Dilemma: Am I A bad Dad for leaving & should i feel guilty for my success? | DMD PODCAST

[@thegrapevinepodcast2885]

Absolutely amazing conversations guys surrounding a dilemma that is really common. It was great to hear your views on it and parts of your own experiences too. Aaron keep smashing it and spreading your gems on different pods. Dmd gents, we may bump into you at the studio one day! 😉😅 keep up the good work. 🔥 Soph- Grapevine Podcast

[@sanyiaingram337]

Interesting conversation, love it!

[@123gollc9]

This was refreshing! The tone of this conversation if completely different from the podcasts in the US. I didn’t feel any bitterness , nothing but realness , accountability, vulnerability and so much more. I can tell y’all are active fathers especially the 2 in the middle. I get so tired of double standards. So sick of the argument of roles , WHY CANT BOTH PARENTS TAKE CARE OF THE CHILDREN EQUALLY . I do not blame women for holding off on children , as I am one of them 30yo. Bitter angry men will find themselves single because JUST like a man will leave a bitter woman and it will be hard for any man to come into her life and stay there the same applies to a bitter man there is no double standard ( like why would anyone wanna deal w that 😂). There is not enough men having these talks with men. Again the woman has been left to do it which comes off as anger or nagging , but in all reality she shouldn’t have to be doing it.

[@Coco-uk9tv]

If men don't want children. Strap up. Simple.

[@nataliadorman-gayle3916]

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[@123gollc9]

I’m back… a man SHOULD NOT be paying for his children’s siblings anything. I’m so sorry but it’s not your fault. There is nothing wrong with hand me down clothes as many of us wore especially if the clothes are “in style”. I’m a woman but if I were in this situation I wouldn’t even start a pattern knowing I’m not trying to keep it up, I also wouldn’t want anyone to guilt trip me nor would I want the sibling to be expectant of me 😢. I have a stronger opinion on this stance as of late due to dating a man with kids and all the thoughts that come with that. I’m not providing for kids that are not mine and I’m not raising or even living with kids that are not mine. Also not “stepping in as a parent” ( that would be insane I have no kids) his kids already have a mother and a father and anything the kids need is on them, not me. Hence I eventually had to understand it not dating men w kids lol 😂. I got a homeboy who goes through this with his son. Son calls man his brother is wearing the shoes , now that would PISS ME OFF. Y’all ain’t wrong!

[@transparencywithfire1195]

None of the children are his but he's deciding to take on the first 2. It's mean towards the 3rd child to be treated differently from their siblings because none of them are his and they are all growing together under one household.... you won't be able to explain that to the child when it grows. The child will be asking what did they do as they were only a baby. There's no need to damage the child through treating him/her differently from its siblings based on what the mother did. If your accepting 2 then you shouldn't single one out

[@raisingboys_2men]

thats harsh because he had a connection with the two and they did him... so should he have walked away from them and not taken any....for a man that was lied to and heartbroken/mentally damaged from that situation i cant look at him taking on two children as a negative at all 🙏🏼

[@transparencywithfire1195]

@@raisingboys_2men I don't think it's negative that he's taking on the 2 children at all, I think it's damaging to leave one out. I hear that he has a bond but it's just me and children are children, I couldn't live with the damage I'd cause to one because I decided to leave them out... because the child is a baby, so it is an actual decision to not get to know them and bond with them. I do have sympathy for the lie he's caught in 100% but I'm thinking solely on the affect of that child and the possible problems it could bring between the siblings.