Decoding God's Will and is ‘The One’ Really a Thing?

[@mikeadopalopacus6436]

Andreea thank you for being bold and sharing the love of Jesus with everyone. This video as well as your newest video kind of fall into the same category I want to throw my two cents into. You are my sister in Christ and I never want to invalidate or discount your experiences. In saying that I just want to briefly give a look into the man’s perspective on these issues. As a man who has never stopped going to church but has not been super plugged in for the past 4-5 years. From my experience the church puts men to a higher standard than that of my sisters in Christ. I agree that men should step up and lead but I feel as though the standard is impossible and even though Jesus love and grace is sufficient the church will not be as forgiving. I also have seen that issues either working against or struggles that females have is elevated more than a man’s. If a man has a struggle he is to keep it to himself and take it to a brother in Christ. I feel that has amplified the rebellion of men in the church. As far as dating it’s too exhausting. I’ve tried dating unbelievers and believers and to be honest they have been pretty similar. It’s very discouraging, they want a mysterious “bad boy” that gives them a thrill and disregard a man of God who is trying to please his creator but isn’t a very attractive, tall, outgoing, and funny guy. Again I say this not to be antagonistic but to see how we can come together as brothers and sisters in Christ. I have watched your video and will see ways that I can improve in my life and walk with Christ, again thanks!

[@the7thousand]

Hi thank you for sharing the perspective of an actual church going guy :) A lot of non church goers have been commenting so it's nice to hear from someone that kept the faith. I agree there are issues on both sides and I don't believe men should keep things to themselves. I think one of the things the modern church needs the most is discipleship and men's groups where men can really grow together for things like this. I agree with you about dating being exhausting, honestly on both sides. Both sides have experienced christian ghosting, time wasters and non-commital situationships that lead to nowhere. I believe social media is a huge problem which I talk about many times on here, along with some other things. This episode is not meant to bash the men. It's to encourage the women that still attend church but are not finding men there because men have left. I'm not saying men don't have reasons to be dissatisfied, but this episode was more meant as an encouragement to women who want a church going man and are finding very few lately.

[@mikeadopalopacus6436]

@@the7thousand Thank you for replying! Obviously we are only human so things will never be perfect. But just thought I’d share my perspective but you obviously you know the female perspective and experience that I never will. It’s a tough thing to unravel but I try to stay positive and not get discouraged. Thanks!

[@ImDavidHasselhoff]

In regards to your most recent video, I saw the comments were disabled to avoid angry joes, I understand. I just wanted to give my take on why millennial guys are absent from the church. I'm 23, and I haven't been part of a church or group for several years now. My old church was very fond of shaming men for "needing to do better" and praising women for no reason really. There was also a small group I briefly was a part of, but it was full of gossip and drama, the guys and girls would fool around and it was not godly at all. Based on these experiences, I have no desire to join another church, and I have very little trust for people in general. My Christian mother divorced my dad after 27 years of marriage and 8 kids (all from this single marriage), and she maintained a two faced life, where she made my dad's life a living hell while smiling and putting on bible studies. I am currently living life, working, going to school, the gym, and leveling up. With today's 'metoo' movement, I am VERY averse to asking girls out, and I have zero luck on dating apps, even when I make it clear I'm not into hookups and want a godly and healthy relationship. Basically I'm done with trying for something I've been told I'll never be good enough to achieve. Whether it was the church constantly telling me I need to be better or the dates I've been with Christian women amounting to nothing, I'm just done. It's very frustrating because I know I have that heart you mentioned, where I may not be 'kingly', but I want to grow and be that way with a wife. Even though I have that, no Christian girl has given me a chance to express it. Don't write off guys with GOOD hearts just because they aren't 'Davids' yet. Some advice I would give to you and Christian women looking for Christian men is MAKE THE FIRST MOVE! Start a conversation with him, invite him to sit with you, ANYTHING. And keep it to yourself, don't tell all your girl friends in the church! It just leads to gossip and drama, many girl friend groups are toxic and will sabotage each other, even ones at church. A godly man just wants peace and a wife to share it with, so if I were to pursue you and you reject me and tell your friends, you just destroyed a little bit of peace in my life, and likely ruined my chances with any women at the church. Church is for God, it's not highschool. Those are my two cents, I appreciate your perspective.

[@TheBeldings-j5c]

Good on you bro

[@mikeadopalopacus6436]

I empathize and agree with this a lot. You are always told you need to do better and more and the women of the church are welcomed with open arms. I’m all for tough love but it’s exhausting when you are living up to this impossible standard of perfection. You’re held under the microscope while the women are never held to the same standard.

[@Reallgeemachine]

I said this comment to someone else but I think it might be of use for you too. "I literally came her only because the comments were gone. What christian is afraid of hiding the message of Christ? Her issues with alienation with her faith are because she is not humble. Galatians 5:2 So many modern women enter into the female belief covenant and see everything through that lens. They even see their relationship with God through their feminist lens. To a person like this Christ is of NO USE" It seems your last church has abandoned the covenant with Christ and joined this modern dogmatic belief system that pits men and women against each other, dehumanizing men and glorifying female impropriety. This is far beyond shaming women or men, or search for high value this or that. We are at risk of losing our ability to even have a meaningful relationship with Christ all together. My message to everyone in the west... Wake up before you fall too deep into alienating ideological movements.

[@mikeadopalopacus6436]

@@Reallgeemachine well the majority or at least many comments on this video are replies to her video with comments turned off. Which is interesting because I think that is the case because, me personally at least, am tired of the message of “where are all the good men?” Or “why won’t any men date me? I follow God.” There’s no introspection just it’s the man’s fault, and the church and ladies are not to blame. This isn’t to say men aren’t a part of the problem but me personally am kind of tired of always being called the problem when I love and follow Jesus.

[@the7thousand]

Hi all, thanks for your responses. As mentioned previously, the comments were on but people lost that privilege because they started being really immautre on there.

[@TheBeldings-j5c]

EDIT: IM PROUD OF THE MEN WHO CALLED HER OUT FOR FREEZING COMMENTS. US MEN OF GOD WANT TO BE HEARD. Cutting comments only further pushes the burden that men feel. Why are your comments off on the men not going to church? I feel likea lot of men have things to say. I stopped going becuase it wasnt best for my family. We dont care about free day care or free coffee. We want to learn the word of god. I need to do best for my woman and my love for God. And a lot churches don't love God like they claim. Also, as other have claimed. David and soloman has multiple wives. Solomon had HUNDREDS.

[@Reallgeemachine]

I literally came her only because the comments were gone. What christian is afraid of hiding the message of christ? Her issues with alienation with her faith are because she is not humble. Galatians 5:2 So many modern women enter into the female belief covenant and see everything through that lens. They even see their relationship with God through their feminist lens. To a person like this Christ is of NO USE!

[@TheBeldings-j5c]

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[@the7thousand]

Hi I appreciate your response. They were on, but at one point some users got really rude and even started cursing all women to bareness and really immature things like that so I had to turn it off. I left on a trip and wasn't able to babysit on there so I just turned it off. Turned it back on, hopefully this time people can be more mature about it.

[@the7thousand]

Hi I'm not afraid of hiding Christ. The comments were on but a user started cursing all women to bareness which I will not stand for so I turned it off when I saw people weren't genuinely interested in the content of the video, but just got triggered without realizing this is a very anti-feminist podcast and they were taking their anger out on the wrong audience.

[@TheBeldings-j5c]

​@the7thousand one user needs god and you mute all Christian men's voices. Perfect logic.

[@estarr86]

Jesus is "the one" every other man will fall short. Your marriage is what you make it. The new age theology of a "soul mate" has been tremendously successful at keeping women out of potentially beautiful and fruitful marriages. That and social media and dating apps.

[@scammersnightmare]

Sis, relisten to this many times. God is using you to bless me. Thanks so much!! We are in God's hand, most loving and almighty Father. We lack nothing in Him.

[@the7thousand]

So glad it was encouraging

[@joseywales1150]

Hey so the comments on your newest video have been paused.. But I wanted to comment on the video. The men have been gone since I was a child and I am 55 years old born in the south grew up in an ALL black church. My great uncle(WWII gen) who himself was a preacher said the men stopped coming because most of the preachers where unredeemed pimps and hustlers of the street. These men saw that they could get more play and more money if they became pastors. The honest men of the community saw straight thru the fassad and refused to go to church. Pastors preach feelings to the women to keep them in the seats rather than preach The Truth which is harsh. Bishop Patrick Wooden out of one of the Carolinas said during the riots, you can't have a black community without the black male nor can you have a Bible believing church without the black male.

[@the7thousand]

Hi thank you for your perspective! I had to pause comments on the video because people were being really rude and hurtful while the video was meant to encourage women who are devoutly following the Lord and genuinely discouraged by the lack of God-led men. I agree with you we NEED men in the church that preach the truth. Not all churches are doomed, some are still tying to follow the Lord and so what I do is I try to attend those churches that are biblically accurate and let God do His work in men in drawing them to Himself.

[@TheBeldings-j5c]

​its rude and hurtful to disregard the comments of godly men.

[@Reallgeemachine]

@@the7thousand Through Christ even prostitutes can be redeemed. That doesnt mean he guarantees them a husband, a big house, and a happy life. It just means they are worthy of Gods love and they have the option to walk the path of redemption. They still have their entire life to carry their burdens though. Only humility will help the modern woman, and few will ever choose that willingly. Get ready to see things change drastically once women HAVE to change due to failing global economies. As for the men... Well look where the modern men in Ukraine are... In the arms of angels, I have accepted my fate and I see theres mechanisms at play far beyond my control. It is what it is.

[@the7thousand]

The comments were definitely not from godly men. That's not how godly men behave.

[@JaxxedGaming]

Why are comments turned off in your recent video?

[@the7thousand]

Hello, it was originally turned on but some comments on there were not beneficial and people started cursing so I decided to turn them off. Hopefully on the next one people have more helpful discussion :)

[@youtubevideoseoexpert0]

Amazing video. Thank for sharing💖

[@markpaladiy5748]

....There are some different, 'equally' valid, sides to this 'the One' issue. I don't know all sides to this. But there WAS 'the one' for Abraham. And, even more, there was 'the One' for Adam and Eve (each other). Similarly, there's POTENTIALLY *A* One for many today. But, in this latter sense, it's MUCH MORE FLUIDLY dependent on US, each of us. WE ought to BECOME more of what we need to be. Of each of us uniquely. And of each of us more generally. Our modern culture, and our modern economic infrastructure, is largely VERY contrary to what it ought to be. It is largely because of things like this that many of us have suffered injustices and opressions, and other kinds of lacks, that have left us 'ruined' in contrast to our fellows. But that does not mean we are fated to the ruin we have suffered from other's greedyways, judge-a-book-by-its-cover ways, pushy ways, etc..

[@the7thousand]

You're right we should definitely focus on who we are becoming.