Dan's Admission

[@oppositeofbatman]

What I really appreciate about this apology is that Dan doesn't really paint the writer as a helpless victim but rather a person who unfortunately had to endure his wrongdoings. She is her own person and this doesn't have to be a part of who she is.

[@oak7741]

This isn’t Satan from twitter, is it?

[@floatshake]

Well said, Satan.

[@samfilmkid]

They should seriously show this at sexual harassment seminars.

[@Alic4444]

This is too much honesty for the tone of most seminars.

[@ZeranZeran]

Then they should show his Pilot for Daryl right after They'd love it.

[@idrinkmilk282]

​@@Alic4444 lmao, what? He was attracted to a chick and this is suddenly sexual assault? Lol get out bro.

[@mayohyundai1152]

​@idrinkmilk282 what? Who the fuck said that

[@bosambo]

Did you watch the video and actually listen to what he said? Yes, it was harassment you dolt.

[@ahouyearno]

"We're living in a good time right now, because we're not getting away with it anymore" Great line.

[@kilimenjiro3753]

@@Teen-Tok-Shorts You just gonna keep posting this until someone bites?

[@jonathanlarsen7320]

sam that videos kind of funny

[@BigMikeMcBastard]

@@Teen-Tok-Shorts I like how you people stepped up to replace the 40-year-old moms as the source of society's unending outrage at offensive jokes.

[@tiatorus]

ahouyearno kzbin.info/www/bejne/rom9o2qKj7mNiLM

[@PyrokineticFire1]

10:45 "... we're not gonna get away..."

[@WaywardAce420]

“I ruined my show.” Wow. Way to own it. So many people seem to wanna call out others for the consequences of their actions, “you got me fired, are you happy now??” But this is a real genuine apology. Respect.

[@Kabullo76]

real genuine apology....😂😂😂

[@sifibruh7055]

@@Kabullo76 ?

[@hankhill2254]

@@Kabullo76 people who uses three of the same emojis are fucking cancer

[@Kabullo76]

@@hankhill2254 people who uses "fucking cancer" are real retard😂😂😂

[@Kabullo76]

@@hankhill2254 💩💩💩

[@mscout1]

This is brutal. I have rarely seen someone flop their own soul out on the table like this and say "see that? That's the rotten bit."

[@Toxodos]

I love Harmon's work, and I respect him as a person too, but there's plenty rotten parts.

[@MD-bf2ce]

yo, LATE response. But this is what we as a species need more of. Public humility. When he said one thing we would regret looking back on is lying. THIS is it. Fucking Aristotle of our day.

[@MrUndersolo]

Show me the person who has no rotten parts. We all have bits and pieces of ourselves that we are not proud of; we all have moments that we can’t take back. To be able to talk about it like this is an important first step...

[@connorblake7487]

Damn man, that's such an insanely accurate phrase to attribute to this. And for someone whose work is so rooted in self-awareness to also being so blinded by selfish desires that it hurt others is equally depressing and oddly validating. I mean I guess sometimes it's easier to point out everyone else's flaws when you view yourself as the biggest asshole hypocrite of them all.... I don't want to let him off the hook in any way. This is creepy selfish behavior. But we've all been part of a problem in some way. Maybe not the problem of the patriarchy, but you're kidding yourself if you think you haven't misstepped in a way that hurt others... sometimes you just gotta believe someone wants to change and realize you'd like the same forgiveness in return...Not everyone is an unredeemable Weinstein demon

[@kilimenjiro3753]

@@Teen-Tok-Shorts It was 11 years ago, dumbass, and he apologized for it also...

[@blurstoftimes91]

Damn, this is the first metoo apology that actually reads as genuinely introspective as opposed to simply reactionary. I hope more people follow his lead!

[@ragnar97]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/nXOzn3d7m7ySm9k I agree, that's just the full story because by listening to this you still may miss part of the whole story

[@richeywcassel]

Julianne Kolb Helps that he is honest and has a video platform. If any nasty details surfaced I'm sure he would suffer more professionally. The lady seems a much more forgiving victim. But I do hope for culture's sake we are actually trying to address these issues now and not just serving up the lastest shock opera flavor-of-the-week. Aggressors justly get what they deserve, but have we progressed yet?

[@kharris3352]

Kit Palmer I’d agree if it weren’t for the fact that he only apologized after years of denying it and finally being caught.

[@tmoney1876]

@@kharris3352 In what way was he "finally caught"? He vaguely referred to it in a tweet, unprompted and she called him out and asked for specifics. He hadn't been denying it for a while. Megan Ganz didn't even ask him to make a public apology after he made one in private. She wasn't going to publicize specifics, so he could have much more easily not spoken up.

[@kharris3352]

tmoney1876 I’m replying to someone who mentioned Louie C.K. I agree with everything you’re saying about Harmon

[@samfilmkid]

What sticks out to me is when he says: "I think a huge part of the problem is a culture of feeling things that you think are unique because they are happening to YOU." Like, wow. If that has not been the story of my life.

[@ness1278]

Too true for me as well, this video really opened my mind a bit.

[@B20C0]

What sticks out to me is his belly.

[@Mrllama-ui5ke]

Story of everyone’s lives

[@adamdevlin4533]

YOUR life? I was bit ten minutes ago, and I'm FFIIIIINNNEEEE

[@sifibruh7055]

@@adamdevlin4533 nice reference😂

[@vg3518]

So glad he did this. Seems utterly sincere, and the victim must have thought so too, as she forgave him, for all to see, on Twitter. Respect to both.

[@jordimelis4463]

What the fuck dude xD

[@nils5471]

VG Same, this really is so insightful. Also, glad to read that and see her response. Awesome!

[@TheRealValus]

@@2016834 You need to take a serious look at yourself, my friend, if you have let yourself become the type of person who spreads malicious slanders like this. The FACTS: Dan made a comedy video where he simulates dry humping a plastic doll. The absolute worst that can be said -- and he said it himself -- is that it was in poor taste. No porno. No nudity. No children anywhere in sight. Get your head fixed.

[@ililililil8385]

@@2016834 You are fake news

[@someonefromsomewhere1009]

Beautymark Permanent Cosmetics Abd Advanced Skin Treatments Do you think Megan Ganz the writer they hired for the show was a child? Wha

[@GARGANTUANMASKEDFISH]

And that young colleague... was Chevvy Chase.

[@iwillheadlockyournan731]

loooool

[@vickey111]

Normally I'm not into jokes on videos about this topic.. but this actually made me laugh out loud.

[@tacodude98]

Wow. That was genuinely funny

[@MattBonobo]

Naah Sarah Silverman.

[@Bittlebiscuit]

Nailed it

[@zoe.h.nelson04]

This is what an apology should be. I wouldn't dream of saying that Dan is any sort of admirable person or role model. But I can never seem to apologise and this is exactly how I would like to be able to.

[@tiatorus]

Zoe Nelson I’m guessing you think this is admirable too? kzbin.info/www/bejne/rom9o2qKj7mNiLM

[@therealleopardg]

I come back to this whenever I remember this to call myself out. I haven't done something like he did, but I sometimes notice my thought patterns going in that direction. Harmon made one of the best reminders to men to be introspective about how we think about women. Thanks Dan, look forward to the rest of your work

[@Anne-pj7ny]

I appreciate you referring to this video and thinking about it, but I wonder if part of your introspection can be how it feels to read comments like yours as a woman. That men who come across as good-natured have to remind themselves you’re a person like them. Maybe you’ve already thought about that. It doesn’t mean your comment is bad.

[@AkshayKumarX]

@@Anne-pj7ny Damned if you do, damned if you don't.

[@kvjackal7980]

This is how it's done. Not in a tweet, not with an excuse, not feeling sorry for yourself or patting yourself on the back for how you've "changed," but by admitting, in full, gory detail the whole truth, its widespread deleterious effects and squirming in palpable shame for all to see - then inviting others to do likewise. Yarbles. It takes a giant of a man.

[@MrKhaosKid]

That looked really difficult to say. I'm glad you did it. And Megan followed up with each part you spoke about. It feels like solid closure.

[@tiatorus]

MrKhaosKid kzbin.info/www/bejne/rom9o2qKj7mNiLM

[@Zeverish]

@@tiatorus you do realize this is satire right? It's not him expressing his personal opinions.

[@michaelproch8801]

That explains why she ironically accepted his satirical apology huh. You’re really peeling back the dense metaphorical layers going on in this public performance art aren’t you

[@clutch7548]

@@Zeverish dummy

[@McShag420]

@@Zeverish That's ridiculous.

[@juliamcalister8655]

I've always had a lot of respect for Dan Harmon as a writer, and when the whole situation with Megan Ganz broke I lost a significant amount of respect for him. It's safe to say that some of that respect has returned. What happened was incredibly shitty, but I think Dan Harmon's is the most sincere and self aware apology I've seen from someone in his position.

[@Kabullo76]

lol hes fake as fuck , hes acting, the only reason this sick fuck is apologizing is because he doesn’t want to be unemployed

[@MrDamsky100]

@@Kabullo76 Luckily that's not your call to make. It's Megan's.

[@Kabullo76]

Whatever....he's fake as fuck😉

[@foxygrandpa850]

franco stoppardi è arrivato il mentalista, ma smettila Franco

[@Kabullo76]

Awwww, il fanboy a cui brucia il culetto.

[@econmachete]

"I was divesting her of a recourse to integrity." Wow. Those are some words.

[@muhammadibrahimabdullah3737]

yeah

[@tylerjohn8435]

He's a writer

[@sm1thsisdead]

The phrase actually makes no sense in context

[@danielbird1907]

How so? Divesting= depriving, recourse = a source of help in a difficult situation, integrity = honesty. Because of his status as her boss he was depriving her of the ability to be honest in the difficult situation of having a fat old alcoholic hit on you and ask if you feel the same way.

[@stuv1996]

crevice_coin Just because you don't get a couple words in a row doesn't mean they have no meaning.

[@williamhinrichs6558]

Poignantly worded and a step in the right direction. The more natural it becomes to discuss these things openly, the easier it will become to reduce/prevent these terrible situations from coming about in the future. I obviously just watched an 11:27 KZbin video, so I don't know that much about the situation, but I do know that the damage Dan did has already been done, and this admission isn't him trying to fix the past, but rather try to contribute to the discussion and show us all by example that honesty about the past will not only bring us closer to a better culture in the future, but also that it may inspire personal integrity in each and every one of us. We should be honest with ourselves. We need to examine our motivations and the hypothetical consequences of possible actions with an incorruptible integrity so that we can really "think about it" as Dan put it. Glad I stumbled on this video and saw it through, as uncomfortable as it made me. Gonna be replaying this in my head and try to internalize it.

[@PrinceHal2619]

I appreciate Dan’s words here, because even though I haven’t done what he did, I feel I can relate. I know I’ve treated people badly, and looking back on certain people at certain times, I remember thinking differently than I do today, and could see saying and doing really inappropriate, bad things to people. I think this kind of thing happens all the time, and I think, yeah, it is really easy to engage in misconduct and get away with it. Not saying he or anyone else is a saint, or the devil, but we need people public ally owning up to stuff like this. What Megan thinks, and what she needs from Dan is the most important thing. That comes first. I hope what comes second is people seeing the way this story unfolded and the way the people involved have talked about it.

[@eartianwerewolf]

I am hoping that it helps people doing the same kind of behavior realize before they do too much damage...and it is 2 years later.

[@tiatorus]

Jake Wylie you appreciate this? kzbin.info/www/bejne/rom9o2qKj7mNiLM

[@TroutBoneless]

Was this on HarmonTown? Holy shit he did this publicly

[@scholargrizz7071]

It was not a live audience, this episode was recorded in a studio. Not that i blame him for that

[@kilimenjiro3753]

@@Teen-Tok-Shorts "hE'S a pAedOphIlE."

[@EjvindGEMDark]

@@Teen-Tok-Shorts It's a shitty pilot and not remotely funny, but it does touch pretty well on how it's okay for them to air shit about literally a serial killer.

[@tinygreencreature5167]

@@Teen-Tok-Shorts lol it a comedy sketch not live footage of him in real life

[@squirrelcontrol]

@@scholargrizz7071 IIRC this was when they got reported by the fire marshall because they hadn't received their permit to do the show in the new studio yet, so they did some shows with an empty room so they could at least keep putting them out.

[@lundylow]

8:59 "I damaged her internal compass." That is so haunting to hear said out loud. Relationships that end badly often have that theme, potentially both ways.

[@dingledoodles2615]

A clearly genuine apology. That's rare.

[@ab7dasker]

I think just about any adult man and probably plenty of women can unfortunately relate to this. Privilege begets a kind of narcissism that Harmon has taken the time to examine in himself. I'm in my 30s and have been relatively successful professionally and romantically but for a variety of reasons still struggle to see women I'm attracted to as whole people rather than objects of desire. Thank you Dan Harmon for reminding me to refuse my own narcissism rather than let it harm the people around me.

[@NilsFLindberg]

This is the manliest stuff I've seen in a while... Not everybody can pull this sort of thing off. The world needs more honest apologies like this.

[@jasondelvaux3036]

There's nothing wrong with being attracted to someone. What really matters -- and this is true in just about every situation -- is how you choose to handle it. I appreciate Dan's honesty about it NOW. But I don't think this is particularly revelatory -- sadly. I think it's pretty common. But I also think what makes it remarkable is what the woman did in response to him THEN. She showed extreme courage and perhaps prevented this from happening to others. I'm sure it wasn't easy, but she did a great thing (even though things really turned to shit in the immediate aftermath). We can't let these things go. That's what I try to instill in my daughter. I have your back no matter what, but you need to accept ZERO mistreatment because you don't deserve it.

[@tiatorus]

Jason Delvaux kzbin.info/www/bejne/rom9o2qKj7mNiLM

[@LilyShimizu]

That’s what I found particularly interesting about this story, that she had the courage to actually level with him and clearly tell him how his attention made her feel. That was an incredible move on her part that not everyone in her position feels they can safely do.

[@YoMamasLlama22]

This has to be the gold standard of apologies, right? I keep coming back to it. He comes so clean and is so honest and cuts no corners and isn’t defensive. I respect this apology.

[@Zigazaga420]

geez, that made be reconsider a lot of things about myself.

[@ripples1072]

thats good hope youre doing better a year later

[@RomanZolanski123]

2 years later, hope things are going well for both of ya

[@throgsneck5770]

4 weeks later, how y’all doing?

[@sanityisrelative]

Just checking in three weeks later. Y'all okay?

[@vivavaldez87]

Had to check in before a full 24 hours passed...

[@bunnerkins]

Never take this video down. Thank you for uploading this. I hope it continues to get seen for years and years to come.

[@ericsmith116]

for anyone whose done something like this to a female in their life. THIS is what an apology looks like. This is genuine, not an excuse, but an explanation and a great apology. THIS is how it should be.

[@Kabullo76]

hes fake as fuck

[@entertain7us148]

you can never un-do what you did to that person. but if she can hear that no only do you sincerely regret your actions, but you've actually done a serious reflection on yourself and how you have benefited from and perpetuated certain attitudes on a broader, systemic level, and you are taking very difficult active moves to change that, raise awareness, and ultimately become an ally for the people you hurt, that makes forgiveness a lot easier. harmful actions being turned into positive education, growth and change is the best possible scenario.

[@ericsmith116]

@@marionette5968 he has apologized sober as well but hey it's the internet so you must be right

[@Defiring]

@@marionette5968 You must be one hell of an obnoxious perso that judge that you get to decide if it's a good apology instead of the person addressed by it.

[@Kenneth_A_H]

this is a parody of apologies taken out of context by the uploader actually

[@daniellemcnulty6076]

As a woman who like pretty much every other woman has been on the receiving end of this behavior, to the extreme...I appreciate this and respect him so much. This made me cry because everything about it was beautiful and gives me hope

[@tiatorus]

Danielle McNulty you think this is beautiful too ?? kzbin.info/www/bejne/rom9o2qKj7mNiLM

[@daniellemcnulty6076]

@@tiatorus That is utterly horrifying. I'm going to leave our comments here so that whomever hasn't seen that can possibly see it. Consider my previous statement retracted. I've lost hope.

[@epilepticwizard4800]

@@daniellemcnulty6076 ​ I just looked into it. he made a parody of the show dexter (a show about a serial killer with a heart of gold). but instead of being a serial killer he was a baby rapist with a heart of gold. he took it down days later because he realised it was too offensive and apologized. it took me 5 minutes of googling.

[@daniellemcnulty6076]

Epileptic Wizard ohhhhhhh I get it.

For reference kzbin.info/www/bejne/nmbHf5-qnJ2Mgsk I just recently researched this specific incident/topic and it seems to me most of the people that cling on beating on Harmon are more driven by their disliking of him because of his opposition of Trump/ the right wing.

[@andywilson5234]

"What I was doing was divesting her of a recourse to integrity." Damn! What an eloquent and astute statement right in the moment.

[@adamobyrne2954]

Credit to Dan Harmon for being an actual human being about this. No excuses- an apology and genuine emotional regret. The man deserves serious credit for not allowing his genius to be an excuse to be shitty like so many others have done.

[@ArexuRj]

Amazing. Thank you so much for sharing such a delicate story.

[@Kabullo76]

hes fake as fuck , hes acting

[@epilepticwizard4800]

@@Kabullo76 how do you know?

[@Kabullo76]

@@epilepticwizard4800 why you murican are so naive?

[@epilepticwizard4800]

@@Kabullo76 I'm not American. Not even close. But seeing how you don't answer my question just goes to show how your opinion is based on feelings rather than facts. In short: you played yourself

[@Kabullo76]

@@epilepticwizard4800 bitch please, you're not murican ?? doesn't matter, you're still naive as fuck...🤗 he's acting btw😘

[@jolenefatigato5305]

Thank you. As hard as that must have been, this seems to be how healing begins. With humble hearts. Taking responsibility for our actions, and even our intentions. Stepping aside from our ego for a bigger perspective. We're all human, we all fuck up, and we all need forgiveness. With all the dissension we're dealing with right now, it's acts like these that will unite us instead of divide. I personally really needed to hear this today! Serendipity prevails once again! Thanks for taking the brave route. All the best to you and the badass lady involved!

[@tiatorus]

Jolene Fatigato what’s your thought on this? kzbin.info/www/bejne/rom9o2qKj7mNiLM You still want to thank him?

[@VincentVonDudler]

"Sixty iterations off the Central Finite Curve there's a Dan Harmon who loves his girlfriend with an intensity that far surpasses the concept of an intra-office romance with a somewhat attractive subordinate writer. His name is Simple Dan, but he's no dummy. He learned long ago that the greatest relationship he'd ever experience was with his current girlfriend. We captured that moment. We run it on a loop through Simple Dan's mind. And the chemical that it makes his brain secrete goes into every Simple Dan Simple Wafer's Wafer Cookie. Come home to the impossible flavor of knowing your girlfriend is enough. Come home to Simple Dan's."

[@thebackup2121]

Vincent Von Dudler Wow, you took advantage of the strength of Harmon's writing and used a reference to one of his most poignant and emotionally complex jokes (and the multiverse theory) to make a joke at his expense - Bedt Complisult Ever?

[@theycallmethefro]

That's rough dude. Real rough.

[@beaferoner]

Bravo.

[@Codethe_Road]

I thought it was pretty funny, 100%.

[@shendogg1]

Best KZbin comment ever

[@HiMyNameIsCayl]

Thumbs down for what he did but thumbs up for accountability. Forgive but never forget and learn from your mistakes.

[@matthewgleason7495]

I was the creepy nerd archetype for years and while it was entirely my fault I do wish the whole Me Too thing had happened when I was really young so maybe I would have thought about it instead of just seeing things as being about my emotions and whatever I was going through and ruining some really important friendships and hurting people.

[@mickeyconnor830]

That you didn't bother to puzzle it out for yourself, sooner, is the problem- not that others didn't tell you sooner.

[@matthewgleason7495]

@Mickey Connor yeah I get that. Still good that society is improving.

[@mickeyconnor830]

@@matthewgleason7495 I can certainly respect the honesty.

[@boat1280]

@@mickeyconnor830 What are you talking about? All people are is the product of their environment and what ideologies and ethics they're exposed to, filtered down. A lot of men are conditioned to think this godawful behavior is normal and they never challenge it because our entire society, including film and tv, portrays sex pest behavior as fine or even endearing. How many films and television shows portray creep shit as funny or heartwarming? It's everywhere across our entire culture. People grow up inhaling that shit from birth It's incredibly hard for people in a vacuum to truly question themselves. Talking shit to someone for admitting they behaved badly is pointless. Don't be part of the problem.

[@mickeyconnor830]

@@boat1280 You seem to have a low threshold for what constitutes, "talking shit." I made a valid enough criticism. On the one hand, I'm a man, reminding another man that he alone is personally accountable for his own toxic behavior, and in contrast, you've taken it upon yourself to criticize me for doing so. My interaction with him was intent upon reminding him not to blame society at large for his personal shortcomings, whereas what you've just said, approaches exactly the opposite. He agreed with me. I told him that I respect his honesty. That was the end of a brief-but-meaningful discussion. And whereas your opinion is, as a matter of course, quite welcome, in this case it's not immediately apparent that you've contributed anything helpful. In fact, it may have had just the opposite effect, as to that which you had intended. So perhaps you might learn to communicate more effectively, going forward, if you intend to engage in discussions of such grave consequence. Best of luck.

[@nasholston5112]

Not to downplay the seriousness of his admission. But as a longtime fan of Community it's crazy to find out that this is why he was fired as showrunner and was the reason Season 4 was terrible. Wow

[@FREE-lw4lb]

Nas Really puts in to perspective how this stuff was underwraps for so long and affected so much stuff. We'll prolly never know the extent.

[@heseme2]

Nas I'm not sure how literally we should take this statement.

[@narrowlightbulb]

I think we need further explanation. I could see it being 1 of many things, but if it was solely this then that's a pretty hard kept secret...

[@FREE-lw4lb]

narrowlightbulb Would it be hard to be kept tho I mean Weinstein actually raped women and was protected by those who wanted something. Dan was just a creep I could see people not talking about it.

[@FREE-lw4lb]

julie martinez Are you really tryna make it sound like I downplayed this man when I didn't?. I didn't say what he did was ok. Get over it Julie

[@Samantha-oi9pg]

The Incel community could learn a lot from this.

[@dcworld4349]

The incel community is about as large as actual nazi's and I'm not comparing and saying that they are nazi's. What I mean is that they are such a tiny faction that the media paints as this big powerful dark and hidden organization. When the truth is, anyone who comes out either as an incel or a nazi 99.5% of all people will think their complete idiots and don't care about what they have to say. Yes I think it's horrible too that one guy drove into a crowd because he felt he didn't get laid for being a good guy, being so stupid that he didn't realize that if your a good guy you first off don't expect to be rewarded for it and you most certainly don't punish random innocent people and can still call yourself a "nice guy". I'm much more worried about the people who think it's a good idea to bring 1600 year old teachings into the modern era, or the people who are so afraid to lose their way of life that they pull something like july 22. Those are the real types of men that both sane men and women should be worried about. The guys who talk with other guys about how women have it so easy because they don't have to work as hard to get laid as men do, are pathetic sure. But most of them are harmless cause they wouldn't dare to say any of those things in public let alone actually dare to do something in the real world. A small portion of men will get to have the most sex with the largest variety of women, while women get to be more picky and have more and better sex. It's just how nature works, hell I think it's only fair that they should get to have better mating opportunities then men given their the ones who have to deal with the consequences in a much larger degree. They even have less time to get their life, job and family in order, while a guy can still be a fuck up at 30 and he just needs to meet 1 woman who challenge him a little and give him a real relationship and he will want to grow up. So them getting to choose from the best men in any given field is natures way of making it more balanced.

[@MrJonsonville5]

@@dcworld4349 there are plenty of guys who are incels, but just don't know it because they've never heard the term, and don't know how to articulate it or don't recognize it. But there are plenty of people who are pretty incel-y on the inside.

[@dcworld4349]

@@MrJonsonville5 Depends on what context you are calling them incels, if your just talking about guys who just aren't able to get laid then yes there are plenty of incels. And in that context I'm technically an incel. But I don't blame women for not finding me attractive and not wanting to take the time to figure out how I could have some sort of sex life with them. It's my responsibility to show another type of interests if I ever wanted to take it in a sexual direction, I just don't want to risk ending up liking a woman and her then getting dissapointed that sex while not impossible. It could never be like the early romance part of a relationship where you can't keep your hands of each other. I just physically can't do it, and I would feel guilty and ashamed for having tricked someone into caring for me as more then a friend and not being able to satisfy her needs. But the incels I'm talking about are the one's who are jealous of guys because they work out and have great bodies which makes the odds of them getting laid higher. And think women are horrible because they don't choose them for being "a nice guy", that kind of mentality is just plain bullshit, but their rare and the media has hyped it up to something more then it really is.

[@MrJonsonville5]

@Bigus Dickus I didn't use the phrase "incredibly common," I said there are plenty of them. I don't think there's a direct female equivalent to male incels, but we all know there are some crazy women out there. There's a whole spectrum of crazy that females can find themselves on. Less of them seem to translate that into violent contempt for society though, maybe because of the difference in hormones and brain chemistry between the sexes. Idk, I'm no psychiatrist. I've never heard of a female incel perse, but there are some toxic women out there for sure.

[@Petergonzalezcomedy]

@@dcworld4349 it all comes down to the stupid population that can't get a grip on reality and accept Mother Nature as the cunt that she is for creating beautiful people and ugly people..for the stupid that can't accept it, they'll be jealous of muscle-heads and cause harm on others because in life there are stupid people that exist just for that.. I myself am not a stupid person, I've accepted Mother Nature as the cunt that she is, and have found a solution for not being able to get laid.. prostitutes.

[@KeeliaSilvis]

This is what I hope we move towards. People who have done wrong apologizing sincerely, showing introspection and self-reflection, and trying to make amends by reaching out to others. But, ignoring my own feelings, what matters most is what she thinks about this and what else she might need from him.

[@Stormwern]

And going to jail when appropriate.

[@cheesecakelasagna]

Apparently, she forgave him now. She appreciated his acknowledgement of the thing actually happened..

[@nukeninmgt1504]

crevice_coin Lazy troll is lazy.

[@tacodude98]

I wouldn't say all that matters is her response. Not because her response doesn't matter, but because that isn't the point of an apology. What he says won't change what happened or isn't supposed to make her forgive him. It's supposed to be an uncomfortable moment of self actualization and being able to admit out loud what you did, so that you can realize what you should've done instead and try to be a better person in the future. The added benefit of this apology is that it's on the web, and can be an example for others that we should admit who we are, warts and all.

[@shawnmoses8182]

Keelia Silvis hohl

[@HeadbangingGlory]

This raised the standards of what a legit apology should be. Not vague and ambiguous, honest about their thoughts and feelings to why they did what they did and being sincere for it.

[@McShag420]

Crazy how much I love Harmon's work, especially Community and also how much I love who Megan Ganz is and resent that, even drunk, he would do such a thing to such an amazing person. I do, however, respect the humanity it takes for him to totally admit all these terrible things he did and applaud the incredible amount of therapy hours I am sure he went through to get to this point.

[@herecomemacOnTT]

I never knew any of this controversy or anything relating to it, but I read what Megan had to say and agree that this is the best way to truly, honestly apologize.

[@tiatorus]

kittenesque kzbin.info/www/bejne/rom9o2qKj7mNiLM you cool with this too?

[@sippysquid9146]

@@tiatorus im cool with it

[@leebishop7591]

Harmon just described how we as men (mostly) react during times of "crushing" and advancing on a female. The before n actual time and the aftermath. Kudos Harmon. This was important to hear.

[@jessp8238]

Cyan Says Agreed!

[@kookiespace]

Please don't call women "females" >.>

[@mcallister2642]

spacekookie I’m confused, female is a term widely used to refer to women, and is in no way a slur nor is it a derogatory term. How is the usage here poor? In my opinion it is quite matter of fact... there are no negative connotations surrounding the word.

[@dennis_duran]

*laughs in gay*

[@mcallister2642]

SailingHobbit ok yeah the thing about men is fair, kinda makes it feel weird

[@ismeal231]

Sounds like the moral inventory you hear people take at an AA meeting.

[@HellocarlyK]

This 10:46 part hits so differently in 2023 in the worst way imaginable

[@Moardieb]

As a massive Harmon fan, I am dissapointed to learn that he did this, I thought better of him. That being said I am glad that he openly admits what he did, why he did it and to explain where he came from and that he understands why it was wrong. I hope it gives comfort to the writer he abused and that we can all learn from this. (Edit I'd like to add that I have tremendous respect for Harmon for doing this, it can't have been easy to admit this and it took a lot of courage, I am still disapointed that it happened but I am still a fan)

[@technicality1]

you thought /better/ of him? you thought BETTER of HIM? this BLATANT alcoholic and emotional wreck (though very smart, but then again a smart person would put their wisdom to better use) with a current hit TV show BLATANTLY making alcoholism seem cool, interesting, funny, what the fuck ever, AND being over-the-top violence-wise? THIS is the guy you were holding in such self-esteem? i'm not shitting on him, i LOVE dan harmon AND rick and morty, but that doesn't mean he is a good or bad person. his individual flaws come through in his creations, and when i see them, i am saddened to know this is how he exorcises these demons that i know quite well, because having evil in you may be a fight every day, but it is a fight you can win, EVERY. DAY. i'm not surprised, nor disappointed by hearing dan harmon did this, in fact, it only GORGES the artistic appreciation i have for him! cuz i know only a dirtbag like myself could look at life and make such hilarious, clever art out of pain and suffering. dan harmon is no angel, no savior. but he is no demon, no fallen god either. he's just a person, like the rest of us. he has his handicaps, you have yours, i have mine, and everyone else theirs. don't put your idols on a pedestal, don't even idolize them. because all they have left to do is fall back to normality, with YOU. and that isn't as bad as you think. i know dan is like me, because i know me. maybe you should do some self-study, and learn what humanity is really "all about."

[@sloganwade4994]

technicality1, you've somehow managed to completely miss the point of Rick and Morty. Rick's alcoholism isn't meant to be glorified, in fact it's one of his major flaws that often causes huge problems. The first scene in the whole show is literally him almost nuking a town because he's drunk and his depression has taken over. The show consistently paints Rick in a negative light, pointing out that while he's brilliant and does amazing things, he's also very destructive and commits atrocities. In fact, most characters in the show find Rick to be a horrible person beyond redemption, with Morty and a select few others who have seen beyond his bullshit being the only exceptions.

[@sloganwade4994]

Moardieb she actually accepted his apology and forgave him after this. She said that this should stand as an example of how to truly apologize to someone.

[@doomcloud3164]

Moardieb I am a huge fan of his, but my respect was left intact because he understood the pain that he caused this young woman and he is working on himself to be a better person for everyone around him. This is truly meaningful.

[@MrJonsonville5]

He wears his humanness on his sleeve. What he did is what many guys do no matter if they're in a position of authority or not. Most just don't have the balls to admit it like this, and if he wasn't a famous guy, he probably would have never talked about it. But all he's really done is articulated that he is in fact a normal hu-man male. I'm glad he talked it out in this way, it definitely puts him a half a rung above the other hu-man males who have gone through this and put a femalian through this.

[@doomcloud3164]

I am so thankful that you took ownership of your behaviour because it empowers every woman who has been in situations like this. This is also a path towards integrity. This is truly an apology and worthy of forgiveness. All the best.

[@tiatorus]

Doom Cloud what’s your thoughts on this behaviour of his: kzbin.info/www/bejne/rom9o2qKj7mNiLM

[@torontolarrivee7965]

This is what it looks like to redeem yourself with a sincere apology.

[@tiatorus]

TorontoLarrivee and how do you feel about this?? kzbin.info/www/bejne/rom9o2qKj7mNiLM

[@torontolarrivee7965]

@@tiatorus Pretty funny - thanks for sharing

[@oogiebee4309]

Awww dude. Dang. The most impressive display of honesty i've ever seen.

[@ikeencho9709]

Accountability and consciousness is a distilled product that deep, diluted introspection has to offer. And no matter what age you are, that's growth. That is what we all are working hard for. Wisdom. A toast to Harmon

[@Notimp0rtant523]

Wow. I’ve been living under a rock while dealing with my own personal struggles, including bad things I’ve done. This is an inspiration.

[@pluckybellhop66]

This had to be terrifying and being someone that's owed some deep apologies I appreciate that he did it just for the sake of hearing someone say something like this outloud. He didn't just apologize he put it. All. Out. There.

[@checkm8964]

tia torture ok you are spamming every comment with this. Yes it is a really fucked up joke, personally not one that I find funny at all. But at the end of the day it’s a dark fucked up comedy sketch, yeah it’s shitty but it’s also a joke. And jokes should not be viewed as reflective of a persons actual mental state, especially because that Dan Harmon is a much younger dan Harmon with a very different comedy style and a very different set of morals. Yes it’s fucked, but it’s not who Dan really is.

[@zacfoo]

One of the best videos on KZbin right here. Dropping the rock!

[@Lloyd-lg6fx]

I want to thank Dan Harmon for not only thinking this through, but for sharing it with all of us. We need to go through this process as a culture to get over the damaging environments we create and participate in through our entire lives.

[@tiatorus]

Lloyd 1701 thank him for this too? kzbin.info/www/bejne/rom9o2qKj7mNiLM

[@Lloyd-lg6fx]

@@tiatorus Hey there! Clearly the man has issues and has been problematic or even potentially criminally on occasion. But I can give him credit for one demonstration of what seemed to me to be good and possibly genuine behavior. Also, two years ago seems a bit of a stretch to go after someone's comment related to a very clearly specific event. I'll be happy to discuss current events if you'd like in the appropriate topic and venue. :D

[@Kenneth_A_H]

@@Lloyd-lg6fx its not real, its a parody of apology videos

[@kenmcnutt2]

One possible alternative is to not have romantic feelings for anyone you meet. Makes it a cold world, but it also keeps you out of some trouble.

[@christophervinje2931]

There comes a point in an "apology" like this when you expect the person to backpedal a bit, maybe point out a place where the other person was slightly responsible, or even try and save grace for themselves. Instead he continues to drive the point home in complete abandonment of how he would or will be viewed for this. Something remarkable at a time when the commonality the subject was unremarkable.

[@MissingNo99]

He is so honest to himself. He explains it without trying to make it look better than this horrible thing was. Especially when he's talking about our feelings and how we express ourselves everyone can learn something of it. He is a better person now.

[@Kabullo76]

nahhh is fake as fuck , hes acting

[@gentleman7407]

@@Kabullo76 your reasoning?

[@Kabullo76]

@@gentleman7407 he's fake as fuck , he's acting

[@Kabullo76]

@@gentleman7407 not to hard too understand btw , he's an actor is acting , did u get it??

[@SWbloodwolf]

i'll only say it's very interesting to hear a voice n the other side of these instances explain this in an analytical manner

[@secretdrone]

Much respect Dan Harmon. It takes balls to do this. He did, and his apology was accepted. Welcome to life. This is how you deal with life like an adult.

[@phasematerialsresearch9319]

Harmon back stage: See how easy it is to fool these idiots?

[@BigRedShadevil]

I appreciate that he finally was honest and realized what he did was wrong.

[@tiatorus]

Shannon Conder what’s your thoughts on this though? kzbin.info/www/bejne/rom9o2qKj7mNiLM

[@BigRedShadevil]

tia torture What about it? It’s some kind of short story about a child rapist. They used a very fake doll and not a real child in the film, unlike most movies about child rape. As a survivor and witness to child sexual abuse it doesn’t bother me. It’s not being glorified or celebrated. Dude even calls himself a monster. The sexual abusers I’ve known in my life never once thought what they were doing was wrong so dude in the story is more aware than the ones I’ve ran into in real life. Are you satisfied with your life now that you know my “thoughts on this”?

[@IceCreamJones57]

If everyone lived like this, I am not convinced the world would be “perfect” or find “peace” but I do believe that version of our world compared to this one, would be almost unrecognizable to this one. The fact someone with the fame/status he has is not only willing but able to do something like this brings a tear to my cynical eye because I often tell myself or lie and say that the world is destined to fail. And maybe it is, but I think with people like this in the world there will always be a force of resistance moving against the giant cog of chaos & malice that so often taint the screens we are so often glued to. This speech to me is a love letter to humanity to accept our fears, and to walk with them till they can no longer keep up, instead of being complacent and letting our fears or lies run circles around us till by the time we lift our heads we are already six feet deep… but so long as breathe is in our lungs we always have the opportunity to try again… to try and climb out of wherever we end up so we can hopefully finish off somewhere better for ourselves, so we can be better to others.

[@CuddlyPsycho1134]

The thing that hits me hardest about this is, I could see myself doing the exact same thing if I had been in his shoes.

[@stevenquing3228]

NOTHING IMPORTANT you are a fucking dipshit

[@RomanZolanski123]

As a woman, I understand that. This stuff stops happening when we can conversations like this. Breaking down vulnerabilities and character flaws in service of growth is the only way to step forward.

[@kapitankapital6580]

@@RomanZolanski123 Not really. Sexual harassment and assault are not character flaws, they're not something people do by accident, that they're not aware of. Dan Harmon's actions (whilst still reprehensible) are actually comparatively small fry compared to some of the stuff that goes on, especially in show business. When there is power without accountability, you will have people abuse that power. Obviously not every boss is a perpetrator of sexual assault, but you know what they say about bad apples. Simply talking about this stuff isn't good enough, we need to challenge the power structures that facilitate this sort of thing happening in the first place. As OP pointed out, the difference between a good guy and a bad guy can often be in the power they have.

[@tiatorus]

Mike Walterich kzbin.info/www/bejne/rom9o2qKj7mNiLM

[@epilepticwizard4800]

@@tiatorus bro this is a skit, not some great evidence that is worth being copy/pasted on every commnent

[@nikkimolnar4604]

This is exactly how it should be. Apologies are valuable and worthy and incredibly important in the proccess of our collective healing from structural inequalities in the society WE ALL live in. But not any kind of apology, only this kind of an apology. Where the person benefiting from social inequalities talks about this as a CRIME, showing light not just on themselves and their morally wrong actions, but also how these morally wrong actions fit in a system of structural inequalities. As Dan is talking about it as a CRIME, helps us all understand it as a crime.

[@Distractingly_Dope]

I think the other great example here is what she did. She handled herself in such a way that made it clear to him what he was doing wasn’t fair. He ignored it but she was clear, respectful, and kind about his inappropriate behavior and I think that’s to be applauded in a world where everyone attacks everyone instead of trying to help them be better by appealing to their better nature.

[@eggheadchristian]

This DID happen like 10 years ago before everyone turned into pitchfork wielding rage machines, haha.

[@Distractingly_Dope]

Christian Eggleton that is TOO true

[@Spaecefaeries]

There is nothing virtuous about being "Kind" about inappropriate behaviour. There is absolutely NO obligation to "help someone be better" while they are mistreating you in this way. I think what you're saying in this comment is dangerously misguided. I don't know if you've ever had someone in a position of power over you in the work place act inappropriately, target you for two years, resent you and say horrible things toward you and then proceed to treat you cruelly (all in Harmon's own words) but I suspect you haven't because you clearly have very little empathy for what it's like to be in that position. Why on earth do you expect women to be respectful and kind to someone who has been absolutely disrespectful, unkind and exploitative of a work relationship to them? If someone is being treated this way, their first priority is and should be to seek reparations, to look after themselves, not to be considerate towards the abuser.

[@eartianwerewolf]

eh, I think it would have been equally valid for her to not forgive him. Forgiveness is a gift, never something that is deserved.

[@_Ikelos]

Yeah 2 years later she did. Im sure she didn't egg him on at all and is 100% just a victim. Women don't have self-agency after all, right? Not like she could've been upfront. This happened because they were both spoiled brats who can't deal with situations like adults. "I lied to myself boohoo" what a load of bullshit. Both of them are trash and you're trash for falling for it. Yall are acting like he violently raped her every weekend and like she was tied to a wall incapable to say no. I hope China nukes California tomorrow. Really wonder if you pussies will find the time to cry about this petty bullshit then.

[@the_fat_ghost]

This has really helped me.

[@jordankloosterman2966]

Thank you for that, I feel like I learnt something.

[@tiatorus]

Jordan Kloosterman you are thanking him? What about this kzbin.info/www/bejne/rom9o2qKj7mNiLM

[@gratemusic3008]

One of the most descriptive, seemingly sincere apologies i have ever seen. Maybe we can all learn or be better people from his experience

[@swardist]

I love how excited Spencer is at the end, after all that.

[@tonylovesmusic111]

That was more than "7 minutes exactly.." lol

[@joshtrent7739]

Lmao very very good point!

[@birdgvee4982]

If more people stepped up for their mistakes like that, the world would be a better place. We all make mistakes, and we all damage things. It‘s easy to say „oh man what an asshole“ but so many people seem unable to learn from it.

[@brentjamesonparker]

Source?

[@Kabullo76]

hes fake as fuck , hes acting

[@avidodd26]

I have gained a new level of respect for Dan Harmon because he didn't have to say this in our current climate, but he did.

[@tiatorus]

Avid Odd you find this respectable too?? kzbin.info/www/bejne/rom9o2qKj7mNiLM

[@HarpersInfiniteSystems]

Fuck, this is legit. Forgive him or hate him, this is genuine. Being genuine, in public, as a public figure, is unusual. This is insightful and valuable. I feel that it is brave and good, and I am glad to have heard it. I don’t know who the woman in question is, but I hope she is doing well despite Mr. Harmon’s very bad behavior. Remember: do not shit where you eat. Work is not the place for sexual advances.

[@Matt_10203]

One of the only apologies I feel is genuine. Obviously it doesn’t change the matter nor make it more palatable - but I respect the ability to clinically deconstruct yourself on a stage like that and not pull any punches doing it.

[@eben7248]

This is the best apology on the internet.

[@tiatorus]

duck kzbin.info/www/bejne/rom9o2qKj7mNiLM

[@tiatorus]

Mari Onette kzbin.info/www/bejne/rom9o2qKj7mNiLM

[@willkoestner4159]

"If you can lie to yourself you can lie to anyone". I find it so interesting he said that like that. My most basic unit of philosophy on which all others that I want to live by stem, for years, has been," If I can be honest with myself, I'll never have the need to lie to anyone else".

[@thegoose7870]

Respect 👊 Takes a strength to take responsibility to admit your wrong

[@tiatorus]

The Goose you respect this ? kzbin.info/www/bejne/rom9o2qKj7mNiLM

[@TheWolfjak]

“Wah I’m a fucking creep!” Wow Dan, so brave, very stunning.

[@DLSacks]

I think Dan's meaning is clear, but I want to point out that when he says he did it by "not thinking about it" I think he truly means that he refused to verbalize it. He was aware and conscious of what he was doing, he knew he was telling a lie when his girlfriend asked him or others pointed out his behavior, but the "lying to myself" part is refusing to verbalize it to yourself. Never putting it into words in your mind. Never saying it out loud even in private. But the knots of anxiety, and breaking up with his girlfriend, etc. shows that he was constantly thinking about it, obsessed with it, but refused to put it into words, even privately, because then the facade comes down. And especially for someone who is capable of verbalizing complex emotions it's like an extra layer of defense if he denies himself to verbalize it mentally, or uses feminist language against others if they accuse him of inappropriate behavior. People who do harmful things KNOW they're doing them, they just refuse to verbalize their actions and behavior. And it's clear that Dan understands that, but I thought it was worth teasing out.

[@TroutBoneless]

This took courage. Its easy to hide and deny and issue a written apology, but to come out and tell us how he went down that path, that can help people. Someone might see this and realize theyre halfway to where dan went

[@julesdudes853]

this video is so fuckin important

[@aspenschannel7740]

Key Points - Speak truthfully - Don't abuse your power

[@mrpicky1868]

how is this old wizard just 45?

[@RecoveryHacker]

"If you can lie to yourself you can lie to everyone. It's really easy." - This may be the most profound thing I've ever heard someone say.

[@murdockscott]

Well that seemed like a step forward. I hope it helped everyone involved and maybe set a standard for honest dialog.

[@tiatorus]

Murdock Scott is this a step forward or back? kzbin.info/www/bejne/rom9o2qKj7mNiLM

[@iamshaman]

Dude.. it's good you're talking about it, as you think about it and gain more experience through life.. and gain more control in both your love life and within your profession... your creativity will come, and you'll remember to treat yourself and others with dignity and respect by repeatedly practicing healthy boundaries you help to regulate yourself

[@fastpicker89]

Man there are some mad people in these comments. I’ve watched this many times over the years as a reminder of how to take ownership of your faults. Whatever whatever, but it’s a master class in public apology. He threw it all on the table, she forgave him publicly. Be mad all you want but it’s easier to shout in a comment section than actually be in those shoes and handle it the way it was handled here.

[@danmcmurphy2823]

5:53 this statement stuck out to me as probably the most powerful in the entire speech.

[@cptmuska]

Spencer in the end. :) I've got your back buddy.

[@dragonicmonkey7]

THAT'S why Rick has that catch phrase...

[@Overton_Windows]

I only just found out the person he’s talking about plays a huge role in It’s Always Sunny. Since 2016 at least. Glad he’s aware enough to do this, glad she forgave him, and very glad she’s thriving as a writer and producer. I just watched “The Gang Tends Bar”, that was all her. A number of other genuinely great episodes (times up for the gang, the gang escapes etc) as well. Megan Ganz is awesome.

[@ZeranZeran]

She shouldn't have accepted his apology. This man is a PDO

[@handoverthegummiesslater7712]

@@ZeranZeran The fuck is a PDO? There's like a million acronyms for this combination of letters. And for the record I think it requires a lot more strength to forgive rather than to remain hateful.

[@ZeranZeran]

@@handoverthegummiesslater7712 PAID-O-FILE youtube removes the actual word. Settle down

[@ZeranZeran]

@@handoverthegummiesslater7712 Also if you think this man is innocent, you are disgusting. Go watch the video he made with a baby doll, you're probably one too.

[@handoverthegummiesslater7712]

@@ZeranZeran Ii literally have no idea what you're talking about. calm the fuck down.

[@TheTrueGhostt]

Hes great at putting perspective and thought into words, its really nice to hear like an audiable discription of the inner workings of a guy. i would really interpret every word he says, seriously.

[@t.fairuz29]

Woah I get Jeff's arc. Also, mad respect for the courage to own up like this.

[@tiatorus]

T. Fairuz do you respect this also? kzbin.info/www/bejne/rom9o2qKj7mNiLM

[@eduard5517]

@@tiatorus You truly don't have anything better to do with your time than spamming everyone in the comment section with that shitty link. You are making comments about a video that was made 10+ years ago (also he apologized for it); get on with your worthless life!

[@Xeroforte]

@@Kabullo76 No one asked you, moral police

[@Kabullo76]

Dumb bitch

[@noanahoum5644]

lots of respect for this thankyou

[@brooksbrooks6805]

You can clearly tell this isnt a brushing off. He thought about this for a long time and is completely genuine. If you can't eventually forgive someone who does this kind of humiliation admission because its the right thing to do, who the fuck CAN you forgive?

[@IllegalCharacters]

For a real kick in the pants you can check out the episode commentaries that have Harman and Ganz on together. Woof.

[@yourstrooly]

I feel good about humanity today because of this vid.

[@MrJonsonville5]

@@sourncorrupt this is just the human experience. Men and women can't help who they're attracted to, only how they deal with it. Without a "wrong way" reference point, there would be no lessons to be learned, which is another important part of the human experience. Because of his experience, he (and hopefully those of us who have watched this) will think and act differently the next time a situation like this presents itself. That has a lot of value.

[@jordanmcgaw5591]

What a guy. That takes gut to do that on a big stage, sets the marl for men and women around the world, fess up and mobe on as people, apologize and recognise mistakes. Good on him

[@borismuller86]

I forgave him when she did. If we can’t forgive someone that shows true remorse and is forgiven by the victim then it is simply a witch hunt.

[@maxsrebro6072]

Boris Müller witch Hunt implies there was no error or guiltiness on part of the accused which is not the case. Not arguing with your point necessarily though

[@borismuller86]

Max Srebro good point! Some innocent people have been accused though.

[@eartianwerewolf]

*very few innocent people have been accused- seriously go down the list . Also forgiveness is given, not deserved. It is everyone's choice how they decide to proceed and they should not be shamed if they do not accept an apology . It is their lives, their feelings, their decision.

[@borismuller86]

eartianwerewolf my point is SHE gave forgiveness.

[@tiatorus]

Boris Müller do you forgive this too kzbin.info/www/bejne/rom9o2qKj7mNiLM

[@vatatheoanonymous3705]

Everybody makes mistake, not justifying what he did, just saying most people don't apologize on a stage about it. Good on you for learning Dan(not that you'll ever read this, and if you do, get some sleep broseph).

[@julianbaldwin6992]

This is respectable

[@armanddehorta]

"If you don't think about it you're gonnah get away with not thinking about it." :)