Doing Life with Your Adult Kids, Featuring Jim Burns, Part 1

[@MrSteviej893]

This is a great video series. I tell my adult children that every experience can be a learning experience, but every experience isn't one that they have to go through. We must ask God to show us how to be there for our children at every age and stage of life they are in.

[@VisionaryFamilyMinistries]

Amen! Thanks for your comment

[@rydrapper]

It was like Jim was speaking right into a situation that happened yesterday. Thank you, God, for using Jim to touch my life and family. Lot's still to learn!

[@VisionaryFamilyMinistries]

Very glad our conversation was an encouragement to you! You will love part 2 next week.

[@nasliety]

I congratulate you, having to parenting such a big family is a great achievement!

[@angelmossucco]

The prayer that was stated out loud at approximately minute 23 is beautiful and wise and shared by all of us working to improve and be healthy parents of adults

[@kevinraybon9812]

So true...no one told me that the "terrible 2's" were not toddler years but all the years that begin with 2! (20,21,22,23,24.....)

[@janetgablecull2099]

@@kevinraybon9812 and 31. Probably largely our fault but here we are. There are questions I would like to ask that I cannot here. Surely wish I could sit down with this wise man to ask privately.

[@bernicekey7032]

For his whole life

[@hopenoar2098]

Fabulous Rob!

[@VisionaryFamilyMinistries]

thank you Hope! and for your friendship!

[@bernicekey7032]

My grown son has a high function mental disability and it seems that every 4-6 months he crashes and cannot face life and just a deep spiraling depression and anxiety and so can’t keep his job and my only choice is to let him be homeless and alone or bring him home isn’t my responsibility as a parent and Christian to always provide sanctuary for him

[@hopenoar2098]

This is great, Rob.

[@VisionaryFamilyMinistries]

Thanks Hope! So glad it was an encouragement to you. You will love next week's episode as well. Please share!

[@BinZiegler]

The society today is not teaching children to have rspect for parents, we parents have to learn to be psycologist to be able to reach their minds and respect them all the time, this is so daunting a task. We have shown love to our adult daughter, she never showed apprecation and respect all along, this is very hard for us to accept rudeness, unappreciation from her.

[@VisionaryFamilyMinistries]

So sorry for the pain that you are going through! Thanks for loving your daughter and pursuing her. Feel free to drop me a note at [e-mail] and we can send you a free copy of our book "Never Too Late"

[@bernicekey7032]

So I want to know should grown children be allowed to come home when they mess up and need shelter and food

[@janetgablecull2099]

Maybe the answer is in here but I'm asking anyway. What if your son has lived with his girlfriend who we love for *3 years*, and they come to stay the weekend? That's always been a no can do - sleeping together in our house but… What about that?

[@VisionaryFamilyMinistries]

This is an excellent question and as you noted a sensitive one. Hopefully, you've already communicated your love for your son and you already said how much you love and appreciate his girlfriend. And hopefully, you've already expressed to them your concerns about them living together, and your desire for them to either be living apart or to get married. So the issue that you're specifically addressing about what to do when they come over to your house really has to do with an issue of jurisdiction. When we have adult kids outside the house, they make their own choices. They are their own jurisdiction. We can give loving input, but those are their choices. When they are over at our house that's our jurisdiction. So, I would advise you to have a loving, direct conversation that goes something like this. We love you and we are committed to you. We believe in the future of your relationship, but as you know, we wish that you were either living apart or getting married, and because of our convictions on these issues when you guys are at our house, we're gonna ask you to sleep in separate bedrooms. When you are outside of our house, you make your own choices, but here, We need to have boundaries that match our convictions. We hope this makes sense to you and does not hurt you. We hope that you understand where we're coming from and that we can respect each other's values and differences.

[@acer4237]

Entitled generation, we did our best to raise them but force of their peers influenced their existence after that

[@aS-qu1vp]

so true omg

[@QueenHill-b9y]

@16the lord told me 2 tell my grandma she didn't trust the raising she'd done has nothing to do with me going2 college please sign application in the name of Jesus and thus I began inaugural class of JWU_Denver Y2K