INTJ Fears

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[@saph4381]

"I don't get it, I thought about everthing! Where did I mess up" Quote from an INTJ friend

[@aaronsullivan8230]

@NPC #789789789789 honestly every intj and infj has the same big ass issue with thinking they are the "best" so they aren't held to the same standards of the rest of people (like upkeep, cleaning up after themselves, and executing the ideas that are so well crafted. It boils down to "pretty ideas but talk is cheap, go and acheieve the vision " which I believe most of them lack.

[@aaronsullivan8230]

@NPC #789789789789 entj here, I have a bias to the less organized and less driven people. Action speaks to me and the thing is, talk is what the two I know do (infj,intj) enacting the plan they talk about can't be done because to them they have it all figured out except how to figure it out. Lol

[@aaronsullivan8230]

@NPC #789789789789 yeah that would be because a intp, intj and a infj got together and talk through the plans, none of them are capable of doing any thing other than talking about it. They also collectively decided that each of them was out right better than the other types not in a context but just plain better. Like the were the smartest of the smart boys and we don't need any thing from lowly estj's or infp or any other type, they think the rarity gives them super powers. So this is my experience with a infj, he started nudging the group towards more and more divisive methods like ostracism, then trying to convince everyone that I'm crazy for this that and the other.

[@iantCPA]

@INTJ-Scorpio-Sigma-Male You're speaking for every INTJ out there? Some of us enjoy good company. Some of us suck at individual activities, like an individual sport. Some of us are very in-tune with our Feelings (Fi). But ALL of us suffer from Se as a blind spot. You're response here is proof positive of that!

[@LadyIarConnacht]

@FIFA 2007 You do not suppress your tertiary function, in this case your personal value system. Fi is not emotion, but values, and the INTJ has a sacred value system that's highly individualized.

[@Arlyon9999]

I need to mentally prepare myself to go outside or even talk to someone.

[@felixsatia]

Nah! hahaha

[@btsismylifeline9194]

same

[@ausar.]

I'm pretty sure Kurisu is an INTJ

[@eclipse0003]

This is so true. I look out the window and my thought pattern is, “Let’s wait 5 minutes for the person with the dog to walk by.” Walking up to the person *turns around and thinks of possible conversations* *never goes near that person again*

[@WilliamSantos1915]

True.

[@SekRanger]

"I don't want to do the chores. They waste my brain energy.", INTJ friend.

[@muaoribia4140]

Me in retail. ~INFJ

[@sabrinathewitch6396]

But it actually helps me organizing my thoughts and keep the same organisation in the kitchen cuz everyone else will mess it

[@lostathenian1836]

Me too. My brain energy is valuable to me.

[@odiolosanormales]

My kids just started school and I dont want to waste my time doing no fucking homework that the bullshit education system sends home to steal from my mutherfucking time that I can use for more important shit and family time with my kids. So pissed of!!!😡😤😤

[@gingerredshoes]

I feel this way about the gym.

[@user-lu4xp7iv8c]

One of my fears as an INTJ is losing my life at the hands of an idiot who wouldn’t have accidentally killed me if they had taken my advice

[@MeriemM94]

Justin Y. That’s pretty accurate

[@sonofnorth666]

I share this quote.

[@feijaodo]

I want to pin this up on a banner somewhere. Like a talisman.

[@muaoribia4140]

I share this sentiment, and INFJ.

[@NirFeinstein]

Artificial intelligence creators would probably do it.

[@KalemStLouis]

My greatest fear is going nuts or losing control of my brain like epilepsy, Alzheimer’s etc.

[@eduardogabriel858]

SO ACCURATE

[@wabisabitango]

Because our mind is our greatest treasure right?

[@shiftyjim4138]

I’m an INTJ with epilepsy. Shit is the worst. It’s the ultimate sense of lack of control and chaos and it just serves as a constant threat to your mind

[@treizeepyon5799]

my greatest fear is losing my control over my frustrations with other people. i work to maintain control but losing that hold worries not only me, but my family

[@ruaismail3426]

I was like this before then I get depressed... I lost control of my thinking of everything... Then things started to collapse one after the other

[@shawdo_yt]

INTJ here, practice stoicism. It helps you accept that shit happens and thats okay.

[@ladyjatheist2763]

Marcus Aurelius.

[@saknakhayali7054]

Bad things happen, stay positive ( cute girl on IG)

[@k.strive46]

yes

[@novel4992]

Agreed my friend.

[@rodrigomunoz3669]

There is a lot of content on stoicism and Marcus Aurelius. Do you have any quote that can save me time?

[@Hereticked]

As an INTJ I can confirm that I've always hated the little "maintenance" tasks in life more than anything. In my 20s, I was already making good money, but I wasn't exercising, I wasn't grocery shopping regularly (I might make one trip a month and load up on bullshit), didn't brush my teeth often enough, didn't do my laundry properly, etc. It wasn't a fear so much as all that stuff felt unimportant and beneath me. How I present myself is important? Fuck you, I'm making bank from my home office. I was succeeding and the world was my oyster. It isn't until you have more experience with Te and Se that you begin to realize "oh, how I present myself actually IS important. It could open or close doors in the future." And it isn't until you get diagnosed with high blood pressure or you're in a dentist chair getting another cavity filled that you think "yeah, I need to spend more time on my health." I think the best thing you can tell an INTJ to get them to focus on the sensory more is "once you get all that annoying Se stuff knocked out, your mind and your environment will be free of worry and chaos, and you can focus all your mental energy on what you really want to do." In that frame, it can be perceived as important to take care of Se concerns first whenever possible. Also that the Se stuff, while boring and draining, is really important to your quality of life over time.

[@EXHellfire]

interesting to see someone who seems to share my type have an interest in stuff like Shin Megami Tensei as well

[@Hereticked]

Hito Shura has been my avatar ever since I played SMT Nocturne almost 15 years ago. Still one of my favorite games of all time.

[@EXHellfire]

Now that I have a PC capable of emulating it I should try finishing it, I remember my PS2 had issues around the time I got it and so it was perpetually postponed

[@estelao.b.1473]

Well as another INTJ 24yo I think you had that realization a bit late....

[@KitsuneFyora]

@@estelao.b.1473 As a 25 year old, they learned at just the right time. Unfortunate that it wasn't before being diagnosed with health issues, but everyone learns at their own pace. At least Hereticked learned 🙂

[@huanliu5905]

this video should've been played to me right after I came out of the womb

[@fdsfjhjtjtea6497]

this info was circulating in the far back of my head for almost all of my life, took too long to have it articulated

[@GoogleUser-wy2vv]

Yeah...now dave tells me! But who is going to fold the laundry?!

[@underwaterpanther]

Hahahaha

[@DerMichael]

True, wished I didn't have to experience some of these first hand without knowing what's going on.

[@arfelt1837]

Me : *talk in conversation* People : *want to change the subject" Me : hey, stick to the script that i already foresee it before. 😠

[@-_.---._.-_-.--._--]

yep

[@fortuneh1851]

As INTJ - I don’t trust any pilot or any driver; I only trust myself to do things safely and properly.

[@vladdraculatheimpaler1064]

As an INTJ pilot I completely understand

[@Boston_420]

So much this lol especially with cars I despise being a passenger and out of control of the vehicle especially with all the morons on the road

[@NC-dw1ir]

yeah, i feel ya. but I'm an INTJ who just turned 30 and never learned to drive. My INFJ sister said that I must be traumatized by our past but not to let that stop me and I'm like, yeah you're right, but driving is also such a pain!

[@NC-dw1ir]

oh well, I should say, never got my license not never learned to drive, my mistake.

[@katelynjahnke4218]

I snorted when you said "if I just stay up all night and build my master plan, then it should totally work out great. And if it's not working out great, then I obviously just need more master-planning!" I'm literally listening to this video as I stay up late master-planning my schedule for the entire semester. Scary accurate.

[@JC-qq9sw]

So normal people don’t do that ?

[@mellowyellow532]

Master planning my whole semester almost into precise detail is literally the most fulfilling thing for me

[@emilyk1502]

Its 1 am and Im master planning right now. 😅

[@mastermindrational1907]

My favorite time of the day is between 10pm-4am because nobody bothers me, there are no distractions, and I can get my work done. I have considered going nocturnal permanently.

[@joeyhathaway8447]

His saying that literally was like being shot with an arrow in my Me

[@ericek1157]

Quote from an INTJ: "I fear getting sick the most".

[@jenlovesthisstuff]

Eric Ek Yes!!

[@legallearning]

Eric Ek & i am suffering from chronic illness that ultimately led to anxiety .... i get bored easily ; i am distracted & impatient ... i am hyperactive & that's i can't simply take risk & accept my fate/my illness ...

[@dogdonut3]

Sayaniya # I also have a chronic illness and am intj. My main problem with other illnesses (flu, etc), when I'm in the midst of them, is that I fear they will also last forever. I also used to get into thinking mode about the chronic illness which can make it worse by stressing. Its good to have grounded friends/family. They shake me out of my brain cloud.

[@RealTalkWithSSG]

Eric Ek My anxiety is a source of this fear. This is pathetic.

[@dp_illustration]

Nope! Since I was a kid I understood illness is unavoidable, so, there's no point in fear it.

[@shawdo_yt]

Once an INTJ can say "ahh cool so this is what i've been missing or what i'm weak on, lets try again" INTJ can evolve into an ultimate shiny awakened INTJ. by accepting the fact that they're not the perfect ultimate thinkers that they are. they increase their potential and effectiveness to the next level. because they are not constrained by their own ego.

[@Utahtruckguy]

Sage Snaphunt agreed I’m in this stage right now

[@moritzwagner4332]

Nope.

[@themjian]

Agreed, getting to that stage now, although late.

[@emstratman]

Though I like what you said, your punctuation killed me ☠️

[@koshizmusic]

As an INTJ, I've found that systems thinking and root cause analysts (Ni) help me to take care of the routine stuff (Se) on a much more strategic level. "What's the one thing I have to do that will make my other 3 problems go away?" As for the solution recommended in the video, can confirm that a Ni approach can help address Se issues.

[@meechipeachi]

Yes, I am staying up late doing research because that's when the rest of the world is quieter and not interrupting me. Ya caught me!

[@johnettaqueen2764]

SAME! I do the same thing. Took the test 13 times over the last few years and I ALWAYS get INTJ. I live in my head and stay up late reading about insects and painting and writing and learning to languages... Doing the laundry makes me sick... But I need to clean clothes to present my ideas to the board.... We are a special type! Michelle Obama is one!

[@quintuplebanned4267]

Are you an INFJ? I am at my peak around 3:00 am when all the pressure is off and I know I’m considered a high achiever because everyone else is unconscious.

[@meechipeachi]

@@quintuplebanned4267 Am I an infj? ... I guess it could be debated. Over last 20+ yrs of taking the test, intj wins over infj by a SMALL margin.

[@meechipeachi]

@@johnettaqueen2764 Fun! I like bugs. 😋 Some of my favorite rabbit holes to fall into are sacred geometry, mosaics, painting, various types of dance, kitty cats, octopuses (Greek word, not latin.. I think octopedes? is actually correct).🐙 Blessedly I'm fair at unplugging and letting mind rest. Oh! Water Sort Puzzle game app is one of my fave wind downs.

[@epistte]

I agree with the chaos fear. I also fear stupid people in any position of power. Id love to be able to reprogram people so that they were all logical but I can't find a USB port and they certainly aren't wifi enabled.

[@chrisk2673]

epistte clever, I like it

[@stephanierobillos9040]

i feel you. im always like, "Gosh, why can't people be part robot?"

[@user-lu4xp7iv8c]

Same

[@DinaStrange]

Love this. Feel the same way.

[@thetawhito-henfydepic9756]

Epistte ❤💕💟💗💖

[@vmizzell]

This is an incredibly helpfull insight. I think one of the things that makes paying attention to your Demons difficult is the fact that as a child and young adult an INTJ gets shamed for being lazy, a dreamer, no common sense, "Einstein", and so forth. So the core of an INTJ's pyschological resistence gets formed around those kinds of tasks and activities that involve Se. It is so much harder to accept advice from a percieved enemy. If only I had more quiet and solitude, if only I had the time and space for reflective thought, then I could achieve! But I can't get started because I feel ashamed about the dishes in the sink that I forget to wash because they were not a priority.

[@johnettaqueen2764]

Interesting, Vancy! My Mom & Dad always called my the "absent minded professor." Took the test 13 times over the last few years and I ALWAYS get INTJ. I live in my head and stay up late reading about insects and painting and learning to languages... Doing the laundry makes me sick... But I need to clean clothes to present my great ideas to the executives.... We are a special type! Michelle Obama is one!

[@bryantrejo9677]

Not gonna lie. I literally laughed out loud when I saw that schedule. I always title my menial tasks and schedules as "shit to do"

[@saraha.1336]

Funny i title mine "crap to do"

[@CarnivalofLVX]

Same

[@sal4538]

Mine too

[@jessica-pf9fy]

Same omg 😹😹 or my albums “random shit”

[@lightworkerunderconstructi6588]

Oh man... as an INTJ, I learned a ton from this video. Overindulgence of the Ni and paying too little attention to the Se bullshit. Now I see why I hate doing mundane, boring stuff like laundry, dishes or scooping the cat boxes. I'd rather read about MBTI types, ancient Egypt or just about anything else but do Se crap. [ Paradigm shift] So... I'd better attend to them or they will smack me in the head. Seems obvious but I never viewed it that way. Thanks for this video Dave!

[@beccapears7573]

When my plans are going äs planned", I can do the dishes, laundry, clean the dog crap out of the yard, and smile!

[@theA731N]

Lightworker Under Construction I hate being hungry

[@xinleitang8758]

I did the MBTI test too, My first result was a infj (a nice person, I was happy). then I did some research and realize i'm intj. I actually hate this type. I wish I have fe and a strong s. Somehow I feel fi symbolize "selfish asshole" and fe are "selfless heros". Plus a less developed S and strong Ni means: I'm a selfish asshole that doesnt listen to others.... and the entire season I want to study MBTI is that I want to be a nicer person (fi).

[@lunastariaspiritdiva8662]

@@xinleitang8758 Anyone can learn to improve, I hope you did in the past 8 months. INFJ's aren't perfect, because anyone can be unhealthy and toxic. The difference is you have stronger thinking than feeling, that doesn't make you a bad person whatsoever. INTJ's are amazing people who can become top scientists and medical researchers and save the world, you view the world differently! INFJs are guidance counselors, we typically can't do that rational stuff ! ~ Please remember that being an INTJ means that you can become a great medical person and save people, you can be an awesome doctor or something, you aren't losing anything by not being an INFJ, it just means that you don't unconsciously pick up on the energy atmosphere and feelings of a room full of people like we do, you're not a deep empath like we are, you think of the world in a completely different manner than we do. In fact, trying to do a lot of these different careers in math and science is incredibly hard for an INFJ, we aren't designed for these things, they are very important careers, but we INFJS are incredibly deeply sensitive, acute feelers, and we know all kinds of things, but we live in such a deep emotional ocean :).

[@johnettaqueen2764]

SAME! I did the same thing. Took the test 13 times over the last few years and I ALWAYS get INTJ. I live in my head and stay up late reading about insects and painting and learning to languages... Doing the laundry makes me sick... But I need to clean clothes to present my ideas to the board.... We are a special type! Michelle Obama is one!

[@ccs1229]

As an INxJ I love being a teacher. I have a scheme of work for the year, a weekly schedule, lesson plans and a time table for every day of the week. So all planned. It's all good. Until I actually go into the classroom. And all hell breaks lose.

[@tikapuspitapsb4]

the vibe of the chaos is felt until here hahaha.. felt you

[@samanthacooper2040]

Preach! -INFJ teacher

[@RaidenShogun..]

That sooo inferior Se. Already imagine an outcome but when you finally experience it, it’s different from what you expected.

[@DenisaXD]

As an INTJ I don't like when people obligate me to be spontaneous. Both my mom and sister never plan ahead and it's SO SO ANNOYING for me. I often tell them I ain't ready for their spontaneous bs yet and I barely have any energy for it. I always need time to prepare for anything social, trips and any Se stuff in general

[@Flyborg]

Well this is shockingly accurate. And I don't mean "shockingly accurate" as in "sometimes you like company but other times you prefer to be alone". I mean shockingly accurate as in "your name is Jon Smith and you are a brick layer who just ate a tuna sandwich for lunch, but you didn't have quite enough mayo."

[@iTyncWithReality]

Literally lol

[@belindad5945]

Haha! Yes 🙌🏼

[@whowillyoucallonthen4292]

So, what I hear you saying is: "Hope for the best. Plan for the worst. Let the FUBAR flow. Step back. Process.. Jump back in & own it." Got it. Thanks, Tim!

[@itch1428]

What's funny is that I am currently in that Se tidal wave/chaos depressive episode and the Ni things that got me down the rabbit hole is this whole Jungian typology/MBTI stuff and led me to forgetting all the things in my day to day life. When I get obsessed, I really get obsessed.

[@johnettaqueen2764]

SAME! I did the same thing. Took the test 13 times over the last few years and I ALWAYS get INTJ. I live in my head and stay up late reading about insects and painting and learning to languages... Doing the laundry makes me sick... But I need to clean clothes to present my ideas to the board.... We are a special type! Michelle Obama is one!

[@lliw4934]

Hahahaha so accurate

[@pamelam4]

As an INFJ I really relate to this so much. Such a good video, it really explains us IxxJ.

[@frei6913]

pamelam4 are you even watching the right video?

[@mkingISTP]

I've always noticed this in INXJs. They tend to feel powerless due to low Se. Thought I was the only one who noticed that. Great content.

[@hollyfortenberry5509]

This is EXACTLY what I've been going through. I'm 51 and STILL starting up my business, lord this takes FOREVER to get all the systems and SOPs in place, lol. I've been doing the same thing you mentioned having to do. I set alarms on my phone every day to remind me to go take out the trash/compost/recycling, cook, pay bills, etc. It really HELPS because a big part of the problem is just getting caught up in my Ni world and hours go by and I just forget to tend to my Se. The iPhone alarms constantly remind me and I NEED them. I still don't have the discipline to always stop what I'm doing when my alarm goes off to go do the chore, but slowly I am getting better, building one new habit at a time, slowly. It seems to be working. And I'm also trying to find ways to automate as much as possible and eventually delegate.

[@irinamcgovern2474]

Haha. I can totally relate to this as an INFJ. Who needs to do the dishes and sorting the laundry when I'm supposed to be doing more important work like writing something helpful or meaningful for others to read? Whenever something unpredictable comes up in my life (e.g. broken washing machine, a laptop that suddenly died on me, getting the flu) I had to stop doing everything "normal" in my day-to-day life. (ask clients to extend project deadlines, not see my friends, avoid social interaction as much as possible, cancel all appointments, etc) and try to "fix" them as soon as I can so I can return to my usual sense of zen. :D

[@MeghaMuse]

You should do a video explaining the difference between putting energy into your demon vs being in the grip of your inferior function in an unhealthy way

[@Cossaw]

lol

[@estelao.b.1473]

This is so well phrased. Thanks for the request.

[@InternetLiJo]

I’m really loving your videos! Your process for explaining whatever topic you’re covering is 👌🏻 and your humor is an added bonus.

[@nishbrown]

That has become an epidemic in corporate America. Losing touch with the reality of daily functions and addressing symptoms instead of problems. As an IJ on the sales floor, it can't be more clear to me.

[@JesterOfDestiny]

I feel like so many problems are coming from people not paying attention to their fourth functions, their demons. The one function that people neglect and it ends up costing them a lot. As an INTP the way I dealt with it (not on purpose) is to link my crappy Fe to my way more powerful Ne. Before this, just simply spending time around people felt like a chore. "I don't want to go and hang out, I've got important Ti things to do." But at some point my Fe said "hey, spending time with people is an important learning experience" and that just tickled my Ne, so I ended up hanging out with people, out of sheer curiosity.

[@Truthseekers11]

Hard lessons to learn, it's surprising how late in life it comes. You figure since you're an adult this stuff shouldn't be that much of an issue to deal with, but that's exactly how it is. I look at my EXFJ friends and family and it all just seems to happen for them. Like even if the house is a mess, they're on top of the other stuff and they never seem to be freaking out about it because you know they're prioritizing in this easy, clean and focused way. It's a strange thing to envy, honestly.

[@lunastariaspiritdiva8662]

This is because Extroverts usually don't study/read and think deeply on anything out of the normal mainstream culture, and Sensors are built this way, that they only get dopamine/serotonin hits of adrenaline and happiness from doing these practical things, they aren't into anything spiritual, mystical, magical, or unique. Intuitive types, especially Introverted Intuitives need a lot of time to study and research things, we aren't interested in boring life styles, we're into fun stuff that is rare, epic, or even legendary! ~ As an INFJ, I just love anything niche, that is special and unique ! ~

[@johnettaqueen2764]

@@lunastariaspiritdiva8662 Yes! My best friend is like that... Everything always seems so in order because she lives in the TANGIBLE world.. I live in my head and stay up late reading about insects and painting and learning to languages... Doing the laundry makes me sick... But I need to clean clothes to present my ideas to the executive board.... We are a special type! Michelle Obama is one!

[@andychua2766]

I have to say as an INTJ. Adapting your plan to be able to endure chaos feels so good

[@MelissadeBlok]

“That’s why they all stay up so late at night” is an ATTACK

[@samsschool3639]

god 39 seconds in and im crying. so fucking relatable

[@samsschool3639]

Im responsible for the strategic business development for one of the greatest electrical companies in the world (slightly exagerated). basically my entire life revolves around my master plan (3-5 years business plan), it does not matter if im at home or at work. all patterns i see i somehow try to translate to something useful to optimize the connections in the patterns of my master plan. I tend to ignore the details thrown at me by reality but my colleagues and bosses are really good at helping me and having my back in these situations.

[@hfortenberry]

Oh WOOOOW, I didn't know all INTJs stay up so late at night!! I know my INFJ Mom was like that too. OMG, I work an 8-5 job but will stay up until 2 or 3 in the morning every night (it's worse on weekends, will stay up until 4-5) and then I have to take a power nap in my car at lunch because I'm so tired. But for SOME REASON, I wake the hell up when the sun starts to set in the evening. What the hell is that??? I think one reason I am a night owl is because it's finally QUIET. Nobody is flying down the street in their loud cars or potentially going to come knocking on my door. I finally have peace.

[@polvoradelrey2423]

Masterplan: *fails INTJ: "ok, I need more masterplanning"

[@mandykhumalo5971]

I have to prepare myself the night before to go out, and it was extremely difficult to get used to when I was working a 9-5, now I work online yay, I stay at home. The relief almost took me out.

[@Enigma96969]

I’m a INTJ, I’m a electrician and also love mechanic’s…all trades really. I was a army infantry man, iv always done weightlifting, I box, ect… I do a lot of sensory stuff ;)

[@ogrbell8297]

Well said. As an INTJ i can confirm this and the issues presented. A trick I use to keep myself grounded instead of wandering off into concept land, dwelling solely on principles and the metaphysical, is to satisfy the dominant function by researching and testing the validity of a concept so that I am forced to focus on all the minute and sensory details which ultimately yields a superior understanding of the original concept/principle I was pondering. Essentially tricking the intuition into working with the sensory.

[@fvm8906]

Throw in a bit of the scientific method to test a hypothesis, BAM!! There you go. 👍

[@schaferhundschmidt1798]

As an INTJ, the study of military history was (and still is) important to me because it teaches one how to control chaos. The Maslow hierarchy reminds one to prioritize needs vs. wants.

[@SL_Derby]

"I guess God doesn't want me to go down this path" - INFJ rationale when all Se hell breaks loose....

[@dayoffnow]

This explains why I calm myself by organizing things whenever I feel overwhelmed. (INTJ here.) I always thought I was in the wrong career and should have become a professional organizer. I believed this is what I'm wired to do: I bring order to chaos (mostly because I cannot function until I do). Now I realize that's just me dealing with the Se storm. It's the survival technique that buys enough mental space to get back to what I really love, which is Ni. Thank you for helping me see that.

[@broadbandtogod]

This is so accurate and such a good presentation. After watching several of your vids on IxxJ it finally comes together. I've always been obsessed with the "endgame" or final product of things, and theeeen suddenly there are just one bullshit thing coming along and just tilts the whole thing. Like the carkeys getting locked into the car and you have no spare, impossible to get a locksmith there, no insurance help, no friends, day ruined. Flat tire no spare, wow that's great. Wasp in the car and you are on the highway and can't stop, YAY. Small details ruins everything. Preparing and building from the details and upwards the pyramid to a grand "whole" sure is the objective way to go, but man when one has to start over because of one little thing goes wrong, urgh!!!!!

[@milo_thatch_incarnate]

I’m actually really grateful now that I have a Sensor mother, and I’ve learned all this a lot earlier than a lot of other floundering immature INTJs. She and I never got along, but as soon as I moved out, I realize she was right about setting up alarms, reminders, and schedules so that the regular stuff gets done. I’m only 22 but I’ve been doing that for years; because I get so absorbed in writing and running my business (haha, yes, I have my own business), I have alarms set to eat, brush my teeth, when to go to my night shift, when to shower, everything. If I don’t make an alarm or a reminder with a deadline for stuff like grocery shopping and car maintenance, none of it gets done. But because I DO have those alarms, it ALL gets done! I’m just really grateful right now that, at 22, I’ve grasped something that sounds like it takes a lot of INTJs a lot longer to figure out.

[@livethelife4833]

thanks for this comment, as a woman it is evern worst, I'll start doing just this from now, I will make it my goal to work as a swiss clock following this idea, such a great mother you have! Give her my thanks too!

[@kpratt6685]

I've learned when the chaos hits, I just want it fixed. I reach out to my team, my family, a local tradesman, whomever I need to help mend it. It's worth it to keep me from an anxiety attack.

[@Khswart1]

So I always hate having to stop what I’m doing to tie my shoes, I hated walking around from class to class in highschool and for whatever reason I needed to open my backpack, and 9/10 times my extreme inflexibility caused me to struggle to get my backpack off, this used to make me SO angry and frustrated. Im sorry for ranting but I was basically just wondering if these little “obstacles” in daily life that I hate so much are actually related to the topics discussed in this video? They seem like a small scale version of INTJ fears. Btw do any other INTJ’s struggle with just getting to the point? I always find myself writing a paragraph when only a sentence is needed

[@johnettaqueen2764]

Yup! Tiny obstacles make me angry in a way that is almost outside my CHARACTER. Like more angry than anything! I like my mind to be on big, important, insightful things! Not walking or brushing my teeth. In an INTJ's mind, that backpack should come off SMOOTHLY and QUICKLY just like we intended, so that we can get to what really matters! I feel you, bro. Trust me... I live in my head and stay up late reading about insects and painting and learning to languages... Doing the laundry makes me sick... But I need to clean clothes to present my ideas to the board.... We are a special type! Michelle Obama is one!

[@Khswart1]

Johnetta Queen glad to see there’s people out there who understand and relate. Thanks for the reply:)

[@rat4056]

This is relatable as an INFP, just not to the same extreme. I hate it when these little inconveniences happen like what you said about opening backpacks. But at the same time there are some small things that I obsess about and absolutely think are relevant, like brushing my teeth and stuff.

[@vinayyadav6574]

Jehovah's witness banging on door......😂 lol

[@salmas1227]

INTJ blind spot- the bs se

[@tuckersmoak6632]

I just found your videos the other day and this explains why as an INTJ I can't stand grocery stores. Se overload. It hits me so hard I can forget to walk and almost act drunk while in a store.

[@rat4056]

As an INFP I relate a lot to these INTJ comments in some ways. Like I absolutely get frustrated when some inconvenience gets in the way of a plan (but not to the same extreme as being shown in the video) and it ruins the rest of my day. And I also need to prepare myself before talking to some people but I'm socially awkward and usually lack eloquence unless it's scripted or If I've been practicing.

[@hfortenberry]

This is so true. I'm in the process (finally at age 52) of building systems in my home to help me manage all the Se crap of day-to-day life. I've gotten my wardrobe down to basically wearing the same thing every day, just different colors, so it's grab and go and meal-planning has been optimized. For example I finally got a system down to where I'll cook one big entree per week, on Saturday, like a crock pot roast or a big casserole and eat that the rest of the week and all I have to prepare the rest of the week is a side-dish like steam a veggie or make a salad to go with the entree or eat a sandwich or bowl of soup/salad once the entree runs out. And then once a day I'll fast for 24 hours and won't have to prepare anything for that day. The first thing I'm going to do once I can afford it is hire a bookkeeper for my business. I'm trying to "PLAN" for my Se tidal wave so I can head it off at the pass because I do know it is coming.

[@this_mfr]

Reformed INTJ here...can confirm every detail of this video. Failed businesses, failed relationships, failed friendships, couldn't bother myself with folding the laundry or doing my bed because...well because I'm just gonna wear them and sleep on that bed again so what is the rational point? INTJs....do yourself a favor and force yourself to pay attention to se. Think about emotions and feel them. Do the se bullshit. Push yourself past your comfort zones and engage in all the se stuff around you. It has taken years, but my God the changes in myself, my life, and how efficient and functional I am, and how great the things I do actually WORK now. Nothing is more powerful than a well-rounded INTJ who is in touch with their se function. You will no longer be the unemotional robot who gets blindsided by the dumbest little things. People will be flocking to you for advice and your time and energy, and this networking (again, se) is absolutely crucial to a successful life in all areas.

[@el2747]

As a 1w9, i have try like you one time but it fail. Only make me foolish of myself. Emotional...yes, that feeling make us feel alive in this illusion, this dream. I like that too and exp so many so feel bore sometime. For 1w9 like me, have a little feeling but it precious, reasoning.

[@josephine5809]

My gosh, this is the best INxJ understanding I've seen in a while. You hit the last few years of my life on the head. Thank you!

[@ksanders8383]

This is insanely accurate for me as an INFJ. I literally thought something was severely wrong with me...nope, just my overuse of Ni and ignorance of Se. Thanks for explaining this in a way that helps me understand what's going on with me and how I can have more peace in my life.

[@snehabalaa1187]

I've waited far too long for this video: thank you :D

[@spiritofadmetos9992]

This video is very needed at this time for many INxJs.

[@numinous4789]

By the contents of this video, I'm a mature INTJ. This makes sense given my life stage, I suppose. Everyday tasks and duties are something I am extremely on top of; I live a very regimented, to-do-list-oriented life. Being in the Air Force probably put those types of tasks on my radar even more so. Additionally, according to StrengthsFinder, my top 5 are: Input, Connectedness, Learner, Achiever, and Intellection. The Achiever, in particular, means I'm very driven to accomplish not only big-picture, long-term things, but also all the day-to-day monotony. My soul cannot be at rest if I feel I have shirked those types of responsibilities. Anyways, cool vid.

[@LynneLaRochelle]

When I’m doing a good job in life (& this is a cyclic thing), i do those small tasks as ‘gifts to my future self.’ The gift is that these things will be done and i will be able to go down a rabbit hole without having the life infrastructure collapse.

[@Drecon84]

So very true. INFJ here and I hope that one day I can just step care-free into the world and tackle all of the Se bullshit before I am overwhelmed by it time and again. Honestly, none of the Se crap is a major hindrance. The problems start coming when they all come at the same time. Usually when I've been ignoring them, but still...

[@NikitaAiryt]

Okay okay DONT SAY ALL THOSE THINGS IN A ROW the tax day almost gave me a heart attack followed by a website going down are you trying to kill me

[@jeffreydhill]

Nikki Airyt 😂I swear he tried to give us an actual heart attack.

[@seankeaner7402]

While these things are annoying, my worst fear is: the worst possible outcome of the future I can create in my mind.

[@alexdbroad]

I'm an INTJ and I own an IT company..I used MBTI to find the best executives for me to balance the decision making process

[@DGDDice]

as an INTJ i know one thing I struggle with alot is things like taking care of myself properly like giving myself a proper shower, brushing my teeth consistently, addressing all my mental baggage from my mental disorders because they were not high up on my to do list where I was so laser focused on my personal projects. I got quickly kicked to the curve when all those things I ignored came crashing into me. currently I'm just trying to establish a way to find harmony between my Ni and Se functions to where I can still do my buisness but make sure not to neglect all my personal demons. It's definatley a challenge but its one I'm determined to conquer for my own sake.

[@graysonscott1358]

My biggest fears are 1. Failing to be successful or satisfied with my own career/life. And 2. Failing to find a significant other. I’m greatly motivated by my fear of failure, which is what pushes me to be better. Nice vid

[@chocolatemousseslice_]

Also how frightening how accurate this is

[@rughayahararybh519]

My dumb ass thought that the (Ni) and the (Se) meant nickel and selenium, and I was like "Why the hell would I be afraid of these elements". Only in the thumbnail though, I got it in the video.

[@mr.apparatus9108]

This is so great. This had me for years. Thank you. God bless you.

[@scarlettwang2655]

These are literally words of gold. I probably have watched it one or two years ago when I tried to lead a short film without much experience and was crushed by neglected Se, its quiet traumatic honestly but I think I improved a bit now. Gonna try again this year. Unluckily people who haven't experienced the crush probably won't understand the video either, like that 2 years ago me...

[@shanebraaten9553]

First of you're videos I've seen... Instant Subscriber...🤘🏻thank you, GoodSir...!! 💯

[@nisse3991]

As an INTJ being in the middle of rebuilding after a hard crash this hit extremely home. Damn onion cutting ninjas...

[@Ztef6828]

So……. I have been diagnosed with ADHD more than a year ago as I have not been dealing with all the Se stuff in my life and my life is in absolute mess. I just realised I am an INTJ and this explains it all. I’ve been thinking I just need to get all the mess out of the way and I can be productive again like I used to. This video really helped me to get my act together and also better deal with the BS Se stuff in the future. Thank you and I hope I can get out of my Ni Fi loop soon!

[@shannenp.9664]

Literally the last 12 years of my life. 😑 im finally starting to use good coping mechanisms and cleaning up the foundation of my life.

[@enderwisper768]

It sucks even more, because sensory bullshit happens all the time no matter where you are. Even if you’re at home alone, there’s probably some jackass blaring his music outside in his car, or in his open garage working on some shit, someone working on construction, or there could be some pets in your house fucking with your shit. I love being INTJ, but fuck it can be difficult sometimes. Watching this video made me feel like less of an alien, and ananomaly. I thank you for that! ❤❤❤

[@knighttristan1220]

You have just both perfectly described the words I always heard in my head, AND the obvious tidal waves that hit me in the past AS WELL AS the solution that I have recently found to work like magic! MAN, this video, your thought lines and use of verbally potential offensive language (from the mind) is SPOT ON! Keep 'em coming!

[@ChantelStays]

Becoming a parent saved me from completely drowning in my Ni. Se drives me bonkers, and yet it had a weird soothing thing to it. My mom is also an ISTJ with ocd so that helped lay down a foundation of practicality and keeping life “together”

[@michaelt.robinson3121]

So true about not wanting to work on details like book keeping and taxes when I could be creating new products or new systems. But doing the mundane details helps me get grounded again. That brings a feeling of peace. It reduces anxiety. So now I dedicate two days a month just for book keeping, budgeting, analyzing sales data, google analytics data etc. You hit this INTJ fear thing right on. Thanks.

[@micaelacerilla3264]

"Se bullshit checklist" I see...I should probably start making one

[@shannon4820]

I don't want to just use this shit to support my own typings etc, because I'm just as likely to be mistyped as anyone else - but this video was awkward and kind of unnerving to watch because it hits wayyyyy too close to home. Excellent vid.

[@jo1italianstyle]

This earth doesn't give us the time to think about sacrifice

[@multiforc271]

few month ago, i saw this video, just saw it and tried to process it. but this week, that wave came and is kicking me in the nuts, loosing my home in middle of corona virus.... as a student! when i saw this video again, few min ago, it was completely true ! a mirror repeating what happened to me! i'm just hopping to survive this wave... wish me God helps me. Thanks for the amazing video.

[@SilverIncense]

Thank you, this was a good explanation of why a tidal wave of small maintenance to-do list type things overwhelms me at a point. I shall now make a proper list and parcel out specific time for "Se bullshit".

[@voltaire5427]

I hate starting chores, but once I do, I eventually get into a flow state and it becomes much easier to use Ni while simultaneously working on all the dumb things. When there’s dishes, I’ll set a goal for how much I want to get done (like all cups, plates, and silverware), then once I’ve reached the goal, I usually add more categories of dishes or find something else to work on that brings order to my life. The most important thing to do is actually start the process of tackling the day to day.

[@LondiweJ]

This guy just summed my whole life up in 7.5 minutes

[@samsschool3639]

I LOVE YOU MR SUPERPOWERS

[@derunterdrucker9910]

As an INTJ this is very accurate tbh....I can think about the perfect all day but I never involve human nature into the sequence and I’m guessing u can assume the rest of the story...

[@christianaaron3062]

Wow you literally pin point my fears that give me hell of anxiety

[@breek6097]

Chaos is my favorite thing when I'm the one causing it

[@lilyprairiemoon3893]

Ha, ha this was mostly dead on. Even a Jehovah’s Witness at the door is unplanned chaos. So true!

[@ti0049]

As an intj what I hate most is moving through tasks as smooth as possible until something random appears and takes me off the rails

[@nikkid7963]

So, I’ve made lists, I also, set alarms. My problem is, I ignore them. I need to work harder on actually succeeding in my bullshit checklist. I don’t know how many times, my shower drain has clogged. Because, I forgot to buy a drain cover. I have very long hair, that clogs the drain every few weeks. Yet, for a years, I’ve acted shocked every single time it happens. Yet, I plan for everything else in life. Finally, last week I bought one, at least progress was made there.

[@dickwhite7046]

I think my problem is I don't really socialize or have friends or anything....

[@dickwhite7046]

I appreciate the thought, but yeah.... not going to work. I can't break my rules, who am I kidding, I WON'T BREAK MY RULES for anybody. I "socialize" at work all the time, doesn't change the fact I hold the overwhelming majority of people in utter contempt. I know "how" I just don't see the point. 99% of the people you meet in this world aren't worth the time it takes to say 'Hi' or 'Good Bye' to. So very few people in this world that are worth knowing....

[@user-lu4xp7iv8c]

There’s only one solution: Find someone who is just as lonely👌

[@leaveacommentinSTFU]

@@dickwhite7046 friends are extremely valuable when you're in need. And if you're lucky enough to find the right people, friendship doesn't require much to maintain. However, it IS a sacrifice. But I think of it like an investment in the future; the more you invest in friendship, the closer the bond. I was injured at work and couldn't walk for almost two months. I leaned heavily on my friends. They helped take care of my home and family. When my furnace broke I had a warm bed to sleep in (for free) until it was fixed. Even though I don't reach out a whole lot, my friends are more kind to me than my own siblings.

[@carolynagustin9541]

I really enjoyed this video and the sarcasm LOL, no seriously, I did. I am an INTJ and it was straight to the point. Thanks!

[@steviemurray6617]

I always make sure I have everything before I start drawing. The moment I lose sight of my eraser, I can get moody for as much as two days. I feel like everything is ruined😂 On a completely unrelated note, hello INTJ fam🤗

[@johnettaqueen2764]

Ok wow! Lol As an art school graduate INTJ, I agree! SAME! I ook the test 13 times over the last few years and I ALWAYS get INTJ. I live in my head and stay up late reading about insects and painting and learning to languages... Doing the laundry makes me sick... But I need to clean clothes to present my ideas to the board.... We are a special type! Michelle Obama is one!

[@dogdonut3]

Might also be good to explain that getting into the sensory part of the world can really inspire. Being in nature, or working on getting mundane tasks done often relaxes my mind and gets it to open. The sensory world is soothing...even chaos can be. Mostly because it's often less noisy than my head.

[@AncestralGratitude85]

100% right on chaos sapping my energy & confidence. Currently behind on my thesis which I tied into my day job's work. I get stress headaches & I'm to the point of tears feeling the hours tick by and I'm not working fast enough for my deadline. I've hardcore snapped at my poor boyfriend so many times about not helping out enough around the house during this stressful time of mine. Then I feel guilty for being a monster. But -- once "this too shall pass"es, I literally sense my hormones balancing again & the adrenaline spikes dissipating each day.

[@Stoic-Mindset]

That's exactly my fear. I postpone my things just because of these fears until I come to terms with it. Actual work really takes less time than dealing with the non sense.

[@tgombl798]

I am a INTJ, and this video describes basically all of the annoyances I have experienced through my 19 years of being alive.

[@zacharymontgomery9328]

I'm an INTJ, and love factoring everything in. I treat is as part of the plan, part of the idea. The facts add to the idea.

[@zacharymontgomery9328]

But then I guess I'm weird...

[@y04a]

"desperate crazy EJ lady" dude 😂 that's me. Great videos.