Dame Judi Dench on the passing of her husband | Louis Theroux Interviews - BBC

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Dame Judi Dench opens up to Louis Theroux about her late husband and the special bond they shared ❤️
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[@Tao_Tology]

Grief becomes less 'present' in your day to day, but then you mention that person in passing and you find your throat tightening and you remember that they aren't here.

[@christinecremen4151]

Yes.

[@nektekket852]

Absolutely. Big hugs all. 💗

[@mothratemporalradio517]

When you lose someone, it isn't ever this once only thing where you grieve at the funeral and then that's it. You continue to relate to the memory pf that person as you grow and change. This is why i love the concept of the Mexican tradition of the "Day of the Dead" because it actually represents a regular occasion and opportunity to celebrate the people that you've lost that you still keep in your heart, remember and hold love for. We do have the tradition of visiting a grave to pay respects but increasingly people may not be interred in cemeteries with headstones and so that aspect of the catharsis of a ritual of remembrance may remain somewhat at arm's length in our culture. (Ie British or Western.) Of course, there's no reason you can't create your own rituals of remembrance. 🍃🤲 Also, f cancer. A thief of love.

[@chadtopia]

Very much so. It never leaves you, just fades from the forefront of your mind until such moments recover it.

[@christinejackson3922]

So true

[@brendaguy8747]

His death was 21 years ago and she still finds it hard to discuss. What love and devotion that shows.

[@kirk93814]

Just like Queen Victoria 😢

[@SamSam-xb1ur]

She's an incredible actress who is playing a role for the camera even in that interview. She knew what she was doing and how she wants to be perceived in that moment. It was calculated but with good execution.

[@aioloswind]

@@SamSam-xb1ur or she's just a person who lost someone she loved and mourns them. not everything is calculated.

[@SamSam-xb1ur]

@@aioloswind He died by stool in his blood. I just wish they didn't have to tell any1. What did you think about that (respecting the deads wishes) but it raises awareness atleast can we agree on that what do you think it was a few minutes in I thing thats when she was really calculations

[@patricelockertanthony7630]

@@SamSam-xb1ur I think you're terribly lacking in understanding and compassion for what it means to love and suffer the loss of the relationship that that love can build. And @aiolos is correct, too.

[@thevenerablekev1]

I love how Louis gave Judi time and space to talk about her husband dying. She said she didn’t want to talk about it, but the space gave her time to compose herself.

[@Rubylove48]

She didn’t say she didn’t want to talk about it, she said she wasn’t good at talking about it.

[@nartarlyiatremaynne1239]

I concur with your sentiment 100%♡ Australia.

[@BooRadleyTube]

Laughing Lucy has already said this, but it's important: She didn't say she didn’t want to talk about it. I she did, he would have respected that, not just give her space and wait for her to change her mind.

[@ksc743]

@@BooRadleyTube in Britain, by saying "I'm not good at talking about it" is a polite way of saying "I'd rather not talk about it." One could see how much effort it took for her to remain the consummate professional and not ruin his interview with a silence that became increasingly awkward.

[@CommunitySage]

I agree, he witnessed and allowed us all to witness-without trying to “fix” or look away from her grief. I appreciated that.

[@Lordy08]

To see a woman of such grace and poise, stammer and lose composure is truly heart wrenching. Sharing what she could was truly valuable. What an amazing human.

[@jm7804]

More people should handle themselves in this fashion. You don't need to be a celebrity to do so either. Have class in everything you do and say. People will notice and you will be remembered for it long after your passing.

[@tfgrrl2042]

Admire Louis for respecting her emotion and not stepping into the uncomfortable pauses with a followup. Interviewing is as much about listening deeply as is it about asking good questions.

[@stephenconway2468]

This beautiful and sensitive couple were at a wedding in Ireland where my close relative met them. They were (in her words) so sweet, caring and aware that their fame might overwhelm the bride and groom. So, they just were as wallflower like as possible. As I was told, there was a simple and lovely warmth between them. I am sad that Judi Dench lost her friend and husband, but I am happy that they had their time together as it seems to have been so special.

[@eshaibraheem4218]

@Stephen Conway: A lovely comment, for a special couple. Thank you.

[@glennoc8585]

A long relationship or marriage is worth more than and fortune. Many people never find a soul mate for a long life. All is not lost though as many live great lives with a person they just like enough or even as single people.

[@toniannebarry9831]

Beautifully said thank you for sharing this with us!

[@angelacarleton9575]

Judi and her husband were friends and then husband and wive which they were fortunate to succeed in their marriage to last 30 plus years. How lucky for her to have so many memories of those early years and not have regrets. They were fortunate to have found each other.

[@leethomasedwards7526]

Shes an absolute treasure, we must protect her at all costs

[@laar8267]

Protect her from what? And how?

[@christianeduardo1]

From people asking questions like yours 😅

[@sweetestaphrodite]

@@laar8267 from everything, and how? Human shield

[@maureenackerley8024]

She is a national treasure!

[@jonc3295]

Wtf are you on about? Is she being threatened by someone, or are you just a naturally, cliche-ridden, over-dramatic knob?

[@shannonrussell7151]

Broke my heart watching this. You could see her recollecting the memory of his passing, like it was yesterday. Grieving a loved one never leaves you.

[@trinaq]

I really enjoyed being privy to the home life of the honourable Dame Judi Dench. Louis was very gentle in speaking to her about her late husband. I can't believe that she's almost 88 years old!

[@pitbullsandcalicos]

I lost my husband in 2006 and still miss him everyday. This made me cry. She is a lovely lady ❤️

[@PHlophe]

aww Glyn. my condolences, honey. It never matter how long . As a Swazi ( that's in southern africa ) in my Phuti language we have a word for it when love is intertwined with grief . we call it Mahua because it is continuous loop I feel your pain. How long were you married for.

[@komorebi3055]

@@PHlophe that's lovely, love the word Mahau. Thanks for sharing.

[@pitbullsandcalicos]

@@PHlophe 20 years ❤️

[@meco4068]

This whole exchange was so beautiful to read. Rare to see kind, generous people exchange kind words online these days! ❤️ 🙏

[@Walperion_Music]

@@meco4068 I love you for noticing that.

[@BugLoveOG]

I'm not even in the UK, but I love her. What a talented, loving, witty, beautiful in and out, true Lady.

[@Ooth9999]

Since when do you have to be in the uk to love someone who’s from the uk lol? Why’d you preface your comment by saying your not in the uk?

[@tfgrrl2042]

I wonder if she would laugh at being called a lady. She is definitely unforgettable and her sense of humor is delightful

[@BugLoveOG]

@@Ooth9999 - simple really. She's usually referred to across the pond as someone wonderful and talented in the UK. She's loved across the pond too!! It was meant kindly and positively. Sheesh.

[@robbymitchell805]

@@BugLoveOG I love her and I'm in Australia 😁👍🇦🇺

[@BugLoveOG]

@@robbymitchell805 ❤

[@mickaka]

It’s hard to explain how harrowing it is watching someone die of lung cancer, it’s painful and undignified. I’ve been there at the end for a number of people in my life, but watching my step dad go like that, even all these years later it’s so fresh in my mind. Wouldn’t wish it on my most hated enemy.

[@fredmichaels418]

" There's one thing that's real clear to me: No one dies with dignity We just try to ignore the elephant somehow " Jason Isbell

I know exactly what you mean, having lost my father to lung cancer in July this year. It will take a while to get to a point where I don't think of those final days.

[@adamw7340]

I must have a worse enemy than you

[@bblake5116]

My mum was diagnosed with stage 4 lunch cancer at the end of 2011, but she refused to die from cancer. She already had pulmonary fibrosis, and she said that’s what I will die off. My mums mum battled cancer for 20 odd years, and mum said no, not cancer, not like my mum. The drs gave her 4 rounds of extremely strong chemo, to give her a year with us. At the end of treatment the drs ( who were so amazed) told her all the cancers gone. Mum said to him, I know, I told you I’m getting rid of it. Sadly the pulmonary fibrosis took her life 5 years later. She slapped the cancer back for all the people it takes.

[@ksc743]

That's why I think there should be voluntary euthanasia in cases like this. I've never allowed my beloved pets to suffer prolonged pain at the very end. I know and understand the arguments against voluntary euthanasia, but it is successfully implemented in several countries. It is so professionally run one never hears anything bad about it.

[@milano5050]

My husband died of lung cancer nearly 6 yrs ago. Still seems like yesterday. He was only 44. Diagnosed out of the blue and died 11 wks later leaving a 6,10 and 15 Yr old behind. It is the most horrific thing to see the love of your life being eaten by this evil disease. My heart goes out to anyone who has had to face this x

[@spaceo8568]

Louis is one of the absolute BEST documentarians ever. He's so patient, open, respectful and has a genuine curiosity for people and their lives. He's amazing.

[@fredmichaels418]

Skavlan has that Ability as well . We Yanks haven't had an interviewer with comparable abilities since the Me Too'ed Charlie Rose . We will have to appreciate the Brit and Norwegian talents , I guess .

[@rachellereeve494]

Australia's Andrew Denton is a similarly brilliant interviewer. There are a few recordings of his old series 'Enough Rope' floating around on KZbin.

[@kezzaobee1462]

Agree love him

[@fredmichaels418]

@@rachellereeve494 Thanks , I'll check it out .

[@streetsoundselectro124]

He's also a little tyke!

[@AniWatX]

Her grief is so heartbreaking. It is the one thing I dread most in my life too. I love my husband so much. 40 years together. RIP the lovely Michael Williams.X

[@jamiestewart48]

Don't live dreading the possible, love the time you have together.

[@susanbrennan5511]

I lost my soulmate of 24 years 12 years ago. The pain doesn’t lessen over the years. You think it does but it does not.

[@knitwit7082]

Susan Brennan • My.husband of 32 years fell off a ladder, breaking his shoulder, pelvis in 3 places, and sustaining a crush fracture in his lumbar spine. He has been in hospital and rehab now for 3 weeks. I have been alone to take care of everything. You don't appreciate how many things the other person does until you have all the responsibility yourself. The loneliness for them is agony. I miss him so much. His smell, his touch, his voice, his kisses and hugs. He will make a good recovery, and I believe he will be home in the next 3 weeks. This gave me a taste of widowhood, and I never want it! I have always told him he can't die because I don't want to be a widow. Now I know how true those words were! My heart goes out to all of you, men and women, who have been widowed. I don't know if I could bear up as well as so many of you have. 💔

[@austinhowland300gmail.]

Hi Susan how are you doing today

[@leendecanck4723]

@@knitwit7082 that really means a lot. I’ve been one for almost 7 years. Being a widow is really such a permanent thing. My baby girl was only 1 when my husband passed, our son 8. The pain for my kids is what keeps my heart broken. I can go on only because of them.

[@ChivyDCom]

In 2001 he died the pain in her voice feels like it happened yesterday. That was the love of her life a piece of her went with him . And she has just learned to live without him. oh, I can feel her grief.

[@fiona4423]

You’re absolutely right. I lost my husband and a part of me went with him. I’m not the same person anymore and yes, I’m learning to live without him but at times it’s difficult.

[@MoonSpinners]

@@fiona4423 …. When someone dies, people say you’ll get over it, you’ll feel better at some point, but you never get over it, you just learn to live along side it, and go through the motions of living with a smile on your faces for everyone else’s sake. After a certain period passes, people don’t ask how you are anymore, and for me, I’ve found this year harder to get through and it’s been six years since losing my loved one. Grief is strange, it can creep up on you when you’re not looking. I hope you’re doing ok, and being kind to yourself. 🤗

[@MoonSpinners]

@@melianna999 …I don’t think there’s such a thing as “normal” when it comes to grief, everyone goes through it differently, but I do believe some thing’s aren’t healthy for our mental well-being, and I think sleeping with your dead loved ones ashes may be a step in the unhealthy direction. I have a friend who’s husband died of sepsis in hospital last year, and she’s still got the pyjama top he was wearing and it’s covered in his blood. She keeps it in the dining room! This is not healthy, and she’s now suffering from nightmares and can’t go into that room. I’ve told her gently that she needs to dispose of it, but she’s not listening to me. It’s like keeping his dead body in the front room. This is only my opinion though, like I said, everyone is different 😐

[@melianna999]

@@MoonSpinners We should farawell our loved one who died ,on cemetary. Sadly people learn about the souls suffering when they die. I understand pain of separation but totally against keeping the ashes in bed or being distress or in sorrow for the rest of the life.. WE ALL have to die some day.

[@Missjunebugfreak]

I started tearing up listening to Judi talk about Michael. You can tell it wasn't easy for her to relive those painful memories but she has so much strength to keep a joyful spirit even after such a tragedy. And I liked that Louis gave her time to talk without pressing her about it. A very sweet, heartfelt moment.

[@KoniB.]

And over 20 years since that passing, it still is devastating. A "Fine Romance", indeed!

[@direfranchement]

Maybe you misunderstood the lyrics to the song…or you have never heard it. This was no “fine romance”.

[@sharon339]

Her grief is still very palpable.

[@MsCuriousturtle]

When she started crying, I wanted to give her a big hug.

[@claudettetillier4318]

Bless, still so raw for her.

[@AnnieNYC1]

She's a lady, and it shows. My heart goes out to her, and I hope she's been surrounded with love before and since and will always be.

[@carolinireland1684]

Thank you, Dame Judi, for being willing to share your loss and show your emotion. In this day of quick fixes one gets the impression that we should be “all better” in no time. Losing someone you truly love may take a lifetime.

[@rdgist]

Beautiful, wise, warm, hilarious and sensitive. She's a gem! Much respect!

[@ursulageorgeson7086]

She is a magnificent sensetive. The source of her talent is her ability to feel. She could read a script from Neighbours and make you weep.

[@MoonSpinners]

I still miss Neighbours, how dare you take it’s name in vain 😂

[@mothratemporalradio517]

@@MoonSpinners agree! Blasphemy! My favourite part was the era in which Harold crossed over to the dark side.

[@MoonSpinners]

@@mothratemporalradio517 …I’m still traumatised 🤣

[@KitKatToeBeans]

Being a sensitive is a real thing. It’s entirely different from being sensitive.

[@MoonSpinners]

@@KitKatToeBeans …I don’t think anyone has questioned that, but as a sensitive myself, I thank you for explaining it for others who aren’t familiar with the term.

[@johnrider3749]

I love dame Judi she's not only a brilliant actor but also a lovely person and a national treasure,

[@marisapaola9010]

When my mum passed three years ago, it changed my life, our loved ones are truely, irreplaceable. I keep looking for in others, some tiny part of my mum's humour, courage, kindness, in sync mindset, and I see crumbs of these in others, but they leave me flat. People are mere shells, me included. In my home town, places mum went, I find myself scanning people's faces, a habit in old familiar spots of looking for her beautiful open smiling face. Still we walk on. Love that Judi was honest, no Hollywood sage word salad. Peace and love everyone.💓

[@DeliaLee8]

I am so touched by her. She is just a truly amazing person. So sorry that she lost her husband. They deserve to have had so many more years together.

[@Pea_Green]

They certainly did. Kind of makes you (sic) think we should be kinder. Best wishes. 🙂

[@lisamarieashby2523]

What someone "deserves" has nothing to do with why things are or are not what we want to see happen. That comment is your personal sentiment. Not a statement of fact in any sense of the word. Think about that when making such a claim. A lot of decent people have crappy things happen to them. And a lot of crappy people have great things happen for them. So where does the "deserve" play into that?

[@DeliaLee8]

@@lisamarieashby2523 Phew - I hit a trigger for you. Of course no one deserves bad things. It was a loose turn of phrase. I was expressing my wish that they (and everybody) could have good things happen or continue to happen for example their wonderful relationship.

[@barbarapoulden9235]

@@lisamarieashby2523 I totally agree with you xx

[@nicinaude6189]

Judi Dench is such a darling. I enjoy interviews with her so, so much.

[@gigidodson]

My husband died in 2008. It not something you ever get over. Its part of the fabric of my life ,that grief. You go on simply because you have to. But you never get over it. The grief is just as profound today is it was that February 14th when he died. I dont wander around in my wedding gown or any such nonsense but its still a shadow on my heart.

[@gigidodson]

@ohforfoxsake hugs back to you. ❤️

[@callumbarrington898]

This is very similar to how my Nan reacts when my Granddad is mentioned. The raw grief never goes away. Dame Judi was one of his favourites- what an icon she is.

[@nonni139]

I loved Judi and Michaels sitcom "A fine romance".Although it was made around 40 years ago its still fun to watch, Judi and Michael complemented each other so well.

[@schwarjm100]

Greetings from Maryland USA! Thanks so much for including the name of Judi & husband’s sitcom so I can search for it.

[@rogerdogger6969]

yes that is a hilarious show you're the only person in this feed that's even said his first name let alone last.. Even though this is about him his name is not mentioned I'm finding more fault with that then I probably should but I do because I feel like in spite of the fact this is about him he's actually kind of being ignored in a weird way.

[@rogerdogger6969]

When I was first watching that show I had no idea that they knew each other other than for work but always thought to myself that they seemed like they would be a good couple LOL. Only in recent years have I found out that they actually were at the time which makes the show even more special.

[@BaldursPicketFence]

My word, the level of poise and dignity in this interview.

[@angiesuarez1753]

Very well said

[@jbrewer2652]

I've been lucky to have met her. She was with her beloved grandson, Sam, who looks a lot like Michael. She is surrounded by love and obviously still loves Michael.

[@terenceayer337]

The world today needs role models like her to comprehend the real meaning of love & marriage....❤❤

[@hangin-in-thereawesome4245]

No one better than Dame Judy Dench! Much love and prayers for her!

[@stephenmcconnell6384]

i've watched this interview in full and so admire louis and dame judi for the connection they had while doing it. the scene where they walk thru her garden is so sweet. grief knows no time.

[@FLRSKLVR]

I can listen to Judi for hours. She's so charming yet utterly ruthless at the same time.

[@ddraigmafon4725]

I was blessed to meet Dame Judi, actually at a memorial service for a mutual friend (I had no idea she’d known Judi). She was such a warm and lovely lady, the true embodiment of a national treasure. It’s heartbreaking to hear her still fresh grief at losing her beloved husband, what a special bond they obviously had.

[@jillosler9353]

My own darling husband also died of lung cancer in 2001. Twenty one years later I still miss my best friend and soulmate. 💕

[@wayneperry7413]

Condolences to you, hope life has treated you well since then, greetings from Australia

[@oldsoul3576]

not a Brit, but if ever there was a gem to and treasure of the universe, its Dame Judy Dench.....just love her to bits and have since i first saw her shows on afternoon tea back in the 80's!

[@matwakenshaw6841]

Aside from her talking to her parrot, this was the best moment in the documentary. Real emotion.

[@nicki66]

I now understand that look and that pain. I lost my mother last year and I will never be the same. I can’t imagine losing the man I have spent most of my life waking up beside and raising our children with. I don’t think a 100 years would make that easier to endure. Lovely, authentic and unpretentious woman.

[@lekoman]

Yeah, I relate. I lost my mom a few years ago, myself. She was only 60. She had so much more time left. It's so hard to feel like all of the things I still wanted for our relationship are now never to be. It's still weird - disorienting - to think that she's gone... and it's absolutely true that life's high points are a little lower since. Someone else in the thread was talking about how grief takes up less of your day to day, but every time you mention someone in passing you still feel your throat tightening at the reminder that they're not around. Anyway, maybe there's some comfort in knowing that this is everyone's experience of grief, more or less... and so here's to Dame Judi for being brave enough to show it to us on camera, and inspire the really beautiful conversations that are happening on this thread.

[@nicki66]

@@lekoman you described that feeling so eloquently. It is exactly that, I hear a song, someone says something, I see a picture or I have an experience that I would have liked to share with her and that triggers that overwhelming feeling…it is always just lurking in the wings. Hang in there and know you are not alone in that club you never wanted to be a member of.

[@Donna-cc1kt]

No you won’t be the same, you will be better. She is with you and her perfect love comes through God to you. It’s bigger, stronger, changes us and we are all the better.

[@dingopisscreek]

If anyone is a national treasure, it is Dame Judy Dench 😊

[@DougiePlaysSoccer]

She reminds me of my mum. So precious . Would’ve preferred to hear about anything else beside her husband’s passing. It still appears to pain her…

[@fiona4423]

Nicholas, it will always pain her. It never leaves you.

[@merlinstwin7373]

They were a lovely couple, both national treasures. I adored their sitcom A Fine Romance. It was so apparent the romance was for real, offscreen as well as on. RIP Michael Williams. You are still missed, and I adore Dame Judi.

[@martinboulden4388]

She’s amazing and so was her hubby.

[@LiquidSpiral]

After my grandmother died Dame Judy became my favourite woman, not least because she reminds me so much of her. Articulate, charming, wickedly talented and funny, effortlessly stylish, a truly remarkable woman. Long may she live.

[@user-tt5xj5ib1e]

Not often, but some of us are lucky enough in life to find their soul mate. I'm happy that Judi got to find hers :)

[@christianeduardo1]

This interview was raw, honest and all together beautiful. I cried and laughed and came to the very easy realization that we humans were honored with Dame’s Judy Dench presence.

[@TomMaxwell756]

How can you not just love her?

[@carls.1000]

What a lovely interview. Louis is so kind and Dame Judi so honest...she has nothing to sell and he simply seems interested in having a respectful conversation...so refreshing!

[@lynpinto]

I just love you Judy Dench you’re what I call a broad and I bet you and your sweet husband had the most beautiful marriage keep on keeping on

[@austinhowland300gmail.]

Hi Lyn how are you doing today?

[@yhwhtlc9217]

I haven't had the pleasure of spending decades with someone but would imagine it be the most difficult thing to go through, loving someone for so long, and still care about them twenty years after they were gone. Love Dame Judy , RIP Michael.

[@pupp5092]

I just love this woman. What an actress! I’m so sorry for her loss. I’m happy that she knew such a love. She and he deserved to have that.

[@janw491]

They were such a wonderful couple and she is a grand lady.

[@deb9711]

Grief, You never get over it you just manage to suppress it better. God bless her, It was a big downer for a lighthearted interview.

[@martinswells1987]

Hello Deb, I hope my comment wasn't taken as a form of invasion of your comments privacy. I'm here to make friends, how are you? Where are you from?

[@rogan_se]

Such a wonderful woman. She's brought me so much pleasure over the decades, with her incredible acting prowess. She also wears her title with such grace and humility. I absolutely love her to bits and hope she lasts forever ❤

[@mrsoz8661]

I feel Judi's pain. Louis is just so good with his interview style especially regarding in particular anything of a sensitive nature. My husband passed 17 years ago and I have found that my grief gradually softened over a long period of time even though it never went away. I have found that time is a great panacea; I catch myself having periods of time where I don't think of my husband very often and yet can suddenly (usually at night in the dark) yearn to be held by him and see what he would look like 17 years down the track. Do I feel guilty when I don't think about him every day? no, not anymore. I came across something Nigella Lawson once said about grief and I think that's how my grief has evolved over the years: "You don't go around grieving all the time, but the grief is still there and always will be". A lovely interview Louis, thank you.

[@Claudia-up6hr]

Thank you so much for this thoughtful comment. My dear husband of almost 50 years died a cruel death from Parkinson's Disease, dementia, & bipolar disorder on May 24. His last days were hideous. I had to fight constantly for decent care & medication for him in this horrible nursing home. Understaffed, falling apart, dysfunctional in every way. One doctor (who doesn't bother to show up for his 1 morning per week visit) for 100 eldery people suffering the full range of diseases, most with some form of dementia, many stroke victims, a few young people with Down Syndrome, unending chaos with wandering, weeping, raging people, multiple TVs & radios blaring, disgusting food, the stench of dirty diapers & urine, bitter, overworked , underpaid staff are burnning out & quitting after working here for decades because the absent, rich owner just don't care, no where to escape for a moment of peace. Before he died my husband told me this place had broken his spirit. He blamed me for leaving him in this hell for 3 years. He couldn't remember the misery it was when I broke after caring for him at home for 10 years. But he was right. I tried, I complained, but it did nothing, then COVID made me so sick I ended up here. We had a few months together when I got to help care for him. In his last few days I didn't sleep, I held him, bathed him, played his favorite Bach & Beethoven, recited his favorite Wordsworth poem, Daffodils. I saw him draw his last breath just after midnight. But the truth is, I failed him and I will take that guilt to my grave. Six months on, I struggle to process this grief much as you have. I know it will never go away. Depression, shame, anger, then a bit of hope. I am stuck here in this place I hate. No money to move, no family or friends left. Trapped by a broken health care system. I do all the things we know to do to fight our demons-art, music, watching the birds outside my window, crocheting a lap throw Christmas present for the lovely man down the hall paralyzed from stroke (Toronto Maple Leafs hockey fan so I'm doing it in their iconic blue; his wife will sew a Leaf's patch on it as a nice touch😁) but I'm tired & age is weighing on me. I try to help a few near my bed who are much worse off, which does give one some perspective. And I distract myself with KZbin😂. I apologize for this rambling, bitter rant. Again, thank you & my best wishes to you 🙋💕🇨🇦!

[@paulh5295]

@@Claudia-up6hr I don’t want to tell you how you feel, but that isn’t your fault at all. It is the fault of the institutions that are allowed to operate in this disgusting way in the 21st century. I’m 36 and for me modern life, for the most part, is like covering up a dysfunctional toilet’s odour with air freshener.

[@sandydouglas3799]

@@Claudia-up6hr So sorry.

[@knitwit7082]

@@Claudia-up6hr God bless you. I am sorry about the horrible place you are in. I have been fighting for better care for my husband who is injured and in rehab. He will be home in 3 weeks they say. I hope so. We have been very blessed because of his military medical care. We may end up in the assisted living part of the Air Force Retirement home in Florida before long. That is supposed to be a really nice place. We have 3 rescue dogs we can't bear to give up, so we are hanging on as long as we can. But please don't blame yourself for the condition.of the place he went. Sadly there are some terrible places out there that should be shut down. But we all do the best we can for our loved ones, and I am sure you did too. I am sorry you are there now too. I wish you had alternatives, like family who could have you live with them, or a good assisted living place. God bless you for all the good you do from where you are. It reminds me of an old saying: Bloom where you are planted. It sounds like you are blooming there despite being in some very rocky, poor soil. That takes real character. I respect you for that. God bless you. I hope things improve for you.

[@myamdane6895]

Sorry to hear about your loss I hope you’re doing well

[@norahsearle7237]

Bless her ..she’s a real Treasure 🙏🏻

[@Studycase3000]

That kind of love and the loss of all that goes with it, never leaves you when taken away. Bless you Dame Judi Dench, it was truly kind of you to share a piece of that with us.

[@knitwit7082]

Study Case • My best friend's parents were married 70 years or so. Her father died of cancer in his 90's. After he died, her mother commented to friends, "You know, I don't recommend these long marriages. It is just too hard when they die." It was so cute. She was getting dementia, and had been married to a wonderful, sweet man who had defied his family to marry her. A true love story. ❤️ She lived for about another 15 years after he died. My friend took wonderful care of her mother until she died at 104. My friend is now being cared for by her family as she has developed dementia too. 😭

[@madeleine7411]

Judy Dench is a peach. I love her and her early sit com with her husband Michael is wonderful if you get a chance to watch it. My husband died 13 years ago and I shed tears often. That's what happens when you loved someone and miss them everyday.

[@austinhowland300gmail.]

Hello Madeleine how are you doing today

[@havingalook2]

If she is not a national treasure - then no one is and nothing is. She just radiates goodness. Is it OK to love someone you have never met? Then I think I do.

[@tonray9395]

LOVE Judi Dench !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! One of the best actresses ever

[@davidmargetts78]

She’s so beautiful.

[@frasierfreak92]

She really is, she was absolutely stunning as a young woman and she’s aged brilliantly too! Her eyes are still so full of life and strength, they were always her best feature.

[@adelaferreira4575]

Dame Judy Dench,an extraordinary actress and wonderful lady !

[@popswerks7915]

She is one of my favorite human beings of all time. A beautiful beautiful human being.

[@nowthenzen]

I saw their sitcom years ago and I recall it as charming and funny.

[@FacheChanteDeux]

This really broke my heart. I remember the night Judy left New York. I had tickets to see her on Broadway. I bought them for myself and my mother. We were so excited to see her on stage. We got to the theater and the announcement was made. Nobody stayed to see the poor understudy. I felt so sad when I heard why she had not been there that night.

[@lorettanericcio-bohlman567]

You are the absolute best Dame Judi! I’m so glad you found such a gem, you deserve it 💕

[@gbuddah]

Oh I just want to wrap my arms around her and give her the biggest hug.

[@marilynroberts9490]

My parents died together in a car crash, 1999. Yes, I miss them, but when I need to see my mother, I just go to the Graham Norton shows and watch Judy. Her face, her voice, and the way she will cover her mouth sometimes when she laughs, brings me close to my mother.

[@miotony5937]

he had the same sense of humor as me, michael was a exceptional actor and married a brilliant lady, loved watching you both

[@gillianmaynard4468]

I’m going to watch dear Judi and her Michael right now. 💙💙

[@ruthlester-scott7572]

Absolutely love Dame Judy..... just the pinnacle of charm, elegance, fun... heart breaking that she lost her beloved husband. Louis handled that interview beautifully.... he's got such empathy. Great chemistry there. Thank you for these insights into some of our most loved celebrities. 😘

[@luisbolanos5816]

Bless her heart!!! Amazing actress but even more importantly an amazing human being ❤

[@whitleybayman123]

Dame Judi is one of our treasures, beautiful person, great actor and Louis is a great interviewer

[@janew4690]

I love that Judi says what she wants. She has earned it. She was married a long time. I was married 54 years when my husband passed. I feel her pain.

[@tracy4343]

I have always loved her. I dread the day she leaves us.

[@knitwit7082]

Sad that she lost her love. I just love her! A tremendous actress and human being. RIP to her husband. Pray that they will be reunited when her time comes. ❤️

[@laurajenney6368]

My favorite actress. I just love her.

[@austinhowland300gmail.]

Hello Laura how are you doing today?

[@memeishere1]

I LOVE HER SO MUCH , WHAT A SWEETHEART AND WHAT A ACTRESS,, AMAZING AND SHE JUST SHINES, BLESS HER HEART SHE LOVES HIM SO MUCH YOU CAN HEAR THE PAIN AND LOVE IN HER VOICE TALKING ABOUT HER HUSBAND

[@TheHandleOnYoutube]

I love hearing her talk, it sets me at ease for some reason.

[@mynameisjoejeans]

what a pure soul

[@Bensinat]

What a lovely soul ❤️

[@marlenaforbes-reidy9876]

This beautiful elegant lady is a legend. I’ve loved watching her movies over the years. Bless her.

[@frankpaquet295]

She's such a treasure. Love her acting. So sorry to hear about her husband's death. It still affects her; he must have been very special and she had years with him, which is wonderful. (from Sandi)

[@jenduck5520]

My heart is in my throat watching this. Grief touches us all.

[@jeffnettleton3858]

The passing of time doesn't necessarily reduce the feeling of loss; as rev Richard Coles said in a clip I recently saw, you get better coping methods or distractions, but you still feel the loss. My wife and I had a difficult relationship, due, in part to mental illness; but, I still feel the loss. If anything, it taught me how much I truly loved her, even when things were at their worst between us. So, I can only imagine the feeling of loss between two people who truly and deeply loved each other and knew it, no matter how much time has passed.

[@julieriley1059]

She is a class act when you love someone deeply the finest thing is to be with them when they pass GOD BLESS YOU JUDI DENCH

[@kittyodonoghue430]

Thanks for posting. This is a series is dearly love to watch but not in the UK for the time being. Love the trajectory of LT's career. 👍🏻

[@tanyat8862]

She’s such a wonderful woman! I hope she knows how much she’s LOVED, by EVERYBODY ❤️!

[@victorianidetch]

What a lovely couple, may his memory always bring a blessing.

[@CatherineAKennedy]

heartbreaking and heartwarming... that is a precious love...

[@missrockafella9432]

Loved watching this the other week.

[@michelelanham]

I love her so much. sending so much love in her in her time of grief...

[@andreanittel2240]

he passed about 20 yrs ago..............

[@michelelanham]

@@andreanittel2240 She is stil in grief....That's how grief works.

[@lindaweigel8572]

I adore, absolutely adore Dame Judi Dench. She is a treasure for all, not only in the UK but elsewhere as well.

[@LMays-cu2hp]

Thank you for sharing this very very beautiful actress Dame Judi Dench..

[@ceciliacasey8039]

Oh my...am sad at this news. My condolences and deepest sympathy to Dame Judi...truly a great loss 💔.

[@martinswells1987]

Hello Cecilia, how are you doing where are you from?