"Divorce After 20 Years" | Ask Ganjiswag#92

[@zubia777]

As a child, I always regret that my mother didnt take divorce. She was with my father because of us, children. Thats the biggest trauma we have. The pain and unhappiness of our mother. So the best advice.... For children be happy. Together or separately.

[@SyedZaidKazmiSZK]

Junaid Bhai yeh Meri story hai ma 4 Saal ki umer say Ghar may lari daik Raha Hun Roz Roz ab Meri age 20 hai Ap Sahi advice kar rahay Hain Jo husband and wife ki shadia Sahi nahi chal Rahi toh bacho ki Zindagi fucked up na karo Roz har Roz ki zalalat Mera ab Ghar may Dil nahi lagta na Kisi chiz may or ma nay soch laya hai ma kabhi shadi nahi karo ga Love From Lahore ♥️

[@areejarshad5002]

I'm so sorry you had to go through this. I'm in the same shoes as you.. Accumulated 23+ years of complex trauma because of my parents dysfunctional and abusive marriage. I don't think I'll ever grow out of the trauma I've been subjected to.

[@SyedZaidKazmiSZK]

@@areejarshad5002 😭

[@muhammadismailsheikh3790]

crappy women make crappy children

[@awwwwan]

@@areejarshad5002 toxic environment create toxic behaviour. humhari society mein log bachon ki waja se separate nahi hoty aur is galati ki waja se toxicity next generation mein shift hoti ja rahi. aur isi waja se humhari society mein bardasht ka maada kam ho gya hai.

[@xuhaib321]

The only KZbin notification I have enabled

[@abbasmerchant3161]

Me to

[@FaizanAhMed427]

Same

[@deffury]

Some main marriage problems: - Expectations that they have to live in a joint family or alone in a foreign place - Expectations that he or she has to take care of their family (like elder siblings taking care of the young or taking care of old people) - Expectations that he or she will provide a house or land or great wealth - Expectations that he or she will not disrespect their family irregardless of what they do to them - Expectations that he or she will not question of what they do at the office or friends or sisters or family's place or who they are in contact on phone - Expectations that he or she will be available emotionally irregardless of their physical or mental condition - Expectations that the man should be asexual and the woman should be a super woman nymphomaniac Except the last part, change the perspective to office or friends and you will see it is not so different really... I really think couples should have retroactive meetings each time they try something new and openly suggest if works for them or not and what they can do to resolve it. They should try to think they are in office and try real communication so there is no room for politics and mistrust. Also, if the other one is aggressive then calmly "Janoo" ask them to calm down and ask what they can do to fix issue or decide on it later without bringing in a third person. Marriage is a gamble....you really don't know what you will get but that doesn't mean you cant work it out.

[@leebreviews9217]

Junaid you have explained very well the reason why more women are opting for divorces now.also in our culture marriage is never seen as an equal partnership and being a wife feels like a degraded status most of the times as most men are narcissist and egoistic. they abuse wives verbally n physically and then expect affection from them just because they pay bills.Can they do this to their emplyees at work and expect them to respect them or be loyal.Whats the point of saying sorry if they never fix themselves.Its just putting themselves on pedestal.

[@leebreviews9217]

@Shaolin Style i don't disagree with papa ki parri thing but then again it is a man who raise his daughter dependent insecure so she stays needy and keep thinking her dad was the best cuz thats what a man wants to be called the best and one and only at any cost.he would not give any share in property to his daughter just spoil her and make major decisions about her life and at the end just leave her at the mercy of others

[@michellekremani7653]

So so true

[@MUSAFIRBEFIQR]

Seeing your parents bicker every other day, becomes a reason for one to die little by little inside or in my case to go numb. My mom used to say, I would have left if not for you guys( children) 😔. The worst part is we have been putting everything under the carpet since the start. And have to act like nothing happened as if we are not traumatized from the inside. I feel sad for both my mother and father, at the same time I blame them a little. They badly need therapy as well as me for all the bottled up things which might burst out at any moment. Well as of now, I feel sick to my core, on even hearing the word marriage and I know it will only get worse, if I don't seek therapy.

[@jonsabhi]

Exactly! Women don't realize that they are not helping but ruining their kids' future by staying in an unhappy marriage. Kids grow up in the constant bickering, frustration, shouting, back-biting, hyper-anxiety and are told that they should respect someone's sacrifice for staying in a horrible relationship with an adult for them. Ridiculous desi excuse!!! NO kid deserves to be brought up in toxicity masked as a happy family. Besides their physical and mental health, these "sacrifices" also ruin their idea of family life, as they see the most horrible example at home. Seek therapy for yourself, become independent and remember, your past does not define your future life. Best of Luck!

[@amberjiwani3885]

Prayers for you and do consider therapy lots of prayers

[@fariadeel6677]

Mises arshad, I swear you're not alone I also feel the same, every word of your struggles that you just said matches with mine perfectly, reading your struggles felt like I was reading mine.

[@internetstranger-]

I feel you man. It sucks.

[@WajahatAK]

Seek therapy as soon as possible. Sorry to hear about this that you have to go through all this

[@saat6321]

This lego family system is also common in Bangladesh 🇧🇩 . Thank you for your valuable insight. Divorces these days are skyrocketing.

[@mannykhan7752]

Cant wait for the educational channel. You are doing such an amazing job for the youth of this country. All the best.

[@muhammadhasnain8391]

Just thinking of daily dose of ask ganjiswag and get the notification from KZbin feeling like a lottery 😜❤️

[@fahadalam6276]

There are lots of things what you said i totally agree with you but I feel like you are taking more side of women. Mens are not guilty all the time.

[@poorav678]

But most of the time they are

[@allsee11]

This is the story of my life. I have always seen my parents fighting with each other. Never seen them happy together. My mother is a patient of depression for a long time and so Am I because of all the mental torture. My siblings are in no better state. I wish my mother has taken divorce in the beginning of her marriage but she couldn’t. Ps my parents are also cousins so a big no no to the divorce

[@ahmedmaaz2341]

This is so much better than watching stupid daily vlogs and wasting time. Love you man !

[@muhammadanstariq7889]

100% true

[@sannu7715]

Great idea @askganjiswag of providing daily nuggets of wisdom! Practically speaking this works well for everyone. A suggestion though - if it is too much to shoot an episode daily you can drop an episode 2 or 3 times a week and it will still give you similar results as this (viewer satisfaction & youtube algorithm).

[@tahanaseem44]

My feedback: I think this is the best format of Ask Series. Half an hour a day. But man, I doubt your consistency. If you make these 30 minutes videos regularly then there is nothing better than that. Keep up the good work.

[@Shamasii862]

i raised in a family where abuse is normal or me bhut darta hun shadi krna se pr apki hr podcast dkwhna se usko real life me apply krna se mujha llgta hai me acha shohr bnu ga ab!! THANK YOU GANJI SIR

[@muneebali9811]

As the happiness is the basic right of everyone, Do not compromise on your mental health. Stay happy ❤👍

[@faizhassan2245]

light on your tind giving angel vibes to me. thanks for doing this for people.

[@amberjiwani3885]

There are many cases on this channel in which parents stay married despite of hating each other and their children suffered as well.

[@tasmiaawan7233]

I do agree with you throughout the podcast... Sadly there are tons of men in our society who only know the law of religion and culture that whatever happens at the end of the day men is the head of family and yes he can exercise his power no matter what... This toxicity turns out to be destructive... Women do have a significant role too in home making or breaking but the fact that they do not get regarded for their dedication trashes all the effort... i wish the word sorry didn't exist cause it can never compensate the emotion damage caused to the other person. People use it just to settle down temporarily and the same case happens again this is what causes the aggression in other...

[@Hasham_Uddin]

Great! Ask ganjiswag daily and short videos are best option for me.

[@pronto2575]

Suggestion for your asks: 1- record yourself the way u used to in your long 1hr episodes, u have a good flow going when u answer multiple qs. 2- then upload 1 question per day. benefits.. u wont have to record each day greater eloquecy more vids elsewhere mind at peace for a few days XD having said that.. for alot of ppl the 1hr+ format was better

[@careandcurefoundation7415]

مشورہ ایک امانت ہوتا ہے جس کو اچھے انداز سے احسن انداز دینا چاہیے

[@saniyakhan3319]

I love daily doses of Ganji Swag🤩

[@binishhussain_soundachievers]

I think she did wait 20 years because of the kids only. And now they are older she wants to make her decision. Things don't change overnight.

[@kys5515]

Love how junaid bhai thinks from perspectives of different people involved in the problem. Most people would just give you one-sided dishonest solutions.

[@Mirza99950]

This is a great way of uploading videos daily❤❤❤

[@rajabali5250]

Brother true knowledge lots of love and respect for you❤

[@foodsportsnewspk4020]

Ap sy inspire ho kr channel bnaya hy inshallah successful b ho jayen gy dua krain JazakAllah

[@SyedZaidKazmiSZK]

Junaid Bhai yeh Meri story hai ma 4 Saal ki umer say Ghar may lari daik Raha Hun Roz Roz ab Meri age 20 hai Ap Sahi advice kar rahay Hain Jo husband and wife ki shadia Sahi nahi chal Rahi toh bacho ki Zindagi fucked up na karo Roz har Roz ki zalalat Mera ab Ghar may Dil nahi lagta na Kisi chiz may or ma nay soch laya hai ma kabhi shadi nahi karo ga Love From Lahore ♥️

[@critics1156]

Moot Mar phir

[@uzmazeeshan2662]

I am a woman married for 15years I am jus a good house help and ATM for the house , I have never Been beaten but emotionally my love tank is empty.....I am suffering going through mental health issues....as a working woman I meet Men everyday....but being a Muslim I can never think of crossing my limits....I am just showing I am happy ....but...it is..tuff...Husbands are busy on phone with Internet.....

[@khurramaziz2430]

Please have a serious conversation your husband about this lack of love. Tell him that it's affecting you and and you want the both of you to work on it. If he doesn't listen, seek the person who he respects (like a father/elder of the family) convey your issue to them and ask them to help you with your husband's attitude. Be self-reflective as well, see your short comings and improve on them. 1 thing you can do the re-ignite the romance is to have some special time with your Husband (like a dinner) and tell each other 3 things you like about your partner. Make Dua for your relationship, as it creates pureness in intentions. Hopes it helps you. Jazakallah

[@SanaKhan-kv5hz]

please tell us about your therepy if you are taking therepy because of ask ganji swag questions

[@Yappermama]

Yes i love this short ask videos idea!❤

[@MrX-vf9vk]

0:36 bhai aap ek hafte ki sari ek sath compile (merge) ker ke daal dijye ga isse kai fayede honge rozana ki buniyad per aap per load nahi aayega. Algorithm aap ke lye kaam karega or Jo log shot form dekhna chate hai unka bhi kaam ho jayega or long form walo ka bhi

[@sanaliaquat181]

Which therapy you taking and from where?

[@keplerdee2917]

cant say about others, but i prefer long format podcasts.

[@JohnDoe-ig1yw]

Wrong question to ask a person who supports divorce and single parent system. Question didn’t mention that guy was beating his wife but Junaid sahib went on and on and on about “sari zindagi piti rahi”. By no means I am supporting raising hands on women at all. Yeah women minds are opening and they want happiness, they are also thinking grass is greener on the other side. Just because you see something in instagram like a “dreamy couple” doesn’t mean they are happy. Just saying. Compromise should come from both sides not just the husband especially after 20 years. Very very ignorant answer ganji sahib gave without any information.

[@shamskhawaja1667]

This new version seems more consistent.

[@seharriaz8051]

i just wanna see you and hug you bhai. loveeee you too bit. you speak and i relate. its such a motivation i cant explain enough if ever, if ever i get a chance to meet you, i aint giving it up. *WADA*

[@loveunimeanit]

Loved the way you addressed this social issue ... keep it up ..

[@SingleWander]

Most imp, having kids is not solution to the problems, it adds more stress if you are already in a unhappy marriage!

[@anniebasit5220]

My 2 cents if u keep apologizing n not changing any behavior. Other person man or woman get tired of u n finally learn u r never gonna change n decide to move on as simple as it is.

[@randomcommentor8075]

there won't be an episode tomorrow?? i was getting addicted to it

[@mayrasiddiq5568]

They say women are not suppressed I wonder how and why?I myself have been a victim of domestic and sexual abuse where my family stood behind when my own bro hit me till I bleed vein my jugular veins got swollen.I belong to an higher income household or elite class even just acquired my degree from abroad.Sad to profess that men are being brought up pretty badly in this society Ngl

[@cosecantgaming3454]

Sir this is ask ganjiswag epiosde 92 not 91 love from india 🇮🇳🇮🇳

[@osmanbey9543]

JUNAID BHAI AZAD CHAIWALA IS AGAINST DEGREES. WHAT YOU SAY WE SHOULD DO DEGREES OR NOT.

[@studyroomcss3792]

Sir g Admion ko bi souchna chayey .... ajkl saas nando power game me aa ky bhabhi bahu ko ghr se aa ky nikl deti ha

[@ahmedmaaz2341]

Bro can you do this forever? 🥺❤️

[@Nora_editz123]

Great vid I liked and subscribe

[@symahashim8351]

I appreciate your efforts, I mean daily time nikaalna , for others, is impressive.

[@nabeelk]

Waiting for Taimur.ur.Rehman podcast

[@javeriaqazi2567]

This single episode are the best

[@zahidtufail2638]

Taimur toh love hain♥️ waiting for ur podcast

[@murlidharsingh7781]

Thanks!

[@AskGanjiswag]

Thank you :)

[@TintandShade]

Still missing long broadcast

[@YTworld-69]

Iski podcast sunte sunte mujhe shaadi se darr lagg gya hai

[@shahreyarahmed2446]

What you cab do is make a compilation of all the weekly episode and release it as one video on sunday.

[@cherishgp]

He has explained that regularly publishing stuff helps with the KZbin algorithm to monetize.

[@randomsVlogs871]

Hi junaid I am senior full stack developer and created NFTs application and more so I have I want to join your podcast for the sake of showing my skills and knowledge to all Pakistani youth

[@MUSAFIRBEFIQR]

I second it

[@arthurfleck5688]

Hey can you add your insta here If someone wants to contact

[@_plastikman]

You can write blog on that why do you want to come on podcast

[@critics1156]

Kis ko bol raha hi commission ka baghair kisi normal ka kammm nahi karee ga

[@awwwwan]

if you want to spread your knowledge so please go ahead make a video on it or create course for on it. what are you waiting for?

[@furqanrafiq3995]

Is it possible for you to share the name of your therapist?

[@qasimbeingreal8035]

Please, thak gaya hoon shadi problems dekh dekh kar. Please come up with something related to youth problems.

[@graan1802]

It's not his fault that he gets mostly these kinds if emails.

[@critics1156]

Bhai mere large amounts of pak boys and girls are unmarried and many of them are over aged this takla knows what kind of topic put spice in general public and I bet all of the who's are watching this pathetic video including me are unmarried so my dear friend he's just making money and is called digital begging.

[@zuhairfan2490]

7:39 True! Never seen them holding hands as public display of affection is considered disgusting here but my father beats my mother and that is okay. You know what she would still make tea n say"Papa ko dain aoo"...bachon kai liyai na..an vo separate hain Alhamdullilah for eastern values.

[@tahajaved4903]

im 27 and my father and mother r divorced. we r 3 brothers. All this happended cuz of my father's mother wanted all the money.. small fights lets to divorced and now both father and mother regrets it

[@studyroomcss3792]

The father mother played very important role and betay ka paisa maa ko chayey hota ha ase maa ko Allah pouchy

[@sanawquadri]

Like this format

[@travelwithnature6941]

Hi sir Hope you will be fine. In my opinion Long episodes are much better than a one question episode. Because after sometime you will be feel ennui bcz of daily same routine its very difficult to you to shot a daily episode and many of peoples watch video on weakened so 2 to 2 videos is much better in a week rest of 7 videos.

[@farhanaqureshistories]

Kiya awesome reply diya ap ne pahle jawaab ka maza aagiya sir ❤️

[@noorunisakhan1582]

بہت خوب جنید صاحب اس مسلئے کی جڑ میں جائیں تو سارا قصور غلط Parenting ہے ہمارے معاشرے میں والدین لڑکوں کی بالکل بھی تربیت نہیں کرتے صرف ان کو اچھے Grades لانے اور بہت زیادہ مال کمانے کی تربیت دی جاتی ہے رشتوں کو کیسا نبھایا جاتا ہے عورت کی عزت کی جاتی ہے اور ایک مرد قوام ہے اس کو بہت سی زمہ داریاں خوش اسلوبی سے انجام دینی ہے اس کے بجائے 30 سال کے مرد کو بھی ماں باپ بچہ بنا کر رکھتے ہیں

[@minakhan]

Daily doze is spoiling us! Keep ‘em coming ❤

[@muhammadismailsheikh3790]

Raipye Pakistani Women

[@fmha5283]

This didn’t go the way he planned it. Speaking from experience, sorry does not mean sheet in f you keep doing it again. You need to work on yourself or end it. If she is being unreasonable then and you have tried everything then it is better to end it than drag it on. Asking someone to tolerate you because of kids is unreasonable. You only tolerate punishment and in the end you end up resenting the punishment and the person punishing you. Be the best you can be.

[@Im_nanku11]

Wear different shirt in different questions make 5questions video in 1day upload it every day..🤯

[@Dr.IlsaShezad]

Zoor yaar daily upload bhot awesome ha

[@mollyv4908]

great discussion

[@amamaaslam5537]

I think they give time to each other n sometimes man gave time to women some times woman gives time to man. If it's 20 years then both wait until kids grow up to stand in society then they separate. That's is only reason.. Rest are stupid reasons. As our country is not welfare society that's y it's hard to servive. And mostttt important thing is children who Don't see happy parents as couple always have broken relationships. It's universal Truth..

[@brigtm4723]

Well said

[@khurram.bhatti]

Thanks

[@khizraabduljabbar333]

Every word u said is 200% right

[@Yappermama]

I ALL AGREE WITH U❤

[@careandcurefoundation7415]

فائز حسن سیال اور اختر عباس صاحب کو پڑھیے

[@harshvardhansingh3948]

Long video was good bhi ..

[@rangeloner3513]

I disagree with women becoming divorced due to being financially independent. Working women are now more prone to men around them. If her husband is toxic, there will be a gap between the relationship and a cheesy guy at work will fill that space to take physical advantage from the woman. Woman gets emotionally and physically attached and hence divorce occurs. Sabar to krna hoga orat ko. Doesn't mean bear abuse, not at all. No space for abuse, but don't run away from your men cz you have many other good options out there in market

[@shamskhawaja1667]

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ Daily dose of 20 minutes

[@zaheer74ful]

This man has to change his attitude For a peaceful home environment

[@_plastikman]

So does women

[@zaheer74ful]

@@_plastikman indeed

[@_plastikman]

Moral of the story do not get married and do not have kids

[@critics1156]

Har shadii shoda banda ya bandi apppko yahi masheara de ga ka shadii mat karoo ye bilkul usi tarhan hi ka ik ka hat khazana lag jatahi or wo cahta hi ka Dosrron ka hat na lage e . Agar shadii itni hi kharab hoti to office sa log ghar jaldi bagne ki ghalti nahi karte samje

[@zoyasaad0]

Truly stated! ❤

[@aarijhasan7523]

With all due respect Junaid, stop portraying men as evil creatures. Just because your wife went through a divorce doesn’t mean you can paint all men with same brush. Your opinion here is a little biased based on your wife’s personal experience.

[@wosqatanveer1530]

He is talking about THOSE men who are guilty of such a behaviour. Why are you taking it personal. Not every thing is about you. If you know that you are a good person, let his opinions be and relax. Take a chill pill.

[@critics1156]

Yes my friend at least find a person who's not idiot like other commentators there he know the market of making money look at him is he define any angel of sensible talk where I'm from locally said a chawal banana he's like mummy daddy nothing else .

[@ukwired08]

Joined 4 days ago just to post this comment. Shakal das na! 😂

[@aarijhasan7523]

Abu ko bura bola tou gussa agaya?

[@critics1156]

@@aarijhasan7523 kis ka

[@sanawquadri]

Good advice

[@akbarabbas1628]

Asalam O Alaikum Sir ! Apko ek email ai thi homo sexual py jis py ap ne advised ki this us bndy ko to us py kafi logo ne apna churan beacha ha ap thora khyal kiya kry yahn py deen py chlny waly kam r deen beachny waly bhut zaida hain Allah apki hifazat kry big fan bro.....

[@ahmednaveed6645]

these doses are good

[@dafftranua8648]

Yar ye shadi vala topic hatao idr se ni to is channel ka name shadi problems rakh do

[@eryash15]

Long once were better...

[@Jee_Lo]

We want long episodes

[@syedahmadrazashah9349]

18:30

[@mayrasiddiq5568]

This men is in sheer need of therapy

[@sarahb6294]

I'm afraid this format doesn't suit most people. Kindly put more than an hour weekly. That works better

[@muhammadanstariq7889]

I really like U Sir. YOu are really hero

[@mesbeast656]

Love you Sir🤩😘

[@superpowerboyable]

Good

[@farhanaqureshistories]

Aik ghante ki episode please

[@abeerafazal6700]

Fer9za khan or us ki biwi ki tala me sab ko bachun ki prwa he... Wo nai k jab feroz khan ne biwi ko mara tha

[@careandcurefoundation7415]

سر میں آپ کا بہت بڑا مداح ہوں لیکن اس مضمون پر آپ کی گرفت بہت کمزور ہے آپ کو مطالعہ کرنا چاہئے ان کے کیس کا اور ماہرین نفسیات سے مدد لینی چاہئے تھی

[@asiftanveer2486]

Good job sir

[@orbittech9756]

Ma smjha apka divorce hogya but yha to prank hogya🥹

[@iffatraza1848]

Boys ki tarbiyat lazmi karein jis tarha girls ki tarbiyat par zorr dena hai