Daughter - How

[@littlebopeep3182]

Anyone else here in 2023 and remembered this song? I used to cry to this when I was a teen. Still brings back those same emotions.

[@hornachos]

im in 2098

[@huseyinduran5001]

it was a beautiful song to cry, daughter and london grammar ❤

[@wednesdayaddams7033]

Same, i was a teen when i cried and i'm an adult when u cry again

[@AutomataMarz]

I’m 29 and cryin rn tbh

[@rodrigoundaa]

2023, im 48 an im crying like a baby with this one

[@aly3558]

As someone who suffers from complex ptsd depression, and severe social anxiety including agoraphobia, this video hits hard. Finding safety in isolation is one of the loneliest things.. and finally getting out the door becomes both a celebration but one filled with devastation and reminders of loss. Coming home is the return to one's own sanctuary and prison. Thank you @OhDaughter, Ian Forsyth, Jane Pollard, Stuart Evers and Marama Corlett (and everyone else involved) for making this beautiful but heartbreaking video. I can't wait to see you live!! Lots of love x.

[@seesaythinkthings]

+Aly i can relate. someone who i truly love is suffering something as similar as to what you're describing. It pains me so much that the bridge between us has been burnt, but I love her too much to know that it's for the best. Restless nights, anxiety attacks, those were hard times. I hope she knows I'm still there for her even though she doesn't talk to me anymore. Sorry for pouring out on a youtube comment. This song has hit me like a bullet train since the first time I've heard it.

[@sinaiguess]

@@seesaythinkthings I can totally relate to your comment. This song breaks my heart, because I can just think about my ex-boyfriend and how we parted ways due to the relationship growing toxic and him struggling immensely with depression. I didn't want to leave him even though I wasn't that happy in the relationship anymore and it was hard, in the end he left me. It's probably for the better, since we both became kinda toxic for each other and just argued too much, but it hurts that the bridges have been burnt. I still think about him a lot and I always wonder whether he is thinking about me too. But we will both get through this, even though I don't know you. I don't know why I'm writing this comment, I feel like I just had to...if that makes any sense. I feel like we both know what it's like to truly love someone and I'm so happy that someone finally seems to understand, because people would always say stuff like "If he's so toxic, why don't you just leave him?" and they couldn't understand that it's not as easy as that. You can't just leave someone you truly love and move on, moving on is so hard. Okay, this went way too deep, oops...

[@Uncle_Neil]

Wherever you are Aly, I hope it is better. Tears.

[@ohdaughter]

'How', from the new album 'Not To Disappear'.

[@sisicreative5306]

Thank you for beautiful life changing music:)

[@pleasewatchdumbdumbbyredve24]

yas

[@AhmedAli-ng5od]

As always, you guys were amazing!

[@alyssamsipe9123]

the red dress, its connected to both videos where the man picks up a red dress for his wife and the women wheres a red dress on her prowles

[@yusefd1272]

epic

[@mapt1230]

The outburst cry is so painful to watch. Because almost all of us here who goes back to this song had felt it. Over and over...

[@LaughingNabashin]

This plays every now and then at work. None of my colleagues have ever noticed or are even aware of this band's existence, and so I always make the effort to point this song out to them when played. I ❤ this band so much!

[@Malciar]

I think the locked house is her emotions, because we can't "selectively numb", as much as we'd like to. She goes outside because she wants to feel joy and wonder again, but by allowing herself to feel, all the pain and loss she had been repressing came rushing back too. It's easier to feel nothing sometimes.

[@doppelgangerstudios]

+Alexa Kellee good analysis

[@intronaut8582]

+Alexa Kellee Or, much more likely, she suffers OCD and/or agoraphobia.

[@arturskimelis527]

+Intronaut I was thinking the exact same thing. The blur might be a representation of anxiety, fear or frustration. The whole video gives me a story about being trapped with few moments of freedom or relief. Anxiety disorders definitely make the cut. I would however think this is not agoraphobia since she was happy seeing the clouds feeling the wind and open space. Agoraphobia would render one in constant discomfort in open spaces. The moment she experienced the blur (anxiety) she locked herself away in her house. This gives me a strong clue that it's Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. However it's hard to know since very few clues are given about her thoughts at that moment. Anyway, she looked very free on that beach. Agoraphobia would do the opposite - it would make her feel fearful of open spaces. It seemed to me that she was compelled to be in that house because of the blur ( whatever it may be ). -For all we know, something bad could have happened to her outside, and that gave her the compulsion to stay indoors.

[@ForeverFashionGirl21]

yep. oh gosh this hits home. I repress my emotions so much.

[@peterpowis4145]

i'm guessing most people have felt like this at some time or other in their life, although we probably all feel it's unique to us....can't stop listening to this song!!

[@Δ-Δ-Δ-Δ]

This song to me is about leaving depression behind. The girl starts locked up in her house by her own accord. Suddenly, she decides to try and see the world, the beauty in it and is so overwhelming that she cannot contain anymore the pain she's been enduring, she frees herself by screaming to the ocean and letting things go. Then she gets back one last time and finds the red dress (for me, a representation of how she'll leave the aforementioned house and will start a new stage in her life). In personal terms, is about letting the pain go away and having to deal with the emptiness that stays with you when the whole thing's over. Great song!!! Daughter, you're my favorite band. Please, keep up the good work!!!

[@shantottobrigade9994]

This video and song remind me how my life was nothing... alone... full of sadness and fears. Then I tried and I tried to live, to feel loved many times... but nothing. I gave all myself to the others and now I’m alone again destroyed from people that was literally fake and selfish. I cry every time I hear to this song but in some way I feel better. This song is pure life and feelings.

[@codygreene9067]

Saw Daughter live at the Granada in Kansas and they sound awesome live. My ex actually introduced me to this band and I ended up standing next to her during the concert but she only glanced at me and we didn't speak a word to eachother the whole time. It was incredibly surreal standing next to this girl who I loved so much and who showed me the band that was playing live during this moment, and not speaking to her or kissing her. Anyway. Daughter is awesome and their music is incredibly special to me now because it's linked to one of the most intensely emotional moments in my entire life. Holly Sampson I love you.

[@GeneralPrime]

wow...

[@ariannavandeventer914]

say it in her face

[@Overcrox]

I was at that show too. Wow... I hope things are well with you.

[@codygreene9067]

Just taking it one day at a time.

[@blazingheart2062]

Chubby MG Each day you will find yourself a bit more..

[@ksenijagospic2745]

I used to deal with bulimia and depression for a very long time. It was a hard period and through out it I would listen to Daughter s music. Now whenever those problems seem to be reapiring I go back to this beautiful music and melodies and they remind me how I went through it all and how I came out as a winner and I feel so proud and powerful. Remember no matter what you're dealing with it will all be alright eventually, it will only make you greater and stronger.

[@jxson7290]

as soon as the full instrumental kicked in at the beginning, I was struck by a huge nostalgic but sad feeling

[@joymechell277]

Was recently diagnosed with OCD, anxiety , and major depression ...this song feels like an anthem almost 😌 it's nearly impossible to describe my mind to someone who's normal . Reading these comments and seeing that I'm not the only one and how the song soothes and is relatable to people everywhere is kind of uplifting ...daughter does it again...makes me feel a little less crazy

[@Desertsnake15]

I FIGURED IT OUT! KEEP READING! All threee songs: Numbers, Doing the Right Thing and How ARE correlated. you see... "How" depicts the beginning of this girl's love life. It shows her as a shut in, not knowing much about the real world. A "virgin" of sorts. The thought of if she's an actual virgin is debatable since it is shown that she has a significant other. However, this significant is giving her second thoughts and causing her sadness....hence the lyrics in the song. "how come, he's the one to let me down..." Upon realizing that she gave her heart to the wrong one, she lets out her frustration and sadness at the ocean, a place Elena said she has always thought keeps alot of secrets. We move forward to "Numbers". Now, at the end of "How" we see she takes up the infamous red dress, then in "Numbers" we see she wears it and takes a night out on the town, going after what we can infer to be past lovers. All of which she performed some sort of voodoo on, making them cough up blood. However, the last guy (the one with the curly hair and nice face) we see she takes her time with this one, even lingering her finger on his picture. We can then infer that the last guy was the guy that FIRST broke her heart in "How". We know this to be true since in the "How" music video, there's an actual picture of him that she kept in her box of love trinkets from him. FInally, in "Doing the Right Thing" we see she has become an old woman, who had settled down and found love; the old man. We see the old man getting her red dress washed at the laundry then bringing it back to her, but she has withered into a shadow of her former self. We can infer that she regretted her actions all those years ago and the song lyrics makes us think that not even her own children want anything more to do with her. The only one left is her lover, the old man. But she can't even bring herself to look at him even though he, probably, accepted her past and loves her still. We just see her staring at the television, something Elena said was a fear of hers; becoming this dried up old woman, that can't take back the things she's done.

[@MountyDani13]

+Azrael moonsilver Great depiction of 'how' the video's correlate (see what I did there?). I'd just like to say that in Doing the Right Thing ending, to me, was about her becoming senile (possibly suffering from Dementia), the lover aka the 'old man' washing the dress to revert the damage. The man was washing the dress for her to wear in hope that it would reignite memories like when they first met. You see, there is a picture of them dancing and she is wearing the red dress. So when he returns back with the dress, seeking for a what seems to be last resort and hopeful reaction, there is none. She stares endlessly into the television and he cries, realising nothing will bring her back. That's when someone comes to take her away to a care home (there are also packed boxes) and all he is left with is the dress and photographs. Mere memories. Clearly 'Doing the Right Thing' was to have the women he loved taken away to be properly cared for once he knew that she was gone (indicated by the lack of a reaction from the red dress that meant so much to them both). This is merely an interpretation of what I saw from the video.

[@intronaut8582]

+Azrael moonsilver The directors explains it all here: 4ad.com/forewords/threefilms/

[@Sukiicore]

This had more layers than an Alex Jones conspiracy but I can actually agree with this theory

[@felizbird]

Wow I love this band..? 🥺

[@majormilesdidnothingwrong9949]

I agree with this, but think "How" should go at the end. Her locking herself in her house represents the Alzheimers she suffers later in life. The locks symbolize not only keeping others out, but keeping her inside. When someone does come in (the old man who brought the dress, likely the old man in "Doing The Right Thing") she opens up the locks for him but gets cold feet and hides in the bathroom; she's trying to let him in but can't. The scene of her at the beach is one of her lucid moments, where memories of the things she's done come back to her, starting off clear but ending blurred and incoherent. She grows disoriented and goes back to her apartment, stuck checking locks again.

[@paygxx5088]

This reminds me of a time in my life, I lived like that, I was afraid to go outside, to see the world, I was broken, I was lonely, it took loneliness to give me the strength to leave into the world and thats how I overcame my fear Its such a beautiful clip It grips me in every way ❤️ Embrace

[@Mi_ro_dri]

"How come the lights glow different in the evening" this line is pure, essential poetry

[@alexjovaag9935]

Musicians like Daughter really don't get enough credit. She is so much better than the "popular" music. This is real talent & it needs to be heard. ❤️

[@kinganarkzie]

They're a band.

[@xenogenesis9635]

*They

[@lorraine9876]

I found this song 5 yrs ago when I was about to graduate from uni. At that time I often felt lost and angry and wanted to scream, so I kept listening to this song as if this way I could scream like her. And now, I'm living a life like her, and I keep asking myself, " Why I am still here? How did it all to be like this?" I don't want to meet anyone, I don't want to talk to anyone, I don't want to see anybody's face. Because their facial expressions make me feel so miserable, I can read impatience, and contempt on their face. I don't want to interact with anyone.

[@madeofstone1901]

I used to love Daughter but now they're my favourite band, there's something about Elena Tonra's voice which I can't get enough of. Never thought I could fall in love with a band so quickly and completely.

[@AllisonGhost]

*"How"* Moving on Just moving in slow motion To keep the pain to a minimum Weightless, only wait for a fall [Chorus:] How long must I wait for you? Undone in the evening How long must I wait for you To become what I need? Holding on, souvenirs His words inked from birthdays Goodbye to our empty ruins Yeah that's when I saw her Hold me back Hold me back All I am All I am How long Before the last dance How come he's the one To let me down How come they glow Different in the evening? How come they stare Distant into daylight? [Outro] Like it's all alright? Like it's all alright?

[@agathachamomile]

I can't forget this song, I can't forget this feeling. I don't want to feel more pain. I feel so anxious all the time.

[@rowkasyua6928]

nice for describing anxiety and depression

[@lolataylor9158]

yes, though it always makes me cry as depression runs in my family and i remember listening to this when i was going through i rough patch, beautiful song though

[@bingersblends7800]

This to me feels more like OCD, where she keeps checking the locks. I have severe OCD and I was at one point possibly depressed. I think this because I have a similar thing, of staring at the taps in the bathroom for a minute or so, just to make sure that they are off.

[@adhominem_]

Yep.. More like OCD watch?v=rh8TLaXGvMs

[@julianpenguin5320]

Row Kasyua ikr

[@m4rz585]

how?

[@TeachSmartWithFay]

To me, the video represents someone suffering from Agoraphobia (she seems to be afraid to leave her house) and OCD (constant, repetitive actions like counting how many times she locks her door). Her conditions seem to have gotten in the way of her relationships (with her father? boyfriend?). She finally seems to overcome her fear, if only briefly, and walks to the beach where she is overcome by emotions (both euphoria and fear). Her condition returns however, and we can see this with the shift in perception (blurriness), so she rushes back home, a captive of her own mind.

[@siriusrainbow]

This is a good interpretation. Any idea what the red dress could mean?

[@TeachSmartWithFay]

+Aku It might represent her illness or demons? The red dress appears once her fear returns.

[@writetodesign]

+FayC It could be the red dress from the video Numbers

[@jen-wi7sg]

+Aku The red dress could be representing her freedom as the women who walks past her is wearing red. Maybe It's her future self ;)

[@b24mcmahon]

+Aku there is a really quick shot of Elena sitting on a bench in the red coat. I watch it as all about having to lock herself away, just can't be free..

[@spotlessmindx]

Her voice is pure and so angelic

[@Majeztyque]

I listen to daughter when im in pain and i cry everytime.

[@EdwardGFunk]

shame sorry see

[@rjpal1217]

lol me too

[@Lunabyes]

Same here. Been doing it since "youth" was released just over 9 years ago now, in 2013. I was 12 then, and I'm about to turn 22. No matter what, I always come back to Daughter. It heals me in a way no other music has. Everything begins and ends with Daughter for me, and it has for almost half my life now ❤️

[@lustforlife9223]

@@Lunabyes that’s such a beautiful way to put it I feel the same way elena speaks to me in a way no one else does

[@vanuvidivici9702]

i’ve never felt so stucked as i do now. i know it’s not gonna last forever and one day i’ll look back and it’s gonna be just a moment but right now it seems like a lot, i feel like this song. i ask myself how. i wish i could just skip this part but deep down i know it’s part of the process… i know, but it’s still hard to deal with. guess i’ll have to learn how to grow out of it by myself.

[@___add]

How r you feeling now?

[@vanuvidivici9702]

@@___add the feeling backed up for some time but eventually it gets back to me. always

[@biancaromay3665]

You wrote this 8 months ago. I can relate. I hope you are in a better place now

[@sebastjansslavitis3898]

oh, this song is so chill. I guess it suppose to be sad but I'm really vibing - you can do anything over it

[@nataliabodnar-zya3369]

Oh.. This music is so emotional. I can't stop crying when I listen your voice. Everything is perfect. Never stop creating.

[@jimir68]

Absolutely adore this song, the guitar riffs, the bass line, lyrics etc, at 3.26 when that guitar melody kicks in it always stirs up my emotions. The video is also a classic example of story telling, there’s the little Easter eggs scattered throughout the video and the director perfectly portrays the suffering the protagonist is enduring with his skilful use of the camera lens.

[@joymechell277]

Her room looks so cozy ...wouldn't want to leave either . Wasn't diagnosed with OCD until last year . I could tell more was going on with her than just that , but I feel like I too am finding too much comfort in my " little bubble " and with no friends it's so much easier to stay at home , locked up all the time .

[@juricpro]

friends are overrated

[@maryoryocampoospina7757]

Gggggggggg😊ggggggggggggggggggghgh😊g

[@BitchPleaseIAmAPug]

This was the best performed song at the concert in Brighton this year. Absolutely beautiful and got everyone up and moving. The actress in this video is absolutely gorgeous as well! Beautifully done Daughter, you've wowed us yet again.

[@virgilsnow4568]

There is just something about her voice that just brings me so much comfort.

[@laurenilano7368]

THIS IS AND ALWAYS WILL BE MY GO-TO FOR TIMES WHEN IN A WORLD OF THROES, I SEEK COMFORT

[@noahgilbertson7530]

I'm just in love with the guitar in the chorus, the the way the chords are almost like broken but beautifully.

[@chrismuga]

oh my Lord i understand the red dress in numbers, i always find myself moved to tears everytime i go to the beach to think. and after that release, i don't feel a thing as i walk the streets to wherever i am going this is soooo beautiful thank you +Daughter

[@RitaaLeci]

You've been pretty much my favourite band for over a year now, and I can't begin to describe just how much your music has helped me. My depression and anxiety got so much worse over the last year and a lot of the time music helped. Of all the artists I listened to your music always helped the most. You have a raw ethereal quality that nobody else possesses and I hope you continue making music for a very very long time. Lots of love xx

[@HittokiriBattousai17]

It's gets better, hang on there, keep fighting.

[@RitaaLeci]

+HittokiriBattousai17 thank you so much xx

[@HittokiriBattousai17]

Rita Leci I recommend you Grimes as well, works wonders for me when i have the blues :)

[@TheVanilax]

My story: I feel deep connected(?) with this band. I discovered them three years ago. I went through many things with their music. (kind of depression, my doctor isn't sure) When Daughter finally came to Poland (two days ago)... that concert was one of happiest and most touching things that had ever happened to me....Take care & keep going, love you!

[@lestreghe7259]

I listened this song the day my grandma's funeral was held. This reminds of that morning, not only in a negative sense but also in a good one. I miss her so much.

[@Desertsnake15]

I STARTED TEARING UP BEFORE SHE EVEN STARTED SINGING OH MY GOD THIS IS BEAUTIFUL I CANNOT. THIS IS NOT A DRILL!! ELENA I LOVE YOU.

[@lifeosmusic777]

This meant a lot to me, for I have battled years of agoraphobia. And it did ruin relationships for me. Proud to say I am in my way to recovery, even on the days when I want to lock down.

[@katejoy9849]

Hope you're in a good place now :)

[@julianhoyos4895]

@@katejoy9849 me encantaría poder formar una relación

[@elisa1781]

I noticed that at the beginning of the video all the streets are empty, and when she opens the door everyone's walking and playing. I love this detail.

[@mangasunny]

I think it's about how long you need to heal from a heartbreak. the look at the picture from the man and the locked door. I think the door symbols your sadness and to have the courage to finally step outside again, to interact with people and recover from pain. Cause when you suffer from a heartbreak you don't know when it ends. Sometimes you think you are over it and suddenly something drives you back. Beautiful song and beautiful band! Helped me alot through my heartbreak. :)

[@heartslikewildflowers8031]

I suffer from OCD as well as started showing symptoms of what I think to be agoraphobia (getting dizzy in the crowds and so on). Soon I will restart my theraphy once again. This song became very important to me recently. Makes me feel understood in some strange way.

[@rebeccaduffey]

this song will genuinely live in me forever

[@idgafstephaniee]

yes i love daughter

[@Rikimaru17]

I’m a struggling functional alcoholic and this song hits home so much....I’ve played it so much and it just gives me a certain kind of hurt, trying to pull through. At moments one of the only reasons I’ve left my house was to get more booze and to get back inside as quickly as possible....it’s a horrible, lonely existence. God forgive me, I just want peace and the thoughts in my head to shut up.

[@iwannadissolve5653]

That was me... my mom was working far away, when ever my grandpa used to come check up on me I'd either be in my room or toilet. I'd just hide. I close the curtains. I didn't want people's eyes on me. I just wanted peace. Depression n what not. I get out now. Kinda fine, life has to offer a lot.

[@catmeister1609]

I always come back to daughter's music when I'm fucked up and in a bad place. Beautiful music but it makes me cry.

[@andreluizfr]

I like just spending time reading everyone’s comments and taking everyone’s point of view into consideration, art can have multiple and personal meanings so you become able to translate it to your own perception and reality; this song has me at “to keep the pain to a minimum” and that’s what it’s all about imo, she keeps herself locked inside that house (Agoraphobia is a reference) cause it’s her safe space, her sanctuarium, where she’s the goddess and can’t be wounded. When you avoid going to the world and living a life you simultaneously avoid getting bruised by people and things, life hurts a lot specially if you are fragile. It’s been months since I’ve been living like her to keep the pain to a minimum, I’ve been lately even thinking of going to a country where chemical castration and psychiatric treatment is easier provided cause I’m too coward to go further than this. For some of us life is just about existing. Luckily she suddenly sets herself free by the end of the video so she can focus on how blue is the sky and how good is the smell of the sea and all these good things. I’m also hopefully waiting for that day to come cause I know it’ll be freeing. Although she comes back home quickly to show that the cure is achieved step by step but I like the way she stares at the world enjoying things and at the same time loosing herself while Elena sings “how come he (he = this beautiful and special world) is the one to let me down?”, it’s the same feeling that we have when we break up with someone and decide to search for their pictures on our phones, we are reminded that we had beautiful moments with that person but it hurts so much just to look at them now and we keep asking ourselves why it has to be like this, why do we have to be so distant now (and then we temper tantrum and lock our phones just like she runs back home to lock herself again, cause it’s less painful). The world is beautiful and f-ed up.

[@ataya6507]

Same

[@UnamusedApparel]

Yet again Daughter has made me cry yet be completely happy and relaxed at the same time. The songs they produce are absolute art on every level, I'm always in awe at how they make such complex yet simple pieces that are so heart wrenching yet harm warming, incredible.

[@digger678]

Moving on Just moving in slow motion To keep the pain to a minimal Weightless, only wait for a fallHow long must I wait for you? I dance in the evening How long must I wait for you To become what I need?Holding on to veneers His words end from birthdays Goodbye to our emptiness Yeah that's when I saw her Hold me back Hold me back All I am All I amHow long Before the last dance How come he's the one To let me down How can the light glows Different in the evening How can the stars Distance into daylight?Like it's alright Like it's alright

[@gshaydullina]

the drop is so awesome..ily daughter..

[@eyesocketplug6989]

Wow, this is the first time I'm actually glad that i clicked on one of the videos in recommended section. Will definitely keep following this band. Proof that yt can be useful for once.

[@lazarj]

Neko iz Srbije slusa Daughter... hahah super :D

[@mazzz8181]

Serbia Stronk you don't have to drag KZbin like this.... .. she's trying

[@hitoriyume663]

Serbia Stronk Same

[@bucknasty5374]

Nisam jedini hipster, dakle. :)

[@luramirez6070]

I saw them yesterday in Corona Capital and they're really incredible. You can feel their music up to the bones. AMAZING SONG, AMAZING BAND, AMAZING MUSIC.

[@mnknczx]

Moving on Is moving in slow motion To keep the pain to a minimal Weightless, only wait for a fall How long must I wait for you? I'm dance in the evening How, must I wait for you To become what I need? Holding on souvenirs His words end from birthdays Goodbye to our empty ruins Yeah that's when I saw her Hold me back Hold me back All I am All I am How long Before the last dance How come he's the one To let me down How come they glow Different in the evening How come their stars Distant into daylight? Like it's alright Like it's alright

[@mahedihasan6195]

Waltznu

[@trinitysmith9900]

This is the first song Daughter played, at my first concert, in Grand Rapids back in March. I am submerged in feelings of bliss and warm memories of a night I will never forget whenever I hear this magnificent song

[@raeriques]

This is perfect for looking through a car window and acting like Im in a movie/music video.

[@ziyarhimli4990]

same here))

[@laviniashiponeni1]

every day ✋

[@LynshereeEastman]

holy shit you do that too??

[@raeriques]

oh they are lots of people out there who do

[@lumi225]

videos of adventures in the forest with ur bestfriend

[@nerdnation1076]

All there songs makes me feel things from experiences I've never even had... How is that possible...

[@SunsetViewful]

Maybe I'm wrong but I interpreted it this way: The morning begins. She's locked in her house and She's so happy. She feels safe being far away from the people and the never ending din of the outside world. That's maybe a photo of an ex so this means the past, she's trying to make peace with it so she can help herself heal. At some point she has to get out of her home, her safety zone, and so when she does, everything stars moving, people walking and talking and it's making her head explodes. The beach was the only place where there was nobody. Just nature and herself. She smiles at the ocean, turns towards the world and screams, like, 'what do you want from me?' She feels better, but then suddenly things sound real again, life is happening again. She rushes back home to where she belongs. Only the red dress part didn't seem to click some significance in my head. Thank you for reading. Have a good day.

[@RainyDayWolf]

+IhabProductions I might sound as a pessimist but... through the videos I feel that the red dress means death...

[@Gobbostopper]

+Rainy Day Wolf I read it as emotional vulnerability.

[@RainyDayWolf]

maaaybe, but, the only one that actually wears the dress goes about town searching people to either kill or just watch die...

[@efraimveras4541]

+Rainy Day Wolf I see this way too. The red dress is involved with death, even in "Numbers". I think that, in how, when she come home, she kills herself cuz she isn't ready to face the world again after some kind of trauma.

[@carolapuddu7829]

Listening to the whole album I always found a leitmotiv, which is isolation and alienation in its various aspects. These 3 films seem to confirm this. "Not to disappear" is somehow a concept album and I'm really happy about this work. You deserve all the great things that will come from it!

[@bellnathan48]

ima black guy and I rap and this touched my heart thinking about my daughter my son my kids my life tears litterly came out my eyes it's like she touched my soul I felt pain and imagined all the things I been threw I love this song

[@hazelrightfield3740]

An Incredible artistic expression of what it is to have social anxiety and/or agoraphobia. WOW. I am in AWE.

[@kimibugge6718]

I suffer from ocd myself BIG TIME ! going in and out of the mental hospital over and over again, At one point i was not abel to see my freinds and my family not abel to hug my own dad not abel to kiss the girl i loved, not abel to be in my own house to sit down and watch tv and enjoy a good dinner. So i was almost homeless and left completly alone for years so this video and song hurts alot, i hope i can someday be free from my own mind and just be happy and enjoy life.

[@Phmess]

Yo really, KEEP SEEING YOUR PSI, it helps a fuck ton...and talk to people. I do not have OCD myself but my girlfriend have. It was severe enough that she could not go outside. Understanding her was one of the biggest thing i ever achieved. Like, the fear she feel and the incertitude. Talking is what got her to get better, i wont lie meds too, but open up. The more you can rationalize with other people the easier time you will get. Don't keep it inside for fear of looking crazy. If you have a loved one, open up tenfold and over again to him/her. You cannot expect people to understand how YOU feel if you don't open up. It is really fucking hard i know, for both sides. But peacefulness can be achieved i promise you.

[@kimibugge6718]

Thx for your comment. ❤

[@YouArePurposefullyChildofGod]

You are not alone and we are in this together❤💕 Let's stay strong and have faith in God❤ God will make a way out of this❤

[@madeofstone1901]

My God, this song is as beautiful and atmospheric as anything I've heard. Did tears appear for me? Yes.

[@hollielolliepop]

this song means so much to me

[@kfoolable]

I can't believe it's been over a year since this album came out. I remember back 2 years ago that I've been dying for them to make a new one. Oh How time flies so fast. I miss Daughter and I miss my Youth.

[@romina3703]

oh my god this is so beautiful

[@shiksha1971]

this is that one song that i can listen to over and over again and still never get bored.

[@edu_c2878]

This is the exactlly feeling of the actual quarentine because of COVID-19. April 2020

[@tomokaichikawa5112]

From Japan with big love💕 Daughter応援してます！

[@KitsGravity]

I have major depressive disorder and I was formerly borderline suicidal. This song hurts but at the same time, it heals something inside of me.

[@knifeforkandaspoon]

1:05 - "5040" is the name of the short story that this video is based upon.

[@ILaurent2709I]

One of my favourite tune - it feels so soothing and takes me to another place. Thank you Daughter, I'm looking forward to your future songs!

[@VSMartins398]

Never in my entire life i watch this MV without cry. I need help

[@derpyloverkitty5184]

Daughter used to be an absolute favorite of mine. But I branched off and my music taste became only rock, ska and metal. I've been thinking a lot lately, about just... Changing myself. And finally, Youth started playing in my mind. Now I love them again, thank god.

[@vnixz]

I just opend this song nd i already love it... i love every of Daughter's songs, like every single one... bt my favroit include: Medicine, Doing the right thing and smoke

[@MeteorRed]

*I cant believe how much underestimated is this* - from 2022... the melody is so awesome and remarkable.

[@anthonyrodriquez8728]

I hadn't heard this music in years ... i love it

[@ManhwaAudiobooks]

OMG! Daughter! where have you beeen! YOU are lifeee right now!

[@mariacamilavelasquezr.6568]

I'm not sure but I think the red dress has to do something with the death of memories. On the first video "Doing The Right Thing" the grandmother suffers alzheimer. She can't remember her husband, and he is the one who is carrying the dress. In "Numbers", the woman is killing every person who are in her pictures. She wears the dress = she's death. And finally, in this video, the girl doesn't want go outside. She preffers to stay in home where her memory of her man prevails. Once she goes outside, she tries to return back home but now there aren't any pictures or memories of the man. Just the dress. The women who walk while she´s running are nothing but people who let their memories die. It's just a theory, of course. But the global meaning is: It's not only about death of memories, it's also about moving on. The grandfather has to move on, the woman is moving on, and the girl has to choose if to move on or not. Daughter always amaze me with their music and meaning.

[@KrisP3016]

My theory is that the red dress is just death. In Numbers we see the dress being worn, and the lady goes around killing people (I'm not sure if the victims have any significance). At the end of this video, I feel like she killed herself. It seems like she was suffering from some form of depression (OCD too?). Death was all around her as she ran home, and when she got back the dress was laying on her bed. And in Doing the Right Thing, I feel like the old man was bringing death to his wife. He cried on the bench before heading home and realizing there was nothing he could do, she was senile. But hey, idk

[@KrisP3016]

My theory is that the red dress is just death. In Numbers we see the dress being worn, and the lady goes around killing people (I'm not sure if the victims have any significance). At the end of this video, I feel like she killed herself. It seems like she was suffering from some form of depression (OCD too?). Death was all around her as she ran home, and when she got back the dress was laying on her bed. And in Doing the Right Thing, I feel like the old man was bringing death to his wife. He cried on the bench before heading home and realizing there was nothing he could do, she was senile. But hey, idk

[@justindeltoro6825]

+KrisP3016 Mine's literally the same except that judging by her reaction in How, the girl has the depressing realization that death comes for all, as the dress has come for her as well.

[@mariacamilavelasquezr.6568]

+Justin DelToro Wow, I didn't notice it, it makes more sense ;)

[@PoeticEspionage]

Camila Velásquez it seems like it could also symbolize how death is perceived by other people: on an unpersonal level as a statistic (Numbers), kind of like hearing about it on the news; the loss of love (How); and the loss of memory (Doing the Right Thing).

[@choco1atech1p45]

This is the first time I've ever seen this artist and heard her music that I'm aware of... She's very striking, even her hands have freckles, she's incredibly beautiful.

[@natashamwansa7180]

The woman in the video isn't the singer.

[@theprovincial]

This song strips me of all vanity and misconceptions. Take the lead for example, who by societies standard is extremely flawed, yet I see her in this moment as truly flawless. Find the beauty in everyone my friends.

[@abhijeetmishra1941]

God is it you?

[@boredhousewifelife]

Well said.

[@theprovincial]

Abhijeet Mishra Yes it is, my son.

[@bigol9223]

Caoimhin if you were free of misconception, you wouldn't see anyone as flawless.

[@andie8978]

uhm. except how would society view her as flawed? pale skin, dark thick hair, acne free, skinny...? she's extremely beautiful, not even "society" could take that away from her

[@Scratchy8644]

As someone who suffer from mid to severe social anxiety, I can relate sooo much to this clip in so many ways !

[@AnimeFreaks200]

She always just has the song for the way I want to express my feelings!

[@RhondaKasperek]

What a lovely surprise upon awakening this morning. I can't speak highly enough of their music.

[@philipschrute8487]

GOD I LOVE THIS SONG SO MUCH

[@jadeortiz1642]

This band doesn’t get nearly enough credit for how amazing their music is. What a shame ❤️❤️❤️

[@charliethecockatoo2159]

This song ever so beautifully wrecks me.

[@UrWatchinDaMaster]

i really liked this song and video when i first heard it when it was first released. i was 16 at the time. i relistened to this album recently and remembered this music video. and gasped when i realized that the woman in this has agoraphobia. and i was even more confronted because i fully understand what's being depicted here. this video and song are incredible.

[@kylebrownbridge]

4 years ago : "lets make a music video where everyone is locked inside there homes" 4 years later : Everyone is locked inside their homes.

[@LuisGuerrer0]

Right

[@bobbarker3248]

I think she has anxiety or something.

[@krislee815]

@@bobbarker3248 doesn’t everyone?

[@brienfoaboutanything9037]

All you need to know about Daughter: kzbin.info/www/bejne/oGGvi3t7ZtyWlas

[@lauraelisa9169]

@@krislee815 everyone gets anxious sometimes, not everyone has anxiety.

[@destineetovar8725]

get the chance to see them on tour, you will not be disappointed ❤️️ she sounds exactly the same ❤️️ its such a lovely experience for all the Daughter fans ❤️️✨

[@YiannisAnton]

Great Video, song and album in general, although it's early enough, "Not To Disappear" is already one of my best albums of 2016

[@peterlorrequartet6559]

guitar, melody, words, rhythm, mood, dynamics...

[@kurosakikuchikikun]

This was filmed in Margate! It's nice to see such stunning images come from somewhere you live close to~ Also amazing song guys. Saw you live and you had me in tears pretty much the entire way through. Such relateable, beautiful and emotive lyrics and vocals that just pulls on your heart strings

[@chantellemarie7200]

margate? wow really haha i didnt know that

[@Uncle_Neil]

@@chantellemarie7200 yes filmed along the Fort Lower Promenade just where the Margate Winter Gardens Complex sits facing due North.

[@athenaaxioti4709]

I cry every time I watch this clip... Daughter you are my voice of my soul... 💞

[@4ad_official]

Daughter have shared 'How', the final video from their '3 Films' series.

[@Kshastra]

thanks for telling everyone, you're doing the right thing maybe : )

[@sandrojones8068]

No crap.

[@carinalawleung3744]

Whats is the name of the film ?

[@gorejessuicide78]

someone wants to put you on contract asap please contact DM ...

[@stevefletcher8751]

I'm@@Kshastra ugh

[@MaxineTheBee]

Life is Strange brought me here I'm really glad that I've got to know Daughter's music I'm in love now 💛

[@Crazycatastrophy]

Just found out that the story that inspired the video for “How” is called “5,040” by Stuart Evers, which refers to the number of ways the woman in the video can lock her door.

[@DoubleBread]

Thanks

[@_Gara]

Can you find the short story? I've looked a while and can only find it mentioned in regards to this video.

[@Crazycatastrophy]

I tried looking for it too! I couldn't find it either :/

[@thisisallforujaime6138]

it seems impossible to find any of the short stories stuart published that daughter based their music videos on :/

[@robertpimenta1479]

Un des meilleurs groupes que j'ai écouté ces derniers temps... de la pure émotion.

[@HittokiriBattousai17]

This is some deep, DEEP, song.

[@kevinsanders4269]

Seeing this live is mind-blowing.

[@NewYorkRawVideos]

1:24 people who put heavy items on wall shelves right above their beds, don't you have nightmares of one night never waking up due to said objects falling down and crushing your head?

[@ianronbello9155]

I have a garden in my headboard.

[@Bimfirestarter]

-WHOA!

[@sophiaj8224]

But... You, you wouldn't wake up... Because you died...

[@ianronbello9155]

I guess it depends on your headboard's capacity. hahaha

[@jennaadkins473]

Yes!!!! I do!! I cannot put anything above my bed

[@Nomiykis]

Today was also the day that my life went to a sad and empty world. Thanks Daughter for always being my companion in my sadness.