Domestic Violence in the Muslim Community | Reena Vanza

[@KenanTurkiye]

Us muslims need to remind us that our Islam is not limited to the time our foreheads touch the prayer rug. It's what we do in between.

[@oddlysatisfying6]

I am 19 years old my father is so abusive he always harsh always started fights at home he never loved me or my siblings and all these thing I can't explain what he did with us and I can't tell anybody he don't even realise and just pray five times and think he is very good person but my mother is ill due to his behaviour at home my small brother and sister always in fear and i can't do anything he don't give money for my studies I can't do any job there is not a lot of part-time job I suffered from years and just kept patience always but now can't handle my carrier is getting destroyed I'll not forgive myself my mom is in suffering and I'll also not Bear this pain for long pray for me and any advice 🙏😭

[@turbogg7213]

As difficult as it may be to imagine doing this, you need to consider reporting this violence to someone. You are old enough to survive on your own, but your younger siblings are at continuous risk. I suggest contacting the organization that this woman represents, and let them guide you

[@sumerianfarmer5363]

I lived through the same. Try to get out or report him to the police. Trust me you are doing the right thing for your siblings

[@gabrielegagliardi3956]

Plan your escape with your mother if it's possible and at the right moment: go without looking back. I don't see any other possible solutions, you should have the strength to break the chain with your father without leaving traces. A new life is waiting for you.

[@garybennett5645]

Too help combat domestic violence our NSW police Force introduced awareness programs in High School to educate the youth about violence and gangs. One Primary School of yr 5 and 6 students Greenacre Public produced a song Women are strong and champions and introduced a program called RESPECT so that young men learn to respect young women before they reach puberty. Maybe the Canadian Government could do similar programs if they don’t have so already.

[@LaurenCheriSOCFI]

As a dv and ipv survivor, the Muslim community seems to be the most truly concerned and organized with dealing with it. For most Christian and catholic homes and communities, it’s a fact of life. And civil resources and public efforts are inadequate.

[@ivanos_95]

It's very hard to determine when domestic violence is actually criminal in case of the Muslims, because violence against the women is a crucial part of Islam, and different schools of jurisprudence have different standards, especially in case of those Muslims who interpret the Islamic sources by themselves, so it's a different situation in the Islamic families than in case of the western families, which actually apply to the western standards.

[@TechMan1900]

Domestic violence is never okay, and whether it is criminal is matter of law, not cultural background. If you are in an area where it is illegal, the law won’t account for your personal views. Listen to what is said about toxic masculinity in the talk.

[@ivanos_95]

@@TechMan1900 Obviously, it's not okay according the Western/Christian standards, but it's okay in case of Islam.

[@TechMan1900]

@@ivanos_95 that’s disgusting you would use your religion to support any type of violence.

[@khaddy72632u]

@@ivanos_95 you realise religious abuse is really common in both eastern and western Christianity? Womens day was a result of secularism inspired from the USSR, a nation that banned Judaism and Orthodoxy (but not Islam or Buddhism) and made women worldwide realise that once she has financial power, she can just get up and leave. Conservatives tried breaking feminism because of the red scare and "breaking traditional values"

[@ivanos_95]

@@khaddy72632u No, any form of abuse, especially physical violence towards women is against the tradition in both the western and eastern churches, thats's why we don't need such thing as woman's day in Christianity, but instead have diffrient days when we celebrate specific female-saints.

[@Lawson855]

Yes IPV (Intimate Partner Violence) is a serious issue across all communities and religions.

[@tracywillow5359]

But most religions don’t have a verse that says it’s ok and righteous

[@shuaybgallo_abufadwa]

Is this a result of Patriarchal societies?

[@kanizfatima3447]

Sometimes alcholol and drugs is reason too

[@cocoalfaridah5831]

@@kanizfatima3447 most of the time it is egos

[@tracywillow5359]

There are many reasons but the problem is that it’s acceptable in Islam.

[@sumerianfarmer5363]

yup

[@rehlimited9578]

No over alll is literally bc of patriarchy Misogyny n this artificial system

[@wybuchowyukomendant]

Not just muslim communities, I see it everywhere here in Poland too, which is very catholic - and the common denominator in most domestic violence cases is always some form of twisted religiosity, or demonic ideology like some form of nationalism, hidden under the pseudo-catholic symbolism, so they can roleplay "traditionalists" who put women in the kitchen (which is pretty much anti-catholic, because "man working, women staying home" is pretty new concept, historically driven). So yeah, when I see someone who poses as very 'religious', but can't tell even the basics of the religion he claims to believe in, theres a great chance he beats his wife too.

[@sanjanewmoonlife]

Everywhere has domestic violence in any Country .

[@HomeFrendsten]

In many cases both parents r abusive

[@HomeFrendsten]

What can b done when mothr is abusive, and do not care for children much?

[@sumerianfarmer5363]

shut up

[@St_Jakob3112]

Um, I don't think you are in a place to patronise people with a lower rate of domestic violence than in yours.

[@lahleholivia7398]

The Smithsonian science museum show us fish fins and human hands are made by the same genomes. Wowsers 😦

[@minimfonim2834]

When this lady talks to mr. shabir she putss on beutiful things such as libstick makeup lots of beutiful things.

[@peonypink7943]

She is his daughter.

[@ericistanbul2973]

There is no toxic masculinity but there are toxic people. Her ideas seem feministic and if problems are approached from this perspective, the solution is agony

[@khaddy72632u]

Men are agony

[@TechMan1900]

You missed the whole point of the talk and demonstrated toxic masculinity within yourself by making that comment.

[@Killbill1933]

@@TechMan1900 no, it's Momo, his evil Sunna and his fictishious Qu-räääään! 🤢🤮🐷🕋💩🤦🤡

[@sumerianfarmer5363]

@@TechMan1900 +

[@rubenhayk5514]

Disciplining the wife is good practice in Islam.

[@khaddy72632u]

Women arent babies and considering men like to claim they cant control themselves around women, men need discipline from their mothers in adulthood too

[@tracywillow5359]

Do you believe this is a good thing?

[@tracywillow5359]

But IPV is not interpersonal violence in most areas. It stands for intimate partner violence.

[@tracywillow5359]

@@khaddy72632u true. This idea that men can treat their wives like little children who need discipline is ridiculous.

[@khaddy72632u]

@@tracywillow5359 and you shouldn't hit kids either imo. Unless if the kids are adults and are doing things like assault, physical fights, etc