Diddy Apology - Therapist Analysis

[@zimtapfel]

„I‘m going to therapy“ is men‘s new way of trying to get away with stuff. Disgusting. Not one second do I believe he went to therapy.

[@sherriromas5871]

THIS! And also weaponizing therapy speak.

[@lv2756]

They never actually go, proclaiming they will is good enough for them

[@karenabrams8986]

He would only ever hire therapists on his dole who would never piss him off.

[@gordianknot6867]

Why does it only apply to men? Every bad person promises to change. Sometimes it’s a genuine effort to become a slightly better person (not that I believe diddy falls into that category.)

[@thelocalartisanguide7937]

Also lately it's "I've found religion"

[@amyann47]

Agree, you don’t just beat someone in the hallway as a one-off occurrence. For sure the tip of the iceberg of what she experienced.

[@Treehead726]

What many women he dealt with experienced. RIP Kim Porter

[@joolz2305]

Yes, he doesn’t apologize for anything that happened before or after the video.

[@iyanla09]

The hotel should be investigated. If the hotels are willing to cover up or hide domestic violence evidence for $50,000.00. That hotel should be prosecuted because if they're willing to hide this, what else are they hiding?

[@Daijxo]

The hotel has since shut down. And even if they wanted to the hotel can’t be the one to press charges.

[@sunfire125]

I think that's one of the reasons the hotel gave Cassy a copy of her own without Diddy knowing it, so she can go to the cops but she didn't feel safe because Diddy would pay people off

[@maryravindran1]

the hotel should report it to police when they saw the video. Instead they are so hard up for usd50k which is like a loose coin for p diddy

[@ngozi90]

@@sunfire125that’s not what happened. Diddy paid 50k to the hotel for the video and it was uncovered and leaked to TMZ after the federal raid of his homes

[@Treehead726]

He didn't choose that hotel by accident.

[@Mercury688]

Yeah he was so disgusted when he did it that he came out and said Cassie just wanted a quick payday and lied until the video came out. I’m glad he did this apology because hopefully people will start seeing through him and help get him locked up asap

[@imjustadeepthi]

"I hit rock bottom" , I didn't know Cassie's nickname was called "rock bottom"

[@bev9708]

WELL SAID!!!

[@DenelsiaWalker]

💯

[@catie1305]

😂

[@RO-ROFLOW]

He NEVER said her name. Not an apology, he's just mad he got caught.

[@jenmyers9407]

He’s actually not allowed to say her name per the lawsuit settlement. I agree with you he’s only apologizing because he got caught!

[@Monstera1005]

@@jenmyers9407 True. Neither Diddy nor Cassie can say the other’s name in public, per the terms of their settlement.

[@ShanniBananni]

He could've said "I apologize to the woman in the video and all the women I've hurt."

[@RedBunni1024]

@@jenmyers9407that’s what I’ve been hearing many times. I haven’t verified it myself but seems both of them aren’t able to publicly speak about the other one so makes sense he didn’t talk about her specifically.

[@Monstera1005]

@@ShanniBananni Perhaps. I don’t know all the specifics of their agreement but my initial thought was that I wished he had acknowledged her directly too. It’s disappointing that he didn’t or wasn’t able to 😏

[@Cai_saN]

Also, he said ”I had to go to therapy” like its a prison sentence, not ”I realise I have to work on myself and I get help with that”

[@MetalWoodpecker]

All I see on his face is rage and contempt and dead eye moments.

[@Daijxo]

Right! Not an ounce of remorse behind those eyes.

[@mrs.rogersneighborhood]

Yep!👍🏽

[@mrsse1121]

He is so mad at her in this video “ he not sorry at all better man “ he should have been better at 30 years old he ran in the hall at age 46 47 after a cute unproblematicSweet Cassie she was 27 28 that’s crazy he need jail

[@jetson10100]

He called her a liar, knowing full well the video existed. FAKE apology, he's worried about his career of which he has none left.

[@-norsecode-]

Everyone who shamed Cassie and called her a gold digging liar (or other such things) need to check themselves and why they take the side of abusers.

[@shine_eye1]

Exactly!!

[@persononline3412]

"Diddys apology" Is such a ridiculous combo of words. Screw p diddy

[@persononline3412]

The good doc did more prep than Diddy in this apology lol. Diddy prob just contacted his lawyer about caribeña extradition law

[@Theinfamouskiki411]

Word salad

[@kimmi2662]

Exactly, he's using all the keywords to make it sound good.

[@LeylaSKDR]

I saw a "documentary" about what he did to Cassie. That man has to go to jail. Pretty simple. An apology is just decoration.

[@joannawrzelikowska3273]

Where did You see it ?

[@elizabethmonsivais651]

I think 50cent has a documentary about him, or in process of releasing.

[@sophiestanza]

@@elizabethmonsivais651love how vocal 50 has been about this

[@ngozi90]

@@sophiestanzai don’t. 50 is acting like there couldn’t be a documentary on his abuse of women. We need to have a whole reckoning in hip hop

[@sophiestanza]

@@ngozi90 have there been claims against 50? I didn’t know that and if that’s the case then gross :( however I don’t think it’s fair to generalize hip hop. I think this is an entertainment industry problem on a much wider scale

[@theamp1986]

Apologize to public to save face not to Cassie…

[@armurray84]

He can't say her name due to their agreement.

[@liveldred1791]

Apparently they're not allowed to publicly speak on one another after they settled the lawsuit.

[@allieharmon3926]

That benefits him more than her

[@yvonne2965]

He wasn’t apologizing before this video , he was calling her a liar and a money grabber 🤨

[@janicehummel8447]

Apologizing for getting caught is not an apology. It's spin.

[@LizNeptune]

I am SO happy to see this. He has EARNED a “The Psychology of Puff Daddy/Diddy” series!! There is SO MUCH MATERIAL out there!

[@MB-pt8np]

Agreed!!

[@tslee3008]

And the nerve of him to give a shout out to cassie at the b e t awards in 2022... he said thank you for holding me down in the dark times. 😬🤔😭 a true narcissist

[@GarnetJ]

He never even acknowledged Cassie. It sounded like his attorneys wrote it. There was no remorse, only disappointment that he got caught. He makes himself off as a victim to “the darkest time of his life,” as if he had no control over his actions. If he was disgusted then, he wouldn’t have tried to avoid responsibility.

[@maddyG7414]

Ah yes, the public apology AFTER people expose him.

[@agotahorvath]

Shouldn't be allowed to settle out of court and just pay your way out of jail . He is a dangerous violent guy that needs to do time . It wasn't a dark time for him , it was a dark time for Cassie . It's only a dark time now since he has been exposed .

[@RedBunni1024]

Cassie’s suit was civil so the only thing she could have gotten out of it was $. The statute of limitations for criminal liability has run out on this unfortunately.

[@agotahorvath]

@@RedBunni1024 There should be no statute of limitations for violent crimes .

[@RedBunni1024]

@@agotahorvath that may be true but that currently isn’t the law. And all states have different laws. The only crime that doesn’t have a statute of limitations is murder. And even then when years and decades go by murder becomes very hard to prove without evidence. I’m no lawyer but I imagine part of the reason for the statutes is so proof of the crime can be found because after so long it’s harder to find evidence of and prove things like assault. Maybe that is something our system could change now that we are in the age of technology and things are constantly recorded, but seems it takes the law a long time to catch up with technology.

[@laceyunderall22]

@@agotahorvathBingo

[@fairylin5]

Also, Cassie was 17 and Diddy was 37 when they met and started dating

[@sleepybodhi]

Yikes!

[@karenabrams8986]

What a creep.

[@emilyz3932]

add grooming to the list

[@eyekandy3000]

She was 19 but barely an adult

[@mrsse1121]

19 but still Teen tho that’s sick justice for Cassie

[@deeniesmothers9310]

So when did all this therapy and rehab happen? This was released less than a week ago. When was did he hit rock bottom? Then or now? 2016 he was on top of the world. If he said he's hit rock bottom now since he's being sued left and right, his homes have been raided, all of his endorsements are running away from him. Hes been this dude since the 90's.

[@FishareFriendsNotFood972]

I find it comforting for Dr. Honda to discuss such serious allegations calmly and consistent with his established methods. Honestly, when I saw the video, I went into a panic, fight or flight mode myself, as unfortunately many people did, and it brings me down to a more regulated space to hear it discussed thusly on this channel. Hope everyone REALLY takes care of themselves with this one. Hugs, channel friends.

[@smartmarketing173]

18:25 the minute he said this, it was over. He hid it, denied it, and accused others of lying and making a money grab, for years, but admits he was fully aware of what he’d done, all along. You’re disgusted by what you did, are you also disgusted by your cover up? This man is a menace and needs to face judgement

[@vickypalacios2519]

The video got leaked after it was found in his recent house raid . He had paid $50 K to the hotel in order to keep the tape. How many more $50k+ tapes are out there ?

[@hoobeshoobes]

so sad that a woman’s life was essentially deemed worth 50k 😢 shame on the hotel and all enablers out there

[@Fleettrade]

I sought out treatment ... I HAD TO go into therapy; HAD TO go into rehab ... He didn't choose to.

[@muddbug]

I didn’t notice that before but you’re right he’s saying had to like maybe court ordered I wonder. I didn’t believe he went to therapy to be a better person because he would have elaborated what he’s been working on..

[@Ferreneh]

Maybe I'm just reading into it, but even his "I have been to therapy" sounds like he went and have since quit. People often want to emphasize if they're STILL going to therapy, showing that they're active and serious about it.

[@mal0u111]

diddy is only sorry cos he got put on blast

[@anjalii16]

Those components of effective apology is something I never knew I needed. This is why I say you’re my favorite psychologist 🥰🙌🏾

[@sumofo9742]

Note that he did not say what disgusted him. He didn’t say he was disgusted at himself! He only said I was disgusted then, and disgusted now. At what? At the victim?!? Word choice, or lack thereof, have meaning, conscious or unconscious!

[@digthewarmth]

Diddy is so dangerous. He Has to be imprisoned. The many people collaborating with him need to be arrested too.

[@kimmi2662]

Super excited for Dr. Honda's take on this!

[@zayynabou]

i think with the context of everything, his denial and the contents of the lawsuit, the apology gets an F from me

[@jaymierae9890]

2:25 “I’m truly sorry…” while sitting in what looks like a non-extraditable location. 🙄🙄

[@cheriennui]

Someone on Reddit figured out he’s at his house in Miami. The columns in the background give it away.

[@ArcherGinger]

From script he covered everything in one sentence: sought professional help, therapy, rehab & God mercy and grace. He denied it for years calling her a liar…. and only a half apology…. leaving out the most important - his apology to Cassie!

[@andimontgomery3645]

Sometimes when he says “deserving listeners” my ears hear “discerning listeners.”

[@KatieDoesCrime]

I am not at all discerning. I will watch anything he puts out. 😆

[@sammielisabeth4928]

Or disturbing listeners 😆

[@kalai6881]

If you are in an abusive situation it's important to note that therapy is not a sufficient solution.

[@marissar.359]

Couple's therapy is just another level of an abuser's game to manipulate the therapist and use the new psychological terms and concepts they've learned against the victim. The only solution is to leave them for good.

[@lisaess6514]

Omg, I hadn’t seen or even heard about this incident but just watched the video and audibly gasped out loud. I mean I thought this apology sucked because I watched several minutes before googling the video it was based on but now I’m even more horrified that THIS bs is his apology for that awful assault.

[@KristiLEvans1]

NDA. He actually has a team of attorneys and a gag order.

[@virginiasoares826]

I couldn't even watch the video till the end. It is horrifying.

[@srm0520]

He looks like he’s clearly reading something. I don’t think this is sincere at all. He and his lawyers ripped Cassie a new one last December saying she was a liar and all of it was made up- how does he not address that at all? Just so disturbing.

[@lisaess6514]

@@KristiLEvans1 you’re probably right about that. No doubt he’s lawyered and PR’ed up to the hilt.

[@alisong826]

@@srm0520I zoomed in to his eyes and saw him holding a brighter rectangle I thought “it looks like he’s bobbing his head saying pause pause pause pause like he counting a beat before saying the next line” the video was terrifying. I could barely watch it but she lived it, maybe more than one time 😢

[@thenewmexicantexan]

Leaving a like and comment for the algorithm then leaving because Diddy stuff is pretty triggering to me. Love you Dr H! ❤

[@gray_7]

I really liked how you gave the background info and context and went through in more detail…well structured video

[@TheMeowizer]

his place in jail, not making silly videos from a vacation house !!! what a world

[@Alayhoo]

Diddy called the allegations of abuse part of a “witch hunt.” Given all the men who’ve uttered this phrase have turned out to be guilty, 🚩🚩🚩. Diddy purchased the rights to the hotel surveillance video right after this event occurred 🚩🚩. If he was truly disgusted with himself “back then” as he says in his “apology,” why wait until now to publicly apologize? 🚩🚩🚩 The level of brutality against Cassie in that video is horrifying. Substance use is not a mitigating factor here. Internalized misogyny, obsession with power and control, believing he’s above the law... His actions speak louder than words and his actions scream perpetrator, predator.

[@marisarodriguez3651]

Jes,he is the witch.

[@christinemichele2318]

Also the way he kicked her when she was still is something i will never forget. No grace, no forgiveness. As a dv survivor, no sir. Nope.

[@Freee479]

This was an unexpected video but one very much needed. Thank you Dr Kirk Honda for breaking this down and thanks a lot to all those who requested this of him. Can’t wait to watch and i must add I didn’t buy the apology 1 bit!!

[@sufiheart]

Wow...he took off his sunglass for this. Im shocked. I dont buy this apology....making changes after things go public doesnt hold much water. Hes a long time absuser. Also remember when he invited chris brown and rihanna to his home after chris brown attacked her. To me it seemed like he was enabling the abuse by trying to convince rihanna to work it out.

[@Monstera1005]

I was waiting for this analysis!!

[@rhondajohnson8310]

Same!

[@malindarayallen]

Katt Williams said he refused to party with Diddy. And here come the receipts.

[@FromPanictoParis]

If this man isn't locked in a prison humanity is done for

[@alisarsour8552]

Now to explain what is going on in his mind. Mother raised him, little to no father, he will claim for a an excuse he grew up in violent household and was molested, he hates woman yet wants to be with a lady. This is why he is violent, he is closeted, he abused Justin and other children sexually, paranoid from all the crimes, blames others as to the reason he abuses other by control. He sees himself at the same time as a demigod. He has no remorse. Sees himself as a victim of circumstances.

[@thelocalartisanguide7937]

When these "apologies" come out and the victim is not mentioned at all it is a apology crafted by their PR team and lawyers so they can not be even more liable legally and they can start trying to get back into the public's good will. I think this time the jig is up. You can't unsee what you see from that video plus all the other revelations of his life lately.

[@Theinfamouskiki411]

He didnt say her name... he paid 50k to the hotel for the video in 2016. Not sure how cnn got it

[@RedBunni1024]

Supposedly the tape was found when the police raided his house and they gave it to CNN, but idk if that’s true. Just what I heard on another video.

[@Bree5three]

Everyone speculates that it must've been amongst whatever officials gathered from the raid at his house. Someone might have sold it to CNN for a payday.

[@allieharmon3926]

Someone rich is plotting on his downfall. The public has known how he is for years. Now someone has some money in him failing now

[@ct6926]

She received a copy as well which she handed over to the FBI. They released it to CNN. He didn’t say her name because he can’t d/t them both signing an NDA. No there’s not “someone rich” trying to take him down as it’s highly probably he would take down countless others with him. He’s been throwing those Caligula style deviant parties for a looooongg time

[@maryloufangman4086]

Because evidence like this never gets thrown away, just hidden away. it was probably forgotten about until someone remember it and secretly dropped it off to cnn.

[@allainsasha]

It took my abusive ex going to jail for murder for an apology… he isn’t sorry in the slightest his reputation is ruined and is doing damage control

[@Amazingme17]

I agree with everything you said. I love the way you break down this so slowly & easily.

[@LizNeptune]

Diddy thinks he’s an invincible, untouchable GOD who can’t be questioned. Just watching him on “Making The Band”, he had a monstrous, raging and sadistic ego. The things he made them do.

[@doreenplischke2169]

You just perfectly wrapped up his character. 👌🏼

[@HappiestBayGoer]

There are reports that both of them cannot speak on the other in a public forum. He couldn't say her name without getting sued by her again

[@Guerrillaj]

He said hes only sorry for the things in the video, which proves hes only sorry he was caught. He doesn't even acknowledge the things he does behind closed doors in his apology

[@Daphenini06]

In the video, after he starts kicking her and she’s on the floor, she looks unconscious. He was kicking a woman that wasn’t moving. To me, that shows utter depravity and I hope that he will end up in prison for all of the other crimes he allegedly committed. Even if he is remorseful, he should be remorseful from prison while being treated for his sadistic tendencies.

[@PfertnerPfiles]

Hi Kirk! I heard somewhere that at the time of the video he paid the hotel to suppress the video. Not sure how it got out now. But that would make sense that he knew there would be a video and approached security to get control of it. Thanks as always for your videos! I absolutely look forward to them and your takes!

[@naomidavis7118]

It came out as a result of the raid on his home, I believe. According to Cassie's filing, he paid the hotel 50k to obtain all video evidence of the incident.

[@jaymierae9890]

Which looks like he kept the surveillance like a sick trophy.

[@naomidavis7118]

@@jaymierae9890 honestly I wouldn't be surprised, smh. I hope time continues to expose the truth.

[@malindarayallen]

I think an element of apologies should also be timing. Are they apologizing after the emergence of evidence or in their own?

[@orangeorangeness2116]

Imagine what else he has done that we are not aware of. Rumors are that he had a major role in 2Pac murder.

[@josefinthor9194]

One thing that pissed me off when reading the Instagram comments was how easily people forgive as soon as the mention of God is used (which Diddy does). "Only God can judge him!". That shit would not fly in Sweden, we'd probably laugh at how ridiculous it is. You know who can judge you? Your victims and the judicial system. And I swear, the people defending him and talking about God only do so because they're fans. No way in hell that they say the same about Harvey Weinstein, Jeffrey Dahmer, Jimmy Savile etc. As long as you're attractive, talented and talk about God you'll have more supporters than you deserve. That's like a golden triangle right there.

[@LeylaSKDR]

The only thing he could say that would be good enough, if he is was saying that he should go to jail.

[@sophiestanza]

There’s nothing he can say or do to take back what he did to Cassie and others for over decades. He could start by turning himself in but even then … too late for redemption

[@leedevitt4528]

Just proves that money cant buy peace of mind or decency or love. All that matters in our final moments (i think) are the relationships we've had and the way we've treated others. This guy (along with R Kelly, Epstein and Weinstein) are paupers.

[@musicismagic3001]

This is so true! 💕

[@ernestt8398]

Random but thank you Dr Honda. I am currently doing EMDR and you are one of my wise advisors. I just imagine you're watching me as if I'm on the Truman Show and you comment about how I navigate around life and my multiple diagnoses. If things get rough I imagine how you'd comment on self-compassion and right now I'm dealing with an ethical dilemma as a people pleaser so you as a wise advisor have supported me.

[@emilytamayomaher]

Thank you SO MUCH. I thought of you immediately when I heard about this, and was really curious about your take.

[@theresalaclair8251]

My issue is that he reportedly had continued to deny the entire event until the video was made public. It's been years, so it seems that he is only sorry that the video came to light... it's hard to swallow.

[@skyetranqille9534]

Yesssssssss I thought of you immediately when he said I'm taking full accountability without putting action behind it and AFTER lying and saying the allegations were false. And I know it's likely for legal reasons, but for him to only apologize for the actions on the video, ridiculous. And the abuser playbook of mentioning therapy and religion. This apology made me so mad to be honest.

[@lilylopez2244]

Idk how much credence is given to body language observations but he’s also shaking his head the entire time.

[@elizabethr9099]

He’s only sorry he got caught. He was still disputing the accusations before the video release.

[@Firechiefcc]

This apology is pure bullshit. I mean he's hiding out outside of the country! I believe he's done way worse than in that video footage behind closed doors. The video just demonstrated how dark it probably is. He should be in prison.

[@beatrizcarter9172]

“The proof is in the pudding.” Best said by Dr. Honda!

[@MayaMaia311]

The slight remorse you sense is to do with sorry for being caught. He is sorry for his reputation.

[@GaeSimmonds]

Pure damage control. Nothing more.

[@CaliNOLA9]

He has been seen by many people in Miami, so it is to assume that he is still in the Miami area. I don’t know if they have anything recent enough to arrest him on which is why he has not been arrested. Maybe the IRS will get him. Hopefully.

[@nissessin]

I’ve been waiting for this video to drop!

[@nameisamine]

I was literally checking this channel waiting for your apology analysis 😅

[@puzz88]

can i just say this eleven components of effective apologies is gottman-horsemen-of-the-apocolypse-in-marriages-level useful and should be published Dr. Honda!

[@_m00n_strider_]

He is to calm running half nacked serving violence in a (public) hallway - THIS is not his first OR LAST time of violence!!!!

[@deeniesmothers9310]

Where was the "grace and mercy" with Cassie?

[@bev9708]

He didn’t even mention Cassie NOR other instances against her, NOR his other victims, NOR did he mention his emphatic denials and victim blaming of last year!

[@kita476]

I love how this apology even had Dr Kirk stumped 🤣 he's like I'm not sure what to even do with this 🤣

[@cheriennui]

There is a new interview with Matthew from love is blind! Please watch and react.

[@imangiomo]

It's a much better apology than most. I think he's sincere, but time will tell... I love these videos, and I often actually LEARN something when watching your videos., as I did today. Thank you!❤

[@thalaline]

Great video. Diddy is a sick man and I’m glad the truth is coming to light! It’s horrible what he and others are doing!

[@IWantToRideMyBike]

Can you review H3’s grading of his apologies?

[@veearce3384]

I love when Dr. honda chimes in. This man is trash, Karma is on the way.

[@RoxiieSays]

Been waiting for this one!!

[@Roxykthv1]

I think it's important to acknowledge that previously he denied the allegations, he said she was looking for a payday and now there is video evidence, he's suddenly saying he has had a dark time and he's reflecting.... and saying he's disgusted with what he did then 🤔

[@jfudge5]

I briefly read descriptions of the abuse Cassie suffered and I was floored. I can only imagine the mental and emotional damage this woman suffers daily because of him and the entire crew of people who supported his abusive behavior. He should be sued to create a victim’s fund so that all his victims can receive proper support and treatment. There’s really no way to get real retribution for acts like this, but I hope those he abused can get help. Also society needs to change and start supporting victims. The way victims are treated makes it so much harder to even come forward. My heart breaks for all the people he hurt and how they felt so unimportant while he was held up as a super star 💔

[@kymberly8908]

Dr. Kirk, I would be Curious on you take of my 1st though afternoon I watched the violent hotel video, was that I wish my DV was on video. I am not Exactly sure why? I am guessing it is because hearing the awful things should be enough but it is very different seeing it. Mybee if mine was on video it would have been taken more seriously. At the same time I can't imagine how hard it is for Cassie to see it, so I'm probably lucky, 🤷🏼‍♀️ Just wondering your professional thoughts on why I 1st thought it

[@annwood6812]

I saw at bare minimum concussion and broken ribs. That was a brutal attack and prison is the answer. I don't care about his apology, although granted, it was insufficient in the extreme.

[@emilyz3932]

if someone has the mix sadism and lack of empathy that you describe then wouldn't it be unlikely for them to feel remorseful and give a genuine apology?

[@petercushing72]

Giving details of what actually happened would be legally foolish so the fact he didn't makes sense.

[@mrs.rogersneighborhood]

He ain’t in no “therapy.” Maybe Russell Simmons’ “therapy.” 😂😂😂

[@wendyredd9890]

Thanks!

[@brandyjean7015]

If one only apoligizes when a video demonstrating your abusiveness becomes public: you're only sorry you were found out!

[@rethinkcps2116]

When will we see arrest?

[@alisong826]

30:17 maybe grading system should be a numerical or meme based scale?

[@alisong826]

Perhaps it feels like an F because the video of his behaviour is so horrifying and terrifying that this doesn’t seem to scratch the surface 30:49

[@reekachristina4288]

Aubrey O'Day has been saying this about Diddy for years. Many people have. So happy everything is finally coming to light ❤

[@alisarsour8552]

I wonder why Jlo and Justin never came forth with their story. He seems to do this to friends and girlfriends.

[@joannawrzelikowska3273]

I wanted to ask you for a reaction for it! Thanks 😊😇

[@jaymierae9890]

Diddy can go under Hades. I don’t believe him for a nanosecond.

[@Isgurle]

Ooooffff this comes across as so insincere. Therapy and rehab? Receipts. People who do bad things always know what to say.

[@persononline3412]

His lips match his shirt today💅