Doctor Answers Tough Miscarriage Questions | with Sierra Schultzzie

[@dietotaku]

"you don't have to fix anything, because you're not broken." oh man i love that. brings tears to my eyes.

[@babzz26]

i was tearing up at that as well

[@mannann1934]

Yesss and its so hard not to think you’re broken when you keep miscarring or having fertility treatments that doesn’t work it’s painful and hard not to think you’re broken 😭😭😭

[@rebeccadanger1174]

I know what you mean, I got a little lump in my throat when she said that.

[@lizbramley]

I also love that... I felt so broken and betrayed by my body during my TTC journey.

[@paaitje]

I was crying too. I saw this comment before she said it, didn't think I would cry, and her I am...

[@SierraSchultzzie]

Thank you so much for featuring me in this video and answering my questions, you are amazing and I am so appreciative of all you do on this channel! 💕

[@brittanyrussell727]

Two of my favourite you tubers collab!? This is incredible content 🥰

[@MamaDoctorJones]

Thank you, Sierra. And we'll definitely have to collab under celebratory circumstances later down the road. :)

[@rebachick94]

Thank you for sharing your story, Sierra! I loved getting to watch two of my favorite ladies.

[@largefamilysped]

I think we all are looking forward to hearing your good news. Last year I had a late miscarriage after 9 successful pregnancies and I know how I feel. Hugs! It must be so hard for you. One of my friends just had her first after trying for 18 years. It is possible. Hang in. You will be shopping that baby aisle before you know it.

[@easjer]

Infertility and miscarriage is so hard. I wish you the best going forward and hope you are enjoying parenthood soon.

[@ameenaola8872]

When I had my miscarriage my doctor said to me that there was probably something wrong with the baby, it wasn’t viable, and that if the pregnancy had continued most probably there would have been severe developmental issues. This logical, medical explanation helped me. To this day I’ll always feel grateful because she told me in medical terms that what happened was not my fault.

[@kathrynrhodes3212]

Exactly. I miscarried twice before having my daughter, and I think of it like that. Building an entire human being is complicated, and sometimes when you're doing something you've never done before, you mess it up a few times. So it's not that I was 'defective', just that we had to scrap it and start over. My daughter was born healthy and absolutely perfect, and now I'm pregnant again 😊

[@kristacrowder6175]

I'm going through this right now for the first time. Im so thankful that i've been obsessed with sexual health and reproductive processes since i was little, because understanding the medical reasoning that abortions happen have made this way easier to cope with (doesnt suck any less, but i understand it which is probably saving my mental health)

[@NIkki-ox1ej]

First, I am sorry for the experience you went through, my mom recently told me that she lost a baby before me and that was very difficult, and the worst part is when they die after you give both to them. I think that it’s interesting that our body is so in tune with these things that it can detect if a fetus is viable or not to continue till birth

[@deedrole5296]

@@NIkki-ox1ej I don't know that OUR body does it as much as it would be developmental errors not consistent with life in the embryo/fetus.

[@shareiceclick]

I know you commented a year ago but my doctor explain my recent miscarriage like that and it really helped. She also hugged me and prayed over me right in the office and it was so amazing. Even not being a religious person I appreciated it so much and it really made me feel good.

[@kaseehalbert2046]

I’ve had 13 miscarriages, it’s definitely something that isn’t talked about nearly enough!

[@commentsiguess1263]

That sounds really difficult.

[@haliechristiansen]

I’ve had 9 and they were all so emotional! It never gets any easier! I hate that it’s taboo to even mention the word miscarriage. 😭 it’s time to end the stigma about it!

[@MayAllYourStarsAlign]

So sorry that you have experienced that loss. I hope you’re taking care of yourself ❤️

[@livwalker4100]

First, I just want to extend my sympathy to you and anyone else who has experienced miscarriage. I can’t imagine the difficulties associated with that loss, and I am so sorry. I also wanted to add my plea as a young woman who is nervous about this topic and who has a family history of miscarriage (which the genetics behind this has now been debunked thanks to MDJ) that when (and only when) you’re comfortable discussing it, that the girls like me who are nervous about this really want to hear your story and open up that dialogue about miscarriage to slowly (but surely) tear down the taboo nature of this topic so that it can become something we’re all able to discuss as women (and men too if they’re interested 😂) to help and encourage one another.

[@mansfield821]

Kasee, Im so srry! Ive had five & yes they are extremely painful. God bless U & Urs. Prayers sent up that U will b able to have a healthy, happy bby! ❤

[@elizaeliza5937]

"Your not broken and you didn't make this happen" Mamma Doctor Jones 2020. I am not currently at the point in my life where I want to try for kids. But I think that perspective and truth is so important for people to hear. It illustrates your compassion and empathy as a doctor, and I think we need about a million more doctors like you in every specialty. Thank you!!!

[@_yesimkazuma7478]

Literally burst into years when she said that, it's so important for women to hear things like this as I think a lot of us think this way after having a miscarriage. ❤️

[@msaijay1153]

When my sister had a miscarriage she blamed herself even though her doctor told her it wasn't her fault at all. I didn't understand why she blamed herself. Three years later I had a miscarriage. I also blamed myself. It was so helpful to have my sister there for me. I don't know why we blame ourselves but it's so important to surround ourselves with people who lovingly reassure us that there was nothing that we could do to prevent it

[@elizaeliza5937]

@@msaijay1153 I am so glad you and your sister had that support system. I can't imagine the pain but I know its there for so many people.

[@elizaeliza5937]

Thank you to everyone for the likes and replies. :)

[@poppyseed389]

@@_yesimkazuma7478 same ❤️

[@EmotionallyExhaustedPuppy]

My husband and I had been married for a couple of years when we decided we wanted to try for a family. When I got a positive test, I was so excited, and I called to make an appointment that day (full disclosure, this was only the second time, at the age of 22, that I can remember ever seeing an ObGyn, since such things weren't "appropriate conversation," so this was a new patient situation). When I went that day, after about 5-7 minutes into the appointment, he said, "You're probably going to lose this one." I asked him why and found out my insurance wouldn't pay for the tests until I had miscarried four times, but it was "normal" and "no big deal" to lose the first one. I was devastated, not only because of the loss, but because I didn't even know why. I went back the second time and everything looked fine for the first couple of weeks. I was feeling the morning sickness and everything, so I thought that this time it was okay. I felt it the day before my second visit, and I knew that it happened again. I pleaded with him to at least give me some idea why and he repeated that my insurance wouldn't pay for those answers yet, but this "really shouldn't bother you so much. It happens all the time." I will never forget the annoyance in his voice. No compassion, no answers, just annoyance. My husband had to guide me out of the office because I couldn't see through my tears enough to get to the door. For my third pregnancy, I found a new doctor, and she was horrified by what I had gone through so far. She ran every test she could think of (she "found a way" to get it through my insurance, and for her protection, I won't explain that process) and found out I had a progesterone deficiency that required supplements, and a mild clotting issue that required me to take a baby aspirin every day. We didn't figure it out in time to save the third pregnancy, but she called in everything I needed the day I called to say I had my fourth positive test. My insurance through all this pain was Tennessee's state insurance (a plan specifically for low income families to cover the costs associated with pregnancy & childbirth), and every time I hear my state's leadership talk about being pro-life, it makes me so angry. I lost three lives because of the restrictions in place on what the insurance will cover, and if it wasn't for a doctor who had basic human compassion, they would have gladly let me lose a fourth. My daughter is 12 now, and I am still seeing the same doctor.

[@lynnebucher6537]

A friend had a similar hormonal issue and had miscarried multiple times, with treatment she was also able to carry and deliver.

[@SpookyButtz]

I hope you and your family are doing well, all that sounds terrible and that doctor shouldn't be a doctor. ❤❤❤

[@alannaalbritton381]

This nation needs to do better!!!!

[@SillyConversations]

Saying that “it wasn’t because you let your toddler roll on top of you” really helped me. That’s all I thought about when I had my miscarriage. And now that Im pregnant again, I’ve been freaking out about playing with my toddler. I even had someone inadvertently say that maybe that was a reason why my miscarriage happened. It really messed with my head. Thank you for everything.

[@jessicapesantez4109]

I hate that someone said that to you. That’s very insensitive and not true.

[@clueless_cutie]

There's this insanely cruel societal undercurrent to blame mother's for their miscarriage(s). It's incredibly narrow minded and founded in centuries old misogyny and racism. Nothing you did caused this. When trying to conceive you should just focus on being happy and continuing to live as you normally do. Miscarriage is just your body's way of saying this wasn't the right time and place. Pregnancy will happen when your body says so. We are so ashamed of our bodies that we blame ourselves for it doing what it's supposed to do... Screen our zygotes to see if they are sufficient for survival and if the uterus is ready to handle the next 9 months. Why would your body risk spending that amount of time and resources into a non viable pregnancy only to leave you with a more tragic emotional miscarriage later on? It knows what it's doing. You just have to trust it. My best wishes to you and your family. You will get through this. 💕👣💕🌈💕👣💕

[@princesslulu5795]

Im so sorry for your loss and that someone was so hurtful and insensitive. That is not right and i hate that some people feel like they have the right to be so intrusive and cruel

[@alyseandrews1066]

My toddler is rough with me as well, he's a really snuggly dude that never sits still. It's difficult being pregnant with a toddler!

[@bubblegumbabe21]

I've been getting the same comments literally from the day after my miscarriage. I feel like people just don't know what to say so they just come out with the most ridiculous theories?! So scared to get pregnant again- from mama to mama I hope you have the happiest, healthiest baby ♥️♥️

[@IzzyTheInsane97]

Notice how she says 'Doctor Jones' in the beginning, I think she's not saying 'Mama' as not to trigger the women watching who desperately want to be a mum to living children... The compassion 💖

[@whitneyschmitney]

I noticed that too but didn’t understand why. I was just like “What? She didn’t say the thing?” But now that makes sense 😭😭😭 oh my heart

[@lasi8208]

If you've ever conceived a child you are a mother. Even if your child died, you are still a mother.

[@marieclairelebel]

@@lasi8208 But the women who desperately want to be mums also include those who never even managed to conceive.

[@barbaraalen]

lasi sure, but many moms who lost their children don‘t feel like a „real“ mother. I had a miscarriage 2 years ago (it was a silent one and at the very beginning) and when my best friend and his wife told me, I‘d be a „aunty“ again, I was extremely happy for them, but I was very very sad for myself, since I was asking myself why MY baby had to go and why I couldn‘t be a mom. Today, after therapy and understanding better what happened (also the physiology of the pregnancy, since I‘m in med school) I‘m aware that I am a mom, but my child‘s in heaven. But many many moms in this situation won‘t feel this way.

[@jomac841]

Marie-Claire Lebel thank you for mentioning that. I haven’t even conceived and want so desperately to have a baby but I didn’t want to say anything because I didn’t want to put the focus on me. I can’t even imagine the pain of finally conceiving and miscarrying. And yes, women who lose their babies are most definitely still real mothers. It breaks my heart to think these women think they aren’t.

[@kappecat9225]

My great grandma miscarried in the late 50's. After her death a few years ago, my grandma was cleaning things out of the house and found my gg's address book thing and inside was written the name and date of the miscarried baby's name.

[@Chloe.Miller21]

Awww, that's so sad 😞😞😞😞

[@PyroGymnast]

😥

[@elizabethbingham9899]

This reminds me of when I found out after my grandma's death that she had a stillbirth over 50 years ago. She also named the baby.

[@KristiContemplates]

My kids found my list (baby #1, baby #2, etc). They asked what happened to the babies with the missing numbers. I hugged them and said their names were X, Y, Z. They said that these were their brothers and sisters, and that I must miss them. I replied yes, but that wasn't going to stop me from enjoying X, Y, Z. My kids are awesomeness

[@eloiseannicle]

I needed to hear ‘you didn’t run too much’. I had a chemical pregnancy around the time I did my first triathlon, even though it was an early loss I found it very hard. I have since had this nagging feeling that I caused it by exercising too hard. I have carried this guilt even after my subsequent successful pregnancy. Thank you, I hope your video reaches many people.

[@BeckyJayson]

I had a chemical pregnancy right after I started a new lifting program at the gym. It is absolutely heartbreaking and I couldnt help but wonder if my workouts were the reason it happened.

[@ShichikiFujiyama]

I had a similar experience when I was weight lifting at an early point. It’s taken me a LONG time to come to terms with the idea that I didn’t do anything wrong too. This video definitely made me a little emotional hearing that line.

[@alishamcg]

I found that part interesting, as I've had two other OB doc's say that there are factors that could increase miscarriages... but it doesn't mean its the cause of it that could be an unknown.

[@Shylade]

I had one training for a marathon (triathlon is a dream but I wake up before I do it). It was amazing to me how a positive result turned into a full grown baby in my mind. Had plans and emotions swept in within hours. Then to have a blood test after my period started 2 weeks later and showed a small level which coincided with it trending down and not up from original urine test, It hurt badly. It’s a loss and kinda sucks so many people don’t count this as one.

[@ShanaLawson]

I’m sorry you carried that guilt. I hope it’s been lifted bc you certainly don’t deserve it.

[@estefanibowline812]

It’s so painful to hear a doctor say “well, it was so early, it wasn’t much anyway. Just try again!” I’d never felt so dismissed at such a low point. Thank you for bringing this to your platform. The more openly we talk about it, the better we’ll know how to help women no matter their response to miscarriage.

[@MamaDoctorJones]

That is, in my opinion, never an appropriate thing to say. I'm so sorry someone did that to you.

[@Astrosassy]

YEP emergency room doctors, family, and GP all said this to me as well. I’m sorry for your loss 💝💝

[@mlr270mr]

Yes this was my experience too!

[@Wolfqueen007]

That's why I have a different OB now. When I had my miscarriage, the doctor just seemed cold and uncaring about it. Like the nurse that did my bloodwork every week to check my hcg was way more compassionate. She also dismissed me when I asked for stronger pain medication because the 500mg of Naproxen they gave me for my regular period cramping, which barely took the edge off for that, did next to nothing. I kind of felt like they thought I was just fishing for pain meds. My new doctor seems much more supportive, but I thankfully haven't had another miscarriage to see how their office handles it.

[@yarah208]

I'm so thankful, that my doctor was so compassionate and told me how sorry he was. He wrote me a really caring email after the curettage. Also everyone in the hospital was so nice and concerned about my mental health, not only my physical. I think this made a huge difference.

[@9kawaii8]

This is really important to talk about!! When I was 18, my history teacher sat down with our entire class when she had been pregnant for a few weeks (not sure exactly how many, but she had started showing at the time and people had been guessing) and explained to us why she and her husband had waited to tell anyone for as long as they had; which was her history of miscarriage and complicated pregnancies. I don't think I'll ever forget that day cause it was the first time I heard a woman talking about the "bad" parts about pregnancies.

[@alexandram.6712]

To any women that have suffered miscarriages, my momma had a miscarriage before she was pregnant with me and she gave birth to me at 42. I came out at a healthy 7lbs👍🏽So don't give up ladies! You got this!! Sending love💕💕💕

[@emilymyrick8801]

My mom, also. She had a miscarriage in her late 20s. My brother at 30, and me at 40. Its absolutely possible.

[@Cbbartelt]

This isn’t necessarily helpful. Some of us won’t ever be able to carry a baby and that “here’s a story about someone who did have a baby” only causes more hurt. After I Adopted the hardest thing was listening to stories about how “so and so adopted and then had a baby you’ll get pregnant and keep it now” 4 miscarriage, 11 years of not protecting and 6 years after adoption and still no healthy pregnancy because my body can’t do it and that just is what it is. In understand you (all all the people who have made similar comments) have the Best intentions but the impact is typically that it hurts the person you’re talking to. So-no hate just giving you the info so you can correct and just support anyone you know instead of accidentally causing more hurt when you’re trying to heal.

[@camillefaith2005]

Cbbartelt 5 This is so important! While encouragement is always nice, things sometimes are not in the cards for some women. Some women just will not be able to bear a child.

[@Shylade]

Awe. I was after my moms miscarriage at 16 weeks. It hurt her so much she didn’t try again for 10 yrs. my brother is 12 yrs older than I lol she was 35. I promised myself I would have my children closer together. Because it sucked having your only sibling graduate from high school the same year I graduated from Kindergarten. So what did I do? My boys are 12 yrs apart. Ugh, the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree.

[@bibliophilecb]

Same here! My mom had 2 kids and three pregnancies at varying ages. My brother was born when she was in her mid twenties, she had a miscarriage a few years after that, and I was born when she was 41! We’re both here and well twenty four years later!

[@RyColSM]

When I miscarried the nurse told me the most helpful thing right then. "You are free to scream or cry or just sit. Whatever you feel like you need to do, do so (but no hitting)"

[@juavarela1673]

She sounds so great. The no hitting part made me crack a smile....

[@xo17xov36]

💜

[@TheTypewriterError]

Mine did almost exactly the same when I had a chemical pregnancy. Having her believe me even when I couldn't produce a positive hCG test did a lot to help me heal. She actually came into the room and offered me a hug before sitting down to talk. She told me I was welcome to cry as much as I needed to and shared with me about her own miscarriage before her rainbow baby.

[@tiaradevore5885]

I gave up :) I had 3 ectopic pregnancies and than a miscarriage. And we literally weren’t trying and bam I’m 8 weeks pregnant it’s in the uterus and I get to hear the heartbeat next time I go ❤️

[@dianaduran87]

Congrats 🍾

[@Queendreamer]

Omg yay congrats

[@karladesilos6022]

congratulations! everything will be perfect🥰

[@tiaradevore5885]

Thank you all ❤️❤️❤️

[@povofpoa2220]

@@tiaradevore5885 congrats girl how is everything going (update pls)?

[@magickaldust1213]

It's also so important to note that everyone feels differently. It is OKAY if you do not feel as though you lost a child after having a miscarriage. No matter how it affects you, your experience is not any less valid.

[@easjer]

Thank you for that. I definitely felt that with some of my losses, but not with all of them. And my feeling losing my son to pre-term birth was on a different level entirely than, say, my chemical pregnancies. However you feel is valid. One loss was a total relief because the timing was terrible - we were not in a good position to have a baby. That is just as valid as the pain of the loss when we were finally pregnant after trying for the first time. There is a huge array of feelings and they may change over time even.

[@magickaldust1213]

@@easjer yes exactly! Thank you for saying it's okay to be relieved even and its definitely okay for your feelings to change over time. Both *very* important points!

[@Gingersnaps_the_pumpkin_kitty]

Honestly I personally make it a point to wait till around 4 months to really get "attached", I've had traumas before so I tend to try and minimize the chance of it happening. I wait for names or baby items till it's half way, I save and budget but I don't sell myself on the idea that this WILL happen and NOTHING will change that. And I keep myself aware that my uterus isn't something I can control and it's not MY fault.

[@cjpietropinto9293]

Thank you, I was starting to feel guilty for not feeling guilty. I imagine it would feel different if I had known I was pregnant. Or if I had been trying for a baby at the time. But the pregnancy was a product of rape, the miscarriage, a product of abuse, and I was far too young. So, Thank You! I needed to read that!

[@magickaldust1213]

@@cjpietropinto9293 every situation is different and that does not make what you went through any less traumatizing. Thank you for sharing, I cannot imagine how hard that must have been to go through ❤

[@jaella1692]

When I had my miscarriage, the doctor told me "you'll have so many healthy pregnancies after this that you'll forget all about this miscarriage." It was 2.5 years ago now and I still mourn that baby frequently. I have a beautiful baby boy, and am pregnant again with my last baby, but I will never forget the one I lost.

[@CloudslnMyCoffee]

I'm sorry your doctor was so insensitive in their attempts to be comforting.

[@marianaaleman1814]

😡how insensitive. I'm sorry!

[@matrena86]

2.5 years later and healthy baby boy and I still grieve hard.

[@khills]

I'm so sorry. It's not up to anyone else to decide how someone chooses to grieve or remember a pregnancy that ends in miscarriage.

[@charlottehancock76]

my mum still cries for the three babies she lost and how she almost lost me 22-19 years later, my brother and I didn't make her forget about them. if anything they taught her to teach me that nature will take it's course and not everything is meant to be, even if it thoroughly terrified me, it taught me a valuable lesson on how nothing is certain. my mum probably is still mourning the children she lost and gives me and my brother all of the love and support we need to grow. every women should feel like they can mourn the child they lost because there is a lot of what if's that didn't happen. I'm so glad you have your little boy and your little one on the way but that you also remember your little one that you lost and give your living child the extra love you would have given that child and cherish every second you have with them. I'm sorry for your loss and in happy to hear that you have your new little ones xx

[@myearsareheavy]

One thing that i think isn't addressed is that everyones emotional reaction for miscarriage is valid. When i miscarried, it was disappointing but im pretty pragmatic and didnt feel the typical grief. One of the hardest things was feeling guilty or uncomfortable because everyone kept saying that the grief would come or i was suppressing or hiding it which is not the case. It is hard to find the words to say to someone who jas miscarried but it is easy to make someone feel like something is wrong with them because they dont feel "enough" as well.

[@jadecoolness101]

Also when women don’t "love" their baby enough when it comes out alive. Everyone always talks about the rush of emotions, the PuRe LoVe. My sister said she didn’t love her baby at first, she didn’t even like it. She gave it a name, signed the certificate, and came home with this crying creature who she doesn’t even know, a complete stranger who now sleeps in her bedroom and cries sometimes for boob. She adores the kid now, and would strangle me if I hurt a hair on his little head, but still... People act like if you don’t have that love at first sight feeling you’re going to be a bad mother, or abusive, or you’re just broken...

[@myearsareheavy]

@@jadecoolness101 oh absolutely, i didnt have any magic stars with my daughter at first. Its just unique for everyone and we need to support each other in whatever our emotional journey we are on :)

[@lunaredelvour2972]

I know the feeling. I've never been through miscarriage or pregnancy or anything like that, but I'm the same way in my life - my reactions just aren't that extreme, so to speak. Death in the family, for example, didn't effect me as everyone expected it to. My friends seemed genuinely confused and didn't know how to make me feel better because I wasn't really showing grief and told me it's not really healthy to hold it all in. It's just not a great feeling when you're told you're "reacting wrong" because other people believe it's not a strong enough reaction. Like I said, I've never been through a miscarriage (it sounds extremely traumatic and I hope to god that anyone who suffers the experience can walk away and heal, regardless of how heavy or light the emotional side of it is) but I still see where you're coming from

[@loverlyredhead]

I also was mostly fine after my miscarriage. I mourned the loss of the ideas I had had for the baby, but it was a blighted ovum, so there wasn't ever a baby formed. It sucked having all the symptoms for 12 weeks only to find out I should have miscarried 6 weeks before. That said, it still makes me nervous for my next pregnancy. So lots of emotions but maybe not the expected ones from other people.

[@alexandrah2662]

This is something that Mama Doctor Jones said she experienced herself with one of her children. I was impressed she spoke about it so candidly.

[@karenmalick5742]

Hearing you say “you didn’t do anything to cause the miscarriage”, especially coming from you is an extremely powerful and healing thing to hear. Thank you for having this conversation.

[@annabella2528]

In Sierra's case it's what she didn't do that's more than likely the culprit. She's remarkably unhealthy. Her body aborted the baby because her body is not equipped to develop a baby because of her terrible nutrition or rather lack of nutrition.

[@tierneymay980]

@@annabella2528 how cruel, and with no basis in fact. Someone should pray for you.

[@SteffiHenri1992]

@@annabella2528 This is just evil. You should be ashamed for commenting this after watching a OB/Gyn explaining that miscarriages just happen and there's nothing you could do to stop them. There are mothers who smoke and drink and still end up giving birth to healthy babies. Others do everything in their power to be healthy and still lose the baby. You've obviously never been through a loss otherwise you wouldn't write something so cruel. I hope you learn at some point some compassion for other people

[@sarvolkskaya]

@@annabella2528 How do you know she’s unhealthy? How do you know she has a lack of good nutrition? You can be plus-size and be remarkably healthy. You can eat well and exercise and still be plus size.

[@thecloudflower7844]

Yes... first question people ask me is what did I do to cause the miscarriage... and my heart always hurt.

[@DizzyLizzy558]

I instantly started crying when you were saying it's not the person's fault it happened. I'm still struggling to accept that

[@29jgirl92]

Sending you a hug!

[@DizzyLizzy558]

@@29jgirl92 Thank you so much

[@DreamsInWild]

I did too. Mine happened two years ago and I still think back to the day it happened and wonder what I did wrong, even though I KNOW it wasn't my fault. It's not an easy thing to accept. Sending you love and hugs

[@mansfield821]

@@DreamsInWild Ur so right. I always thought it was something I did or something that I needed to do. Or something that I didnt do. I still go to that place at times.

[@nikkiledford9820]

Same, I was on psychiatric medication, approved my doctors but still I feel that's why my embryo didnt develop properly

[@JosetteBadger]

After my first miscarriage, my doctor was empathetic and listened. She also said that it is a good sign that I became pregnant and that “the system worked”. This made me feel less broken later and really helped.

[@georgiabennett8377]

After my miscarriage this year the most common response I'd get is "I'm so sorry what happened??" And it would make me feel like it was my fault, like I did something wrong or have something wrong with me. Having Mama Dr Jones say its not my fault and nothing is wrong with me made me BAWL😭😭 I appreciate everything you do in educating us on our own bodies and making me feel a little more whole again🙏💕

[@azhrayharris8]

What would you prefer people say? I have had a miscarriage, too, and I personally didn't have an issue with that response from people I told. What about it made you feel like they were blaming you?

[@georgiabennett8377]

@@azhrayharris8 because they're asking it like I had any control over the situation that happened, if you watched the video or ever talked to your own OBGYN about your miscarriage you should know theres no "reason" these things happen & asking for one is unfair to me and the unborn life I cared so much for. But thank you for making me feel like trash in an area I assumed was a safe space to talk about these things🙃

[@animorphsgirl2]

BeingAFish InADoggyDogWorld I’m pretty sure she was genuinely wondering I was wondering the same thing but that’s because I read your comment wrong I thought you said people would say “I’m so sorry THAT happened” I looked back and realized that you said people were asking you WHAT happened which is definitely not what people should be asking

[@StrangeAlleyCat]

I also read that instead of what, but I think it’s because the what is the last word on the line. We often skip words automatically when reading and lets our brain fill it in based on length, a quick glance and what fits in the sentence. And as we see, our brains creates a whole different sentence. Fascinating. I’m sorry for your loss.

[@ShanaLawson]

I can definitely see why that wording would “trigger” (not using that word in a negative way) that response. Most of the times doctors don’t even know, hows the momma supposed to?

[@miriamlusk6577]

Just had my 4th miscarriage. Loved this video. You should do a “what to say (and not to say) to someone who just miscarried” video.

[@imzadi83fanvids7]

Oh yes! Ditto for stillbirths. My Mom had people who dismissed the pain she felt, and still feels over the loss of my sister. And some people where very quick to ask when/if they would try again. That's one of the worst things to ask after a stillbirth or a miscarriage.

[@nancyalisadi6262]

Wow youre brave

[@Ghost.Kitty88]

This would be a great video and on a similar note to someone living with infertility.

[@Choosefaithnotfear]

I just had my third miscarriage in the last year. Trying to decide if I want to try again. Hugs to you.

[@purplexninjamom]

Yes! Yes! I support this video idea.

[@InjectMorphineIntoMe]

It took me close to 2 hours to watch this whole video. I had a miscarriage yesterday and I just want my tiny bean back.

[@karladesilos6022]

i hops soon enough you get a healthy pregnancy❤️

[@selyndaariel4609]

so sorry for your loss 😥

[@juliaalexander5788]

prayers!

[@alyssamurphy2002]

Hugs.

[@mulberryman1305]

I feel like what needs to be talked about more is the emotional distress a miscarriage can cause your partner When my girlfriend had a miscarriage at 9 weeks I openly mourned the lose of our child but I felt like my emotions were dismissed because I wasn't the one who physically had the miscarriage even though it was *my child* as much as it was hers

[@Pestwi182]

When I had my miscarriages, I felt like my husband wasn't affected by it at all. He didn't seem to care. I know he was more worried about me but then he asked me why I was so emotional. I wish he had showed any kind of sadness towards it.

[@spudfairie]

I think it might be difficult since men have such variety in how they experience/express emotion, but it is definitely something that can impact the father just as much as the mother. My husband and I each a day when it hit us, but the surrounding experience was totally different: I'm experiencing all the physical symptoms and it's constantly in my face what is happening, where my husband was observing from the outside and was distracted by work and such; but it was still the loss of his child and that matters greatly to him.

[@alyseandrews1066]

That is definitely a great point! Although the pain and process is often extra traumatic for the Mother, the Father is still experiencing the loss of the life that could have been and is fully justified in feeling deep grief.

[@sabriannakendall9405]

I'm so sorry for yours and your girlfriend's loss

[@rayajayce2034]

Well.. that's because it's so much worse for to the woman. If that's how it felt to you, imagine her mind, body and emotions. Life is difficult and painful as a baseline. For women it is even more so. And we all get told to "buck up." I'm sorry for your loss. Maybe counceling would be helpful.

[@aymaraher5574]

My mom had 7 miscarriages before having me at 46 years old everything is possible!

[@LadyArtemis1975]

Lol what a joyful story. Your mom is an awesome lady!

[@AlexaAriGo]

you are a miracle

[@bropoke6799]

My stepmom had a similar experience. She had at least 5 miscarriages that i know of before she had my little sister when she was 41 and im so happy her and my dad decided to try again. I love my little sister

[@Saint3188]

Amazing I feel bad about giving up after our first one.

[@IheartDogs55]

I'm 66. I had back to back miscarriages in my late 20s, both at 18 weeks. I do have a son & a daughter. The losses were in between those births. To this day, those losses cut my heart in pieces. It has allowed me to help others who have gone through it. The grief can be severe and long lasting.

[@lexybridges1138]

As someone who has had 4 miscarriages and 2 ectopic pregnancies and this was so much more informative than anything my own doctors have told me. Thank you so much!

[@cyroshard1909]

I'm not a woman and can never properly console women who've experienced this with complete empathy. But I wish nothing but love and goodness in your future and the future of your family. God bless you, ma'am!

[@joydrop7]

I 100% agree!! After several miscarriages and an ectopic pregnancy (that finally removed any chance of a natural pregnancy)... this video answered sooooo many of my questions... I don’t know if doctors were trying to spare my feelings or what but I really wish I had been better informed... especially with the pain of that initial miscarriage

[@evelynkrull5268]

3 miscarriages here, and my doc went over all of this kind of stuff. I really hope yall find obgyn that support and educate you. My first miscarriage I had a horrible ob and he basically told me I was too young for a baby so maybe it was a blessing after all. I was shook. Bad OBs are horrible!

[@scherre]

There's a style of doctor that doesn't automatically give this "extra" information unless you specifically ask for it. They're not necessarily bad doctors, but just different people. I know other people who are quite happy to receive an absolute minimum of information from their doctors about whatever they are there for and let the doctor worry about those details .. clearly these patients and doctors are suited to each other but probably most of us watching Mama Doctor Jones are the other kind who definitely do want to know all we can! Unfortunately we don't always find the right match straight away or might not have the freedom to easily change doctors.

[@inbuttsmeeting]

@@scherre flat out any doctor that doesn't at least ask if you want more information or more detail needs to rework how they interact with patients. I've had bad doctors and I've had good doctors, and my sister works in medicine, and all my experiences plus her advice is that patients need to advocate for themselves. patients who don't know how to do that, or who don't know what kinds of questions to ask, get FUCKED with this "hey if they didn't ask I don't need to offer the info" attitude people do not know what they don't know. how can you ask for more information about something if the doctor has presented what appears to be all the necessary information? I was literally laughed at by a gynecologist when I mentioned wanting a hysterectomy and after 3 appointments with 2 different gynecologists, my GP gave me more information than either of the gynecologists I'd seen. I did not need to ask him specific questions about things I didn't know I didn't know for him to help me because he's a damn good doctor. meanwhile the two gynecologists I saw, who roll with the minimum info without asking if you want more, failed me because they didn't offer anything more than the absolute bare minimum and I didn't know how to ask

[@Glutenimpaired]

“You didn’t cause your miscarriage and it’s not something you need to work on.” Okay now I’m crying and I also want this on a tshirt.

[@mog-gyveroneill2500]

I'm now crying reading your comment..

[@rivkahdeabba4327]

I'm going through another one right now. This was my 1st time being able to get pregnant in 8 years. I never have given birth to a live baby, and I really am feeling so many emotions right now.

[@nicolevolcy3511]

I have been in your shoes. We were married 9 years finally became pregnant and lost 2 pregnancies back to back. I am here to give you hope I have a 3 month old naturally conceived son. I am type A so I didn’t stop scouring for answers until I got what I wanted.

[@rachelatwater7576]

Rivkah I’m keeping the hope that you will have your rainbow baby.

[@danaschreiner3334]

Sending you love

[@BladeX11883]

I feel your pain in the same situation. hugs

[@amygravolin1041]

I have lost 15 babies, we have just done our first round of Ivf and I'm now 15 weeks pregnant! It's been a long road and Im still worried but feel like we have got this. Also cried when you spoke about it not being something we did ect.. It's hard not to try and find any little thing we must have done wrong just to try and make sense of it all, after all these years I have finally accepted I couldn't have stopped it or changed it and it's not my fault. ❤️

[@vernicethompson4825]

Wow! 15 babies is a lot to lose. How do you keep up your spirits? Have you ever been examined and tested to find out what factors contributed to so many losses? If you can find that out, and get the problem solved, you won't have to worry so much with your current and future pregnancies. I wish you all the best.

[@Tia.Sionee]

Congratulations mama . Sorry to hear about your losses I pray everything goes as close to perfect as it can for you and baby

[@saritarobinson3040]

Wow.

[@caitlinlee933]

Those poor babies

[@elphabarichardson607]

I hope all is well.

[@soph3873]

I had a missed miscarriage 2 years ago, after trying for 3 years after having our "Clomid" baby in 2015 and multiple miscarriages then. I blamed myself for it all. I found out I was pregnant again in September last year and now have a rainbow baby born 4th June. Never blame yourself for something out of your control! 💛

[@annabelisawizard6255]

So happy you got your baby in the end! My sister's birthday is June 4th too!

[@fardareismai4495]

Congratulations on the birth of your baby! I am sure they are going to have an amazing life, they are wanted and I am so happy that they are now with you. Enjoy every second!

[@eviegallandt9784]

Congratulations girl! I'm so happy for you! Almost momma to momma :) ❤

[@mariamshah338]

That’s so beautiful!! Also June 4 is my birthday too!

[@tessb7890]

This comment really made me feel hopeful thank you

[@mirandawillis-dillon2736]

I've had a stillbirth and missed miscarriage. Both are utterly heartbreaking but my miscarriage was treated as another day in the neighborhood.

[@purplexninjamom]

I´m very sorry about that. People need to become more empathetic. Every pregnancy does something and every wanted and loved baby changes us, even if it´s never born or never lives. Your pain and heartbreak are valid. Don´t let people normalize your pain and talk it away. It matters.

[@i_luv_hecklefish]

Me too. Ive had several miscarriages and 2 stillbirths. Both stillbirths were at near full term. One around a week before my due date. As heartbreaking as they were, when I finally gave birth to a healthy baby boy he healed so much of my heartache. He was worth waiting for. Sometimes there are storms before you see the sunshine.

[@LauraMalvoyante]

I have had 6 miscarriages and my doctor looked into genetic causes after 3 miscarriages in a row. It was discovered that I have Facteur V Leiden. This diagnosis helped me better understand other health issues that I had and helped my doctor prepare for when I did become pregnant again. I got pregnant this year with twins but miscarried one at 7 weeks. The other baby is alive and well thanks to blood thinners and I am currently 28 weeks pregnant with no issues.

[@erinaa9486]

Wow, sending positive thoughts 💜💜💜 Hope your baby grows and thrives inside of you, comes at a good time, and you have a smooth delivery

[@Pressity1]

My one sister in law had several miscarriages with her ex husband, but the doctors didn't think anything of it because she had healthy babies in between them. Then she got with her current partner after her divorce and wound up having 3 miscarriages in a row and that finally prompted her doctors to do testing to figure out what was going on. Turns out tha she, like you, has Factor five liden, but also has MTHFR mutation. She was able to go on blood thinners almost immediately after getting that second line on the stick with her following 3 pregnancies which helped to ensure her last two babies arrived healthy (no surprise bleeding or any other complications), and she is currently 13 weeks with what will be baby #6 for her!

[@AK-wb6mq]

I have a different blood clotting condition...I found out after my son was stillborn. I have three beautiful babies here on earth now. Pregnancy after loss is hard. Hang in there mama!

[@ThatOneLadyOverHere]

As a twin mom it hurts my heart when I hear about moms who lose a twin. My heart goes out to you and your baby.

[@ItHasChicken]

"You're not broken, and you didn't make this happen." You made me cry. 😭 My husband and I tried to conceive for over a year only to unfortunately miscarry in February. To say we were devastated is an understatement. We became pregnant with our hopefully-rainbow baby three months later. I'm 7 weeks tomorrow and so terrified of it happening again. I needed to hear those words today. Thank you. 💕

[@julianzacconievas]

All the best for you, your husband and your little one

[@sarahberlaud4285]

I'm not a doctor, but I've read that many first pregnancies end in early miscarriage... mine did... but that only 1~4% of the population have two losses in a row. My miscarriage was at 7 weeks (in March), and I'm now pregnant again and everything is going smoothly at 9 weeks - I truly hope the same for you!! And, I think it's very likely to work out well for you, given those odds! Keep hopeful, and remember that whatever will happen will happen, so try to not feel so scared. It's been much easier for me since I started thinking of it like that, and I hope that it comforts you a bit. Love from a stranger with a similar experience 💕

[@nikkimarsh5153]

I just wanted to say good luck with your pregnancy, I am also pregnant with my rainbow, just got to 10 weeks and I’m terrified too! 💕

[@Pestwi182]

I'm also pregnant after having two miscarriages. Currently at the tail end of 13 weeks. Wishing you and your husband the best!

[@jellybeansbud3610]

I wish you luck and rainbow dust!!!

[@dstnyvrsn4806]

I miscarried just over 3 weeks ago with my first pregnancy. I’m still traumatized by it and have anxiety of it happening with the next pregnancy when we decide to try again.

[@KristiContemplates]

Understandable

[@volgax2]

Im on my 2nd successful pregnancy since my early miscarriage. And I'm still constantly checking for spotting. I hope when you decide its time to try again, everything will work out. Good luck.

[@lynn2574]

“You’re not broken and you didn’t make this happen”. 😭 I am YEARS out from my miscarriages, and teared up from this. I had two pregnancy losses before my rainbow baby (who is now about to turn 12!), and one after. I didn’t even know I was still emotional about them.

[@mindyb1986]

I also had 2 losses and just had my rainbow baby a month ago. I still am emotional about mine but they weren't that long ago (7 years and almost 2 years).

[@HappywifeTaylor]

Just listening to this video just makes me cry for my own miscarriage. It was 10 years ago but it still hurts so badly. When I got pregnant with my daughter, I didn't tell anyone except my husband.

[@29jgirl92]

Some things just stay with us forever. I hope you manage to heal a little though. Sending hugs!

[@HappywifeTaylor]

@@29jgirl92 thank you very much

[@MamaDoctorJones]

[@isabelleblanchet3694]

My grand-mother is 94 and you see the pain in her eyes when she mentions that she had 4 miscarriages, even if she had 10 children. It's something we have to learn to live with. I've had an ectopic pregnancy myself, and the loss is similar emotionally, physically, I could have died after my tube ruptured and I was bleeding internally.

[@autumnfranklin6790]

AJT MLT Taylor I’m sorry you went through that and it causes you pain. Sending you love 💕💕

[@KristinaSandnes]

The sentence that got me through my early MC is: «I can get pregnant, it just wasn’t the right time now.» And also the fact that many many women experience MC at some point, sometimes without knowing they were pregnant. It’s not a very happy or positive thought, but it feels comforting to know that you’re not alone, even tho you don’t want it to happen to anyone. ❤️ I am 20+2 weeks pregnant with a healthy baby girl now, I am very thankful. 🥰🙏🏼

[@TheRealSabrinaDeep]

A year ago I was forced to terminate at 23 weeks. I gave birth to my son and had him buried. His life mattered to me and my doctors were very kind but sometimes I still cry. To have to choose to end the life of your child to save your own is a choice I pray no one ever has to experience.

[@MamaDoctorJones]

This is so incredibly heartbreaking. Having walked that road with so many people, I can tell you that his life mattered to your doctors, too. These experiences stick with us forever, certainly not in the way they stick with you as his parent...but we remember and we cry sometimes, too.

[@katieshaw9310]

I’m so sorry - what an awful thing to have happened. His life mattered - he will always be a part of you. 💜

[@Rose-jz6sx]

His life mattered, and still matters. My boyfriend's dad and step mum lost a baby at around that stage and he is very much a member of the family. I'm sorry that you had to go through that though it's a horrible trauma xxx

[@allybangel]

I am sorry for your loss I lost my first daughter at birth and it was heartbreaking. It has been 10 years but I still think about her. I also went to to have three healthy children but we still celebrate her life and remember her. your beautiful little boy mattered and still does, he will always be in your heart. sending you and your family love.

[@sarahberlaud4285]

My heart goes out to you... I'm 9 weeks along as a high-risk pregnancy, and the doctors have been very clear to me that we might have to terminate the pregnancy if my own health is in jeopardy (I've had a miscarriage before, also). Most people hope to make it through the first trimester, but I know that every week brings new dangers for both me and baby... I cannot even imagine being in your shoes, although I very well may need to be. My heart is with you, condolences in regards to your baby boy.

[@hayleylamb26]

This Barbara Kingsolver quote helped me feel validated after I had my miscarriage, I still get emotional when I read it to this day. “A miscarriage is a natural and common event. All told, probably more women have lost a child from this world than haven't. Most don't mention it, and they go on from day to day as if it hadn't happened, so people imagine a woman in this situation never really knew or loved what she had. But ask her sometime: how old would your child be now? And she'll know.”

[@Vegoonery]

Oof, ow, my heart.

[@erinhall320]

3 months. That's how old mine would be.

[@HaleyJo1992]

I don't even want kids and this almost made me cry. I personally think most early miscarriages are the body aborting a defective embryo or fetus, which is a good thing, but that doesn't make the loss less. It's still a physical and emotional trauma

[@Melsie0381]

Wow, this hit me in the gut. Powerful.

[@coriewhiting2456]

Oof, this hit me like a truck.

[@carlagraca2729]

And here we are in Feb 2021, and Sierra is 25 weeks pregnant! Such a wonderful video and needed discussion :)

[@anitasamos450]

I suffered a miscarriage and got pregnant again after 3 months. Hearing you say "you're not broken" made me cry, I needed to hear that for this baby. Thank you 🙏🏻

[@stepheniegonzalez4507]

Anita Samos I had miscarriage at 6 weeks back in November and I got pregnant 4 months later. Congratulations I hope you have a easy pregnancy!

[@anitasamos450]

@@stepheniegonzalez4507 thank you so much, you too 🙏🏻

[@calamitynatalie8590]

Hello, I had a miscarriage at 25 weeks gestation and then became pregnant 3 months later. Our daughters name is Quinn and she is 9 years old now! Try to enjoy your pregnancy, that was challenging for me, hope you are well

[@anitasamos450]

@@calamitynatalie8590 I'm really trying, I'm almost at my 2nd trimester.. kinda hard to be calm with the covid situation but I'm trying. Thank you 🙏🏻

[@LadyDelSangue87]

Thank you for stating that the pain is caused from contractions. I started crying when you said that because when I had my late term miscarriage at 18 weeks, I actually went through it at home alone and at first didn't realize what was happening because I dissociated from the situation. Later on I realized that what I experienced was actually labor. For the longest time I thought I was just imagining that it was labor, but it really was. It came and went just like the contractions I had when I had my son a couple of years later. I got treated like crap at the hospital when I went, they just sort of left me in the hallway of the big room with the nurses who all looked at me like I was crazy because I was groaning and moaning like a woman in labor. For the longest time I thought I was just crazy, I feel so validated that I in fact should have been treated like a woman in labor and not just some idiot who won't stop screaming.

[@emiliana1767]

You shouldnt have been treated like that in any way!! I woman that is miscarrying her 18 week old baby is allowed to scream from the pain of her broken heart, even if the miscarriage wouldnt hurt at all - which it does 😔 i am so sorry for your loss and how you have been handled at the hospital! I had my miscarriage at 11 weeks, but the fetus was only 7 weeks big. And still it hurt so much that i cried! I had a baby prior and the pain totally reminded me of labor. I cant imagine going through that further along 😭 so sorry again 🙏

[@drsympathy6488]

Even working as a obgyn, and knowing about uterine contractions in miscarriage, I actually FELT them when i had a 8wks miscarriage.. If not same, they were at least half as painful as full term labor pains.

[@SSLLatia]

I've just had my fourth miscarriage. The first time it happened, it was so difficult to hear from people (mostly women) all the things that I should've done differently. Women who had worked till the morning that they gave birth told me not to work, to reduce stress when trying to get pregnant. Women who themselves had been on a rollercoaster in the first trimester told me that I should lie down and relax and do nothing. All that does is make you feel like you caused it. After researching miscarriage I started telling people "women in war zones get pregnant and have babies. Women who absolutely do everything to abort the pregnancy fail and have the baby. I did not cause the miscarriage" But it's really hard, when you're trying to grieve and people around you are basically searching for a reason of how you (or your husband) are at fault for this. The worst is that they don't mean it like that but it does ultimately mean it. It's similar with minimizing the pain I feel because the loss was so early. I've been struggling with fertility and do IVF. So every step is scary and hopeful. So when you finally get that positive result, it comes with so many mixed feelings and hope. Every day is one step further to success and the hope bubble grows. Every time I go to the bathroom and see no blood, I feel hopeful. And that moment when it starts bleeding feels like someone punched you, hard. When that bubble bursts, it hurt so much. I realize that pregnancy loss late ein pregnancy is way more difficult. But there are always going to be harder, more difficult, more painful things than what you go through at the moment. That doesn't mean I'm not allowed to feel gutted and emotional and angry. It doesn't mean that my pregnancy "doesn't count". So I'm really glad you made this video, I hope many women see it and feel more reassured and if it does happen to them or someone they love: it wasn't your fault

[@amyjorgensen2876]

Have had 5 miscarriages and one still birth. It’s awful and emotionally painful. Thank you so much for making this video.

[@iamthefirstandonlycheesecake]

That’s horrible i hope your able to have a healthy baby

[@danithefiend6167]

I would just like to remember my daughter, Ella Anne Javens, who I lost at 23 weeks. You are my guardian angel baby girl, and I will never forget you. 😢😢😢💔

[@JB-rp2ej]

I'm so sorry for your loss

[@wilindaward]

The pain control section got me! I was sent home with a printout of how it's safe to miscarry at home. Needless to say, a week later I was at the emergency room bleeding out! My best friend took me who is gay. He was a champ but between him and the male nurse, it was an experience! Between my friend saying I'm not sure I'm doing this right and the nurse (also a gay man) saying we gotta double things up you are bleeding so much (made me freak out worse). Thankfully when the Dr came in he brought a female nurse to help with the DNC. She was awesome and just held my hand and let me cry. Even though I knew I was going to miscarry it still was extremely emotional!

[@LeafyK]

I'm my head, I heard the rest of MDJ's intro. Then I realized why she left it out. Respect.

[@mallorymyers7525]

She is consistently so thoughtful.

[@meonlydanielle]

Side note: having cramps in your first trimester doesn't mean you're miscarrying. Instead of morning sickness, I had really bad cramps every day. Spent those months sure I was about to miscarry. It seems to be a 'normal' symptom and I wish it had been talked about more. That would have saved me alot of stress.

[@Rose-jz6sx]

Yeah it's your uterus growing apparently, but I'm 28 and only heard about it being a pregnancy symptom in the past year, it's definitely not one that's talked about enough.

[@erinaa9486]

I also had a lot of cramping in the early weeks that caused me a lot of anxiety, especially when coupled with light spotting at 8 weeks. I was at first convinced I had an ectopic pregnancy, then when we had a healthy ultrasound, I just kept worrying about the cramps for weeks.

[@sarahberlaud4285]

This is me right now!! I decided not to worry about it, since I can't do anything about it anyways (and am so lucky to have had a heartbeat at my ultrasound, which I'm sure helps to put my mind at ease, too). It also makes sense, because at 9 weeks along, although I haven't gained any weight, I look more like I'm 5 or 6 months along. My uterus really must be growing! I'm so sorry that you felt so stressed out during your first trimester. Thanks for your comment, it's so reassuring to know that these cramps are actually normal.

[@kristimorrison6501]

Yes!! The first pregnancy when I had spotting and cramping I did miscarry. How ever in my next two I also had spotting and cramping and went on to have healthy almost 7lb babies! It is a scary thing but don't lose hope❤ I'm so glad she did this video. Its giving us a place to talk and feel like we aren't alone.

[@spudfairie]

Doesn't help that when googling symptoms, bleeding and cramps are listed under both normal pregnancy symptoms and signs of miscarriage. First one I had minimal cramps and heavy bleeding: miscarriage. Second time I had excruciating cramps, no bleeding: currently 27 weeks, healthy baby. The worst part is waiting to see what the symptoms mean this time!

[@msnikole3876]

I’m watching this 24 hours after I found out my baby stopped developing early, but my body hadn’t caught up. I was 14w4d yesterday, but hadn’t gotten an ultrasound since 5weeks. I just wanted to comment to say, even though this video is a year old, you’re helping me understand, and I wish I had a doctor like you. Thank you for being a caring doctor💝

[@ashleighchristie3383]

To all the people here, I just want to say.... All of your children matter. Your grief isn't to be dismissed. You love isn't to be dismissed. And if anyone tells you any different come to me and I will sit there and cry with you. I will hold you. I will listen to you. I will love you and love and remember your child.

[@allisonavery7273]

amen

[@mh3732]

Two incredible women coming together to talk about a really tough topic. Thank you ladies

[@yugiohfreakforever]

I just wanted to come to the comment section to tell everyone who’s had a miscarriage that I’m sorry for your loss. Your feelings are valid. The stigma for miscarriage being a taboo topic needs to go away. I may have had a pregnancy scare but who knows if it’s what I thought was a period was a miscarriage who knows but my mom has had one and I don’t know if she has healed from it 40+ years later but if she hasn’t then that’s ok. If I have to be realistic with the situation had the pregnancy did work out for my mom the likely chance of me existing would’ve been smaller. Things happen for reasons. I know it may not be clear at all when I want every woman to have the baby they truly want to have. You never have to force yourself to fully heal at all. It’s traumatic. As long as you handle the situation in a way that’s not explosive that risks your life or others. You’re beautiful and as Dr. Jones says you’re not broken. Love you all. I’m sorry this is longer than I intended.

[@TheRainbowDragoness]

I've had 11 miscarriages. I was lucky enough to have 2 children before this happened but it has still had a massive emotional impact on me. The first one was at 18 weeks and it was utterly soul destroying. After the fourth one I stopped telling even my husband if I was pregnant in case it happened again. He was always pressuring me for another child and I don't think that helped the situation. To anyone who has suffered this loss, make sure you take the time to grieve if you need to. Good luck with your journey to have a child.

[@katiegreen5450]

Hes "pressuring you" to have another baby. This made me angry. I hope you are OK?

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[@priscillacuster6332]

My first pregnancy was a molar pregnancy, but my doctor at the time didn't tell me really anything about it, they just did a D&C and then after told me it was a molar pregnancy with no details or anything, just that it's rare..could you maybe talk about that in a video one day?

[@adriennetalor16]

I had a partial molar pregnancy in February, and I would also appreciate this! Partial molar means there was an actual baby forming, but with twice the dna so it was not going to survive regardless. Other than that, I don't really have info. They did a D&C and said wait six months to TTC.

[@feebeci]

I also had a partial molar pregnancy! Would love this video

[@caitlinboyer9069]

I’ve never heard of this before until this comment...Yes, I’d love to know more!

[@AndeAlde]

I had a partial molar as well. I would love more info.

[@laurengroom9233]

My first pregnancy was a molar pregnancy too. It’s pretty confusing concept. My doctor told me that it was as though the placenta was growing as a growth in the uterus and if left untreated it could be fatal. It has been over 10 years and I still have trouble wrapping my head around what happened. I ended up having to have 2 D&Cs and blood work once a month for a year after.

[@greytgreytx]

I had a miscarriage when I was 41 and delivered my 5-year-old when I was 42. There was no difference in anything I did either time. I'm so sorry that some people feel responsible for the loss of their pregnancies. Please please don't blame yourself.

[@AbbeysKitchen]

This is so key! Sierra’s last question was so important so thank you for answering it (perfectly in my opinion). It’s such a personal journey. I jumped into medicated cycles (3) before even trying naturally bc my period never came back post pill. And then jumped into Ivf when the drugs didn’t make me ovulate. I had 3 miscarriages (discussed on my channel) and was literally about to move to surrogacy bc the emotional toll it was having on me was literally ruining my physical health and relationship. I had sooooo many ppl tell me “what?! Keep trying! Why would you give up so soon and move to that step?” But I just could not go on. This Ivf transfer was our last kick at the van and miraculously it took (32 wks pregnant). So my advice for women is to not let others’ opinion cloud your next steps. Only you know your pain. Trust your intuition.

[@annabella2528]

Seem like y'all need to very seriously consider nutrition or rather a lack there of. These stupid fad diets are remarkably destructive. When's that going to become obvious?

[@bleechrcreechrr]

@@annabella2528 how do you know she was doing fad diets?

[@annabella2528]

@@bleechrcreechrr from watching her channel

[@bleechrcreechrr]

@@annabella2528 oh ok I didn't know she was a youtuber known for that

[@annabella2528]

@@bleechrcreechrr she does all kinds of videos about clothes and Disney and other similar stuff. She talks about her life pretty openly. She has a terrible diet and claims her health problems are from a disorder/ disease. She may have that issue but the many issues she has are largely diet based and her symptoms would be better controlled by a more realistic diet. I have a lot of health issues from multiple car accidents and I focus on diet which has me off meds. Most medical issues are diet related or exacerbated by poor diet choices.

[@marenm8787]

I had a miscarriage just a month ago, too. So I wasn't quite sure if I was ready to watch this, but it actually helped a little. Thank you. :) Question: Could you make a Video about thyroid-problems in gynecological context? I for example struggle with Hashimoto and know it has impacted my cycle and my fertility.

[@maddygrace17]

I would love this also! And: I also experienced a recent miscarriage and empathize so deeply with your loss, I’m so sorry.

[@TheKanamesama]

I want this as well i have hypothyroidism and have suffered one miscarriage and am still trying to conceive again after 9 months. I would have a 1.5 month old now if i didnt miscarry and looking at babies that are that age right now kind of hurts but i cant help but love their tiny fingers and toes. I am on medication for my hypothyroidism and want more information on how to conceive with this disease/condition and how to make it a healthy pregnancy

[@alexandrayaverbaum5810]

I would love to listen to that as well! Living with Hashimoto since I was nine (i'm 26), and I really really want to have kids...I'm scared even to try, even though my endocrinologist says "it will be fine, we'll just increase the dosage of Levothyrox"... I'm really sorry for you loss, i'm sure you'll have a beautiful baby coming your way!

[@vnorman15]

I am currently in bed recovering from my 7th miscarriage. I was diagnosed with Hashimoto's Thyroiditis earlier this year. I would love to know more about its effect on my fertility. I am so sorry for those that are dealing with the same pain and disappointment I am. My heart goes out to all of you.

[@pidgeon3928]

I would love to see a video talking about endocrine issues! I have Hashimoto's and PCOS and I know those two diagnoses often accompany one another, so I would love to see if she could talk about how they interact and affect fertility

[@DeepBlue7]

Thank you for validating that a chemical pregnancy is actually a miscarriage. I had 15 of them before finally having a hysterectomy and oopherectomy due to adenomyosis, endometriosis, huge fibroids and endometriomas. Hearing "Well, at least it's not a real miscarriage" is a major slap in the face to the person suffering those losses.

[@jpn_119]

Totally agree, i was still very sad after mine happened...

[@StephanieMT]

My husband listened and made me talk about my feeling instead of keeping them to myself that really helped me through the two miscarriages i had back in 2016. The hardest part was trying to explain it to my children why there was no baby when i said there was one.

[@PyroGymnast]

That's the hardest part! 😥

[@lovealwayz950]

Its all very hard, but your husband is a very loving and caring partner.

[@womaninthewave]

Just reading these comments has blown my mind. I can’t believe how many other women have gone through what I’ve gone through (in their own way). My miscarriage felt shameful, like something that was my fault, that I had to hide, and that other’s can’t relate to. I was very wrong. Thank you always MDJ for bringing informative light into the world. Edit: had a miscarriage at age 17. Had no idea that the risk of that happening was so low

[@skylarrsullivan2294]

My doctor told me it was one in three.. after I told people about mine I was still shocked at how much it happens

[@Rose-jz6sx]

I'm so sorry that you had to go through that and feel that way for so long ❤

[@vernicethompson4825]

I think the most common cause of miscarriage is that something goes wrong during fetal development. It could be genetics, or it could be some miscommunication between cells. There are so many things necessary for a baby to develop properly and so many things that could go wrong that every healthy baby is really lucky to be born. No mother should blame herself for any miscarriage. She should be able to tell herself that the baby wasn't able to survive and no one can be sure exactly why. Yes, we are sorry to hear that you lost your baby. When you are joyfully expecting, any loss can be devastating, and those of us who have not experienced it cannot imagine what it must be like.

[@tarasnow-burch7203]

I was also 17. I had my rainbow at 24 (Not an easy pregnancy). I felt the same exact way. I also had a very nasty sister in law who knew what had happened and rubbed being pregnant in my face. My daughter would be 5 months older than hers now. It took me until this year to finally tell my mom. I was between 14-18 weeks along.

[@Lolee56]

Why would anyone be ashamed of a miscarriage? Thousands of women go through it

[@KayleeFarnes]

I miscarried my first child and it nearly broke me. I have 3 children now but each pregnancy terrified me of miscarrying again. It's something I'm constantly aware of, but feel much better about it after years of working through it. Thank you for talking about it.

[@kaitlinloyer350]

Today was the due date for the baby I miscarries in October. I’ve been having a rough day. Thanks for addressing this topic. ♥️

[@MamaDoctorJones]

I’m so sorry 💔😞

[@Rose-jz6sx]

I'm so sorry ❤ I hope you can be kind to yourself.

[@marafranklin6205]

My due date for my November baby would have been tomorrow 💕 Sending so much love and sympathy.

[@Melsie0381]

Much love and light to you. I miscarried in March and I’m dreading the date that they were supposed to arrive.

[@DreamsInWild]

"You didn't cause your miscarriage, and it's not something you need to work on" I burst into tears when you said this. This is something I really struggled with after my miscarriage, especially since we have been struggling with infertility for two years since. It is SO HARD to remind yourself that it wasn't your fault and that it just happens unpredictably. I was a mess after my miscarriage, but after I started opening up and talking about it I found so many other women had been through it too. Since I have started spreading awareness about infertility and pregnancy loss, I have had three friends reach out to me because they had gone through/were going through a miscarriage and didn't know who else to turn to. I don't wish miscarriage upon anyone, including myself, but I am so happy that I spoke up and was able to be there for these women. I very strongly believe in spreading information and awareness abut this topic, and I am very grateful that you made this video. So THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart.

[@jessicamcelroy7879]

Sitting here watching this and nursing my first baby (2 weeks old) trying not to bawl my eyes out thinking about how I would have coped had I lost her. Praying for all of you out there that had to go through that. I can't imagine that pain.

[@maddievictoria4947]

I've had two miscarriages myself, before I was blessed with my now 2 year old daughter and now am due with my second child in about a week (It's a boy!). I feared my capability to carry when I lost both babies.

[@29jgirl92]

Lovely to hear about your babies!! Hope all goes well with the new lil sprout coming soon!!

[@doodlewithme6299]

Congrats!

[@kleinesren7064]

I am so sorry for your losses! I hope your kids will bring you so much joy :) Good luck for getting your son into this world

[@fardareismai4495]

Your strength is so admirable! Congratulations on your second little baby! I hope both of them are and will continue to be a source of happiness in your life.

[@meljstephan]

The thought of having a miscarriage terrifies me. I cannot even imagine that pain. I've witnessed friends going through it and there strength they showed was unbelievable. If you have lived through this, I send you all my love.

[@DeepBlue7]

Thank you. I wouldn't wish this on anyone.

[@meljstephan]

@@DeepBlue7 You're in my thoughts ❤

[@DeepBlue7]

@@meljstephan Thank you 😘

[@uicornpoorainbows]

There was an ob at my hospital that replied with "oh well we don't count those, we only count the loss if it's after 6wks" when I said I had several chemical pregnancies.

[@endlessrachael]

I had a chemical pregnancy before I got pregnant. When I went in, she told me. Oh you probably weren't even pregnant. What?

[@lyss222]

My ob said something similar. They asked if my pregnancy with my daughter was my first, and I said "I had an early loss around 5 weeks in the previous cycle." She said they wouldn't count that. It was strange, it was like they dismissed it as not a real loss, and it made me feel silly for grieving it. To this day when I have to fill out a form saying how many pregnancies I've had, I'm not sure how to answer.

[@blommfleuriste]

That is so incensitive and kind of like brushing off some of your medical history IMO. The weird thing for me was when I got pregnant with my 2nd baby and my GP wrote a note to my OB that this was a referral for pregnancy #4 with 1 previous live birth. It felt so real that this was actually the 4th time I was pregnant in 2 years.

[@jessiwhitt870]

Yeah the midwife at the hospital told me that same thing when I went in with the first loss. She tried to tell me it was a false positive. The second loss was clinically known and recorded and my hcg was just so low and never rose and my dr knew I'd loose the pregnancy. By the time I went in with my full blown miscarriage everything was back at zero. There is hope though so don't give up. They don't know our strugvles. Continue to be strong and anything is possible.

[@anonm9341]

@@lyss222 I had a similar situation. I went to a general practitioner and the form asked about miscarriages, which I was unsure about because in my case the test came negative but it felt so intensely different from any other period cycle I've had. I just didn't know if should count or not because I had no real confirmation. I put 1 and when the doctor asked me about it, I explained and he said "oh well you're young so it probably wasn't a miscarriage. I wouldn't out that down on your future medical info." At the time of the miscarriage I was 20. Just felt so brushed aide like it shouldn't count. Just wanted you to know you're not the only one with that kind of story, unfortunately. I appreciate you sharing it.

[@justineharper3346]

I hate how taboo it is to talk about miscarriages in our culture. I had a chemical pregnancy and three miscarriages within a year while trying for my second child. It was the worst year of my life. I was constantly depressed, but felt like no on wanted to listen to me talk about my problems, so I kept them to myself. I didnt realize how common they were though until i had multiple women quietly approach me when they had one. I think I know almost as many women who have had one than that ones haven't.

[@PRDreams]

I tried watching it. I thought since it has been 17 years since my miscarriage happened I could, but I jus cried in the arms of my husband. Thanks for talking about this. It is super important. I still remember my due date was Dec 25th 😔💔

[@Rose-jz6sx]

I'm so sorry for your loss ❤

[@ozarkldy8117]

My daughter is 28wks into her 10th pregnancy. She has 4 living children. There has been loss and rainbows for over 9 years now. The full depth of the story is part awe, part heartbreak, all miracle. I can hardly wait for Christmas Eve this year! Blessings to all of you on this journey ❤

[@AA-yh4ws]

I'm so sorry for the losses your daughter has had in the past. But so happy she's this far along in her current pregnancy. I've just recently suffered my 2nd miscarriage, with no children, and felt a little helpless and hopeless, but comments like this give me some hope. I wish you and your daughter the best!

[@ozarkldy8117]

@@AA-yh4ws I am so sorry for your losses. I don't want to give anyone false hopes. She had massive scarring to her ovaries from a missed ruptured appendix that turned her abdominal cavity septic & nearly killed her. After the surgery, at only age 17 I had to tell her the damage was so significant the surgeon believed pregnancy would be all but impossible. She had wanted kids since she was little. Her story is amazing & very lucky. I pray your rainbow baby comes in some form someday that works for you and your family. Whether it comes from your body or not. No one can replace your lost babies. But I see you. You will always be the mother of those angel babies.🤗💞

[@liselottenormannsrensen7867]

I have had 3 miscarriages and have found peace in thinking that "mother nature" told me what was not to be, and it is nobodies fault💕💕Im now 54 years and have 3 children and I am soon to be a grandmother😍😍

[@Jadzebra]

I had a miscarriage at 17 and was to scared to talk to my gynecologist about it because of the general lack of information available to me at the time (not to mention my gyno at the time was very unsupportive of any question I had). Thank you for making videos like these and making information available like this. It will help a lot of young, sexually active people from being scared and uninformed. Edit: of course, as she always says consult your personal medical professionals and if you feel uncomfortable with them, don't be afraid to switch ❤

[@emilyblair6460]

Jadzebra I did too! I might have been 16 almost 17 I don’t remember but I’ve never really spoken about it but you’re not alone! ❤️

[@Jadzebra]

@@emilyblair6460I'm sorry to hear that but thank you for your support and for sharing your story

[@dutchik5107]

I had one at 18. Were you guys also like uhm happy? Cause i was. Altho i was already looking into an abortion.

[@kennyjohn3967]

It's very difficult to understand what women go through everyday and it hard to understand the pain women go through each time they try hard to conceive.. my wife suffered many years of miscarriage and also fibroids but after using Dr Ade's herbal medication I'm here to announce that my wife is 17weeks pregnant with no signs of miscarriage or side effects.. contact Dr Ade now on [e-mail] Instagram Dr_Ade909 WhatsApp number [phone]

[@jaydehall9731]

@@dutchik5107 I was in a similar situation at 17. I wasn't looking for an abortion but I felt like it was the best outcome for me. I was still really sad and felt guilty that I was relieved. But yeah best outcome.

[@willit344]

I had a missed miscarriage and the day before I was supposed to go for a d&c the placenta detached and I almost bled to death. It took me months and months to recover. I can remember being in hospital and losing my hearing. I couldn’t walk. I couldn’t tie my shoes. I passed blood clots the size of tennis balls. Eventually after an emergency procedure it stopped but it was the scariest moment of my life. I do not agree with doctors telling patients to go home and pass the fetus. It’s so so dangerous. So never mind the emotional roller coaster from losing a baby but then I had to deal with serious blood loss and the physical effects of that.

[@rochellecarey4790]

Thank you for this. May of 2019 I had a miscarriage and it was pretty traumatic since I almost died from blood loss. We were seeing a fertility doctor and after the miscarriage we stopped I couldn’t handle it. Well In April of 2020 we conceived naturally and found out on Mother’s Day

[@westzed23]

Congratulations. I wish all the best for your family. ❤ 💙

[@Rose-jz6sx]

Congratulations! 😍 May it be a healthy and uneventful pregnancy and birth ❤

[@n.trs1788]

Congratulations!!! I actually just went through the whole blood loss thing last week and not gonna lie it freaked me out but your comment makes me hopeful for the future!

[@kaehume4742]

The collabs with MDJ, Sierra, and Abbey’s kitchen have made me so happy lately! Three of my fave ladies🤩

[@MamaDoctorJones]

I absolutely love that I'm getting to talk with these incredible people and make a difference by providing reliable health education together!

[@devanarries]

Thank you for covering the pain. When I had my first missed misscarriage, the dr that I saw refused to give me a D&C when I asked for one. So I asked him what is it going to feel like, his answer was a normal period. I was 13 weeks with growth that stopped at 10 weeks, I hated that man for his answer. 3 days after I left his office I started to miscarry. I went threw 6 days of hours of contractions, usually 7-8 hours a day then it would die off. It hurt worse then when I was induced with my daughter. No pain meds and no other info given me and sent on my merry way.

[@Hannahnana-nana89]

I'd really like some men to experience the pain of childbirth so that they can understand how women feel when they go through child birth.

[@pinkymoo]

I suffered a missed miscarriage this week and was sent home by the FEMALE midwife at the early pregnancy unit in my local hospital with pretty much the same words "it will feel like a heavy period, period pain, blood clots." I've given birth before and am used to heavy periods. What I experienced was close to birth than a period. It's not just a man thing. I think that they obviously understand that not every woman has experienced childbirth before but I think it's disingenuous to say to a woman that it's just like period pain when it's may well not be.

[@TaylorCatherine]

My loss also hurt more than my induction with my first 💘

[@DScott8732]

i find it odd, one day KZbin recommended your channel last year. i am forever single male. i find your channel fascinating and very educational. why? i have no idea.

[@mycatisjudgingyou]

I'm not male but I don't ever plan to have kids and I've been subbed for like a year too. I just love her content! 😂

[@mayart2688]

well it could juste be being curious of a human function, and sharing human stories

[@isabelleblanchet3694]

I'm sure you do know people that live with periods, pregnancies, uterus, etc. Being informed is never a bad thing.

[@laurensanders2692]

You can never be too educated on the female anatomy! Thank you for staying educated so you can understand the hardships the women in your life most likely go through or have gone through. You rock!

[@DScott8732]

Lauren Sanders sadly I have only dated twice in my entire life. Last date was 16 years ago. I am not an attractive man but I have a high empathy level. Just never got me anywhere with women. I gave up a long time ago. Now I am 47 and forever single. Too many regrets.

[@lekiscool]

I refer to abortion as medical miscarriage because of how stigmatized abortion is. Even if its a decision made by the pregnancy person. Its a traumatic experience.

[@kateNwilson]

This is something I will use going forward. I like it. Seems like it takes some of the burden off the mama

[@katherinecha3179]

Exactly someone with a brain said it thankyou!

[@cberryman1414]

It is very traumatic. I am glad I am not alone. 🙂

[@katherinecha3179]

@@cberryman1414 same we get so judged they dont understand luckily dr Jones understands and has compassion i know she would have to because shes a doctor

[@jessiwhitt870]

I'm not sure when this was posted but thank you for this video. I experienced two losses in a row before becoming pregnant with my daughter. I am currently 34 weeks and everyday I'm carrying her is a blessing despite being miserable physically. I was thinking about my looses recently and how the physical pain was unexpected. I am coming up on the yearly anniversary in a few days. Anyways, to all you women out there please don't give up hope. We are strong women and our voices deserve to be heard. It really helps to talk about it when you're ready. I never knew getting pregnant would be a struggle because noone talks about it. People need to come together and still celebrate their angel babies as if they were born. We need one another in times of darkness as much as light. I have been on pins and needles this whole time and I'm still nervous even at 34 weeks but I keep going and trying to stay very positive and thankful. I wish you all the best.

[@itsyolislife3149]

You should do a video on getting pregnant later in life 30s and 40s

[@messybunonabudget8773]

I would love if she did that! I just turned 30 and still feel like I want a baby “someday”, but we are two years into entrepreneurship and I couldn’t possibly take on a pregnancy or the caring for a child in the foreseeable future. But I don’t want to not try now and regret it later.

[@mellowmorningsasmr3770]

My mom had twin girls at 42 and had a baby boy at 44, she’s obviously really fertile lmao she has 9 kids and I’m the oldest at 22 And they both had to be C-sections they were really tough for her

[@itsyolislife3149]

@@messybunonabudget8773 I'm turning 30 in December. I'm a single mama to a 5 year old. I definitely want more just need to meet someone first 😂

[@itsyolislife3149]

@@mellowmorningsasmr3770 wow that's awesome

[@spacks7]

I had my 2 children in my 30's 💜

[@courtneycullison2095]

I’m glad you’re talking about this. I had a late miscarriage at 17 weeks in 2017 and people are so uncomfortable talking about it

[@jessicaraelene5276]

I'm so happy that Sierra did end up getting her pregnancy and having her beautiful little girl Grace and she's such a great mom.

[@eveslater4987]

This is a hard topic for many people, thank you for making it so we don’t have ask those personally affected

[@ktebo1985]

I had two missed miscarriages in a row. Both we saw a healthy heartbeat and then a few weeks later the hearts were no longer beating..Had my baby girl in March and though I had a ton of anxiety with her pregnancy... She was worth it. Don't give up ❤️

[@claudiagarcia6406]

I just had my bby 2 weeks ago and went to my check up just to find out i have post partum labial adhesion.. Could you make a video explaining why it happens? Im pretty sure not a lot of us know that this is a thing ... LIKE SO SHE COULD SEE PLEASE 🙏

[@momosaku16]

had to google that

[@claudiagarcia6406]

@@momosaku16 yes girl .. It's something they don't even mention but it happens. I hope she makes a video on how and why it happens so future mommies could know about this

[@mj5697]

I’ve had a few miscarriages. My most recent was the same week Sierra had hers 😪 her talking about it made me feel less alone. Not enough people talk about it.

[@averysmallcloud]

Could you do a video on the expectation on women to have children? Touching on asexuality in a video at some point would also be great. As someone who is ace/doesn’t ever want kids and meets a lot of “you just haven’t found the right person” and “you’re young”/“you’ll change your mind” comments, id like to see your perspective on it. My doctor looked at me like I was crazy when I told her that I’m asexual, and between that and not wanting kids a lot of times I feel broken, like there’s something wrong with me to not have any desire for those things.

[@ConniJo]

I personally do want kids, but I don't think not wanting them makes you broken or anything like that. People telling you that you are wrong for not wanting kids can just go f.....iddle themselves. Seriously.

[@Emily-hd9sm]

I'm not asexual but I never, ever want kids, and I'm lucky enough to have a significant other who feels the same way. I definitely hate the "you're young, you'll change your mind" arguments because I may be young, but I've known for about 6 years now that I don't want kids, and I've only become more certain with time. I'm in college and the future is something I think about a lot, and in no iteration of my future do I see myself with children. I've decided that I'm not the one who's broken, it's the people who cannot respect other people's lives experiences and the desires that arise from them who have a problem 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@brittany7288]

I knew I didn't want kids even before I knew/accepted I was on the ace spectrum. The expectation to have children is frustrating and the comments from people can be so rude. I'm sorry you've had people make those kinds of comments to you.

[@westzed23]

I am asexual and in the past have been uncertain about having a baby. I did not know I was asexual until a few years ago. I do not have children and I am totally fine with that. My question is, if someone is asexual and wants to have a baby, what support the medical community can give? There are so many variables.

[@marus815]

I'm so sorry your doctor was unsopportive. My ginecologist was the first person I told I was asexual,and she was amazing about it. But she is also a sex therapist, so maybe that helped

[@SnowingAngels]

It's been more than three years since my miscarriage, and the kindness and compassion with which you talk about it in this video brought me to tears yet again. I guess I was unlucky to be in that 1% to have a miscarriage in the second trimester. We had just made the happy announcement to all our friends and family, literally the day before. The pain was unimaginable. After I started spotting, I was sent home from the emergency room with a careless shrug from a young doctor who told me that "these things happen" and to just take some paracetamol. I was passed out on the bathroom floor a few hours later, got picked up by an ambulance and rushed off to the emergency hospital in the middle of the night. The whole ordeal was terrifying, horrific and traumatic both for me and my husband (just imagine, it's been three years and we still have not dared to try again). We filed a complaint against the young doctor who turned me away, and received an official apology from the hospital. In my opinion, he should take a good long sabbatical and come back only when he's ready to take his patients seriously.

[@hollirobinson7879]

I've had 5 miscarriages now, one caused by coil the rest unexplained, all around 11 weeks. So happy to see people talking about such a heartbreaking subject xx

[@CatBarefield]

Very elegant of you to introduce yourself as “doctor Jones” instead of your usual intro :)

[@emelia33]

I’ve spent over 10 years trying to not get pregnant. Now that I am happily married, it scares me that I won’t be able to fall pregnant. I think it’s incredible that Sierra was so open with her audience. It takes lots of courage to do that & I am in awe of her.

[@karenliggett6535]

I was with someone for almost thirteen years and we had two miscarriages after my second miscarriage I could not put myself through that again and unfortunately never had children.

[@andreahall7666]

"You didn't cause you miscarriage" that when i started crying, its something i need to hear. Its been 7 years since my miscarriage and ive always felt maybe it was me that had caused it. I have had a child successfully since then but i love him so much that i felt guilty that i couldnt carry my first baby.

[@mjay6317]

I had a miscarriage on May 7th (D&C on May 8th) and when I left the doctors office the day we found out, I remember getting in my car and looking through your videos to see if you’d made one on miscarriages. I’m so happy you’re discussing this topic ❤️ Thank you.

[@amymiller1782]

I had a missed misscarriage in July and I'm so thankful that I found your channel and this video. Thank you both for all that you both do! It really does help people!

[@amberhennagir7462]

After 2 back to back miscarriages after having my daughter in 2017.. I’m 35 weeks pregnant with my rainbow baby boy 💙 My heart goes out to all the mommas suffering through miscarriages.

[@whitneymichael5584]

As someone who has had three miscarriages, thank you. You had me in tears when you said "you're not broken". It is so easy to feel that way. ❤

[@Ashes2493]

I went through my miscarriage at the end of June. I was only 8 weeks along but it was so hard especially being a labor and delivery nurse. Thank you for posting this video, its helpful to hear the words, "You are not broken". I hope to have a rainbow baby one day 💕

[@stephsviolin]

I've had two miscarriages in the last 9 months so I wasn't really emotionally ready for this video but I'm so glad I watched it. Information is so important, and it feels like no one talks about it until it has happened to them. But once you start talking about it, you realize just how common it is. My first was a chemical pregnancy that ended on its own five days after our positive test, and my second was anembryonic that made it all the way to nine weeks before we opted for an MVA. Because I never saw a heartbeat in either case, I never felt like I lost a child, so I felt awkward and even embarrassed when doctors and friends expressed condolences and recommended counseling. But it turns out that mourning unmet expectations and the loss of control is a complicated process that can still take a severe emotional toll.