Does Physical Attraction Really Matter? | Kingsley Okonkwo & Mildred Kingsley-Okonkwo

[@bloosomojo6237]

I support Pastor Mildred because I wasn't attracted to my husband when I first saw him, but he has other attributes that swept me off my feet and today to God's glory we are 27 years together and our marriage is sweeter by the day.

[@blandinamyinga9489]

Glory to God

[@nursemgbachiamarachi]

I’m so happy for you….. congratulations to you

[@thywillolufunkeolayemi7075]

I tap from this

[@ponijada3697]

Awesome I Tap in this marriage, my portion the same in Jesus name Amen.

[@johnokonkwo9729]

Other attributes like his pocket?? Na question oooo .. lol, just kidding, but seriously, a man's pocket compensates for his physically short comings o, look at akpororo and his wife, I mean

[@chizynweze4165]

This is so true, I married someone who is not really phisically attractive to me. I did because he's so respectful, understanding, caring, tolerant & cool headed ( honestly, I'm short tempered and he can manage my temperament) . I'm so free with him like he's my biological brother. I had to cut off my female circle / friends back then because they kept mocking me that I must be blind to be dating him ( sincerely, he wasn't really that handsome / cute looking like I wanted back then but we just connect so well). We are now married for 12 years ( with 2 kids) and I'm very happy till date I chose him because I have rest of mind ooo and best Father to our children. Thank God, I didn't let my friends talk me out of the relationship 14 years ago. Funny enough, I no longer see him anymore as being unattractive physically as time progresses, I just love him so much despite our once in a while couple little little querrel which I think it's normal.

[@blessingOlu-A]

This comment right here ❤❤

[@sakerlyfri5182]

Such a beautiful comment

[@newgenerationmanwithsegunbash]

Wise woman 😊

[@krayonnesilva390]

Sometimes all these qualities you mentioned are what makes a man to marry late because of the way girls reason and perceive things

[@fabulousswag6683]

The misunderstanding often stems from women misconceiving what the concept of Physical or Natural attraction really is, in the context of a female,in contrast to a male and being naturally attracted to the male. Attraction is asymmetrical in male and female. What a man desires in woman in terms of physical attraction is not same with a woman in man. It is due to the reason that what she needs and desires is the nature and structure of his mind,in terms of his ability to provide her security,freedom and leadership. Can't be measured, and she do not have the tools to see and talk about it,ie articulate it. So on a norm,we do default to using what we can see and talk about, which is where the physical or material comes into play. Naturally a female that prioritizes beauty/looks,ie physical beauty in a mate for marriage,is operating out of her feminine nature and energy,thus she is out of her natural order. And overtime will likely get stuck or loose the interest in it, and also will not likely have a deep rooted and seated sense of purpose,self and reason for the relationship. The marriage will overtime change from a state of excitement and happiness out of the excitement of her sexual desire and interest (fun and pleasure), that drives her to prioritize and choose a man based on physical attraction of Beauty/Looks.

[@emmanuelsamuel2283]

Getting along is better than getting aroused...so powerful

[@momentwithdupsy887]

Physical attraction is important in marriage but not the most important thing to put in with…marry someone that trigger your hormones, marry someone that tickles your fancy, someone you like to some extents bcos you can’t grow what is absent

[@debbieforareason364]

amen to that!

[@charmy_sikhondze]

Be rigid with internals but be flexible with externals 🙌🏾

[@mrbennett]

Getting along is more important than getting aroused. Bars!!!

[@hernandezebot1887]

😂 it’s the facial expression for me 😂😂😂

[@apatavictoria557]

Can we take a minute to appreciate Pastor M’s beautyyyyy🥹

[@Ceciliasjourney]

She’s even more beautiful in person 😫🥺❤️

[@consistanceplace8031]

There's hope for the short. All short people gather here. There's hope for us. PK and PM thanks for sharing

[@enugumabel6419]

😅😅😅 your comment got me laughing. Congratulations to your renew HOPE oo

[@slimpilot920]

😹😹😹

[@musahanny4187]

There is hope for us o 😂 let’s gather here 😂

[@neemajohnson7508]

😂😂😂😂

[@anuoluwapoademuyiwa]

"There's hope for you Mr. Short. Someone is going to marry you after this message." Preach it pastor!

[@nahambohilma8598]

😂😂😂😂

[@elizabethadebimpe2240]

😂😂😂

[@88niteowl88]

There is a man pursuing me who is shorter, but very handsome nonetheless. Despite his height, he makes me feel safe emotionally, spiritually, and physically. I will consider being in a relationship with him if he makes his intensions clear.

[@dollarzakua6198]

​@@88niteowl88I pray he does soon

[@heritageojo7214]

@@88niteowl88pastor Kay said something like this will happen😅

[@oghenerounuame4976]

The friendship between the both of you is undeniable … I tap from this grace 😊

[@esenamawudey1619]

I agree with Pastor M. Physical attraction matters but it shouldn't be the only factor.

[@obiemmanuel2782]

This is just too powerful. Every single young person in the world needs to watch and listen to this. I am in that stage of my life where I have to make the decision of a life partner, and this video just confirms everything that has been going on in my head. Thank you so much for putting this out here. God bless you both tremendously.❤❤❤

[@fehlicitah]

I truly truly do love the honesty in pastor Mildred. Makes this more lively and authentic .

[@geegarleck2131]

I so much love this couple❤, Thank you so much. I've been married for 12yrs and I don't bother about the physical look rather the inward. And I must say God blessed me with a good man that that i wasn't really attracted to at the beginning I thought he was fat and I was scared he will grow bigger later in life. But to the glory of God my son looks so much like him and I always get alot of compliment whenever I go out with him. To crown it all God had also bless us with so much wealth. I thank God I look beyond the physical when we first met

[@chinesewithsarah8761]

My prayer is that God should make my husband my spec so when he comes i won’t struggle too much, Amen 🙏

[@kimadiggs237]

Amen 🙏🙏🙏

[@debbieforareason364]

amen!

[@aisosaosakue476]

Amen

[@paparazicreations]

How do you not love Pastor Kingsley and Mildred ? They are simply beautiful 😍 ❤ They are such a blessing to our generation and generations to come. The testimony of their Marriage is a blessing to the body of Christ. The friendship, the love, the compatibility, the peace, joy amongst them is excellent !! Many thanks, God bless you more Sir/Ma.

[@emmanuelogbe6809]

As in. So beautiful

[@ritakane2010]

For sure physical attraction is important, you should like who you want to spend your life with, it's one of many factors to put in mind when preparing to get married.

[@asherchukwurah]

From this conversation you can tell thatching pastor Kingsley-okonkwo and pastor Mildred really love each other and they're GENUINELY enjoying their marriage ❤

[@ajuadanielangefac411]

“A lot of things people think are their spec are not their spec. They were specked into us”😂😂😂 Loved this conversation😍 Pastor K was sha winning this on this “He brings the light out of darkness”🤣 God is indeed a merciful God

[@g.o_5527]

I agree with pastor mildred especially in the first 1/3 of the video. While you shouldn’t choose based on physical looks mainly, it’s necessarily to be attracted to your partner. I find that sex can seem like a gift or chore if you’re not at all attracted to your partner. At least have a certain level of attraction to work with. If it’s at zero and you’ve searched your mind and prayed about it and it doesn’t change, please free that person to go find who will like them as they are. God cannot give us what we can’t handle biko.

[@g.o_5527]

I’m emphasizing on making sure that you’re not led by what has been programmed into you. Sometimes there are just people that we don’t feel that physical pull towards at all. I don’t think we’re meant to be attracted to every kind of look there is. Attraction is necessary, it’s the first thing you have when you see someone but it’s not what should be a leading factor when making a choice of a partner BUT at least have some level of attraction to start with. Shalom.

[@nahambohilma8598]

I 💯💯 agreed with all u have said 🙌🙌

[@kashopatishikongo3110]

Pastor K's point of view is so loving and inclusive, and it's a nice compliment to Pastor Mildred who always keeps it real. I appreciate the two of you.😇😇😇😇

[@ellae3685]

I love this video 💗 It’s like being a fly on the wall watching 2 best friends just gossip “in the Lord”. Love it ❤ Thank you PK and PM for sharing 🙏🏾

[@maureenonwutuebe6102]

God bypass my emotion and do what's best for me 🙏

[@eddyeddy7931]

AMEN 🙏

[@eleojodorcas8192]

I must confess , I came up here confused on what to do next. Thank you Pst and Pst . Mrs Kingsley Okonkwo. You guys answered all my questions and even added Jara on it. This is exactly what I needed to hear for the next phase of my life. Thanks for being so much a blessing. I love you guys. May God continue to keep your marriage.

[@mrbennett]

Be rigid on the internals, and flexible on the externals.

[@kimadiggs237]

Awwwww☺️☺️☺️ I already admire the way the Pastor and his wife are playful with each other before going into the video.❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@melissakahari3913]

This was really helpful and enlightening. Have been wanting a 'picture-perfect' man but I know now that that's not what God values and that's not what will make the marriage last. Thank you and bless you both for shedding light on this topic.

[@anniecielto6858]

Pastor Mildread is saying how she felt. I do agree with her. As time passes you get into each other in the relationship. You cannot be close minded🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼❤️

[@funmiolaiya2203]

As a fat person,not everyone likes me and that's ok. From your teachings,i know why i love tall men,my dad and uncles were tall,mu brothers are taller too,so i guess that's where that came from. It actually doesn't matter if the inner qualities match. I'm big on friendship too and being able to have meaningful discussions.

[@odijieeghonghon2014]

I love that ma'am,"meaningful discussions".

[@Naga_Evy]

Must be rigid on the internals and flexible on the externals❤... What an enlightenment!

[@inuolabenjamin3520]

Pastor K & Pastor M your relationship story is so similar to that of my husband and i. I celebrate the grace of God on you both. Your contents are always educative and a blessing. Thank you for all you do😍

[@charlottepauline3013]

I just love this couple. Match made in heaven. Very good teaching which no doubt helps alot of us who listen to the both of you. I pray that God continues to impart more wisdom into your ministry. Pastor Kingsley you are a handsome man and pastor mildred you are so so beautiful❤❤❤ you both.

[@omajennie8980]

This is the video sooo many singles including me have been waiting for. Becauseeeeeee it's actually difficult to compromise physically for so many persons, except for some ladies o the guy is very influential and rich they will or might compromise..

[@kosisojuliet2721]

Growing up, I was very chubby and I never saw it as a problem until people kept telling me I was fat blah blah blah . I nearly got into depression but right now I really dnt care, I am perfect

[@kimadiggs237]

Appreciate yourself because you are God’s creation. It is your responsibility to love yourself no matter what.Just keep aspiring to your best self🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@aropmaureen7898]

I love watching u both... It gives me butterflies 🤣🥰🤭. God bless u my mentors for always sending out words of wisdom 💯

[@oluchiukwuagu1472]

I agree with Pastor K and I understand clearly what he means. People are so focused on the Physical attraction that they leave out on the other kinds of attraction that are. Also, be rigid on the inward and flexible on the outward. Also get to look finer when you connect a whole lot more on the inward. ❤

[@henrymelchizedek]

Thanks to pst K and Mildred. Mental attraction is what defines me. Renewing your mind 🙌🙌

[@oluwatobisjinadu720]

Honest conversation Pastor k and mama❤. I must say that I had similar experience too and what saved me now in enjoying my marriage is the MIND Renewing. I would have missed it. I would have been held captive in fulfilment. Setting the things which are eternal higher than things which were temporarily seen below helped me in making the right Decisions. This is just explicit enough🎉

[@goodnessonwuachu4271]

With this flow between PK & PM, why won't I believe them? 😍

[@patriciaiyawe1202]

Thank you Pastor Kingsley and Pastor Mildred. Loads of Love to both of you. I listened with rapt attention and gained a whole lot of right info. You were both funny and witty. Loved your sense of humor. You made us laugh a lot. This was so insightful. Cannot thank you enough for all God is using you to do in the whole world. Jesus Christ is Lord, Amen

[@missconnieabiaw1921]

Watching from Ghana. God bless you pastor &Mrs

[@patriciaiyawe1202]

I really look forward to meeting you in person, attend your church services, seminars conferences and have access to your books to buy them for myself, my children and many others.

[@okpoeiavuablessed5595]

Be rigid with the internal qualities (godliness, kindness, gentle) and flexibke with the external (height, complexion, skin colour)

[@chikaibe4293]

May God continue to bless you for this video. As PST Mildred asked the question" what if someone decide to wait it out? I was about saying depends on your age o before PST K answered it. The issue of spec is always an issue..let us be truthful

[@maryalabi9255]

Rigid on the internals...flexible on the externals, that stuck to me. I remember stories from my mum's time, many times, the parents were matchmaking their sons and daughters. Family was key, character was important, and that was their 'spec'. However, I've seen Christian couples struggling with physical attraction after marriage (scary!), so I think i agree with Pst Kingsley that we should reduce our world standards, but with God's spec. But Sir! Some are also naturally attracted to short, ugly, fat or pot belly 😂, so I also think people shouldn't be 'pressured' to settle due to age. God help us all

[@chiiinazaa]

Most gainful youtube video ever❤️ God bless you Mr & Mrs Okonkwo

[@maureenonwutuebe6102]

Rigid with the internal and flexible with the external 👌👌👌

[@jeslordischus-wealthkwarte2833]

Thanks so much Esteemed Pastor Kingsley and Pastor Mildred❣

[@onyediekepaschaline7183]

All these stunning qualities for pastor mildred.I go love ooo🥰🥰🥰. Thank you so much for this pastor K and pastor M.I'm always inspired by you.God really sent you to help our generation .I pray for more of God's wisdom for you🥰🥰 I love youuuuuu

[@rometheceoo]

In the old days. Our parents never seek physical appearance or how tall a guy is but how respectful, caring, supportive and loving he is.

[@charityetoemchukwu1386]

Be rigid with the internal and flexible with the external. Getting along is always better than getting aroused❤

[@fabulousswag6683]

Some of this catchy wordplays looks and sounds good often time on a face value. But upon critical examination and application of context makes no sense. Both of them,ie Arousal and Unity(getting along) are fundamental and their comparison is a misnomer. The AROUSAL is about the Fire-within, to arouse,or to awaken or to lite up the fire of creativity within,to initiate movement or creation. The emphasis is FIRE, and without it ignited,aroused or inspired no initiation,motivation nor creation, including the desire and will to get along. Then getting along,is about Shared-Value, common Interest and unity of purpose. Without the enlisted the getting along is tolerated and endured,and not desired and willed.

[@tonystark701]

@@fabulousswag6683 He never said getting aroused isn't important. Be calming down, princess.

[@joshuaebhoria8046]

I'm an investor 😂😂.. this was just so beautiful to listen to as a single. Thank you coach ❤

[@sharonotiende7134]

Pastor Kingsley was still so 🔥🔥🔥🔥....I love the throwbacks

[@TheMomLifee]

This Is the video I have been waiting for! Thank you so much Pator K and Pastor Mildred. My eyes are open now. I have been in this same situation for years and have struggled with my emotions... this is gold!

[@godwinvalentine4510]

Freedom has come

[@eniolamary5579]

I learnt a lot from this. I've not always run by physical attraction (I've always felt there were other internal qualities to look out for) and this message justifies my views in every way! Love you both, God bless you sir and ma!

[@daphnekaburara9663]

Thank you. I have been saying this to our young people! I'm so glad to hear you sharing all these beautiful nuggets! So heart warming. Kind regards from Uganda!🥂🤝👏👏👏👏👏👏 And yes, let people get married! 🎉

[@teshajonas4465]

Glory to God i'm really blessed by this video special thanks to Pastor K and Pastor M i can feel the love between the both of u please continue to make more inspiring videos like this one stay blessed❤❤❤❤

[@Gladysyoun]

I agree for both parties to be beautiful within, but we all need to look good for each other.

[@omiwolebukunmi4299]

God continually renews you, bringing out the freshness you never saw in each other at first. Thank you for making the right choice of each other and for making this real to us Sir and Ma.

[@Kayodeaiyedun]

Thank you so much Pastor Mr and Mrs, You will not understand what you've done for me with this video. Would love to share my story but this is in the public domain, wouldn't want her to know my struggle before I share it with her.😉 But yes this was all I needed. Thank you, thank you. God bless this ministry more❤❤❤

[@zakarimaryam9992]

Pastor Kingsley and Pastor Mildred be making want to marry today 😍 More grace and love to you both. Thank God for your life.

[@IamEfexoxo]

I hoped for you guys to make this video, like I literally have been waiting cause I’ve been searching for Godly wisdom on this…and to my surprise you did. Thank you so much, I’ve gotten my answer

[@songbird2365]

Sending love to the both of you from America 🇺🇸.

[@chisom5601]

I cannot grow tired of this heaven-made couple...you have everything to offer. I pray to be with the man God has panned for me...Amen Thanks for sharing

[@igwechikodi8910]

Wow! I love this. I have learnt a lot. God help me to make the best choice. Amen

[@testimonyunique7964]

Thank you so much pastor K and pastor M. This is so timely,I was so confused but after this video I am affirmative. Thank you for blessing many lives including mine

[@tmtv9672]

It’s PK’s sense of humor for me😂 PM go just dey laugh everyday 🤣

[@FonAchu-v7o]

Pastor K, with the way im following you, if I miss it, I go cry😅. chaiii Im so blessed

[@Scientistkayy]

The way she looks at Pst Kingsley😍

[@priscillaojumu4425]

Asin ehnnn

[@oluwasean]

Sir, I want to be able to look at my husband the way Pastor M looks at you ❤

[@nahambohilma8598]

Awwn 😊such a sweet compliment 😊

[@veronalipka3597]

That admiration will come naturally if your husband is a truly godly man. I pray you will be blessed with such a one. PVEL.

[@preciousdree9732]

This is one of the most enjoyable relationship talk sessions of your programs that I've come across. I like the fact that you were being really human and honest, this is a crucial topic and a biggie in relationships today. Thank you for the clearity ❤

[@nhadi7]

God bless you for the work you are doing. I hope people are learning. I wish i had heard this years ago then i wouldn’t be going through what I am going through.

[@mamellomphahlele6965]

Oh wow! ❤ Pastor K is the real deal! 👌🏾 So so insightful! 🙌🏾

[@valerieamoni574]

This was a very helpful and blessed message..thank you so much pastor k and pastor M

[@KingdomCrusadersTribe]

My dad married a dark woman (my mum) because his mum was dark! My brothers prefer dark women too 😂 half the house is fair btw. I loved this. God bless Pastor K & M ❤

[@Bob_Sunday]

I find dark ladies❤️ more attractive than the fair ones. I don't why but I just discovered that dark ladies move me more.

[@matthewagbonrofo139]

Pastor Mildred is speaking for the majority. "She is saying the mind of many of us"

[@funkejames4223]

You are doing what you know how to do best..God bless you more and more and your minustry in Jesus mighty name 🙏 ❤️ 🙌

[@anniecielto6858]

You both are perfect together. Best friends. 🙌🏼🙌🏼❤️

[@brendakateka3409]

There is hope for you mr short 😂😂😂I have been waiting for a video like this from you two, very insightful and mind renewing indeed 🙌🏾

[@michelleadebiyi2341]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@cryptoairdroplover7172]

I think that attraction is naturally an integral part of two people being in union but like you said it is over valued and misconstrued by all that tall, dark and fare. For my take on this subject... For example, if my parents bring a woman for me to marry and I'm not turned off by her appearance, that is attraction for me even though I don't have butterflies in my stomach which is part of the misconstrue of attraction... the real attraction is made stronger by the personality and ideals and values. Wetin do your voice pastor Mildred? Was it praise and worship?

[@Esther-vr8fc]

I love the friendships between both of you.❤❤ Be rigid with the internal quality and be flexible with the external qualities of a man or woman 💪💪

[@mirriamphiri7527]

I know you said it as a joke but on the issue of couples that are both fair, but the their children mmmmm and I know of another couple who's not so fair but they're children are wow......indeed God works in mysterious ways........enjoyed this session, I love how you guys are friends and so comfortable around each other. It feels like just watching a couple gisting.... Love you Pastor M and Pastor K. You are really touching and changing lives.

[@blessingukamaka1583]

I didn't see get the notification of this 😢but happy I still see this. Much love from Uromi Edo state

[@Chef-Veeofthebuj]

Please I literally laughed all through this messages😂, whatttttt, pastor K said who will marry the short, so there’s hope for us after all😢. But I’m truly blessed by this message. Thank you ma/sir🙏

[@antikeundmoderne1092]

But it’s much better to be with someone who you’re initially attracted to, for the other persons sake, if not it would only put that person into a state of performance, wanting to attain acceptance either consciously or unconsciously, they would literally have to pass through barred wires, jump through fire trying to meet up with the other’s standards. For me I’ll rather go for a woman who already finds me attractive, it becomes easier to relate with each other than when it’s a partial one sided attraction. No one got time raising someone’s interest and attraction from the scratch just because you don’t meet up with their attraction level. Better to walk away and find someone who already has it Just as you do them then you both can pick up from there. You can see the way pastor Mildred expressed it. Telling him to grow a beard, carry an Afro and all that. Just because he didn’t meet her attraction level, no one got time for all that. you only end up literally living for that person and when you deviate from those things it becomes a problem.

[@Oluseyi_TMG]

This is really an amazing topic and i enjoyed it. One thing i am grateful for is the fact that i am yet to make a decision on this area. thanks for sharing your experience, thanks for being real, thanks for being genuine sir and ma. GOD bless you.

[@kayeononyeka]

I really like pastor Mildred perspective about why women are more inclined to talk and handsome. Very practical

[@lidyaopukol8941]

Character and hospitality always win the game, ones awoman stop honoring the man the beauty evaporats

[@sarahiliya-sw9qy]

Omo I love this video 💯 thank you Pastor K and Pastor M .... I have learned alot and ready to apply it by the help of the holy spirit.

[@GabrielleIvanna]

I like how they are saying the truth wow!

[@FunmiOdedoyin]

Very sound and balanced teaching. Thank you! We love your love!

[@chikaisrael5430]

Mama said it's fine in wedding pictures 😂🤣🤣

[@chituruwoke451]

Really leant a lot. Thanks to pst K n M. You're God sent. More wisdom and knowledge I pray so you will b a blessing to your generation.

[@kokolyonga3135]

Thank you for this Pastors KINGSLEY & MILDRED

[@anniecielto6858]

Character is very important for me🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼👏🏼👏🏼❤️

[@AntoniaNantale-ng5et]

Lord we thank you for this family for the good messages thy have shared with us ,Father lord may you bless them in their whole life In Jesus's Christ's name

[@aminatozohu6156]

Thank you pst and pst Mrs Kingsley for this clarity. God bless your ministry in Jesus name

[@judesamson7452]

Pastor Kingsley Okonkwo... God bless you so so so so much... Young people both ladies and gentlemen please take this seriously... As I type this I'm at verge of marrying someone that is a bliss yet I almost lost her because of the physical limitations as it concerns physiques... 🤦🏾‍♂️🤦🏾‍♂️ Thank you sir... I follow you both Pastor and Pastor Mrs Kingsley Okonkwo for life as you follow... ❤❤

[@favouritetouchblessing8764]

God bless u pastor Kay I think it's time to propose to her

[@jaypower2859]

Thank you so much Pastors Kay & Mildred. This is so timely. God bless you more