Detach yourself from your child, a little. | Parenting - 107

[@ai172]

Thank you for such a powerful, educative and encouraging video, Shridhar. Parenting is a privilege which is gratifying and empowering. Monkey see, monkey do. We need to think, talk, act in a way that we wish to see in our children. Attachment is the source of fear, possessiveness and worry. Unconditional love will lead to healthy relationships filled with trust, courage, honesty and empathy. At the end of the day, our child is an individual different from us. We are robbing them from their identity by making them our clone with force and fear.

[@wiselearning7711]

Same problem in suffering with my 10 years old boy he's very stubborn. Good ideas. I'll follow your aspect's definitely thank you....

[@Maniwill73]

You are just supreme....my thinking is like you only...I believe in genes.....I follow you.....you supported my thoughts which I was following ...thank you very much 🙏

[@holisticcoachshilpabisht]

I was overparenting ..had realised this few months bk..and now correcting myself..and definitely made some positive changes in myself

[@crazy-purr]

Good one 🙏

[@deepaparthasarathy9179]

Absolutely love you videos... taken off so much pressure... Will surely listen to to Audio books

[@antarctica1555]

A treasure of valuable information

[@RiseAboveNarcissism]

Love it. This is great. Thank you so much 🙂. You are right on point 👍

[@munira1422]

How do u explain this over parenting with a husband who has a personality disorder and he is obsessed about my 20 yr old son so much that my son become angry and withdrawn even towards me though I am quite liberal with him

[@shaziarashid15]

How to make our children confident enough to face small situations himself

[@padmalatha5962]

Beautifully explained,im worried about my child health that I feel its too much,I live in a extended joint family every now and then my mother-in-law will interrupt and make a fusion, which is causing serious problem relationship with my husband is not going well

[@ramakrishna-rn9ej]

Do a vedio for the parents who adopted children

[@nirupamachincholikar5127]

I worry about making my daughter independent in studies as well as in daily routine chores

[@aryenzaifrani2533]

I am fighting for divorce, so I always make sure I play role of parents not alone a mother. But I also feels at times I do over parenting. What should I do.

[@renulingwal4979]

nicely explained

[@samajdarbanda8207]

This is aheartfelt thankyou

[@vrushalijoshi8155]

All advices to parents..can you guid the children towards their parents..

[@pramilanahar4402]

Super

[@nicsilvestroni9221]

I think, Indian Mums, European Mums , most of Mums from different countries , are over parenting and worrying too much ! But, most of Mums from England are incredibly and unbelievably detached from their kids !! They gave their kids a total freedom and most of Mums from England are quite self centred Mums too. That’s for me, a little bit too much ! Some of them are spot on , but others become selfish with self centred too much. It’s hard to balance in between as a parent. At the end of the day, I say to everyone that DO YOUR BEST ! Act wisely and chill out ! Over parenting and less parenting with too much self centred characters are harmful to kids.

[@nishakumar860]

I worry if he brushed the teeth well, did eat enough, did he watch too much of phone, I am staying at another place for job. He is 2 years old staying with my parents. Shridhar, Is it okey to leave the child with my parents at this age?

[@rajeshwarig6064]

I am worried about my child s education. and over pampering from family

[@prashitamane3962]

My son is in nine standard now n he is showing low interest in studies. He goes to school n classes regularly but when he comes back home either from school or class he is on mobile phone, I n my husband had told him several times that play on mobile just for half n hrs but he doesn't listen. He keeps on doing timepass n I have yell on him for studies n most of the time he keeps on doing activity n spent his hole time in that n then again phone or TV. Please give me some solution bcas I don't like yelling on him every time.

[@vidhyaiyengar7920]

Your question has answer don't yell, Everytime you think he isn't studying is creating strong affirmation that he won't study and creates turn of events.Please change the attitude and think he will study .Secondly sit next to him and talk about how u spent your day.If you want your child to study, first be his best friend and don't talk only about studies.worrying never solves the problem.

[@ritapaulyogainstructor8918]

Hindi mai hoga to understand karna asaan hoga

[@raninaik2207]

Difficult to understand children who is 10 not really big enough nor small. 🙄

[@mtolla05]

No my child is not a moneky. Not everyone agrees with evolution. I don't know about you but my worth doesn't come from monkey it comes from the almight God

[@shirazpatrawala6493]

I do over parent because my husband is just the opposite, he doesnt bother about them, I mostly worry about the time they waste and not taking care of their health and sleeping late

[@shwethajatin2785]

Good work, very good work, well presented and timed, the last point of listening to the video again and again till it sinks in is very correct.

[@monikajain1767]

Amazing video sridhar......please make a video especially for grown up kids about 20 years ....sometimes they try to overpower parents

[@shailjapandey6506]

Beautifully explained.amezing video.ya..first i was a very caring and strict parent but thankfully i learned in time that true appreciation can tranform your childs life.yes some time we have to let our child free ,and be like friends.

[@laurenmartin9915]

I worry that if either of my children get killed or incapacitated doing something risky that I won’t mentally recover from it. I lived 32 years of my life without them just fine- but I question whether I could go on if something tragic happened to them because I didn’t teach them to make good decisions.

[@SS-bs7vz]

Hi. I had so much over parenting nature but now I try to stop this kind of nature because I know this nature is harmful for my child. Bt my problem is sometimes I can’t control myself.i can’t handle my anger mood and unconsciously i shouting on my child which is not right.can u give me any solution for my problem?

[@deeptimukesh3252]

WOW.... wonderful video..I am undergoing this ... According to me I was the best mom ... always available and supporting my son...in any situation and helping him...But This year he has started conveying me through his actions and words and I realize it was maybe overparenting...and I am deeply saddened thinking how my method failed...So as you said I need to zoom out....will try..love you for making such videos

[@vedu8326]

Hi sir, I am mother of 2 kids aged 10 and 3.. Need your audio books on parenting for parenting my elder kid as he has suffered alot coz of me .. Pls help me in this .

[@brijeshbhanvadiya8333]

My son always thinks that I control him too much. I instruct him to study all the time. None of this is true but he goes over and above and shouts these sentences whenever he asks for something and I say no due for various reasons example if he wants a new phone or something. He used to be sorry but not anymore, he is 17 and he thinks he is an adult. He challange me so often like he says "I will buy it next year even if you don't agree, I am an adult" I am so emotional about him, what should I do?

[@archanadeogoji8533]

Your lecture is really eye opening lecture for me, now i realise unknowingly i tried to discipline my child but it doesn't work the result is disappointment ,,so I should keep little detached myself. Definetly I will work on it

[@jaand9698]

I worry a lot about my husband. He has alcohol addiction problems because of which my parenting skills go for a toss.

[@ashumali9764]

one child is write a lots but he can't remember anything.he forget everything within a second what is the remedy.please reply

[@bhartipatel6427]

Awesome advises sir in very simple way.. U helped me a lot for all relations and my mental health peace too Thnk you sir

[@funfacts4895]

Amazing work, thought,analysis & dialogues. I love listing ur deepest analytical thought. Keep growing best wishes👍👏👏

[@vthallam]

If the child is independent and responsible, I am ready to back off and enjoy my life but that is not the case. I have to push him to get his work done.

[@mariamccann4024]

Thank you so much. You explained this concept very well. I am one who over parents but I am wanting to parent intentionally and learn to detach so that my child can learn from life's natural consequences. I have learnt that overparenting doesn't work as children don't appreciate the extra effort and time we put into helping them. I am trying to change my behaviors to invest back into my life. I think I lost myself in the parenting world. I am the parent that would stay home from a party to help my daughter study. Now, I am trying to change and go to a party even on nights my daughter is scrambling to study. As a mom it is hard to watch my daughter struggle, however I know that in struggle there is growth and lessons to be learnt. I really liked the way you explained that our child is 1 monkey in the middle of thousands of other monkeys. It just helps to visualize what you are trying to teach. Thank you. I feel much better after watching your videos and will be rewatching it over and over again.

[@arundhatisarkarbose5317]

I am not able to find the audiobooks in your website. Can anyone help please?

[@JenniAlbert]

Hi Jennifer my husband cheated me Jennifer Charles separated

[@dipeekapatil3450]

Thankyou dear for such a good video....I do over care for my child as I wanted to b the best mom and I do forget myself nd I can see that in my frustration........in short I have to b happy first then I can make them happy .... .u r great man👍

[@suseelav7359]

Very good and impressive talk. I started practicing long back. I started moving with friend only and he shares majority with me. My husband is nit like that. So daily rift between them. My son is 16 yrs old. Plguide me as he is very much updated in latest gadgets and shows interest in tinkering and robots

[@manishapatnaik5506]

Excellent sridhar.. Thank you

[@lovelymombies]

I don't know how I'm parenting my children's

[@phoenixworld6270]

Simply awesome. I was desperately in need of this.Thank you so much

[@aditigaur8805]

U r amazing. Thank you so much for such insights.

[@Rithvik0912]

Thanq for such a wonderful vedios...I felt i wanted to be a best mom for my kids ...am availabls to them at all the time..providing everything before they come to me as they can't express...that's failed...as my baby still does not speak nd ask for what she wants.from now I follow ur all lovable suggestions...thanx for helping all the parents 😍😘

[@kalpanamadhan]

Seeing this parenting videos r so soothing

[@KKY84]

You nailed it shridhar.......thanks

[@dharamwwe]

so refereshing to hear you and this is eye openor

[@nehuagarwal]

Thank you for sharing. You are doing a fabulous job in bringing awareness to this world.

[@lucyteneofficialmusic]

This man is killing me.

[@jasonMimi]

I LOVED it.

[@rainbow_world5560]

Thank you for this insight you have provided... I was thinking so that I am over parenting(was not sure though) and was looking for a way out. This video helped me and I am sure now I was thinking right about my over parenting!!😎

[@sunitasinha4317]

Thanks for this vedio

[@flamingos3708]

My mom would be the type of mother that wouldn't alow me to go outside and play with my peers in the neighbourhood. So I didn't get to be that social with others. Now though she blames me and doesn't understand why I don't go out, or talk with people. When it's her that doesn't allow me to become: I'll become a "yob/gypsy" like the kids in my street. Thank you mom for making me socially awkward and anxious

[@ngjain]

Thank you so much!!!! My over parenting cropped up from the fact that I was busy birthing and raising my younger daughter during the initial precious years of my elder son.... Now i am guilt ridden and want to correct the damage done as my son is full of silence, not sensitive towards others and not expressive.....i sucked as parent.....pls help.... Can't control my tears while writing this

[@raninaik2207]

This video is for me. As a mother over parenting has ruined my life and my son's.

[@nicsilvestroni9221]

rani naik : how? Can you more elaborate it?

[@rajnimittal3815]

The best thing about this video that he is generalising the child with SHE. I mean mostly when there is no specificafion of gender we use HE. N I always wonder about this. Its so gd to listen this.

[@asadabd8381]

I'm worring about their outside life that is freind ship. Thanks alot to u. Showing me right way to handled my partner. Friends of my son

[@manjurabha5096]

This is very true

[@PreetiGupta-ek4ch]

thank you sridhar. often observed that the father is obsessed with hygiene..frequent.hand wash ...and the child is disliking it.

[@amnasarwar8204]

Thank God, I'm already detaching myself, but your video cleared my concept of detaching.

[@tejaswinikulkarni9587]

I knw it's wring keeping d child scolding all d tym fr every small things lk during havin food n by wachin TV n any other wrk which has to be dn by dem ...bt they dnt listen to it scolding ll be d alternate choice fr a parent n after feelin fr v as parent do ...pls clar me wat I can do better

[@LikithasriAvanthi]

I need one.suggestion..my son. Talks unclearly..he is 9 years old and we could not understand what he is talking. We need to pay attention. And how can I change this?

[@simijan820]

I am really impressed with this video of yours. thankyou so much,

[@rimmibhatia4930]

Yes you are right... We must focus on building a long term relationship with the child rather than a short term.. I am convinced with your suggestions and I promise myself to follow immediately as my child is more important to me rather than anything else... Thanks so much for the guidance...

[@archanashome6216]

Thankyou so much for your motivational guidance.I will begin to detach myself slowly from them and concentrate more on my happiness.

[@priyateju8882]

Hi a very very good advice as u said am the same mother of thoughts but I'm trying to change myself . but the only problem or question my children are the basic the routine things like both sons of 7the & 4the won't brush teeth , washing face ... Going to wash room themselves , bathing neatly these are main problems except reading & handwriting. Please help me in mornings it'll be a big messy as a fish market

[@thediversedlife]

Much needed video....i have lost my own personality in parenting my children

[@sheetalsiyodia4766]

My child is 7 months old and I care for her a lot.. I think my mom in law won't be able to take care of her in the best possible way.. she would scold her, won't be able to handle her tantrums.. I do not keep my daughter with anyone else.

[@indumathielangovan]

Great takeaways from your videos. Thanks and am Grateful to your valuable work!

[@ani6681]

give some advice teenagers girl and how can i understand about her feelings.

[@ani6681]

very true

[@sofyankhan3994]

I m thinking that how u know all this.well u r a psychiatric but u know it very well.This is my problem.im facing it.Thank a lot

[@dr.ganesha705]

Hello sir very Good Morning very much true about all lectures my question is if a only child is not studying well when he is in class 10 and facing board exams and a lot of compliant about academic and school literally blames the student to be on the safer side in this regard what type of measures to be taken as portents please give suggestions sir

[@Sai-el4ed]

I would like him to make independent who is just 4.5 years even for daily chores

[@swatisarkar7338]

Thank you

[@fauziafrancis3129]

Made a lot of sense and I wish I had done what you say earlier, my kids are grown up now but I’m trying it now and it’s working in some ways even now.

[@nvHumanist]

I keep worrying my child isn't getting enough sleep and is not making friends

[@doctorj5968]

Excellent

[@rinzzzrinzzz1441]

👍

[@renubala-ls9ez]

Sir ji you are so at the subject..... I m over worrying type of parent..i got a different insight of detaching a little from them. He is a single child. So all the more attention on him... Thank you. You speech is very confident, clear and meaningful.... Loved it

[@yogitagosavi4726]

Very nice

[@fernandezj581]

Lovely Mr. Shridar. Your videos are good to shape our child. Hatsoff.

[@sumathicp6622]

Your videos are really really awesome ..pls make a video on how to handle ourselves first n then d child when they break our trust on them inspite of being fair enough on their part.

[@Madhra2k24]

U r right...Same feelings Sir...👍

[@letyluna7013]

Your videos are invaluable! Thank you.

[@jaswantkaur6559]

Sir , you are too good .

[@preethikeloth3504]

Thanks Shridhar, u reminded me that i am doing wrong, n i have to detach a little, or the relation will be spoiled, God bless u.

[@zitacabrera9165]

Lovely! Thanks for this advices ❤️

[@AshuAjayYashas]

Hello sir. I c myself as a over parenting mum. Inspite of knowing this am nt able 2 keep calm that its ok if my kids don't study sometimes, it's OK if they don't eat properly, it's OK if sometimes they don't listen to me. And many more. I start over reacting 1c the thought of my hub saying " these kids r too much ND they don't change if they r at home. So will join them into hoatel" or " u r at home ND is this the way u r bringing up the kids? U r nt even working and u r full time with them and hw r u raising the kids? They r so disrespectful, and all". Nw I start worrying ND over react with kids if they do anything which I say no or if they don't do what I ask them to. I even lose my control ND hit. I repent after that bt damage is already done. Pls help me out with this. Nw the stage has come that my 10yr old boy doest even care what I say. He jus hates me to the core. It hurts alot. Bt I know it was me who made the relation like this. Pls help me out sir. I seriously need help on this. Nw my inlaws also started saying my 10yr old that " don't listen to mumma. Shez nt nice 2 u ND she doesn't love u. She never gives chips to u inspite of dadda buying them. She eats all the chips and chocolates 1c u go 2 school". After this my son started saying it on my face that "u r nt a good mumma. Jus leave us and go. V don't need u anymore. Even granny is saying u r nt good and u don't give us anything good and tasty food." it's jus killing me.

[@vartikavaish6377]

Omg Why are you suffering so much dear Just leave them n enjoy Believe me if you are happy then only you can make others happy. N tell Ur child n inlaws u r bad granny giving dirty food to boy. Better just take your attention away

[@rainbow_world5560]

Hi, I understand your pain and agony... I am also partly there... Problem is with the world who dictate how a mother should be... I will give u some tips - 1) don't blame yourself completely for present situation 2) take your child out sometime alone and start talking anything... Make him your friend first 3) later, slowly once you know they are listening to you... Tell them what you say no to chocolates and all... Even I am strict...people (my own parents, husband and in laws) say lots of stuff... pls Don't care too much... Become strict inside... Don't become sensitive 4) be as much calm as possible., It's hard but it pays 5) follow these steps at least a month... Your child will improve relation with u... Don't worry... You are their mother, nobody can replace your place in the whole world!!! Have courage and handle

[@AshuAjayYashas]

@@vartikavaish6377 thank u for the concern buddy. Bt I have promised my husband that what ever the situation is I will not leave him (marriage vows). My kids r into this world as I wished 2 b a mom bt nt they wished 2 b in this world. So I feel it's my responsibility 2 make them good citizens. ND when comes to inlaws, if they r nt there my husband is nt there nd my kids too. I respect them as my parents. Unfortunately that relation of mother in law and daughter in law is the culprit I feel. That relation doesn't let us live in peace. It's nt the fault with the person bt it's with the relation. Shez so good to all others (even to unknown ppl) except me. ND 1 more thing I believe is, if husband is understanding person then no 1 else can talk bad abt a female. If he doesn't respect his wife no 1 else will respect her. Even the children. They jus take it for granted. Sorry if I am wrong. Bt I can't leave them. They r my family. And am addicted to love them no matter what they give me back

[@AshuAjayYashas]

@@rainbow_world5560 Thank u buddy for all the tips. Will try to do.

[@rainbow_world5560]

@@AshuAjayYashas after seeing your post, I realised I am not the only one fighting this battle... Thank you too!!😊

[@bhagyashrikamble8131]

Hi plz make it in Hindi because it's helpful to all which are weak in English .

[@PoonamGupta-es2dt]

How not to interfere in married daughter,s life. Plz suggest.

[@lakshmirajeswari7414]

Super, very wise, thanks a lot 😊

[@shwetakhanna282]

The same situation is going on in my life.. My 10 years old son has been diagnosed with adhd... my issues r with his behavior, impulsivity,aggression ,lackof interest in studies,loosing his stuff almost everyday,bad relationship with his peers etc.i even get complaints from his teachers. I m tired of facing these situations.. Can u plz suggest what should I do to help my child?

[@aarthishetty2214]

Please go to counsellors or psychologists they will definetly help and in young age it works faster.

[@thaseensameena6405]

Please hindi me bolen

[@imsheetalsharma]

best ever thought kash koi ise Hindi me translate karke post kare

[@Sandra-lb5pu]

Omg thank you! I am so much more than just a parent.

[@veenajain2178]

I m worried for my child's education ...