Decode, Heal Your Mind with IPAM (Intrapsychic Activation Model) (Conference Presentation)

[@mandinamilosevic]

Thank you very much . Thats why I am travelling in all possible ways my whole life. I feel I have to move to calibrate myself.

[@RafaelCantarella]

Every video I watch of Sam is like taking a longer breath to dive deeper inside me.

[@JelenaVesic-g9b]

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[@asanabahrami2735]

This is invaluable information. Thank you very much ❤

[@hiddenlore-astrologija418]

Finally something I can relate to. I did take me 10 years to experience the change and make myself aware.

[@andrewbeckman7687]

He is the bomb in straight explain why how when where those tactics are useful

[@anabandana666]

This video changed my life

[@luzeyden6527]

How it change your life?

[@Sassenach1776girl]

The lies we tell ourselves are the most dangerous.

[@ShelleyMarie7.5]

Thank you for sharing your insight and wisdom with us!! I learn and grow with each video. You have helped me more than a plethora of books and classes. Your ability to self reflect, trust your instincts and process vast volumes of information while translating your understanding for others is such a complex process of synthesizing and filtering info, it is truly a gift to us all. Thank you for your willingness to share the depth of your experience with us, that takes great inner strength and bravery. You are sincerely appreciated!! You are a wise and generous soul🤗

[@elainelapides9545]

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[@debrahalpren634]

You are fantastic you have educated me and helped me so much I cannot thank you enough and I adore you

[@Michelle-uz2ch]

Thank you so much, Prof.Vaknin, for sharing your model of understanding. My awareness, agency, and thereby mental health, fortify learning such insightful knowledge.

[@LifeIsGood1992]

this is revolutionary ❤

[@angiemcguinness355]

Looking suave Sam. Great content.

[@Badics83]

great haircut.

[@Badics83]

Once you are in Hungary I Will schedule a consultation to have a coffee. I use decaf too.

[@pulse1272]

The spikes look better 😉😝

[@Rozentsweig]

I think there are much more important things in this video then Sam's haircut, don't you think?

[@Badics83]

@@Rozentsweig I do not accept invalidating attacks from people with no face and fake names. 😅🤣😂

[@Rozentsweig]

@@Badics83 The one who is invalidating here is actually you. Think about it.

[@jessicaortiz860]

Seeking meaning 🖤 Thanks for the keys as always 🗝️

[@jamiemacgregor4435]

I would'nt mind the keys for your padlock Jessica x

[@authentic_tone]

SENSATIONAL!!!💐💐💐

[@ciaraskeleton]

Been honing in on my self states, thoughts and triggers. I'm trying to be very aware of how my internal world is responding and to which stimuli. It's a bizzare to witness your different self states be activated, especially when you are in a place where you realise that it is a triggered self state, and can almost watch from a non triggered place. Cognitive dissonance is one major key feeling I picked up on. When someone cares about me, it triggers a psychopathic state or a very very scared child state. Vaknin put that into words with complexity that I couldn't articulate. Sometimes I think im the only one out there who's noticed these things and then I happen upon another Vaknin video and realise that there are people out there like him, who dedicate years to figuring out the nuances of living as a person with a PD. The automatic thoughts of a people pleaser are in line with the key thoughts and beliefs I have identified in myself. Again, I thought I was just a whackadoodle who's too self aware and analytical. I didnt know if I was even on the right track. Alas there are those out there who've documented precisely what I experienced on a daily basis. Great work as always Prof V. 👏 I hope everyone else in the comments finds help and healing as much as I do! Especially my fellow introspective overanalysists. 😂

[@eriasmara7739]

What is the process of recognising the self state, constructs and interjects.

[@ciaraskeleton]

@Eri Asmara For me after doing DBT and getting to a place where I was not just reactive was the first step. I hard-core looked into PDs when I was diagnosed with BPD at 19 (I'm 25 now). I have the huge benefit of being a psychology student, being a nerd and being obsessive/over analytical. So I learned as much as I possibly could about PDs. Mainly NPD and BPD. Sounds so minor and silly but I used mindfulness extensively. Along with everything I'd learned. When not reactive I then was able to notice patterns. Self states, what triggered them, which core belief it might be tied to. I used meditation as a coping mechanism. I isolated myself a lot so that I could have a stable baseline to work from when figuring out triggers. I took out all distractions. I worked on my core self esteem, I spent time figuring out what genuinely brought me joy or contentment. Being alone I build boundaries because I started to value what stability I had. I started wanting to protect that. I stopped drinking, went completely celibate, don't take drugs, exercise every day (as a coping mechanism not because I'm well organised or super fit! Lol). Once I'd done all of that I slowly reintroduced triggering things again. Which for me was normal every day life 😬 as I did that I noticed clear as day these internal automatic reactions. I watched myself become triggered and start switching into a whole different self state. For me my most intense self state was and is the one that's triggered by love and affection. Everything else I can be triggered by, notice my internal reaction, be mindful, use coping mechanisms. But for love and affection...I really need lots more work!! I'm not familiar with some of the terms, but he articulated what goes on inside me. I'm absolutely not a smart ass and a genius so I hope my long winded reply doesn't come off as condescending or as if I know everything. I don't haha. And I'm still struggling a lot, I'm having to avail of therapy right now, so it's a long road but there is so much good in there if you want to find it 😊 I hope this helps!

[@katadam2186]

@@ciaraskeleton So you don’t trust love and affection because someone took advantage of it at sometime so now no one is to be trusted.. so then the need to stand up for yourself when someone crosses a boundary ( or lack of trust in you) alarm goes off

[@ciaraskeleton]

@Kat Adam sort of, but not really. I think given you don't know me or the complexity of my brain, life and situation it's quite pretentious to comment and be so reductive. If it were that straight forward, there would be no people with cluster B PDs. In fact mental illness at all!

[@katadam2186]

@@ciaraskeleton Sorry Ciara, not have paid enough attention to ya

[@snezanajuricevic1000]

Ovo je istoriski pomak u prezentaciji I razumevanju problema licnosti I resenju istih, koliko ste veliki kao coveka tako I kao predstavnik svoje struke, zaista od detinjstva me interesuje psihologija, ljudska psiha I ponasanje...zaista nesto novo I napredno, bez mistifikacije, jednostavno ste nam objasnili, sto nikome nije koliko znam, poslo za rukom. Hvala, to je ogroman trud I znanje , nadam se da cu razumeti bolje sebe, moje postupke, ucim da uzivam u promeni okruzenja, da ucim I da se razvijam kao licnost, kao reka o kojoj ste govorili...I najvaznije od svega da ce mom sinu pomoci da se seti svojih uspeha koje je potisnuo neko u njemu❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ Samo kad bude zeleo da mi se vrati I prihvati da cuje nesto drugo, suprotno od vec dugo lose slike sebe I konstruktora koji mu nabavlja adekvatne unutrasnje glasove ,molim se Bogu jer ne znam kako da mu pridjem, ne zeli da prica sa mnom... Hvala I dalje cu traziti resenje... Pozdrav veliki iz Srbije 🇷🇸

[@paulamaria9785]

Wow! You’re amazing Thanks for this great video 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@dilfuzakhaydarova2859]

Thank you so much for helping us. I appreciate. ❤

[@Laverna-n6f]

I love you, you are such a smart man. You have helped me so very much thank you

[@Sassenach1776girl]

I needed to hear this ❤

[@twinpeetzmoolsaasa854]

thank you for the video, the self states model makes a lot of sense and i find it very realistic.

Agree. This is what I do to my clients in therapy. Create new environment.

[@vegas6662]

My favorite therapist

[@samvaknin]

I am not a therapist. I am a counsellor and a professor of psychology.

[@michigan1085]

Wow this was mind-blowing! The only part I got confused on was the last minute, where you said we should change our environment. I get this and agree, but I was thinking that since the Self State is at the top of the algorithm, it would be more helpful to change that. If anyone has insight on this I'd love to hear it.

[@samvaknin]

Self-states are triggered by (they react to) the environment.

[@michigan1085]

@@samvakninthank you! Makes sense now

[@carolinepoon8680]

The video is awesome. Thank you. I will pay more attention to the Environment now.

[@DeniseCheungHernande]

I am reading Detemined by Robert M. Sapolsky and I can see your insight in IPAM go hand in hand with us being human as we stand to make our path. Thank you again, Prof. Vaknin.

[@alexandrapetukat1038]

🙏 Thank you!!

[@Laverna-n6f]

You have helped me say i'm fine myself

[@annettegutkind]

Moving time - thank you 🙏 so timely

[@Laverna-n6f]

You have helped me to find myself

[@Now2Sense]

You are speaking truth

[@PrincessAloeVera]

Handsome with that hairstyle and the silver color. Thanks for the helpful info!

[@dumitrasmihai]

This model is a work of art. It reminds me of Dick Schwartz's model, IFS, as it shares with it the paradigm-changing idea of the multiplicity inside the psyche, but the perspective is different and so is the level of abstractisation. IPAM is an elegant and integrative working model of the mind, while IFS is a practical therapeutical metaphor. They complement each other beautifully. In my view, together with the bodymind approaches, IPAM and IFS creates a new Philosophy of Mind. I really liked the idea of personality as Encycplopedia of Introjects, stored in memory. Could it be that the prefrontal cortex can edit this database through memory reconsolidation, triggered by prediction failure (experienced as surprise caused by mismatch)? Consciousness would have then the adaptive, evolutionary role of an workbench, an editing tool.

[@dilfuzakhaydarova2859]

Thank you so much Dear Professor for helping us. I like your hair style.

[@MonikaBlick]

Yes, yes, yes, perfectly true.

[@solveigrose5537]

Thank you. A lot is making so much more sense to me, now. This is brilliant. I now am thinking how could I not have thought of that before 😅😂 One of these beautiful truths that seem simple, but not necessarily easy to see

[@TheBumpdjs]

Brilliant

[@redi-fy3lp]

Я this is love!

[@bluj78]

I've been thinking for a while that self-help gurus who rely on their experience to tell you how to do it are simply rationalising their motivations and behaviour, post hoc.

[@kathrynharmerfox1865]

Absolutely bloody fascinating. Thank you!

[@BBGOOML]

More handsome each time. Love your content 🙏

[@wartelx]

Thx for sharing

[@battenberg7111]

Hello Sam, hope you are doing well. Kindest regards.

[@aleksander4711]

This is the Main reason i emigrate.

[@TheBeana71]

Question: is it possible that constructs are also behind the expression (or even the development) of physical illness? I have a chronic illness and can point to any number of times a flare up of symptoms sabotaged my conscious goals and desired outcomes.

[@angeliquedemeijere5980]

yes. I have cvs but Im heailng now. II experience it as a part (internal family systems) a self state I think in PAM. But I also do somatic excercices and breath; and dieet and body work'craniosacral therapy at this moment. which all helps

[@gilloasdfghjkl]

Will there be an academic publication of this model in the near future, Sam?

[@samvaknin]

Yes.

[@diannemorgan-smith2245]

Dear Prof..thank you so much for your so valuable insights.

[@CatSariCat-m4d]

Yes but at times there's this halting of thinking and or remembering and it's not total actual seperation of databases but more so areas within the database that are more difficult to process or even become lost to one reader and not the other. This is a form of avoidance or denial but it's uncontroleable and causes stress. The fact that it imitates something severe causes guilt and more stress resulting in more avoidance and denial. Exacerbating the effect

[@airadlab8626]

Interesting. Have we the introject of God inside us?

[@productioninquiry8937]

Dr. Professor Vaknin is there a correlation between self-states and parts as explained in internal family systems?

[@samvaknin]

No. Watch my video on IFS.

[@Julie-md3og]

The unchanging is the witness

[@sylwiaprzezw7581]

To what extend can we manipulate the self states without getting physically exposed to the desired environment....Could eg mindfulness and meditation change the course of thoughts?

[@j.87558]

Fascinating! I have a question: What makes a self-state "pathological" according to this theory? Is it when a self-state becomes fixed, independent of environment? Is this even possible? I mean, a "psychopath" is one thing according to popular definitions, but "psychopathic" behaviors are an adaptive [maladaptive] self-state dependent on environment. I guess I'm having difficulty in connecting different categories of self-states to this theory and how they are created (collectively constructed, expectation of an identity's set of behaviors, one could say?) not only from memory or experiences, but due to the fact that psychologists deems many as pathological and set in stone. I guess certain self-states conform to societies expectations of said categories, for example "a psychopath" or a "looser" becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy (label theory comes to mind). So, I'm wondering if the culture, which is changing, is overriding the personal experiences that compose a self-state and we conform to it to uphold a certain dynamic in society. This is not the natural state of things, how we are truly constructed, but society is the greatest construct of all which is overshadowing all intermediate environments: especially if we look at perspectives that are thrown at us in social media and media in general as interjects. But I digress?

[@samvaknin]

Mental illness is defined in the video. Listen more carefully.

[@zarinabostan7753]

I would say that wenn I’m in some self state I’m stupid and have no humor

[@Kzjonez1]

Prof Vaknin is it possible tha self states function in a continuum not rigid separated and unike as you described? The best way I can think of is of an music equalizer based in the environment you up a certain frequency and lower others etc...

[@samvaknin]

No.

[@martabratek2541]

Can You recommend a psychiatrist You respect. One You met in person ? Not only via zooms etc. I have diagnosis of ADHD so far. Took if remember correctly 2 years meeting specialist to get this diagnosis. I wonder if there is a part of my diagnosis missing. I saw many psychiatrist becouse under a service I am they change every 6 months, and at times they change even more often. I am under secondary care mental health. I know this is your not area of expertise( ADHD) . Just remembered I heard you mentioned "self states". Very interested about how far You are with understanding consciousness and trauma. Good luck. Thank You. Any experts on truma You recommend?

[@ireneneacsu]

Can we consciously select a self state that’s more beneficial than the one we usually default to in a given situation, once we become more aware of the different self states we possess?

[@samvaknin]

You cannot select a self-state. But you can change the algorithm to favour helpful self-states rather than self-defeating and self-destructive ones.

[@ireneneacsu]

@@samvaknin That makes sense, thank you for your response!

[@chrisd9207]

@@samvaknin How do you change the algorithm to favour helpful self-states?

[@andrewbeckman7687]

@@samvaknin life seems unconscious repetition weird to see that look. My abusive ex narc talking from distant never facing me thought that stranger and I would engage for the longest time but I knew had to change me. Thanks so much almost comedy routine listening to you is that Kool?

[@Universepoetry1298]

Is it possible to create entirely new self states as adults or just combinations of existing self states in response to new environments? If the latter, at what developmental age are self states generated and/or locked in?

[@samvaknin]

6 years old.

[@Mima4Him2]

One hour, twenty-six minutes, fifty seven seconds of instruction; and a response of “great haircut” ?

[@General_Proton]

The self state of that comment is a construct of a intellectual identification. 👏 Sam is a Genius.

[@andrewcerrone4096]

How are self states formed ? Can they be implanted in u during childhood by a parent, peers etc ?

[@samvaknin]

Everyone develops self-states. They are the outcomes of trial and error experimentation in diverse environments and circumstances.

[@Michael-k4f3v]

Thank you Sam, if I may I'd like to share some of my insights on this very contentious issue concerning freewill that I hope after sharing I would have illuminated some areas that either were not previously illuminated or for where a fair and intelligent discussion in the affirmative is even-handedly expressed for the benefit of any such discussion in the future. Freewill is a psychophysiological capacity, therefore has limits, boundaries, properties, objects, mechanisms and processes each of which differ from species to species and within a species population. Freewill is only an illusion when its understood in the absolute sense, when you understand free will in the comparative sense however then its there to appreciate as clear as day. Do we have more freewill than an ant, how about a pet mouse? For these people, okay you got me. No freewill for you. However for those of us with greater freewill than an ant, a mouse or a say a lobster, even the smartest of the kind, or even above certain other humans, by that relative extent that we have more capacity, we have freewill. Best wishes and thank you Sam, Mike

[@luzmedina5716]

Does anybody know if there are diagrams w/his content?

[@chooseaname1423]

I’m confused. If you have to change the environment, does that mean that someone with BPD can’t ever have a relationship or just that they have to heal before starting a relationship? Same with the codependent? How would they know when they could attempt a relationship safely? Does someone have to completely isolate themself and become a non functioning adult to work in a non triggered state and then add back in the environments that every functioning adult must face such as work?

[@mrs.sunflower929]

Haircut is good

[@suzanneadey3448]

Who is it that moves between the self states? Who/what is that self? Is the state the self or does the self move to different states?

[@oliyaaelle]

whatt i m gonna do.... y its so confusing? r u seeing new patients? how i can know my core personality? ,is it really worth living?

[@niclasgertz7361]

Identity might be the Master of Puppets algorithm

[@tulinbeyduz920]

so if i’m always attracting unavailable partners .. is that a self state ? I’m also must be acting in a certain self state ?

[@angeliquedemeijere5980]

yes that is my experience; start relationships with emotional unavailable personalities (who are quiet similar as me as I am emotinally unavailable too when not healed. When I am healed I do not abandon my self anymore. I validate my self states. I also do not need to rescue others anymore. I have healthy boundaries. 12 step for adultchildren was a great help for me as IFS and Sam Vaknin as well. I will study this PAM too

[@amberfuchs398]

Change the environment to change the self state. I'm going to have to watch this one again. I'm getting caught on the agency bit. A change in the environment triggers a self state->contruct->introjects, which can then perform work on the environment to change it, which would then trigger a new self state->contruct-introjects? There's no integration ever? Just always shifting environment, self states, constructs, and introjects?

[@fart_sound-fd1qc]

Hay-thnx for everything and I hate how U kn0w so much more abt me than I do…but I’m learning 🤙✨ Appreciate U,Professor- Keep on abt it 🤌✨

[@andrewbeckman7687]

mazol tov look it up Andy biggest fan Sam really education process 68 yrs old askanazi 98pct

[@andrewbeckman7687]

Doing good 😊