@catlinmarie]

@@Tom8201 My bet is the sister. The drunk dad is likely not on the net.

[@Kittenz96]

That's the exact same thing I did, I was so offended by the second commenter that I had to pause and come comment on how crazy they sound!

[@vaseline69]

@@Kittenz96 the thing that depressed me the most was at the end when Mr Red said that about 30% of the comments were saying that OP should help the father, that can't just be the sister and father or their flying monkeys. 30% of people read that story and thought OP was in the wrong!!!!!

[@tracygardner6318]

I would’ve cut contact with those two along time ago. You were not a slave or a maid you are a daughter and a sister.

[@moniquek6400]

That's easy to say (and do) if you grow up in a normal situation, but if you were made to babysit and more, from a very young age, that's your 'normal', you know nothing else. As you grow older, first you have to realize that what you think is normal is not, and then you have to put that realization into practice. That takes years, and some people are broken for life.

[@itsjustme7487]

​@moniquek6400 You are correct. At 75 yo, I still think I have to care for everyone and ABSOLUTELY HATE asking for help or favors to be repaid.

[@Lynxan]

True, It can be hard to notice how bad things are from the inside and never had better before. Cruel but true.

[@vaseline69]

Ok what ever the second commentator has imbibed can I have some??? "he could have thrown you out" she was 2 when her mother died!!!!!!

[@pjgumby]

Maybe the second person was her father, or sister, would not put it passed them to try and shame her through the media.

[@vaseline69]

@@pjgumby unfortunately as bugs bunny would say I think it is a simple maroon

[@katied7712]

Giving her up would have likely provided her with a better childhood than the one she had.

[@beatricereadel645]

Absolutely agreed. Total nutsiness. Cringe worthy.

[@jameyregier8054]

13:21 Is it the father or sister incognito 😅?

[@nimisilverbird1239]

Nta. You are not obligated to do anything for them

[@tracygardner6318]

OP is not being mean why would she have her sister as her maid of honor when they don’t have a very good relationship seriously she’s like a five-year-old in a adults body

[@lovestosingalot55bodin7]

yes, a spoiled brat!!!

[@tracygardner6318]

Why couldn’t the sister arrange her own party? She’s old enough to do it herself.🤬

[@ask-128]

the younger sister buys a boat ..sell the boat and pay for your own wedding...first born sister needs to stop being a doormat...you will never get any approval or appreciation...it is not there from the toxic lazy father and entitled younger sister....they are moochers........

[@vaseline69]

those 2 commentators are insane, and when Mr Red said that about 30% of the comments were saying OP should help her male relation (I refuse to call him her father he never earned that title) they seem like the sort of people that would blame someone for being stabbed because they didn't have tougher skin!

[@beverlyarcher3744]

Sperm donor

[@robertgreen6433]

Talk about victim blaming

[@brandypebler2054]

​@@robertgreen6433I agree with you 💯 percent

[@Darkspark06]

That comparison was gold

[@proudpatriot6567]

I had a feeling that the comments were from the father, litter sister, and his side of the family.

[@HorseLady1109]

I totally disagree with commentor #2. Leopard doesn’t change its spots. I lived through this with my own family. After many years of trying, I am finally done. I had a last conversation with an aunt about 3 years ago. My husband & I tried to invite her out to try a new restaurant that had opened in her area (we live 45 minutes away). She had many excuses as to why she couldn’t go to dinner. I finally said, “I get it-I won’t bother you again.” Haven’t heard from her or anyone else in my family since. Love your best life, OP! Don’t look back.

[@TruthSayer2007]

The amount of sociopaths in these Reddit stories is revolting. People, when people tell you they’re terrible, BELIEVE THEM!!!!!

[@dukebanerjee4710]

Well yeah, stories of normal people doing normal things would be boring.

[@christophercuston]

I forgive to the V, so I don't forget what you did. Pops and sister actions led them to failures and no contact. The comments saying to forgive and let them back into OP life are probably the same people who do this.

[@robingibson6561]

I thought the same thing. Only people who inflict this type of pain cannot see the damage being done.

[@DJMelloSoul]

The second commenter is crazy. He could’ve kicked her out yeah but he didn’t because he made her sacrifice and work to take care of the house. People need to quit saying oh it’s family thats not right. Family can be toxic too and can be cut off. Why should she suffer?

[@brandypebler2054]

True family can be the worst people to deal with

[@robinleflore9999]

let's not forget she was 2 when her mom passed

[@BigJess1951]

Family can be extremely toxic. I disowned my father when I was 12 and never regretted it, he beat me with his fists from the time I was two until I left home. I'm a better person for it, the only thing I gained from him was how not to treat my children and he made me tough as nails. My children will tell you that I set rules and expected them to be followed but that I was fair. Spanking was allowed but beatings were never allowed. My children stay in touch with me and ask for my advice, so I must have done something right.

[@morganholtz8323]

In my opinion, that second comment sounds like a golden child themselves

[@bonniebloom4953]

Really you have a great point. One never has the obligation to do anything for family that treats them horrible. Ever!!!

[@Lollocide]

Her first question was "Why would I pay for her wedding" and not "Why the HELL DID YOU BUY A BOAT!?"

[@itsjustme7487]

LOL. That was my first thought as well.

[@jenjen52982]

Seriously! I got married within 12 months of my sister. My parents were pretty broke I didn't expect anything, I appreciated it but didn't expect it. We were saving for our house at the same time and spent somewhere around $1000-$1500. It was a small thing, immediate family and lunch on a Monday. You can do it for cheap. There's a Quote from Gordon Ramsay about what to do with a pumpkin. The sister can do that with her boat.

[@shanafredlake312]

Just wondering why she didn't reach out to her mom's side of the family? Glad she cut the toxicity out of her life. Sometimes people need a reality check to understand their wrong. Sounds like her sister will never learn. Good luck OP and keep your head high. Your in-laws are amazing and the family you deserve.

[@tracygardner6318]

Seriously comment two ,Did you not read or hear the story they’ve treated her like crap her whole life he promised to walk her down the aisle and then decide he can’t because he has to walk his golden child down the aisle. You’re just as bad as the father and the sister.

[@Cinesta76]

I'm thinking it is the father 😂

[@saikoneko1937]

​@@Cinesta76or the sister

[@pjgumby]

Toxic mooching people never change and will never find a way to prosper for themselves. Of course her father is sad, his golden goose flew the coop and now he has to fend for himself. He was a user and an abuser and if you are a sane person you don't keep people like that in your life and I don't care who they are. Some people say family is everything, no they are NOT!

[@reginafetty6374]

Family is everything. The thing is, family doesn't have to have the same DNA. Family is people in your life who are there for you no matter what. A sperm donor and the sperm donor spawn aren't necessarily family. they are just related by DNA. That is not the only thing Family is.

[@robingibson6561]

​@@reginafetty6374I sooo agree...

[@shariharley4698]

Op should look for her maternal family who her father alienated.

[@tracygardner6318]

She’s not always wanted the best for you. She’s just a selfish person like your father. They’re both entitled.

[@Darkspark06]

Genes showing themselves

[@Mel-jy4kc]

Here’s the test to see if Dad has changed. If he was wealthy and the golden child was wealthy and gave him extra money every month, would he still be trying to reconcile? If the golden child had a baby, would he still be sad about not seeing yours? If both grandchildren were in his life, would they be treated the same? If one answer to any of those questions is a bad one, he hasn’t changed.

[@pamelaprince7020]

OP just live your best life!! Leave them in the post. My mother never showed me love but I had my Daddy and he loved me so!! I know I was Daddy's girl. But he never ever let on when the other 5 siblings were around but I'm the only kid that lived with my Daddy after 2 divorces! I always had his back, and he had mine!! All little girl's need the love from their Dad's!! Just go on have your life and don't let that negative sister or Father near your children!! I've got an Identical twin sister & she's always been so to me. Before I left mother's it was always about her and I was to be the "slave" and if we got gifts my twin would always take them and mother would just Daddy she's younger so let her be!! My twin is so narcissistic today no one wants a thing to do with her!! As I'm very positive, outgoing and many friend's and even the family loves me around!! I treat everyone the way I want to be treated with kindness!! I did at 18 lived with my twin and I paid all the bills, food etc.... she was mad when I moved across the country to see if I'd want to live there FT & I got back and she sold everything I had including my 1 year old daughter's toys, crib and whatever was left was wrecked!! Don't ever turn back!! God Bless!!!

[@itsjustme7487]

My daddy was a drunken deadbeat who enjoyed using a belt on me. HE killed the affection I had for him.

[@andreavanhoof6047]

Dear OP, you should have gone to college and not look back!

[@andreavanhoof6047]

I disliked the second commentator; either that person is clueless or just as toxic as OPs sister and father!

[@louisedykes4794]

Yup agree

[@louisedykes4794]

Is that one commentator related to the dad?

[@tracygardner6318]

The father should be taking care of the house, and both of his daughters, not this one of them

[@laurie2649]

Comment Number 2 is absolutely bonkers! If OP listened to that garbage she'd be a basket case! OP, do not listen to that ridiculous comment. Ugh! Your father and sister are the absolute worst! You are not their money slave! Tell them to fend for themselves! They don't care about you. You are only a CASH COW to them. OP I am so happy you found a wonderful family with your husband. Do not let them back into your life.

[@sobeitone3336]

I absolutely don’t feel sorry for op’s sperm donor…..he didn’t give op a 1/2 leg up to start her life, but has the audacity to ask for a hand out. Op was way more forgiving than I would have been.

[@nyneeveanya8861]

Now that she is grown and married maybe she should try to get into contact with her mother’s side of the family. Dad can’t stop them from trying to build a relationship now.

[@beverlyarcher3744]

Shocked that the younger sister wasn't mistreated

[@MargaretKolosky]

the younger sister has been mistreated, She only gets daddy's attention if she helps him use the older sister for the money he used to get from her mother. This is a horrible situation. His selfishness is making both sisters hate each other so he could use both of them.

[@Ahalaia]

Last comment had me cracking up, give him a chance? She'd given him chances for over 20 years, if he 'changed' it was only because he is desperate and got turned on by his 'favorite daughter'.

[@SailorJohnPresents]

I’m glad to see OP cutting off the toxicity in her life. She now has a new family who loves and respects her. She can enjoy life with a good family for once, and as for her father and sister. They reap what that sew.

[@tracygardner6318]

Why can’t the father walk both daughters down the aisle?

[@Darkspark06]

Idk bros like I can only rebuy one of you in COD

[@lesleygreen273]

So that second commentator is her Dad, right?

[@KoreForever]

Second comment is definitely a parent with a golden child.

[@jillmortlock8439]

Comment number 2 is from the father. No, other reason for this.

[@tyffanypoudrier6610]

I don't blame you for not letting your father in your life and congratulations on the pregnancy ❤❤❤.

[@gailboyd3585]

OP DO NOT GUVE $$ TO FATHER IR SIS. THEY TOOK $$ FROM YOU, DID NOT PAY FOR YOUR COLLEGE OR WEDDING. SIS GIVEN 30K FROM FATHER AND SPENT IT NOT ON COLLEGE BUT FOR A BOAT. SHE CAN GET A JOB AND PAY FOR OWN THINGS/FATHER CAN DO SAME. CUT TIES WITH THEM. THEY ARE TOXIC. YOU CAN MAKE YOUR OWN FAMILY NOW. STICK WITH YOUR MAN HE SOUNDS LIKE A NICE PERSON. MUCH SUCCESS TO YOU. YOU DESERVE IT !!

[@jerrymiller8650]

My opinion, O.P. is not the AH. She had been treated like crap her entire life, but she still tried to help out. She got to the end of her rope, and cut ties. I wish her and her husband a wonderful life!

[@scruf153]

this is why I never trust anyone anymore not from family but from outsiders as soon as someone does one thing like they did I just stop speeking to them treat them like they do not exist

[@angelicakaufman7183]

Why do maids and service people think it's okay to let people inside the house when their boss isn't even home regardless of whether or not they say they are related. For me that right there is a fired on the spot situation

[@LaviniaKing-hz9ue]

--- Father and sister only perceived OP as a door mat and a animated ATM. She was within her rights to kick them to the curb and left them there. Karma bit father in the butt when his favorite daughter also cast him aside.

[@IzzyPR2010]

When you raise someone to be like yourself, remember that includes the bad parts as well as what you think is the good part of yourself, and what you think is the good part might not be seen that way by others.

[@ashleypatten2304]

This is really hard to listen to. OP is such a huge doormat.

[@MsKaz1000]

a grandmother she didn't know ?

[@carolconnell9521]

Glad to hear you back Mr Reddito

[@Photobunce]

Parentification is a horrible horrible thing. Especially at a young age. OP deserves a life of her own

[@lizr4471]

don't ever let either of them near you again. treachery is all he knows....selfish to the core

[@MrFrizzle]

18:33 "OP's wedding went smooth!" No! No it didn't! 🤣🤣

[@Darkspark06]

Smooth like my bedsheets

[@aimbertlovesherbabies8278]

Commentators 2 and 4 were they really watching/reading the same story as the rest of us did? I don't think they would've left something so stupid if they did. 😮 you did right op. Be happy. Enjoy your life without those toxic people. You deserve nothing but happiness. ❤

[@kazan9918]

That makes me very mad to hear that. I should have disowned them when started treating me like that.

[@IzzyPR2010]

Father is upset he can't see his first grandchild, please, as soon as golden child gets knocked up, his first grandchild will be forgotten.

[@salbahejim]

When the dad and sister invaded the wedding and got arrested, it would have been perfect if OP had stood before the gathering and said, "In case anyone thought I might have been exaggerating about my family, I hope their actions here put your doubts to rest," and then have a big grin and ushered the party to continue.

[@Audiogeek-kf2ez]

Wow, this is so over the top. But it is one to remember

[@marilynlincoln7173]

Family does not need to be blood. Throughout my life, all of my blood relatives have turned on me. All my blood relatives did abuse me and use me. Except from my grandparents. All of my friends are my family.

[@arielruh7773]

I'm so sorry

[@shymistborn1517]

The second comment on the final update L M A O putting aside the fact that it is completely untrue that OPs father has changed, if she did let him back into her life so he could meet his grandchild when the sister finds out she will go out and get pregnant and then things will go back to how they were, OP will then have to support her sister and pay for all of her pregnancy stuff as well as support her once the kid is born. I feel like that is how far the sister is willing to go to keep dads attention and OP's money on her

[@alexdale2387]

This couldn't happen to nicer relatives, you do right OP

[@elainekilgore1352]

Comment 2 is likely fake, but if not, I expect it’s written by someone who’d be a lot less understanding and be willing to do a lot less than what they’d expect from OP.

[@Photobunce]

Also, why is Mitch McConnell being a barista at an airport.

[@JackieStults-w7m]

You did the right thing

[@robynedmonds7300]

Leave them selfish people go. Live your life.

[@janapeterson5967]

Should have had security at the wedding.

[@tyffanypoudrier6610]

She is the one who should have been the one taken care of, she of cut ties when he quit his job.

[@MindCaged]

Okay, the commenters defending the father/sister are nuts, there's no excuse for making a two year old child perform the role of a mother, and then force her to become the main breadwinner basically turning her into a slave using psychological abuse. I see several commenters seem to think those defensive comments are coming from the sister/father/father's side of the family. Either that or just ridiculously optimistic/sheltered people who can't possibly believe that family would treat a child so horribly out of selfishness. They're obviously not familiar with extreme narcissists, the stories I've read show them to have an almost alien mindset in the realm of insanity, and no matter how horrible they are they find ways of justifying their actions or find ways of manipulating people to get their way.

[@judiththompson2423]

Last comment...WRONG... LEOPARD "S NEVER change their spots.

[@GreenPaganWitch]

This person that commented that OP shouldn't have cut her father off fiancially like she did, is exactly the kind of person that would be a leach to their own child, just like OP'S father. Honestly, I kept expecting that comment to be a joke, like at the end, it say "JK". And yes, OP needs to cut ALL contact with her ABUSIVE father, and sister. Aww, poor baby father NEEDED financial help, NO, he's a leach that took advantage of OP while emotionally, and verbally, abusing her, not to mention, manipulated her. Don't think for one second that OP'S father and sister don't know EXACTLY what they're doing. It's absolutely disgusting what he, and his golden child, did to OP, and anyone that defends that, is just as disgusting. Seriously, shame on ANYONE that would in ANYWAY defend that behavior.

[@Ahalaia]

What a horrible father, OP should of cut ties with both of them (or have minimal contact, no supporting either deadbeat) as soon as she got her job after graduating college.

[@markn1485]

Was kind of suprised that she didn't hunt for her mothers family.

[@lovestosingalot55bodin7]

You need to set boundaries. You don't need toxic people in your life. It is not good for your children to have to put up with it either. If people don't think they have to change, they won't. Playing the "blame game" like your father and sister did will never get them anywhere. I have no sympathy for these narcissistic people who think that they are entitled when they are NOT. Enjoy your life OP.

[@leondillon8723]

18:50)She should have warned the cleaner not to let anyone in.

[@shadowbeagle]

The second commentator is not on OP’s side. Sounds like the person who made the comment just wants OP to lose every thing out of spite. Definitely, bad intentions. Never let toxic people into your life. They’ll bleed you dry, but there will always be someone who thinks you should be left destitute while trying to be loved by someone who never will. Watch your back, someone doesn’t have your best interests at heart.

[@penguinZ85]

OP needs to stand strong. Her “father” would probably try and turn her own child against her and paint himself as a victim.

[@tracygardner6318]

They assume and demand OP to pay for her wedding at her sisters wedding😳

[@laiten35]

NTA. Go NC. He is a terrible father and your sister is his clone

[@nancymcclain2533]

Like children every parent has a personality but the amount of disrespect your Dad had toward you is cruel and unforgivable. Leave them in the dust. And feel free to be happy.

[@k.a.4522]

Birth family is the worst thing we can do to ourselves. Leave them behind and get away from the psychos.

[@ronnieq9706]

Wow... this was a lot to deal with. Personally, I think you put up with their mess WAYYYYYYYY too long. I am so glad that you found the courage to cut them off!!! Don't feel sorry for them. Your father should have provided for the family as the FATHER... NOT you. How horrendous, as a parent, the way he treated you. Now, I will say to forgive both your father and sister. HOWEVER, forgiving them DOES NOT mean that you have to rekindle the relationship with them. Forgiveness means you release them from penalty of judgment so to speak... that you can think of them without those awful heart pains. Go... live your life in freedom and enjoy your true family who loves you. Best wishes to you!!!

[@envoy2500]

Last comment was 100% written by dad.

[@Shammai101]

This is called Parentification. Dad turned oldest daughter into a secondary wife, in the absence of the girls' mother. This was absolutely wrong. Yes, cutting them off is necessary. How can the second daughter ever grow up if she keeps thinking of her older sister as a Mom/Slave. How can Dad get over himself if surrogate wife/daughter/ MOTHER (he turned her into his MOM too).

[@cyndicook7755]

Why would she want her fiance to meet her family? I'd be embarrassed.

[@a_paradoxfunction4156]

I can’t imagine why OP would want a relationship with her father at the end, or want to get love from him-it doesn’t sound like he can love her. A lifetime of unforgivable indifference and cruelty, turning her into a Cinderella, refusing to support her or walk her down the isle? It sounds like he never bonded with her as a child and really didn’t care. Unfortunately, sometimes that happens.

[@mimiwhite1963]

Op should never give her loser Dad a chance. He abused her until she cut ties. Hecis a user and people like that really rarely change

[@dragonlady1360]

My sister is just like my mother,just like these two. Go no contact, they are never going to love,respect or except you. They only want your money. You work your butt off and they cost through enjoying themselves. You don’t need them.

[@stephaniespc]

The second commenter is the type of person that feels that the child is only an extension to its mother in the man is doing it a favor if it throws it some scraps.. They pretty much said that the child appreciate the dad for not tossing it away after the mother died.. those type of people believe that the father has no connection to the child..... It is weird that some people think that way... They wouldn't say that the child is lucky that the mother didn't toss it away after the father died.. these people exist.. ugh

[@arhael3594]

What's the point of waiting for husband to return to house, if you are not going to personally manhandle then out? What a waste of build up.

[@Ahalaia]

If OP was paying for selfish sisters wedding then why would her dad decide not to walk OP down the aisle? Personally I'd remove sis from MOH and refuse to pay any more for her wedding. What selfish people.

[@GaryLuther-of1vi]

it is OPs responsibility to protect her child from horrible people like her father. DO NOT let him back in your life

[@avalineriley6809]

You can tell the people wanting her to help the dad are young by the way they comment and the sheer lack of common sense. They feel sorry for her sister because she grew up without a mother .....so did she. Yet, not only did the OP not have a mother she had family that were treating her like shit when she needed them most. OP should never let her father back in, he burnt that bridge and it pointless repairing it. OP will never get her childhood back and she has enough love now that she doesn't need him. She should carry on wih her life, have a faimly of her own with her husband and give them the childhood love she didn't have.

[@trudypegg437]

In stories like this the father usually blames the second baby for killing his wife ! Not the other way round.

[@jennabunny7840]

That second commenter is absolutely insane

[@TheKira699]

If the father had been reported to CPS (every parent's worst nightmare) the kids might have had a decent start at life. And who the hell spends their college fund on a boat???? At least buy an apartment.

[@dorothypage7410]

Doesn’t need love from her father now. She needed love from her father when she was a child.

[@nicolegilbert7011]

The last comment makes me think it is dad trying to gaslight op.

[@dougtriplett]

You fiance should have told them to get screwed.

[@hildatorres2581]

This opinión that she should give both the father and the sister money most to have bee written by the sister or the father

[@debbiethompson14]

OF COURSE NOT!!!

[@oldnews7931]

This whole video sounds like one of those badly edited stories from those self published audio book apps, add werewolves and you'd tic all the boxes. My guess is that the negative comments on the post were written by the op on alternate accounts.

[@warrentreadwelljr.treadwel2694]

My only surprise in the story was that they didn’t try to force you to buy your sister a wedding dress when you bought yours. That was the only reason I could think when they decided to go with yours.

[@virginiarobbins2090]

Your mental health is the most important thing right now.

[@jackflash6618]

Just amazing how self entitled some people can be