DEEP CHAT - CLEANING BATHROOM & LINEN CLOSET | SHE CALLED ME "SELF-CENTERED" | I SAID WHAT I SAID!

[@paulawalter3056]

Girl,….I’m 70, been through a lot of life. With that comes wisdom! Hold your standards high, if the relationship starts out with you being dissatisfied, it doesn’t get any better. Better alone than unhappy and dissatisfied knowing you made a mistake. Life is short!

[@ShyvonneMelanieTV]

Ms. Paula, exactly! I use to just ignore the red flags and then I would be dealing with stuff I didn't want to deal with. Also, my red flags, may not be someone else's red flags and that is ok. That is why there are billions of people in the world.

[@tmcurry7742]

I am right there with you Paula

[@queeniesmith1249]

Amen Paula

[@patriciaharris2436]

Amen Paula. I agree. I will be 68 soon. Live a life of stress free. Great advice….Best be happy alone than unhappy with drama and foolishness. Shyvonne, you are a great mom. Self centered you are not. You are giving, loving, caring and considerate. Run YOUR home and raise YOUR children. I think you should have standards. Teach your kids to have standards. Amen and GOD bless you. Keep up the good work of raising your children. Do NOT settle cause you will be miserable. To thine own self be true. Sending hugs and love. ❣️👏🏽❤️

[@Sunsetblaze1016]

Shyvonne, you LOVE what you LOVE....PERIOD🔥

[@tewandawilliams3076]

I am with you. You want what you want and no one can change that.

[@tarrasmith5408]

Shyvonne, I enjoy all of your videos but REALLY enjoyed this one. I am a single mom now. Been that way for many years now. I am divorced and was NOT treated as I should have been by my ex. So now I know…I realized EXACTLY what I want and what I do not want. And I refused to settle. We have every right to set standards and want what we want and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. I am so glad you made this video. Also, girl when you said you don’t even want someone who has smoke coming out his mouth when it’s cold! I laughed SO loud! That was too funny 😂 I was dying laughing!

[@brikay]

Standards & Morals are Universal. It’s not a “one-size fits all”. That does not make you selfish. 💝

[@annakariol]

I agree with you 100%! I live by the motto: WHAT OTHERS THINK OF ME IS NONE OF MY BUSINESS. Let the toxic comments go. That's why there's a delete button. ❤ I love that you have set values & that you're not willing to settle. That's a healthy way to date. You go girl!

[@AllThangzKee]

Aunty said, "I don't even want smoke to come out of your mouth when it's cold outside." 🤣 YESSSSSSSSSSSSS!!!! I prayed for my husband and God delivered 🙌🏿💃🏿

[@juanitawatson596]

Bingo! I can't take on another person as a responsibility as well, Shavonne! I

[@karenbly3829]

Well said!!! I can relate with every single word you said. I'm 58, been divorced for 13 yrs. Dated one guy for a couple of years. I finally listened to my head and heart. There is no way I will ever settle again. Do I wish I God would bring someone in my path? Sure, but I'm not even looking. I think they would have to slap me to get my attention😂😂. But then again, I am happy finally doing ME. I'm sorry for the potato heads out there that think they have the right to be snarky. Love your videos, your love for yourself, kids and your family altogether. Be yourself and happy!!

[@marypickens5743]

Hey 👋. Please don’t change for anyone. You can pick and choose what you want and don’t want. Don’t settle just to say you have someone. You have worked hard for what you have. Keep doing a great job. Love all of your videos.😊

[@AngelaCollins-z5z]

I'm with you 💯%... you have to do what's right and best for you... protect your inner peace and space... people are always going to judge you for everything... but do what best for you ❤

[@ionafisher3730]

Hi Queen I have lived Lord willing I will be 74 on Friday and relationships have taught me valuable life lessons don't drop your standards and stop being a people pleaser

[@sandraberry1840]

Set your standards-expectations as high as you need to girl.. do NOT settle for anything less😊 heck I’m a smoker and completely have to agree with your opinion on smoking. It’s your new future you’re building for yourself-family, do it your way and enjoy life🤗

[@ShyvonneMelanieTV]

@@sandraberry1840 Thank you. My mom smokes and I’ve never liked the way it smelled and I always wanted her to stop.

[@Bigshirley134]

Love , love , love your comment!! Be true to you. 🥰🥰🥰

[@janet-leecomeau8035]

I totally agree with you about a partner. Must have a car, a job, their own place and a full set of teeth. Bahahaha! Just added that last one. I crack myself up. NO smoking is definitely a top item.

[@shelbysilverstein]

🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@granc53181]

😂😂

[@cheryllawrence2652]

You’re right Shyvonne!! My mother always told me not to start anything I didn’t want to continue doing. No car, No Ma’am!!!! I’m not picking you up and dropping you off!! My ex husband smoked and refused to do it outside and my daughter couldn’t stand the smoke so it turned into a major issue! I settled for a lot of things in my 20’s but when I turned 40 I stopped doing that and now I’m 67!! Set your standards and don’t settle!!

[@kimberlystacy8084]

Hi, I'm a big fan of yours and there's nothing wrong with your standards and for women with kids, like myself we have to be an example for them PERIOD

[@ShyvonneMelanieTV]

I am glad you feel that way! Thank you for watching.

[@rhodadowell2033]

Hello Shyvonne. . You're motivating me to get back on my treadmill. I too had the gastric sleeve back in 2020 but after experiencing the passing of my son, due to Covid-19; I fell off and gained all of my weight back. I can't seem to find my rhythm but watching you, is making me want to climb back on the treadmill and try again!!!🥰❤

[@debbiedavis5261]

Syyvonne, you must live and enjoy your life. You deserve happiness.

[@adriannahuezo6112]

You're an inspiration to us all Ms Shyvonne

[@jisseniacarrion9897]

It’s your turn sis I feel like it’s my turn my kids are big and I took very good care of them

[@michellesimpson6734]

Hi Shyvonne How are you? January 25th is our anniversary of 34 years. I could not start over it's not the same when I met my husband. I understand you have the right to pick and choose what is best for you and your children. Ayanna, you will do great in your public speaking class. You have a public speaking voice. I took a public speaking class when I was in college. I was nervous in the beginning. However, the more you speak, the easier it will be to speak in front of one person or a room full of people. I have faith in you that you can do it. Thank you for sharing. Love Yall ❤❤

[@leanorarivera5028]

You are one hundred percent correct and don't need validation from anyone on what your qualities in what you want smh I completely understand

[@buttercream-r8y]

Shyvonne, you have every right to have choices on what you prefer. I love watching you and your family. I still love the Crooklyn stairs you are doing a wonderful job on remodeling your home. I'm 51 and my children are grown I lost my daughter at the beginning of 2024. Your are amazing keep doing you. ❤❤❤❤

[@junen7137]

You have your standards and expectations. Don’t settle. There’s someone out there for everyone. Keep it simple. Keep it moving!

[@nettiebonner-bh9oo]

Thanks for being the lady that you are. ❤. Using the good sense God gives.

[@RelaxwithNique]

Good Evening to you beautiful Lady, I'm new to your channel and just subscribed. I absolutely loved this video and can completely relate and agree with every word you've spoken. Keep these videos coming. We will not settle, especially when we know our worth. Your spirit is so genuine and is appreciated. Sending you much admiration.

[@traceypugh9427]

You don’t have to worry about those people. They don’t know you for real.

[@nancydavis670]

Don’t ever lower your standards! I admire you so much and just know that you’ll meet a wonderful, and worthy, partner.

[@selmacromwell974]

Girl I agree. I'm not your chauffeur. That's another responsibility. No no . ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@mommymochatv9274]

I definitely agree with everything you said. I felt like you described my love life on what I been through w men and I don’t want those things from men anymore. My standards are about to go even higher for respect for myself from now on!

[@cleoshaaaj.]

I’m deaddddd , not having smoke coming out your mouth when it’s cold outside. That’s your preference sis! It is what it is!! I’m with you on the NO SMOKING part! I’ve been with someone who did and it’s mad annoying. I don’t smoke and I’ll rather my other half not as well!

[@lakeshiascott8226]

Hi Shyvonne… You said a mouthful in this video. Let’s just say the person that made the comment about you being self centered just wanted something to type. You have shown to be 1 of the most selfless people I’ve watched on KZbin. I am 48 years old and agree with you. At this big age I’m not dating nobody without a car unless I met him in the car dealership and he was purchasing 1 that day and that’s a big if. I’m not dating nobody that doesn’t want to do nothing but sit in the house, no smokers, not drinking everyday after work or not telling me I can’t go on a girls trip.. I can go on and on but I do agree with you. It’s called having standards , preferences, deal breakers and your choice.. Enjoy your life gurl you’ve been married long enough to know what it feels like to have a man. And you get to live life everyday but will only leave this world once. So keep motivating your haters💕

[@sonyacarmichael8146]

18:02 Shyvonne stand your ground. Your standards are good for you. That doesn't make you self centered. Ignore. You don't have to explain. The Lord knows what you want and need. I pray the Lord sends who he knows you need. He wants whats best for you and his kingdom.❤

[@boirocr-Tamiko5]

Amen 🙏🏾

[@sandebryant3878]

I agree with you 💯 and the person that called you self-centered doesn't know the meaning of it. Do you and don't feel compelled to explain what you want, why you want it, when you want it, who you want. DO YOU.😊

[@carolynkennedy6798]

Right there with you! Hold onto your standards 😊 and tell you daughter she has a beautiful voice don’t worry about speaking she got that❤

[@GladysDennis-zk3ky]

Love the conversation.decorations are beautiful

[@pattys6619]

I don’t even want to see smoke coming out of your mouth on a cold day! Girl, HAHAHAHAHA. So funny. Your mind set is right. Don’t settle for leas than you want. Life is short and you shouldn’t waste your time.

[@cleoshaaaj.]

Hey beautiful… I’m tuned in and you’re most welcome. Have a great day hun

[@trina3957]

Shyvonne learn to Love your Peace ❤

[@shordae]

Some of these weak woman will take any man, not care if he works drives or have a home just to be under a man shows how they value themselves as a woman, know ur self worth!!!! Pay attention to the red flags 🚩

[@mrsf5907]

I am married 20 years now and everytime hubby and I have a night out he has to drive. There is no way I was picking up no man that I have to dress up to go out with and drive around. I'm with you all the way like you said it's not being self-centred it's STANDARDS.

[@lesleewoods779]

I totally agree with you....significant other must have car,job,place to live.....and non smoker!!!!!

[@arethaturrentine4623]

Hi Shyvonne my name is Aretha and i am 56,I agree 100 percent with you ,Because if we do not have standards men would run all over us,The person that said that to you most likely she do not have stadards.Do not let the devil steal your joy.I love your vlogs always.God Bless you and your children.I am single and love it ,I am waiting on God this time.

[@1800kristi]

I totally agree with you, Shyvonne. I'm also an activity girl. My fiancé and I go to the Pittsburgh Improv a lot, Pirates games, Pens games, Steelers games, new restaurants, pickleball, golf, Phipp's conservatory, Botanical gardens, you name it.

[@jessicaswank257]

My Daughter and I adore you! You are an amazing woman❤

[@kellieelliott5198]

I’m 💯 on your side on this. Keep your heels and standards high sis.

[@Judy-dq6kl]

You were saying you just want to not care what people think. When you get into your 50s, suddenly its much easier not to care what people think. I have always been a people pleaser but now I'm in my 50s and its so liberating to not care! Its a gift, finally. Its so much easier to let things go now and not care. I've learned through my life experiences that it really doesn't matter what people think. It only matters what God thinks and that you are pleasing Him. If people take situations and read something else into them....don't care. I don't have to try to set them straight. Just keep on moving forward lol. You will get to this place too.

[@margaretw5848]

Having no standards leads to frustration and disappointment because the substandards can’t fulfill your expectations. So why bother. Love yourself enough to have standards and non conditionals.

[@DaijaGrinage]

Nice video ❤ Happy wonderful Wednesday ❤ Stacey from Virginia 👋🏽😁😁

[@maryturner5915]

Good morning Shyvonne can you please send the link for your heating blanket I'm going to purchase one but can't find one that stays on they all have auto shut off I would appreciate it ❤❤❤

[@adriannahuezo6112]

Keep your list of your needs, and your must haves, none negotiables lol....❤❤❤❤

[@bridgetbunny7955]

I look forward to your videos so much 👑you are ABSOLUTELY not self centered btw 🍭🍬💕

[@jodijensen3213]

I hate how people on here a make judgements on you. You do what you need and don't waste your time on them. You are amazing!

[@jennieball-foster6703]

Echo all that you said. Given you love history and castles I hope you can make it to the UK one day! Love and hugs from England 🕊🌹🍀

[@ramonajohnson2317]

You are correct it depends on the person depends on their situation but as long as the person is ambitious

[@queenljay5859]

Happy Wednesday....Another Awesome Video to end my night...🎉🎉🎉🎉❤ To answer your question....He has to have a job...car...his own home....I don't like a man that smoke either... So I understand what you're saying...

[@LatoyaGravs]

We have the same life at this point Shyvonne! I was told the same thing as well, I want what I want.

[@christineadams796]

Your bathroom turned out beautiful and I like where you put your exercise equipment it looks good there it fits

[@roniecesmith2800]

I think in life a lot of times girls and women are taught to lessen themselves for men, babies and family life. It definitely isn’t right everyone should have to compromise at times. Keep your standards because we all should have them. The daughter talking at the end is your mini me. She sounds just like you but she was on 1000 about those classes😂

[@tapy8048]

We are ALL self centered at times . That’s ok. I’m sure this person has their standards or non negotiables as well. Good video!!!

[@ms.brigetterandley2778]

I saw some of your beginning videos you have lost a lot of weight and you look beautiful. Not saying that you weren't already beautiful. Cuz I am now 250 ish. Girl get out have fun while you still can enjoy yourself. And have fun for me unfortunately I am disabled my walking is not what it used to be so I live a very peaceful at home life. I go where I have to go to handle my business affairs other than that I'm back home and I miss just going window shopping. the simple things I love to fish I haven't been fishing in a few years because of my mobility. Has nothing to do with my age I'll be 60 in May thank you Jesus. Girl do you let that 167 - whatever whatever go about their business❤❤❤

[@altheaburns8037]

Say that Shyvonne!..Go girl!.. Black women are working harddddddddd ...you have GOT to match my income or make more.

[@myrapickrom8465]

Just keep doing what s Best For You🥰

[@jackandlill]

You weren't judging anyone based on whether or not they had a vehicle - you were simply stating your preferences, your standards - the things you know at this age, after all you have been through, worked for & accomplished in life that you choose to want for yourself. Period. Absolutely not a damn thing wrong with that! Annnnddd - you're not asking anyone to bring anything you're not bringing to a relationship!! You are an independent Queen - who has much, much to offer & deserves to receive such in return.

[@donnarobinson8530]

You don’t get to know someone at a movie where you are supposed to keep quiet and listen. It’s not an interactive date.

[@andreamccray6474]

My single successful 30-something year old son said, “I know what I bring to the table and a woman has to be able to meet me at that point and have the potential to partner with me to grow and go further.” In this day, standards/expectations are necessary.

[@wandadstarling3966]

Hey shyvone keep being you and doing what you want to do that's your life not anyone else and if anybody got a problem than they better get a life ijs ❤❤❤❤❤❤who you are ❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@robinacrouch9708]

You are allowed to be honest and want what you want xx

[@ednawilliams6500]

Hi there. it's what you want in a relationship not no one else you are the one who matters, you be happy, and doing so it will give you peace.❤

[@melissareeves4151]

Girl go to Biltmore estate in Ashville nc to that castle omg you would love it

[@diannesimmons4258]

Like (Twinsational) Rhonda and Shonda say. Make the life that you live, the life that you love because life is short

[@denisecoleman2197]

I totally agree with you, dated someone who didn’t have a car and after a while he started wanting to drive mine so that was the end of that relationship what ever your preference stay true to yourself and yes I am a nerd and I love history and museums and I read at least two books a week

[@lg8699]

Shyvonne you have every right to have standards,we all have them. I was never the type to care about a man having a car. My only thing is If you too good for traveling to me bc I have a car ,you don't want to take train then stay home. Continue to be you Do not settle ever.

[@carolinatabron2528]

Shyvonne I agree with you 💯when I was younger I dated someone who didn’t have a car and they always wanted me to carry them somewhere or wanted to borrow my car all the time and yes they have to have their own apartment and job and a lot of other things also

[@maryssancks2972]

❤❤❤❤keep doin you

[@SAMGLENNTV]

You have to have personal requirements for who you get involved with. Before I married I did not date smokers or drinkers because I am thinking about the future and smoking and drinking may bring on sickness and disease. Now if someone takes care of themselves and sickness happens that is ok. But do not intentionally harm your body. That is a no no. Don't settle that person is there for you.❤❤❤

[@dinaramuldabayeva6306]

Hey Shyvonne! I know a couple of people who have good paying stable jobs, but don’t own a vehicle because they don’t like to drive. Now, they live in a metro area where public transportation is good. Of course, having own vehicles is convenient and it’s understandable that you expect a man to pick you up etc.

[@tanishataylor2128]

Shyvonne, listen I thought I was the only one that feels smoking is a non negotiable. Absolutely NOT! I would prefer a man with a car. I’m not driving you anywhere and you cannot drive mine. Don’t stray from your standards. You have a lot to offer and you require and deserve to have what you want.

[@dianalewis9932]

You’re so right!!!!

[@louisemcfadden5983]

I waited till I was 42 to get married I had 3 child I waited on God now we are Pastors continue to trust God maintain your stance

[@susanbullock7258]

Hey beautiful lady men have their standards! Why can't we! No car! No me! Lol

[@debralynnpolendo5316]

Stay strong as a woman.. I always tell my daughter the same thing..

[@vandarobinson3286]

I totally agree with you. I am with someone who does not have a car and it is hard. I have also dated someone who smokes and I would not again. You are entitled to choose who you date. You are not self centred at all. ❤

[@ms.brigetterandley2778]

WE ALL HAVE OUR DOES AND DONTS. I get you with them smoking 2025 .April will be 7 years I stopped smoking cigarettes. I had been wanted to stop, but it was so hard. until I had to have thyroid surgery and I had to quit smoking and after a while I didn't desire anymore. And afterwards when I smelled the nicotine it used to turn my stomach, even to this day. And I was like oh my God this is what I put people through. And I wear really expensive perfume and I thought I was covering the smell up but I wasn't😮. So I understand that that's why when getting to know somebody you ask questions cuz it's best to just find out in the beginning and say okay you know what we can be friends. Rather than waiting and finding out down the line. And no you are not self-centered , you probably hit a nerve😅when you said that...MR.RITE WILL COME ALONG ❤

[@louisemcfadden5983]

Love the bathroom ❤

[@DebGibson-hz6uw]

I guess I am very self centered. At 71 years old I have not dated a man who didnt have a vehicle, a job, or his own home. My dead husband instilled that in me. I worked hard all my life to get what I have. I want someone in my life who wants the things I want and is willing to work right by me to accomplish those goals. Ignore people who want to trash you, you are a good,kind person!

[@juanitawatson596]

Your bathroom looks very nice.

[@cleoshaaaj.]

Hell In that case We’re alllll “self centered” haha

[@libbysosa7420]

You deserve the right to say what you want and don't want in you and your kids life,I don't want a smoker or an Alcohol drinker,I have dealt with Alcoholics,

[@kelisechin4684]

Being a people pleaser is draining really shyvonne … I was like that too . But I’ve change … only person I’m pleasing now is God cause he’s all that’s matters 🇯🇲

[@dorothybakermamadot1123]

♥️♥️♥️♥️

[@aprilsouth7672]

Haven't even watched all the video and I'll say,not at all self-centered... We have preferences... PERIOD! ❤❤❤

[@ladyparker9431]

When I divorce my first husband my requirements when I started dating being that I was a single women with kids, back on the dating market the guy had to have a car a job and a place to stay‼️

[@ColleenTaylor-ly7pc]

KEEP LIVING YOUR LIFE,YOUR LIFE THE WAY YOU WANT TO BE AND I DON'T. LIKE PEOPLE WHO SMOKE IT STINKS 😊😊😊

[@kimberlymacqueen9316]

Yes I am with you

[@barbarabryant6788]

Anyone that knows you, knows you ARE NOT self centered.💕💕💕

[@thesimplelife7934]

We don’t want no scrubs. I’m kidding! But I completely agree with you. In 2025 I’m not letting people get to me. Not letting them phase me. Maybe that makes me self centered too. I matter. I’m not just a Mom of 4. It’s time to take me back. Love you. Life is so short! Make it enjoyable everyday. Be picky!

[@Gemini225]

Shyvonne do you and your family if someone say your self center let them know you will be the best self center person you can be lol if they don’t like it that’s their problem! Don’t let me get to you. 😂 Have a blessed day!

[@kimbrooks7709]

Stand on yourself…. Love yourself first….