Dating While Trans + Frunsi Standalone Drawing Tablet Review

[@ArtsyGeo]

This is fantastic advice! As an AFAB non-binary person, it's extremely important to know one's self worth and what you will or will not tolerate when it comes to how other people treat you, especially when it comes to romantic/physical relationships. (P.S. sometimes it can be particularly hard to be perceived as your gender as a non-binary person, since many people will just see you as one or the other binary gender and assume they're attracted to you because of that, and most people won't even consider that you could be non-binary unless you explicitly tell them! :') This is based on my own personal experience.)

[@adorablepandaring1975]

great advice!! thanks sm bro🫶

[@pixelalien5059]

a small bit of advice, T4T relationships are very good if you don't have the patience to deal with educating a cis person (sorry cis people) ofc it depends on if you have a preference for some sexual organs but T4T relationships are special in the sense that you both share a very personal thing about your identity, and you can be exclusively T4T you do NOT have to date cis people just like how cis people do not have to date you :3

[@RadPaxOfficial]

Yes! T4T is soooo good. If it wasn’t for my own dysphoria of AFAB bits I’d have dated a trans man a long time ago. I look I’ve T4T relationships they’re so cuuuute

[@zolizard]

got a gross anti-trans ad during this, glad theyre wasting their money on the wrong audience lol. I like the way you articulate things, this video was very informative

[@RadPaxOfficial]

That’s kinda hilarious but oh my gosh. And thank you!

[@adorablepandaring1975]

i feel this so much as a transmasc person omg, dating is such a struggle and it’s so hard to balance my own image with how i want to appeal to partners

[@RadPaxOfficial]

The pain is real

[@running_in_circles9589]

THE VOICE CHANGE MADE ME SO HAPPY

[@_peeblar_]

I was so surprised to hear how deep your voice is now. The last time I watched one of your videos, you just announced that you were finally able to start testosterone. It's really nice to see how much your voice has changed in just a couple years. I'm so happy for you, man!! ❤❤❤

[@Chaos_Critter]

Been watching your channel for a few years now, and this one in particularly hit home based on my afab friends' experiences. My boyfriend (trans man, I'm cisgender female) has also experienced several negative dating experiences due to his identity. As a result I love to watch informative videos like this one to make sure he feels validated and understood. So glad to hear that you yourself are finally in a healthy relationship that you deserve :) thank you for this video and perspective, love your videos

[@RadPaxOfficial]

You’re soooo sweet. I appreciate and love how much of an ally you are! My DMs on twitter and email are always open if you need specific advice ❤️

[@Jupiterfangs]

Thank you for creating such a comfortable space on your channel. I’m a young trans man and I’ve honestly been having such a tough week/life but your video(s) just helped to make me feel more calm and comfortable in my trans self so thank you so much ❤

[@RadPaxOfficial]

Big hugs!

[@texgum833]

Thank you so much as a trans person myself I will take this advice with heart. I have watched you for a while & find your content a great eye opener. Your voice sounds so lovely & I'm happy that your transition is going decently well.

[@sprout12730]

This was so helpful to hear and so validating for me as a trans masc person. It's been super hard to pass as a guy especially with how short I am, but I also have the luck of having somewhat masc features. But It's good to know that there will be people who will like me for however I am or present as! ^^

[@RadPaxOfficial]

There will always be someone for you. Just be yourself! And love who you are!

[@lucii_tan]

As an AFAB nonbinary person (don't mind the avatar of my KZbin channel being feminine, she's not me lol), I already got tons of straight cis men flirting with me because I'm closeted. One of them even insisted that I become his "girlfriend" even through I said "no" multiple times, and was also making me disphoric in every way possible, he even asked my chest size...ugh. I really hope to date someone that sees me as nonbinary someday, but this is getting very hard.

[@RadPaxOfficial]

You will find that someone, I promise. I swear pan and bi people will be your best bet. My bf is pansexual and is happy with my GNC self

[@foregroundeclipse8725]

I have conflicting feelings about being trans. I don't hate being trans but being trans has been a painful experience at times. It's hard to explain. Anyways great video dude! 🏳️‍⚧️

[@kingoftheclouds8688]

Thank you for the advice, I greatly appreciate it. I haven’t dated a lot of people. I really resonated with some of what you said. Thank you for making this video, I really appreciate it. You are an amazing person and your vioce is so comforting. I love you videos, they have helped me so much. Dating has been hard at times for me. One time, I was dating this girl and when her mom found out we were dating, and that I was trans. She said you need to break up with this guy right now. We didn’t formally end the relationship and when we came back from Winter Break, she said “ I’m gonna go say hi to my boyfriend”. I responded with”send my love to your new lover.”Her new boyfriend was cisgendered. Later she told me, that her mom made her break up with me. I hate when parents get in the middle of a relationship, and are like you shouldn’t date them. That is not you as the parents decision, it is the kid’s decision. If your kid really likes the person, then that is great. It’s really hard when you do nothing wrong, and some parents decide to butt in and decide weather you are good enough to date their kid. If you are not, you get the boot. I didn’t do anything wrong, I was just being myself. I guess her mom didn’t like that I was trans, and thought it wasn’t good that I was dating her daughter. Keep on being your amazing self, and keep on making videos. Sorry for the rant.

[@RadPaxOfficial]

I’m so sorry that happened. You will find your someone one day, I know it. ❤️

[@kingoftheclouds8688]

@@RadPaxOfficial Thank you!!! I have a partner and it’s going good so far.

[@LunaLove1]

I love your voice, it reminds me of Raine Whispers from owl house with how introspective it sounds and the vocal fraying mwah 🤌✨

[@RadPaxOfficial]

Wow, thank you!

[@jellofish1455]

I haven't watched your videos for a long time and just randomly decided to watch this video, and man, your transition progress hit hard! Congrats!

[@sezi9plays]

Thanks for sharing Pax. These are great tips and I hope they help out many trans people that are new to dating. It's been great to listen to another of your videos. I totally understand if you were unable to upload, make videos when it is the right time for you.

[@radicalpasta7040]

This is a great video that I found very informative. Im a closeted non-binary person. I currently can't be open about who I am because I live with a transphobic family member. So far I am very inexperienced in dating because I don't wanna start dating until I am able to be out. Thank you so much for the advice. I will try to keep some of the things you said in mind whenever I do end up start dating.

[@spoosh13x13x13]

I doubt your gonna read this but im gonna say it anyways.. Im beyond happy to see your with what sounds like a amazing person. Theres nothing better then finding the right one who see you for who you are. and cares and loves you for who you are not your body or sex... I like to say it's Also its nice to see your art keeps getting way better.. Anyways Thank you for sharing both the info and your art..

[@RadPaxOfficial]

Ahhh sobs ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🥺

[@achannel4485]

I love how your voice sounds now :)

[@RadPaxOfficial]

Thank you!

[@carbonatedsmoothie6078]

oh my gosh congrats on your voice I was just watching a different video of yours and it's so different it's really nice to be reminded by hearing other trans mascs that my voice could pass as manly one day

[@blooop1286]

This is honesty wild because i was certain this channel was lost to time for me or maybe it was just a fever dream but you were my first introduction to the idea of being trans and now here I am years later embracing it and living true to myself. Thanks Pax

[@Kittyboi.]

As a transmasc who still hasn’t been able to do anything to medically transition the thought of dating has been kinda scary for me, especially since I think I might be gay as well. I also have some trauma from toxic platonic relationships so I kinda struggle opening up to new people, I’m also autistic!💀 This video was really helpful though! I’ll make sure to keep your advice in mind if I ever do start dating ^-^

[@AlcmeneUndertaker]

Pax, I'm so happy for you

[@amysaur7430]

Woah omg your voice has gotten a lot deeper! So happy for you

[@mk-aka-morgan8386]

“Drawing while Trans” omg me everyday 👏👏👏

[@Mad_Alyx]

I think for me one of the biggest hurdles is being so bound to dating apps. It's always so surface level and trying to meet people feels so difficult for me.

[@RadPaxOfficial]

Felt that one.

[@lemonmeat]

past relationships with cis people make me happy i found out what T4T is

[@blueppaw4490]

When an ex friend started to transition it was a nightmare not to change the names, i knew her for +6 years as a name and now i would have to change it XD but with patience everything worked out, something that helped us was to give her a funny nickname, it was a funny name but still feminine, I think it's a good idea to make the transition smoother and more relaxed. I wish things had turned out differently but that's life sometimes

[@sealacious]

Ooo new vid from the goblin king himself :3

[@uhjn]

Lets go, You go Bro!

[@hircenedaelen]

Loved the art on this one!

[@DragonFireN14duh]

14:43 As someone who did (Idk what to consider myself but I go by she/he), can confirm, they will see you only as a girl/woman rather than who you are. I understand why he considered me a girl gender-wise, but I made it clear to him from the beginning. When I questioned him about respecting my pronouns, he said it was fine and it's just a name and pronouns, it's not important. He also didn't like when I didn't wear more feminine things rather than masculine or androgynous looking things. The point is yeah, don't, it's probably not worth it.

[@hllyenaylleth9576]

Do you ever wonder when life went wrong and down the drain? Sometimes it's one choice mistake based on emotions that build into one big lie. Eventually you'll wake up, you'll notice that things went wrong and you'll wonder when it started. That's when you'll look back and notice it

[@zachwright200]

Happy birthday dude :) early, belated, or on time, I hope you have a good one

[@RulerMyriam]

Yo! Congrats my guy!

[@straneas3099]

Im (afab) genderfluid and im planning on transitionning because i feel most of time male, i cannot even image myself living only being female and having breast and all those. And it would be easier for me to look fem when i look more naturally masc than looking masc when im very fem rn. I did ask myself sometimes if anyone would ever love me romantically and take me seriously. I can't date a lesbian, even if i want to be a pretty fem boy, im still a boy and i actually feel rarely like a girl. For gay man it's more complicated but i know finding one that respects me when i feel female will be really really hard. Those moments are rare but they still exist. So bi, pan, and omni (like me) peoples are my way to go. I just turned 17 less than a week ago and i never had a partner. Im socially awkward/anxious so talking to other is difficult. I will need to take T in secret after i become 18. My mom believes we're to young to know so asking is not really an option. I will finish high school when im 19, and so im hoping my school doesn't tell my mom! I know she will never understand me and even if she try to be supportive it will be complicated. I don't think i will find love in my school. Even tho im in art school and 3/4 of the people in my class are confirmed gay. My 2 best friends are also queer, 1 is a cis bi girl and the other is a trans gay man. We're planning to go to live in Canada together as soon as we can. I hope we will all find someone here who will love and respects us

[@foregroundeclipse8725]

As a transgender man ftm and a gay man, I'm a bit too scared to put myself out there yet. But I hope one day I can find a boyfriend who loves me for the man I am. I'm currently 22 years old and I'm still left to wait to transition. I hope I can transition too. Because testosterone and top surgery as well as bottom surgery are very important to me. My insurance dosen't cover trans healthcare either. So it's a bit complicated right now .

[@Chicken_5ugget]

Yay! I can add something to my birthday list, also I felt the poor part to my soul😮😂

[@foregroundeclipse8725]

I guess I'm insecure a bit too. I'm worried no one will love me because I'm trans but also because I don't have the ideal male body I want yet. :(

[@foregroundeclipse8725]

Also I dont pass very well. I have a very chubby feminine baby face and big thighs/curves which I'm not a fan of because it makes me dysphoric and it makes me get misgendered alot too. I hope by working out everyday and drinking only water everyday , that one day my face will become chiseled and I'll have a muscular body . Fingers crossed. I know it will take years and years until I see progress but I'm determined to make it happen.

[@foregroundeclipse8725]

My gender dysphoria has been really bad. I wish I wasn't born this way. Having breast tissue and having no male genitalia hurts alot. I hope one day I can make it and eventually become comfortable.

[@mbmjks2786]

Thanks the boy 👍

[@isnezzed]

This an interesting video, but now I worry for my friend. He hasn't medically transitioned yet but he told me that when he came out to his bf he was iffy about it, but they're still together long distance. Should I be concerned for him? I got a slight feeling his bf doesn't really see him as the person he wants to be.

[@RadPaxOfficial]

Sadly this is gonna be between your friend and his bf. While I would voice that concern, what he chooses will be his choice.

[@isnezzed]

@@RadPaxOfficial It's ight, just wanted a trans persons perspective

[@randomdaydreamer9970]

Please don't interpret this as trying to start any kind of argument, I'm asking this respectfully. I just feel like I need to ask, would not wanting to date people who were assigned female mean that you would be entirely okay with dating a trans woman who looks indistinguishable from a cis woman in every regard? And would the opposite also apply? As in not wanting to date a trans man indistinguishable from a cis man.

[@RadPaxOfficial]

I’m a little confused by this comment but if I understand it right. You’re staying if you are into just women and find a trans woman who passes, is that okay? Yes. If you are a man then you are straight. Not wanting to date trans men is fine because you are not into men. I think I understood that right?

[@randomdaydreamer9970]

​@@RadPaxOfficial I apologize I'll clarify. I meant that in the video you said you wouldn't want to date anyone with afab anatomy. But if it's only afab anatomy you don't like, would that mean you'd be okay with dating a fully passing trans woman who's had bottom surgery? Since that wouldn't be afab anatomy? I mean this as a genuine question.

[@apropercat4922]

Gay here and CIS man, have autism and I am having trouble dating. I know you're disabled and I'd like advice on how to date with limited mobility, even if it's from a trans person who's disabled.

[@RadPaxOfficial]

I'm actually gonna make a video on dating while disabled!! Keep your eyes out for it ♥️♥️♥️

[@hovaneeeseotse1112]

Don't you kinda hate it when people use your sexuality without really knowing what it is. Im pan, but sometimes when I meet other "pan" people... Its like... Are you though?

[@hovaneeeseotse1112]

And its always dudes, who it feels like your just saying your pan... But then you care about how feminine people are... Thats like... Not what pan is. Its not liking femboys, or tomboys, or having transfetishes... Its liking people for being a person. Or whatever.

[@zachariahm.kemper7406]

Pride is all year round

[@szklaneszko5736]

Lov u Pax ^^

[@TheBigJayAgenda]

Amazing voice!

[@RadPaxOfficial]

thank youuuuuu

[@TheBigJayAgenda]

@@RadPaxOfficial I did not expect you to notice my comment

[@drawingstuff_ig]

YOU GO KINGGGG I'M SO HAPPY FPR YOUUUU💗 you are such a massive inspo for me both as an artist and as a trans guy;)