Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills

[@ZebraZabrina]

I have learned and realized so much about my BPD, hypersensitivity and childhood trauma more than I ever have…everything makes so much sense now…I need to contact a therapist…thank you💕

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching.

[@NS-uq9st]

A good therapist.. I have been there but best result was received by Dr. Fox video

[@arielalmarakeshy1789]

Hey 👋🏻 I’m

[@Mackenzie550]

@@DocSnipes your welcome I really enjoyed listening to it

[@TwoBlackRings]

This video is valuable beyond words. The dynamic of sufferers being triggered by the very environments that invalidate them screams emotional abuse. Even well-intentioned persons, if uninformed are not able to adecuately support persons in pain if they cannot understand the validity of the condition. Thank you Dr. Snipes for raising awareness of the topic!

[@Freaky7Kitten]

I have had little to no professional help recently & I couldn't express how grateful I am for your videos. Although I've self therapised myself before; different trauma calls for different & better healing tactics. And accepting I did the best I could helping myself as a child. You have taught me a great deal that internet reading alone can't always do. Thank you

[@DocSnipes]

I am so glad the videos have been helpful to you. Thanks for watching and subscribing! Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

[@shadowsidesoamplified]

I have done the primary invalidation to my child and I feel absolutely horrible about it. I’m trying to be a better person and mother she deserves

[@websurfer5772]

Bless you. You're to be commended for that.

[@vishwajitpathare6932]

I'm so happy your child has such a wonderful mom 💖

[@AstraLydia]

In the end, you get what you give - I'm hoping you're gonna have a great bond with your child, and remember to give yourself empathy, so you can show your child how to give it to themselves. All the best wishes - I'm sending good vibes your way ✨

[@estherweston4218]

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[@estherweston4218]

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[@robincrowflies]

Wow, this is so great. I've been struggling with BPD all my adult life (possibly as far back as 10 years old), without therapy. I have stumbled upon many of these techniques, but this is a bonanza. Thank you.

[@joaquinromolor8413]

7 years taking this class, a new record to stay consistent and proactive in learning new techniques of coping skills. Thank you Doctor it's cool.

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching and staying around!

[@emsomeo]

You are the greatest teacher in my life, it is so pleasant to listen to your videos every single day.

[@nice-boat]

This channel is really great I have been spending an hour a night listening no matter what and it does help

[@DocSnipes]

So glad. Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

[@billthelen6524]

I went through a Dialectical Behavioral Therapy course over 12 years ago. I expect myself to be perfect because I have these skills. When I do not use these skills, I feel like a failure. The Tip exercise and the Accepts exercise are excellent techniques for distress tolerance. I particularly like to self-soothe through burning incense or listening to music. The 5-4-3-2-1 exercise is great to do. Since I have found your video channel, your videos have been a very helpful distress tolerance tool.

[@DocSnipes]

Thank you so very much for watching and for sharing, Bill. I am grateful for you.

[@come.tothinkoffit]

This is amazing thank you kindly for thanking the time to create and share this. I recently paid for a DBT course that wasnt anywhere near as practical and informative as this. Thanks again.

[@baja1988_Texas]

Please publish the name of the course and URL so the rest of us don't repeat make the same mistake.

[@DocSnipes]

I have several DBT courses at allceus.com

[@jenniferthilthorpe1343]

This was my first video learning about Dpt. It was describing me to a T. It was very emotional to go through the video. This was very educational. Thank you.

[@DocSnipes]

I appreciate you watching. Other videos you might be interested in can be found at: kzbin.infosearch?query=DBT

[@AMilliNUN]

Hahahaha “if the chainsaw is out, they know I need space”. I totally feel that. I recently got diagnosed with BPD and I’ve been really trying to regulate my moods. Thank you for making this lesson available online.

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

[@samanthaallison291]

This was so informational for a therapist of many years. I been using these techniques but a refresher course was amazing . I needed this a therapist for my BPD patients

[@DocSnipes]

Grateful to have been of service. Thank you for watching my video. Also, should you or anyone you're acquainted with have an interest in obtaining CEUs or new certification, you can use the promocode AS20 to save 20% off everything at allceus.com.

[@JacintaJones-fd2hj]

I was first diagnosed at about 13 decades ago, but wasn't told. I was born into an incredibly difficult family and - l was going to put 'grew up' but l didn't. This is me and l so want to overcome the decades of maladaptive coping and live what years l have left without everything bad about having eupd. Thank you

[@DocSnipes]

Thank you so much for sharing your story. I can’t imagine how challenging it must have been to carry this burden for so long, especially without having that diagnosis or support when you needed it most. Growing up in a difficult family environment can leave deep wounds, and it’s understandable that it might feel like you never really got the chance to “grow up” in a way that allowed for true healing and self-discovery. The fact that you’re here, seeking to overcome those decades of maladaptive coping, speaks volumes about your strength and resilience. It’s never too late to create new ways of living and relating to yourself that feel healthier and more aligned with the person you want to be. The tools within DBT, like emotion regulation, distress tolerance, and building healthier relationships, can be so valuable in helping to shift those long-standing patterns. Please know that the desire for change and healing, even after all these years, is a powerful step. Every bit of progress you make is meaningful. You deserve to experience more peace and self-compassion moving forward, and I truly believe that with time and the right tools, it’s possible to create a life that feels better aligned with your hopes and values. I am grateful to be of service. Also, I’d be grateful if you were to share what you found most useful from the video. Additionally, if you're interested in more tips on the topic this or if you want to explore my video library, you can use my AI: allceus.com/AskDocSnipes. Wishing you strength and kindness as you navigate this journey-you deserve it.

[@pappy1812]

Thank you so much for this video. My son is in a really bad place and an emotional wreck. We've been waiting 18 months to get him DBT but there's still no light at the end of the tunnel. This video has helped me so much and I have hope that I can try to help him now I have a better understanding of what DBT is and how it's used. Thank you

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for sharing. Wishing you, peace, health, and, happiness.

[@dianeibsen5994]

Waiting 18 month for what? How is he doing?

[@amralaasaleh]

You are a very kind and knowledgeable strong person doctor. Love and blessings from Egypt

[@DD-jm5ug]

School staff need to see this ❤

[@DocSnipes]

Thank you for watching the video. Here is another helpful one: Nurturing Secure Attachment Through the Lifespan kzbin.info/www/bejne/qau3maaJdtKcZ80

[@sap1donnel886]

This is the best breakdown of the causative factors of bpd n treatment of dbt. U have no idea how much u have helped us and using simple explanations so that the every day person can have a deep understanding of dbt. Thank u very much for this

[@DocSnipes]

You’re so welcome. What is your favorite tip from the video?

[@Ollay245]

Thanks for putting this together. I recently started dating someone with BPD, she told me kn our first date but I honestly didn't know a lot about it. Amazing first part of the relationship but now it's revolved round to a difficult spell where by I don't know where I stand. Helping to understand how her mind works is helping, and if it doesn't work out with her then I have this knowledge to use on another person. Really sucks though, because I just want to be loved

[@DocSnipes]

I appreciate you watching.

[@billthelen6524]

Thank you Dr. Snipes for doing this review. I was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorders over 15 years ago. I totally agree with this diagnoses. I relate to everything that is said about BPD.

[@DocSnipes]

I am sorry about that. Thank you so much for watching. What is your favorite tip from the video?

[@thegirlwhospeaks236]

Wow! I knew this existed but never knew what exactly it was! I am a super Sensitive a super Empath and Clair… Clairsentience… I will now Perdue what I have so deeply not understood. God Bless you… you have opens my mind to the possibility of help.

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching.

[@eoinMB3949]

"If you try to save your life you'll lose it but if you give up your life you'll save it"........the problem at its core, is fear and trying to protect yourself from harm. The solution is to stop all activities and thoughts that are designed to protect yourself, give up your life.

[@aliciamull4882]

Smart comment

[@willabestorms6059]

Yes… A smart comments but I don’t think it’s very precise. Sounds like Buddha is involved…

[@shelbymarie8576]

Thank you, Everything is clearer now. I appreciate you.

[@DocSnipes]

Welcome

[@billthelen6524]

Guided imagery is great for improving the moment. The DEAR MAN is very helpful. Though, I find it hard to negotiate.

[@DocSnipes]

Thank you so much for watching and for Sharing, Bill. I appreciate you being here.

[@Melissa19f]

This presentation is excellent! I’ve taken a DBT course so this was a great refresher. The info is detailed and spot-on. Thank you for sharing this!

[@DocSnipes]

Glad you liked it. Thanks for watching.

[@jolenehendrickson8915]

I've been recently diagnosed with PTSD Trauma and was told about DBT

[@DocSnipes]

Sorry for that. Thanks for watching!

[@aliciale2007]

Thank you so much. The information you presented is the best help I have received in recent years. May God bless you.❤

[@DocSnipes]

You’re most welcome! Thank you for watching

[@n.d8001]

amazing presentation. Thank you so much

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching.

[@DD-jm5ug]

We all eff up as parents at times...we all carry our own trauma and unfortunately our children are along for the ride 😢 Difference is....if you recognise your trauma and use the right tools to heal, your children will see this and follow your lead ❤❤

[@DocSnipes]

I agree, recognizing and addressing trauma is highly important. Thank you for watching the video.

[@afarwiththedawning4495]

This whole channel is gold. Thanks!

[@DocSnipes]

You’re most welcome. Thank you for watching videos on the channel

[@yehudabarnett7575]

So me!!!! I always kick in to fight or flight and I can’t slow down. I try, and I know where it is coming from but it’s hard to get myself to stop and I get very anxious

[@DocSnipes]

Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

[@maggiemiddleton8760]

You are amazing. You covered lots of material. Thanks so much

[@DocSnipes]

So welcome! I appreciate you watching.I appreciate you watching. Other videos you might be interested in can be found at: kzbin.infosearch?query=DBT

[@websurfer5772]

This is really helpful for me. Thank you. The 10 game - Find 10 things you are grateful for. Gratitude = Sanity. I use essential oils daily. Today I'm using a body butter that I just added petitgrain bigarde to and its citrusy scent is very uplifting, energizing and this oil helps with physical pain. I read that petitgrain sur fleurs is aromatherapeutic for anger and anxiety. I have that one on my wishlist. I like the idea of visualizing successful completion. I've never heard of that before. I'll try that before I have to be around people again. I just realized I've been doing the opposite. I like the idea of setting microgoals.

[@lisbethbird8268]

Awesome overview, thank you. I'm inspired to learn and apply.

[@DocSnipes]

Ty. Thanks for watching.

[@amyelizabeth7880]

Thank you for this. I live in TN but cannot afford dbt at the moment so I joined a support group on Facebook and a member of the group directed me here. At least I can somewhat learn some dbt skills here. I hope to possibly understand myself more.

[@DocSnipes]

I am in TN. Send me a message at [e-mail] if you would like.

[@BeaVizcarra]

Check out the “crappy childhood fairy” KZbin channel as well

[@ladykws]

Your videos are wonderfully informative for the layperson and professional alike. All DBT clinicians should "brush up" their skills with this video. Thank you for this and everything else you share with the world.

[@DocSnipes]

Thank you so much!

[@Overarainbow-rr1ly]

I highly appreciate your videos. Excellent explanation. This makes a lot of sense.

[@DocSnipes]

Glad it was helpful! Thanks so much for watching.

[@gajananhatagale9391]

Very helpful, thank you so much😊

[@DocSnipes]

You're welcome 😊

[@MD.orion1]

Some people are not sensitive at all and are super abusive to people closest to them, this is especially true of teens that behave like that

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for sharing

[@musicmom2161]

I found this lecture very clear and to the point. As a CPTSD patient my therapist recommended this type of therapy. However she did not explain who would be the one helping me with it. She recommended group therapy that I have an aversion to. Do you feel, although I really appreciate my therapist that I can add a second therapist for the next six months for the Dialectical behavior therapy?

[@karenritchie3492]

If my family would listen to this maybe they would have understood me because this is me 100 percent...instead they decided I was toxic and now I'm alienated...

[@DocSnipes]

Sorry to hear. Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

[@sheraleewoods834]

This statement is soo familiar in my own circumstances. I'll be your family today :-)

[@tigerdamascus4526]

Very informative and practical thenkyou!

[@DocSnipes]

Welcome

[@BeholdIamaNewCreation]

Here based on your recommendation Doc, thanks.

[@DocSnipes]

Thank you! I am grateful to be of help and I appreciate you watching the video. I am doing a free Live Q&A at 10:20AM EDT today, if you can make it

[@apinyachangsanoh7919]

Thank you very much This explanation is very helpful to me.

[@DocSnipes]

Glad it was helpful!

[@chelseapoet3664]

That was amazingly helpful, thank you! 🙏

[@DocSnipes]

Welcome. Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.

[@brianagee2790]

Some of the skills could have benefited from some expansion such as Dear Man. The use of 'I feel' statements, explaining that the skill is primarily intended as a way of getting what you want from someone, describing the skill in a way which can be used to say no or set boundaries, the importance of not allowing the other individual to derail the conversation, and using an example so as to better describe how the skill can be used during interpersonal interaction... If the intention of this class was to give brief summary introductions or review then I suppose it's fine.

[@russbeard3665]

Your video was easy to watch and the ideas were easy to absorb. The key for me to get so much out of the material you presented was my own motivation. Thanks for putting this video together, I will definitely come back to it as a resource. (My favorite quote of yours was "to tame the monkey mind"). Bravo! I much appreciate your work on this topic!

[@DocSnipes]

You’re so welcome. I appreciate you watching the video. Other videos you might be interested in can be found at kzbin.infosearch?query=DBT

[@joaquinromolor3239]

Thank you.

[@DocSnipes]

Welcome

[@sarahandwilliam3329]

the only place I feel anywhere remotely safe is my home. I suffer from severe social anxiety. it has been this was pretty much my whole life. I remember as a teenager I couldn't even go to the mall to watch movies because I would have panic attacks. today I am 35 yes old. I have BPD PTSD, DEPRESSION AND SEVERE SOCIAL ANXIETY. it controls my life. it literally takes an act of Congress to get me into a grocery store. I literally have two outfits to my name that actually fit me because I have lost almost 50lbs in less than 8 months but it is impossible for me to go into a store to try and find clothes to fit me. I get maybe one or two outfits tried on and by this point I'm in tears shaking and my husband has to guide me out of the store. I had a period for about 4 yrs where I thought I had truly overcome these issues. I don't know what happened again to cause me to slip this far back.

[@DocSnipes]

I am sorry about that and I appreciate you watching

[@rebeccahansford6184]

Thank you so much for this video I need help so bad

[@DocSnipes]

You are so welcome!

[@lindahebb4832]

Thank you for posting

[@meb3153]

Many thanks for all your hard work on your content!

[@DocSnipes]

So nice of you

[@thehayses5076]

How can one get help with their BPD if they have no money, no insurance, and cannot hold down a job? I want to be able to work and function, but I cannot hack it more than for the short term. I feel absolute hopelessness and helplessness.

[@DocSnipes]

Getting help for Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) when you have no money, no insurance, and difficulty holding down a job can feel overwhelming, but there are several strategies and resources that can provide support: 1. Community Mental Health Services * Many communities offer mental health services on a sliding scale or even for free. Look for local community mental health centers, which often provide therapy and psychiatric services based on your ability to pay. 2. Non-Profit Organizations * Organizations like the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) offer free support groups, educational programs, and resources for individuals with mental health conditions, including BPD. They can also help you navigate the mental health system and find low-cost services. 3. Online Resources and Support Groups * There are numerous online forums and support groups where you can connect with others who understand what you're going through. Websites like Reddit, Psych Central, and various Facebook groups offer communities where you can share experiences and get advice. 4. Self-Help Strategies * Mindfulness and Distress Tolerance: Practicing mindfulness and distress tolerance skills can help manage emotional dysregulation. Techniques such as deep breathing, guided imagery, and grounding exercises can be very effective. * Journaling: Writing about your thoughts and feelings can help you process emotions and identify patterns in your behavior. * Exercise: Physical activity can help reduce stress and improve mood. Even simple activities like walking can make a difference. 5. Public Assistance Programs * Investigate if you qualify for public assistance programs such as Medicaid, which can provide access to mental health services. Each state has different eligibility requirements, so it’s worth checking what’s available in your area. 6. Educational Resources * Utilize free educational resources to learn more about BPD and coping strategies, like my AI: AllCEUs.com/DocSnipes-AI. Understanding that BPD behaviors are survival strategies developed in response to past trauma can be empowering. 7. Crisis Hotlines and Text Lines * If you are in immediate distress, crisis hotlines and text lines can provide immediate support. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (1-800-273-8255) and Crisis Text Line (text HOME to 741741) are available 24/7. 8. Develop a Safety Plan * Creating a safety plan can help you feel more in control. Identify your triggers, develop self-soothing techniques, and have a list of emergency contacts. This can help you manage crises more effectively. 9. Peer Support * Peer support specialists, who have lived experience with mental health conditions, can provide support and guidance. Many organizations offer peer support programs that are free or low-cost. 10. Local Universities and Training Clinics * Universities with psychology or counseling programs often have training clinics where you can receive low-cost therapy from supervised students. By exploring these options, you can find the support you need to manage BPD and work towards a more stable and fulfilling life. Remember, reaching out for help is a courageous first step, and there are resources available to support you even in challenging circumstances.

[@dee0731]

Great information thank you Doc Snipes 🙌🏻☀️

[@DocSnipes]

Ty

[@bhavinimakwana2704]

Super helpful Thank you

[@DocSnipes]

Glad it was helpful! You are welcome.

[@chanellmcclerkin984]

Thank you thank you for this video

[@DocSnipes]

You are so welcome!

[@danab172]

I have to copy and paste here, at least I hope it will let me! I meant to respond earlier to this, as I was so appreciative of your response. Especially written in a way nobody had before. I only wish my initial question was more clear. First, I like what you said about balancing the internal life by taking action in reality. And, I also like how you said social interaction and physical movement is important. But, Im not sure if motivation is entirely the problem. Thank you for aknowledging my Infp mbti type that i identify with. (Also, enneagram 4w5) Nobody ever has or was willing to, even though I identify with it. The problem is I always felt that therapists approached therapy in a way that seemed to advise on what came easy for them. Little do they know how difficult it is for me to sustain any concentration on the external world. Add to that a maladaptive internal experience that i dont have a lot of control over. Tbh, none. That had arised, I think...out of C-PTSD and an extremely disconnected life. (I currently have one friend of the opposite sex for 6 years. And, I spent my entire adult life without literally any family connection at all. No friends, especially female, which ive hidden from people. And, i lived in inequity and survival. No kids. Never married. It was my dream to but i now suffer those losses which does make "motivation" hard at this point. As i feel a real sense of injustice. Ive been through hell. And life was very painful without support and belonging....and surviving instead of living. I know myself extremely well though, with strong values. And a goal. But, I'd say that my problem is not exactly "fear of abandonment" instead... the chronic actual aloneness and feelings of having been worthless, degraded, scapegoated, targeted, harassed, inferior...in the context of social experiences...and in employment levels. I have social anxiety accompanied by some paranoia. Ontop, I find I get overwhelmed alot and easy. I have an important certificate towards employment im supposed to be studying, at age 47. But, I lack middle and highschool foundation, due to my bad childhood and lack of support. I REALLY lived in my head as a child. And, to give you an example of extremes. At age 18-19 i didnt leave my home, instead lived a life in my mind. In my early 20's I had maladaptive day dreaming. It angers me that an Rpn once at a mental health clinic put me on anti schitsophrenic drugs at the time. Saying, that daydreaming was like schitsophrenia. So lets try this. I have too many other tales about a harmful system, many misdiagnosis, and experiences that honestly perpetuated my low self worth in life. Ontop, I got into power struggles with professionals over my needing to be believed how hard it was for me to pay attention. And i did break away from it all, even when they tried to continue my dependency. But it was an inadequate life of survival and disconnect. I then crashed years later and returned again, but lost years of my life to talk therapy without results. A supportive woman though. Then, I tried once more in recent years, but got misdiagnosed with rediculously severe labels. They were rediculous and not correct. Like DID, which I was labeled after only one session because I said that i "dissasociate" not really knowing the meaning, by having an inner world. And i do lose time. So yea, I am looking exactly for a more empowered approach with EMDR, especially since i relive experiences every day. And i have anger and chronic anxiety. But how to structure and learn this employment material on my own? Ill have to but have put it off for extreme amounts of time. On top, social anxiety and disconnect has me always imagining scenarios and conversations in my head. I have no control over these imaginings and I dont think they will ever disappear. Its all ive ever known. I have to ask my friend what is going on in a movie continuously, as an example of it. I swear it feels crazy or that im just different... because everyone else is paying attention and are quicker to comprehend, like in reading. But with me, it is an extreme mental juggle with my concentration torn with these imaginings. However, often they are imaginings that i can derive meaning from when i understand them. But every therapist tells me they have no understanding or knowing about it. Or they give me false labels besides. I can lay in bed for hours and hours. I waste days and days. Sometimes feeling like I'll never move. Then finally I get out of my head enough to do so. But, I just don't know how to make that transition quicker and consistent. I'm on my own here except for a dbt book, that I tend to forget what it says over and over... and I resort to distraction as a tool, I do the breathing techniques, I sometimes make it to yoga...telling myself to be mindful and observe without judgement, only to either be angry in memories, or having imagined conversations in engrossed amusement while for what seems like seconds of painfully telling myself to observe my surroundings. Painfully because its that difficult. Ive been told to then pay attention to my thoughts. Well, trust me, im pretty good at that. Ive been told, as a borderline that i need to be okay with being alone. OKAY. But, Ive been alone at lengths of time that surely would have profound results on the average person. We all need connection and belonging. SO Yea i like what you said. And i would like to taylor somehow a perfect therapy. But i dont know what to do. Should i be using CBT to get unstuck? Should i be practicing self respect while im immersed in imagined conversations and scenarios? Im not kidding. When im stuck in bad traumatic memories of people...or fear of the future... what dbt skill should i be using. Thanks for your input, because deep down, i believe im worthy. Worthy of a chance to live equally and to find some belonging somehow in this world.​@DocSnipes

[@DocSnipes]

It sounds like you’ve faced an incredibly challenging journey, navigating through experiences that have deeply affected your sense of self-worth, connection, and overall mental health. Your resilience in continuing to seek understanding and healing despite these hardships speaks volumes about your inner strength and determination. It’s clear you’re seeking a path that allows you to live more fully, connected, and with a sense of purpose and belonging. Using CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) and DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) can indeed be powerful approaches in your toolkit for navigating the complexities you’ve described. Here’s how they might help in specific contexts you’ve mentioned: CBT for Getting Unstuck CBT focuses on identifying and challenging distorted thought patterns and beliefs to change unwanted behavior patterns or treat mood disorders. For feelings of being stuck or overwhelmed by negative self-assessment and past traumas, CBT techniques can help by: • Identifying Cognitive Distortions: Recognizing patterns of thought that may not accurately reflect reality and challenge these thoughts. • Reframing Thoughts: Learning to change the narrative from a negative to a more positive or realistic perspective. • Goal Setting: Starting with small, achievable goals can help build a sense of accomplishment and gradually work towards larger goals. Practicing Self-Respect in Imagined Conversations When you find yourself immersed in imagined conversations and scenarios, especially those that reinforce negative views of yourself or others, it can be helpful to: • Use Mindfulness: Acknowledge these thoughts without judgment and gently guide your attention back to the present moment or to a more positive or neutral focus. • Challenge the Thoughts: Ask yourself if these thoughts are helpful or if there’s a more compassionate way you could view yourself or the situation. • Affirmations: Develop a set of positive affirmations that reinforce your worth and values, repeating them during these times. DBT Skills for Traumatic Memories and Fear of the Future DBT emphasizes balancing acceptance and change, incorporating mindfulness, distress tolerance, emotion regulation, and interpersonal effectiveness skills. For dealing with traumatic memories and fears: • Mindfulness: Helps with being present and fully engaged in the now, reducing rumination on past events or future fears. • Distress Tolerance: Techniques like self-soothing, IMPROVE the moment, and TIPP skills can be particularly useful when feelings become overwhelming. • Emotion Regulation: Learning to identify, label, and adjust emotions can help you respond to situations more effectively rather than being swept away by them. Tailoring Your Perfect Therapy Creating a “perfect therapy” is about finding what resonates with you and adapting these tools to suit your needs. It might also involve exploring new therapeutic approaches like EMDR, which you mentioned, especially for processing and integrating traumatic memories. Given the complexities of your experiences, a multidisciplinary approach might be most effective, incorporating self-guided learning with professional support when possible. Engaging with communities or support groups, either in person or online, can also offer a sense of connection and shared understanding. You’ve mentioned an important aspect: believing deep down that you’re worthy. Holding onto this belief is crucial. It’s the foundation upon which you can build your journey towards healing, connection, and a sense of belonging. Remember, progress is not linear and being patient and compassionate with yourself through this process is key.

[@rkttb]

This was very useful. Thanks 😊

[@DocSnipes]

You're welcome 😊

[@rkttb]

@@DocSnipes I’m a psychiatrist, practising in India. I find your videos extremely useful. Nice to learn from a teacher like you. You are my virtual teacher!! Thanks ever so much!

[@bigbadbillybrad]

Thank You 🙏🏻

[@DocSnipes]

Welcome!

[@colleenstedham8734]

I would love a presentation on treating substance use disorders for clients who are using medicinal cannabis. Thank you.

[@SuperCelliott]

I need this.

[@DocSnipes]

I appreciate you watching. If you don’t mind me asking, what’s your favorite tip from the video. Other videos you might be interested in can be found at: kzbin.infosearch?query=DBTmadesimple

[@samaritandaytopvillagealum483]

Great Skills, thank you!

[@mustangjane77]

Wow, I didn't know you were close to Tennessee. (Florida I see??) WIsh I would have known about this conference.

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching the video

[@aj6258]

Why isn't there any focus on finding the original problem and fixing it?

[@sammieb9009]

Hi. I appreciate this training, as always. I am wondering if one can get CEU for watching this training. It seems like I should but not sure if it’s set it for this purpose. Pls advice. Thank you.

[@DocSnipes]

You can take the CEU class based on this at AllCEUs.com Thank you for asking :)

[@kwanhofu2968]

As BPD, really hate the responsible for their resolution,and just say this is the way it is,,,,u can say we have the power to fight for our life,,,but saying responsible that make ppl cant accept trauma respone instant gulity for failure to cope

[@jesusmaryandjoseph1]

Thanks Doc 😭♥️😭

[@DocSnipes]

Welcome

[@danab172]

Thank you!!!!! ❤

[@DocSnipes]

You are so welcome!

[@ROB7002]

"knee high to a grasshopper" 😂 i love u dr snipes..

[@DocSnipes]

Ty so much!

[@mbm97r]

This is so helpful

[@DocSnipes]

I appreciate you watching. What would you say is your favorite DBT skill?

[@Icanbyorsuprman1]

My struggles aren't with knowing the past that caused these things. My struggles stem from creating solutions. So many therapists focus on past trauma and events. How do I find a therapist who can help me create solutions?

[@DocSnipes]

A cognitive behavioral therapist can help you identify strategies to address how past trauma is impacting you in the present.

[@Icanbyorsuprman1]

@@DocSnipes Thank you. Finding one in this area is difficult. I don't necessarily fit all the criteria but I notice things I would like to change.

[@mehnazhossain4632]

What can you do to limit contact with family, if one is in this tragic situation? Or if you are not in a position to limit contact due to external factors?

[@DocSnipes]

Thank you for watching the video. Here’s a video on surviving Holiday Gatherings. Hope it helps: kzbin.info/www/bejne/mma9g3-OhtdorM0

[@mehnazhossain4632]

Many of the skills I got right didn't need any training for that when I was growing up. It's still a good reminder, and it doesn't do harm. However or when you have already had limited contact and then have this vague feeling that one is being manipulated. That's the past it could have been worse. So one only has control over one's own feelings, Remorse is a more helpful emotion than guilt, had to work through that could have been worse. I had gone through REBT. One can only correct one's own feelings, or be aware of one's own feelings. Placing a boundary was not easy, the first time one puts up a boundary one is in the same situation again. I am doing all of the self-compassion exercises that I need to do. So a broken record of repeating it helps. To say No. When with other peers it's easier to manage, however peers need to be in the correct subject area. I have kept a set of records for unhelpful comments being said, particularly when I was being successful in the workplace. So the concern about peers, is that they need to be workplace peers. It doesn''t mean that you bliock peers elsewhere.

[@gayleschuster9969]

I don't have bpd. But it seems obvious to me that my father did. So my feelings weren't acknowledged. My whole childhood was about my father's out of control emotions

[@DocSnipes]

I am sorry about that and I appreciate you watching the video

[@finleyandfriends8332]

Can you talk about age regression and bpd?

[@DocSnipes]

Thank you for watching the video. Please feel free to use my AI to learn about regression and BPD and to search for videos in the video library: allceus.com/AskDocSnipes

[@talon86blake59]

Bpd is literally ripping me into pieces . Idk how much longer I'll make it

[@DocSnipes]

You can find other therapists via Psychology Today search. You should find a licensed clinician and/ or medical doctor to help.

[@diana_lim]

you can do it i promise!

[@muslimwarrior9891]

Hugs 🫂💕💕

[@muslimwarrior9891]

Your feelings are valid and it’s okay to feel that way it’s part of being human and its natural after whatever trauma you’ve been thru , 🫂

[@websurfer5772]

You can do this. Take it one moment at a time and keep searching for what can help you as you obviously already are since you're here.

[@camerokid78]

Algorithm: more dialectical behavior therapy content please.

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching.

[@GoodgirlzrockNone-e7x]

Christina Dixon present.

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching the video. I’d love to hear your thoughts on what you found most useful in the video, if feel comfortable sharing. If you’re interested in more content on all things mental health or exploring my other videos, feel free to check out my AI: allceus.com/AskDocSnipes.

[@danab172]

What do you do if you are an infp personality type and you have a severe problem getting yourself to do anything? Isolation, lack of structure, disconnect...plays a part. But, I've always lived in my head and lived in my imagination. I've had bouts of time in my lifetime that was years long where I was stuck with little physical activity. I mean someone really suggested dbt again.... which frustrated me because....how the heck to you get out of your head to do dbt? I'm serious. I'm supposed to go for an intake for EMDR therapy soon. And they said that they start off with DBT. And I'm frustrated because I thought EMDR would help the DBT to actually have affect. Besides that, I swear it was written for those with extroverted sensing in their mbti function stack.

[@DocSnipes]

It sounds like you're experiencing some challenges with motivation and engaging in therapeutic practices like DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy) and EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing), particularly as someone with an INFP personality type who tends to live in their imagination. Let's address your concerns step by step. Overcoming Isolation and Lack of Structure for INFPs For individuals with an INFP personality, creating a structured environment that still allows for creativity and introspection can be beneficial. It's important to establish a routine that includes physical activity, social interaction, and time for reflection. This can help you transition from being in your head to taking action in the real world. DBT and INFP Personality Type DBT can be particularly helpful for individuals who experience intense emotions and have difficulty managing impulses. It teaches skills like distress tolerance and mindfulness, which can help you pause and choose how to act rather than reacting impulsively. For someone who is introspective and imaginative, DBT can provide practical tools to balance internal experiences with external actions. EMDR Therapy and INFP Personality Type EMDR is a therapy designed to help people process and integrate traumatic memories. It can be empowering and client-led, allowing you to work through trauma in a way that's meaningful for you. EMDR has been shown to be effective for a variety of individuals, including those who may have a rich inner life and struggle with intrusive thoughts. Integrating DBT with EMDR It's understandable to feel frustrated if you were hoping to start with EMDR therapy. However, some therapists may begin with DBT to establish emotional stability and coping skills before moving on to EMDR. This approach can ensure that you have the necessary tools to handle the emotional intensity that can come with processing trauma in EMDR sessions. Addressing Your Concerns It's important to communicate your concerns and preferences with your therapist. If you feel that EMDR might be more beneficial for you initially, discuss this during your intake. A good therapist will work with you to tailor the treatment plan to your needs, taking into account your personality type and how it affects your therapy process. Remember, therapy is a collaborative process, and it's crucial to find a therapist who respects your individuality and works with you to create a plan that feels right for you. If you have any more questions or need further guidance, feel free to reach out.

[@abiroe6177]

after hearing about TIPS i feel like people who use self harm are kind of doing the same thing??

[@DocSnipes]

Thank you for watching. What tip would you say would be the most helpful for you?

[@tearthangel373]

Shears and chainsaws 😂. I can relate

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching.

[@SandOnToast2598]

29:31 we don't talk about this enough

[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching the video

[@finleyandfriends8332]

I wish I could get my partner to understand bpd i feel like he does but doesn’t 😢idk but all these feelings are rough. I feel like we have to trick our brains:( and nothing is working for me. Psychiatrist’s just want to medicate us

[@DocSnipes]

I am sorry your partner doesn’t understand what you’re struggling with. I don’t know if he’d be opened to it, but if you think he is, you can share my AI with him (you can use it, too), to learn more about BPD and tips to address it…he can also learn about how to support someone with BPD: allceus.com/AskDocSnipes

[@enough1494]

My little sister sends me the following: “The biosocial theory of emotional dysregulation posits that a teens' “5 problem areas” (i.e., 1) reduced focus/awareness, 2) impulsivity, 3) emotion dysregulation, 4) interpersonal problems, and 5) teen-family challenges) evolve from a transaction between a biological vulnerability and an invalidating environment.” I read it and laughed, uncontrollably, and of course I offended her and hurt her feelings! I had four teens…they ALL HAD THOSE symptoms, lol…grew up and matured. No drugs, no big deal. BTW, her kids were plugged in, I never had a tv or computer at home! No cells till senior year. All “ problem areas” are normal, hormonal and environmental…we live what we learn….be simple…slow down….they need it, too!

[@enough1494]

No not religious either!

[@untamed1958]

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[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching

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[@DocSnipes]

Thank you for watching the video

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[@DocSnipes]

Thanks for watching the video

[@RoseCatMariner]

Keep calm and use dmt skills!

[@DocSnipes]

:) Thank you for watching the video

[@charlievancese4445]

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[@jshir17]

DBT sucks like most behavior therapies

[@DocSnipes]

I wonder if it was the DBT that sucked or the therapist.

[@jshir17]

@@DocSnipes It can be both.

[@melphillips1608]

@@jshir17 This may or may not be relevant but some ppl doing DBT don’t explore the reason why certain behaviours might ‘benefit’ someone. Like you don’t want (self harm ) or other outwardly destructive behaviours but I feel it’s worth finding out what one is getting out of it and then add the other layers of coping + alternative ways to replace. This to me takes away the stigma and can help with moving forward and learning healthier coping responses. + what she said in this vid about HPA axis/responses.

[@ATOGMILSIM]

I struggle with BPD bad.

[@DocSnipes]

I am sorry about that and I appreciate you watching the video. Other videos you might be interested in can be found at kzbin.infosearch?query=DBT Other videos you might be interested in can be found at kzbin.infosearch?query=BPD

[@veronicawilliams6670]

Thank you. Finally I feel like someone see’s me, even if it’s me! 😅🫶🏻🙏😌

[@DocSnipes]

You’re so welcome! Thank you for watching the video. You can find other videos on DBT at: kzbin.infosearch?query=dialectical