Dad reluctantly accepts reality 🥹

A very difficult conversation with dad as he learns the extent of his deficits and their impact on his daily life.

[@LuvTadnDixie]

I think he's so cute when he says "I was born in 1932" . . . he says that a lot. He doesn't know how old he is . . . he doesn't know what year it is, but he always knows the year he was born and he's so proud when he says it, like a little kid who knows something and likes to tell people. He's just so precious. I love this man.

[@LaLadybug2011]

But if you notice, Dad thought he is only 69 or 70. That's what he thought because he has dementia and in that moment, it was 21 years ago for him! His long, long term memory is pretty good-that's why he is always quick to say when his birthday year is-he thinks someone is pulling his leg when they tell him he's 91.

[@prudencegerald1]

He is Amazing

[@carhiewyatt5972]

Adorable so so polite

[@adembasou]

[@dontknow3949]

He’s a grown man can you stop talking about him so condescendingly?

[@MM-lk2ik]

Your father is just the epitome of decency, dignity, politeness and class . Absolutely delightful in deed

[@paulrichards6894]

marvelous he can remember the year he was born...........just a sweet man

[@julyajoyabodunde5045]

Absolutely 💯

[@bmj927]

Absolutely the core values of the man have never changed very great man huge patience great manners such a throwback old school gentleman

[@asutadele6047]

Yes indeed

[@annacaggi6241]

And he always remembers his year of birth. Adorable

[@kwekuhayford7852]

Grandpa doesn't like the idea of not doing anything. He worked hard and loves to see his family do well.

[@Nurse.Heather]

Caregiver strain is taxing, yet you are patient and kind. Well done, Dan.

[@leonardmsafiri2199]

Dan is so loving its unbelievable

[@sharonbrown6595]

Yes this goes on all day and 24/7. It’s very hard.

[@Nurse.Heather]

@sharonbrown6595 It sure is, especially during sundowning. Those of us that have dealt with it definitely understand.

[@wandasanders9043]

Let me go up, and put some socks on, my feet are cold.😅😅😅

[@karenvaleri5607]

So true. If I lived near them, I'd love to give them a break for a few hours.

[@lallavillamil2221]

I love it when grandpa Ed think he's 67 yrs old, but never forget he's born in 1932😊 I LOVE YOU GRANDPA ED❤❤❤

[@jovitasantos1447]

❤

[@sharonbrown6595]

Hope I get this way. I am turning 70 soon and I don’t want to. I would love to think I am 49/50 years old. Would be so great

[@Powerduo88]

​​@@sharonbrown6595 It is a blessing to be alive. So many didn't make it to 70 and here you are. Don't pine for days of old but be grateful for today and ask God to bless you with a tomorrow. 🙂🙏🏼

[@sharonbrown6595]

@@Powerduo88 thank you so much.

[@Melasvasapelar]

In that case grandpa thinks it’s 1999 😢 what a great guy

[@tcarroll3954]

Ed is such a gentleman.

[@elainekeane4164]

I love when Ed says, pardon me! Sweet man. Love videos! Dan, u are a wonderful son! ❤️💙👍

[@dnice627]

Grandpa is 91 yrs old and he looks damn good for his age ❤❤

[@detroitwarrior888]

I think grandpa did pretty well…once you gave him the info, he nodded and said “I understand”…bless his precious heart ❤

[@TrentMcNary]

Everyday a new video of the great man ED salinger is uploaded and we get to continue to be blessed by this man.. i get happy and hundreds of thousands of others get happy as well. A intelligent, loving man sourounded by such a wonderful family! He raised you right Dan 🤙🏾🖤

[@betsymerrill923]

Well said

[@oregonlakes]

It worries me to see him repeat things and ask every day. We just lost my husband’s aunt with Alzheimer’s and it was start to finish downhill in three weeks so it’s scary when the brain starts having these episodes.

[@BeTTea7157]

Beautifully said!

[@BeTTea7157]

​@@oregonlakesyes. I agree but what Dan does is so therapuetic for Grandpa Ed. He keeps him going thinking, challenging him. If he lived alone or had no contact with the outside world...he would of been far gone by now. I don't know if Dan has read on how to take care a dementia patient but I believe he's doing a great job doing his best from what I see here in these videos.

[@marianekalis1533]

For sure

[@judywiggins5092]

Dan you amaze me. You are the true definition of how a son should be. Danielle is just as special. I give praise to you guys.

[@zenaidanatividad1384]

Dan you are a loving nd kind son. Admirable , even Danielle. God bless you both.

[@lisamears8169]

💯agreed!!

[@lorisheheen2198]

I think when Grandpa Ed said " its the idea that when I want to do something, I wanna do it!" Losing their freedom. That was a Big deal for my Dad as well. It was hard for him to except. Grandpa Ed as well.❤️❤️❤️

[@MaureenONeill-tp7fm]

❤

[@chudilingo4438]

Dad always never forgets to express gratitude... amazing. I call it growing old with grace Lord let me be like this grand Pa when that time of forgetfulness comes.

[@jaelissajaeger9634]

Age 91 Granpa Ed is doing wonderful.He never forget when he was born..And he thought he’s younger only 67-70 yrs old.That’s okay..He’s walking great and very ,very good vision.Loved watching him with Daniele or Dan his fave son.Although he didn’t say that.He just loved and adore all his children..That’s awesome.God bless!

[@Kae731]

I hope that if I ever find myself in Ed’s position that I say thank you as much as he does.

[@francene01]

His dad is such a pleasant man. He was a gentleman's gentleman during his earlier years. 🥰🥰🥰🥰 Thank you for sharing this gentle soul.

[@leesashriber5097]

Happy Sunday❣️ Grandpa Ed, you don't drive but you do have a chauffeur. Your beautiful family. ❤️🙏❤️

[@knaggs71]

Grandpa comes from the greatest generation ever ❤ He’s caring , respectful and honest hard to find these days…

[@melody7779]

Amen

[@user-gz5yk4me8j]

The work of the family unity is core to his being ..he knows that he has to keep doin things or else there consquences.. always motivated im sure...you can never remove that. He has still desires to go go go....puts himself out there...be ni e if they could rent a big motorhome and take him out again.. since he has such a love for the road

[@JazMa5504]

My “hats off” to you and Danielle, know it’s not easy having to repeat yourselves over and over. But Grandpa Ed is soooo Blessed!! Even though he struggles he’s quite Amazing for his age. Thank You Both and all of your family for being there for Grandpa. God Bless

[@victorgadamba5518]

they are heavenly. & I mean it.

[@hmt5oo]

Remember, alzheimer patients is better not to argue even if they say the sky is yellow or red . The good cell in the brain that still left can be damage quickly if they frustrated or angry , and the happy they are , the longer will survive with the disease . Some poeples survive 15 years or more , and some survive 3 years or less.. Make your life easy by agree with everything in form of conversation and stop thinking that he /she will remember anything you told them or you trying to convince them to do or +++. It beyond their ability with the disease and don't take it personal. The memory chip in the brain is not accepting any data period , and only old data in the brain that can be stored dated back to childhood is been brought back and used in very strange way. This videos will help millions of others about daily routines of alzheimer patients and all this questions are the normal , the only difference that can come up with screaming and anger , but Ed at least in camera , he look he is calm in his questoning.

[@laram00]

Hats off to Dan only 😊!!!

[@stavroulapsiharis8357]

Many hats to us dan and Danielle.we have to be repeatative and compassionate caring patient you name it but we do it gladly because there our family and we love them.❤❤love these videos love you guys so much.

[@AfroArmy]

He’s too cute. He’s always looking for his keys. He will never be satisfied with other people’s keys. He remembers his. He’s so cute.

[@noluli7430]

He's so cute when he says thank you. A decent man and well - mannerd man. You're really blessed to have a father like him.

[@lefkiapaschalis6736]

Grandpa has a real twinkle in his eyes. Heart of gold 😊❤️ what a blessing he his…sending love from Cyprus 🇨🇾

[@lauraswann5543]

Grandpa Ed has such a lovely smile and his eyes atill sparkle. And he speaks with respect and gratitude. God bless him and all his family.💖

[@genevievedarrett3163]

He is the best dad ,he looks very good for 91 .He is so precious in his time of not remembering .God love him !! Dan we love you and Danielle also .

[@Bambi-ul1tz]

He's always so polite about things 😂😂😂❤❤❤❤ " oh boy, alright thanks Dan!!!!"😂😂😂😂😂

[@charlenecardwell8288]

He responds so sweetly and even thanks you for correcting him. You are also very patient and loving to your father. ❤️

[@pierrettehebert3044]

Just found this channel. I too am old. I really appreciate this view of reality. Dad is smart & pleasant…must have been a great doctor!

[@Sundais4freelee]

This so helpful for SO many families and you are lucky his demeanor is calm. My 92 year old dad gets angry quickly so I have learned to let it bounce off me like I am jello … I am his only child so it does get exhausting but it’s family ! You do for family

[@linajams]

This family is a MASTER CLASS on love. A class everyone should brush up on ❣️💞

[@OscarsMama]

He is so awesome. Reminds me of my Dad who i lost in 2009 at the age of 83. Everyone remember to cherish your parents. They brought you into this world.

[@RaeAnne232]

Ed is such a kind and gracious man. Dan and Danielle, y'all are doing an amazing job taking care of your dad!

[@laram00]

Dan only 🤨

[@donnaleach8119]

@@laram00 : why?

[@imanjones8240]

These guys are living a great life...a huge beautiful home with pool n nice back yard, family Ll around, and the ability to chill n watch TV till dinner...all with their family...dies it get any better!?? May God continue to bless...🎉❤🎉

[@valerie190makhi]

So cute! I love you grandpa. Dan you and Mark are great sons

[@Teri_Head]

The sad part is that Dan can explain this to Ed 10 times a day and he will never know this information. This information is so important for people to understand, he can’t remember because he can’t. There’s no fixing this problem.

[@Bane92]

Yea bro shit is tough. We just see one cute video but the reality is an absolute mess that people don’t see. I bet Mark yells at Grandpa a lot. 😂

[@chanceburger3169]

​@@Bane92Hopefully this disease dosent touch you or your family,I think you wouldn't be able to handle it.

[@helloify498]

​@@Bane92Stop being NEGATIVE. Omg whats wrong with some of u

[@veronicaboyd3696]

Hi Dan, Ed says “thank you for telling me” when you patiently explain to him ( for the millionth time )😇why he doesn’t drive any more. I don’t know where you get your patience from Dan, but it must be in part from your love of your dad! You are so well adjusted Dan and your whole family are so lucky to have you!! May the “FORCE BE WITH YOU” Dan!!

[@merylatemo]

Grandpa is young at heart...it's amazing

[@escoml]

You talk firm with him .I respect your dad and the freedom you give to him .thank you for not throwing him in a facility that don’t give 2shits about our elders.

[@inezsitu7291]

My father-in-law is demented and has been living with my husband and I for the past four years. It is not easy. Watching these videos makes my husband and I feel less alone.

[@stonec.a.5455]

I love how he is thankful and expresses his appreciation to you for explaining to him what’s going on and for taking care of him. So sweet, all of you. Keep up the good work.

[@AtMyBest420]

Every time you tell him the facts of his life, it is like you are doing it for the first time. You all are made up of something truly amazing. Much respect! ❤

[@Nina-on7nv]

My thoughts too 😊

[@grammyb5216]

❤

[@sonyagraske376]

sooooo MUCH RESPECT ❤❤❤❤

[@shoppergirl4363]

My great uncle drove till he was 99! Went to grocery store every other day. He passed at 104! ❤ Your dad is so humble ! What a gem he is! 😊

[@annaalcyone6469]

🎉❤wow! In USA?

[@shoppergirl4363]

@annaalcyone6469 yes!

[@annaalcyone6469]

@@shoppergirl4363 they are more loyal in States. In Europe/ uk seems 90 is the line. ✨ what an incredible 🧬 genes 104! Wow 👏

[@shoppergirl4363]

@@annaalcyone6469 Ty 😊

[@raywalters243]

Dan, your are the man my friend. I'm 51 now and both my parents have past on. My mom passed almost 13 years ago now and it seems like yesterday to me. My dad passed in 2019. I'd give anything to be able to speal to them again. The way you take care of your dad is how it's supposed to be. Our parents sacrifice for us during our childhood so it's only right we sacrifice for them in their twilight years. You guys are rockstars in my book bro 👍🏻

[@BeTTea7157]

Amen!

[@hildankhata3169]

And Amen!

[@Angela-Ruby]

@raywalters243 may I please speak to you? My father passed away in 2008. He wasn’t the most patient father and was very physical with us. I truly believe my mom has a mental illness where she hates me. I’m the middle of three and she speaks to the other two, but has very little to do with me. When I call her, it’s like talking to the wall.. she doesn’t say a word. I say goodbye just so she knows that I am not hanging up on her. If I push the topic too far and ask why she doesn’t say anything, such vile and terrible comments are made towards me that no daughter should ever hear from a mom. I’m in so much therapy over this because it has destroyed my life. I know that one day she will no longer be with me, but I have no idea how I will react when that happens. 😢

[@rodneyduckett7619]

He has his check book , I was waiting to hear it was at marks. Your father is a true gem, with his dementia he is always kind and checking to make sure everyone is okay. You and your wife & family are doing a remarkable job with your father.

[@judithwilber2540]

he just has bank statements ...not checks..those are at marks

[@SisterValerieD]

Yes. He wanted to sit wherever you were going to be. He didn't want to be alone just then. 🙏

[@cynthiaparris7549]

I'm so glad he don't get angry easy. My mom did. It was very sad. He is such a Dear SOUL. You all are doing a wonderful job with Mr Ed. ❤

[@walterineellis]

My father was so angry at me. I'm his oldest child that we know of. It was so hard to see him waste away the way he did. But God allowed him to come back into his right mind long enough to repent and receive Jesus as Lord and Savior. God is amazing. Once he received Jesus and repented his mind left him again. He passed in 2011, I believe.

[@cynthiaparris7549]

@@walterineellis Bless you ❤

[@walterineellis]

@@cynthiaparris7549 thank you and God bless you richly!

[@KO-zi2xf]

I have no experience with this type of thing but I was wondering what would happen if he the type to get angry at this whole situation. Must've been hard.

[@rhondaivory3009]

I love how patient you are with your Dad. My Mom had dementia in the end. It was heartbreaking for the family and her every time we told she could no longer certain things. It breaks everyone’s heart.

[@miahill6864]

I ❤❤❤❤❤❤ thousand times Dr.Edward Salinger! Please tell him. He is the most graceful man I've seen. He accepts his shortcomings with smile on his face. Every day his family shows love and respect toward him because all his life he love and cared for his family. Thank you for enriching my day with your daily posting. ❤ from the bay area.

[@dolly2106]

Awwww poor grandpa just love him ❤️ ❤️

[@nelsonmiller-oe7co]

Bless his heart, damn it's hard to get old. Js.

[@gladysmacharia6861]

I love how u keep assuring him not to worry all is fine

[@brem8918]

Amazing! I went through similar talks with my amazing Dad, who is no longer with us. Sadly, our family is fractured and my mother is exhibiting similar behaviors ( Dementia). We are a family of 5 kids, but just two of us have primarily assisted the parents for the past 10 years, and we’re the youngest of the siblings! It has been a very long journey…..

[@r1133rocco]

Boring is good when surrounded by this love ❤️

[@AV-fc9li]

In this tow minute video he has thanked Dan already 3 times ….. all our love and our prayers And wishes for his health and happiness ❤️❤️❤️❤️ I would love to be his care taker and one of the inmates of this lovely home ❤️

[@roderickcharles81]

Ed can probably spell better than you can!

[@AV-fc9li]

Yes , no doubts . He’s a legend and I’m nothing .

[@kirbyd0g]

Oh Dan, this isn't easy, even though you make it seem so. Bravo to you and Danielle, and Mark. You have taught me so much about love and patience. TY for all you do.

[@lynnechapman6992]

My dad had Louie bodies dementia he was like your dad asking about money and keys all the time but still had his sense of humour at time .

[@debbiesmitherman9295]

The smile he has is so contagious! Love him sooo much ! ❤

[@realsdsk]

How frustrating it is to lose your memory. So glad that Grandpa is healthy and you sons are taking such good care of him but in this video it really moved me how frustrated he is and how frustrating this disease is...

[@HEAVENLYLIFE1033]

Thank you for taking care of your father. He doesn’t look 91 and such a pleasant man.

[@poppykok5]

I have such an extra EXTRA special place in my heart for this precious man!!! ❤ ❤ ❤

[@feliciafisher3748]

Thank you for respecting Ed's privacy and still sharing so much with us.

[@ruthkinyanjui5374]

Send my love and respect for grandpa ❤from Kenya 🇰🇪.

[@srjwildcat3589]

Seems like the loss of the drivers license/car is one of the hardest things to accept as people age. It's definitely part of being a free adult in the USA. I'm soooo glad his bank works with him to make him feel more ill at ease. Thanks for sharing! Take Care/Stay Safe ✌

[@nikkernacker1]

I love that you asked how old he thought he was so that you have a good idea what was going on in his head and he understood after you explained to him. Even though that was hard for him but he understood. Dan you have taken such good care of your dad. Ed is just so darn cute!🥰

[@OH5311883]

Wow, Ed still wants to be spontaneous to be on the go whenever the spirit hits him. He must have been an adventurous man.

[@antoinettwilliams3001]

Does he even know how to frown? In every situation he's always smiling 😊

[@miyoutu898]

I wanted to click like button twice. Dad and Dan are amazing ❤ beautiful relationship between father and son despite difficult situation. God bless you all of your family ❤

[@BS8j]

DAN... you are truly a great son, you take such great care of him. You are definitely going to be rewarded and that's why you have so many fans growing for you by the day. Protect him he is truly a gem

[@user-qq3sb8ng9p]

I love when he is able to communicate without getting confused, but dementia is very unpredictable.

[@sharonmitchell2350]

Dad Ed is such a wonderful person, he excepts things so gracefully.....Never was to quarrel about things...what a wonderful person he is....

[@shirleybryant3525]

Dad always says ‘thank you’, I love that about him, so respectful

[@NenengTarigan]

He is lucky having so attentive kids, especially like Dan and his family.

[@CK-bq9rn]

I love when he say "so, what do I do now"? 😂

[@carolinenicolle-brien2867]

He is so beautiful and have a wonderful family ❤x

[@dianeleone1634]

Awwe, your Dad says Thanks Dan! He was born 91 years ago . That doesn't register . Tremendous love of family💜

[@BB-nz5sk]

Please please please start a training program for caregivers. You have a gift! The way you manage to combine honesty and compassion is so inspiring. The dignity this sweet man is able to keep is priceless!!!

[@mddell58]

Now, I'm beginning to wonder IF Dr. Ed would like a 'decent' recliner for himself. Every man should have a good recliner. 👍🏻 😃 ❤

[@bettywolter8120]

Bless his heart Dan you & Danielle are so precious with Grandpa Ed It's hard but your doing amazing work with him. 🤗 ❤❤❤

[@childofgod8365]

He was a good man that is why he is so lucky to have you Dan.

[@debishaw9355]

It’s hard for you both! But I give you tremendous credit for taking the time to explain it over and over again. ❤️

[@rebekahbrown4052]

You’re always so reassuring, Dan and even though it must drive you mad, having to repeat the same things over and over, showing that to us helps us deal with our own parents. Thank you

[@schandrikawilliams2792]

Every day is Groundhog Day for grandpa ❤

[@janicetan4626]

Kudos to Dan for being extremely patient with Grandpa Ed.

[@yellowmint5]

Dad is so sweet!!

[@karinkarsanyi2974]

I’m so sorry for him. You can only imagine what his mind is going through. You and your wife are so patient with him. God Bless All of You ❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@grannyjclay-joannieholdhus925]

Such a precious, sweet man❤

[@PolicePatrol]

I had grandfather like that. I loved him a lot. And it's difficult tell him same things over and over again...

[@bigdaddytrips6197]

Yeah I know , my dad is 92 he's the same way. He'll come in asking something then come in second later asking the same question . Sad to see old age on our parents.

[@PolicePatrol]

@@bigdaddytrips6197 you are a great son. Happy to see people like you, talking care about their families

[@tiffanyb4764]

No matter what state of mind he’s in his intelligence always shines through and his great sense of humor. He is a sweetheart l just love him!

[@msann5044]

Bless his heart ❤. This is where realization comes full circle, if only for a quick moment. So love his mindset #Humble

[@user-in4qe2yc2y]

So difficult and stressful to be a caregiver ~ Dan, Danielle and Mark are doing a fabulous job! Grandpa Ed is doing great because of the support you give him! Well done! ❤

[@lindafrost9813]

What a blessing to grampa you and Danielle are !!! It takes a lot to care for this illness with one that we love but you both are doing truly fabulous! God bless you both ❤❤✝️

[@lindagibson744]

He is a sweet, gentle giant of a man. ❤🙏

[@Bonnie-ly7ev]

Your dad is absolutely adorable. He is doing great for his age. I hope my life will be as full as his. Many blessings

[@dianehuguley4325]

I LOVE WATCHING YOUR DAD. HE IS SO SWEET AND YOU TAKE SUCH GOOD CARE OF HIM❤❤❤❤❤

[@marianekalis1533]

Tyfs! Loving all of the socks! Lol ! 😊 what a super guy, and great kids to look after him! God bless all of you ❤

[@macpere7]

Lovely grandpa ❤😊

[@shirttail1725]

Dan Your videos always bring a smile to my face. Thank you. Your dad Ed and mom have done a wonderful job instilling family values in you kids, oh I know you're not kids. But I'm 62 with grown children, grandkids and even blessed with a great grandchild. So you seem like kids to me. My daughter lives next door so she's available to help me due to my own memory issues. I pray I as I advance I have half the grace and patience your beautiful dad has. Much christian love to you, your lovely wife Danial and the family Thank you for sharing your dad with us. An appreciative fan

[@tadeuszoltarzewski6965]

I love that look Grandpa gives. ☺️A sparkle in his eyes ❤. Adorable family. Well done Dan. Keep them coming. Happy Sunday from Mrs O Devon England 🤗🇬🇧

[@oliviatopisterhasahya4454]

Daniell these conversations are his up keeping of the mind and soul.

[@sheilat.6305]

My Dad was 1932, Mom 1941, grandma 1921... I'd give anything to have that time with them again, Bless your Heart ❤