(spoiler alert) Grace and her father in the car. A question of arrogance and human taming.
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@angelito21443 жыл бұрын
"You forgive others with excuses that you would never in the world permit for yourself". I saw this movie at the cinema in 2003, and at this point I had the complete feeling that James Caan had turned towards me to tell me that. This single sentence changed my life in many aspects. I can't count how many times since then I've remembered it when someone is malicious or negligent with me or others, and I can't count how many times I´ve repeated this to my sisters and my friends. "Don't do others what you don't want for yourself" is just one side of the coin. The other says "Don't permit others what you don't permit to yourself"
@1chienandalou2 жыл бұрын
I know exactly what you mean. It was an eye opener for me too. And then I had my eyes opened a few more times since. And I come back to it and ask myself would I forgive myself if I has done this. Or “was their best good enough?”
@bigtupa5613 Жыл бұрын
and thats why i kill everyone who wronged me (:
@DrummerBoyJason11 жыл бұрын
Tarantino was right, if von Trier had written this for the stage he would have won a Pulitzer.
@sjuninho10004 ай бұрын
When and where he say that ?
@MamadNobariАй бұрын
@@sjuninho1000 Look up "Quentin Tarantino's Favorite 20 Movies from 1992 to 2009" around 2:14
@simplejacko13 жыл бұрын
"...but you must maintain your own standards. You owe them that, you owe them that!" Exactly.
@Carmina2005 Жыл бұрын
As a social worker I have worked with many victims of whatever situation or crime you can imagine. Many times they themselves enabled said situations by tolerating and being "patient and understanding". They might not be to blame, but they did have responsibility - they owed to themselves and did not deliver. Victims can indeed be very arrogant. When I tell people that, they call me a victim-blamer, but those people are usually arrogant too.
@mortenovergaard7397 Жыл бұрын
a lot of people make really bad excuses for their wrongdoings. truth is.. they just don't want to change.
@Naampetra9 күн бұрын
Covert narcissists like to use victimhood too
@attyjosh Жыл бұрын
Kidman was effortlessly brilliant in this.
@travisbickle38357 ай бұрын
Yeah one of her best my perosnal favourite
@attyjosh7 ай бұрын
@travisbickle3835 I understood why it wasn't even campaigned for Best Actress cuz first, it's an experimental film that's so outside the comfort zone of the Academy and second, her bigger film Cold Mountain was the focus for her supposed 3rd Oscar nod. And speaking of CM, I just recently saw it again, and she wasn't bad at all as Ada Monroe. As a matter of fact, I very much prefer her performance than Hughes and Morton who are both supporting and even that of Keaton's. I guess coming from a fresh win for her very transformational turn in The Hours, she raised the bar for herself. But in CM, her portrayal is full of nuances and subtleties. I must admit 20 years ago I was underwhelmed, but now, I dare say she was brilliant as Ada.
@jimmymeridian51742 жыл бұрын
Father forgive them for they know not what they do.
@PoetryAddict812 жыл бұрын
oh my fucking god this is me. I must be the most arrogant fuck on the planet. This movie made me realize... I am so grateful for this scene Can't even express
@bluehealer812 жыл бұрын
"You have this preconceived notion that nobody, listen, that nobody can't possibly attain the same high ethical standards as you, so you exonerate them. I can not think of anything more arrogant than that." That line hit me like a ton of bricks. I actually saved it to my computer and I look on it from time to time when I get my head too far up my own ass.
@Naampetra9 күн бұрын
Me too bro ❤
@mirellalastar11 ай бұрын
That's a cool conversation. So real. Especially from James Caan. Fathers do talk like that.
@bluehealer815 күн бұрын
When I was growing up, when I was in my do-gooding youth phase, my father told me that if I really cared to dedicate my life to helping others all the time, then I could feel free to become like Woody Guthrie and follow some starving Okies around and bring attention to their plight, Woody Guthrie was happy doing it, he didn't mind dying penniless in an asylum to accomplish his goals in helping them and being unwashed and starving and sleeping in the dirt to do so. So, if that is what I really wanted to do, then I was free to do it at any time. I did grow up to be in a position to help others, I am proud to say that I have helped a tremendous number of people, but... I was also able to put my daughter through private school. Sometimes the hardest words are the ones we need to hear.
@samjames51832 жыл бұрын
This movie was incredible
@creichling2638 Жыл бұрын
"Some things you gotta do yourself." I know not a better line in modern cinema.
@chickenringNYC7 ай бұрын
Caan is brilliant. Very realistic delivery
@TheZairae12 жыл бұрын
This movie was great.
@tetsuolionheart9611 Жыл бұрын
Next level dialogue.
@bryndentully3450 Жыл бұрын
The father is more grounded in reality to see the things how they are 👍
@S0kury0kud012 жыл бұрын
I think this is a kind of twisted exchange between Jesus (Grace) and God (her father). She is against the harsh ideals expected of people by the likes of old norms (Old Testament), and advocates gentler standards for the people even though she has been treated horribly. Tom is Judas in this scheme. The similarities die there. Whereas Jesus canonically gave himself up and lowered God's standards (in a way), Grace does the opposite and imposes God's wrath - a somewhat misogynst conclusion.
@misterx51154 жыл бұрын
"misogynst"... You were doing well until you fell deeply in the common places. That kind of senseless reasonings, 8 years ago, opened the patht to nowadays stupidity
@Balfour.3 жыл бұрын
I think he might have meant to say "misanthropic" conclusion
@fluff9753 жыл бұрын
@@Balfour. yes. exactly. thats the perfect word to describe the whole film and von trier himself.
@rawan3521 Жыл бұрын
Jesus should kill god , not his people, for people only follow the will of god .
@mishynaofficial Жыл бұрын
@@fluff975his misanthropy is reasonable.
@IridaKapaXaxas10 жыл бұрын
Δίκιο, δίκιο...και πάλι δίκιο Andy!!!!!!! Πάντα! :)
@michellebenarbia6903 жыл бұрын
I unverstand but i feel Grace with all in me.
@michellebenarbia6903 жыл бұрын
We are only human and not given the god clean Power to destroy. That is gods job alone. Unless you dont Respect the higher Power to pray for your enemies you are one of them ! Question: do you Want to become your enemie?
@1chienandalou2 жыл бұрын
Well maybe you can think about it as an analogical movie. A lot of people have pointed out that Grace might represent Jesus and his father God. After all they have complete power over the destruction of dog Ville. This is not the only reading but certainly has been discussed. So in essence your comment is already part of the conversation in the movie.
@mrbriscoe200113 жыл бұрын
Thisis one of the most memorable scenes I've ever seen;a rewarding philisophical debate-but terrifying-because of the stakes involved;Lars might be a jerk,and have some ignorantly nasty perceptions about the immorality of the poor-but he "knows drama"...
@misterx51154 жыл бұрын
Non politically correct does not mean "jerk"
@mishynaofficial Жыл бұрын
@@misterx5115judging people by their social status does mean he's a jerk.
@tetsuolionheart9611 Жыл бұрын
@@mishynaofficialSo do you believe one's status is society dictates their morals? That personal responsibility and accountability is exclusive to one grouo. Honestly you sound a lot like Grace.
@mishynaofficial Жыл бұрын
@@tetsuolionheart9611 You misread my comment.
@travisbickle38357 ай бұрын
Bro you hear this guy say "i understand Hitler" in a jokey way once and decide he's a jerk the real man is more left wing than you can think
@KBunny1311 жыл бұрын
for the worse, then. Lars Von Trier is a brilliant director with a profoundly twisted world view. He reads Nietzsche with the same sophistication as Hitler. Bjork called him an emotional pornographer.
@Dyler4 жыл бұрын
You're an empathetic person, but clearly you have never been abused because of your empathy. I have and that's why this scene reasonates with me. I think this kind of speech takes serious, real world life experience to understand. Theoretical need not apply.
@jaiskreno4 жыл бұрын
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@pathetic2399 Жыл бұрын
@@Dyler exactly. The whole speech makes a lot of sense
@HaraldSjellose Жыл бұрын
you read just too much.
@chickenringNYC7 ай бұрын
Bjork is a washed up cry baby
@yohkiraricabalgonzalez59996 күн бұрын
El peligro de romántisar y justificar la delincuencia, arrogancia y se paga caro
@sziszyke Жыл бұрын
"You forgive others with excuses that you would never in the world permit for yourself." "You have this preconceived notion that nobody, listen, that nobody can't possibly attain the same high ethical standards as you, so you exonerate them. I can not think of anything more arrogant than that." Hearing those Jesus doesn't just roll i his grave, but resurrects again. :D All that he said and suffered and died for, gone in a few sentences. :D
@mishynaofficial Жыл бұрын
Exactly. "If anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to them the other cheek also" by Jesus should win the dumbest quote of all time!
@skrivebordsskuffen24422 жыл бұрын
Know this conversation..💔
@fabiogiulianostella49376 ай бұрын
Forgiveness is arrogance? Someway...it may be. Are we arrogant only for bad things...or hope is completely disappeared from human mind...and heart?
@ellebell91395 ай бұрын
Yes. Watch the movie, this is like the end of the movie/moral
@elizarob4181Ай бұрын
Daaaamm, dad was right
@milesfurther43953 жыл бұрын
So it turns out that she’s Jesus?
@Rosendrache11 жыл бұрын
Nice metaphor but I'd rather say that the similarities doesn't stops at the point you've said. Grace's final decision could be called "The Apocalypse", "The Final Judgement". I wouldn't say that her decision is "lowering of standards", but rather reunification, synthesis with her father, and with the humanity, what biblical "Final Judgement", too, really is. (and it is not just total slaughter, remember, Moses, the dog, survived "the judgement" of Dogvillie :D )
@dadsass1264 жыл бұрын
had an ex like that. Saint at the time, monster in retrospect.
@lavriccat201113 жыл бұрын
@Dextear Is this case, liberalism is forgiveness.
@Dextear13 жыл бұрын
@lavriccat2011 What the hell does this have to do with liberalism?
@OpenInsanity12 жыл бұрын
fuckin smart
@skrivebordsskuffen24422 жыл бұрын
Jesus
@bluehealer812 жыл бұрын
Not quite.
@lavriccat201113 жыл бұрын
@xxxxinnaxxxx I am glad to hear, Your perception has been changed! All liberals should watch this movie. As Michael Savage said: "Liberalism, it's a mental disorder!". Sometimes, it's curable.
@relshdan12 жыл бұрын
quite amazing that an ultra-leftist euro, created the greated anti-amrican-liberal film ever. Tom is the american liberal...
@creichling2638 Жыл бұрын
Ha ha. It is about human beings in general, but Americans in particular. Lurking beneath the apple-pie friendliness and moral righteousness are violence and mendacity.