Discussing your past with your partner before you get serious.

[@matselisomasimula1603]

Brother Penson, everything comes to light eventually. Just be honest from the jump & face your shame. That vulnerability will hopefully foster greater connections & psychological safety in the relationship.

[@pensonmlotshwa]

And if it doesn’t… then you know that’s this is not your person!

[@matselisomasimula1603]

@@pensonmlotshwa 100%

[@SirThaboSetlhapelo]

"Hey Bab'Comma" ...That finished me 😂🤣🤣

[@thandohlophe6796]

Top notch TOPICS. Important topics human-kind avoids

[@Syamthembu5]

Lena inzima kodwa iyakhulula yazi ngoba lena yamanga iynkinga kakhulu 😢😢

[@nhlanhlamtanase8608]

bhuti u a wiseman

[@musabuthelezi5085]

Disclosing everything has done me good. My past has always come out one way or another (and it's always the bad aspect of my past 😂). Honestly, I find it better to control the narrative of how the truth about the past comes out. If it comes to her through other channels ... it often isn't delivered with the context that came with those acts.

[@pensonmlotshwa]

I fully agree! I also just “8 mile” it!

[@Shkhumba]

Im a big fan of your work bafo

[@pensonmlotshwa]

@@Shkhumba Thank you Shkhumba 🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@nkululekomabaso1629]

I do extensive research before going on a date to reassure myself because people are disappearing nowadays. I'm a self-proclaimed PI. By the time we go out, I'll know the most recent transaction you made. I'll never believe anything a man says about his history; I make it my personal mission to find out since everyone is a good cop in their narrative and downplays their shortcomings if they're not hiding behind 'development or being a work in progress' and acceptance of Jesus.

[@pensonmlotshwa]

You must date better men 😅🫣 So you don’t have to be a PI…

[@itumelengmahaole5890]

Ai ngeke Detective Nkululeko mfethu

[@nkululekomabaso1629]

@@pensonmlotshwa I have trust issues.

[@jabulilemlaka6253]

😂😂😂😂😂 I hear you. But I think that's too much.😂

[@nkululekomabaso1629]

Abantu benza kube inhlamba abazokuthuka ngayo. Kuncono thina esingena-past. 😂

[@user-zMobileChanne]

So if I'm in 100,000 in debt and we get married or abused my ex wife i must shut up because were better off without our past, got you

[@nkululekomabaso1629]

@ It would not even be necessary to get married. I do extensive research before going on a date to reassure myself because people are disappearing nowadays. I'm a self-proclaimed PI. By the time we go out, I'll know the most recent transaction you made. I'll never believe anything a man says about his history; I make it my personal mission to find out since everyone is a good cop in their narrative and downplays their shortcomings if they're not hiding behind 'development or being a work in progress' and acceptance of Jesus.😂

[@user-zMobileChanne]

@@nkululekomabaso1629 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣 Lady you said we should shut up about our past now your hear being the FBI😂😂 my point proven past matter if a man is danger or cheater or women was porn star or hoe give you HIV or something 🤮🤮🤮

[@laygossom2655]

Bro u never going to get complete truth from anyone bro male or female , people have too many skeletons u better be the FBI doing the following checks otherwise u always u going to find stuff when u in too deep 1. Credit Check 2.Medical History 3. Criminal Background 4.Social Media 5.Interview former friends & lovers if u want to get married or long term relationship that still won't tell u the complete story 😂😂😂😂😂 Most people in or wanting relationships are liars or obscure truth in some shame or form period

[@lindokuhledlangalala9094]

We know 😅😅 Penuel has mentioned that you take the body count situation very seriously 😅😅

[@jabulilemlaka6253]

But it is a big deal

[@Luk012NW]

Disclose only what's necessary Bazalwane 😂😂😂 The rest is between you and God

[@user-zMobileChanne]

Man and women who scared to shame they pissed aren't worth it because it's shows insecure and are lies normal people won't be scared to tell you they past because show's they over come it and accept man and women who avoid they pàst aren't ready to be in a relationship, because show's they insecurity matters more then the truth and insecurity control and rule them and it's dumb if you tell them your past you don't need to worry about your past and accepted it, if you don't in the future you may ruined a relationship and waste 10 years wasted each other time a women who knows past doesn't matter are red flags and avoid them

[@KPForeverandever]

This is totally unrelated But grootman I'm a 23 year old guy turning 24 next year... I haven't really accomplished anything yet in my life ... I've been making bad decisions(drinking my days away etc..)but I want to pull myself together... Is it too late to go to tertiary?

[@Luk012NW]

You're actually better off going to Tertiary when you know that peer pressure won't make you drop out or fail. It's never too late to do anything that will improve your life. People have started new degrees in their mid-30's and they now have Executive positions. Apply to varsity for 2025 while they are still open. NFSAS is also still open. Go apply ❤

[@sweetpoisonmagwaza8637]

No you not. iyakhona

[@kelebogilemaila604]

Only 24? Hamba boy. People start their degrees even in their 40s. You have nothing to worry about you are still very young.

[@Kgomotso_Machele]

Bro!!!! I am 34 and my shit is ONLY getting proper just recently. GO DO THAT!!! Perfect timing on your hands .

[@Healingson]

But Pen what if I found Christ and he told me that I’m a new creation in him, surely if my past doesn’t matter to God it shouldn’t matter to my partner!

[@nosizongcamu7128]

Hhhsyibo serious? So you become a brand new adult straight from the box?😅 brand new.

[@Healingson]

@@nosizongcamu7128 "Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!" - 2 Corinthians 5:17

[@s.s.nxumalo]

Really?😅

[@nokulunganobentungwa8894]

Hhayi bo😮 siphila kwamhlaba. Okwasezulwini sizokubona uma sekufika isikhathi.

[@thandilekapetshwa6857]

😂

[@gugulethu4155]

Interesting topic...i was in a relationship with someone i noticed hides his friends, a place where she stays probably her past was not great or i was a side piece 😂...thanks for sharing your insights n these subjects

[@khensk]

wonder bra😂😂😂😂

[@thembakazingxekisa8307]

Bhuti angikabuli nevideo I'm scared its a lot

[@mandimg_1804]

Lol. Nope.

[@tsholo_nkaota]

Women tend to judge you according to your past. I highly disagree! Keep your past in the past