Divorce Lawyers Give Relationship Advice | Glamour

[@donparkison4617]

To sum up what they said. Dont marry the person you think your partner will one day become, but marry the person they are right now. Too many people fall in love with a fictional version of their partner and that is why they get surprised and hurt when that person never materializes. You are not training a dog, you are spending your life with an individual and if you want to change that individual in significant ways, then it means you dont really respect them and your marriage is doomed.

[@melissagourgue3916]

Don Parkison that’s right!👍🏾

[@annamullis1477]

Yep! Marriage is not rehab.

[@CRFSUIGENERIS]

Well said.

[@matzacomn]

a very eye-opening comment

[@Masilladoll]

Amen to that

[@I.areejmm]

The first lawyer is really smart, well spoken, tv type of person. I could spend an hour listening to hem. He should start his own KZbin channel

[@ohminsun]

Totally!

[@roosvanwijhe3525]

Same!!!!!

[@bigstunna2049]

Agreed

[@sagirius19]

Agreed

[@Berries20]

Areej Al-Mubark He indeed has an KZbin channel! He's James J Sexton and also replied to another comment here, but I can't seem to find it.

[@tomemery7890]

Don't only judge a potential husband/wife by how they treat you. Look just as much at how they treat others. A few years down the line when the honeymoon period is over they are likely to treat you the same way.

[@nataliaturner4845]

💯 filed under: "things I wish someone had told me when I was young" 😔

[@odwangxokela4090]

Are you married sir?

[@mrjanssen3856]

That's actually very good

[@mrjanssen3856]

Luckily my wife treats her friends with much love and care

[@mrjanssen3856]

And they adore her for it, as do I ...

[@rhiannonb1253]

When someone shows you who they are, believe them.

[@mimil.2606]

@C. Lord exactly once they show the signs and repeated actions that’s a time to show it’s time to go

[@Sunshine-mb7ox]

Follow your intuition and don't ignore the red flags!

[@cashrules520]

Heard this before and it's so true. Trust your instincts..

[@ilikepancakes2368]

I don’t mean to sound condescending but I never understood how people have a hard time believing this? I know how easy it is to idealize someone but at some point, you have to look at reality in the eyes and see things what they really are.

[@animussss625]

Everyone has good and bad sides ,you just need to realise if you can live with it

[@kkenny]

1. Understand that marriage is a serious legal commitment 2. Know exactly what you want in a spouse, and realize they may not change 3. Definitely talk about your finances 4. An exciting girlfriend or boyfriend might not make a good spouse 5. If you do have to get a divorce, try to stay calm

[@souos-4701]

He just said that

[@nothumanff5900]

Ha 50% husbands money for giving a shot

[@CherryBlossom-yn7oq]

@@souos-4701 Yeah, but in case no one wants to watch the whole video (lol) , KennyK here gave us the points. It's faster to read. Edit: sure, you might miss the rest they mentioned, but for some, these points are enough)

[@Moreorless234]

@@nothumanff5900 well that’s what prenup is for.

[@drartemisa21]

Thanks! I was looking for this hehe

[@GreekFreakyJoker]

"I still get teary eyed in weddings". Well duh, those might be some future clients.

[@pinkstar9430]

GreekFreakyJoker lmao I don’t think that’s why!

[@YellowPaint100]

GreekFreakyJoker umm hmm! In his head rubbing his hannnnds .... like Birdman (squawww) 🤣

[@SADK-bn4qy]

Ok. This is funny!!! 😂

[@wordsme]

GreekFreakyJoker so funny

[@Gluteus.Maximus]

Two beautiful dollar signs getting married 😢😭

[@LSergei983]

"Marry well and you'll be happy. Marry badly and you'll become a philosopher,"- Socrates

[@j.i.s.l178]

🙄 🤔...

[@BuzziMuzzi]

Did he actually say this? I can’t imagine Socrates saying this lmao

[@Cindy-qc7lo]

He did indeed: "By all means marry. If you get a good wife, you’ll be happy. If you get a bad one, you’ll become a philosopher."

[@Sombra_Azul_]

Don't marry and become an everyday millionaire....

[@johnjude7910]

😌😌

[@andreav2125]

If you wouldn't want that person as a roommate, don't marry them. This one thing would eliminate a fair number of divorces.

[@mimil.2606]

True and maybe to help see in the future live with them for a while and seriously observe traits and quirks they have that bother you and communicate on it. If they won’t change it’s a sign you are better off as friends or benefits type ones that only show love but can’t stay in one room for a long committed time. An I think that is easier then lying and try working things out of truly neither person can do better. An honestly I think some people have own issues that are meant to probably be solved on their own and not need help by others so that’s a thing too. It’s all about communication and maturity if you can’t handle the truth that you shouldn’t be married at that said time period or never in the future if you can’t grow then it’s better off not dating .

[@andreav2125]

@@mimil.2606 Yeah, essentially people don't change. Often people are blinded by attraction, and choose to overlook red flags. People can learn and change little things if they're open to it, but basing all your hopes on your partner changing is not a good sign. Being happy with someone as they already are is a good indication that they might be a good match. If not, pass.

[@charliedallachie3539]

I’ve heard cohabitation before marriage is bad but at the same time how else are you going to know you’re compatible, I guess spend occasional weekends together. I’ve heard of some married couples that sleep in separate beds. Doesn’t mean the marriage is going bad, just different sleeping habits.

[@ZzzZ-sb9ju]

@@charliedallachie3539 I agree.

[@mimil.2606]

@Nathan Taffijn I know that I wasn’t saying it’s ok to change people I was explaining why some people may do that it could just be a coping mechanism. When unable to take the heartbreak of breaking up but you have to accept it and you can’t try being a hero and think you can help everyone boyfriend girlfriend whatever they are to you if given consent you shouldn’t step over that line.

[@JJ-yu6og]

Be their cheerleader and be connected to them. That means: Empathy and understanding. Not narcissisism or selfishness.

[@malorie8557]

It's weird! A marriage should be about making each other better and working to improve you as a whole.

[@commenttator9758]

Jojo Jo if they can do that, they don’t need divorce

[@malorie8557]

@@wintersolstice4793 of course but everyone has their flaws that CAN be worked on. Like mine? My parents way of communicating was yelling. My now husband never communicated that way and I would often over step my boundry by yelling at him. It took someone who loved and understood me to open my eyes on that type of behavior and now you'd never see me communicate that way. For example.

[@carmelsmemoirgarden1165]

I'm selfish. I truly understand that right now i can't be in a relationship. Which is some ways kinda sad, but also sobering to recognize my fatal flaw.

[@bernaldulce]

Nice

[@aisuxtime]

Jokes aside, they’re dishing out solid, reasonable advice.

[@rali2774]

Yeah, its better than the married therapist.. they said the reality

[@quorumlab]

Tiel Noembreux it’s true

[@c.l.1820]

It's pretty common sense advice

[@minhle-qd8qf]

Joe S obvious to you but maybe not to all. Not that people are stupid, they are just clouded in the situation.

[@TheBusbyBabes]

c. l. And its pretty common sense to not marry so...

[@anastasia10017]

I think the fact that nobody has any concept that marriage and engagement are a signed contract is wierd. as the lawyer said, people think choosing the cake is more important than the financial contract they are signing and how it can affect their lives..

[@14ndc]

Exactly!!!! I always told my mom I don't see myself marrying anyone. She always said "I will change my mind" or "don't you want to walk down the aisle in a beautiful dress".😑 Mind you she's been divorced twice already and wants to get married again. I always told her that marriage is nothing but a contract and signing a paper as a sign of love, is stupid.

[@Echiomega]

well, seeing people around you getting divorce isn't really making you want to get married that's for sure.

[@midnighteevee4246]

Marriage is something pushed so often in the media as being all about beauty and love. Of course the first thing in peoples mind’s isn’t a contract, especially if they’ve never been married before

[@SungJongiesMine]

midnighteevee I think it has more to do with what you experience in real life. My parents have a wonderful marriage and my grandparents had a wonderful marriage so I see how marriage is a great thing with the right person. If all I knew was divorce growing up then I’d probably think differently.

[@BreaMason]

Engagement isnt a contract. You can call it all off at anytime. It just disappointing that you got that far and someone didnt want to do it

[@jamesnash6101]

"Doing a prenup forces couples to talk about finances before they get married". Great advice because most couples don't talk about money before getting married. This should include a financial disclosure to reveal any and all hidden debt. And that includes student loans and credit card debt.

[@missantrafalgar782]

Really, I'm not married or live with my partner but we know our financial situation. Why is it hard for people to talk about it ? (Curious)

[@jamesnash6101]

@@missantrafalgar782 in my opinion, most people don't talk about finances because we have been programmed to think it's a private matter, and in most cases that's a wise decision. However, when you get married your finances are no longer private. Because you entered into a partnership/contract. Benjamin Franklin famously advised fire-threatened Philadelphians in 1736 that “An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.” When we say that prevention is better than cure, it essentially means that it is better to stop something before it happens instead of having to repair it or deal with its consequences after it has already been done. That proverb was applied and practiced in 1736 and it is still relevant today

[@aiahzohar5636]

Then most marriages probably wouldn't happen.

[@The_DLK]

These things can and will be thrown out if needed to, and mostly men are the breadwimners as wen tend to marry up to take care of the "children and the house", so yeah a 100% losing game, you win if you get a 50%50% and that is considered a fairytail thing.

[@jamesnash6101]

@@The_DLK even with a strong prenup?

[@bendizzy1923]

It must be so awkward for these lawyers to be invited to weddings.

[@justapseudonym7]

BenDizzy19 “what side of the family are you?” “Oh I’m a friend of the bride and groom” “Cool, what do you do for a living?” “... I’m a divorce lawyer.” •o•

[@hebakhalid437]

Abby Lol he can say he’s a lawyer

[@kiranboyinepally4198]

LMAO wouldn't want one coming anywhere near a marriage. Just looking at them would prolly give u doubts and cause u to ? the future.

[@kiranboyinepally4198]

#Check out the Netflix show Adam Ruins Everything. Its great:)

[@greatestever7623]

They love it.....cuz that’s a potential client right there they be handing out business cards left n right

[@hipsepipse]

My parents both studied law and they used to give out a book called "Die rechtlichen Folgen der Ehe"(The legal consequences of marriage) as engagement presents.

[@HosCreates]

🤣

[@younghoegod2741]

hipsepipse your parents are German?

[@varaidzosallychitimira5095]

Can I get a copy of the book?

[@anuragsundriyal]

Haha perfekt 😂

[@Impactmoon]

Genau

[@SLCtica]

My parents have been together 35 years since they were 22; They grew up in the 70's. Observing them I realize that you have to accept and love the other person. I observed that they forgave easily, spoke honestly, and often diffused tension with humor. Both were willing to lose some (even if they were right), because at the end of the day they love each other, and no petty thing topped that sentiment. Lastly, the respect they show each other is probably the most striking thing about their relationship. Growing up my parents got mad and had disagreements like anyone, but I never once saw them yelling at each other or mistreating each other in any way. They grumbled, they stewed, they needed time alone, but somehow 35 years later, there they are: still holding hands when they walk down the street together.

[@ZaFeProductions]

Indira Gutierrez This was so touching! ;-; Thanks for sharing; I'm wishing you and your parents the best. 💕

[@Editorknowsbest]

Well said. So many young people today don’t have self respect, let alone respect for others. Also, social media brings out the narcissist in people. Selfishness is the enemy of any good relationship. Marriage takes a certain amount of selflessness

[@joela6019]

That's a beautiful thing that your parents have each other. But I think they're one of the lucky ones. I feel that what people don't understand is how people can grow for the better or for the worse. Some people don't understand that if growth is neglected then they will not understand how to either grow with each other or to grow as a person period.

[@QuietlyCurious]

Girl, that was touching. Make sure you say that at their golden anniversary *knock knock*

[@x0xxx007i]

Indira Gutierrez Yeah well people today are not like your parents. People nowadays are worse, especially people my age.

[@antoniasinfield5841]

This needs to be featured in women's magazines much, much more, instead of the wedding dresses, cakes and rings. Is it romantic? No. But it could save many marriages.

[@haraldhwick]

It doesnt oil up the economy so prolly its a hard no.

[@kennydawson265]

@@haraldhwick thinking the same

[@ninthcrusader2355]

@@haraldhwick Shhhh I'm studying to be a divorce lawyer.

[@rene3759]

Not just women's magazines men's too. Instead of the ridiculous pick up artist nonsense.

[@whocares2465]

Not just save marriages but by creating a more stable and realistic approach in relationships looking to take the next step.

[@hannanigukkie]

"Your expectation is need to be communicated early" agree.. they really give good advice..

[@hy.eo.n.j.e]

I also really love the advice about "don't expect the person to change". You gotta either be fine with the fact that your partner is an imperfect human being and love them fully despite their flaws, or decide that they are not the kind of flaws you want to intertwine into your life through a legally binding contract.

[@kontrarien5721]

Heard it said that women marry men thinking that they'll change, while men marry women thinking they won't.

[@enzoorciuoli328]

@@kontrarien5721 opposite attracted

[@anewloveofficial9137]

You should never ignore the red flags while dating if you don't want to get screwed in the future. Don't jump right away for marriage, just take it slow, and make sure that you're on the same page with your partner.

[@im_learning_bicth]

COUGH ariana grande COUGH

[@expendable4h002]

A New Love Official Exactly. Love is a thin between love and hate. If you don’t feel either emotions, the marriage won’t last.

[@charlieangkor8649]

Seems like for every behaviour your date does, there is an article saying that it’s a red flag.

[@Lifesizemortal]

"i need this damaged person in my life" said 54%

[@zerohour2703]

Just marry under Islamic laws, both sides get there rights and no more

[@helenmurray3276]

I could watch an hour of this.

[@beny9345]

literally

[@meegol]

there literally is an hour of this kzbin.info/www/bejne/Y5q7qJ6tfqp8mKs

[@vb9268]

Especially the James Sexton comments : really good insight.

[@prettyo.1385]

Im ur no 1k comment liker wohooooo

[@george32323]

Yeah you don’t want to spend 500 bucks to see them in person

[@infinity4evr]

My parents have been married for 60 years. Their example was respect, mutual interests, similar goals, a good sense of humor, respect, commitment, intelligence, wisdom, and above all, respect.

[@TaraSmiles7]

I love that you listed respect 3 times. Exactly right! I always say the 2 things you need for a happy marriage (and I'm in one for 14 years now) is mutual respect and true commitment to the marriage. But the other things you listed are so important too...(especially a sense of humor!)

[@infinity4evr]

@@TaraSmiles7 After writing I realized that I hadn't mentioned love. But then I reasoned that love is probably the natural byproduct of these other qualities and many others, of course. My parents love each other dearly, but I know they do because of how they manifest that love..

[@heavyhaul8621]

Yes but there were better women back then.

[@infinity4evr]

Heavy Haul I agree that both women and men need to be reminded of how they are actually supposed to act in a marriage contract.

[@googlecritic2773]

They LIED A marriage like that is BS

[@citygirlwest2422]

I’m actually shocked that Glamour did this. I thought it was pretty insightful, and I’ve never seen this idea anywhere else.

[@wunder1385]

mgtow

[@skubydubydu]

It's done in a lot of places but yeah unexpected for Glamour

[@Thomasfrohwitter]

Hello Sara

[@LilyLeeTracy]

I’m so single I don’t even know why am I watching this

[@fatimazohramou8459]

hahaha me too plus im 17😅😅

[@keithlarsen7557]

Well allot of their advice is who or what to marry.

[@Andrei2000PC]

We can start something:P

[@majinraptor]

Andrei2000PC tone back the desperation bro

[@blacksharkswimmer3729]

Cute

[@danmcclaren5436]

It’s funny because these lawyers are giving advice to reduce divorces, which could hurt their future business. Kudos to them for actually doing this.

[@dyrichard]

Just like doctors, I guess. They’ll be there when we need em.

[@krollpeter]

Their advice was also aiming at 1. making sure there is still business in for them 2. and that you don't make their life too hard.

[@wholesome122]

dan McClaren contrary to popular belief everyone isn’t necessarily out there to screw people over. Also, marriage law will still continue to exist regardless of divorce rates

[@Brandi_8]

They know no one is gonna listen... they won't lose clients people will continue being fools for love unfortunately.

[@lukamagicc]

W a 53% rate of something almost all people partake in happen. I’m sure the Business is just fine lol

[@user-be5qg7mr1s]

everyone needs to watch this.." people don't change MUCH after marriage"

[@SUNNYDAILYNEWS]

Woman want men to change after marriage, men want woman to stay the same...

[@cocablack]

@@SUNNYDAILYNEWS idk what's with people and making them change, it hard to change someone it's easier to change what's in you

[@angelg3642]

@@cocablack Often the people who are willing to change themselves are well aware of their own issues. The ones who won't change are the ones who think they are perfect the way that they are. Which is absolute bollocks. We are all imperfect and we all learn to become better, if your significant other doesn't have that growth mindset then don't marry that person. It's an absolute waste of time and you'll lose everything because if they are selfish for their own benefits then they will be selfish when it comes to yours

[@westcoastbred7745]

Well I'm definitely changed and he stayed the same. Married a narcissist

[@_alanawalker]

Now that I think about it, a prenup doesn’t sound that awful or selfish. In a way it’s making sure that you don’t have the burden of your spouses debt

[@HjCrawford]

Right!! Ive always hated when someone started barking about a prenup, but now I understand it better. And I absolutely think differently! 🤷

[@derpderpson8803]

I never saw why it was that big a deal

[@jzhvaeduh]

It means you don’t think either of you are going to last, and you’re already preparing for a divorce.

[@ikaustralia]

Except it can easily be ruled out in court if deemed unfair.

[@jzhvaeduh]

Faizaan Naseem having kids out of wedlock is statistically a disaster. I’ll happily not take that advice. That only works for couples who don’t want children. You CAN’T compare marrying someone to going into war. You don’t trust people in a war not to at shoot you, you expect it. But you should not prepare for your partner to backstab/cheat. Just don’t get married if you’re that insecure

[@8oujiRui]

A thread: divorce lawyers make great marriage counselors

[@Le.K]

No they don't. Their business is for you to get a divorce.

[@aryamonmukherjee5303]

@@Le.K established divorce lawyers know there's plenty of people who'll marriage and divorce to keep their practice going. They don't care if they lose a few, if that means giving out solid advice based on their experiences over the years.

[@fatmaabdelhad1]

@@Le.K So if they give out bad advice for marriage their business is just gonna go stonks?

[@nicolletrampe29]

@@Le.K He means they see the real deal problems of what made people feel they had to make such a huge decision to get divorced, so they have good insight to what to avoid and solve problems maybe before they're unsolvable

[@badgerden7080]

So let's put them out of business by not getting married in the first place.

[@patriciaa4451]

"You don't even get a pamphlet". Same with a baby.

[@KitC916]

At least licenses are required for marriage though!

[@painrelief3441]

You don't get a birth one, get one free when you get twins.

[@zerohour2703]

Just marry under Islamic laws, both sides get there rights and no more

[@justadjustor8993]

I really hate that excuse because there are books, research, articles, magazines, videos, movies, documentaries, etc. etc. etc., And they're all mostly easily accessible if you have the internet.

[@happythedude_3992]

And immigration to europe

[@orestes67]

“An exciting girlfriend or boyfriend might not make a good spouse.” and “you marry who you dated.” Solid gold right there. In my very little experience, everyone I know that has been divorced always think their spouse will change when married and it never happens.

[@marcsanders1078]

I've never been engaged, but I've heard similar advice many times. Last girlfriend wanted to be everyone's friend, had to have dinner parties every other weekend. She got on my nerves very fast !

[@NazriB]

Lies again? Educating Couples Ezlink Card

[@Steveman27]

@@NazriB Who are you to say those were lies? Maybe those things were true. I think you're just trolling.

[@kayla0792]

Why am I getting recommended this? I am a twelve year old seventh grader.

[@katherinegaines9252]

3 12 better to learn early lol!

[@ericamannebach4964]

Life is complicated and youtube is preparing you.

[@kaydee6555]

Teach em while they are young

[@littlepaperscollection5515]

You're a good target 🎯 audience for this hunny... Better know this shitz as young as possible

[@ripples1072]

Stay private on the internet for your own safety, youngin.

[@ms.chanandlerbong8359]

*"53% of marriages end in divorce in New York state"* I bet Ross Geller made quite the contribution

[@nikkiperez5152]

dramione stan best comment on here hands down

[@zinebmekki7595]

hands down to the best comment 😂😂😂

[@MJAY-N7129]

Hahaha 😂😂😂

[@Anish23420]

WE WERE ON A BREAK!!!

[@MJAY-N7129]

@@Anish23420 Hahaha, touchie 😂😂

[@malvavisco10]

If you can get through a divorce with respect and dignity, God bless you.

[@sergiodelrioreyes7655]

God doesnt bless divorces xd

[@MyCrimsonMischief]

Sergio del Río Reyes i’m so glad you have such certainty on what goes through God‘s mind.

[@andrakarsten226]

@@MyCrimsonMischief It's literally in the bible. Unless your wife is unfaithful you can't divorce.

[@sergiodelrioreyes7655]

@@MyCrimsonMischief as Andra said it's in the Bible, as well as a million crazy things that nobody with common sense would take seriously

[@MyCrimsonMischief]

@@andrakarsten226 how sexist is that, How about you live your best life and stop concerning yourself with other people's misfortune.

[@celbelle]

Only marry someone you would trust during a divorce

[@NeenaBeena]

I recently got divorced and this is great advice lol 👍

[@Peace2dagawdz]

@@NeenaBeena why did you divorce

[@ChiasmMarksTheSpot]

THIS IS PROFOUND

[@susieqhayes1]

I would not trust myself during a divorce.

[@stephaniemartin-ward4578]

@@susieqhayes1 Same.

[@DrAdnan]

Why am I watching this- I’m not even in a relationship 😂.

[@dominicthedefiant3210]

Educate yourself for the future

[@bebez1647]

I’m gonna be single forever......😭

[@datahacks]

Sad.. 😂

[@welisanerich5376]

Me too 😂😂

[@edwnx0]

relationship advice doesn't have to be limited to romantic relationships. 🤷🏽‍♂️

[@alibentz8692]

When I got engaged to my now husband I asked, “what do you expect of me as a wife” he said “oh I don’t know.” And I was told him we needed to figure that out if we wanted to get married.

[@usffan5775]

Bjs 3x a week, and make dinner a few times a week. You'll do great, good luck

[@smiles9599]

@@usffan5775 lol and what does she get in return will he return the favour back.

[@usffan5775]

@@smiles9599 how would I know what a woman expects of a man in a marriage? I'm divorced, maybe you should give me some pointers

[@smiles9599]

@@usffan5775lol I'm not married but I guess the same back and respect. Appreciating her.

[@magsyak2923]

Idky this made me laugh

[@ElectricPulse100]

“Marriage is expensive, and for that reason I’m out” - Barbara shark tank

[@nuck-]

Hi, I’m out and for that reason I’m Jenny.

[@ofbirkinsandmen6025]

@@nuck- i was going to comment the same hahah

[@mrsyoung8503]

Yes

[@Chocolate.barbie444]

Yooooooooooooooooo

[@BaileyBlurbs]

LMAOOO

[@shanenicole9552]

I married someone I wanted growing up. Someone who has a plan, is supportive and loving, pushes me to be better, treats his parents and friends with respect as well as not friends with shady people, a GOOD Father, there is more. Also, I realized if I wanted that I needed to be that so I worked on myself. He's more than I asked for and appreciate him Soo much I also realized I'm glad he is someone who is willing to sit down and talk about serious things and how we as a couple can resolve it.

[@SuperBrianMak]

"...if I wanted that I needed to be that so I worked on myself." That's such a great piece of advice so many people forget...and congratulations!

[@GreyAsura-r2e]

So what did you bring to the table?

[@eruditeindian7662]

In a simple way you married/trapped a simp after banging the entire town

[@helen8602]

@@eruditeindian7662 freak lmao

[@eruditeindian7662]

@@helen8602 mind your own business you freaking woman.

[@huckaf]

We should be given this kind of advise to a whole other things too! Degrees, Housing, Finances, etc.

[@wronggg]

Education would ruin the scam though.

[@cecil123]

I wonder how long this comment has been 666 for?

[@starcherry6814]

I want these people to arrange my marriage

[@rocklanddivorce]

I'm in! I'll see if the other two are available to help!

[@beckwilde]

send help

[@b617_3]

Pathetic

[@mfriedrich2012]

Star Cherry They can't do that. But they might be able to organize your divorce party though. Arrange a huge cake, some Beyoncé music, some 18 year old pool boys, and discounted gift subscriptions to Boxed Wine Enthusiasts and Cat Fancy magazines.

[@mynameisbob7059]

They'll set u up for failure so you can walk in their office

[@loomonda18]

This is solid advice that no one talks about

[@AlexIsUber]

Should be talked about more than setting up retirement account and other bs

[@chronometa]

People don't take the time to figure out themselves first.

[@Satan666Official]

Biggest thing I learned is to not get too comfortable. Stay in shape, eat healthier, and don't put yourself down. You will be in a better mood once you take accountability for where you're at.

[@ericbraddock4056]

I've never been in a marriage situation yet it sounds so relatable. Can we talk, please? If you don't mind of course.

[@katherined800]

I agree with you about not getting too comfortable. Taking your partner for granted is poisonous. Don't imagine that person will always be at your side. Show them their worth to you -and your worth is shown partly by, as you said, taking care of yourself physically and mentally. It is no one else's job to make you feel complete.

[@GRehillMusic]

I'm 33 and single so I've technically avoided my first divorce.

[@lumox7]

Technically, I've avoided three divorces. Sorry lawyers.

[@351528]

Lol! Well I'm 49 and single so I guess I've avoided two divorces. Lucky me!

[@MorgaineRiddlePrince]

32. No partner.

[@MegaCadette55]

Congratulations on your achievement!

[@obray00]

37 no marriage. Life is good

[@umangjain5460]

"Marriage is a lottery worth trying....." Spoken by a guy who makes his living out of divorces.

[@EngPMgt]

This ensures his business continuity 😂 without marriage there will be no divorce, no divorce means no business for him 😅

[@google1030]

Anna Rivera what's it called?

[@vandyke2025]

#MonoIsHere - I love you Seoul divorce corp

[@StevieSparkZ]

I look at it like a casino for the divorce lawyers. You enter in a casino on your own accord just like you would enter a marriage on your own accord.

[@xxjoeyt07xx]

A mortician could say life is worth living...

[@baizawai]

when you get married they should require people to understand the legal ramifications

[@DJBremen]

A cornerstone of contract law is informed consent with every single other contract let alone one as significant as this. Its not a bad idea.

[@JordanBeagle]

When you die you should understand the legal ramifications

[@wronggg]

@@DJBremen Marriage is a scam. By explaining the scam in detail, you'd be scaring everyone away.

[@80PercentAshamedOfU]

Call me pessimistic but I doubt it would matter. People are too blinded by romance and/or convenience for them to make the right decision.

[@baizawai]

@Blair Waldorf When I bought a house, someone sat down with me and explained everything I signed. I'd say buying a house was less impactful than getting married. Why should we explain one and not the other?

[@RetrieverTrainingAlone]

The day we got married was definitely the happiest day of my life...still married and in love 20 years later....

[@Naturally2Sexy]

I am legitimately very happy for you. I hope one day to find that same level of happiness.

[@sanskritiverma8010]

i WANT THAT!!!

[@Luka9m]

So was i until the 25th yr when i got cheated on. It can happen anytime.

[@unpopular_opinion8615]

You hit the lottery that the guy was talking about, congrats!!!

[@smootheasy7938]

So why you watching this video?

[@huda2379]

I've never been in a relationship but ironically I'm already bracing myself for a divorce.

[@beebuzz959]

Awwwww! Hang in there! It's good to be preventive, but also think positively!

[@sofenayasmin1435]

OMG SAME!!! 😂😂

[@jacobhorton9832]

Well you definitely need to with that attitude!

[@canthearyou4]

Relate too so much i think you are me

[@keiahnigbruder1453]

Jacob Horton no u

[@yeshalloween]

I’m loving being married. 9 years, 4 kids. I daydream about my man sometimes. He’s the best

[@guadalupemeixueiropalacios3184]

yeshalloween why are you watching this then?

[@aprilrawls8929]

Guadalupe Meixueiro Palacios lol

[@TheTallMan50]

@@guadalupemeixueiropalacios3184 2 weeks and still no reply. 🤔

[@davidpierce9949]

Just 9 years. Give it 10 to 15 more. Sometimes it takes a while.

[@indiaxlovee]

David Pierce not everyone is miserable in marriage lol some people have great lovey long term relationships

[@Chocolate.barbie444]

Why am I watching this and I've never had a boyfriend?

[@peacheskong2245]

You??? You look so pretty

[@cc3184]

Preperation

[@09bonita09]

You want a gf? 😍

[@chelsea2059]

The literal thought that just ran threw my head. Lol

[@emekanwachukwu2834]

Same sis..same

[@JenPurple2022]

Marriage is a legal contract, take it seriously. Also, never sign a contact with someone who is dishonest. Knowing his/her finance is the most important thing before getting married.

[@badgerden7080]

Exactly! It's a contract to be with a person who can turn on you at any moment.

[@lanyg.6492]

@@badgerden7080 that part

[@cyanscrewdriver2092]

A tip before marriage: Make sure your internet connection is very slow and see what reaction comes out of your partner

[@melocoton7]

Another good thing to do is go on a trip and watch how they act when something bad happens or something doesn’t go as planned. Do they freak out? Become hostile and aggressive? Are they flexible and find a solution? Watching a person in a moment of crisis is the best way to see their true character

[@mihir9608]

@@melocoton7 true. Anybody can be happy if life is comfortable but its only when things go south we see the true colours of people

[@PikachuInTheSky]

Maybe even use this as a sign in early dating stages

[@ChiasmMarksTheSpot]

Haha! I appreciate this. Especially because I'm an abnormally patient person - except when the internet is slow or the phone connection lousy 😂 But it's true that if I let someone get close enough to me to find that out, they better be warned I have only been able to remedy my frustration to a certain extent...

[@moonkatmagic5599]

Yes! You learn a great deal about people when they don’t get their way a few times

[@JoieDeVivre35]

This is so overdue and the realest advice you can get. Thank you for this.

[@Guitarfreak931]

Don't believe everything you hear

[@JoieDeVivre35]

This is all true been married 12 years

[@ArnoldJamesXT]

Don't make life changing decisions based solely on short term emotions

[@NetSkillNavigator]

Correct

[@windsofmarchjourneyperrytr2823]

just like suicide.

[@Riskrewardgod]

The most important comment on this thread

[@lotuswolf1518]

Yes so dont get married

[@laurarozamunda]

4:18 Oh I loved his last piece of advice, Hold onto that sense of being your wife/husband's cheerleader. Its true that supporting and encouraging each other is how your individual growth brings the two of you closer, not pushes you apart.

[@richardkeizer1692]

It's true what about a cheating partner

[@torimyers2138]

... are these not things most people consider prior to getting married?

[@sarayoussef9916]

Tori Myers I think some people don’t

[@Nohandletoday]

Only 47% of people apparently 😂

[@sammas9123]

Yeah I;ve just written comment similar to this and then I thought I would look for someone who thinks the same. :D They're saying so obvious things to the point I'm really surprised. How could you not think about those before? Strange, weird.

[@lova368]

People in love are blind,logic shut down

[@chuwabba10]

@Donald Trump so what you are saying is that it's not misleading, just including every marriage?

[@anniestreet9003]

All this is telling me, is that chef's and musicians get divorced a lot.

[@Losshe]

Lol good point

[@jadehalliday6636]

And pilots!

[@EmyN]

Lol

[@Diza519]

😂😂😂

[@deuteriumjones]

I cook saxophones for a living.

[@michaelharder9737]

Go into the marriage in the knowledge that the feelings will go away, and make sure they know that too. You're going to annoy each other with your stupid habits and eccentricities, too. Some days you won't be able to stand each other, and thats okay. You have these days with your friends and family, yet they remain your friends and family. What it truly is about is finding someone who is striving toward the same goal, and this long term vision will wipe away a lot of small differences. If you base a relationship on something that started quickly (passion, etc), you may find that it ends quickly and the relationship has no ground to stand on. If you base it on something enduring, though, it has an enduring foundation.

[@lionroaring7021]

Wise

[@benjaminlee7173]

Amen

[@licensedlegend3834]

Wise!

[@user-jy3zl2vp4b]

Same goals!?!? People have/set unattainable goals all the time....and people are fickle.....so goals change throughout life. I am not convinced that "same goals" is the answer.

[@The72Nana]

I hope it doesn't involve suffering

[@mgu1N1n1]

Men, do not hesitate for one moment to put a restraining order against your female partner if you feel your safety and health is in jeopardy. Placing a permanent restraining order on my female partner was absolutely the wisest protective move of my adult lifetime. My only regret is not doing it years earlier. Men, be safe!

[@aiahzohar5636]

An ex-wife of one of my brothers used to regularly punch and scratch him, even broke his arm once. Police didn't care. My mom and dad discovered none of the domestic violence counseling centers in our part of the state would take a male client. Took a family intervention to get my brother out but he still lost his house (he paid for). Our society has abandoned men.

[@ManThePlow]

@Nikhil 7 .......Yup...... I make my mother mow her own grass now.

[@rachel14rod]

I don't think it exists in india. So I spread awareness about narcissism.

[@robertallencarl4770]

good men is always safe.

[@maam-yj8ph]

It's pointless if you can't even talk about how you're going to navigate finances, kids/animals/in-laws, religion/culture, living arrangements/lifestyle, and of course, sexpectations prior to marriage.

[@mimil.2606]

That’s a sign you shouldn’t be married or at least maybe dating If you can’t agree on anything really. Your better probably living separate or as friends and nothing is wrong with that it shouldnt be a agruement it’s just the truth for now until things change .

[@mimil.2606]

@Mia MeVery true

[@andrescarlett9730]

But then there's always deception 😑

[@madimurray1441]

I'm literally getting married in 3 days. I've never felt so sure about anything in all my life.

[@beanwardferret6510]

Madi Murray I hope your wedding was amazing 😀

[@bringiton5282]

How's it going so far ?

[@djizzah]

good luck with that

[@rebelwarmann83]

good luck... u better man then me cuz I can't do it!

[@haley2121]

Pls Give us an update!💛

[@CoupedUpGenny]

say no more. I'm out

[@mahahassan369]

Jakson I did it once, I don’t think I will do it again!! I’m good !

[@handlesswatch7387]

The main thing is to never get in 🐣

[@ErikLiberty]

MGTOW

[@vuyisekaluphuzi8249]

😂

[@LikeToWatch77]

It's like global thermal nuclear war, the best move is not to play.

[@corrinvoeller9491]

I’m a marriage therapist and completely agree with what they said. It’s about who the people are and what the goals are that can make something successful.

[@ashleypaintingwithfriends4149]

Yeah your right truly right

[@heroshyma69]

Can't get divorced if you don't get married.

[@PowerfulLighting]

Modern problems, require modern solutions.

[@nuck-]

Women will find a way.

[@cylereyes8195]

And for that reason...I’m out. This has been shark tank

[@sacramentallyill]

Common law marraige?

[@Crazywaffle5150]

@Necuno Its not the easy

[@skyblueincommunity]

"... hold onto that sense of being this other person's cheerleader..." Beautifully said. Best relationship advice I've ever heard.

[@alexbeerune]

Jesus Mea Lux shut up

[@guppy8073]

I like the body language of the guy in the red tie. All of them seem nice, but he has an open impression.

[@TuningAnApple]

Open stance, leaning forward, hand gestures all show someone who is engaged in the conversation. Body language is a powerful thing.

[@robertct06]

TuningAnApple these are fake. It’s just rules taught in business and other “professional” jobs. I’d prefer someone who doesn’t seem interested, but he actually is; maybe it’s because I’m the same way.

[@JonnyBeoulve]

I thought the same thing. it's amazing the difference between him and the guy in blue. No disrespect to the ladder, but there's a calmness and openness with the former that is difficult to describe but certainly tangible.

[@AyupChuck]

Roped in. Hook line and sinker. Lol you bot

[@52hello25]

I thought he came off as confrontational. I would have preferred him to tone down the energy quite a bit.

[@uchihaitachi6849]

Marriage is like saying "I love you soo much, I wanna get the gorvenment involved"

[@BrianFlemingSpeaker]

😂😂😂 That’s funny! And a great way to put it.

[@jareddegen9937]

This is the most accurate statement.

[@TheRibofJESUS]

No, it's to become their legal next of kin. You aren't "related" to your mate when you aren't married to them. Duh.

[@jareddegen9937]

@@TheRibofJESUS oh yes its government that decides family not any thing else more important..... ya need some Jesus.

[@TheRibofJESUS]

@@jareddegen9937 Your comment is foolish to me. If marriage was never legally binding, people could just constantly lie about their "relationship status", abandon their families, and do whatever when it comes to anything pertaining to family. Also, a marriage certificate is a public record so people can know if the person they are dating is in another relationship or not, whereas if it didn't exist, people would have no way to truly know. Strong families with the same last name wouldn't even exist.. It's really not that complicated to understand. The "lgbtq" community were fighting for a right to get married for a reason, even though I don't agree with them.

[@slappy8941]

Marriage is the only game you can win by not playing.

[@DrBeeSpeaks]

Slappy I like that! lol

[@youparejo]

Noice

[@keranhuang]

Yes

[@mlguy8376]

russian roulette is another - similar outcomes!

[@Jacson_23]

Yessir

[@pjc50007]

It's definitely important to point out that you're also not going to find the "Perfect" person. My parents have been married for almost 34 years and they are quite opposite of each other. One is more extroverted the other is more introverted. They have no desire in changing the other, they are happy as they are as individuals and as a couple. I wouldn't rule out marriage because the other person isn't exactly what you're looking for. And wouldn't rule it out based on numbers either. It's all situational. As long as morals, values, goals and a fair amount of interests align with clear communication, I foresee success in the future. Commitment needs to be at the same level too obviously, but important to note.

[@MiniBacon_581]

Well explained

[@teammcgowan2013]

The lawyer was saying to marry someone for what you hope they will become, but who they already are. You're parents seem to have done that even though you say they are total opposites.

[@victoriako4170]

I know how there is an emphasis on financial differences, but what about another issue touched upon in the video: not knowing your partner. Like, holy moly my parents were an arranged set up through my grandparents who were church acquaintances, and my parents got divorced when I was three and hate each other to this day. They divorced twenty years ago... divorce is so unpleasant man really really think about who is going to be the mother/father of your kids if you want kids. Like yikes.

[@elocinaqui24]

Lol my parents were also an arranged marriage, and they're polar opposites. They mostly fight and annoy each other, but they've got 3 kids, a house that's paid off, and been together 33 years. Sometimes it works. Also, she was 15 when she got married to a 28 year old in Colombia.

[@evagreen299]

Arranged marriage is a thing in colombia?

[@elocinaqui24]

Minimus Mouse It was in the 80s. It might still be in some rural parts. A 15 year old girl was also considered an adult, so...

[@evagreen299]

Wow had no idea! Thank you for sharing this with me. Why was your mom arranged? If thats ok to ask!

[@annies2143]

My dad was a lawyer and doing divorces took a bad emotional toll on him. He ended up avoiding divorce law at all costs

[@sarahevans4769]

Show idea:these Divorce lawyers do a Match making show👏🏻👏🏻

[@BreaMason]

They would lose their jobs

[@kateadams1990]

I`d watch that. Could be interesting!

[@cabbage-soup]

"will you marry me?" "oh honey, this is the happiest moment of my life! but we must take into consideration that around half of all marriages end in divorce, so let's first talk about finances. Now, about those student loans..."

[@Atom-Fire]

And that ladies and gentlemen.. is how you don't get married!

[@cabbage-soup]

​@@Atom-Fire "talk tax cuts to me, love"

[@schoenbaard]

If your partner doesn't want to get married without talking about their debt, don't do it, of course.

[@zerohour2703]

Just marry under Islamic laws, both sides get there rights and no more

[@samahamara8543]

@@zerohour2703 I know right 😂 being muslim is awesome when it comes to this

[@MegaShredder101]

The guy in the red tie trying to get more customers😂😂😂

[@StephJ0seph]

*clients

[@Blackstreak8]

Exactly

[@sully2932]

What makes you say that? Out of curiosity

[@jeanie1137]

And he’s very convincing. 😂

[@TECHRRESTRIAL]

Lol that's the same thing I thought 🥴😂

[@athomewithtroy1690]

Great advice I've been married 13 years and we are super detailed about money and role expectations so no one gets disappointed🙂

[@EmyN]

I feel like marriage is like a tattoo, it used to be a life long commitment, but now we have multiple procedures available for tattoo removal, so people think they can just do that if they get tired of it, same with divorce. The thing is though, it's going to be time consuming, expensive and painful lol and may forever leave a mark Edit: To be clear, I'm not against marriage nor divorce, what I'm saying is don't jump the gun in getting married thinking divorce is something to take lightly

[@abdulazizhawsah9884]

😊.

[@disabledchatzen5276]

Not for you, though.

[@lillianne914]

Great analogy

[@thedoctress732]

Agree 100%

[@quand.5578]

Oh yea that the reason why divorce men 9 times more likely to commit suicide than the other counterpart. Its not a lotto it a stupid bet.

[@Muslimah33]

Why is he sitting on the crack in the couch?

[@thisgurl5239]

Like a kitty

[@martareitmajer]

It’s a power move.

[@idolshe]

Marta Reitmajer lmaooo

[@marialovesmusicalot]

I think its just for the camera shot

[@_I-wk5em]

He likes the crack on his crack

[@JasmineNothanks]

I'm still madly in love with my husband. After 10+ years together & 4 kids, I wouldn't trade him for the world.

[@aiahzohar5636]

10+ years? Give it time.

[@kittykitkat4968]

Glad for you

[@floramanning6594]

May GOD protect your love.

[@JasmineNothanks]

@@lifesabeach5405 I bet you're wrong. I wouldn't be here if he didn't. I'm a catch and he knows it.

[@canadude6401]

You are one of the few lucky ones if you can say the same thing in 20 years time.

[@haute03]

I LOVE this video. So many people just think about marriage in terms of love, but really it's a legally binding contract. That is to say, you can be in love and commit to someone for life without legal obligations, responsibilities, and getting the government involved. It's really refreshing to see people talk about marriage as it truly is. It's wild to me that we still enter into huge legally binding contracts based on our emotions.

[@goodvibesimprovement8983]

It's really important to see mariage this way. It is also my conception of mariage. 100% love 200% of legal obligations/duty as a spouse and 300% of accountability

[@deded846]

0:08 "it's worth buying a ticket & taking a ride" *unconsciously shaking his head* contradicting body language vs verbal context.

[@owllip773]

LOL 🙈

[@clarity2013]

Your so right, didn't even catch that.

[@enkiimuto1041]

Nice spot, this should be higher up

[@Sagemirei]

4:17

[@SuperFang1]

Lol good catch.

[@Belmakor178]

This, this, is the reason my now wife and I lived and were engaged for 6 years before marriage. Been together 19 years and have a beautiful 8 year old daughter :). Communication and trust are paramount.

[@ExposeDarkness]

Been married for nearly 12 years. Most difficult and rewarding thing I have ever done in my life.

[@oscarhollywood]

People can't even honor a cell phone contract, how could they honor a life long marriage commitment.

[@neily25]

Good date ice breaker: "So how long have you been with your current wireless plan?"

[@skylarjaxx2399]

😂😂😂😂

[@skylarjaxx2399]

@@neily25 😭😭😂😂😂😂😂 im dead

[@Prototyp3m1nd]

Had my same cell provider for almost 20 years :p granted it was part of my parent's plan originally, but I've stayed loyal

[@oscarhollywood]

@@neily25 not a bad question to ask really.

[@lumox7]

You lose the lottery, you only lose your dollar.

[@Lionlovesunity]

lumox7 Yeah. So lottery is wayyyy more efficient lol. You don’t lose 100K or years of time you’ll never get back.

[@JayTheArtfulDodger]

Yeah I've never heard of any lottery office seizing half of your assets and then demanding monthly protection payments when your numbers don't line up, just saying.

[@StayinOnePiece]

@@JayTheArtfulDodger Also never heard of any lottery office making you pay for their kid (who's not yours but you only found after it was too late).

[@ChaiTeaV]

It takes two, but divorce usually begins when one person let's go.

[@eagletmars]

That's sad actually:'( but true

[@jodiannecampbell5098]

That's what I'm afraid of

[@Asme1111-t8h]

Better to let go than burn the floor

[@unyieldingmonotony4453]

in 80% of cases, the woman lets go.

[@justarandomhuman1597]

@@unyieldingmonotony4453 and 80% because of cheating

[@AVL-Tree]

Another advice: being like-minded in morals, faith, principles *BEFORE* marriage helps. One litmus test like: "can men and women be 'just friends'?" opens up a discussion on where that person stands. Saves time and prevent a lot of heartaches and headaches.

[@jennifercadonia3552]

Do you think men and women can be friends? Also what gender do you identify as?

[@GabrielMartinez-sd8pc]

Marriage advice that works: 1. Stop being selfish. Kill selfishness. You aren’t the center of the universe. 2. Forgive. Forgive. Forgive. You aren’t perfect and marriages is the union of two imperfect people. So show grace. 3. Remember the “for better and worse” part. Marriages will come with suffering. Remember the vows in the hard moments when you “feel” there is no love. 4. Always fight for your marriage. 5. Never go outside your marriage. If you got a spouse not meeting “your needs”, do not betray them by seeking it elsewhere. The grass is never greener on the other side. 6. Talk to your spouse like your friends and co workers. Your spouse isn’t your enemy. 7. Don’t ever believe you deserve better. This breeds selfishness, anger and bitterness that’ll kill the marriage. Your spouse cannot fulfill every need. Just some thoughts.

[@teresai1877]

Yes so true!

[@JF-ct5sg]

Thanks!

[@mochamommyATX]

True

[@sunshine9122]

Great advice and wisdom. Thank you! 👍

[@BforBlitzkrieg]

Can someone explain me the 5th part ???

[@muntianuanisia7498]

Talks to a guy one time 2 days latter Watching divorce prevention advice

[@nakupenda999]

oh sia is sad again KZbin is looking out for you if this was recommended 😅

[@muntianuanisia7498]

@@nakupenda999 at least someone is lol

[@danabram]

Jeff Bezos has joined the chat.

[@jakemf1]

D. A. Perfect example to not get married

[@MrAhmedrocks234]

@@jakemf1 or not to cheat

[@Chocolate.barbie444]

Yooooooooooooo

[@rayqusa]

Tim cook joined the chat

[@bloopdaddy]

@@jakemf1 he cheated lol. Besides she helped him build the company side by side. It's also her money.

[@SikSh0oter]

I blame Disney. All of these early princess cartoons teaching girls to find their perfect prince charming, which is usually the same generic person through every movie (how many times have we heard "Ugh, all guys are the same"., "You're so much like my ex"., "I just wish I could find someone different"). The problem is they keep going for the same type of dude and yet wonder why they constantly are getting heart broken. That's early programming. Also notice how most Disney princess movies end with the wedding and happily ever after. Even after knowing the prince for a short amount of time. I guarantee that if they had sequels, it'd be a whole different story

[@rachel14rod]

You're awareness is right on track. Respect.

[@olgac.h.1278]

Well, they marry princes (ot the first guy who comes around), and they save them (oftentimes risking their own lives). Disney princes are not the main characters. You're not supposed to get to knoww them. But you are supposed to see they're worth it. It's not real life. It's a tale! They tell you the story with symbols.

[@karencloskey7147]

I agree- not everybody has the personality or maturity to be in a marriage. There is nothing wrong with being single but Disney movies don’t focus much on single characters.

[@PhilMante]

Disney gives impressionable young women a misrepresentation of men in the same way pornography gives impressionable young men a misrepresentation of women.

[@sanskritiverma8010]

!!!!! VERY GOOD!!!!!

[@saeedbaig4249]

Their advice: 1. Understand that marriage is a serious legal commitment ( _"You just did the most legally significant thing, other than dying, you'll ever do"_ ). 2. Know exactly what you want in a spouse, and realize they may not change ( _"You divorce the person you were married to"_ ). 3. Definitely talk about your finances ( _"One of the most important conversations you need to have with your partner before getting married is about your finances"_ ). 4. An exciting girlfriend or boyfriend might not make a good spouse ( _"What a lot of us are looking for in someone to date is very different than what we're looking for in someone to marry"_ ). 5. If you do have to get a divorce, try to stay calm ( _"The goal is to get to the other side, not to get stuck in the middle"_ ).

[@dogcabbageboy467]

My parents were married, my mom made all the money and my dad has been fighting her for every penny she made and hasn’t stopped until this day. It’s been over 4 years! Guys please get a prenup even if you think the things seem obvious.

[@WordsofHarmony]

Dog Cabbageboy did she help raise you?

[@TheRociCrew]

Switch genders and you will see what men have been dealing with for so long.

[@dogcabbageboy467]

Ahmed Malingur Not exactly because these is a unique situation but yes prenups are important no matter what gender the people are :)

[@bklyn11217]

They were married and she was the breadwinner and the money was hers, not theirs? Interesting...

[@2126Eliza]

Ahmed Malingur It's for the kids, mostly. Men still do better financially after divorce, even with the laws in place

[@Abe-rz1nm]

It's so true. Marriage is not romantic, it's a legal contract. You wouldn't enter into any other legal contract without doing a thorough due diligence and reading through the contract ten times. Make sure you know what you're getting when you marry someone. The only way to do that is a loooooong engagement and take notice of everything.

[@joelabella750]

It’s a good thing that I was never got married nor had any children and now it’s been a very bliss & quiet life for me for the last 30 years. It’s always a Saturday waking morning for me and I make a coffee for myself and cook a nice breakfast over reading the newspaper.

[@fatemesadattabatabaei3429]

I'm in LOVEEEEEEEE with the first one, can I marry him??

[@earlibee]

i dont think he would. He knows the consequences of getting married too well

[@mahahassan369]

fateme sadat Tabatabaei I think he’s already married 😂

[@ChanelCoco-pk7mp]

Lol I sprayed my latte everywhere at that one 😂

[@terriesmith8219]

Get in line girl!! 🤣😆😂😆😂

[@s.a.8548]

@@earlibee Most divorce lawyers are married even in this video. Look at their fingers.

[@aeilorux7056]

I was recently graduated and financially broke so I didn't consider needing a prenup. After being married for 2 years, I found out he had $60,000 of credit card debt, plus upside down on his house and truck. Up to his eyeballs in debt. If I hadn't married him (and handed over my schoolteacher paychecks) he would have had to declare bankruptcy within a year. In the 7 years we were married, I never bought anything personal over $100. When we divorced, I found out that he had a secret po box and he hadn't been paying my student loans. I was in credit default, penniless, homeless and had 2 kids to feed.

[@mysportisyourpunishment73188]

Umm...have you ever heard of Credit Karma??

[@DinahKanake]

So sorry.

[@aeilorux7056]

@@moneyisweird7862 I had no reason not to trust him. I was raised as a Jehovah's Witness, so it was the right thing to do as a wife.

[@aeilorux7056]

@@mysportisyourpunishment73188 Haha it was is 2003. Situations like mine is why CreditKarma exists now.

[@MrPathorock]

@@aeilorux7056 Wow, religion is toxic and so dated.

[@Thatdeal79]

I don’t play the lottery.

[@ApartmentViews]

Thatdeal79 I do!

[@mrmackey8956]

I know the lottery is a scam lol

[@elijahmikhail4566]

What the analogy fails to convey is that about half of marriages end up being "wins," while you only have a one in a million chance to win the lottery.

[@mrmackey8956]

@@elijahmikhail4566 not true tho. Sure about half of marriages end in divorce but that doesn't mean all non divorced couples are happy. There are plenty of men who are stuck in joyless and sexless marriages

[@ajpierre]

Elijah Mikhail But what you invest and lose when playing the lottery is exponentially less than someone who has to get a divorce

[@victorbryan8269]

"A good bf/gf may not make a good spouse" understated advice

[@Kanelle88]

I'd like to know how many of the 53% were married multiple times. If you put those people in their own category you probably wouldn't have such a grim statistic.

[@b.ashley9222]

You are correct.And if you break it down by time and generation, divorce rates have been going down.

[@FixedWing82]

Does anyone know what the chances are of getting divorced if you've already been divorced once before?

[@Ikaros23]

FixedWing82 its ALOT higher. And if your parents are also divorced and your spouce to its like 200%. Good luck in court!😂

[@XFizzlepop-Berrytwist]

B. Ashley Well divorce rates might be going down... but marriage rates are plummeting. XD

[@sidew8ys]

B. Ashley probably because people aren’t getting married lol

[@diannam8796]

I’m part of the 53% that got divorced but no regrets since we have my son and I’m much happier as a divorced person and I learned so much about myself in the process.

[@Thomasfrohwitter]

Hello Dianna

[@Sleepgarden]

"Men are not afraid of getting married. They're afraid of divorce" - Aries Spears

[@sonofhibbs4425]

Tell Aries Spears, pssst..it’s not just the men!

[@ED-ie3et]

Yep.

[@bricklayerlzdp9825]

@@sonofhibbs4425 mostly the men though because the law is on the woman's side for marriage. In most cases the man is the bread winner and so most cases its them losing half of what they worked for when all the woman had to do was stick around for a couple years. Not to say the woman can't lose half too its just fewer.

[@stephaniem.8220]

Why is that? Why are men afraid of divorce? If he is unhappy why would he be afraid to lose his wife?

[@Sleepgarden]

@@stephaniem.8220 courts and society tend to favor the women when it comes to divorce settlements and child custody

[@AppleAbston]

Ms. Linda's energy gave me: "I'm over it, I'm tired of these people coming here - please listen to us so I can go on vacation. Y'all stressful." 😂 Got it aunty 💖

[@hannaha4305]

Your divorce will reflect the kind of person you really are.

[@hannaha4305]

@Groot oops, correct thanks, :)

[@sa5m225]

True, my parent separated and I saw the true colors of my mother and father.

[@neitherlink6612]

amanda I suspect they weren’t the prettiest colors, am I right?

[@heliaalves9062]

Absolutely right!

[@sa5m225]

@@neitherlink6612 yep