Dealing With Big Life Changes | Ingrid Nilsen

[@ingridnilsen]

I'm in awe of the kindness and generosity I'm seeing in the comments. I'm feeling tears welling up in my eyes as I write this. Please know that even though I can't see you and I may never meet you in person, your words have touched me today. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. ❤️

[@madelinerodriguez8583]

Ingrid Nilsen ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@isabella7921]

This music is so calming... where can I listen to it, Ingrid? You have indeed cultivated a beautiful online community :)

[@briannak1988]

Ingrid Nilsen no worries. We are only human. We all get anxious sometimes. Love you hun

[@jjsegal1915]

For me, this video came at just the right time. I also feel at a juncture in my life (in my early twenties). I just celebrated my sister's 27th birthday with her friends yesterday and listened to them talk about all of the things they've learned in the time from when they were my age, and I've been wishing I could magically skip past all the uncertainty, anxiety, and mistakes. I am really feeling your words. Thank you for including all the in-between moments on your channel and sharing your self-growth as so many of us are going through the same thing!

[@erinlindsay4139]

Thank you for the video. I'm 25 and am going through a huge career change. I'm an apprentice at a professional theatre company. The apprenticeship is ending soon and I could have probably stayed to fulfill an admin position. I had full intention of doing this, working with my favorite people every day, supporting this place and the thing I love most. But I recently accepted in myself that I want to be an actor, and I can't do both if I ever really want the chance to perform on their stage again. So I'm looking for day jobs and pursuing acting for after I say so long to this place. I'm terrified, for looking for health insurance, for failing at my passion, for instability. By the way, was that personality test the Enniagram? And are you a 2? I'm a 2 and that sounds very familiar lol.

[@LilLemonlem]

It’s insane how similar we are in trying to do everything for ourselves, plan and try to prepare for anything so everything turns out perfect. My gf has definitely changed me with being less obsessed with perfection I’m a completely different person in a good way. This video found me at the perfect time because where I was planning to move in the next month is flooding and I don’t know if I should change my plans or stay on track. I cried today for the first time thinking wow why now, why me.

[@makeupbymon]

Viewers are like friends. Some will be there only for a stage when they need you, and others will stick around forever😘 I never comment, but I’ve been here since the beginning xo

[@suzanasu]

makeupbymon me too

[@missreia]

same here Xo

[@supergirlie86]

Me too!! Love you Ingrid. Keep following your arrow. Can’t wait to see what’s next for you and your channel. All the best!

[@Keepinitreal55]

makeupbymon I’m so sick of these “I never comment” comment. I don’t believe you, I’m sure you comment all the time. People overuse this line to add some weight to their comment, it doesn’t work anymore.

[@its_my_my]

Holy cow: “your needs are not a problem.” My therapist was the first person to unpack this for me but it’s so valuable to hear again. I needed a reminder because even though I know this, it’s so hard-same on the failure or insufficient feelings. I wish I knew how long I would have to work through this :(

[@Keepinitreal55]

Mayan McDermott I think that depends on the person and on the needs. If your life is nothing but needs, then it can be a problem

[@suzanasu]

In Taiwanese culture, it’s believed that every year we have a number 9 in our age (eg. 19, 29,39 etc), it is a challenging year where many things happen to us and it’s usually hard to overcome. So hold on tight until February Ingrid, and your 30s will be awesome! Keep doing this great work and don’t worry about your following, as with age, we will value quality over quantity. And as u said, people change and it’s natural some will move across other topics/KZbinrs. We need to let some things go and even though it hurts, it will do you wonders in the long term. All the best, Suzana from Brazil

[@ingridnilsen]

Thank you so much for this. It means more than you know ❤️

[@BB-ux5wd]

What ? I can’t thank you enough for this . I’m also embarking in a major life transition. I’m moving from California to Buffalo NY . I’m scared, terrified and oh so vulnerable but I’m trying my very best to take it one day at a time . Would love your support if any . Again thank you for this 🙏🏽💜

[@tanyalillington4470]

Thank you for your kind words of advice and encouragement within this video. In the last month, there have been so many changes in my life that I couldn't have even seen coming, some wonderful and exciting upcoming changes and some difficult and challenging. Your video was exactly what I needed to hear today and I feel a small sense of calm, the first in a while. Thank you so much for being you and sharing your wonderful sense of self, I don't feel so alone in my decision making and anxiety for change. Your so refreshing to watch and inspiring!

[@stephmarie1999]

Been here since missglamorazzi days💓💓 so beautiful to see how you've grown so much throughout different changes

[@catarinaassuncao157]

I find youtube so boring and so brand-guided and payed off this days, that when I saw your video, I realise why I keep coming back to it. This is trully inspiration, force, vulnerability and open heart from someone who really gives a damn on not just making a video about shopping or designer clothes. So, all the best Ingrid (I just found you on youtube) and thank you for this video.

[@myplacepilates6610]

This video really hit home for me. I am about to divorce my husband of 23 years because of his various addictions which have put me and my family at risk.Apparently he has been cheating on me since the day we started dating and has a gambling, drug and a fierce alcohol addiction that will never not ruin my and my kids' lives if we stay...as much as I may love him. I will be starting over as a 46 year old woman with kids and embracing the unknown. I am not in a position for perfection and I have no choice but to ask for and accept help. It is liberating though and I am so happy and excited to begin this chapter. yes, the tears are frequent and the forgiveness has yet to come...if it ever will. But change is coming and that brings me optimism.

[@lydiabrowning3382]

I hope you aren't too sad about your view count being low. Your videos always touch my soul. I think you are reaching people on such a personal and loving level, and that is such an accomplishment in and of itself. I value your role in my life in such a great way. As always, thank you!

[@ErinGoodspeed]

I seriously needed this video. I was recently laid off at the young age of 21. At the time and even sometimes now, I feel like a failure and that this was just something to add to the list of all that has gone wrong in my life -- from college to friends and family and then to my job. I've tried so hard to plan even the smallest details (and most ridiculous details) of my life since before high school, and I'm learning that decisions that I've made in the past to shield myself from future suffering and struggles clearly have not worked out. In fact, having those detailed plans and seeing them crumble to the ashes and constantly making new detailed plans has only made it harder to bounce back from what I now view (or try to optimistically view) as minor set backs. So Ingrid is absolutely right. You have to "surrender yourself to the unknown." You have to be okay with the world seeming like chaos because the "chaos," or what is actually life in general, is only going to toughen your skin and give you things you would have never even imagined for yourself. And all that good is going to happen whether you planned for it or not -- just like all the bad and the in-between. Every day is a struggle, but we all have to get through the mess -- whether you run full force and bust your way through or whether you crawl and stop to breathe, or maybe even cry, for a moment. Right now my life is in the crawling stage and that's okay. Sometimes we all need to take it slow, and this video truly is helping ease the pain from this phase of life. So thank you, Ingrid. Thank you for being a helping hand in my mess as well as many others. Side note: I have seen some very low points. A point where I truly meant it when I said "I hate my life" or "I wish I didn't have this life." And something I've discovered to make myself optimistic, even at a gut-wrenching and dark phase, is to say "I hate this phase." Remind yourself that this is just a bad phase, not a bad life. It doesn't necessarily help the pain that you're feeling in the moment, but it at least helps me to remember that it will pass and you'll soon wake up to a new phase that might not be as bad.

[@courtenayw.9160]

I just sent this to someone in my life who has been confiding in me the same fears and anxieties you mentioned. Thank you so much for putting a voice to something that so many people have trouble coping with. Even just having listened to that someone who's going through a very similar process, I felt such a sense of relief after watching this. Your content is so genuinely thoughtful and uplifting. People notice that, and people deeply appreciate it. I know I do.

[@laamb]

Ingrid, you are incredible. I can’t believe I’ve been watching your videos for 7 years. That light blue background feels like yesterday to me. Your videos keep improving. But your personality still the same. That’s the reason why I keep watching your videos! I love you Ingrid. Please be yourself. Do whatever your guts tell you.

[@gabimaza780]

It’s been 5 years since I graduated high school and I feel like my life hasn’t changed very much. Like for the past 3 years things have felt the same. And I’m scared they’ll never change or I’ll never know how to change things. I want a great life and I want to enjoy my youth but I’m worried things aren’t ever gonna change like they have for you and everyone else in my life. People having babies getting married moving graduating... and I’m still the same

[@andresifuentes5815]

Gabi Maza ❤️ one step at the time, begin with the little things ✨ wish you luck!

[@heather6404]

Gabi Maza I feel the same, only it's been 8 years since I graduated high school. One thing I have found helpful is to go off somewhere alone outside or in a comfortable place and just think about all the blessings that you have in your life. Not comparing it to the blessings of others. It's the toughest lesson during these years because peoples lives just look so drastically different.

[@ginagerlich8743]

Hi Gabi, everyone is dealt a different hand in life and everyone handles things differently as well. Try not to compare yourself to others, I know that is easier said than done. Sometimes taking time away from social media platforms is good, because being on social media makes it very easy to compare yourself to those you see. The truth is, everyone has their struggles and bad days, but no one shares those moments on social media. So everyone elses lives seem perfect and like they are happy and completely where they want to be. But I can tell you, the vast majority of your friends, people close to you, or people you see on social media are in fact not where they want to be and are not as happy as they seem. Be patient with life, but you also have to do your part and push yourself out of whatever you are feeling or dealing with. Be strong and trust yourself, life has a way of surprising you. Best of luck

[@dreamwishergirl]

You are not alone I feel the exact same way except I’m starting grad school soon!

[@meryempink4784]

Gina Gerlich it s amazing what you said.

[@elleravdnanakkalajarvi3233]

Thank you Ingrid, for making these videos. You somehow always manage to inspire me, and truly help me in my life. I am only 17, but I feel like everything is changing. I moved from Norway to the US for a year to “live out my high school dream”. Leaving all familiarity behind was probably the scariest experience yet in my life; moving to a strange family, and having to make new friends. Then, after spending a year, and becoming a “part time American”, leaving my new home to go back home was a huge change. I’ve been back in Norway for some time now, and nothing is the same anymore, including myself. I am beyond grateful for the experience, and friends I got across the world. The whole experience was an investment to my life, which changed me in ways I can never really explain. So again, thank you again, I really do relate to this. I am so excited for your move, and for what the future brings ❤️

[@jB4LIFE99]

I’m currently going through a big move, a new job, and an unwanted breakup, so this all really resonated with me. Thank you for giving me a little more hope for the days ahead. ♥️

[@awhwll2229]

Stefanie Fernandez Go on girl - this will be the making of you ♥️

[@annedorazio6152]

Hi, Ingrid, I've seen you express your love and affinity for New York so genuinely that as a proud New Yorker I am always moved by how you deeply appreciate this great city. Welcome home!!!!!!!

[@bre_loom]

This video has come at the perfect time. I am an international student, going to the US to earn my undergraduate degree, and I am scared shitless. I am leaving my family behind, my friends, and the comfort of my home country. I have lived here my whole life, and I have learned everything about life here. My house, my neighbours and every single detail is just something that I am going to miss. Nevertheless, I need the change, and I need to experience life through a different lense. I see the change, and I am going to dive into the unknown, fully believing in myself, God and the love of my family. Thank you so much Ingrid!

[@princessstardancer]

Hi Ingrid, thanks for having the courage to open up and be so real in this video. It is so relatable and I'm sure many of your viewers including myself can identify with this. It's these moments that make us truly human. Been watching your videos since the beginning and I'm really happy and proud of how far you've come and the progress you've made. It's as though we are all growing together. To everyone out there, you are not alone. There's always someone out there who may be facing the same problems or insecurities as us, and we should all learn to be slow to judge, slow to anger, and more forgiving and loving :)

[@cubscout18]

I just graduated college and i need to get a grownup job, but i keep dragging my feet. I didnt fully understand why until i watched this video. I now realize that i am scared of being rejected. Scared that all my hard work in college has been for nothing. Thank you Ingrid for making this video and I will remember your words of encouragement as i overcome my fears and conquer this next chapter of my life.

[@gabbypalmer1655]

I didn’t watch your life update video but I’m in the midst of moving states too and being super anxious and busy but whenever I get stressed out I binge watch your videos and this has always been a coping mechanism for me. I love you Ingrid thank you for always being that for me

[@taramccarthy4321]

I've been a follower of yours since 2011. Your videos got me through a lot over the years. You're an amazing person inside and out!

[@Helloshyy]

This is HUGE. Everyone is going through major change this year. Painful and unpredictable. However, it is happening to all of us. A collective shift of energy. Realizing we ARE okay and we'll figure it out. We can do this and we can make it through the unpredictably. This is one of the best videos you've ever made. Thanks for listening to your intuition and doing a REAL video.

[@allisonm.2660]

I've been going through my own change myself of late, and not by choice: I lost my job the final week of June, and I admit I've let the anxiety of the unknown get the best of me, not to mention that urge to get back to work (staying home every day isn't fun). But I've gained advice and/or assistance from friends, ex-colleagues, and more than a few staffing agencies to find that next opportunity, not to mention recalling how I dealt with my last job search 16 years ago. (Side note, big changes can make anyone anxious regardless of age, especially this almost-49-year-old) I've also adjusted to that feeling of the unknown and accept the new challenges that await me. I'm still a bit anxious (it's natural to still feel that way), but I'm hopeful that what life will deliver to me next will be very worthwhile. Thank you so much, Ingrid, for this inspiring talk.

[@emilygreenwell1330]

I am leaving Kentucky to go to grad school in the UK in a few weeks and it is probably the hardest thing I've ever had to do. I know that this is something I want and have looked forward to for years but now I just feel like I am abandoning my family and friends while at the same time asking for so much help to get started in my new life. I will really try to remember to be kind and gentle to myself and to accept others' help (even though it is hard!!) Thank you, Ingrid

[@m.thompson3919]

I've always liked your personality, but I have not seen your personality in your videos for a very long time. You have become so flawless in your videos that no one can see the real you anymore. I miss the free spirited Ingrid who made unique recipes and took viewers on vlogs throughout her day. Watching your videos was like hanging out with an old friend. I know you are going through a lot behind the camera and that's okay. You are not obligated to share it with the world. However, if you are worried about views, I suspect that hiding your personality may be why your views have gone down. Don't be afraid to let the real Ingrid shine through in your videos. That's what we are here to see. 😊 ❤

[@fjordsi7404]

People connect to vulnerability. I hope she opens up more

[@m.thompson3919]

MaeB I do too, but I also dont want to pry into her business. I am also hoping she does another vlogmas this year. Vlogmas has become so over the top and stressful. We need the one who started it all to bring it back down to earth again.

[@fjordsi7404]

@@m.thompson3919 She started vlogmas? That's really cool

[@m.thompson3919]

MaeB Yep. 😊 Ingrid is awesome.

[@tricianagel]

Hi Ingrid! I started following you in 2012. Your videos have helped me significantly over the years. I’m more secure with myself, been taking care of my skin, and eating more healthy because of you. Thank you so much. ❤️❤️❤️

[@Melodiie4444]

KZbin is lucky to have you. So thankful that you had the courage to share these tips with us. Just what I needed. Love you Ingrid and hope you are doing well. Thank you so so much❤️

[@edenelias2at]

I honestly love you Ingrid. It feels really good to hear your honest words. Thank you for being you. That’s not something to be taken for granted.

[@333Coraline]

Just what I needed to hear Ingrid! I’m at a point in my life where I have no idea what I’m doing or where I’m heading. I recently left my job because I wasn’t happy there. I always knew it, but I was too scared to leave. Then at the beginning of the year, I just couldn’t take it anymore, so I quit, canceled my apartment lease and moved back home. And this has been one of the most difficult decisions I’ve ever made in my life. Like you said, I didn’t want to lose my independence, I didn’t want to ask my family for help either, and I felt like I was a failure. I went through a really tough period of depression and anxiety. And I still don’t know what’s gonna happen. I keep looking for jobs and applying, but I haven’t found anything yet. And even though I’m feeling better, I still don’t see things falling into place, so I need to remind myself to be gentle and patient, and I need to overcome my fears of not knowing what’s gonna happen and resist the urge to want to plan and control every aspect of my life because only God knows what plan he has for me. Thank you again Ingrid! Love you, xoxo.

[@_Blackset]

Thank you for this Ingrid. ❤️ I made huge changes to my life last year... moving to a new state to start a life with my boyfriend, took a job with more responsibility, learning to accept military life and readying myself for that day when we have to move again as a family. I still have days where I just want to cry because I miss my friends and family back home.

[@d.alexandratorres]

This was everything I needed today. Almost cried here at my desk at work. Thanks for being a continuous inspiration and encouragement. I always end up watching your videos at the perfect moments. You’re incredible and thank you. 🥀

[@mariahdls4194]

This was SO helpful. I'm 22 years old, about to move to 1,000 miles away to Washington D.C. to start my first "big girl" job. I don't know anyone there and I'm TERRIFIED, but also so excited for this new experience. Thank you, Ingrid and good luck with your new life in NY!

[@loganflott5911]

My boyfriend of three and a half years just went home today after visiting me for two months-- we do long distance, and he lives 10,000 miles away. The next time I will see him will be in January, and I most likely will be buying a one way ticket and moving there for good. I am terrified and excited at the same time; this video came at the perfect time for me. Thank you for your kind words, Ingrid, they have helped so much.

[@GhostsOfThings]

Thank you so much for your generosity and your honesty. I just got the keys to my first place today, and the past week or so has been very hard. I have lived in the same house for 20 years. I have lived in the same city my whole life. And here I am, moving away from my family, away from my city, into a new place. My anxiety has been at an all time high and I have definitely had a mental breakdown already. And it's funny because that day, the hardest day, I was reminding myself that I have to be gentle with myself. That this will be a hard experience and that's ok. I appreciate your words because they DO make me feel less alone. Everyone in my life is telling me that "it's so exciting", which is a hard thing to hear when mostly I feel afraid and sad. Thank you - and I wish you the very best for your move.

[@nhitran2769]

I've never clicked faster to a video on youtube. It's this kind of intimate, heart-to-heart videos of you that keeps me going back. I moved across the globe (from philly, pa to singapore) in April, and it's been a rollercoaster of emotion ever since. Since all of my family is in Hanoi,Vietnam, it's really convenient for me to go back home while I'm in singapore, but everytime I'm back to real life in singapore, it gets hard for me again and it always takes me one week to get back to normal speed. Every month, i get to see my family once only to go back to being completely alone for another 3 weeks. I know I'm so lucky to live in such a nice country and has the chance to go back home so frequently, but every single time it's like a new time that I move and adjust, and it's tiring... thank you for this video, I can relate so so much to all the problems and tips you talked about.

[@sachie]

Ingrid, I’ve watched you since your early youtube days and you’ve inspired me so much. Love you 💕💕

[@maggiemolnar3456]

I needed this so badly today. I literally just moved to China to teach English for a year and I am having so much anxiety and doubt. Thank you, Ingrid

[@melaniehampshire2825]

I needed this video so much. I'm in the midst of moving from Los Angeles where I was born and raised, to a rural Wyoming town with a population of less than 900 people; with my husband of 4 years. I'm leaving my family entirely. we won't know a single soul in wyoming, I'm so excited but also scared because I will be a new young salon owner in a foreign environment. This helped so much. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

[@rachelkramer156]

Tip number 3 hit me so hard Ingrid. Such an emotional provocative video. I fell apart, haha. I am feeling similarly because I recently ended an engagement...... I moved out. Started over from scratch. I moved in with 2 other girls who are followers of Christ, hard workers, and students, much like myself. I’m laying in my new apartment tonight after moving out of my ex fiancé and I’s apartment today. I’m laying on nothing but a mattress. And I was not gentle and patient with myself today. I told myself I was lousy and embarrassing because I don’t have a box spring or dresser. I have to trust that things are going to be okay. Moving happened at the right moment. I’ll slowly get the items I need. I will gain normalcy. For now, I’m cuddling with my two kitties who have my entire heart. Praying for the grace of God to keep me going. And continuing to try my best. Thank you for the much needed content. You’re something special, Ingrid.

[@anahicamacho8619]

"I've cried and I've cried and I've cried" I feel you, girl. I feel you so much.

[@jijikim7559]

It'd be really cool for you to do a whole video on how to branch out and making friends as an introvert and a newbie. I'm a college student in a college town but it's been hard to find the right group of genuine people I "click" with and it's been so lonely. I feel so embarrassed to be an upcoming junior and to say I don't have any good friends I can really rely on to cry with or laugh with. It's been so amazing to see your videos develop and change over the years! You are truly loved Ingrid!

[@Sandymros]

I'm currently caught up in a whirlwind of constant change. I keep getting the rug pulled out from under me whenever I start to think I'm starting to achieve some sort of stability. This video is really helpful, and it also makes me want to cry, because I don't know how much more of myself I can give up to whatever comes next. Thank you for being genuine and sharing this experience of change. It feels a lot like having a battle buddy❤❤❤

[@ljvolpicelli]

I'm not crying.... It's hard not to be empathetic to a person so genuine. Sending some light your way.

[@phatcurvypinay]

In 2015, i did a lot of great changes. Ditched my law career, got married, moved from the Philippines to New York. It was never this dramatic. But when i was packing my purple suitcase with my whole life to bring to another life, yeah, i felt overwhelmed. But yeah, i never overthink things.

[@realbigfanfaye]

Diana Ragub You are very lucky! Over thinking is a bad thing! I wish I was like you!

[@dreamwishergirl]

I went to the Philippines in May very beautiful over there but very different from the US!

[@phatcurvypinay]

Fedra_ Mour well, as I get older, i tend to overthink even the smallest of things. This is why I am having more anxiety attacks these days. So I am trying to remember times in my life where I just jumped, you know, even if I was uncertain. Because there is a certain kindnof freedom when you don't overthink things and just let things fall.

[@phatcurvypinay]

Lulu Love true. 😊

[@KelseyMix]

Ingrid, I’m going through a lot of change right now, including a move, and I want you to know how much this helped me and how much it will help me throughout this process. I’ve been watching your videos for a long time and I’m very grateful this video showed up on my feed when it did. Thank you 💕

[@janie1288]

Kelsey Mix n;

[@boothlovesbones1]

You'll probably never see this Ingrid, but I'm very thankful for this video. It has come in a time in my life when I'm having a big life change. I'm moving from Illinois to Tennessee in less than a week. I'll be leaving behind my childhood home and everything I know to get to a new place. It's exciting but also a scary time of the unknown. I just appreciate this more than you could know and it's given me more peace about my move. Thank you.

[@ladybleu7617]

I’ve arrived to a new place in life and it’s going to transform me for the better. I’m 42 years old and will be starting over in the job market after 19 years at one place of employment. It was interesting but I am surprised at my reaction. Hopefully it means something positive and fruitful. This is my hope for you as well Ingrid. I’ve been watching you for close to ten years and you’ve bloomed into such a vibrant spirit. Change isn’t easy but neither is life. It’s a rollercoaster ride and you’re gonna be okay.

[@sssaaarrraaaggghhh]

Ingrid! It's been a minute since I went away from your channel but here I am ... happy to be here,you're an inspiration and I want to thank you for making these videos... they're helping me thinking more and growing. Your like the big sister that I wish I had. Thank you again for the advices. Wish you the best for everything that the future holds for you.

[@suzannebarlas3708]

Trust life, missing people is good, that's how you know you love them. Love all the work that you have done on this channel!

[@lukinaandreyev1900]

This video came with perfect timing for me, I’ll be going off to college for the first time in two weeks and I couldn’t be more terrified. For me, it’s not the prospect of having to make new friends and stuff like that that’s scary, it’s that I’ll have to learn how to leave behind a home I love, and that I might lose loved ones on the way. It’s that adjustment to a new environment, and the knowledge that I won’t have my usual support system right by my side that I find so intimidating. Thank you for this! I think it’s also important to be gentle and patient with others while going through change, something I keep having to remind myself of as I find myself lashing out at others because of my fear.

[@kanghyeyeon5735]

I am glad you shared this video. I moved to the U.S 6 years ago and now it is time to go back to my country. On one hand, I am excited to see my family and friends. But on the other hand, I am nervous and anxious about the fact that I have to figure out everything again from finding a place to live to getting a job. It is always tough to deal with transition and changes. I have watched this video a number of times to reassure myself and tell me that everything is going to work out.

[@chrissycheerflyer]

The videos I always love from you most are the one‘s about life. There’s something so pure when you talk about life passages, which sadly gets lost these days on KZbin.

[@anaratimchenko2455]

This is the best advice not only for when you are living through a big change in your life but just for life in general. Changes happen to us all the time, big and small, difficult decisions and stress. From every perfectionist - thank you so much! 🙏🏻❤️

[@liz-tastic.]

I’ve really been loving your contact for the past few months, your honesty and realness is just so refreshing. Change is challenging, but that’s okay! Good luck, I know you’ll do absolutely fine in NYC

[@AnnswerMonster]

I definitely feel the same way about relying on myself and not asking for help. It is so hard for me and I end up always feeling GUILTY that I bother someone and can't do it myself and yes, I do feel insufficient and like a failure then. I have recently made a friend that is the opposite and asks for help and relies on people no problem and I think it's making me see that it's doable and people do that. But I grew up with my parents saying that if I can count, I should count on myself. And many experiences in my life reinforced that in me. I realized it only when I went to a few therapy sessions and my therapist pointed to my self-reliance. Now, I'm working on it!

[@robbiep.5497]

This could not have come at a better time. I'm currently in this "stuck" stage at 24 years old, and I'm constantly going through bouts of anxiety and just straight up depression. I'm just not happy with where I am, no matter how much I try to tell myself that I've already accomplished a lot, and will accomplish more in the future. I was finally diagnosed with anxiety and depression 2 years ago after going through it for pretty much my entire life undiagnosed, and it has helped me detect when I'm in that stage, but it doesn't help prevent it. I'm currently stuck in between being in the mindset of being patient and letting the good things manifest in my life, and not staying still and figuring out what actions I need to take to make my life better. Comparisons have also been a huge problem in my life, I compare my life and what I'm doing to people who I don't know personally, but see them "seemingly" living happily (dream job/career, married, pregnant/having families, etc). I know that they probably have their own problems...but I still find myself comparing and judging my life, which I need to cease from doing. Sometimes taking a step back from EVERYTHING really does put things in perspective, which helps a ton. Love this video, and thanks for gracing us with it, Ingrid

[@andreanunez8895]

Ingrid, it's with wholeheartedness that I thank you for this video. I don't think it's much of a coincidence that I'm currently 29 and two weeks away from moving to NYC from Miami. It's the first time I'll be moving out from home and while it's taken me some time to get to this point I don't regret my path. I told myself I would make this huge leap before 30 and that's what I'm doing. This move and a transition into a new career has got me in a rollercoaster of emotions, but I turn help from others, patience with myself, and trusting the process to keep me grounded and focused. Your recommendations are just what I needed to hear to reassure tme hat the actions I've taken to prepare myself for this transition are exactly the three tips you provided. We're totally wavelengthening!

[@Dmimima]

Literally cried while watching this video! I'm moving to London (from the United States) for graduate school this fall and my anxiety is overwhelming. I won't know a soul there and the fear of not making friends is really scary. I've been extremely hard on myself instead of recognizing that many people might not even have the bravery or even privilege to take on such an exciting life venture so I should be kinder to myself and embrace this opportunity!

[@Briannavalos]

THANK YOU for this video. I am in my late twenties, and I have a lot of change happening: Grad school. My boyfriend is moving away for college. Friends are starting careers. Friends are getting engaged/married/pregnant. Parents of friends are having health issues. It’s a scary time to be a young adult, and this change has left me feeling numb. I appreciate your tips, and I am happy I am not alone.

[@strawberryhappiness1468]

Thank you Mrs. Ingrid I love planning out my goals and workouts and different stuff but it can become overwhelming and stressful at times and like you said surrender to the Unknown,and come to think of it in those moments I let go and be carefree and accept the fact that everything may not go as to plan or take a break from things I feel really refreshed and rejuvenated,and it's like realizing God is in control and we can surrender to the Lord and realize no one but God is perfect and God alone has the answers God bless you. And I love you in Christ Mrs. Ingrid.

[@jaydelynette]

this video popped on my feed in such a great timing. Today i found out that today was the last day i will be seeing one of my very best friends before i leave for college as well as her. and i leave in two weeks. and i am FREAKING OUT. change is the worst thing ever to me especially because i’m a very very emotional person and i am emotionally driven and leaving is just floating through my head and giving me physical and mental pain lol. and this sucks. and i know i’ll be okay eventually but i am having a very hard time dealing with change but your tips and guidance will definitely help me and i am so very thankful you made this video!!!!

[@theonlycma]

I’m tearing up. This is exactly the video I needed and I didn’t even realize it. Thank you 💌

[@MsChucklebunny]

Dealing with my current inevitable changes in life have felt debilitatingly stressful and anxiety provoking. Thank you so much for sharing this Ingrid. My heart is happy to hear and see you again❤️

[@M.Sanmar]

Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! I am moving right now, starting a new job, different country, new city. This video makes me feel like I’m not alone and i so appreciate that specially right now it came at the perfect time. Send you a big hug💕

[@ng1465]

Ah Ingrid I’ve watched you for years and you are firmly still one of my favourites. I find your videos so soothing & just feel as though I’m listening to a friend. Good luck in New York xx

[@Kashakakes]

Saturn return is like being tumbled in dryer. I’m 29 as well and am so excited for this season to end (30/31 can’t come fast enough!) even though it can be so challenging to be forced grow , it’s so necessary to find what our soul is really here for. 💗💗💗

[@JessicaHeartsMakeup]

A life changing moment for me recently has been marriage. I got married 8 months ago. My married life is not the fairytale I was expecting. My husband is an amazing man and I love him so much more and more everyday but I was definitely not ready for this big change. Thank you so much Ingrid for this video, for the first time in a long time I feel happy and look forward to my future(:

[@alexakemi6597]

I’m sorry that your views have been down! Just know the people still around love and care! I’ve watched your channel for a long while and if there’s something I’ve gained when I sign off KZbin, it’s hope, and encouragement. I’ve always found you as a very real person, and being 17 I find you very wise and genuine! You’re awesome, take it easy. Lots of love, Alex

[@CarrieRad]

I love you. And I love this. ♥️😘 Already miss you but can’t wait to come see you!

[@dont_mind_me2957]

Carrie Rad who are you to ingrid?

[@vidr5797]

Sofy Ali she is one of her best friends ❤️

[@dont_mind_me2957]

Vidya Ravi ohhh thank you for telling me

[@ingridnilsen]

I love you, Carrie! I already miss you too but I'm SO looking forward to making new memories together in NYC! ❤️

[@MandyKnox]

Besides the message of this video, which is lovely and was exactly what I needed to hear right now (I also moved far away from home recently), I have to say two things: 1. Ingrid, you're such a lovely person, and a beacon of light in this weird place called KZbin, thank you so much for your hard work. 2. You're an amazing storyteller, I always connect with your stories one way or another, and that's only because you're so good at telling them.

[@NomadicPi]

I moved from the east coast of the U.S. to Alaska in my 20's, without ever having been there before. It was scary at the time, but Alaska is by far my favorite place I've ever lived (7 states all over the country). After 5 years there, I moved to Oregon, where I still live today (13 years so far). It's definitely harder to meet people when you are older (i.e. not in school) and don't have kids, as schools are a major community hub. Add to that not being a church-goer and not working locally/working from home and it gets really tough. I suggest getting involved in local organizations to meet like-minded people near you, and don't be afraid to start conversations with strangers over a random topic like an item they're buying while waiting in line at a store. New adventures are always a little scary, but ultimately those experiences shape us in incredibly important ways. Even if you figure out this isn't for you, another change is possible later. (May I recommend Fairbanks, AK and its lovely queer community?)

[@Awaecnan]

You're very right about us using our perfectionism as an ineffective coping mechanism. So inspiring. Thanks so much for sharing, Ingrid!

[@j3zzuhkah]

Thanks for being so open and vulnerable, Ingrid! 💕

[@catherinepotter6129]

Ingrid, thank you for be willing to share!!! I start a new job tomorrow where I don’t know anyone and it’s in a place I’m very unfamiliar with, so I am quite nervous about it. I tend to be a little anxious and resistant to change so you have no idea how helpful your encouraging words are!

[@Foonzie998]

Hi Ingrid, I know you're probably not going to read this but this video could not have come at a better time for me. I'm one week away from moving from my home in Canada to the UK and everything you have said about your big change echos exactly what I have been feeling. This move has always been my dream but for the past few weeks I have been going through a roller coaster of emotions from anxiety and stress and I realized that I was no longer feeling excited, which really scared me. It's nice to know that someone going through a similar change is working through the same struggles that I currently am, it makes me feel so much less alone in these thoughts and worries. You're right that this transition takes time and patience but ultimately each big change will help you grow, and you'll be a better person for it. I just need to remember that and not be so hard on myself for being so anxious, because that is normal. I wish you all the best in your transition and hope we can both be patient and not hit the ever tempting fast forward button and live in each moment, appreciating how amazing it is going through this journey.

[@makeupyourmind2019]

I had just turned 29 a week before when I packed my entire life and moved across the ocean to another country. Some of these things really resonate with my own experience.

[@amyg8176]

makeupyourmind2019 i always wanted to do that. I’m so jealous!

[@makeupyourmind2019]

Amy G maybe you can still do it. :)

[@afternooninhudd]

I plan because I am scared and I need to know what is going to happen next. I plan because most of the time I anticipate the worst thing possible to happen. I am still dealing with this at this state of my life and your video here has helped shed some light. Thank you.

[@manonbart5758]

The third advice speaks so much to me. I moved to Paris in January and as someone who's quite introverted and shy I felt so much pressure about having new friends and connecting with new people. Nobody told me to take it easy and that it would take time to settle and create that new circle of people, until a couple of weeks ago when chatting with my cousin's wife. Your video is a good reminder and I feel the same about so many things. You are very brave to open yourself up like that, and are definitely more brave than you think you are. You are a true inspiration and I have no doubt Big Apple will treat you well.

[@WiiwiYliz]

Thank you! I needed this... I got accepted into University. Not only is it a new school with completely new people, but I also have to move into a big city on my own for the first time. It is so far away so I can't visit home that much... Next month everything will change for me. Even though excited, I feel the fear of unknown... So it feels nice to know that I'm not alone😊

[@elle3802]

Thank you Ingrid for this video. These are really important points that make a huge difference and I can relate to all that you mentioned. I lost my dad almost a year ago whilst at the same time dealing with severe mental health issues and physical illness myself. Definitely asking for help is a big one. Sometimes I feared ridicule or rejection or empty promises. I hope this advice can help others because it certainly made a difference for me. 💌

[@sanafaheema3170]

Your voice is so gentle, it’s almost like therapy

[@Entitled_af_millenial]

Thanks for the video Ingrid. I’ve been a fan since the MissGlamorazzi era and have never commented or reached out but I felt a need to because of what you’ve said in this video. A month ago I moved to Austin and have gone through the same things you talked about. I lived in NY my whole life, moved to Texas without ever having been because of a job opportunity, and I too have left all my friends and family behind. I too cried many times because of loneliness, fear, and stress but lately things have taken a turn for the better by making new friends, having good camaraderie with my coworkers, and even dating has been a pretty positive experience. Good luck with your life change. NY is amazing and I’m sure your life will be filled with great experiences. Just know that the transition is hard as hell but eventually things will fall into place and the hard experiences will just make you a better person. ❤️

[@rachellllhines]

"Change is where transformation is born" YESSSSSS SLAY QUEEN AMEN

[@lovingvolleyball1]

I just want you to know that your videos help me so much, im so thankful that you listened to your gut and decided to film this because it came to me at a time when i really needed to hear this. I hope your move goes well and you keep your head up because you can do this!

[@WierdMusician]

I'm moving by myself to a new city in a couple of weeks after finishing university, this has helped me so much. I've been ignoring my feelings about the move and haven't truly acknowledged how scared I am! Your point about being gentle with yourself especially resonated with me, and overall this video is fantastic. Thank you, Ingrid

[@danielles7297]

I just moved away from my parents home for the first time, to start a new job in a new city. Somehow the universe knew that I needed to see this. Thank you

[@sarakoshnood7805]

I love your videos and they really help me every time I want to cry lately. Thanks for being that virtual encourager that is soo consistent for everything

[@KatiePetersPlays]

Thank you for this. I've needed it more than you know and this summer has been one of the most challenging I have had in my 30 years. Thank you for making me feel less alone.

[@audreyholt4859]

Have you ever considered doing a weekly podcast? Your voice is so soothing and for someone so young you have so many life experiences. I’m going through a rough time right now with my relationship and also moving across the country, and watching your video gave me a few minutes of peace that’s been hard to find recently. ❤️

[@SunshineOfMyLife28]

Ingrid, you speak about similar lessons I've received from therapy, but it's funny how it makes more sense coming from someone who shares a generational experience, yet an outside perspective. I've been subscribed to you from the beginning, and I really respect your growth, honesty and wisdom. I'm proud of you, and I wish you the best of luck with your transition!!!

[@KatieBo831]

I just moved away from home and started a brand new job and am a MESS. I needed this. Thank you so much

[@XoxoAnnieMarie]

Soooooo happy that you are still posting amazing content and staying so genuine and pure, not just pushing products and living an idealistic, perfect “lifestyle”

[@LivingLikeLex]

I’ve been watching your videos since mid 2012 and can say that you have accomplished so much in the span of six years. This is just the beginning and I am very proud of the person you have become. Godspeed!

[@lauracricket]

I needed this video so much. I’m in the middle of a lot of different and unexpected changes right now and I’ve NEVER been good at change. So thank you so much for this. You’ve been a favorite of mine for so many years and will continue to be ❤️❤️❤️

[@liapania]

I dropped out of uni and have been living with my parents this year feeling so terrified of moving forward. This video was really inspiring. I’ve been watching you for so many years and this meant the world to me ❤️

[@florlee869]

I love that you posted this. I have been having such a hard time adapting to all the changes I’m going through and just knowing I’m not the only one and how to deal with it makes me so happy! Thank you!

[@mairi_de_provenca]

You made my day. A friend and I needed this today. Thank you for making such a change. You are loved.

[@arachelrogersplants]

Thank you so much for making this video! I recently moved half way across the country from my home state and I have had so many feelings and SO many changes. This helped me so much to know that I’m not the only one experiencing all these feelings. Wishing you the best on this life change 💕