Dear Parents...

In this short video, I share with other parents some tips and advice about the relationship between us and our children. The Messenger of Allah said, "You are all shepherds, and each is accountable for their flock."
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[@user-eu4zb4hh3y]

It hurts so much if you've narcissistic parents. Thank you so much for this video. May Allah give you Jannah!

[@catherinep3458]

brother Belal has taught me calmness, knowledge and so much more, i didnt have parents for guidance, this brother inspired me. I pray so much for him, i know its not been easy for him yet his smile and faith in God always brings me back to Earth and gives me a reality check. Thankyou dear brother for your teachings.

[@happyvibe864]

Literally 😭😭😭 may Allah bless him

[@salimahosein1569]

May Allah continew to bless you. you make me so proud an inspired

[@pj6299]

99% parents are narcist now days I have tons of people complaing the same. They are inclined towards one child being unfair to the other. Ibn qayyum said in the hereafter children will get first priviledge that Allah will ask them how did your parents raised you before asking the parents how you raised them. Hazrat Ali said make your child a musheer when 15 years old. Musheer is means an advisor but parents listen all except their children. Sadly, the downfall of this ummah.

[@ayeshah9813]

You have said it all. No mistakes

[@user-up9rf3nw2i]

How nice to hear this. Too late for those of us in our 40s and 50s damaged by first generation pakistani parents who saw their kids as servants.

[@noreenbi9079]

I get what ur saying. It's never 2 late we can try 2 be better parents. The first problem was they had 2 many kids and not enough love 2 give out. The second problem was they loved there siblings happy 2 send them money bk home. But no love 2 give there kids

[@hibbahmalik3473]

I have so much trauma from being forced to be with someone I did not want. My parents called me the worst of names/insults and abused me for months for ending it. I lost my joy & happiness from how my family treated me 😢😣

[@saminamahmood6434]

So sorry to hear that keep doing dua for yourself Allah will help you.

[@halimaakbar5530]

Try to keep your sanity. Take care of your health. Prayers for you.

[@AA-co9oo]

I am so sorry for your suffering; your parents are absolutely wrong to abuse you in such a cruel manner.. do whatever you can to get closer to Allah and build a wall against the abuse until you are safe in your life.. you are a creation of Allah and not your parents.. do what pleases Allah and imagine Allah’s pleasure when you do good; separate your vision of parents being the ones from whom you need approval and replace that with Allah.. look up, say dua and smile..

[@Nusaybah459]

May Allah heal you. Ask Him.

[@aasiyahwadee8479]

May Almighty Allah(SWT) make everything easy for you in this world and in the Aakirah, Ameen. Ya Rabbul Alameen.

[@hokang66]

Thank you so much for sharing. What you have shared are things that I longed for as a child, but never received it. Although my parents love me, but mom is a narcissist, insults us, talks nasty stuff about dad, and loves to quote bible when she can't even achieve it herself. While dad always puts work first, and rarely has time for me to share with him my thoughts and feelings. Feelings to him are for wimps. It took me most of my adult life trying to find my identity. And now as a new mom, I wish I could live up to your advice to do the best I can for my child.

[@saminamahmood6434]

As parents we have to change ourselves to help our children to have good life.

[@LK-sk2wv]

Asalam alaykum, I am a single mother with a teenage son. I’m a revert so my son is not Muslim. He is a good boy, very compassionate, considerate and caring however very challenging also. Some of my family or friends still don’t know I’m Muslim as I’m scared to be labelled stupid or laughed at, and I’m scared that they will try to convince my son to stay away from Islam, as this has already happened with those that do know I’m Muslim. Because of this Ive become very isolated and have no one around me but my child. I feel blessed as I know Allah guides who he wills, I feel blessed to be a Muslim and this isolation has brought me closer to Allah however I still feel very lonely and finding it difficult to balance deen and dunya. I feel like a failure in every aspect and others confirm this. I feel ashamed that some people sill don’t know that I’m Muslim, as I’m proud to be one but I’m scared of the influence it may have on my son. Please keep my son in your duas, may Allah guide him, ameen.

[@nobodyknows183]

Walaikum Assalaam sister. I don't know where you are from but I do believe you need support from other Muslim sisters first.

[@nobodyknows183]

Please don't listen to others' opinions or views about you; it doesn't mean they are right! Focus your attention on you & your connection to Allah. He will help you through this In Sha Allah. Never think you are alone, watch videos like these, they will help boost your Imaan & wellbeing.

[@sarahkim3542]

Ameen

[@amanijama9597]

May Allah guide him and make your son the coolness of your eyes.

[@luthfamiah4237]

Ameen

[@StrivingSlave79]

I understand this is my test being born into a dysfunctional and toxic family and evil lineage having grown up in a toxic environment, there was no Islam witnessing abusive fights between parents and domestic violence and abuse.

[@zaddy6429]

my parents never give me time or understand ptsd from courts an jails an prisons and why life is a bit harder

[@KingsCrossVIP]

Ameen. wallah i love this teacher for the love of Allah may Allah give you everything good in this life and the next.

[@cathyndiaye9399]

JazakAllahu kheir for this reminder. As children we often hear about how we should be with our parents but not the "etiquette of islamic parenting". May الله help us all be good children and good parents.

[@noreenbi9079]

Yes well said

[@noreenbi9079]

Also cos there is not enough Islamic knowledge the children don't want 2 be Muslim

[@ramsiodah2920]

يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا اسْتَجِيبُوا لِلَّهِ وَلِلرَّسُولِ إِذَا دَعَاكُمْ لِمَا يُحْيِيكُمْ ۖ وَاعْلَمُوا أَنَّ اللَّهَ يَحُولُ بَيْنَ الْمَرْءِ وَقَلْبِهِ وَأَنَّهُ إِلَيْهِ تُحْشَرُونَ (24)

[@user-xl6go2sk6p]

I think he is the best father mashaallah!❤

[@ramsiodah2920]

يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا قُوا أَنفُسَكُمْ وَأَهْلِيكُمْ نَارًا وَقُودُهَا النَّاسُ وَالْحِجَارَةُ عَلَيْهَا مَلَائِكَةٌ غِلَاظٌ شِدَادٌ لَّا يَعْصُونَ اللَّهَ مَا أَمَرَهُمْ وَيَفْعَلُونَ مَا يُؤْمَرُونَ (6)

[@ramsiodah2920]

وَالَّذِينَ آمَنُوا وَاتَّبَعَتْهُمْ ذُرِّيَّتُهُم بِإِيمَانٍ أَلْحَقْنَا بِهِمْ ذُرِّيَّتَهُمْ وَمَا أَلَتْنَاهُم مِّنْ عَمَلِهِم مِّن شَيْءٍ ۚ كُلُّ امْرِئٍ بِمَا كَسَبَ رَهِينٌ (21)

[@shalizamohammed868]

Daily Dhikr Reminder ♥️💚Bismillah 1. SubhanAllah 2. Alhamdulillah 3. La illaha il Allah 4. Allahu Akbar

[@Halalwood]

This is common in African homes our parents will never listen to us. They are used to give instructions and command, they were all raised like this. I can't remember when last I have a discussion of one hour with my father. They are authoritative. Reading some hadith about how the Prophet Muhammad treated his families and people around him it baffles me how our parents are not following this sunnah

[@sofiaahmed6895]

3 x Allahu Akbar 3 × Alhamdulillah 3 × Subahnallahi wabihamdi 3 × Subahnallahil Azim Good deeds for you and me ♥️

[@siwarjawadi5255]

Watching this in tears

[@AbdulRahman-qx4fz]

My mother always tells me that i dont do enough and that i dont do work and when i show her an example of me doing work she days u did it only for that day and never again....yesterday i just lost it and had an angry outburst on her and now i regret it...she may have been wrong but i shouldve not gotten angry....i stopped myself so many times but this time i had enough and i just couldnt stop myself May allah forgive us and grant us jannah. May allah grant our parents jannah. Aameen.

[@AvinAli.M]

I have the same problem even with my family members I didn’t know how to react I'm struggling with a lot of traumas I had enough of them today I Even questioned myself but when I saw this video I was relieved again, even though I have a lot of mistakes as a human being they can't treat me like this. It's 3 years I've been struggling with deep depression and no one in my family knew I have this condition I'm still struggling because they are the cause of my mental illness but alhamdulillah I really want to show this to my parent but they don't understand English Unfortunately. I always pray for their goodness please pray for me and my family after all of that I love them so much 😢

[@iluutransportation2723]

My Allah grant you peace keep love and respect your family the reward is big inshallah ❤

[@user-ll9mb8js3d]

ASSALOMU ALAYKUM BELAL ASSAD,you are the best and extremely honestly person i have ever seen in my life.Thank you for all of i love this channel from UZBEKISTAN🇺🇿🇺🇿

[@ladysolidarity6072]

agreed 100% May Allah continue to bless him and you!!

[@user-ll9mb8js3d]

Honestly thank u sooo much for your the best wishes for us 😊😊 and Are you from UZBEKISTAN??🇺🇿🇺🇿🇺🇿🇺🇿🇺🇿🇺🇿

[@ladysolidarity6072]

@user-ll9mb8js3d I am in Canada. I had searched for guidance and Allah led me to Sheikh Belal. I am so happy you were also led to him.

[@user-ll9mb8js3d]

@@ladysolidarity6072 MASHALLAH congratulations.exactly his every video is helping me😊 thanks also me too very happy 🥰🥰

[@user-ll9mb8js3d]

And I think your English better than me because I am learning these months

[@MaryamJ2]

Jazakallahu Khair ya sheikh honestly this was something I needed to hear

[@naza2218]

May Allah Azzawajul grant brother Belal the highest station of paradise Ameen

[@user-ll9mb8js3d]

ASSALOMU ALAYKUM VA RAHMATULLOHU VA BARAKATUH to be honest I really love your all videos and you are helping me for improving my listining skill and religious knowledge and so I'm sharing ur videos with my friends I believe that you will send more and more videos like these I love these channel ASSALOMU ALAYKUM VA RAHMATULLOHU VA BARAKATUH

[@aishad1189]

Jazakhallah brother. Just what i needed to hear today.

[@jusranada]

Ameen ameen ameen.🤲🏼. Maa shaa Allah, beautiful advice. You covered all angles and I appreciate that. May Allah help this to reach the hearts far and wide ameen. Jazakallah khair.

[@managementconsultancy4862]

Salam ou halaykoum Wa RahmatuAllahi Shaykh/all, Gazek Allahu gairen brother Shaykh, my child is 15y mashAllah. She is my great love, the oxygen in my lungs SubhanAllah. That I may and can feel this love, Alhamdoulilahi. May Allah swt protect all children's Fitra, Allahuma Amien. As a mother, I find this topic fundamental, it is wisdom. We should nurture our children with love and compassion from birth. If we fail to do so as the first affective relationship (bonding), then we are single-handedly destroying dispassion and self-confidence in the child. Shaykh, I am so proud of you, as well as your parents who raised you with this love. Allahuma Barek in everything you do AND good for you. Wa halaykoum asalaam 🌸

[@bozenagaek2264]

Masha Allah

[@giveup1315]

MashaAllah Our father is the best he even helpsus with cooking..❤

[@mariamharris8682]

Algamdulillaah

[@dieynabacarvalho2746]

What a beautiful perspective may Allah reward you.

[@sadyadey782]

Alhamdullilla I’m blessed to be able to listen to your lectures MashaAllah tabarakaAllah❤

[@SinanC.]

You're right Belal. Sometimes you just need to listen. You don't have to give advice on every single issue that's put forward.

[@RahmaARahma]

❤❤❤🎉 Subhan Allahi Rabill Alamiin v. Nice reminder Allah Almaighty gerant jannat naima wi ur fimeleils

[@narmeenahsan5946]

اللهم اميييين ya rabbbb🤲🏽🤲🏽🤲🏽

[@Eebz515]

Love this!! 💙🙌🏽

[@ChemWithMahnoor]

Jazak Allah O Khyr

[@ummiali1208]

جزاك الله خير 🙏

[@ummrahmak]

Jazakhallahu khairen

[@moonface79247]

SubhanAllah

[@richardfoulkejr5731]

Thank you so much for all you do brother

[@HennaWorks]

Thank you brother for this reminder.. Let’s do constant dhikr in our lives, May Allah (swt) give all parents (current/future) this type of mindset.

[@junayedahamed9277]

I feel very blessed to hear your lecture.

[@mejganm05]

Ameen dear brother 🙏🏼

[@mohamedhoque793]

Jazak Allahu Khayr dear Imam. I'm from NYC and am going through tests w/ my children and wife, kindly keep me in your duaa. May Allah SWT grant us to be among His most beloved slaves and protect us from all harms.

[@Maryam-xc7ww]

جزاك الله خيرا الجزاء

[@UmmeHabiba-vv3bl]

Ameen

[@NightWarrior972]

Why is this so true 😢

[@bibiomarally9120]

Ma’Sha’Allah Jazak Allah khiran,for your beautiful advice Shaikh Assaad

[@RahnumaNoor]

Thank you. It was a very important lesson to learn.

[@hibbahmalik3473]

✨Can u talk about forced engagements/marriages? Parents justify it by saying kids have to obey them. Plz. It is really traumatic to go through this especially if somebody is vulnerable 💜

[@malikali8947]

Did this happen to you?

[@Layla6793]

Allahuma Ameen

[@Layla6793]

May Allah bless you and your family Shiekh Bilal

[@Swed813]

Absolute obedience is between you and God. Absolute obedience does not belong to creation and this includes parents. There is no Ayah nor Hadith of the Prophet Muhammed ﷺ that states parents can make rulings above sacred law and the above the Sunnah or that they can carry out injustice/ abuse. A forced nikah is not legal Islamically. If you're in a country that has laws against this then tell the Police. My friends cousin was in this situation she told the Police. The police came to the house and told her parents forced marriage is illegal and they'll get arrested if she gets married off or is reported missing. They backed off and stopped after that.

[@hibbahmalik3473]

@@Swed813 Jazakallah for the advice!! 🩷🩷What country was it?

[@Asyifaao]

sukron for your enlightenment I hope you are always healthy thank you for opening my mind about parents :)

[@hamuk2019]

Thank you so much my beautiful brother belal

[@mazen3041]

Beautiful advice.

[@soarbenni4232]

I moved out of my Family Home, they disbanded me They hate me I converted to Islam back in 2018 when they saw that I got kicked out off the house But today I live in some Work in Progress Home Alone Since 5 Year I pray for my Parents to be alive They are fine But hate me Help

[@Mikaeel84]

Beautiful video Brother. I would love to hear more videos about parenting.

[@artwithkidz1783]

Allhamdullila

[@halimasofi9001]

Allah salamat rakhe. Aameen

[@aishavlogs1409]

AAMEEN YA RUB UL AALAMEEN 🕋 🤲🏼 😭

[@farahashique6056]

ALLAH humma baarik dearest beloved shiekh beautiful advices may Allah subhaanahu ta aala help us to act upon what we learn of goodness Aameen 🤲💝💯💎🤲

[@bg5462]

Masha Allah sheik great advise great video thank you for speaking on this topic May Allah reward you immensely Ameen ❤️🤲🏼

[@danasaeed9018]

MASHALLAH.

[@AizaKhan28]

A much needed video for our society for parents nowadays. They think that it's for the children to obey to respect to love to care their parents to talk with kindness, and not for them to do the same for their kids. I realllyy loveee thiss video and i want to thank you for speaking on this. جزاک اللہ خیرا. ❤❤❤

[@drsehrishaman9765]

This is exactly what i want from my parents, but if i just want them to listen this video they might take it wrong and misunderstand this message and my intention.

[@Finefella]

👍🏾

[@piqueny8872]

the elders community I grew up along had more than 6,7 ,8,9 10+ children one after the other Not only did they have no clue to raising children with Islamic values They were emotionally blackmailed by grandparents to have more grandsons to marry the future female cousin from the village for the passport marriages To Gain financially. Leading to parents neglecting religious obligations some now adult children have left islam altogether some are Muslim by name Mohamed is mo ect Some are Eid Muslims jummah Muslims It’s disheartening to see the youth falling into haram and the parents allowing it once again for financial gain

[@noreenbi9079]

Yes ur right. It'd not the children's fault. The parents will get punished 4 it. When u have so many children how can u give them love and attention and teach them stuff.

[@piqueny8872]

@@noreenbi9079 this is why I don’t understand old internet imams constantly telling men marry to produce many children Knowing what the results of the youth is today. Allah forgive a lot of them are travelling the world giving “dawah” enjoying themselves like a bachelors private planes boat rides jet skiing ect yet the wives are stuck at home with the many children trying to raise children by themselves without the father/ husband no authority figure for the children to listen too

[@noreenbi9079]

@@piqueny8872 Yes ur right fathers are responsible 2. They have all the kids and let the women deal with them.

[@piqueny8872]

@@noreenbi9079 men just want to hold onto there bachelor single lifestyle while having halal intimacy. Allah forgive a shiek out travelling the world enjoying his extra sport hobbies while the wives and children are stuck at home. Really unfair how women get hurled with having many children yet they don’t get to enjoy the world actives because the husband had decided they stay at home

[@noreenbi9079]

@@piqueny8872 Yes ur right. But also the topic is parents . Some mothers are not good either

[@Violentbeat3940]

How do you deal with depression that stems from a parent that said hurtful and unforgivable words? I initially had a close relationship with my mother but recently words that were said that don’t think will ever be forgiven. This has caused contemplation to even pray for an early death.

[@StudyQueen-rr9lq]

JazakAllah sir.. for this beautiful topic but i want to highlight a point. Sir parents in asia are not much on social media especially when it comes to these type of lectures. All they do is force their childeren either emotionally or physically for everything even if its about their studies or marraiges or general basic life choices. Im so sad to mention that my own parents expect from me to obey them even if im not happy at all. I love them alot and i might also agree with them on every point but from inside im empty broken. And i dont know how to makw them understand and this is so much common in pakistan. Parents dont want their child even if that nice if that good child ask them something they dont want. I love my parents i obeyed them my whole life in every matter of my life but since i asked them the only thing , they consider me disobedient, they call me gunnah gar. But they want to listen to me at all. Please give these lectures on such platform that are parents are able to listen and understand. JazakAllah kher .. asalamu alaikum

[@leenacrono]

My mom is a cronic narcissistic. It hurts so much ya Allah... This is so hard for me. I almost hate myself

[@ayeshah9813]

The main problem is there is so much stress on obeying parents these days that they start believing themselves as gods. Parents start controlling & abusing their kids due to this. We need to send out a clear message that obedience is for Allah alone & He asks us to treat them kindly. We need to stop parent worshipping in the name of obedience. The clerics, speakers, imaams etc need to stress the point that parents are human beings too. They are fallible. Parents need to accept this reality Asap. They need to be humble. Arrogance only leads to hell.

[@belal.assaad]

AsA sister, the scholars are unanimous that Obeying parents is compulsory bit based on the following 3 conditions: 1. That what they are asking them to do is a benefit for the parents such as a service, assistance, help etc 2. What they are asking to do is not a sin such as theft, lying, dealing in haram etc 3. That what they are asking them to do is not going to result in harm on the child in the following 5 categories of basic rights: safety, property, religion, dignity or mind. Examples of permissibility to disobey the parents are: marrying whom they want them to marry but the son/daughter do not want to marry them, forcing them to eat a food they don’t want to eat etc

[@ayeshah9813]

@@belal.assaad I wish parents understood what u said. I wish they stayed within boundaries.Unfortunately they misuse their authority. Thanks a lot for the info. May Allah reward u

[@belal.assaad]

@@ayeshah9813yes I understand. Inshllah this Wednesday I will be give a lecture in 2 parts of family relationships, rights and boundaries. This clip is just a snippet.

[@ayeshah9813]

@@belal.assaad May Allah reward you & your entire family Sir. Salaam to your services

[@Tayyib_nutrition]

​@@belal.assaadAssalamu aleikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh ustaz, could you please cover the topic of relationships between siblings, their rights & obligations to each other and how to solve issues in the best of manners. Haven't found good lectures on this very important topic

[@FGHIslam]

Assalaamualaikum Please advise children who are already adults too, on how they should treat the parents Nowadays the parents are respected if they are working parents even if they are old.

[@dawah2islam20]

😘

[@sstmmd6382]

@belal.assaad: Dear Sheikh, Please give us one talk of yours on the topic of Hijrah (kzbin.info/www/bejne/rpndZ4pvob9mmJY ). Do we have to leave Europe (born europeans, migrated to europe, revert europeans etc)? Because French ban the Abayah. Can you please give us Quran, Sunnah related one video, so that as not shcolar we can compare and take decision. Allahumma Barik.

[@salihasalah2230]

The most sad part is that parents forcing their children to do Shirk and of if the children lectures them n try to make them understand the concept of thouheed, they start saying bad words n abuse the children

[@LiveLaughLove01]

Jazaakullah Khayr Sheikh - as a mum I definitely needed to hear this. Made me emotional- and made me reflect upon my actions as a mother also. May Allah SWT Reward you. Aameen. May Allah SWT Help us & Guide us in raising our children. Aameen Ya Rab🤲🏻🤍

[@user-kjhm]

اخي او اختي انا اعلم ممكن ان تقولو لى هذا غلط ولكن ضروفنا اكثر من قاسيه و اجبراتني على هذا ارجوكم ان تسامحني 🙏💔 انا يأاخى والله ثم والله اني ما بدي اطلب احد بس الظروف حكمت عليه و خلينى اطلب منكم وبعد وبعد ما مات الله يرحمه ما أحد وقف معنا والله يا اخي وعندي اطفال نحمد الله على كل حال 💔 ''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''' اني دخلة على الله ثم عليكم انا اختكم أتوسل اليكم لوجة الله... اخواني انا عندى صغار ولا يوجد عندى شي الاكل الحمدلله انا ارملة من فلسطين اقسم بالله لايوجد شي. عندي ومعي صغار وارجو منكم ان تقف معي لكي اعين الصغار وانا و اسرتي بيتنا ايجار الشهر و تركمات علينا الديون من اجار بيتنا الى عدة شهور وصاحب البيت يريد ان يخرجنا بسبب عدم دفع الرسوم السابقة ويريد يطردنا من البيت الى الشارع لعدم ما قدرنا على دفعه لموعد الأ جار بدون رحمه و اني اسالك بالله العظيم يا اخي لو انت تحب الخير 00970592511969 ارجوك ان يا اخي الامر لله وحده ربنا يعطيكم الصحة والعافية وعندي صغير مريض ويحتاج الى عمليه للقرانيه فى العين وقال لى الدكتور يجب ان اعمل العمليه فى اسرع وقت ممكن حتا لا يكون خطر على النظر فى المستقبل على الصغير الله يحفظكم من كل سوء يارب. ومن الممكن روية بنفسك الحال الذي انا فية و يوجد كثير كثير فى حياتى من المشاكل وديون البقالة والكهرباء والماء وثمن العلاج وغير ذلك كثير من الديون وانا دقيت ابواب ناس كثير ولكن انتم تعلمون كيف نعيش في بلادنا بسبب الحصار الظلم. غير قادرة اتكلم حتا اليوم قررت اكتب علي اليوتيوب واشارككم قصتي وانا فى امس الحاجة لكم فى هذه الايام انظروا لنا فى عنين الرحمه والشفقة وكونوا لنا اخوان سامحوني على هذا الازعاج لكم فى موقع اليوتيوب ولكم هذا هي الطريق الواحد الذي ممكن ان تشركوني فى هذه الحياة وان يصل لكم حياتي💔💔 &&&&»»»»»»»»»»»»»»»»»»»»»»»»»»» اللهم صلي على سيدنا محمد 🌺

[@AbyssalSword]

I know it might be the young man in me talking, but I usually fantasize of having a loving wife and kids.

[@user-pg2nl5rp3c]

Понимать бы о чем он) к сожалению,английский не знаю

[@Justauser4821]

I have a question, am a singel mom I don't have no kind of contact with the dad of my kid since our divorce, my baby was just 3 months when we broke up, the dad didn't reach out and I didn't want to have any contact with him my baby is now 7 years old I've never told her who her dad is, and I dont plan to do it honestly. Is that a bad thing? Is it haram? Cause since he hasn't showed any kind of interest, i dont want to be the one that reaches him out. What should I do? Can someone help me?

[@Shanash92]

I have a quick question & story to share, i would appreciate if you can make a video, i was born in the UK and got forced to marry my cousin in bangladesh like many others, but i started seeing goodness in him and i love him for the sake of Allah. My question is, in Asia especially, the Eldest sons who have came abroad, are being opressed in our community where even after marriage they have to financially look after their parents and Siblings, even when father and siblings are perfectly healthy to earn, that includes paying for living, travelling, studying expenses all including getting them married, basically like a fathers role, i understand looking after parents and i’m all for taking care of parents but is it obligatory to financially support siblings as an eldest son? Moreover not being able to keep wife and children fully satisfied because he has too much pressure from his family back home, The husband thinks if he doesn’t take responsibility as ordered by parents they will be upset with him and he will get punished so he is trying to keep parents happy by doing so… I am willing to sacrifice for husbands sake but not happy within as we are struggling and it is destroying me mentally and physically the stress is having an impact. What is the advice in this scenario, who is right who is wrong as there is not many info about thiscsort of scenario, but there are many being opressed. I think even the husband is confused of what to do for the sake of Allah, there isn’t much information about this situation, he doesn’t want to hurt anyone but he has so much pressure, he’s a troubled and stressed out soul himself. Also the Society will say he hasn’t looked after his siblings after coming abroad, they expect him to give them a better life too, bring them to the UK somehow. This is happening to alot of the Elder son’s & their wifes, suffering silently. Please i would appreciate if you can make a video or add it to one of your lecture. Jazakallah khair.

[@janan4215]

A hope Brother Bilal has already made or will make a partner speech to this one titled as “Dear Children…” considering we have all kinds of parents AND children as well.

[@manalmom9017]

من فضلكم عن ماذا يتكلم الفيديو للان لغتي الانجليزية سيء

[@ahmedabdelkader4550]

عن كيف يجب على الآباء و الأمهات معاملة أبنائهم بطريقة غير مؤذية للابن أو الإبنة نفسيا أو جسديا

[@carminetancioni7444]

My parents are kaafir, but alhamdulillah they still act like they're following the Sharia by coincidence

[@mdmostafakamalkamal6152]

I was under a great mental trauma because of the the mistreatment of my parents. I couldn't make them understand my feelings. They always makes me feel inferior to others. During the lock down of COVID-19 they mistreated with me a lot. As a result i fell into a great depression. I also didn't have any friends in school or siblings to share my felling. I would cry everyday and every night locking my door. I even can't make any sound while crying and it's painful and chocking. I listened to pop songs to forget pain. But it didn't lessen. I even thought of committing suicide. But i wasn't brave enough and i knew Allah is my creator and there is a afterlife though my iman wasn't strong at that time. I would always blame myself for everything. I developed a massive low self-esteem and i was very unconfident. I wouldn't speak or express my feelings. And i would get paniced before any person. It was very painful. I forget about the blessing of Allah. I asked Allah 'why it is me? ' And this though was always inside my head for two years. I was very painful. I did pray every prayer. But i didn't know their meaning. I recited Quran without understanding. And i remember one day i told Allah in amy own language to bring me out of this pain. And gradually from that time i stated to listen to Islamic lectures. But it's was not enough to get me out of sadness. Because i was addicted to fell sorry all the time. But alhamdulillah when i started to read al Quran with understanding the meaning i deppressed disappeared within six months. Alhamdulillah now i know Islam is very beautiful. And Allah is always with me whenever i am. Now the mistreatment of my parents don't seem so painful. Because this life is a test.

[@saminamahmood6434]

I nearly lost my daughter she was very depressed cause I was too strick with her I was doing it for her safety. Cause of family problems it effected my children terribly you have to make a happy atmosphere in the house aswel.

[@zaidharry7571]

FIRST GG EZ

[@lodiraisa]

Hehe

[@sadyadey782]

Our prayers go out to all parents and their children for Allah mercy 🤲🏾

[@ni3467]

U shud do one for children too. We all went for these struggles as kids we had it worse. Privacy still needs to be minitored to a extent. New parents the problem they use western values to raise to kids. As a teacher the common thing we see parents is ' im not gna force them to pray and learn Islam' but force them wen it comes to school

[@belal.assaad]

Children one has also been done before this one. Respecting their privacy is taken as a general rule. But of course, in exceptional circumstances such as having a well-founded reason to rightfully suspect your children of wrongful behaviour, then it is permissible for parents to investigate within the limited boundaries only and for that purpose only. This is a duty on parents when they see their children up to harmful or corrupt behavior in order to protect them and guide guide. I think most parents would understand what I meant by respecting their privacy.

[@noreenbi9079]

Yes I understand what u are saying. Parents are 2 busy working not monitoring what there children are doing. They shouldn't force the kids 2 do anything not school either . But just explain things 2 them. And ease things in slowly about Islam

[@melizaburgos5718]

Allow them to go to camping with girlfriends and alcohol with them?

[@belal.assaad]

Of course not.

[@sacdiyasiyaad7241]

@@belal.assaadasc sheekh thank you so much for advice walahi everything you said I do with my children alhamdulillah I’m also single mom my parents they raised me like a lot of my children their friends always says guys you have a good mother we understand each other about life and financial situation some of their friends they moved their parents house because no communication no listening no talking social emotional this lecture who needs parents from Africa even other countries special muslim people thank you again May Allah swt protect you and your family Jazzakalah khair

[@nguyenhong8558]

Assalamualaikum sheikh. Jazakallah khair. I have question about parent who suffered from mental illness and now the son is adult and taking care of the parent who is now also has dimentia. the son had traumatic childhood and couldn't forgive/forget his bad memories with parent, making the care for father challenging... The son is now a father too. The 3rd generation is suffering from toxic environment. Please give some advice...Jazakallah khair...